My thoughts and prayers go to her husband. He will miss her for a long time. He was the husband that a woman wants. He knows he had the best. She was a beautiful person inside and out. I hope people give him the time he needs to grieve in his own way.
I didn't want to call hospice for my mother. We did tho eventually. Within 8 hours she had a hospital bed, a bed side commode and a nurse on call. It was really a relief to have them there with us. I'm not sure what I had expected but they were very kind and loving to all members of the family and not at all intrusive. Mom wanted to be at home and she was. I really respect and admire those that work for hospice, they are a blessing in a time when you need one.
Yes Tony, I did the same as you, for both my parents. We made a pact to always care for each other, till the end. My father was a total skeleton when he died. He wanted to be at home & I wanted to be by his side. Like myself, I'm sure you found it a great honor to be with Valarie, as I did with my father, holding him to the very end. Thank you for doing the same. Valarie brought so much joy to the world. May she rest in God's loving arms, & may you find peace in her laughter & in God's great love. Many blessings!
Not only is tony Cacciotti a good man. He’s a good husband a loyal and love husband. He was lucky enough to find the love of his life. Most men’s and women’s go through life not knowing or having that kind of love that tony and valerie had for each other.a love that he will never find again with any other woman. My condolences. Ya and valerie were and are two of great ones
When our mother was in her last week of life (she died of old age and dementia at 95), at one point there was a question of calling 911 and whether or not we would do that. We decided that she was dying a natural death at home in her own bed, which she had expressed a wish to experience. So, my sister and I made her comfortable, kept her clean, and let the sounds of life go on in the house. The very best hospital/hospice is STILL a hospital, hospice. Fluorescent lights, machines, beds cranking up and down, PA systems in the hall, monitors beeping. Ugh. Tony bravely took a stand, and acted for his beloved wife. (And hey, we all loved Valerie, too!). Good man.
I love stories about good loving marriages, and there's nothing better than a loving supportive husband especially for a wife who deserves him:) God Bless them both, afterall the two are one!
Wow! What a great man!, and my thoughts are with you, Tony...they made the best decision for both of them. My Ma died from a rare form of cancer (CLL) in just five weeks, never having been sick before, and through life's circumstances we lived together all my life (which was 50 years - she had her first 26 on her 'own') so it wasn't just losing a mother - but it almost felt like losing a 'spouse' as well. They kept her in the hospital for a month, trying to save her (and she was so 'strong' all her life, she wasn't ready to let 'go') but it ended up her body just gave out ( but her mind was SHARP) and her last wish (before she went into a coma) was to have the peace, quiet and caring of a hospice...no more noise, tests and 'fussing'...and I did that for her (although it was HARD to let her go...in some ways) so that last week in hospice I was with her every day...and was with her when she 'left' at 2:30 AM...so, I hope she has peace now...and maybe 'met' up with Valerie somewhere beyond the clouds...we both loved her and 'Rhoda' always...and always had great laughs together watching her...Rest in Peace, Valerie...With Love Always, Karen
Wow I have so much respect for this wonderful man. He's a one off type of human being. This is what true love looks like and sticking to his marriage vows. I'm praying for him after such a loss of Valerie. RIP xxx
you made me laugh..you truly will be missed. you had such spunk and a lot of fire..love you girl.. thanx for the laughs..I'm sure Mary is excited to see.you.. best friends together again
There are others also who KNOW their loved one and its their choice about the hospice. Especially when the family is well off financially, they can do many comfort measures. Bless you Tony and Val 💕💕
RIP VALERIE YOU WILL SO MUCH BE MISSED IN OUR HEARTS... I HAVE LOVED YOU EVER SINCE I WAS A KID..THIS IS SO HARD TO ACCEPT RIGHT KNOW..PRAYERS TO THE FAMILY...HEAVEN GOT A NEW ANGEL 😢😢😧
THANKS for the LAUGHTER & fine examples You shared with Your fans, especially on Rhoda. You are my Fashion Guru! The 70's are back because of Your Fashion Sense. Peace is within us because Life is Eternal. LOVE, a tearful fan. What a Beautiful couple You & Tony. Peace be with You Tony.
