Anthony DeMello famously said: “The first thing to realize if you want to wake up is that you DON’T want to wake up...” Our somatic programming DOES NOT want to wake up (aka: deprogram). Instead of listening to and believing the resistance/repression - which can look like feeling stuck and dysregulated, among other things - we can just expect it. Here’s just a few tricky ways that repression can show up in our experience: 1. Nervous System Dysregulation 2. Addictive Behavior 3. Anxiety and Depression 4. Chronic Pain 5. Compulsive Enemy Making 6. Chronic Self-Doubt 7. Brain Fog and Confusion 8. Bouts of Self-Hatred / Self-Attack 9. Isolating and/or Withdrawing 10. Choice-less Approval Seeking and Giving Our Power Away to Others 💚
Senior abuse in retirement communities and how it exploits and manipulates the “family box”, agencies and then channels up to government paying out to ruthless, calculated bleeders of finances from the unknowing public. I could write a book myself. It has so much to do with TRUTH. Emotional abuse causes stress and the stress causes, in my case, adrenal failures. I must listen to this over and over it makes so much sense…thank you
This particular video really covers a lot that has not been easy to discuss in my personal CPTSD background. Thank you for bringing all of these to light and discussing them. I have a lot to unpack in therapy later....
Thanks for the new format. It’s easier for me to listen to. I had a difficult childhood with a military family. They yelled and were loud. It still causes anxiety for me when people are loud. I will catch up soon! TY 😊
I get auditory overload. I cant deal with clashing noises or more than one thing occurring it's really jarring to my senses. I'm pretty quiet if I'm relaxed but if I'm talking to other people I end up talking really far too loud than is appropriate. It's like my internal volume knob is faulty and not tuned in to the volume of others. I'm pretty sure I saw in another video of his that sensory stuff is also linked to trauma? I reckon my stuffs probably to do with coming from a very noisy house where everyone just constantly shouted over the TV and over each other. I love restful voices like Mr Fletcher's it's very soothing. Hope he brings out an audio book someday, or makes a sleep playlist. It's probably not all that healthy for my psyche to keep falling asleep to True Crime documentaries lol (its coz of the monotone narration, I swear!)
Damn. Just found that book at a second hand store… I’ve got it next to the couch in the read list… I’ve got nine years but… that warning sounds legit. Maybe I should pass…
That's what I'm experiencing with medical trauma. Pharmaceutical companies are just being slapped on the hand as so many of us are disabled for life because of their products.😢
7:54 Striking how most of this affects women (regardless of race) so much more pervasively than men (also apples to apples regardless of race). Takeaway? Misogyny rules in the cesspool.
The Matrix was amazing at showing how we think we are living when we are just surviving as batteries for other entities. As a military child, we were in fear when our parents were on the front lines as observers in the occupation of nations by the Russians and also the 6 day war. It was psychologically upsetting and the propaganda was unsettling. Years later as a parent in the middle of a sudden plow wind and tornado, while camping on a hill, we were in mortal danger. I told my children to go back to sleep and we prayed Jesus to protect us. They went to sleep. Soft snoring. In the eye we woke them up and got into our vehicle. Years later we talked about when it was reviewed on the news. Because I had been through the stress of propaganda of radio broadcasts. My mom snapping the radio off when the commies jammed and over rode the radios. I learned that war was not black and white, it was oppresive and stressful. And those in authority need to absorb the bad parts of culture so that survival is about more than victory. So against the storm that came at us twice, we survived and trust was built. Childre need trust. The BBC kerps pumping out war drama garbage. What you say is true, humans need to be human. Living in fear is not healthy. What you say about greatness is true. What you say about winners and losers and black and white is true.
