This is the side of single parenthood and broken homes nobody is talking about. Your spouse is supposed to come before the children. Because you both are supposed to be raising the kids and taking care of the household together. By putting the kids first that literally breaks up the team effort. Honestly that’s why you see so many old couples divorcing when all the kids are grown and out the house now. Because they spent so much time focusing on the kids once they left there was nothing else holding that marriage together.
A man coming first before the kids doesn't mean he gets all your focus it just means you make sure he's good first so that he's in the right head space to poor into his family. The same goes to the man and his woman. Making sure your spouse is good may only be 10-25% of the focus. Making sure they get thought of first is important. The kids will likely get 50-90% of the focus from each parent so why not make sure the spouse comes first? It would teach the kids of healthy relationship dynamic.
The relationship between the husband and wife is the core of the family. It HAS to come first. Focusing on the kids over each other allows the spousal relationship to deteriorate, which ultimately hurts the kids far more. We've got to spread this truth to more people. _The spousal relationship matters most_. Your kids will be more damaged by watching you and your husband fall apart than by a small decrease in attention. These kids need to be more independent anyway.
Exactly, excuse my lannguage, but shit rolls down hill. If the parents aren't happy, the kids ain't gonna be happy. Not focusing on each other, is how we end up witth broken homes.
Imagine marrying a woman then having a child & she goes thru post partum & isnt the same woman anymore, attitude bad, & she doesnt want the relationship anymore. Happens everyday. Men are waking up. Im not saying one way is better than the other but i understand
So pregnancy is JUST on the MAN now?! 🧐🤔 i thought unprotected sex was a Mutual Decision this whole time 🧐 wow thanks for teaching me something new, women 🤡🧐🤣😴
Idk, I think they both matter, especially in this day and age where both parents have to work. You have to balance work and life. You guys gotta balance chores in the homes and gotta balance the books for your money etc.... Balance is needed in every part of life, you can't even walk without balance.
More dialogue is needed for this particular topic - Urgently 😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮 they are pretending they don't get it - Men stop trying to hold on to their feelings ( they are not children remember they are adults pretending to be children, that's a narcissist way ) - Speaking truth isn't disrespecting - if they feelings are hurt then it's their ego being challenged and know one ( no narcist ) can handle their ego transformations and that's no narcissist can handle ego death - Know who ur dealing with and always move accordingly - no remorse for the wicked at all - I am Atma Di Ace in your atmosphere speaking Real talk Raw and Uncut facts truth always - They are not ready for me at all - i hate d*mons and now it's on - many people's souls are possessed souls - identify the d*Monic souls before hand 👌👌👌 I am a d*Mon Slayer 👁️
@@useyourwords3286 She don't know what she's talking about, she has no life experience. It's not like she been married for 20 years and speaking from that place. She a single female never been married with no kids. The man should be prioritized first, and she wants the kids prioritized first, this is how we end up with broken homes. Women since Eve always think they know better than God. The man is the provider, without someone to provide for them, the kids won't be taken care of. So by prioritizing the provider, you are prioritizing the kids. Nobody is saying to neglect the kids in lieu of the man, it's just that shit rolls down hill, if the man not happy, the woman not gonna be happy, divorce is the next step.
You guys have to get good at recognizing fallacies and calling these women out. You'd shut down these conversations quickly and prevent them from looking so foolish.
The woman with the afro is a walking contradiction, as a man you would never put your child ahead of your wife in a relationship when all of you live in the same house ,children will naturally play both sides against each other as they grow, they must see the natural order dad mom and the children, and another thing just because the woman carries the child for 9 months doesn't mean she has more of a connection with the children than the father does that is just something put out there to make women feel the kids are solely their responsibility and not the fathers,,,,, I must say there are so many targets in this video on these women's backs they just cannot stop spewing nonsense they want a man to cater to them after they give birth why they only cater to the children and show the man no love until the kids move out of the house or go to college
Q1: I'm sorry, but yall answers are the reason there's such a breakdown of families in the black community. It's like you're starting from the assumption that parentS are individuals. The Bible says - He who finds a wife finds a good thing, it means that she's a wife first, because that relationship is the BASIS of the family. It's the bare minimum of what a kid needs. A mom and a dad. OK now forget the Bible...what gives your kid the best cha ce in life? Two parent household - so if you're starting off not giving your kid the best chance...moms aren't at their best when they're stressed out and single. It's a change of perspective back to how we USED to look at it and things worked.
She very well know most dudes have a natural appearance, and she using that 1% to apply to all men. Most women wear make up, lets keep it a buck, and if she black good change she got on a wig too.
