Sometimes I don't even know who I am, I always tried to make people more comfortable that I was when hanging out, even I did things that bothered me just to make them like me. I think that's the reason that now Im prefering being alone. I tried making friends, and I did everything I could to not make them leave, but it never work out. Now I don't even care anymore, I think I'm in this phase where you don't want anybody around that is going to make u feel less. I'm my priority now, loneliness is not too bad, we just have to get used to it.
THANK YOU. I keep seeing all those videos telling me to forgive and forget and love everything. I get it to a certain point but not in a million worlds will I see forgiving no matter what reasonable. Some people simply do not deserve to be forgiven and as long as it doesn't cause me negative energy to hold that grudge, I will not act as if nothing happened. We all have boundries and values that are not things to be disrespected.
such a good timing this video got recommended now. i just had an epiphany how scared i am to stand up for myself. it feels so horrible that i cannot express my emotions to others because they distance away from me or heavily imply that what i think is nonsense. it isn't nonsense, and honestly whatever. i just feel like what others think matters to me, and i have no idea what to do with that. i tried isolating myself from people, but that didn't end up well. i tried ignoring them, but that didn't work either, as everyone i know started distancing themselves from me. what a weird world. my well being depends a lot on others and the problems i have are caused by expectations of other people and what they perceive me as. i don't know what i'm trying to say with this, but it's just that the last quote resonated with me a lot. it IS a path to depression, and, well, i really hope that whatever i do, i don't end up in this bottomless pit with no way out. living among people is hard.
I am constantly trying to find a character to own the behaviour of, to own his/her physical and psychological patterns just to have an identity. I got into my head too much now that i find the behaviour of others as " PHONY " (you'd know what i mean if you have read the catcher in the rye) That i lost the knowledge of how a normal human conversation looks like, and...
I'm sorry if this makes things more confusing, but hear me out! Most of our patterns, the words we use, the way we act, and everything we do are things we’ve learned from others. Our behaviors and actions are influenced by the people around us. We need other people - role models - to learn from and to help us shape our own identity. As humans, we tend to 'copy' others’ behaviors, either to fit in or because we aspire to be like them. That said, I feel like I don’t have a strong sense of identity. I often ask myself, 'Who am I? What am I?' I’m socially awkward in real life, and I think the reason behind this is that I haven’t tried to learn or adapt behaviors from others. I feel like this lack of adaptation makes me struggle socially and feel disconnected from having my own identity. I’m not trying to brag or seek attention; this is just how I feel. I believe that to build our own identity, we need to observe, learn, and adapt behaviors from people we admire or feel inspired by. You can also write down your current behaviors, habits, hobbies, strengths, and weaknesses. This might help you get a clearer sense of who you are and give you a starting point to better understand yourself.
People-pleasing is pretty cool as long as I'm the person who is on the receiving end. 😁 But joke aside, one should always focus on pleasing oneself first, self-neglect really sounds frustrating.
If you live your life following others advice, then it is likely that you try to shirk your responsibilities towards yourself, which leads to a feeling of lack of control over your life. You are the only person who will live your life, so why should you listen to others telling you how to live? Though of course that doesn't mean you should disregard others opinions, but treat them as just that, opinion. Nothing more, nothing less. Don't let other people affect you without your approval. Guard your mind from things you do not want entering. Good luck on your youtube journey, hope it serves you well. c:
Oh yeah now I remember the thing I forgot I wanted to mention. A reasoning as to why you shouldn't care how others percieve you (beyond practical situations) is because whatever impression you've made, even if you see that person often and remind them of said impression. There's always chance to override it, or laugh about it with them.
Thanks for sharing
Sometimes I don't even know who I am, I always tried to make people more comfortable that I was when hanging out, even I did things that bothered me just to make them like me. I think that's the reason that now Im prefering being alone. I tried making friends, and I did everything I could to not make them leave, but it never work out. Now I don't even care anymore, I think I'm in this phase where you don't want anybody around that is going to make u feel less. I'm my priority now, loneliness is not too bad, we just have to get used to it.
