ADHD and Anxiety

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  • Опубліковано 7 вер 2024
  • Dr. Stephanie Sarkis explains the ways anxiety can surface in children with learning and thinking differences and offers suggestions that could help you and your child better manage it.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 110

  • @violetmartin3927
    @violetmartin3927 4 роки тому +297

    "you do things 0, or 150%"
    me: sigh, cries a little then starts laughing

  • @Proutprutproutprout
    @Proutprutproutprout 4 роки тому +300

    I hate that ADHD is focused on kids. What If you where not diagnosed as a child what do you do as an adult???

    • @UnderstoodOrg
      @UnderstoodOrg  4 роки тому +19

      Hi EMA. C.,
      Thanks for reaching out. Since 2014, Understood has served millions of families of children who learn and think differently, as a free online resource. While Understood’s videos and content were originally designed for families in mind, we hope our content could be helpful to anyone looking for support with learning and thinking differences like ADHD and dyslexia. In 2020, we launched a new expanded mission to help educators, young adults and workplaces that need support, help foster conversations and drive action in their daily lives. Our resources will continue to remain free to individuals and easily accessible, so we reach as many people as possible. Our Young Adult resources can be found at Understood by Us: u.org/3hUJZIL
      Here’s some information on who can evaluate adults for learning and thinking differences: u.org/2yeNiZq
      If the evaluation is not covered by your insurance or if you don't have insurance, there are two other things that could help you find an evaluation at a reduced cost:
      1. Find out if any local universities with graduate programs in special education or psychology have clinics that conduct evaluations. These are often offered at substantially reduced cost.
      2. Check with your local county or state adult education office. They may know of private practitioners who perform evaluations on a sliding scale or at reduced cost.
      You may want to consider connecting with these organizations in your area:
      LDA: ldaamerica.org/support/state-local-affiliates/
      IDA: eida.org/ida-branches/
      We hope this helps. If you have other questions, please don't hesitate to ask.
      Best
      The Understood Team

    • @Anonymous-hv2zc
      @Anonymous-hv2zc 3 роки тому +2

      14

    • @dabi5967
      @dabi5967 3 роки тому +21

      Suffer. I'm guessing we'll just have to suffer....

    • @irene_f.
      @irene_f. 3 роки тому +9

      Reach out for help. I have both Anxiety Disorder and ADHD and I am an adult.

    • @gypsypath1
      @gypsypath1 3 роки тому +15

      @@UnderstoodOrg And still, the focus is young adults. For an issue that never goes away (and will tend to get worse as hormones change with aging), older adults are barely spoken about. Yet, they’re the ones who’ve had time for marriages to fall apart, careers to fail, taxes to fall behind on, etc.

  • @teerilla
    @teerilla 3 роки тому +113

    This is a hell of a combo to live with many many people won't understand. You ain't alone though, we get it. Eat right, hydrate, clean your living space and yourself, work out, and talk to someone you love. If you don't love nobody, know that someone loves you

    • @UmAdxXbRo
      @UmAdxXbRo 2 роки тому +1

      IDGAF if anybody loves me or not!

    • @UmAdxXbRo
      @UmAdxXbRo 2 роки тому +2

      I have ADHD, depression and anxiety btw

    • @KJS988
      @KJS988 2 роки тому +1

      Nobody loves me

    • @harrietcraig7817
      @harrietcraig7817 2 роки тому +1

      @One Guy Named Ivan almost no one understands, including-maybe especially-your own family.

    • @merylwalkley8087
      @merylwalkley8087 2 роки тому +1

      I feel alone,no children,family distance thereselves,it crushes you

  • @lucasluke1229
    @lucasluke1229 3 роки тому +149

    I have both, and when I start a relationship with someone I feel horrible because It feels like I'm holding them back. With my social anxiety I don't like going anywhere I'm a big introvert and I feel better alone, its just frustrating but always working on it

