THANK YOUUUU! I have always felt uncomfortable with the "empath" term and the way anyone can deem themselves one. One thing that I first noticed that was wrong with the term was when a lot of "empaths" would say that they could pick up on others negative feelings. That annoyed me because I thought about how it felt growing up, to have someone tell me how I felt to make themselves more comfortable. So I was thinking, how do "empaths" not know that it is their own bad feelings, and would they ever attribute good feelings that they're "picking up on" to someone else? Doubt it. Also, it creates a black and white way of thinking (which is a narcissistic trait) where one person is all bad and the other is automatically all good. It's a way to not have to go deep within yourself because you see yourself as not having any issues, because hey, you're an empath after all! Thank you for this video. Hopefully more people see it and can heal themselves authentically.
This was so enlightening and so good that I will need to watch it over again at least two more times. Lots of golden nuggets in this and made sense based on my own personal experience as a child and in both personal and professional life as an adult. Thank you for addressing workplace dynamics as well 🙌
WOW!!! Soooo much TRUTH in this. Already planning on watching/listening again. So much valuable healing information. Gratitude that you are sharing on how to become Whole in myself! Love-light sent you way. 💚🙏✨✨✨🕯🕯💚🙏tyvm
Sorry I love the content but had to say you look so hot with facial hair. Soooo much TRUTH in this. Already planning on watching/listening again. So much valuable healing information. Gratitude that you are sharing on how to become authentic myself!
I'm so glad I received an email from you letting me know about this video. I love your point of view and I am a big fan of The Master and His Emissary. I see you have more videos discussing this book as well. Can't wait to watch them all. Thank you for mentioning all the helpful books. I agree that pot is not good for the brain at all too. Thanks Kenny!
Thank you so much Kenny 👏👏 your speech is really liberating for me. In all my life now I have been targeting and labelling as a highly sensitive person. But I never believed that I was better or even weaker than most of the people. But that label was what satisfied significant others. Manipulation and victimisation is rather common unfortunately. However I remain positive in my thinking and not depressed. The more you understand, no matter how painful might seem, the more happier eventually and lighter you become.
I don't agree with everything, (especially where you blame shame for not agreeing with you), but I find your point of view very interesting, to say the least.. Especially I LOVE your raw honesty about yourself. This is a video to watch several times. There's so much to learn by what you say, but also about what you do. I will take this and verify for myself. Thank you for sharing so generously.
My first child seemed to be born sensitive/high maintenance, but it was a hard pregnancy and a hard labor, which I'm sure all impacted him in the womb. Sad that he had to experience trauma even before being born. I am trying to rectify that before he turns 7. I know you recommend Love and Logic for parenting, but I would also love to hear more advice from you about parenting young children (to prevent/correct the trauma before it's too late).
The best way to prevent trauma in our children is to make our recovery from our own childhood trauma and our emotional growth our primary focus. You can't teach a child what you can't live within yourself.
I agree that "empath" is a weird word. I believe that it is NORMAL to care about other people. Humans evolved to be a cooperative species. We survive better if we care about others. We're not like snakes, that lay eggs and then go off and live our life separate from our kids and other snakes. We are more like meerkats, or prairie dogs. We help each other escape enemies by warning others about them. It is the narcissist who is abnormal, who cannot fathom why someone would do something for someone else FOR FREE, simply because seeing them happy makes us happy. This human trait is IMPERATIVE for a parent to raise a child, who cannot even physiologically smile until they are 2 months old. When narcissists raise children, they are destructive to the infant's attachment period (< 18 months of age). I understand now that my malignant narcissistic mother's behavior since childhood (stealing her sister's money, triangulating my father against all his relatives..... even me, hoarding things she doesn't even need because she lives a life of scarcity instead of productivity) is abnormal and not only abnormal, but destructive to herself and others who deal with her. Co-dependence is when an empath (a normal person) has been conned into continuing to enable one of these abnormal people, or even whole GROUPS of these selfish people. It is imperative for people to not enable narcissists, i.e. selfish people.
