I hate myself I have crooked teeth I'm lonely Socially awkward Make everything worst for myself.... But when you see me I seem like the happiest person alive
It's ok stay strong and be happy you even got girlfriends cuz I'm a girl and no one will dat em cuz I don't really know any boys because I go to a all girls school
Yeah it’s been pretty rough, I don’t know why I would find this video, kinda did and kinda didn’t help, it’s sucks that I can’t explain more but let’s just say it’s not my fault but at the same time it is... if that makes sense to anyone thank you for understanding if anyone didn’t, I’m sorry.
I always do thing I regret. I go home and cry until I dont have any tears left. "Why did I do that?" "What will people think of me?" Im hitting myself in the head a thousand times. I want to fall asleep so I can have a bit of fake hapiness, until I wake up and suddently remember everything.I just want to die.
My fear of letting everyone down and being a failure made me into the person who gets angry at people who compliment me because I know I'm gonna let them down.
I don't exactly hate myself, I just don't believe in myself. I can't see anything good about me, I don't feel happy about what i do and i can't stop nailing myself down for everything i do. No matter how hard i try, i can't please myself. i don't set the bar to high in anyway, I just don't believe in anything i do. I have no friends, not one. No-one likes me. I try to be happy, but i can't, i try and please others but i can't. Nothing i do has any achievement in my mind. Thanks for this. It helped.
Hi Douglas, I'm sorry that you've been hating yourself. But, a key misunderstanding is that the way to be happy is to try to think positively about yourself. My recommendation is that you discover there is nothing good or bad about you in reality. You are just there... being. Check out my video about how to deal with depression, it may help
Douglas Phillips No I’m sure there are a lot of people who like you & even love you, you just don’t know it yet. You can achieve anything you want to & you will be exactly where you need to be.. Everything takes time but take it one step at a time, I’m sure there are a lot of good things in you that you haven’t acknowledged but that doesn’t mean they aren’t there. We are all made of good qualities & we are capable of something. Look at the good things you’ve done & believe in yourself.. tell yourself that you have done well. You are good enough, you are worthy.
I hate myself because of acne, very dry skin, a big lump on my forehead (always wear a hat), crooked teeth, not witty or charming, very socially awkward, and I have anxiety all the time. However if you knew me you'd think I was a happy person.
Learn to accept yourself for who you are, including imperfections. We see people in the media and all around who seem perfect and when we compare our imperfections with theirs we start hating ourself. I've learned to think about the good things about myself and accept the things that I perceive as bad.
I don't understand. I hate myself every moment, every day. There is never a time I do not hate myself. I can see that it is a thought and yes sometimes I am not always thinking it because I get destracted ..but that doesn't mean I don't always hate myself. I factually do hate myself. if I could play god and change everything about myself I would if I could.
Sarah Perkins if you changed the way you looked you would be the 1st person in the world who is perfect. You should see yourself almost perfect because that is the most perfect you can be. I hope this helps🙂
I hate myself. But I have nothing to complain about. Living in a huge house with a lot of luxury and being healthy, but really, I do hate myself. I have the feeling no one can understand me. My interests, my way of thinking and plenty of other things. While my friends are getting girlfriends it just doesn't happen to me. I am lying to people, even pretending things to myself. It's almost like I am isolating myself from the reality. But yeah, who would give a single fuck...