    • @irene_f.
      @irene_f. 3 роки тому +14

      I believe if and when you date someone, let them know YOU first. Then when you feel like you might want to be in an ongoing relationship with this person, start speaking up about what you struggle with. At times there just might be immediate rejection but not always the case. Allow them time to understand too. I believe in being an open book about it with someone you care about. If they decide it's too much for them to deal with, try not to take it personal, and thank your lucky stars you didn't waste so much time with the wrong person for you, (this doesn't always mean they were a bad person, just not the person for you). Honesty and being open and being yourself is the only way you can truly know that you are loved just the way you are - and you deserve that. You're not holding anyone back if you're honest, loving, caring. Maybe you feel that way but perhaps that is not how they feel about you. Just my advice speaking from my own personal experience to let you know you're not alone. I struggled with that too and this helped me, (yes at times the relationship ended because they just either did not want to or know how to deal with my problems & some relationships just ran its course and this had nothing to do with it). I ended up married to a man who is very supportive, and loves me just the way I am. I sincerely wish the same for you - everyone deserves to be loved for who they are and there is so much more to us - this does not define who we are.

    • @Kahleah727
      @Kahleah727 2 роки тому +1

      I don’t know how you feel about medication…. But I’ve suffered with social anxiety for a good part of my life. About 14-34 years old. It’s stolen so much of who I really am inside. I broke down at my dr office a few years ago ( appointment was for allergies 😂🤦🏼‍♀️) and after talking with her, she prescribed me Lexapro (or the generic brand) and it’s turned my life completely around. I don’t typically advocate for Rx’s… but this was worth it. I took it for a few years and then weaned myself off of them (always talk to you Dr first about that) and because of the “bravery” as I see it, the not caring how anyone else sees me, man… I feel my value in life. I understand my place and my worth. I wish this on everyone. To understand your worth in life!!♥️

    • @natekells1653
      @natekells1653 2 роки тому

      Omg i have both to its nice to see im not alone 🤗

    • @dddmmi
      @dddmmi 2 роки тому

      ur not alone bro :(

  • @EthalaRide
    @EthalaRide 3 роки тому +32

    I'm an adult (early-mid twenties) and my anxiety has only gotten worse, and even though my ADD isn't too bad, the "0% or 150%" is SO TRUE it hurts, and it REALLY messes me up with self-monitoring. I don't know how to explain to my mother that, even though she knows about ADD and I got treatment for it when I was younger, she expects this 'switch flipping' to be coped with and gotten over by now.

    • @UnderstoodOrg
      @UnderstoodOrg  3 роки тому

      Hi Ethala,
      We're sorry you're struggling. You might want to consider talking to your physician about your anxiety, especially if it's getting worse. You can also point your mom to this video "Video: Does ADHD ever just go away?" u.org/2YoTvLj The short answer is that while ADHD symptoms can change as you grow older, they don't ever just go away.
      We hope this helps.
      Best,
      The team at Understood

  • @hudsonhaynie1632
    @hudsonhaynie1632 2 роки тому +10

    I am fifteen, just got diagnosed for ADHD after all my siblings did likewise. I don’t really show the behaviors that would get attention earlier in my life, like hyperactivity, or obviously poor impulse control, but I do think that I have pretty severe social anxiety as well as anxiety over procrastination and an occasional bout of existential dread over my future and the state of the world. It’s hard to be proactive in school and to stay out of a darker mindset, and while I don’t think I have depression now, there were some times in summer of 2020 where I just lacked almost any motivation to do anything. I honestly think my costly obsession with pets and houseplants might have just saved my life at that time, because I knew I was responsible for the care of several living things and took joy in taking care of them. Without that life raft, I probably would have been in a much worse off place, and who knows where that would have taken me.
    As of now, I’m fairly content, but my social anxiety and insecurity is still a beast of a problem. I’ve made progress in being comfortable in a social situation, but I still need to learn how to get from a casual, barely know you relationship, to anything that matters long term. I have anxious thoughts on whether or not I’m just tolerated by people, and overthink everything anyone or myself says. Of course, procrastination is the biggest hurdle so far, and there is a carousel of unfinished homework and c grade tests that glides through my mind, the ride never closes
    Well, that was helpful. Sorry for the rant, and thank you for reading and sharing my feelings. I probably need to prioritize homework now.
    God I need a therapist😅

  • @sarahjaynelukey9368
    @sarahjaynelukey9368 2 роки тому +5

    I have adhd and anxiety everything feels like a cycle and sleep is hard to overthinking

    • @jareddaniel5508
      @jareddaniel5508 Рік тому

      Specifically, what do you mean by "everything feels like a cycle"

  • @joolima
    @joolima 3 роки тому +8

    I was diagnosed at 10 with ADHD and underwent therapy for years until I realized at 30 that I have anxiety.
    Thank you for this video, ADHD has a lot of stigma still.

