3 year-old genius girl accepted into Mensa
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- Опубліковано 13 лют 2014
- 3-year-old Arizona girl tops IQ test at 160
Three-year-old Alexis Martin is the youngest person in Arizona to join Mensa.
Mensa is the international club with one criterion - an IQ in the top two percent of the world.
The average person has an IQ of 100. Alexis’ is above 160.
The doctors who tested Alexis said she tested so high, they couldn’t even calculate her IQ score. They say she is smarter than 99.9% of the world.
Alexis started reading when she was two-years-old.
“From 12-18 months old, we'd be driving around in the car and she would recite her bedtime story from the night before,” said her Dad Ian. “She didn’t just recite them, she recited them exactly.”
It’s not just her 5th grade reading level that’s shocking, Alexis also taught herself Spanish via her parents’ iPad.
Alexis’ parents know their daughter’s gift is amazing but they are also discovering new challenges.
“Does she go into kindergarten early? We are kind of hesitant because we do want her to to get that social aspect,” said Ian.
Alexis will never be able to go to a normal school, according to the doctor who helped test her.
One of the reasons, often times, kids this brilliant have high anxiety and it's easier for them to be around similar children.
“Anytime she learns a word and just picks it up through anything, she never ever uses it in the incorrect context, ever,” said Ian.
Well this sounds like a recipe for depression at age 7
Her family: *mixes ingredients aggressively*
Yes. Most young geniuses will burnout and get discouraged when they hit a wall, because they were unstopable until then, and they are still emotionally not intelligent enough to deal with failure.
@@juliakercsmar6587 that's what societies like Mensa try to prevent. Burning out of talent due to their own expectations of their abilities
Not necessarily. Nobel Prize winners did not get 160+ IQs as adults, but as children. What would cause depression is having an IQ over 145 and not knowing why you are different. A "genius" would score 145 or over. This is 3 standard deviations above the mean. Only 1% of the population score 145 and over. Over 160 means that this girl is an extraordinary genius.
True she may find it awkward in school with children who either do not see what she sees or children who have to work hard to learn. But she will know why she is different and it will probably not worry her.
I attended one large meeting of Mensa when I joined in 1967 or so. And indeed some Mensa members were very odd people. What surprised me were the number of underachievers I met. I never attended another meeting and let my membership lapse.
I concluded that many personal qualities are more important than IQ. Nurture is as important as IQ and that depends on how children are raised by their parents and teachers and other members of the community.
Recall that some of the most wanted criminals and terrorists have high IQs. The highly intelligent wrongdoers tend to avoid getting caught.
@@juliakercsmar6587 No evidence for this.
"She's still a 3 year old at heart"
uh.. no shes, literally 3 years old
Lmao
ok
@@wildjames she's still 3 "stupid ass" 🤦♂️
James Miller can’t take a joke
@@wildjames And thats changes anything....she is still a kid
every time I see the case of a child who is called a genius, I think about the pressure that child will have throughout their life to constantly prove that they're the best, and if things change over time, they will feel like a failure and feel like they let everyone around them down. Hope she has a good life in the future.
yeah i worry ab her burning out 🙁 im not AS smart as her ofc but the same thing happened to me
Yes. Same worry. Parents and teachers start expecting more than is realistic and insisting it is their place to do better. The moment you can't perform better or maybe even fail at something it's easily depression and suicidal thoughts. Treat the brain with respect just like the organs of the body. Don't overwork it. And work towards proper brain health. Meet with psychologists, physiatrists, and other experts to assist in this.
It seems that the parents are aware of the fact that she's still a child. As the dad put it they also want to give her the social aspect with the kids her own age.
@@SiimKoger Yes. I'm making a general statement not about this family specifically.
Exactly, same here
I had a high IQ as a child and was often told how smart I was by my parents... I then got an ADHD diagnosis, promptly got bored in school and ended up barely graduating high school before eventually going on to get a Master's degree. It was a blessing and a curse...
I can relate to this, 15 right now and I also have ADHD. when I was like 8-12 I was a fkn genius, I never studied for anything and constantly performed at the top of my class in practically all subjects aside from french and pe. Now I can definitely notice I do a little bit better than others with the same or less amount of studying, but it's pretty scary to see my natural intelligence slowly go away. I only really know like a few people who were super smart around that time that still are as effortlessly smart.
@@IOwnKazakhstan Not necessarily. Maybe you don't do well within this current system. Smart people have existed since the dawn of time, industrialization has only been around for 200 years give or take. Perhaps you're more free-spirited and the constraints of the bureaucracy cause you to lose motivation or hope because your capacity isn't recognized by it. Might want to look into self-sufficient/off-the-grid living, as many high-intellect people have moved towards doing things their way instead of abiding by the system.
@@IOwnKazakhstanI’ve got a similar story - fluently reading for my own entertainment at 3, speed reading out loud as fast senior students when I was in 1st grade, primary school math was a breeze as I had an innate understanding of basic algebra (like the level that’s applicable in everyday life regardless of age). I was constantly praised as a freakin genius and everyone thought I was gonna go far 😂 Low and behold - since middle school I was doing average at best of times. When we had to memorise formulas, poems off by heart (if this sounds weird, that’s the education system in Ukraine for you), geographic locations on a map and historical names & dates - 🧠💨💩… Got kicked out of one uni and barely finished another after repeating half the subjects in my degree. I was labeled lazy and a massive disappointment for wasting my own potential since I was 10, when in reality I had adhd with poor long-term memory, which only got diagnosed when I was nearly 30 and living in Australia. Something‘a gotta give 😂
My smarts, resolution and creativity made me a favourite through primary grades, and got me into a lot of trouble in high school. I ended up in an alternate program. Wasted a year there (I was not disruptive, but I questioned everything and the faculty ran out of answers), so I begged my way back into regular high school and resolved to do what I had to do to get my Dogwood. My dad and I started a business the spring I graduated high school. Probably the best thing that could have happened to me. Six years in, and one of my brothers joined us. He had always been a sharp knife as well, had gone on to one successful career, but was attracted to our industry.
Thirty years later, I am successful, mortgage free, have my retirement looked after, and make my own schedule, which is mainly devoted to the animal non-profit I sit on the board of.
Business offers a huge challenge. As the world and economy changes, we have to change. Our father passed away a few years ago, and we’ve continued on, as strong as ever. I am the creative, passionate influence and my brother is the down to earth numbers guy, and it’s a fruitful, complimentary partnership.