Death Season Then, what you are saying is you hate yourself because you feel different from others, and you feel like there is something wrong with you because you can't get girlfriends. I suggest watching my how to deal with depression video. I think it will help. Good luck
Andstyggð damn it this sounds like me except I'm girl but I have a nice home my parents are very well off but I still hate myself I always do and say stupid things I am awkward I also have trust issues and my friends don't help i have different interests than them and they make fun of me for it they are also all getting boyfriends
Same but I hurt everybody around me nobody can last week or two around me I hate myself for not have the courage to kill myself not anybody have the courage to the side what they want
*My stupid little self-hate issues* I just want to accomplish something and help people and become self-reliant, even though the mere thought of it is scary. I hate that I don't live up to my own standards of being productive and helping people, and I hate that I'm supposed to be gifted and have so much potential and yet I'm lazy and I don't even try. I hate that I hate myself. Hating myself lets down the people who love me and makes me even less self-reliant. I don't trust myself, can't even accept myself. People tell me I'm great and smart and get A's and I know my family loves me and I love them... but I hate myself because I can't be good enough, I can't even say out loud that 'I love myself' because of it all. I also hate myself because I hate myself, and I can't mock or dismiss the thought because I'm so sick and twisted that I'm almost proud that I hate myself, and I feel like if I were to love myself it would be terribly egotistical. But then I feel like even venting this is selfish. I know it's a distorted perception but if I lost that perception I would lose who I am because it'd be losing what I believe. Please, what do I do? God, I'm so stupid. Nobody's going to care about the ramblings of a teenage girl. I'm probably just overreacting. I'm not desperate or anything, really. Here I go again, being selfish and asking for help with my little drama before the people with serious problems. Just ignore me. Look, I'm even seeking attention by saying 'I don't want help' when I genuinely do!!! Agh, brain, stop talking already! You're just having a late-night breakdown because you're immature n' all that. edit a loooong time later: hi folks. i completely forgot this thing existed until i got a reply notification. just wanted to say that i still feel this way sometimes. more than sometimes. but it's better, and i recover more quickly. a big chunk of my self-hate turned out to be gender dysphoria. i'm a guy now; i'm out to most people and i've begun hormone replacement therapy. it took me a long time to get here and there's a long way to go, but i can actually imagine a future where i'm comfortable and secure in my own skin now. so if your self-hating talk contains a lot of stuff about being ugly/monstrous and feeling disgusted with your gender maybe do a little questioning? who knows, there might be something there. but for everybody else, another huge part of me feeling better came from being open about my feelings. it's kind of the most awful mortifying thing in the world to talk to someone you love about hating yourself, but it can get you out of that mental space. also by talking about your feelings you are admitting they are worth talking about. and (if whoever you talk to is a decent person they will confirm this) your pain is an actual thing that you don't deserve and isn't shameful. i know, shocker. and hey, telling somebody how you feel can be really uncomfortable, but at least if you turn out to be queer like me it's practice for coming out lol
I understand you, I hate myself too, I have such low self esteem, I don't accept myself, I'm scared of doing things and it's messed me up big time, I care so much about what people think and it angers me, I get very sad sometimes when I think about it all and what I did in the past. I think of all the things I should've done and said but I was too afraid and I'm still too afraid. I'm tired of being so fucking weak and I hate being like this, and I don't want people to pity me, I just want to change, I've tried to change before and it's worked but only for a very small time, there are times I felt a little hint of confidence but most of the time I feel like I'm a horrible person. I feel like I bother people or make people ashamed of me, I feel guilty too. I really do want to change, I really do wanna love myself, I'd rather be extremely cocky than extremely weak and self concious about everything, at least I'd get things done when I'm cocky because then I'd believe in myself and then I wouldn't give a fuck about people, I could care less. All of this gets me extremely upset, I feel angry most of the time, and I feel like I've gotten worse, I feel like I've gotten even more self concious than before. But I do understand how you feel, I completely understand, and maybe, hopefully we'll get out of this, I mean we both are teenagers, and being a teen is tough with all these emotions but I've been emotional ever since I was a kid, I've always had emotional issues it's just now as a teen I feel very very self concious about my looks, I've been paying attention to that more. I just wanna love myself one day.
Kara Hill yeah I hope we get out of this soon, usually young people care so much and hate themselves a lot, probably cuz of hormones and shit. Once you get older I think you stop giving a shit and just start to feel more comfortable in your skin. I would love to finally be comfortable with myself and be happy with who I am, I'd be the happiest person in the world :) and you're right, forgetting about it or trying to ignore by doing activities does help a lot, like excersing or drawing, doing active stuff relieves a lot of stress and it makes you feel better.
Kara Hill what. I don't get it? I mean we were just talking about how much we hate ourselves and you're saying this weird stuff that makes no sense? Lol
We very often keep hurting ourselves on many levels and thus attract others that do the same ..a viscous circle..releasing the need to withhold love and consideration from ourselves is the way the way forward Its a real journey given the fact those patterns have been stored in our subconscious It figures its gonna take time to make the shift and that my friends is an ongoing process ..I wish you well..❤
Eventually you come to the realization that no mentoring, medication, lifestyle changes, nor anything even magical like wishing can prevent your thoughts, BUT knowing that **you aren’t** your thoughts creates power to entertain the one’s which get you how you like to imagine yourself. Like he said when “i hate myself” only exists as a thought, do not choose to believe. But nothing i just said matters because myself just reminded myself that i wish to not exist :)))))
Same here. It might be good advice for the majority of people who only experience self-hatred occasionally, those whose problems are resolved in the course of a Hallmark holiday special But for those of us traumatized since early childhood, this advice tastes like a non-nutritive sweetener
Me too.!! I hate myself, because myself keeps making horrible mistakes, decisions with thinking ahead. I did so much harm to myself... I cannot forgive myself, and.... im suffering the consequences of my actions, thoughts, my mouth, decisions....