So true. Love humour, her self- deprecating wise cracks ,her fashion sense. I am watching Rhoda for the 3rd time in 6 months. It has helped me with great sadness in my life. Rest in Peace lovely lady.
Very moving. I agree with him as he likely could take better care of her than strangers would. It is good to pass in your own home instead of some hospice. Terrific woman with a great attitude and a wonderful husband who loved her so much. They will meet again, for sure.
Hospice is a God send. No one should feel bad about using it. You can always go off hospice when you improve. Using hospice doesn't mean you're giving up, it means you're getting help.
I certainly understand and empathize. My husband died after a long period of Alzheimer's. It is so very hard. Hospice did not help me with my sick husband. Glad they are there for some but they were not there for me.
people with dementia no longer know where they are and with whom so, hospice could be validated for them. Valerie was alert and brilliant to the last breath, I expect, so making her comfortable would have been something her husband could do. Alzheimer gets very difficult for families as they get no feedback from their dying loved ones. That is very hard to deal with.
You don't show someone how much you love them by refusing hospice care, it actually harms them by refusing the cares. They provide amazing comfort if allowed to help in these terrible terminal situations.
depends of the situation and the conditions towards the very end. Every case is different. I cannot imagine Valerie being harmed by the refusal of hospice care. I am sure her husband knew what he was doing and it was their mutual wish.
Not sure why they didn't do home hospice. The patient usually suffers less on hospice, and often times improves for a while because they are getting good care. I hope those last weeks were ok for her.
I'm so GLAD Valerie had somebody that loved her so much that he said FUCK No I'm not putting her in hospice! Thanks Tony for caring so much for this women Millions Adore! We Miss you Val but thanks for all the great tv shows and movies you left us with to watch over and over.
They suggested I put my my husband in hospice 4 years ago, just before Thanksgiving, after removing him from dyalisys. I called all our children & grandchildren and had Thanksgiving on Saturday! He was with us 3 1/2 days as he slowly succumbed, and he was taken into the arms of his Saviour! It was a beautiful peaceful end at home with his family. The hospice nurse came the 1st night to make sure everything was being handled properly, of course. Hospice definitely has its place. But it isn't always necessary.
The National Health care system in Canada would have covered all the costs for her cancer treatment .. sad that in USA people have to beg for money in order to get treatment ..
He did the right thing for her. Don't get me wrong I can't fall Hospice care and it is a fantastic service for terminal patients however its not for everyone. Some people want to spend their remaining days at home with their love ones and that in itself can be the best treatment too. My Aunt took care of my uncle at home until the day he passed as she knew it was what he wanted. She still tells me to this day that he was the love of her life and it was an honour to take care of him. She wanted to do it for him.
This really is a bad choice. I am a hospice worker. Hospice can provide care when your prognosis is less then six months. Signing her on does not mean she will die soon because of it. They are there to provide nurses, aids, counselors, chaplains all experts in this type of care to make sure she is comfortable and has all she needs such as medication, medical equipment, all paid for by hospice. I feel bad as he doesnt know what hospice is and is not. Most people don’t because most people dont talk about it. They can pick up on cues that she might be in pain, nonverbal ones that he may not recognize. Hospice has actual professionals trained in pain management to ensure she can be kept comfortable. I have cared for hospice patients that have been on hospice for over 3 years. But dadly people think hospice means death, like now, and its not. I hope everyone watching this tells their husband or wife or family what you would and would not want if you had six months left. As a counselor i have seen so many needless family arguments when a loved one was dying because they did not hsve this talk and ended up fighting over what should be done. Take the time to write it down and talk. You will save your family a ton of problems if you do.