Succes as being always in your sympathetic nervous system. Dang as an FA attatchment who I learned we often have the freeze response conditioned out of us. We can still shut down but the flip side is like fighting to fix to caretaker to be good enough to be accepted. Or at least that’s my adhd complex trauma experience ce
What do you mean by equitable system? Do you think all laws should be egalitarian? Do you think everything should be 50/50? Would we be able to judge that by equality of outcome? Just trying to understand your perspective on this because of the things you have said.
Big time but always has been ,so we are generational condition in most part....So often we get the responses to just accept it or get over it type of deal...to get along ..if if it's all consuming...
These are people we elect or have lots of influence big organizations and financially established these corporations profit off our fears and insecurities.have no time for humanity
7: This is biblical, so considering the "spiritual" violence done to my life, I feel entitled to my take on a biblical story, the story of Samson, and how Delilah cut something down there not his hair.
16:55 the problem with protest is that the powers that be create outlets for people to release their frustration. I believe it’s called controlled opposition.
I'm confused about one thing you said. If a man should be judged as being stronger than a woman in the case of rape, does that mean that women are not equal to men?
Add a primal level, women are not equal in physical strength. A look at the data for child trafficking worldwide reveals natural physiological inequities.
Men have more testosterone and more muscle mass as a result. That is what that’s about. Dosent mean they can’t be codependent or anxious attatched and a door mat their own way and suffer from various types of traum.
Politics follow a changing culture. Our western culture has become completely disfunctional. Separated from truth and reality. This has happened before. Over and over again. There is always a scapegoat. It's going to get ugly. Just like the home I grew up in. My violent anger has been triggered to the boiling point again. There is no political solutions to these problems.
I have loved this entire series until this video. You’re actually bordering on sending people who are in an unhealthy emotional state (AND YOU KNOW IT) to go protest. This is HIGHLY irresponsible as a medical professional!!! I have a formal diagnosis of CPTSD and have been with the same amazing therapist for 11 years - I don’t believe she would ever give such ill and unhealthy advice!!! Do better!!!
The abortion ban stuff is kinda nuts. Like I’ve done endless research on how people work on all levels of understanding ,and there is not really evidence that things like pro-life are actually about saving lives. At least at the group level. It’s more a mating strategy designed around being reactionary hierarchial defense activists that litterally every single position at the group level they have across history lines up with defending the hierarchy and also often about punishing out groups that threaten their cultural world view that they use to buffer their terror management theory death anxiety. And so to buffer the anxiety, they need to fight and impose on others in order to feel safe. It’s messed up. And don’t get me wrong, I get much of that red pill stuff too about how women function. or at least the EP stuff, and yet this thing is still nuts.
That over her own body. The right to be treated equally in the workplace and more or less everywhere. The right to be regarded as equally intelligent or able. The right to equal pay.
Anthony DeMello famously said:
“The first thing to realize if you want to wake up
is that you DON’T
want to wake up...”
Our somatic programming DOES NOT
want to wake up (aka: deprogram).
Instead of listening to and believing the resistance/repression -
which can look like feeling stuck and dysregulated, among other things -
we can just expect it.
Here’s just a few tricky ways that repression can show up in our experience:
1. Nervous System Dysregulation
2. Addictive Behavior
3. Anxiety and Depression
4. Chronic Pain
5. Compulsive Enemy Making
6. Chronic Self-Doubt
7. Brain Fog and Confusion
8. Bouts of Self-Hatred / Self-Attack
9. Isolating and/or Withdrawing
10. Choice-less Approval Seeking and Giving Our Power Away to Others
💚
We’re all traumatized, and we all need compassion and healing. Thank you for raising consciousness. I always want to learn from Tim Fletcher.
Senior abuse in retirement communities and how it exploits and manipulates the “family box”, agencies and then channels up to government paying out to ruthless, calculated bleeders of finances from the unknowing public. I could write a book myself. It has so much to do with TRUTH. Emotional abuse causes stress and the stress causes, in my case, adrenal failures. I must listen to this over and over it makes so much sense…thank you
I am so grateful for you teaching me how to live a bit better everyday.