I generally feel like I'm a boring person that is uncapable of making jokes or stuff like that. And I know it is a thought. Now my question is: should I believe this thought? On one hand I shouldn't, because it doesn't do anything good for me. But on the other hand, I think I should, because I have many experiences that prove that I am, in general, boring.
Nikola Angelov There is no such thing as boring, you talk loud sometimes, and sometimes soft. you tell jokes sometimes, and sometimes don't. you have energy sometimes, and sometimes don't. if you claim that any of those are "boring", you are defining them as bad. Then you are saying because you act that way in some moments, it is who you are. Clap for a few seconds. Now stop. Are you a clapper?
Noah Elkrief I understand what you are saying. And no, if you clap for some seconds you are not a clapper. But I think that if you clap frequently than people will consider a clapper. That doesn''t mean that you should feel bad just because people label you something. But I think it is important to acknowledge what people will think of you, so you can know how people think you should behave.
Nikola Angelov That's the problem, you shouldn't have to worry about how people think you should behave. That's where the thoughts come in, you start thinking 'I wonder how this person thought of me" and ect. Just be you and stop impressing people.
King Minty FiddleSticks What I meant was that you shouldn't have a problem with what you are, but it can be useful to know what effect you make on people.
I hate myself because I allowed my own self to be taken away. The person I believe I could have been. A allowed that person to be taken away. I didn’t show the courage to stop this. I didn’t realize the consequences to be paid later in life. I don’t mind what I brought upon myself, but the person I thought I could have been would enhance those around me lives so much. So today they deal with a broken person and I can never forgive myself for doing that to them.
This video really calmed me down, I feel really bad about comparing myself to people and I feel bad about my weight and how clothes fit me. I want to feel comfident about my looks but it's hard when I see everyone around me being legitimately half my size
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This video really opened my eyes. I was suffering depression, but came to the conclusion that depression is nothing but thoughts that pop up in you're head that aren't even true.
Every time I get close to a friend they always throw me to the curb and find someone else to replace me and honestly, it hurts a lot. Its happened almost every year for about 7 years and my best friend now always says she won't leave me, but I just don't trust anyone anymore. If I do and I tell them something important I feel like they'll leave. I guess I think I'm protecting myself but I always feel bad that I don't tell my friend anything. I've always looked at myself as being less then everyone else since it started because I thought something was wrong with me and that was why they were leaving. I've hated myself for so long but i think this video actually helped me. Thank you so so much!
Please don't do that. I hope you are doing well now. No matter what happened or for whatever reason you hate yourself know that your are good enough. I used to hate myself, but learned to love every part of me, be gentle to my body that is the "suit" of our soul and that takes cares of us no matter how mean we are to it, have some goals written down and spreading kindness.
Self-hatred has become a strange comfort to me over the years. I reject myself before others can. Part of me enjoys thinking about blowing myself away, knowing the world will go on. In the cosmic sense, my life is nil anyway.
I don't hate myself all the time but his method still doesn't work for me. His way of thinking about it just doesn't click. Onto the next thing I guess...
I dont think im good enough, I don't fit in. I don't feel happy ever. But when you see me I am the happiest happy go lucky person there can be. But I am not I am miserable
I hate myself because I feel like everyone else does when they probably don't. I never get invited to things with my friends, when I see photos of them together I cry because I feel so lonely
oh-yugyeom I have the same problem but they do hate me and I know they do. They all leave me out, give me dirty looks , leave me by myself and make me feel small. My mum says "hangout with other friends " and I tell her I can't because they all hangout together but only a few (like 3 or 4) don't but I feel like if I tell them they hate me and all that they'll tell them. For me it's gone on for ages and now most nights I cry myself to sleep sometimes 😭😔 but my point is I understand how you feel.