Spoken like a hospice worker with a chip on the shoulder. My 2 experiences with hospice were a nightmare. I know mostly they do good with pain and sleep and rest but not in both cases of my brother in 94 and my mother in 2000. In patient hospice nurse was hitting herself up with the morphine shots not giving them to my brother. We filed complaint. My mother never even got hospice care because erroneously they deemed her to have more than 6 months to live, denying help in my home to take better care for comfort reasons. They called me, hospice that is 1 hour after my mother passed! Now they're ready to help me. Too late. So get off your high horse nurse ratchet. It ain't all perfume and roses.
My mom and dad refuse to go into a nursing home or care facility they want to live their last days at home I'll make sure that happens no matter what I'll care for them who wants to die alone in a sterile hospital
You can have homecare coming to the house such as nursing assistants or LPN's that will perform basic hygiene to very heavy people that would be hard to move. Nurses are not necessary if there is good communication with the MD in charge of the case and narcotics are delivered as needed. I remember watching Farrah Faucett give herself her own morphine injections, towards the very end. Every situation is different. Some cases rely on the need of homecare while others do not.
My mom dated tony cacciotti but they broke up my mom dated my dad and had me then broke up tony wanted to be my dad so he told the doctor that he was the dad of me so my last name is cacciotti . Bella cacciotti my mom was dating my step dad so my last name would have been chhatarpal but i like metts
That first 20 seconds were gut-wrenching to watch. So intensely personal. Bless them both.
I am happy for her ....she said her good byes and transitioned with the people she loved and who loved her around her ....
THANK YOU Tony ..
Rest in Peace Valerie, you will be missed. My thoughts and prayers are with Tony.
Good for him, taking care of her ,. She left with dignity
My thoughts and prayers go to her husband. He will miss her for a long time. He was the husband that a woman wants. He knows he had the best. She was a beautiful person inside and out. I hope people give him the time he needs to grieve in his own way.
I didn't want to call hospice for my mother. We did tho eventually. Within 8 hours she had a hospital bed, a bed side commode and a nurse on call. It was really a relief to have them there with us. I'm not sure what I had expected but they were very kind and loving to all members of the family and not at all intrusive. Mom wanted to be at home and she was. I really respect and admire those that work for hospice, they are a blessing in a time when you need one.
Yes Tony, I did the same as you, for both my parents. We made a pact to always care for each other, till the end. My father was a total skeleton when he died. He wanted to be at home & I wanted to be by his side. Like myself, I'm sure you found it a great honor to be with Valarie, as I did with my father, holding him to the very end. Thank you for doing the same. Valarie brought so much joy to the world. May she rest in God's loving arms, & may you find peace in her laughter & in God's great love. Many blessings!
Not only is tony Cacciotti a good man. He’s a good husband a loyal and love husband. He was lucky enough to find the love of his life. Most men’s and women’s go through life not knowing or having that kind of love that tony and valerie had for each other.a love that he will never find again with any other woman. My condolences. Ya and valerie were and are two of great ones
Ervin Cone so true.
she was blessed to have a great husband by her side,
You did it your way with a smile you pass on to everyone you knew
Her and Tony were so blessed to have found each other. Thanks for all the laughs Valerie. You were loved and will be missed. Say hi to Mary for me...
Hospice can also help keep her at home by helping her husband.
Thank God Tony kept her at home. He's a good man.
When our mother was in her last week of life (she died of old age and dementia at 95), at one point there was a question of calling 911 and whether or not we would do that. We decided that she was dying a natural death at home in her own bed, which she had expressed a wish to experience. So, my sister and I made her comfortable, kept her clean, and let the sounds of life go on in the house. The very best hospital/hospice is STILL a hospital, hospice. Fluorescent lights, machines, beds cranking up and down, PA systems in the hall, monitors beeping. Ugh. Tony bravely took a stand, and acted for his beloved wife. (And hey, we all loved Valerie, too!). Good man.