Facts shorty in the fro straight up lying when she said men be wearing make up maybe gay men and Trans ppl but not heterosexual men which is the majority of the population
Religion has been lost for a long time. Not like a pastor or anything but even in the Bible it literally says Christ is the head above man,man above woman, and god is the head of Christ. How I view it it’s literally god above everything then man then woman. I mean if you believe in the Bible women were made from the ribs of a man and are not only of man but in the image of man and men were made from dust in gods image as the glory of gods creation. Women were made as the glory of men
Most of us don't love these women. The average man is starving for acces to Intamacy and is basically waiting for his turn with someone who most likely has been with someone he knows.
Eh... a lot of people don't like to marry outside their race due to lack of compatibility. You cant change who you are. Most black folks want to marry other black folks, same with asians, jews etc....
People usually end up marrying people of the same race, there is a reason for that, they are more compatible. You can't really change your race or culture you grew up in etc...
@@Quadae404 Growing up every creed and culture doesn't make you compatible. People tend to go with what they are familiar with, because they feel they will be more compatible with those people, it's normal. Most people end up marrying people of the same race and even religion, it's not a "you problem."
@@adim00lah it’s a hector, Jamal, and Billy on every corner, if they still having biases towards each other, then they choosing to, nun to do with compatibility
@@adim00lah that’s easy, familiarity. Same reason why people don’t venture out of the foods they eat because it can be too new of an experience. I have also found that women hate having to defend who they pick so if he is of another race they feel they have to explain more than they want to…
@@adim00lah That’s a social construct in my opinion honestly. If that were true than people who claim to have so called familiarity wouldn’t be breaking up and divorcing each other at such a high rate especially since they are so damn compatible…
@@treutable I agree! People think familiarity = compatibility and it often doesn't. High divorce is also a social construct, in societies where it's acceptable socially, divorce rates are high, same thing with single mother hood. I'm Indian, and divorce is not acceptable in our community nor is single motherhood hence why divorce rates of Indians and indian single mothers is super low. I've never even met an Indian woman who had a child out of wedloc, where as I know a ton of single black mothers.
As men we gotta look at n study the facts. It’s guys on here talking about her personality? Did you listen to what she said. I didn’t know guys looked instead of paying attention to what’s being said smh.. Do better guys
Its way more men having kids they dont know about than women without kids Its more men with kids they dont know sho the real dad is They quick to wanna have a viral fight lol crazy i thought had something going then i heard something that made me listen carefully she outta line
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This is the side of single parenthood and broken homes nobody is talking about. Your spouse is supposed to come before the children. Because you both are supposed to be raising the kids and taking care of the household together. By putting the kids first that literally breaks up the team effort. Honestly that’s why you see so many old couples divorcing when all the kids are grown and out the house now. Because they spent so much time focusing on the kids once they left there was nothing else holding that marriage together.
A man coming first before the kids doesn't mean he gets all your focus it just means you make sure he's good first so that he's in the right head space to poor into his family. The same goes to the man and his woman. Making sure your spouse is good may only be 10-25% of the focus. Making sure they get thought of first is important. The kids will likely get 50-90% of the focus from each parent so why not make sure the spouse comes first? It would teach the kids of healthy relationship dynamic.
By prioritizing the man, you are prioritizing the kids, because he provides for them. The kids need a pprovider, so that has to be the priority.
And what does the woman get from the man??
Do you mean pour ??
The "pour into each other first, and then the kids" anaolgy is such a great one. Well said.
The relationship between the husband and wife is the core of the family. It HAS to come first. Focusing on the kids over each other allows the spousal relationship to deteriorate, which ultimately hurts the kids far more. We've got to spread this truth to more people. _The spousal relationship matters most_. Your kids will be more damaged by watching you and your husband fall apart than by a small decrease in attention. These kids need to be more independent anyway.
Exactly, excuse my lannguage, but shit rolls down hill. If the parents aren't happy, the kids ain't gonna be happy. Not focusing on each other, is how we end up witth broken homes.
A lot of women get mad when a guy ask "What's your favorite color?", but it's still men fault when they don't ask?
1st thing I've realised in these times. Women 25 and under know it all, they will argue with teachers, judges, jesus, they are here to teach us all
These ppl know it all but still be single and I don’t buy the whole I enjoy my peace story. I feel like it’s a cop out
😂
She cant even talk fr wit them lip fillers 😭😭😭🚮
DRC is one of my favorite podcasts!!