Caitlin Kay if they do that they're not really your friends. Smile and be happy 😊 that may help you find new friends who actually care about you. Maybe even I could be your friend, you seem like a nice person 😁😁
I had this same problem.. You will be suprised that you will find out years later the reasons why they leave you out is usually they feel threatened by you. You may be more attractive then them, more intelligent, so you may make them look not so smart. They may reject you because their own self esteem and they need to it because it give them control when they dont have control in other areas of their life. You need to stop trying to get your acceptance from people who arnt worthy of you anyway
For those being suffered, please be noticed that you are not the only one. Everyone at some point in their life will share the same feeling with you. No one on earth can say he/she is always the righteous one. Keep your eyes on the bigger world and soon you will find out this emotional downturn is kinda notion of self-awareness. You are not ignorant. You are a real human. It's good for your betterment in the future.
I hate myself what feels like 98% of my waking day. I'm 48, lost my marriage of 22yrs, 18 yr old son doesn't want to see or speak to me, financially broken, no friends, struggle mentally at work, sleeping in my mom's living room, can't stop thinking of suicide...hate myself so much for my behavior and choices of my life. I can't see the good in my life. I just want out of this world.
I'm so sorry to read your story. And although I am a stranger, and I can never fully appreciate all the events that have occurred in your life, I hope the you can understand my message and remember that life is full of peaks and troughs. You are at a low right now, and may have been for a while. But take a look at each problem objectively, and try and plan how to fix it, and hold on to what you love, like your mother, and what you are good at. I doubt it will be much consolation, but I am 19 and fall out with my parents a lot. But I will always love them. I'm sure your son will show his love again, please give it time. You aren't alone, and help will be found for those who need it.
The facts are that society taught me that cellulite and stretch marks are bad and now I hate myself :( They're not "just thoughts" if I can see it in the mirror
+Emily Hawkins "cellulite and stretch marks are ugly/bad" is not a fact. It's a stupid opinion. So your cellulite might be there, but there is no "bad" cellulite. There is no "good" cellulite. It just is what it is.
+ece s I know, and it's so stupid that it's all demonized by society, but now I see it and no matter how many times I tell myself and tell others that it's completely normal and not bad, I can't seem to let it go for my own body. I can't friggin get over it and it's driving me crazy. I've had stretch marks since I was 10 :(
It's all in your head.. I also have stretch marks but I never really cared about it... I have other things like I don't like my face and hate my smile.. I have a long way to go till I accept myself
I also have strech marks and I´m a dude,i got 'em on my back and I always keep my shirt on when I go to swim,which I love but I just can not help but get self concious
Hi Emily, I'm a male....42. I have felt ugly for a really really long time...stretch marks...balding...sometimes our human condition doesn't always bring us what we want 😓. But you are worth something....love. 🌹♥️
I dunno, man. Telling people their problems don't really exist isn't a good way to seek a solution. If someone hates themselves, they have to have a reason they think is valid. Start from there. There's nothing wrong with a little self-examination, so long as it's tempered with objective analysis and not subjective emotion. "I hate myself because I'm _______." Okay, let's look at that blank and see if it's something you need to change about yourself. If so, then let's figure out how to change it. If not, let's figure out how to accept it.
+Audrey Lawrence Well, this video didn't really help me much. I hate myself, but I really do believe that I have good reasons to. It's not because I'm ugly, or unsuccessful, or shy, or anything of the sort. I understand that it helped you, and I'm happy for you. However, I know I'm not the only one that didn't get a lot of help from this. I think the only way I can really fix my problem is by changing.
Hi James, I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Normally when we think that a "bad" event is our fault, we tend to feel guilty. Then, we continue to feel guilty because we believe "I deserve to be punished for what I did", "guilt and sadness means I care about the victim", and "it would be selfish not to feel guilty". Because of these beliefs, we actually try to stay unhappy and hating ourselves. But none of these beliefs are true. To see this for yourself, try my free web app (in description)
I've been on youtube for 7 years.. never have I encountered such a well spoken, intelligent man in my life until this video. WOW. Probably the most brightest youtuber on youtube history..just a thought ;)
Hi Matt, I'm glad that the video was able to make things clearer for you. I often see that hating oneself can act as a catalyst to examining one's thoughts which leads to an incredibly peaceful life
"When you're having fun do you hate yourself?" You fail to take into account that it is possible to reach a point where you literally never enjoy yourself, and the "when you're with friends" really digs it in for people that don't have those. I couldn't watch much longer than 60 seconds because you were actually making me more depressed and I didn't want to go catatonic. Though I suppose I'm stupid for thinking an 11 minute video would correct what 20 years of therapy hasn't. To answer the question though, YES I hate myself ALL THE TIME.