This particular video really covers a lot that has not been easy to discuss in my personal CPTSD background. Thank you for bringing all of these to light and discussing them. I have a lot to unpack in therapy later....
Thanks for the new format. It’s easier for me to listen to. I had a difficult childhood with a military family. They yelled and were loud. It still causes anxiety for me when people are loud. I will catch up soon! TY 😊
I get auditory overload. I cant deal with clashing noises or more than one thing occurring it's really jarring to my senses.
I'm pretty quiet if I'm relaxed but if I'm talking to other people I end up talking really far too loud than is appropriate.
It's like my internal volume knob is faulty and not tuned in to the volume of others.
I'm pretty sure I saw in another video of his that sensory stuff is also linked to trauma?
I reckon my stuffs probably to do with coming from a very noisy house where everyone just constantly shouted over the TV and over each other.
I love restful voices like Mr Fletcher's it's very soothing. Hope he brings out an audio book someday, or makes a sleep playlist. It's probably not all that healthy for my psyche to keep falling asleep to True Crime documentaries lol (its coz of the monotone narration, I swear!)
Thank you, Dr Fletcher for sharing this.
Trauma and Recovery, was hands down, the most triggering book I ever read. Tread lightly with this book if you're new to the Recovery process.
Thank you for advising about this book by Judith Herman. I think she writes for clinicians. Perhaps her book doesn't advise treatment modalities.
Damn. Just found that book at a second hand store… I’ve got it next to the couch in the read list… I’ve got nine years but… that warning sounds legit. Maybe I should pass…
Yael calhoun has good books on trauma. It's gentle and helpful its written for those who have gone through it
So idendentifiable for me in every aspect of this talk. Thank you you for you're teachings.
You are absolutely brilliant. I am so glad I that came across your channel. Thanks for speaking about this.
That's what I'm experiencing with medical trauma. Pharmaceutical companies are just being slapped on the hand as so many of us are disabled for life because of their products.😢
Have no contact with abusive drs. Seek better, alteratives.
@Me-fs5mi it's hard tho , but I understand what you mean
Thank You 🙏 for uploading this. ❤
So much needed, thank you 🍀
I experienced this trauma when the government forced a medical treatment onto us!
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Have you gotten better?
@@BoxfedTVstill healing lol my dear neighbor had a heart attack after one dose while my husband was coerced at work. Difficult and abusive times
Same
U didn't have to take it :)
7:54 Striking how most of this affects women (regardless of race) so much more pervasively than men (also apples to apples regardless of race). Takeaway? Misogyny rules in the cesspool.
Thank you so much for your understanding.
Parential alienation , is a Big trauma hurts many, in each single case
Parental alienation seems to be basic and fundamental for many who were victimized.
The Matrix was amazing at showing how we think we are living when we are just surviving as batteries for other entities.
As a military child, we were in fear when our parents were on the front lines as observers in the occupation of nations by the Russians and also the 6 day war.
It was psychologically upsetting and the propaganda was unsettling.
Years later as a parent in the middle of a sudden plow wind and tornado, while camping on a hill, we were in mortal danger. I told my children to go back to sleep and we prayed Jesus to protect us. They went to sleep. Soft snoring. In the eye we woke them up and got into our vehicle. Years later we talked about when it was reviewed on the news. Because I had been through the stress of propaganda of radio broadcasts. My mom snapping the radio off when the commies jammed and over rode the radios. I learned that war was not black and white, it was oppresive and stressful. And those in authority need to absorb the bad parts of culture so that survival is about more than victory. So against the storm that came at us twice, we survived and trust was built. Childre need trust.
The BBC kerps pumping out war drama garbage. What you say is true, humans need to be human.
Living in fear is not healthy.
What you say about greatness is true.
What you say about winners and losers and black and white is true.