Imagine marrying a woman then having a child & she goes thru post partum & isnt the same woman anymore, attitude bad, & she doesnt want the relationship anymore. Happens everyday. Men are waking up. Im not saying one way is better than the other but i understand
That airfro is doing something to me 😅😅😅😅😍👌
🫡 I thought I was the only 1 lol
Yesssir!😆
Love listening to yall episodes
So pregnancy is JUST on the MAN now?! 🧐🤔 i thought unprotected sex was a Mutual Decision this whole time 🧐 wow thanks for teaching me something new, women 🤡🧐🤣😴
10 minutes in and I’m convinced dude with the fro is slow
Facts how is your face not part of physical attraction
Everything is about DUTY, not BALANCE. Balance is for community cohesion.
Idk, I think they both matter, especially in this day and age where both parents have to work. You have to balance work and life. You guys gotta balance chores in the homes and gotta balance the books for your money etc.... Balance is needed in every part of life, you can't even walk without balance.
Shorty with the fro Is kinda unbearable. I can’t even finish watching amh
More dialogue is needed for this particular topic - Urgently 😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮 they are pretending they don't get it - Men stop trying to hold on to their feelings ( they are not children remember they are adults pretending to be children, that's a narcissist way ) - Speaking truth isn't disrespecting - if they feelings are hurt then it's their ego being challenged and know one ( no narcist ) can handle their ego transformations and that's no narcissist can handle ego death - Know who ur dealing with and always move accordingly - no remorse for the wicked at all - I am Atma Di Ace in your atmosphere speaking Real talk Raw and Uncut facts truth always - They are not ready for me at all - i hate d*mons and now it's on - many people's souls are possessed souls - identify the d*Monic souls before hand 👌👌👌 I am a d*Mon Slayer 👁️
Shorty wit the fro sounds like an airhead
No she don’t, she low key different. If you can’t tell you need to reevaluate your morals my boi
She is wrong on most of these topics, you just like her she's not different just wrong @kingkesecnd5167
No, she's just real.
@@useyourwords3286 She don't know what she's talking about, she has no life experience. It's not like she been married for 20 years and speaking from that place. She a single female never been married with no kids.
The man should be prioritized first, and she wants the kids prioritized first, this is how we end up with broken homes. Women since Eve always think they know better than God. The man is the provider, without someone to provide for them, the kids won't be taken care of. So by prioritizing the provider, you are prioritizing the kids.
Nobody is saying to neglect the kids in lieu of the man, it's just that shit rolls down hill, if the man not happy, the woman not gonna be happy, divorce is the next step.
Definitely sounds like a airhead
You guys have to get good at recognizing fallacies and calling these women out. You'd shut down these conversations quickly and prevent them from looking so foolish.
If you are dating another human you are both compatible. It simply boils down to choice!
The woman with the afro is a walking contradiction, as a man you would never put your child ahead of your wife in a relationship when all of you live in the same house ,children will naturally play both sides against each other as they grow, they must see the natural order dad mom and the children, and another thing just because the woman carries the child for 9 months doesn't mean she has more of a connection with the children than the father does that is just something put out there to make women feel the kids are solely their responsibility and not the fathers,,,,, I must say there are so many targets in this video on these women's backs they just cannot stop spewing nonsense they want a man to cater to them after they give birth why they only cater to the children and show the man no love until the kids move out of the house or go to college
Women just say that to excuse their nonsense
Q1: I'm sorry, but yall answers are the reason there's such a breakdown of families in the black community. It's like you're starting from the assumption that parentS are individuals. The Bible says - He who finds a wife finds a good thing, it means that she's a wife first, because that relationship is the BASIS of the family. It's the bare minimum of what a kid needs. A mom and a dad. OK now forget the Bible...what gives your kid the best cha ce in life? Two parent household - so if you're starting off not giving your kid the best chance...moms aren't at their best when they're stressed out and single. It's a change of perspective back to how we USED to look at it and things worked.
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I get what the girl in the braids is saying. When she referred to “settle wealth” she wasn’t referring to flashy.. Ms. Afro was confused
I'm literally hearing he sassy because you gotta treat him good feed him rub his belly talk to him nice
Wrd how is wanting to be treated lovingly by your women sassy. Other races of women get this american women have issues understanding this.
Great Episode 😁👍🏿
Why listen to these women if they not even trying to understand anything.
afro would start talking, make a little bit of sense, then go off the deep end fast asf
She very well know most dudes have a natural appearance, and she using that 1% to apply to all men. Most women wear make up, lets keep it a buck, and if she black good change she got on a wig too.
Facts shorty in the fro straight up lying when she said men be wearing make up maybe gay men and Trans ppl but not heterosexual men which is the majority of the population
Afro is from the PRO-JECTS
Most women won't admit that if it wasn't for the children they couldn't keep a man. Let's talk about it!