Very interesting. So is it fair to say that conditioning a child that they are told " you're special", "you can do anything you want" would create an entitled person , in a sense?
Kenny, as emotions are made by us and trauma comes from bad parenting style. What if parents are still behaving verbal abusive and the victims know this due to the internet. I believe pulling out is very difficult for teenagers. Due to their high abandonment fear and financial dependence, but for healing it might be necessary as the body gets so sick. But real healing is in ourselves, to see the hurt (trauma) in our parents (I believe it’s impossible for teenagers to do), but what is your advise? Distance or not? How long to heal the primary wounds? But then you have to work on your wrong synapses (inner critic) and false programming to get to the right emotions and stop the triggers/canceling. The wrong voice in your head….what is your advise in this? For teenagers in puberty?
Certainly these are good points, however I have a query. What is the inverse of an empath? When you look at psychopathy & narcissism, one of the key factors is a lack of empathy, the ability to feel or indeed care, how the other feels. I believe there are sensitive people, who have not been traumatised, they are empathic, often we might consider them soft. I just think it is always important to look at the inverse. Though I do agree that over sensitivity / hyper vigilance is often based on keeping onself safe if you have been brought up around volatile or unpredictable people. However, I think some people are genuinely more atuned than others, just like people are better at maths or art than others. Things are often on a continuum or scale, be mindful not to generalise everything, including empathy.
Society should have education on parenting before anyone gets married.
THANK YOUUUU! I have always felt uncomfortable with the "empath" term and the way anyone can deem themselves one. One thing that I first noticed that was wrong with the term was when a lot of "empaths" would say that they could pick up on others negative feelings. That annoyed me because I thought about how it felt growing up, to have someone tell me how I felt to make themselves more comfortable. So I was thinking, how do "empaths" not know that it is their own bad feelings, and would they ever attribute good feelings that they're "picking up on" to someone else? Doubt it.
Also, it creates a black and white way of thinking (which is a narcissistic trait) where one person is all bad and the other is automatically all good. It's a way to not have to go deep within yourself because you see yourself as not having any issues, because hey, you're an empath after all!
Thank you for this video. Hopefully more people see it and can heal themselves authentically.
This was so enlightening and so good that I will need to watch it over again at least two more times. Lots of golden nuggets in this and made sense based on my own personal experience as a child and in both personal and professional life as an adult. Thank you for addressing workplace dynamics as well 🙌
Fantastic information! Thank you! It completely resonates with me.
Announcing yourself as an empath is imo a public confession that you occupy the other side of the narcissistic coin
WOW!!! Soooo much TRUTH in this. Already planning on watching/listening again. So much valuable healing information. Gratitude that you are sharing on how to become Whole in myself! Love-light sent you way. 💚🙏✨✨✨🕯🕯💚🙏tyvm
Mind blowing information sir. Subbed, saved, will share and check out your books. ✌
Awesome, thank you!
Sorry I love the content but had to say you look so hot with facial hair. Soooo much TRUTH in this. Already planning on watching/listening again. So much valuable healing information. Gratitude that you are sharing on how to become authentic myself!
I'm so glad I received an email from you letting me know about this video. I love your point of view and I am a big fan of The Master and His Emissary. I see you have more videos discussing this book as well. Can't wait to watch them all. Thank you for mentioning all the helpful books. I agree that pot is not good for the brain at all too. Thanks Kenny!
You are so welcome!
I’m confused, I always thought my high sensitivity was from my traumatic childhood. I never thought I was born a HSP.
Thank you so much Kenny 👏👏 your speech is really liberating for me. In all my life now I have been targeting and labelling as a highly sensitive person. But I never believed that I was better or even weaker than most of the people. But that label was what satisfied significant others. Manipulation and victimisation is rather common unfortunately. However I remain positive in my thinking and not depressed. The more you understand, no matter how painful might seem, the more happier eventually and lighter you become.