I do hate myself in all of those moments, you just made me hate myself even more because now I know I'm worse off than normal people who hate themselves, but not when they're watching TV. Unhelpful.
I notice how gentle and empathetic you are with your delivery..Thank you for trying to help us question our life histories and be through mindfulness in the present.
I've beaten myself up and ruminated about arguments and the past for years but now it's really starting to affect me. My thoughts are so negative that it's almost impossible to think positively and when I try to make a conscious effort to do so I feel so much resistance. Between disliking so much things about me and how my mind works I feel like I'm in a trap. Even when I'm in a good frame of mind I still find myself thinking negatively but the thoughts don't really affect me at that point. When I feel down my mind is vulnerable and I think all sorts of fearful and negative thoughts. I really want to permanently being my state of being from the negative type to the positive type and be confident enough to maintain it versus caving into my thoughts and emotions all the damn time.
Whenever that happens, focus yourself on improving something you like about yourself. You will feel better knowing you can. I've been throught that, and by doing so, I learnt that there is nothing I like more about myself than self improvement and self discovery. You'll learn it by time. But only if you do so: your mind will realize it through experience and gain. Don't worry, the hardest part is to begin and to continue until you see the improvements ;).
Azolot Loner I appreciate the input. Yeah starting is always the hardest but I guess since I thought my way into a negative state I can think and act my way into a healthy and positive state.
I hate myself because i am always trying to be a good person and I have big ears which causes me to get bullied and I’m short which also causes me to get bullied, I’m on the brink of expulsion because I go on my phone in class and I have a crush on somebody but when I built up the confidence over two years she said that I was ugly and she would never date someone like me, the next day I found out that she had a crush on my best friend in the entire world who I would do anything for and my family lives in poverty. People are always asking me why i always have my head down and I tell them that it’s just a habit but in reality it’s that I’m so skinny that I hate to even look at my weak little arms. Back to the person who is my best friend in the whole world, I always wish I was him to the point where I always ask to go to his house because he is so rich (both his parents are surgeons) and he always comes to school with an iphoneXR and a Apple Watch, I just wish that I could ever be like him I sometimes try to act like everything is okay, but whenever I think of reasons to be happy, I find none, I had a class presentation yesterday and I tried to walk up to the front of the classroom acting confident but as I was walking up I tripped and burst out into tears I wish that I was better and could be better
+Abdelaziz Abid lol prob cause she subconsciously knows the Jews and Antichrist are manipulating the world to take it over. oh and you feel what you project. if you hate a lot you'll feel hate and anger. "love is the only truth everything else is an illusion."
Self hatred is the most difficult thing I've ever delt with, and I've felt it as long as i have memories. It strikes when you need it least. For instance, I've told myself a dozen times this morning I'm weak and pathetic for looking up these videos. But, over 35 years, I've learned when i deal with the vitriol in order to learn or achieve something that it would normally prevent Thank you for this video
I hate myself very, very much. I feel like, I'm a mistake, like I shouldnt have existed. For me, Im the only bad person in the planet. I would rather be anyone else. Everytime I do something wrong, I insult myself. I think to myself that I'm stupid and useless, and that I'm just an obstacle to everyone. I want to kill myself, but I'm too much of a coward to actually do it. So I just cut myself. When I cut myself , I feel like Im doing the right thing. Like I'm punishing myself for all the mistakes I've done. I want to stop it, but I dont seem able to do so. Everytime I do something wrong, that's the first thing that comes to my mind. I grab a knife and go to the bathroom, and depending how many mistakes I've made, changes how many times I cut. I have great friends. I have great friends that I dont' deserve. When I'm with them I feel bad. Like I shouldnt be with them, like I dont deserve them. I'm thankfull that they want to be with me, and I'm terirified at the idea that they'll leave me. They are the only perople that make my life worth living. I'm jealous and overprotective, and that annoys them. They also fight a lot with each other, and I'm scared that they'll separate. I dont know what to do :( If they leave me, I dont see any point on living. (Sorry if my english is not good ;-;)
Thank you for this. Many don't understand that when you truly feel this way about yourself, you really can't help it. Self loathing is a painful thing to go through and I feel when people know you hate yourself, it pushes them away and makes them view you negatively. This adds fuel to the fire. Personally, I don't want to hate myself, I want to seem more confident, attractive, etc. but I really can't help the thoughts and feelings I have. Thank you for meeting this with compassion and understanding.