I love stories about good loving marriages, and there's nothing better than a loving supportive husband especially for a wife who deserves him:)
God Bless them both, afterall the two are one!
Wow! What a great man!, and my thoughts are with you, Tony...they made the best decision for both of them. My Ma died from a rare form of cancer (CLL) in just five weeks, never having been sick before, and through life's circumstances we lived together all my life (which was 50 years - she had her first 26 on her 'own') so it wasn't just losing a mother - but it almost felt like losing a 'spouse' as well. They kept her in the hospital for a month, trying to save her (and she was so 'strong' all her life, she wasn't ready to let 'go') but it ended up her body just gave out ( but her mind was SHARP) and her last wish (before she went into a coma) was to have the peace, quiet and caring of a hospice...no more noise, tests and 'fussing'...and I did that for her (although it was HARD to let her go...in some ways) so that last week in hospice I was with her every day...and was with her when she 'left' at 2:30 AM...so, I hope she has peace now...and maybe 'met' up with Valerie somewhere beyond the clouds...we both loved her and 'Rhoda' always...and always had great laughs together watching her...Rest in Peace, Valerie...With Love Always, Karen
God Bless Valerie Harper and her family...
Wow I have so much respect for this wonderful man. He's a one off type of human being. This is what true love looks like and sticking to his marriage vows. I'm praying for him after such a loss of Valerie. RIP xxx
My Mum had many end-of-life issues, and we were able to keep her home. Hospice care came to the house.
Judith Biller Yes that really is a wonderful option.
Val was a one in a million person from what I have seen.
you made me laugh..you truly will be missed. you had such spunk and a lot of fire..love you girl.. thanx for the laughs..I'm sure Mary is excited to see.you.. best friends together again
Very well said..i admired her so much..thiis one stung a little...like i lost a good friend..and u found the right words so thank you😢
There are others also who KNOW their loved one and its their choice about the hospice. Especially when the family is well off financially, they can do many comfort measures. Bless you Tony and Val 💕💕
Tony truly loved and adored, true love till the end🌹❤️🌹
Love her so much. She has made me laugh and cry. God bless her and her husband.
RIP VALERIE YOU WILL SO MUCH BE MISSED IN OUR HEARTS... I HAVE LOVED YOU EVER SINCE I WAS A KID..THIS IS SO HARD TO ACCEPT RIGHT KNOW..PRAYERS TO THE FAMILY...HEAVEN GOT A NEW ANGEL 😢😢😧
I’m So very sorry her family all lost her,, what a great gal,, TY for the memories,, RIP Valerie
That's what a real husband does
💙💙
Wow. Powerful words she said. What an inspiration she is, was. Amazing.
Yes. Don't go to the funeral until the day of the funeral.
My mom who also passed of cancer says: live, love while you can; mourn when you have to.
What a great marriage, wonderful partner, and husband RIP Valerie ☮💜✝️ Condolences to Tony and your family, friends and colleagues, and fans 🙏💙
THANKS for the LAUGHTER & fine examples You shared with Your fans, especially on Rhoda. You are my Fashion Guru! The 70's are back because of Your Fashion Sense. Peace is within us because Life is Eternal. LOVE, a tearful fan. What a Beautiful couple You & Tony. Peace be with You Tony.
So true. Love humour, her self- deprecating wise cracks ,her fashion sense. I am watching Rhoda for the 3rd time in 6 months. It has helped me with great sadness in my life.
Rest in Peace lovely lady.
Very moving. I agree with him as he likely could take better care of her than strangers would. It is good to pass in your own home instead of some hospice. Terrific woman with a great attitude and a wonderful husband who loved her so much. They will meet again, for sure.
I'm happy that you experience love on this Earth in this way. I will not and many others will not
God loves you Aaron.
@@joannakemp3710 wow if you live in Portland I want to meet you
I live in tornado alley so we know how to pray and talk to God!
I totally understand as I too am without a human on Earth.