Too often you’re pushed to “go to school” when what you really wanna do is live life and be challenged. I was fortunate to have someone in my younger life who had been there and done that; my dad. He pushed me to get my hands dirty, put in a seventy hour work week, and build something I’m incredibly proud of. It’s still a lot of work, but it’s our deal, our decisions, our mistakes, our successes, OUR lives.
Whenever I tell someone "had a high IQ" they make fun of me. I was tested as a kid when I got into the gifted programs. It was extremely high. What I didn't know was that I had ADHD which got worse as I got older- wasn't diagnosed til last year. I'm incredibly intelligent for sure- but concentration and memorization plays a huge part in these tests. (which quickly evaporated with each passing year. Also an IQ just measures your ability to learn. If it's not fostered- you just got alot of raw material and alot of regrets. I honestly would have rather had the ADHD diagnosis as a kid. Wouldve helped alot more than just knowing I had alot of potential.
“She’s still a three year old at heart”
No, she’s just literally a three year old :/
Yeah i dont agree with the forcing children to go to special schools and parading them around like a trophy, im not trying to discredit her but i was reading at a college level in 2nd grade, (im autistic, and i learn differently than other people and languages just so happened to be my *thing*) young children are just smarter than people give them credit so when one does more than the bare minimum everyone panics
Texsic didn’t really read the comments, just figured I’d say it, my feelings are so hurt now oh no
@@EE-gz5xu "... young children are just smarter than people give them credit so when one does more than the bare minimum everyone panics." True about many children. And apparently true about you.
@@fwcolb yeah the reading skills evened themselves out, now im jist good at writing essays and latin 💀 i wouldnt be surprised if they told me that her skills also evened themselves out
@@EE-gz5xu Latin? You like Cicero? Catulllus? Who else? I taught myself to read Latin when attending Mass in the days when Latin was used. We had missals with dual-language texts on facing pages. But I hated Caesar and his crappy account of the Gallic War.
She clearly was exposed to Rick and Morty at some point in her childhood.
if only i knew them when i was that young
Elly Stange i knew there would be this comment
Just gave u your 700th like
Loona*
Probably in prenatal development
This video is 9 years old. This girl is 12 now. I'm curious how her life has unfolded since this video.
Great question!
crack addict?
She's just a random girl. You can't determine IQ until at least 5 years old.
She is currently in deep space commanding a fleet of intergalactic science vessels.
Her at 3: gets accepted to Mensa
Me at 3: doesn't even know how to hold the pencil properly
When I was 3, I got a piece of foam stuck up my nose for more than a month.
Ken Mendoza lmao
😂😂😂😂😂
Ken Mendoza that takes skills
Haha i had a popcorn kernells stuck in my nose for a week when i was younger
Ken Mendoza lol
We all know she's getting accepted to Harvard
shes probably in there rn
Princeton
Only thing stopping her from being literally having a much too overpowered body and mind is the athlean x training system on UA-cam with peak fitness and nutrition.
Or Yale.
IIJxckieII or oxford
not to say that this child and i are the same, but from preschool i was constantly told how incredibly mature i was for my age, and it led to an abundance of mental health issues and traumas for me because i took it to mean it was okay to immerse myself in mature and adult things. i’m not saying this girl’s abilities should be discounted or ignored, but treating her drastically differently than others her age might result in a lot of struggles down the road. i really hope she’s doing alright.
I was always a smart kid and my teachers never gave me much special attention in primary school. I still grew up learning that people don't like when you're smarter than they are and that its a lot easier to have friends by playing dumb. I didn't care enough about having friends at that age for it to matter to me. By highschool I found that I had to put on a real act in order to fit in with the "average" kids, most of whom were almost as smart as me, but had been taught very little.
Being a smart kid is hard, but you might as well lean in to it. If you pretend to be average for too long you end up limiting your opportunities and being forced to keep up the act in order to get a job and fit in to society.
Literally nobody cares how smart you are if you aren't a scientist or a doctor or some kind of proffesional scholar. The problem is, you will always know that you could have done more if you hadn't been afraid to be different.
Smart kids are prone to ego problems, although I think they're just as likely to have underdeveloped egos as a a result of overdeveloped super egos as they are to become egotistical. Its important to praise a smart kid for other things besides intelligence, like compassion, hard work and integrity. That should be balanced with the same amount if criticism any other kids get for bad behaviour, although very smart kids tend to quickly learn how to get what they want within the bounds of the rules, so they might need less punishments overall. It is still important for them to learn to respect authority. Especially when they believe that they know better, because adults shouldn't expect rationality to be able to get them out of a parking ticket.
Its also important to hold them to their own standards of inteligence, if they feel a desire to keep learning that should always be encouraged. Sooner or later you need to point out to them that most of their peers in school will never 'catch up' and that they should learn how to teach themselves in order to meet their own expectations for learning.
If you ignore their intelligence they will just lose respect for you as a parent and leader. They wilk know they are smart because their peers will treat them differently. They ought to be proud of themselves for their accomplishments even if they don't get recognition from peers.
But why haven't you invented a time machine yet or cure for all diseases??? Jeez. Society needs at least the cure for all diseases.
And then everyone clapped
My grandchildren all read well above grade level when they were young. My granddaughter started reading at age 4 and was reading at 12th grade level when she was in 4th or 5th grade- the problem with that is, finding books at those high levels that are appropriate for her age is impossible. This was true of her cousin and older brother, too. She has been a bit ahead of grade level all her life and is now going into high school. If a kid is super ahead of their peers, the challenge is social development AND avoiding boredom, and finding ways to motivate them to enjoy learning, work hard and to know/understand that there are many things in life way more important than “how much you know”.
I had the exact situation when I was a kid! It was so hard because I had to mature much faster than normal and didn't get the true childhood experience. If you're pushing Ernest Hemmingway on a 4th grader they'll have to speak like a sophomore. Although I did grow to appreciate those kind of books, it was pretty sad I couldn't settle for Harry Potter and relate to my friends. If you have a kid that's "above average" in school, get them a community of like-minded kids that can just be kids. It helps them socialize with less pressure.
70s kids all read adult books in the fifth grade. It was sometimes disgusting but it was a lot better than people hovering over us worrying about age-appropriate books, which no one did.