  • @Soooooooooooonicable
    @Soooooooooooonicable 2 роки тому +12

    I was diagnosed with the non hyperactive version of ADD when I was a kid. My parents put me on medication for it in elementary school and apparently I saw a lot of improvement. I specifically remember being way more social around that time then before and after. They took me off it before I got into middle school though, which now I think might have been a mistake. I'm still struggling with ADD into my adulthood and I'm considering asking my doctor to put me back on.

  • @ktarrah
    @ktarrah 4 роки тому +71

    why the music???? i had to rewatch this like three times

  • @kathrynoneill5862
    @kathrynoneill5862 3 роки тому +7

    I have both anxiety and ADHD and I always thought I was the only one.

  • @avab33
    @avab33 3 роки тому +57

    I haven't been professionally diagnosed with either, but I am almost certain I have both. I am very certain I have anxiety, but with ADHD I am not sure. I match a lot of the symptoms, but I seem to focus well in school..? I have very good grades too. It's very confusing. Also, my dad has been professionally diagnosed with ADD and not anxiety, but he shows a lot of the same anxiety symptoms I experience.

    • @dabi5967
      @dabi5967 3 роки тому +17

      People with ADHD can also hiper focus, wich is commonly when everything around you except the thing your doing "disappears" and you lose track of time. You forget to eat, drink and other things untill you are no longer hyper focusing. Having ADHD is a lot more than difficulty focusing and lots of energy, people who have ADHD can still focus and get good grades but it's harder. I myself have good grades for the first time in a while and I have ADHD, and it's because my high school is only doing 4 instead of 6 classes so I have more time to do my work and pass. The school system isn't made for people with ADHD but that doesn't mean we can't get good grades. I would suggest going to a doctor to get a diagnosis though. Sorry for the long comment lol.

    • @User-hk2ev
      @User-hk2ev 3 роки тому

      Same

    • @sami-g6087
      @sami-g6087 2 роки тому

      Do you take medications to help you focus?

    • @akmansoor572
      @akmansoor572 2 роки тому

      hai Ava B.. what's ur present condition, are u recover from both , did u visit a doctor ?
      I heared that there r two way in the management of adhd either medical or non medical if u don't mind please tell me which one is given to u ,

    • @UmAdxXbRo
      @UmAdxXbRo 2 роки тому

      I have ADHD and I struggled with school. I failed every class with F’s because I can’t concentrate. I don’t think you have ADHD

  • @mrdrawingdoggo960
    @mrdrawingdoggo960 2 роки тому +2

    Me having severe adhd and severe anxiety looking like a little kid watching an engaging video! :3
    I also fit so well into every thing she says! Haha

  • @Cieraroland
    @Cieraroland Рік тому +2

    I love this, I definitely have secondary anxiety because of my ADHD. Trying to work on treating my ADHD but some stimulants causes anxiety as a side effect.

  • @matnitram
    @matnitram Рік тому +1

    I have secondary anxiety and adhd. I used to be a pretty happy go lucky kid, but teachers, and people started shaming me, so now I'm constantly self-monitoring. I have more social-anxiety a lot now, although I am still social though.

  • @domjfante8140
    @domjfante8140 3 роки тому +4

    Holy crap. It all makes sense now.