@@steveprice448
I pray you find someone wonderful.
One of my favorite people. Sad she didn't make it!
She made it many years after her lung cancer.....dying at 80 is very acceptable. The brain cancer was also handled for some time.
Hospice is a God send. No one should feel bad about using it. You can always go off hospice when you improve. Using hospice doesn't mean you're giving up, it means you're getting help.
Very handsome and caring man....YOU CAN TELL!
R.I.P. 🌈 Precious Val 💐 Gone to Glory🌈
God broke the mold with You and Tony 💕Mightily 🌈
What a nice man you got wish i could fine one like that they are hard to fine now days .hope you get beter soon .
Thanks Val!!!!!!!!!!
I certainly understand and empathize. My husband died after a long period of Alzheimer's. It is so very hard. Hospice did not help me with my sick husband. Glad they are there for some but they were not there for me.
Pat Melton I’m so very very sorry 😢
people with dementia no longer know where they are and with whom so, hospice could be validated for them. Valerie was alert and brilliant to the last breath, I expect, so making her comfortable would have been something her husband could do. Alzheimer gets very difficult for families as they get no feedback from their dying loved ones. That is very hard to deal with.
RIP this is so sad 😥
Valerie you have a great partner and Husband until the end.Bless Tony ..Valerie you are loved will be missed.Say hello to Mary from all your Fans.
Now that is a marriage. 😍🎆
You don't show someone how much you love them by refusing hospice care, it actually harms them by refusing the cares. They provide amazing comfort if allowed to help in these terrible terminal situations.
depends of the situation and the conditions towards the very end. Every case is different. I cannot imagine Valerie being harmed by the refusal of hospice care. I am sure her husband knew what he was doing and it was their mutual wish.
Damn Man!!!.. I just found out Valerie Harper past on..I thought she gonna beat that crap..my heart go out her and her family..RIP Rhoda..
woody pope been under a rock or in solitary confinement in a prison? Geez 🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️
Not sure why they didn't do home hospice. The patient usually suffers less on hospice, and often times improves for a while because they are getting good care. I hope those last weeks were ok for her.
I'm so GLAD Valerie had somebody that loved her so much that he said FUCK No I'm not putting her in hospice! Thanks Tony for caring so much for this women Millions Adore! We Miss you Val but thanks for all the great tv shows and movies you left us with to watch over and over.
They suggested I put my my husband in hospice 4 years ago, just before Thanksgiving, after removing him from dyalisys. I called all our children & grandchildren and had Thanksgiving on Saturday! He was with us 3 1/2 days as he slowly succumbed, and he was taken into the arms of his Saviour! It was a beautiful peaceful end at home with his family. The hospice nurse came the 1st night to make sure everything was being handled properly, of course. Hospice definitely has its place. But it isn't always necessary.
FANTASTIC 👍 HUSBAND WHO'S AS BELOVED AS VALERIE ❤️ U TONY!!!!!!💝💝💝💝💝
The National Health care system in Canada would have covered all the costs for her cancer treatment .. sad that in USA people have to beg for money in order to get treatment ..
Rip beautiful lady you will be missed 🍸🍸😢
Hospice is not giving up! It is making the patient more comfortable, with family councils get also! Please be informed!
My mother had hospice care in her house. That's the norm these days folks.
loved Valerie and she was very fortunate to have a loyal spouse with her to the end
The majority of people don't
He did find out after a while that she could have hospice care in her house/
That's how my brother had it. Passed away on 4-6-19 two year of colon cancer and kidney failure.
@@oleysiaogren1192 My condolences to you and your family ... Glad you all honored his wishes.
I know what you are going through so sorry for your pain
He did the right thing for her. Don't get me wrong I can't fall Hospice care and it is a fantastic service for terminal patients however its not for everyone. Some people want to spend their remaining days at home with their love ones and that in itself can be the best treatment too. My Aunt took care of my uncle at home until the day he passed as she knew it was what he wanted. She still tells me to this day that he was the love of her life and it was an honour to take care of him. She wanted to do it for him.