I learned to read in the second grade, and was reading history volumes by the fourth grade. I don't know what 12fth grade reading levels are supposed to be. I guess higher than 11th grade? I suppose I had the reading level of a 69 year old, since these volumes were heavily marketed to older people.
My sister taught her self to read. I have dyslexia but my reading comprehension and vocabulary were post doctoral level in 7th grade. My vocabulary was better then.😂 My boyfriend is a Ph.D any he still doesn’t understand many of the words I use.
"Shes smarter than her parents"
"She has a 5th grade reading level"
Not a good look for the parents lol.
Get Ass no, they said that she was telling them a 20-25 page book from memory. She wasn’t reading a book for 25 year olds. During the interview, she was reading a book that is geared towards little kids. Actually I’ve never heard of a book designed for a particular age because a book for 25 year olds would be a typical, adult book.
@@spottedtime Lol...books for exclusively 25 year olds 😅👍
No no it said she reads 25 books 25 times.
O
Get Ass I’ll be 25 next month, I hope someone will buy me one of those books for my birthday!
Everyone gangsta till the school system makes her clinically depressed at age 7
Like half the kids in the school system who either got bored, or stopped liking stuff! Fun for the world!
Calista Patrick clearly you dropped out of elementary school.
Because your grammar skills are that of a 2nd graders.
@@teteeheeted When you're so competent and cocky to the point where you'll much rather make fun of someone's spelling instead of undermining the point they're making.
@@teteeheeted also, perfect grammar isn't everything, you can still be successful and set your own standards even without said skill.
Shiro take a joke, everybody has their own toxicity, and I have mine.
Keep her at home! She doesn’t need to be exposed to all the bad behavior of so many kids in school. She’s a happy kid obviously.
Imprison her?
@@temporarilyimmortal795Theirs a very clear difference between what Nancy said and imprisonment. Pretty sure that even if she is taken to a kindergarten class she will think her classmates are overly immature and she won't be taken seriously even if she should
She really needs to be socialized. Otherwise she's going to struggle with isolation as an adult
A lot of this feels like this ability to have a good memory.
Yeah, a lot of it is memory. Other major components that go into factoring IQ levels are things like problem solving, critical thinking, examining, interpreting, comprehension, evaluating, reasoning, etc... But yes, memory is certainly a big part of it! :)
Specifically working memory is a big component.
Was thinking that too.. Like, have her do some Math, then we'll talk.
Girl: plays with duolingo
Narrator: *an *ADULT APP**
lino Spanish or Vanish
@@pikamoomoo 😆
I just checked on play store and it says duolingo is for everyone...
3rd grade me: uh... That was an adult app?
They say it like it’s mature content
“She’s smarter than 99% of people”
“The reading level of a 5th grader”
@Papi Kink Yeah you
@Papi Kink I honestly don't know how to respond to this...
She’s three tho
@Papi Kink I don't understand how you typed this out without feeling completely stupid and you forgot a "huh?" At the end don't come at me with the "bet you feel stupid" I don't think I'm more or less intelligent then others.
@Papi Kink "Ye u" is a meme, so why go to a personal attack on @Ailluele? Did your precious feelings get hurt aw poor you.
Its been 9 years, now we need a "where are they now" video to see if shes still in mensa
This is an incredible little girl. All the information I know about geniuses is that they often fail in life because of the social aspect! Keep her emotions and social interactions paramount.
“Alexis is fluent in Spanish”
Then she would know that Mensa means stupid in Spanish lmao
that's why it's called mensa...
Pft u right
😆that’s what I was saying 😂🤣
It means message..?
@@yoursleepparalysisdemon1828 "Mensaje" means message.
but IQ is based on age.....so she is smarter than 99.9% of 5 year olds....
+Savingtheplanet shes 3
So 99.9% of 3 year olds.....
+Savingtheplanet Thank you, I've already lost faith in humanity but I thought this was general knowledge. Let's see if she's still got an IQ that high in 10 years..... *sigh* she probably will, people are getting stupider.
exactly what i'm saying?? iq is your mental age divided by your chronological age times 100. so in order for her iq to be over 160, her mental age would only have to be 6. also, the iq tests designed for children are very different from adult tests, so they are completely wrong in saying she's smarter than her parents.
And that 00.1 percent is Briella. Heh 😉😏
In psychology class I've learned that IQ tests only start being somewhat precise for kids over 6 years old. My teacher (psychologist with diploma) said that there are tests for younger children, like 3 year-olds, but they are way too unprecise to actually be taken seriously...
Then Mensa would’be known better than to get her a membership card right?
@@LanNguyen-oe2km They should have, but obviously did not.
Yep. I would LOVE to see exactly how she was "tested". This is all just publicity for MENSA which charges a fee to apply.
Three year old genius... why ? Because she can count to ten?
Came here to say this. You have to PAY to get a Mensa card, not just have a 140+ IQ.
@@noglenogleshe can actually do a lot of things kids at her age can't
Every parent I know in my neighbourhood claims their average child is a genius.
Every parent does that.
I’m a young child with 160+ IQ and whenever my parents tell me I’m Intelligent or bright, especially considering my age, I think they may be lying, due to having trust issues for this exact reason. I go in public, have small and short conversations, and boom, everybody tells my parents, “Oh, your daughter is so smart!”
I don’t believe it.
When I go to my guitar lessons,
The owner of the store which I play in, and my teacher, both tell me “She’s a genius” and all of that.
I tell myself, “Oh, it’s because they’re getting paid. Otherwise, they wouldn’t make these claims.”
I will tell you this;
I’ve finally stopped believing it’s something biased. Especially because my dad is a brutally honest individual, and he’s told me whether something I did was good or not in kind ways, even if it’s a truth that my brother or I wouldn’t like to hear. He’s got an IQ of 160+, too. He still says I’m a genius. If you have children yourself, Sir, raise them similarly to that in that certain aspect. Brutal honesty should never hurt a child, because it ends up helping them in the end.
You should be using your high IQ to cure cancer.@@extrememetalhead
@@extrememetalheadno need to brag kiddo
how bout u use your iq for something good instead of writing essays for no one @@extrememetalhead
@@Ikhaatnatuurkundw he doesnt even have an iq of 160, he probably took some phony online test on google and believed it
When I was 3 I swallowed a flower and had to go to the hospital..