  • @bigballs3095
    @bigballs3095 4 роки тому +49

    Yikes life is Hell with ADHD for real, i cant get anywhere in life. cant get help, cant get right, cant get organized, cant cant get anyone to ever understand me, I cant seem to get anywhere in life at all sept rock bottom. i seem to be really really good at hitting rock bottom over and over again. now im alone isolated no friends, family wont talk to me. nobody will even talk to me or even text me back anymore either. if you ever find yourself wondering what it feels like to be alienated and rejected by everyone and anyone you ever cared most or at all about in life. Its worse than being lit on fire trust me i’ve lit myself on fire before, i really have. I always will be a suicidal and self harming type of person. if things reach a point there way to uncomfortably for me. im willing to bet that almost no matter what, to avoid the pain and discomfort ill more than likely. do the same o’ll red hot metal branding burning scarification type self harm. that i used to do just to feel something other than the highest of anxieties, the hollowest anyone can ever feel, enough self hatred to foolishly kill myself over the next bump in the road ahead. But yet still not enough to trump how much of a coward i really am. so often in the not so long ago past of mine, Not just red Hot metal poker branding or burning either. i almost killed myself one time by lighting myself on fire with diesel. covering more than enough of me that after all said and done I learned what would be the worst death to ever suffer. burning to death has to be the worst thing i’ve ever put myself through. i have never ever and i hope i never experience it again to be honest. If thats the way i go fine i would kind of expect my death to be nothing but the worst anyways. i wouldn’t have it any other way either, my whole life has bin nothing but the hardest of lifes lessons that hurt the most so why should my death be any different.✌️

    • @catr.calderon4135
      @catr.calderon4135 4 роки тому +7

      Oh boy!! I am surprised I am still alive also. Many times I just wanted to heat my head on concrete, I just started growing my hair, for years I kept my hair short because when I was enraged, I would of pull all my hair out. Not just that how about you think you have been living with a narcissist. Wtf if a combination. Only I just got diagnosed with adhd and now just trying out meds. 😢

    • @bigballs3095
      @bigballs3095 4 роки тому +4

      Cat R. Calderon It can be done without meds as well now that i finally have broken more free and independent from my vampire of a Mom and unavailable passive Dad. It took me 32 years to get out and aways from my codependency but a more hopeful and optimistic part of my life is. The fact that though i am isolated and all alone and misunderstood and depressed and suicidal i still hold down my decent paying Job i pay my bills and i got my own vehicle insurance license and am slowly getting better at managing it all to life for me hit an almost life ending rock bottom about 2016 it sounds like a ling time but for me it feels like just yesterday that I traumatized myself alone in my room high on meth, weed, alcohol, mushrooms you name it i still do it oh and foolish pride to. Pride keeps us from admitting were wrong when we most likely are and always leads to a fall i’ve proved that to be right enough times to be certain. But anyways ling story short i seriously came so close to death so many times its beyond me how the hell i can even put more than two words together properly let alone be doing even half as good as i am. Mind over matter is a really powerful thing look things up about mind over matter and re train your brain no matter how impossible anything looks or appears or claims to be. UNTIL YOU GIVE UP ON THAT BEING TRUE THERES ALWAYS A POSSIBILITY FOR YOU TO BE THE INE TO PROVE EVERYONE ELS WRONG.
      NEVER GIVE UP ALWAYS KEEP FIGHTING FOR YOURSELF IF YOU TRY AND PLEASE OTHERS OR DO ANYTHING CUZ ITS WHAT YOU THINK THEY OR ANYONE ELS FOR THAT MATTER WANTS YOU TO DO.
      You’ll wind up disappointed and hurt every time thats the best way to set yourself up for failure im 32 and im just starting to understand what these kinds of things mean don’t feel like your slow or dum or less than anyone els were all human. Anyone thinking that were all extremely different from one another is lying to themselves and to anyone els they try tell that to if you know yourself really well you can read other people very accurately because we might not be exactly the same but we are so similar that its easy to read anyone if you know yourself well enough thats a key.

    • @bigballs3095
      @bigballs3095 4 роки тому +2

      Cat R. Calderon also if my reply is confusing at all and your curious what i really was really trying to say at all feel free to ask or say anything about it. Im honestly and quite literally one of the hardest people
      In the world to offend or annoy or bother, cuz im always the most annoying most offensive most bothersome guy involved. But yeah when i write things or wanna say something even theres always so much i wanna say or in this case text that i kind of give really shortened versions of the massive messages i really wanna send but there just wind up being way to long for anyone to read all of.