I don't agree with everything, (especially where you blame shame for not agreeing with you), but I find your point of view very interesting, to say the least.. Especially I LOVE your raw honesty about yourself. This is a video to watch several times. There's so much to learn by what you say, but also about what you do. I will take this and verify for myself. Thank you for sharing so generously.
My first child seemed to be born sensitive/high maintenance, but it was a hard pregnancy and a hard labor, which I'm sure all impacted him in the womb. Sad that he had to experience trauma even before being born. I am trying to rectify that before he turns 7. I know you recommend Love and Logic for parenting, but I would also love to hear more advice from you about parenting young children (to prevent/correct the trauma before it's too late).
The best way to prevent trauma in our children is to make our recovery from our own childhood trauma and our emotional growth our primary focus. You can't teach a child what you can't live within yourself.
I love it. I am surching for 8 years to stop being hsp. And everybody saying it is not possible. Accept it. But I won’t. What have I the do
I agree that "empath" is a weird word. I believe that it is NORMAL to care about other people. Humans evolved to be a cooperative species. We survive better if we care about others. We're not like snakes, that lay eggs and then go off and live our life separate from our kids and other snakes. We are more like meerkats, or prairie dogs. We help each other escape enemies by warning others about them. It is the narcissist who is abnormal, who cannot fathom why someone would do something for someone else FOR FREE, simply because seeing them happy makes us happy. This human trait is IMPERATIVE for a parent to raise a child, who cannot even physiologically smile until they are 2 months old. When narcissists raise children, they are destructive to the infant's attachment period (< 18 months of age). I understand now that my malignant narcissistic mother's behavior since childhood (stealing her sister's money, triangulating my father against all his relatives..... even me, hoarding things she doesn't even need because she lives a life of scarcity instead of productivity) is abnormal and not only abnormal, but destructive to herself and others who deal with her. Co-dependence is when an empath (a normal person) has been conned into continuing to enable one of these abnormal people, or even whole GROUPS of these selfish people. It is imperative for people to not enable narcissists, i.e. selfish people.
Fear makes us shy, Sensitive, scared, shame etc. So Fear based, more then empath?
The empath term is just a way to make victims feel special. It’s avoidance. I am grateful I never bought into it.
I understand where you’re coming from but this is a pretty dismissive way to talk about it!
Very interesting.
So is it fair to say that conditioning a child that they are told " you're special", "you can do anything you want" would create an entitled person , in a sense?
Kenny, as emotions are made by us and trauma comes from bad parenting style. What if parents are still behaving verbal abusive and the victims know this due to the internet. I believe pulling out is very difficult for teenagers. Due to their high abandonment fear and financial dependence, but for healing it might be necessary as the body gets so sick. But real healing is in ourselves, to see the hurt (trauma) in our parents (I believe it’s impossible for teenagers to do), but what is your advise? Distance or not? How long to heal the primary wounds? But then you have to work on your wrong synapses (inner critic) and false programming to get to the right emotions and stop the triggers/canceling. The wrong voice in your head….what is your advise in this? For teenagers in puberty?
I like to see a video between you and Lisa A. Romano.
You basically tell my whole life..
Certainly these are good points, however I have a query. What is the inverse of an empath?
When you look at psychopathy & narcissism, one of the key factors is a lack of empathy, the ability to feel or indeed care, how the other feels.
I believe there are sensitive people, who have not been traumatised, they are empathic, often we might consider them soft.
I just think it is always important to look at the inverse.
Though I do agree that over sensitivity / hyper vigilance is often based on keeping onself safe if you have been brought up around volatile or unpredictable people.
However, I think some people are genuinely more atuned than others, just like people are better at maths or art than others. Things are often on a continuum or scale, be mindful not to generalise everything, including empathy.
You are brilliant