PuppyPerso n haha
When I was 3 I was watching Dragon Tales and playing with Barbies
When I was 3 I broke my grandmas cane
When I was 3 I was always vomiting and in the hospital 24/7
Elmo J. Trump I got gum stuck up my nose and put a popcorn kernel in my sisters ear
She's the chosen one to defeat Duolingo Owl
I cant even beat a lvl of duolingo with everything right and im in 6th grade
🤣🤣🤣
underrated comment 😂💀
@@CanadianJay That's sorta sad--
At the age of 12 to 18 months, she was reciting books with 25 pages? That is amazing! I've never seen a baby speak so clearly at this age group.
Thats bc other children have social lives.
@@citizencoy4393oof
I hope she's going to be okay, I was a ''Gifted Child''. the pressure and expectations laid upon you are more than a kid can take. You MUST Perform, You Must Perform Perfectly, why can't you, you're smart enough ... my dad and step-mom were not supportive, they thought they had to push me to succeed. BACKFIRE
I dont believe you
Well. It's for the good of humanity. She can possibly cure all diseases or invent a time machine. It would be worth it in the end.
i feel seen. in addition, the alienation is crushing. gifted children are often the ones who are bullied. sociopathy is a real risk. at one point in my young life, i realized that i had to make a choice between pursuing my intellectual capacity, which would lead to a life of rarefied loneliness, or social adjustment, which would mean sacrificing my potential. i chose the latter, and i don't regret it, but i do sometimes wonder what might have been.
Mine told me I wouldn't succeed but I "have all this potential." Guess which message the kid hears? 🙄🙄
Jesus is coming back. Believe he died for your sins and rose again then repent to be saved.
This girl was probably doing the Pythagorean Theorem in the womb to try and triangulate the best possible way to be born
Or saying pi (digits not the word) as her first word.
Pythagorean theorem is for level one crooks, she probably used law of sines or cosines
You made me laugh 😂, thank you!
😂😂😂😂
Erik Satie true but it’s was just a fetus at the time
When I was 3 I choked on a lego
I choked on one yesterday aswell
I broke my arm at 2
😂😂 I shouldn’t be laughing at this lmfao💀
When I was 3 I refused to eat anything but cheerios.
When I was 3 I bit my sister and drank chocolate milk instead of actual milk
I’ve got a similar story - fluently reading for my own entertainment at 3, speed reading out loud as fast as senior students when I was in 1st grade, primary school math was a breeze as I had an innate understanding of basic algebra (like the level that’s applicable in everyday life regardless of age). I was constantly praised as a freakin genius and everyone thought I was gonna go really far 😂 Low and behold - come middle school I started doing average at best of times. When we had to memorise formulas, geographic locations on a map, historical names & dates, and poems off by heart (if this sounds weird, that’s the education system in Ukraine for you) - 🧠💨💩… I was labeled as lazy and a massive disappointment for wasting my potential since I was 10. Got kicked out of one uni and barely finished another after repeating half the subjects in my degree. Turned out I have adhd with poor long-term memory, which only got diagnosed at nearly 30 (I’ve been living in Australia since I was a teen). Something‘a gotta give 😂
A lot of adults mistakingly assume that children with high intelligence do not need support in school or with homework. I got straight A's without studying up until high school when I started taking high level math classes. I still got decent grades (a B or a C in calculus is not a failure!) but my parents got mad at me while not giving me the assistance I needed. So I gave up on the idea of getting perfect grades and just focused on making sure I graduated college so I could have that piece of paper to go work abroad. I knew that after I started working, no one would care what my grades were. I was right. Part of being successfully smart is knowing when to ignore other people's advice or pressure, even your parents. Now all I want is to live by the ocean and study topics of interest in my spare time. Many super intelligent people do not aspire to be great, but to live peacefully.
this 3 year old girl: *is way smarter than her parents*
my 4 year old brother: "play video games for me now!!
😡"
Mensa in Spanish means stupid. (edit: thanks for the likes! to clarify I know Mensa means dumb technically in Spanish sorry to confuse anyone. (Spanish is my native tongue even though my name clearly does not reflect that) but I just said stupid because dumb and stupid are synonyms and I didn’t think it would matter much since it’s about the same meaning just different word. I apologize again for any confusion.
Exactly I noticed that to and was laughing 😂😂😂
Her reaction when she got that card “IM NOT MENSA!!!! 😭😭😭😭” when
Yeah lol 😅😅😅😅🤣🤣🤣
YEET 😂
Haha
"She's smarter than Mom and Dad..." Correction: She has the potential for greater intelligence than her parents. They still have more knowledge than her due to experience and education, but when she gets to their age she will have much more if she keeps with this upswing. Having a great ability to learn does not mean one has already learned.
smart and intelligent are synonyms. Knowledge is completely separate and has nothing to do with the word "smart".
She is smarter... she speaks Spanish fluently, and doesn’t use words out of context, so she is able to apply things more accurately than her parents. They even said she corrects them. Her parent obviously know more from learning through experience, but if you were to put her and her parents in a room and teach them something, the daughter would retain and be able to apply the new information more accurately... also a side note an IQ is an intelligence quotient which to tone it down it basically it is measuring how smart you are with a number, so if her parents is lower than hers then that means she is smarter.
ok captain obvious
👨🏿🏭
The keeping with it part is important. I was like her as a child, but after being raised by a drug dealer and an alcoholic, I'm definitely no genius as an adult.
My sister was just like this at Alexis's age, now shes a write/director
She could literally point out anywhere you mentioned on the globe, and capitals too
This girl will go far
Add a t to the end of far.
being able to mention capitals isnt hard, its just a memory game, not an intellect one
@@chaska8144 well good for you that you feel the need to degrade anyone for thinking a child is smart. Especially a 3 year old that hasn't been through SCHOOLING yet
Nobody will ever be as intelligent as YOU, OH random troll.
PS you're massive ego is showing.
@@chaska8144 shes 3, she hasn't even been through school yet. Take your ego and jealousy down a knotch
@@SparkleP8nter when I was 3 I memorised all my times tables, your sister aint special friendo
She's a lot smarter than the news presenters and whoever wrote their script
The funny thing here is that Mensa in Spanish means stupid or dumb
*Edit* ok ok, I wrote this comment a while ago and i still get replies of people saying is wrong. Mensa is the feminine form of a Mexican slang that means dumb, so maybe some Spanish speakers might be confused since the word isn’t used in their country or in the way they learned Spanish. Just to clarify :D
Btw, thank you so much for the likes
Dance moms Fan 2806 ikr 😂🤡
🤣🤣🤣yee
Dance moms Fan 2806 yeah hahaha
Lol funny
In german it means canteen
When I was 3 I slipped on a LEAF and broke my FEMUR
Libby the Nature girl LOLLLLLLL
Hahahaha this beats the try- hards
I learnt to read at 2, look at me now, non Mensa
Okay I'll admit that is really impressive
Any what does IQ has to do with clumsiness?
