Growing up I used to think my dad never opening up about his issues was him being distant and cold but now since becoming a man myself I realize he wasn’t being cold he just knew that nobody cared, he was still expected to perform regardless.
damn this video speaks miles as this is one of the biggest things i’m thinking about for the past month it’s honestly sad how no one truly cares about you but as you get older you’ll become used to it that’s why finding someone super special is so important and your connection with god as well
What sucks is that they tell men not to show emotion when in reality there should be men’s get together groups for men struggling with depression. I would like to see my friends from high school again struggling with depression from certain things because life can be hard. Especially nowadays
As a guy in his late 20s, with a career job, nice car. As the eldest son in a chinese family. There is always alot of pressure to handle issues by myself, be the man of the house, and be the role model to my lil brother. From experience, I can say keep your homies and even your family close. Have good relations with those people because when you hit rock bottom from a break up or something, those are the people that's going to be there for you and wont look down on you for breaking down eyes balling.
because alot of times opening up means as a guy you get disposed off for being "weak", from what I experienced personally and what I've seen around me. so yea....
I have notice this even when trying to get a woman or make friends. If you complain about how hard it is to connect, people automatically think your desperate or your trying too hard. In actuality it is objectively harder for some men to make relationships
For real, bro. We men take pain and absorb it by ourselves. This world lack empathy towards men. Society thinks masculinity and resiliency has no limits. Most girls can vent out and they get decent emotional support.
I thought a lot about whether or not I should leave a comment. But we're all human and experience a lot of similar things. Growing up, my father said I was being whiny and weak if I was too emotional. So, I became a "tomboy" to avoid being judged. I still am in many ways. Don't cry much, even when I want to. And I won't cry in front of someone. Most guys don't want to cry in front of their girl, and I get it cause the first time I cried in front of an ex, I hated how it felt. I'm hard on myself and I expect myself to be self-sufficient. But I try not to hold others up to those same standards. Because I know that crying is healthy and can be a much needed release. The few times guys have cried around me, I didn't stop them. I just sat and listened. Sometimes that's what we need. It frustrates me that a lot of women say they want someone sensitive but then they turn around and judge a guy for actually having feelings. But, of course, a woman wouldn't feel good if a guy said they get tired of their girl having emotions! No one would. I usually handle things myself and there are only a couple of people I trust enough to go to. Even then, I'm afraid of burdening them. I really hope that the world can see men's mental health in a better light moving forward.
Men, talk to your homies, talk to your dad, talk to your mom if you can. You can even talk to your girl, there’s a fine line between communicating how you feel and bitching. Never bitch to your girl, don’t cry in front of her unless you have to. But mainly, be loyal to yourself, anyone who takes your vulnerability and dislikes it, does not deserve you as a person
Speak on it brother. I’m a suicide survivor, been through a lot, and still healing. My only critique is to be mindful of statements like “therapy is gay”…. Or using gay as an insult. I’m one of your followers who is bi.
Below average looking guy , have decent job , woman just want a guy who has already and not the guy wants to build . I think being single is only option to be happy .
Growing up I used to think my dad never opening up about his issues was him being distant and cold but now since becoming a man myself I realize he wasn’t being cold he just knew that nobody cared, he was still expected to perform regardless.
damn this video speaks miles as this is one of the biggest things i’m thinking about for the past month
it’s honestly sad how no one truly cares about you but as you get older you’ll become used to it
that’s why finding someone super special is so important
and your connection with god as well
What sucks is that they tell men not to show emotion when in reality there should be men’s get together groups for men struggling with depression. I would like to see my friends from high school again struggling with depression from certain things because life can be hard. Especially nowadays
"If you do give up, then it's 100% over." Powerful statement.
always 💯
Truth be told✍🏾💯
Thanks for that video Bro !
Don't give up guys, life is a fight, but it's definitely worth it !
As a guy in his late 20s, with a career job, nice car. As the eldest son in a chinese family. There is always alot of pressure to handle issues by myself, be the man of the house, and be the role model to my lil brother.
From experience, I can say keep your homies and even your family close. Have good relations with those people because when you hit rock bottom from a break up or something, those are the people that's going to be there for you and wont look down on you for breaking down eyes balling.
because alot of times opening up means as a guy you get disposed off for being "weak", from what I experienced personally and what I've seen around me. so yea....
I have notice this even when trying to get a woman or make friends. If you complain about how hard it is to connect, people automatically think your desperate or your trying too hard. In actuality it is objectively harder for some men to make relationships
For real, bro. We men take pain and absorb it by ourselves. This world lack empathy towards men. Society thinks masculinity and resiliency has no limits. Most girls can vent out and they get decent emotional support.
Good video, Derek. Women don't understand how tough it can be for guys.
@@TobyNaraine1991 I have really liked seeing the insight Derek offers. I've learned quite a bit from him.
I thought a lot about whether or not I should leave a comment. But we're all human and experience a lot of similar things. Growing up, my father said I was being whiny and weak if I was too emotional. So, I became a "tomboy" to avoid being judged. I still am in many ways. Don't cry much, even when I want to. And I won't cry in front of someone. Most guys don't want to cry in front of their girl, and I get it cause the first time I cried in front of an ex, I hated how it felt. I'm hard on myself and I expect myself to be self-sufficient. But I try not to hold others up to those same standards. Because I know that crying is healthy and can be a much needed release. The few times guys have cried around me, I didn't stop them. I just sat and listened. Sometimes that's what we need. It frustrates me that a lot of women say they want someone sensitive but then they turn around and judge a guy for actually having feelings. But, of course, a woman wouldn't feel good if a guy said they get tired of their girl having emotions! No one would.
I usually handle things myself and there are only a couple of people I trust enough to go to. Even then, I'm afraid of burdening them. I really hope that the world can see men's mental health in a better light moving forward.
These more societal and wellbeing videos have been hittin man
Men, talk to your homies, talk to your dad, talk to your mom if you can. You can even talk to your girl, there’s a fine line between communicating how you feel and bitching. Never bitch to your girl, don’t cry in front of her unless you have to. But mainly, be loyal to yourself, anyone who takes your vulnerability and dislikes it, does not deserve you as a person
Speak on it brother. I’m a suicide survivor, been through a lot, and still healing. My only critique is to be mindful of statements like “therapy is gay”…. Or using gay as an insult. I’m one of your followers who is bi.
All love 🙏🏽 and just know that theres always a reason to keep going as tough as life can be sometimes
We should never give up always ❤❤ .and absolutely I agree 💯 with you
Preach bro!
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Below average looking guy , have decent job , woman just want a guy who has already and not the guy wants to build . I think being single is only option to be happy .
Would you say ALL women think this way about men and vulnerability or are there exceptions where this vulnerability could strengthen a relationship?
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i just found your channel today. Good work brother
love 🙏🏽
lot of women dont have much to offer. i met a lot that dont cook and do the traditonal duties anymore.
I think a lot of women balk at the idea of 'traditional'
@@LiviaPaws yea in todays modern age and modern woman
So for those that agree, is the only thing that women have to offer cooking, cleaning and blow jobs on demand?
I'm really curious.