Being weird is good if everyone was "normal" this world would be boring it's the "weirdos" who make this world fun, if your the so called perfect person then you are boring. I'm weird aswell but I dont care it's a good thing 👍😀
The thing that almost every depressed person relates to, is... When someone _else_ is depressed you want to help them, because you know how being _"worthless"_ is.
It makes me hate myself even more when i hear some barf bag talk about loving yourself when i already feel like dying I feel like such a disappointment to this world almost everyday.
Hi Nichole, I understand. This is not about liking yourself. Hating yourself is having a negative thought about yourself. Liking yourself is having a positive thought about yourself. When you are engaging in some sort of hobby or watching, you won't be thinking at all. So there is no positive thoughts or negative thoughts. Then you will not suffer in that moment. But that is not a permanent solution. If you want to be happy, you have to disbelieve your thoughts. To do this, see my comment below.
My lips are too small, I'm too fat, my waist is huge, I have man shoulders😥, my smile is stupid, and the worst for last my feet are gigantic!😭 I've hated myself for all my life and it's not possible for me to stop! I hate myself more, and more everyday! I eat less than I used to!😡 I will NEVER STOP HATING MYSELF!😭😡😭
Nickole E.- Thank your mother for bringing you into this life and for even having a mom to support you and take care of you when you are down on yourself. No one is 100% perfect and you are beautiful in every way just like you are on the inside.
Not any of these reasons are why I hate myself.. So this video didn't really help. For me it's simply that I screw everything up. I keep lying to people, even my friends- myself too. Because I'm too weak to stand for the truth. I keep hurting everyone I'm close to. Then I isolate myself and get mad at myself for feeling lonely and pitying myself.
I can’t stand mirrors. Haven’t looked in one in weeks because when I do sink into the deepest depression with vile thoughts of self loathing and think of ways of destroying myself.
I personally feel self hatred because I am gay,but I don't want to admit it,because I feel like if i do.i will be caving in to the anti gay sentiment towards people like me,even though I have come out to myself.
eren luin if someone does dislike you for being gay they are not in the right mind and you should be proud of your self and how much you expressed to your self that your are gay and you should be proud of yourself for admitting it.🙂
eren luin I think that you should be yourself even if other people don't like it. If you want to be gay, that's okay 👌🏻 I think that's a good idea if you like it😊 . Just be yourself and ignore those losers who hate you
wow it really hit me when you said ''its not your fault that you hate yourself'' :'( I don't have the best life, the most exciting and the most loved/loving life... But I want it, so I'm a newly student to loving myself... I want to love myself. I want to learn to appreciate what I have. Thank you Noah xx
I love this video! Thank you for opening my sleepy eyes. Life for me will be much better now because I realize for the first time (I'm 65 now) the simplicity of recognizing my thoughts! They are not always mine! Incredible, my beliefs (taught to me, when I had no choice) betrayed me! I didn't realize any of this. I've been so blinded, thanks so very much! I just let myself off the hook--knowing I'll have to do it again tomorrow but that is ok, it's actually wonderful! 😎
I hate myself because of my laugh, the way I talk, the way I text, I hate it when I breath into the phone when I'm talking to people, I hate how my ex makes me what to be normal because he thinks girls are annoying and they laugh to much, I hate the way I think about my friends and how I talk about them behind their backs, I hate myself because I'm weird, I hate my normal self person, I hate the way I look, I hate myself life doesn't make since to me I don't like my body I don't believe I have accepted myself for who I am.