This 3 yo is out in Mensa with an IA of 160, and I’m a teen out here struggling to add 3+4 without a calculator
happens to the best of us lol
Do you actually or is that a joke? Serious question.
I use my fingers to multiply large numbers. Glad I have them. I make extremely quick calculations, and I’m ten. Try it out yourself, it works in various ways!!
Genius or not, this is a young child. She deserves a normal childhood, at least for a while.
Mensa: accepts people with 140 + IQ
People with an IQ of 139: ...
K A A S it is? I swear they had a lower acceptance rate.
@@lulai7870 in Hungary they have it at 130, I thought it had to be that way everywhere so I don't know who's right now
I know! Mine is 138. I died a little bit. It's okay--I still have all of the social awkwardness of a genius.
Me when my gifted test come back one percentile below what I need for 2 of the tests lol
Actually Mensa accepts people with 130-132IQ (98th percentile).
if she's so fluent in Spanish, she should translate mensa
Exactly my thought
BAHAHA
*3 year old genius accepted into stupid*
dan iel LMAOOO
Irony!
Her mom is fire! And her daddy is so proud! Love this family!
Wow, for the first thirty years of MY life I struggled to be smarter than my cat. What a fantastic future I hope this family has and God bless this gift given here to perhaps be the one that changes this world for the better. Now's the time we need it more than ever.
Actually sometimes I feel like life just made me dumb and I was smarter as a kid
Morgan Lemons same?
EXAAAACTLY.
I never thought of it that way...
I will adopt this theory and feel better about myself now
Thank u sir
Thank u
I blame the internet
Morgan Lemons same?
*uses duolingo for 2 minutes*
"Alexa is also fluent in Spanish!"
lolll site 😂
i mean in reality you dont need to be super smart to learn any language tbh. I was speaking in Arabic, English and Spanish at the age of 3 lol. If shes good at math then thats impressive
The Legend of Lara its a lot easier for a toddler/young child to learn another language. Its much harder as an adult. I learned french when i was young and was fluent by 7. Where as it took me aaaages to become fluent in italian as a teen/young adult.
marehy LMAO
The Legend of Lara if you learn a language before 12, you'll remember it easier and it will stick in your brain
I hope her parents stayed humble about it, and didn't brag to everyone about her abilities. At 18 months, I learned how to read, and at 3 1/2 years old I learned how to write. My mom would continuously tell me that I was smarter than everyone, and it ended up making me tell everyone at my preschool that I was better than them. It eventually lead to me not having any friends until I moved away in the 3rd grade.
You can’t put that baby in Kindergarten. She’s gonna have to be home schooled and socialized differently. She’s gonna need a lot of support. I can’t wait to here more about her.
With that high of an IQ she could easily understand every joke made in Rick and Morty.
To be fair...
You have to have....
Kathy Simon
Disgusting, begone reddit
superligitguy yup. I only have an iq of 2 so i dont understand any of the jokes on rick and morty. You have to have very high iq to understand the jokes. Its not like its an overrated unfunny show but i wouldnt know cause my iq is too low.
Only some at best
Mensa is run by geniuses yet they didn't realize the name means dumb in Spanish 😑
They're racist!
Eh might be on purpose an ironic name zD
It also means canteen in italian
It means idiot😂
This special child is going to get picked on and beat up in school by the children of these commenters,poor blanc ito!
You DO realize this child is BORN like that! None of us should feel bad about it as it's PURE LUCK.. not something she worked for or deserved!
You seriously believe this?
I think it's interesting that we worry SO much about 'age-appropriate social development' from K-12 grade, but then expect people to adapt and automatically know how to talk with people from so many different generations in the workplace. I'm such a proponent for multi-age classrooms because I think it helps to socialize kids who may be more cognitively developed and who still need to be socially challenged.
I mean it’s good that she’s smart but you don’t want her growing up thinking that she is better than everyone.
my iq is 42 and i dont even brag
america out here encouraging asian parental mindsets like
They'll tell everyone she is, and then they'll think they're better than everyone because they had her, and she'll be a huge spoiled snob when she grows up.
My iq is 20 I am the most intelligent person
Yeah I watch Rick and Morty and you don't see me bragging 🙃
i had a hard time understanding what she was saying. She seemed to be just a normal 3 year old.
Because IQ is measured compared to the average, and for kids that's the average for your age. Also it's measured using tests and puzzles which people are known to get better at with practice (in fact the original inventer of the IQ test never intended it to be used to permanently label people). So basically '3 year old with 160 IQ' just means a 3 year old that's doing puzzles that average 4 or 5 year olds do. Also there's no way of knowing if she'll keep being ahead for her age.
some kids are really smart, this one in particular is lucky enough to have caring parents and to have been tested. So, she'll hopefully get the right education. I do wonder how many kids out there don't have those opportunities.
DrZarkloff I think she is just learning how to speak. This girl is so smart and incredible. I was reading in a fifth grade level when I was in 3rd grade and she is only 3!
celest s you are right. Some kids in this planet don't get an education and people with access to education take it for granted. We complain about so much but we don't think about the other people. Go watch IISuperwomanII's UA-cam video on her life changing experience in Kenya. BTW, she is also known as Lilly Singh.
Yeah I'm really confused. My daughter said her first word at 3 months old and said over 100 words by the time she was one, no joke. Now she's 2 and she says full sentences and you can understand her almost perfectly. My daughter also knows a lot of Spanish words and can count and knows full lyrics to songs and can draw faces. Shes not close to being 3 either. Her birthday is in November. Although my daughter couldn't remember pages and pages of stories. Small ones yeah, like Brown bear Brown bear. What does an IQ test test any way? I haven't taken one.
congrats, little girl
I hope when Alexis grows up, she'll do something great for the world. Sweet child!
She: learned Spanish by herself at age 3
Me: ate mud at age 3
Lol and made mud pies
Me 23: still eating dirt, I don’t care too much for mud anymore. Too many carbs
Wow! I didn't graduate to mud until I was at least three and a half - and that was by accident!