Succes as being always in your sympathetic nervous system. Dang as an FA attatchment who I learned we often have the freeze response conditioned out of us. We can still shut down but the flip side is like fighting to fix to caretaker to be good enough to be accepted. Or at least that’s my adhd complex trauma experience ce
Mr. Tim is THE psychologist
Yes, the "injustice system" is very traumatizing in many ways.
38:31 Ironic in a commensurate twisted, sick way that the criminals conducting gang stalking have to be such manifest, soulless hypocrites.
Thanks for making these videos ♥️
What do you mean by equitable system? Do you think all laws should be egalitarian? Do you think everything should be 50/50? Would we be able to judge that by equality of outcome? Just trying to understand your perspective on this because of the things you have said.
Political trauma is really bad right now, horrible!
Big time but always has been ,so we are generational condition in most part....So often we get the responses to just accept it or get over it type of deal...to get along ..if if it's all consuming...
Blame the people, not those who they vote for.
the culture, the institutions.
Excellent.
These are people we elect or have lots of influence big organizations and financially established these corporations profit off our fears and insecurities.have no time for humanity
They dont need to decide is jst that noone demands change
.they only realise its unfair after they become a number on the system
7: This is biblical, so considering the "spiritual" violence done to my life, I feel entitled to my take on a biblical story, the story of Samson, and how Delilah cut something down there not his hair.
Where is part 16 and 17?
Is there no part 16 or 17?
An lgbt asylum seeker from Africa. This makes a lot of sense
Amen 🙏 🙏 🙏 powerful
16:55 the problem with protest is that the powers that be create outlets for people to release their frustration. I believe it’s called controlled opposition.
That's not the definition of controlled opposition though...😮
Here here
I'm confused about one thing you said. If a man should be judged as being stronger than a woman in the case of rape, does that mean that women are not equal to men?
Add a primal level, women are not equal in physical strength. A look at the data for child trafficking worldwide reveals natural physiological inequities.
I do believe females are just as equal as men on this subject; just hasn't been documented as much in public 😅
Men have more testosterone and more muscle mass as a result. That is what that’s about. Dosent mean they can’t be codependent or anxious attatched and a door mat their own way and suffer from various types of traum.
Conflating ideas.
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Politics follow a changing culture. Our western culture has become completely disfunctional. Separated from truth and reality. This has happened before. Over and over again. There is always a scapegoat. It's going to get ugly. Just like the home I grew up in. My violent anger has been triggered to the boiling point again. There is no political solutions to these problems.
The political system is often the perpetrator. We all could probably give examples from our own lives.
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I have loved this entire series until this video. You’re actually bordering on sending people who are in an unhealthy emotional state (AND YOU KNOW IT) to go protest. This is HIGHLY irresponsible as a medical professional!!! I have a formal diagnosis of CPTSD and have been with the same amazing therapist for 11 years - I don’t believe she would ever give such ill and unhealthy advice!!! Do better!!!
Hmmm. Apparently, you didn't watch the video in its entirety.
If you haven’t, try watching the rest of the video❤ it comes across like that at first but further in it’s explained better
Name one legal right a man has that a women doesn't have in the U.S. today.
C. And D. In his list especially exploit females and children.
The abortion ban stuff is kinda nuts. Like I’ve done endless research on how people work on all levels of understanding ,and there is not really evidence that things like pro-life are actually about saving lives. At least at the group level. It’s more a mating strategy designed around being reactionary hierarchial defense activists that litterally every single position at the group level they have across history lines up with defending the hierarchy and also often about punishing out groups that threaten their cultural world view that they use to buffer their terror management theory death anxiety. And so to buffer the anxiety, they need to fight and impose on others in order to feel safe. It’s messed up. And don’t get me wrong, I get much of that red pill stuff too about how women function. or at least the EP stuff, and yet this thing is still nuts.
That over her own body. The right to be treated equally in the workplace and more or less everywhere. The right to be regarded as equally intelligent or able. The right to equal pay.