Sounds like maturity 💪 be strong or weak whatever you want
"I've been caught up in how the world was receiving me and not how I was receiving the world"
Bars!!!
THANK YOU. I keep seeing all those videos telling me to forgive and forget and love everything. I get it to a certain point but not in a million worlds will I see forgiving no matter what reasonable. Some people simply do not deserve to be forgiven and as long as it doesn't cause me negative energy to hold that grudge, I will not act as if nothing happened. We all have boundries and values that are not things to be disrespected.
I love people who get vulnerable on this side on internet :) thank you for sharing
such a good timing this video got recommended now. i just had an epiphany how scared i am to stand up for myself. it feels so horrible that i cannot express my emotions to others because they distance away from me or heavily imply that what i think is nonsense. it isn't nonsense, and honestly whatever. i just feel like what others think matters to me, and i have no idea what to do with that. i tried isolating myself from people, but that didn't end up well. i tried ignoring them, but that didn't work either, as everyone i know started distancing themselves from me. what a weird world. my well being depends a lot on others and the problems i have are caused by expectations of other people and what they perceive me as. i don't know what i'm trying to say with this, but it's just that the last quote resonated with me a lot. it IS a path to depression, and, well, i really hope that whatever i do, i don't end up in this bottomless pit with no way out. living among people is hard.
most wise, thank you
Good video
Thank you for the video
Thank you, awesome timing too
man this is so true
Felt like my big sister talking to me :)
I am constantly trying to find a character to own the behaviour of, to own his/her physical and psychological patterns just to have an identity. I got into my head too much now that i find the behaviour of others as " PHONY " (you'd know what i mean if you have read the catcher in the rye) That i lost the knowledge of how a normal human conversation looks like, and...
@@SponsoredByKurkure exactly my problem, i switch between that and complete destruction of an identity
same bruh
I'm sorry if this makes things more confusing, but hear me out!
Most of our patterns, the words we use, the way we act, and everything we do are things we’ve learned from others. Our behaviors and actions are influenced by the people around us. We need other people - role models - to learn from and to help us shape our own identity.
As humans, we tend to 'copy' others’ behaviors, either to fit in or because we aspire to be like them.
That said, I feel like I don’t have a strong sense of identity. I often ask myself, 'Who am I? What am I?' I’m socially awkward in real life, and I think the reason behind this is that I haven’t tried to learn or adapt behaviors from others. I feel like this lack of adaptation makes me struggle socially and feel disconnected from having my own identity.
I’m not trying to brag or seek attention; this is just how I feel. I believe that to build our own identity, we need to observe, learn, and adapt behaviors from people we admire or feel inspired by.
You can also write down your current behaviors, habits, hobbies, strengths, and weaknesses. This might help you get a clearer sense of who you are and give you a starting point to better understand yourself.
People-pleasing is pretty cool as long as I'm the person who is on the receiving end. 😁
But joke aside, one should always focus on pleasing oneself first, self-neglect really sounds frustrating.
Thank you Nina
That was really good. I like your energy. Keep going.
cool video
thanks. :)
Thank you ❤❤
If you live your life following others advice, then it is likely that you try to shirk your responsibilities towards yourself, which leads to a feeling of lack of control over your life.
You are the only person who will live your life, so why should you listen to others telling you how to live? Though of course that doesn't mean you should disregard others opinions, but treat them as just that, opinion. Nothing more, nothing less. Don't let other people affect you without your approval. Guard your mind from things you do not want entering.
Good luck on your youtube journey, hope it serves you well. c:
Oh yeah now I remember the thing I forgot I wanted to mention. A reasoning as to why you shouldn't care how others percieve you (beyond practical situations) is because whatever impression you've made, even if you see that person often and remind them of said impression. There's always chance to override it, or laugh about it with them.
Blessed by the algorithm?
hope ur alright (plz don't kill yourself I love you) or will be in the near future. :)
I don't even know who I am
You’re so pretty, and I also relate to you regarding the people pleasing too. 🫂