Children learn new languages very easily
That's like level one of Duolingo lol that doesn't make someone fluent. It's also not just an app for adults, news conflating it.
So she's basically Matilda?
😂😂😂😂
What do you mean? She can't move objects with her mind, you dumbfuck.
koningkoe But she can read well, dumbfuck. Actually watch before you comment your sour shit.
Mad Hatter Yea but she was well known for her super natural powers, you piece of garbage.
koningkoe Actually, well known for her knowledge. "piece of garbage".
You turned from an immature kid to an EVEN more immature kid.
I hope her parents teach her that people are people. We're all humankind and no one is above another.
wow - what a challenge as a parent. Glad they have help. Good luck. Bless you all.
When you guess at an IQ test and you get them* all correct.
I think the way it works is if you get the first however many right, it kicks the questions up a notch in difficulty. If you keep getting them right, they keep getting harder, if you get one wrong it stays the same level I believe.
KING OF DRIP we found one
I noticed that I spelled the word "them" incorrectly (I typed then instead) facepalm
@@croconana0571 you simple fool, basic grammar escapes your feeble mind.
Croconana :0 figuring out that you made a mistake: +0pts.
Figuring out how to edit a post: +1
Pointing out you made the mistake and had to go back and fix it: -1pts.
Welcome back, Kotter.
I am 13 and eating at a college level...
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god damit. you win. here, have my internet cookie for making me laugh.
Johnny Appleseed Really? That's amazing! Keep it up and you'll be eating at University level :)
At least you're a comic genius
Johnny Appleseed a lot of people are, except you cant take college classes at 13, lol when you grow some seeds on that nutsack and dont make shit up, your allowed to talk'
Parents better be smart enough to never leave her alone with anyone who may wish to harm her.
Parents let her be a kid first and then a genus. She's a beautiful little girl. 😊
I love the fact that she’s making us all feel horrible...
Edit: Thanks so much for all the likes!
MachineWashable101 RIGHT
MachineWashable101 ikr
MachineWashable101 I was trying not to be mean so I wrote what I could do at three
Be the stupidest person known to man kind
She's not making me feel horrible at all, she's very cute and still a 3 years old even if she has very good cognitive abilities.
Kaepora Gaebora do you don’t feel the slightest bit dumb?
"She's smarter than 99% of people" but thinks her mensa card is a credit card.
NZNSI Inc lmao 😂😂😂
She’s pretending it’s a credit card, she doesn’t actually think it is one.
@@kayleeatkins6202 It's a joke, just a joke.
@@kayleeatkins6202 I agree. She's using her imagination. These people on the comment section are brutal. She's only 3, I thought she was very impressive.
@@roshelltannen9698 it was a joke they said not being literal they said she is very smart and that it was just a joke.....
I wish we could get an update on this story; I really hope this kid is having a great life, and not being held to such an impossible standard that the pressure is too much to bear. She deserves to be happy and free, not treated like some all-knowing oracle of knowledge who's automatically a disappointment if she doesn't deliver on that premise. These incredibly well-learned children sadly always seem to have a tougher time in life.
"She's way smarter than mum and dad"...lol no. Her 160 IQ is in the top 2% for her AGE. 160 child IQ is not equivalent to 160 adult IQ, because scores are only comparable on a percentile basis not an absolute basis. I'm not saying this to dunk on her. She's a very bright and gifted little girl and I hope she goes far in life, but for goodness sake newscasters, she's still *three*
Well actually, 12 now...but you get my point.
And I'm here crying over 10th grade math homework
Painfully relatable.
Armyb✔😎
Ana Lucia Mendes me too i will pay her to do my homework and tests
I still cant do long division 😂
J Hoe don't worry I'm not smarter than a 5th Grader
So this 3 year old is fluent in Spanish but doesn't correct anyone that Mensa means idiot in Spanish
Yesss🙌🏽😂I'm Mexican and I couldn't stop laughing at this.
Nobody cares that you're Mexican.
+PJ Angels well that contributes to the fact of how we know what it means
+PJ Angels the comment was not directed to you therefore why do I need to know if you care or not? I never asked.
Si!
That’s so impressive! So proud of her! ❤️😀💕
IQ is based on age. This is her IQ relative to others her age, not people in general.
Not impressed. My IQ is 160 too... oh no wait... That's my electric bill. What does "IQ" mean again?
Lmao
LMAO
intelligence quotient
why do i feel the need to answer this obviously rhetorical question
Meh, my IQ- I mean electric bill is higher than yours
Lol
“Also fluent in Spanish.” She’s learning the phrase, “ustedes son hombres” which means “you are men” in Spanish, not even close to fluency. I don’t mean for this to be negative, her intelligence is impressive, but part of this just isn’t true.
Does she say it like a 3 year old tho? I doubt any 3 yr can pronounce stuff correctly..
Yeah.
I think they mean she speaks Spanish just as good (w an English accent but that makes sense) as she speaks English. Neither her English nor Spanish sounds good bc she still is a 3-year-old
Arianna Maria I doubt it. As a Duolingo user if she is just at the stage of learning, “ustedes son hombres” she definitely hasn’t done many lessons. I bet she wouldn’t be able to say, “can I use my new doll” in spanish.
download duolingo they have you say odd phrases when you are learning... smh dissing a three year old without even looking into it 😂
Those who are museum docents often encounter brilliant children. And you’d better be on your toes because you can be asked very good questions. And they will remember you years later and recite what you said almost verbatim.
Gifted kids screaming in pain for this poor child.
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All i saw was a 3 year old rolling around the floor giggling like...I was waiting for her to recite hamlet or something.
Good one!
i didn't understand what was meant in this video.
Putting together puzzles...hardly even showed her talking in the video. Apparently she was smart enough to be accepted into Mensa, they just didn't really show that in the video.
@@zerozeroeszeroed | I agree. I just saw a three year old child, her parents and some news reporters. My niece came over today (she is three as well) and I didn’t see much of a difference. That must just be me though... 😂💀
A J Yeah..I think that the news reporters or whoever filmed it didn't do a very good job because they didn't recite anything that she could do that was above 3-year old level. If she was smart enough to get into Mensa, than she was smart enough to get into Mensa, they just didn't show any great footage of it. If you want to make a video on the news about an above average, smart 3 year old, at least show why the 3 year old is smart-...
"Some day we'll be working for her." LOL
Should we be scared?
soul71000 It depends on how she chooses to use her gift. For good.....or evil.......