    • @UnderstoodOrg
      @UnderstoodOrg  4 роки тому +5

      Hi Big BALLS and Cat R. Calderon, if you are having thoughts of hurting yourself, please call 911. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org / 1-800-273-8255) also has resources to direct you to local crisis centers and to speak with you either on the phone or via the online Lifeline Crisis Chat: www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/gethelp/lifelinechat.aspx. or the Crisis Text Line (CTL): www.crisistextline.org/
      If there are any other resources you may be looking for, let us know. We'd be happy to help.

    • @anitanapp6759
      @anitanapp6759 4 роки тому +3

      Yeah it’s hard as anyone can imagine! Meds help, but Jesus is the only way I can get through this life! I pray that you all get to know him.... I promise he will see you through each day! And yes, I still can’t think straight half the time. BUT he brings me peace and strength in my soul each day. Therapy helps and practicing mindfulness and staying in the moment. Even though I have some friends left in my life, I’m still lonely at times. My family doesn’t get me. I guess I worried the hell out of them! I’m 59yrs old and just starting to save money and pay my bills on time. And yes I still am ready to die too, but I know he has good plans for me. I quit turning to drugs, alcohol... I have self medicate myself most of my life ! But if you truly want peace in your heart and soul, please turn to him ! Hang in there everyone and know I’m praying for y’all! 🙏♥️ oh yeah, join a ADHD GROUP , It’s great talking to others that understand us!! ❤️❤️

  • @AnitaSouthall
    @AnitaSouthall 4 роки тому +5

    Makes total sense to me

  • @charfree6888
    @charfree6888 2 роки тому +4

    I have ADHD and Anxiety.
    It always comfuses me when ADHD people talk about how they stall their tasks when I do them too early instead.

  • @moonshadow9349
    @moonshadow9349 3 роки тому +4

    I always responded to positive reinforcement and the rewards system amazingly there was only one problem time and time again the reward promised for the completion of a task was never given for example if I passed a test we'd go out for ice cream, but when the time came it was put off and forgotten and if I went to remind them I was told I was being rude and disrespectful and if I ask again I would not receive the reward. As you can see there are multiple problems with that; another example of what might happen is if me and my brother behaved at church we'd get to got to Bush gardens(amusement park in fl maybe elsewhere but for me it was fl) well my brother started acting out and despite me behaving and doing nothing wrong it was considered unfair for me to go without him. Obviously these promises continued to be broken despite having an impact on me and my behavior

  • @arielrainz353
    @arielrainz353 3 роки тому +18

    Adhd + Anxiety + you're an INFJ... What a perfect combo ;)

  • @nikkitronvold6590
    @nikkitronvold6590 4 роки тому +13

    THANK YOU!! I really needed this!! Bless you

  • @crongusclips7836
    @crongusclips7836 2 роки тому +3

    Can someone please tell me the difference between someone with adhd and someone with low intelligence? Im diagnosed with adhd but sometimes I feel like I might just be dumb

  • @luminousangel3950
    @luminousangel3950 3 роки тому +2

    I 150% dont agreee with positive reinforcement as a kid i was able to analyze that when i did something right i got smiles but ehen i did somthing not right i got no smiles because of this i minipulated my way through school making everyone seem i was happy until i got to highschool and lashed out positive reinforcement became a trigger to me i hate it i dont need it i need comfortability which i didnt get i have adhd i dont know if i have anxiety however everyone tells me i do i bit my nails i stare off i get angry at simple things such as people asking the same command i dont know how to function in the real world and all i want is not to go through it alone but noo im an adult now right so i just have to do it by myself nah im atuck in one place because i cant move forward causs by adhd from childhood years that grew into my anxiety today

  • @Eeeeehhh
    @Eeeeehhh 3 роки тому +1

    This made me realize something, thank you ☺️

  • @titianarasputin
    @titianarasputin 3 роки тому +1

    this is my life

  • @SumitSharma-ee3we
    @SumitSharma-ee3we 3 роки тому +3

    I am 18 and now I know I have ADHD. I knew I had anxiety.