This really is a bad choice. I am a hospice worker. Hospice can provide care when your prognosis is less then six months. Signing her on does not mean she will die soon because of it. They are there to provide nurses, aids, counselors, chaplains all experts in this type of care to make sure she is comfortable and has all she needs such as medication, medical equipment, all paid for by hospice.
I feel bad as he doesnt know what hospice is and is not. Most people don’t because most people dont talk about it.
They can pick up on cues that she might be in pain, nonverbal ones that he may not recognize. Hospice has actual professionals trained in pain management to ensure she can be kept comfortable.
I have cared for hospice patients that have been on hospice for over 3 years. But dadly people think hospice means death, like now, and its not.
I hope everyone watching this tells their husband or wife or family what you would and would not want if you had six months left. As a counselor i have seen so many needless family arguments when a loved one was dying because they did not hsve this talk and ended up fighting over what should be done.
Take the time to write it down and talk. You will save your family a ton of problems if you do.
Daniel R Why if her husband has the time and means too care for her shouldn't he keep her at home.
Daniel R Why if her husband has the time and means too care for her shouldn't he keep her at home..
Daniel R Bless all that work for hospice,, They were there in 1984 with my mom when she was dying,, they were real angels 👼🏻
Hospice doesnt pay for it. They are paid by medicare..etc.
Spoken like a hospice worker with a chip on the shoulder. My 2 experiences with hospice were a nightmare. I know mostly they do good with pain and sleep and rest but not in both cases of my brother in 94 and my mother in 2000. In patient hospice nurse was hitting herself up with the morphine shots not giving them to my brother. We filed complaint. My mother never even got hospice care because erroneously they deemed her to have more than 6 months to live, denying help in my home to take better care for comfort reasons. They called me, hospice that is 1 hour after my mother passed! Now they're ready to help me. Too late. So get off your high horse nurse ratchet. It ain't all perfume and roses.
Rip Valerie 🙏🏻this is true ❤️
God bless Valarie 👃👃❤️❤️ that's a great man right there...
Love you Valerie ❤❤❤❤
R.I.P Valerie 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Please, God keep them in Your hand
A great partner
A Good Man❣
Rest In Peace! You can be in hospice for years, hospice is the answer if you love someone!
There is nothing wrong with wanting to spend final days with your loved ones. Thats what she wanted also I am sure.
My mom and dad refuse to go into a nursing home or care facility they want to live their last days at home I'll make sure that happens no matter what I'll care for them who wants to die alone in a sterile hospital
Hospice can come to the home. They came when our 23 year old son was suffering with cancer...he died shortly after they arrived..
Goodbye Valerie... I loved you as Rhoda.
im right now watching him wrestle in the mud with burt reynolds
Husband was in Longest Yard with Burt Reynolds
So, cant hospice come to the house, bc he wont be able to manage on his own.
S moby dick yes. Hospice went to my grandfather home to take care of him.
Yes.
You can have homecare coming to the house such as nursing assistants or LPN's that will perform basic hygiene to very heavy people that would be hard to move. Nurses are not necessary if there is good communication with the MD in charge of the case and narcotics are delivered as needed. I remember watching Farrah Faucett give herself her own morphine injections, towards the very end. Every situation is different. Some cases rely on the need of homecare while others do not.
@@linanicolia1363 Well she is gone now may her soul RIP.
What great lose beloved ones
It's true? They ask money through crowdfunding?
Go Fund Me? They have/had lots on money smh
My mom dated tony cacciotti but they broke up my mom dated my dad and had me then broke up tony wanted to be my dad so he told the doctor that he was the dad of me so my last name is cacciotti . Bella cacciotti my mom was dating my step dad so my last name would have been chhatarpal but i like metts
You’re delusional u need help Piece of shit
You go way back......