Tareva Loves Hopefully for all of us, For good.
soul71000 Indeed....
Tareva Loves ikr 😂
I'm happy that the doctor pointed out that she can't go to a normal school. It's important for her to be around others who also have a high IQ because those who have high IQs tend to be ostracized by the other kids. In general, people feel the most comfortable interacting with people of similar IQs. It's also extremely difficult on kids when the classes move too slowly because they are bored out of their minds hearing what they understand over and over.
The doctor is wrong. At age 3, all children should go to regular school, where they are encouraged to learn to deal with separation anxiety, develop their creativity, play with others, take turns, socialize, take naps when told, eat lunch and learn basic table manners, sit quietly and listen to a story, walk around the neighborhood in a group, play in the sandbox, have fun in the playground, and then go home. These are the most important life skills. "Everything I know I learned in Kindergarten". Robert Fulghum.
His comment at the end is everything “We’ll probably be working for her someday.” True but also sweet.
“Fluent in Spanish” can’t even pronounce an incorrect sentence
How many Latino kids in the US are fluent in Spanish and English? My children are fluent in English and German and learning French...where is their Mensa card?
Mc Hobbit me
Mc Hobbit who cares?? Everyone should know at least one language plus if your family is German they learn it better. Also language isn’t a huge deal it’s also academics especially math
Oh I agree that everyone should know at least two languages. That is why I am teaching my children. It''s only in America where it's this extraordinary sign of high intelligence. If her parents were Mexican, they wouldn't give a hoot that she speaks Spanish but they consider it oh so special for a lily white child.
As for math--many Asians teach their children math that we in Europe and American consider advanced for their age and while some of the children cannot do it, most can. In some Asian countries, US high school work is grade school work. So if she were in Korea, the math wouldn't be a big deal.
Even reading--I met many earlier readers. I myself read at three. No reason but I was read to a lot and taught my letters and sounds. I'm not a genius, far from it. There are also programs that will teach toddlers to read. Just check youtube. Sure, not every child will learn if you try these things but in general, children can learn a lot when they have devoted parents who teach them. If she was infact taught, then she is a bright child but not a genius because I'd say at least half of all children have the capability but not every parent knows how to or wants to empathize academics at such a young age.
Other than Spanish, reading and math, we are just looking at memorization, such as where countries are etc. The only skill this takes is a good memory. I'd argue that she is very above average in that department, though children generally seem good at memorizing things.
Mc Hobbit I agree. I also think the US education system sucks. They should teach children new languages when they are very young so they can learn it. I really wish I was in an Asian country like japan or Korea and go to school there.
i feel like being told at 3 years of age that you are more intelligent (or at least have the potential to be) than 99%+ of the population could be potentially problematic down the road, in regards to character development. hopefully, her high IQ also comes with high self-awareness/humility as well.
You're right. That's how supervillians are created, lol...
When you are a kid IQ tests measure the development stage in acquiring intelligence, she has done very well on 3 yo IQ tests. She was not smarter than an average 7 years old. This only means that she developed really fast, not that she is really smart.
Since this video was made in 2014, now she is 11, and I bet now she is a really good student at school, not a genius better than 99.9%.
This was a marketing stunt for Mensa, some very subjective parents, and a very precocious little girl, nothing more.
very true
There are many young musician prodigies who we see have long public careers. The young academic prodigies are rarely seen again after the initial media blitz. All young prodigies have in common active involved parents who search for the best teachers to continue advancing the child's abilities and connections within the particular field of interest.
Her parents seems pretty down to earth, dont want her skipped to much so shes with kids her age and stuff.
Wow, that is amazing. What proud parents!
The fact that the avg IQ has went down from 120 to 100 in recent decades EXPLAINS ALOT!!!😂
The average IQ has always been 100. That number was based on the average person's IQ test results.
I'm Mexican and every time they said Mensa I couldn't stop laughing
here's some info for you on the word "Mensa"...www.etymonline.com/index.php?term=mensa&allowed_in_frame=0
+Cheresh Nia I was of course referring to the slang word Mensa meaning idiot☺️
same actually 😂😂 im just now hearing it! lol
same
Honestly why is this smart program named mensa 😂😂
I hope she learns emotional skills. She'll need a therapist. It's like having a shed full of tools and have no clue how to use.
Yeah like dumb people are somehow more equipped to handle their emotions.
@@AnalyticalReckoner I'm speaking from experience. I know quite a handful of very intelligent children who grew up not knowing how to handle their skills - became depressed, anxious, felt alone, had to cope with very high expectations from people, and feeling very isolated/different from everyone else. I meant that well, by the way. I realize my original statement sounded negative. My apologies for that. I am hopeful she will have all the support to ensure her success in life. ^_^
Omnis Imperator hey depression is higher in smart people it’s a fact
parthesky omg I use to have a shed full of tools 🧰 had no idea how to use them sold them at a loss
@Dusty that's bullshit bro, as long as you dont have, say, aspergers or something like that, being intelligent won't ruin your emotional development (in fact you might be better with emotions than regular folk). But it is correlated with depression and anxiety so there's that
I can't begin to imagine the things this girl will grow up to do. I think we all wish we knew how this can happen to begin with.
Whatever they decide, pray for her protection.❤
seems fake to me-- why would they interview the parents so much and not interview her?
edit: I get that she's 3, stop responding with "she's 3"
exactly, she can talk for gods sake
Because she is a child.
She's 3
@@Sbosch123 so? If she's smarter than her parents she could at least speak on camera for a moment
@@RacecarsAndRicefish IQ is based around a test that uses age as factor in determining the final score. So may that it be she has a high IQ for her age, it doesn't necessarily mean that she has well developed social skills for her age.
3 year old IQ: 160
13 year old IQ: 70
xXgEnjIwEEbXx -master gengu Sounds like me
xXgEnjIwEEbXx -master gengu nah she is basically of 5th grade level
xXgEnjIwEEbXx -master gengu well you have many of the people I know
My IQ was 130 something at 13
xXgEnjIwEEbXx -master gengu 3yr old:160
8 year olds (me):122
My moms :120 lol
no, she's 99.9% smarter than other 3 y/os lol. IQ is based on the same age of the person who took the test.
Makes sense. I was about to say, she's THAT smart?? I was feeling kinda dumb...
she reads so well that no one can understand a word she says.