  • @breadish69
    @breadish69 2 роки тому +1

    I am a kid with GAD and I have symptoms of adhd

  • @BarkadahanSaUNO
    @BarkadahanSaUNO 2 роки тому

    Ty

  • @robindevily9182
    @robindevily9182 2 роки тому +1

    Me

  • @XanStephP
    @XanStephP 3 роки тому

    When she said flavor I'm like damn...I like this lady. This is the attitude I wish I had. 😄 What a pro!

  • @MB-Trends
    @MB-Trends 3 роки тому

    So True

  • @irene_f.
    @irene_f. 3 роки тому +1

    I am an Adult with Panic Disorder and ADHD.

  • @crackbetts7196
    @crackbetts7196 Рік тому +1

    I can’t maintain a full time job always on welfare and have anxiety can’t be around people, I’m 27

  • @flourishflour2922
    @flourishflour2922 4 роки тому +9

    WAIT YOU CAN INHERIT ANXIETY??

    • @diego1602
      @diego1602 4 роки тому +1

      yaaaa

    • @teerilla
      @teerilla 3 роки тому

      Yep yep. I found out my dad had panic attacks after my first panic attack

    • @vaykoden793
      @vaykoden793 3 роки тому

      Yeah, you can also inherit ptsd, and phobias too.

  • @trmdp9006
    @trmdp9006 2 роки тому

    Even when adhd is treated you still have it. So I still have anxiety but doctors refuse to treat it because it secondary sigh.

  • @ace.mp4827
    @ace.mp4827 2 роки тому +1

    I haven’t been diagnosed yet, but I have most symptoms of both and whenever I bring it up to my parents they won’t allow me to get diagnosed.

  • @leosanmiguel2824
    @leosanmiguel2824 3 роки тому +4

    Can people with ADD get OCD?

  • @sapphirefire291
    @sapphirefire291 3 роки тому +1

    hi, why no are there subtitles, i can't focus or hear what's going on in the video.

  • @arpitkumar4525
    @arpitkumar4525 2 роки тому +1

    *Me breaks a cup*
    Mom: Good Job! Proud of you 🤗

  • @ferchii13
    @ferchii13 3 роки тому +1

    😭 i need more knowledge anout adult adhd, all video i watch are intended for kid with ADHD. Like i feel mine come from my childhood but what should i do now as a 27 y.o adult who can’t deal with adulthood on my own :(

    • @UnderstoodOrg
      @UnderstoodOrg  3 роки тому +1

      Hi Ferchii Alice - Thanks for your comment. While Understood’s videos and content were originally designed for families in mind, they can be helpful to anyone looking for support with learning and thinking differences like ADHD. We want you to know that it is possible to learn to manage ADHD at home (ua-cam.com/video/oVx5hBNPmzI/v-deo.html), deal with the symptoms, and thrive. Some people find support through treatment, therapy, or medication (u.org/2XytBFP). You can talk to your doctor about what you're experiencing to see if there's anything that can be done to help. You might also want to check out our Young Adults portal (u.org/3iijXip) for suggestions on handling issues that come up as a result of ADHD.
      We hope this helps.
      Best,
      The team at Understood

  • @jaymedina8511
    @jaymedina8511 3 роки тому +3

    I have both :)👍 ha ha... hm.... i hate my life

  • @lilith9875
    @lilith9875 3 роки тому

    So my overtalking...

  • @dazzyboy6969
    @dazzyboy6969 4 роки тому +29

    So someone here thinks they know ADHD, and there's godawful music in the background serving 0 purpose whatsoever?

    • @lifeandhomewithmeredith9050
      @lifeandhomewithmeredith9050 4 роки тому +3

      dazzyboy6969 . Talk about irritating and distracting. Lol

    • @PSG81
      @PSG81 4 роки тому +1

      @@lifeandhomewithmeredith9050 her voice is more irritating

  • @patrickturner7683
    @patrickturner7683 3 роки тому

    Me

  • @Austyn_Young7
    @Austyn_Young7 3 роки тому

    Me