The good ones only dance with their home girls at the club. No other dude bout to be all up on me!
City girls and Boss B's give birth to sassy ninjas! If I'm wrong enlighten me!
Body over face! The gym can improve most bodies. Plus a person's face is far more likely to piss me off than their body.
This episode 😮💨…tough
Good episode but i think actual moms and dads should speak on kids because single people have no experience just ideas. This ep revealed that
Religion has been lost for a long time. Not like a pastor or anything but even in the Bible it literally says Christ is the head above man,man above woman, and god is the head of Christ. How I view it it’s literally god above everything then man then woman. I mean if you believe in the Bible women were made from the ribs of a man and are not only of man but in the image of man and men were made from dust in gods image as the glory of gods creation. Women were made as the glory of men
I think she’s talking about foggieraw when she mentioned poetry
YES THAT EXACTLY WHOOOOOO THE WAY I BLANKED AND REMEMBERED WHEN I WALKED OUT LMAOO
Honestly how many man do you know who are impregnating women that they see themselves with long-term . None!
My boo juu back
That man is talking some real shit
Its rather annoying when mf talk over the host when they're making a valid point the guest dont want to hear.
I think the conditional love is out wack now. Cause it be very unreasonable now.
Women who put the kids first open the door for side chicks.
nyc women got a certain type of dialect and it confuses me bc they don’t know what they mean although they tend to speak in generalities
The yugioh reference 😂
Yall gotta get them levels up on these mics and speak up 🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️
They know some strange men
Conservative, clout demons
Most of us don't love these women. The average man is starving for acces to Intamacy and is basically waiting for his turn with someone who most likely has been with someone he knows.
dancing with and dancing on someone are two different things. why do women “have to” dance ON someone?
Ain’t no such thing as “compatibility”, if i wanna be with you, I’ll make a change where it’s necessary, cause that’s real life, anything else is bs
Eh... a lot of people don't like to marry outside their race due to lack of compatibility. You cant change who you are. Most black folks want to marry other black folks, same with asians, jews etc....
People usually end up marrying people of the same race, there is a reason for that, they are more compatible. You can't really change your race or culture you grew up in etc...
@@adim00lah in America we grow up around every creed, culture, and religion, if you ain’t realized how similar we all is that’s a YOU problem🤷🏾♂️
@@Quadae404 Growing up every creed and culture doesn't make you compatible. People tend to go with what they are familiar with, because they feel they will be more compatible with those people, it's normal.
Most people end up marrying people of the same race and even religion, it's not a "you problem."
@@adim00lah it’s a hector, Jamal, and Billy on every corner, if they still having biases towards each other, then they choosing to, nun to do with compatibility
Run this topic again with different guests
There is no such thing as compatibility
Then why do people usually marry people of the same race? Imo the reason is they are more compatable.
@@adim00lah that’s easy, familiarity. Same reason why people don’t venture out of the foods they eat because it can be too new of an experience. I have also found that women hate having to defend who they pick so if he is of another race they feel they have to explain more than they want to…
@@treutable Exactly, people are usually more compatable with people who they have more familiarity with.
@@adim00lah That’s a social construct in my opinion honestly. If that were true than people who claim to have so called familiarity wouldn’t be breaking up and divorcing each other at such a high rate especially since they are so damn compatible…
@@treutable I agree! People think familiarity = compatibility and it often doesn't.
High divorce is also a social construct, in societies where it's acceptable socially, divorce rates are high, same thing with single mother hood.
I'm Indian, and divorce is not acceptable in our community nor is single motherhood hence why divorce rates of Indians and indian single mothers is super low.
I've never even met an Indian woman who had a child out of wedloc, where as I know a ton of single black mothers.
I think she talkin about Akeem Ali
Actually, on average opposites do not attract
Yall talking bad about afro girl.. At least she's not loud 😂
were yOu one of ThoSe Before ?
Do nOt gOt one nOw
Less is more
Disciplined women look better after giving birth.
The face is not the body?
MystiSim's Frightening
This first topic is trash
Why were you guys challenging her at the beginning when she was making LOGICAL SENSE.
Nah facts
The thin girl is very smart to be such a young lady.. way above most women including the one sitting next to her
As men we gotta look at n study the facts. It’s guys on here talking about her personality? Did you listen to what she said. I didn’t know guys looked instead of paying attention to what’s being said smh.. Do better guys
Its way more men having kids they dont know about than women without kids
Its more men with kids they dont know sho the real dad is
They quick to wanna have a viral fight lol crazy i thought had something going then i heard something that made me listen carefully she outta line
LameS