And yet I'm here putting my grades up for adoption.....Cus I can't even raise them
nice one
😁😁😁
OMG NICE ONE, lmao
This is one of the most relatable and funniest comment😂
Bella Tobias Lmaoo
I edited this so you’ll never know how I got so many likes LOL
Nicholas Brainard Yeah. If you listen to her read, it sounds like she is still trying to sound out the words. I think her parents are pressuring her to do this.
Nicholas Brainfart, you must be jealous. Or just want to be right, or bring her down for some other reason. How about you stop attacking 3 year olds, bully someone your own age. What is wrong with you dude? Take a hike, breathe. don't be so angry all the time. How about learn some manners. Do proper empathy.
PresidentialWinner not really. Maybe you just believe that 3 year old actually has an IQ go 160+ when she can barely read
I was going to apply to Mensa, but then I saw my IQ is actually too HIGH to join them.
This was such a elegant argument
"We'll be working for her some day" 😂
Emotional intelligence and intellectual intelligence are not necessarily the same thing. History is full of incredibly gifted people who had tragic lives because they were not given a childhood and allowed to mature emotionally as well as mentally. Emotional maturity has a lot to do with experience, which is learned through experience.
As a child who skipped grades in grade school, I would definitely advise the parents to try to get her into a school environment that is as normal as possible. Being moved ahead was very damaging to my ability to socialize. Adults can be years apart yet have no difficulty relating to one another but children who are just 2 years apart are worlds apart in social development. I was bullied mercilessly and it permanently affected my ability to make friends and feel comfortable around people my own age. There are many different kinds of intelligence. Mental I.Q. is only one. Moral intelligence and social intelligence are others. A person needs a balance of all of these to be whole. My sister always resented me because she had to work harder in school. But she managed decent grades and was inducted into the National Honor Society. I breezed through school without having to learn discipline while she developed skills that would serve her well later in life. She finally got a Masters degree at the age of 45 and is now a school principle. My point here is that intelligence isn’t everything. I admire my sister for her perseverance and hard work and also for what she has accomplished.
props to you and it seems that your are book smart and street smart from what youre saying here. You sound like a good person and I hope life after school has been good to you. I despise bullying and Ive noticed that people who get bullied go two ways, one is they bully others on revenge for what they went through and the other is they use it as a moral compass to achieve great things and prevent bullying
I can relate in two ways... 1) I skipped 4th grade. While I was intellectually ready there was so much more of me that was not. 2) My father’s IQ is in that top percentage. I appreciate the fact that he always felt the responsibility of going to work and providing financially for his family. But he was a terrible father. He was always “checked out” and living in his own fantasy world. My mother had to raise 2 girls and 3 boys with no other help from him. Not the best childhood but not the worst. 🤷♀️
@M Shultz - I think every child has different needs, its not as black and white as some people may think it is. I was accepted into Mensa when I was seven years old with an IQ of 157. My mother did not let me attend, because she wanted me to have a normal life and be socialized (as you suggested. That was the worst parenting decision she could have ever made on my behalf. I needed to be around children who were exceptional like me, because it would have allowed me to feel less ostracized from society. I was bullied on a daily basis for being more advanced than my classmates (I was not allowed to skip grades).
My Intelligence made me a target at school and over time, it psychologically conditioned me to believe that I was abnormal and it created a life time battle with self confident issues that effected every area of my life as an adult. I begged my mom every day for permission to be homeschooled, because I could always focus better if I was alone. The answer was always "No," and I was told that I just needed to suck it up and learn how to adapt to the school environment like everybody else. I learned how to adapt be pretending to be stupid, because that was the only way I could make friends at school. I became quiet and withdrawn and eventually even sucidal. The self confidence issues, developed into an 18 year battle with an eating disorder that almost took me life.
The point, is that if every parent of a brillant child was to take the same approach/perspective that you are suggesting, it could potentially ruin the child's life permanently. The problem is that children who are born with an extremely high IQ, are very self aware! They know what is best for them, more then the parents do, yet their needs and desires are not taken into consideration due to their age. My, potential was robbed not because of my intelligence, but because of the way that society percieves how children should be dealt with. My story, is not a unique one and I'm sure thier are other brilliant children in the world who suffered, due to the ignorance of thier parents. Humans need to learn from their mistakes, instead of repeating the same old patterns!
@@cg3560 Their are other ways to socialize a child, other than forcing them to attend school. Sports, Dance, Art, etc. These are only a few examples of extra curricular activities that a child can partipate in, inoder to become properly socialized. Maturity, is a whole other topic and it is related to both life experiences and 'emotional intelligence', which is not tested on the IQ test.
Some children like myself, are old souls. Meaning, that we incarnate with a much more serious approach to life in general, because our souls have lifetimes of experience under belts. We do not need a 'tour guide', which is basically what a parent is for children like myself. If, you have a child that has an IQ of 145 or higher, they are not going to be interested in the same things that a normal child would be. In, other words they don't need guidance, they need support.
For, example: when I was nine years old, I could read and write at a 10 grade level. I was spending most of my spare time writing novels and studying psychology, while the other children my age were only interested in playing video games and talking about pokemon. I had no idea what pokemon even was, nor could I care less. The truth, is that children like me had nothing in common with kids my age. Most of my friends growing up, were 20 years older than me, only because I could have political debates with them...that would other wise be impossible with a child who was the same age as me.
I get where your coming from, but like I said before, their is no one size fits all modality for children who do not fit the traditional mold, of how a child is 'expected' to act and conform to society.
After skipping grades myself, I agree with this 100%.
My next door neighbor, when I was three, was a three year old boy who read the newspaper. I went through twelve grades of public school with him, and he remained the smartest kid in our very large school, all the way until graduation. We are 70 now. He is my oldest friend.
:')
God bless you both during the pandemic! 🙏🏽
So what did he do with himself? Some of the smartest kids I knew in school bombed out later. The really smart ones don't make a big deal about their intelligence. They just one day do something incredible and act like it's no big deal.
@@amywalker7515 well I made myself to be smart
cor wish i had that kind of long term friendship
It has been 9 years, she is 12 now, any updates?
If I were a parent to a child genius, other than their health, happiness & appropriate education, my main priority would be to make sure that they don't turn out to be an obnoxious, intellectual snob. I've always told my two kids that there is a huge difference between being intelligent & being wise because I knew a man who was exceptionally intelligent but he would do some of the dumbest things to the point that he never really was happy because his decisions always got him into trouble or pushed other people away.