Excuse my English and my spelling, please. I have a big problem about myself. I hate myself because everyday, I overthink and I remembered a certain moment in that day that made me feel bad because I made this mistake, I made this thing wrong... and it keeps going and going until I feel that I hate myself and I want to die!! I hate it and I don't know what is happening, it keeps getting worse everyday and I want it to stop. I'm just a teen and I want to live a normal life but I can't because of this thing, these thoughts that always come out... it's horrible. When I wake up in the morning, I feel bad about myself but I don't know why. I start to remember the things that happend the day before and maybe I did something wrong that makes me feel mad, but then I remember that there's nothing wrong but I still feel odd. Is this some kind of phase? Or what? I need help. I don't know if this is normal. I just want to feel happy once in my life.
i think that's pretty normal. I understand how you feel and I believe every teenager feels that way at some point at least. What I can say for sure is you will be happier. Eventually you'll give yourself a break and stop over thinking. I hope this helped..
I feel like I don't belong anywhere.. get bored easily.. and never can stick to my goals.. it is really frustrating. But things are getting better as am getting older.. if only I could focus more on what I want and not waste my life on hating myself >.
Yes I do hate myself in those times and I have never been happy I am happy to make other people not to be like me. Others deserve to happy but I don't I am SAMs brother not actually him.
I hate myself when I am having fun, it's just in the back of my mind. It's always there, I just manage to forget about it every once in awhile, there is no escape. I hate my very existence. There is no picking of the thought, it is just an integral part of me, that I am sub par, unworthy of love, unworthy of existence. There is no conditioning that makes me hate myself, I have hated myself since I was very young. My parents were very supportive. I'm just am a horrid excuse for a human being. I will never be worth anything regardless of what society I'm in. It is my fault. I am 100% to blame. I am a subhuman wretch that deserves nothing but hatred. And I can show you that I am worthless, if you just come and talk to me for about five minutes, you'll hate me like everyone else does and should. I should just end this worthless existence of mine, save everybody else the emotional trauma.
It is true that you are not your body Lenna. You have been you in every moment of your life. But your body changes. Who you are, at the core of it, doesn't change. When you don't tell a story about how you're ugly, you don't feel ugly. You need to examine what is ugly and whether it is real and factual. Regardless of what someone's body looks like, if they tell themselves "I am ugly" that creates a feeling. The body doesn't create this feeling, thoughts do.
Thank you so much...This really helped me. Yanno...I just happened to look up "I Hate Myself" and here you are. Keep posting these videos because you never know what could happen. Your videos could save someone's life. Your videos seem more like a counseling session then a "How To" video. That's what I needed. Someone who cares. Thanks a lot again :)
I'm sorry to hear that snowl owl. This video was meant to show you why you hate yourself. But, it doesn't provide the tools to stop hating yourself. Sometimes, when we already hate ourselves, and then recognize that our suffering has only been caused by our own thoughts... it can give us 1 more reason to hate ourselves because we can think "I am stupid for not recognizing that my suffering was created by thoughts". But, then you have the power to examine these thoughts and lose them.
Hi James... yes the media, our parents, our teachers and our societies have taught us many ideas about what is "perfect" and how things "should" be. Then we constantly compare our life to the idea of perfect that we have been taught. But, the interesting thing about it is that even if our life matches our idea of perfect, we will still be unhappy because then we will be worried about losing the perfect appearance, job, house, kids, wife etc.
I hate myself because of my life... I get called names everyday by my family! I look in the mirror and all I see is acne! My point is I hate my looks, and i'm not smart...
IM SO SORRY YOU FEELING THIS WAY LOVELY COME JOIN ME I AM ON A MOTIVATIONAL MOVEMENT JUST STARTED MY CHANNEL WOULD YOU MIND WATCHING AND COMMENTING ON MY VIDEO :-)
Average Boy GOD bless you... I pray you start to view your life as valuable as it really is one day before your life is taken from you being consumed in the hatred you have created for yourself. life isnt easy for most of the world your situation is no exception to the rule there are people dying from cancer right now, kids dying from hunger ,people getting murdered and rapped brutally, innocent lives taken for no reason, so if you think your life is 10x worse cause your handicapped i pray you wake up and appreciate your life and help others in your condition. god blless
Average Boy Average Boy GOD bless you... I pray you start to view your life as valuable as it really is one day before your life is taken from you being consumed in the hatred you have created for yourself. life isnt easy for most of the world your situation is no exception to the rule there are people dying from cancer right now, kids dying from hunger ,people getting murdered and rapped brutally, innocent lives taken for no reason, so if you think your life is 10x worse cause your handicapped i pray you wake up and appreciate your life and help others in your condition. god blless Read more (10 lines)
Hi Cid, it seems that you are aware that as you get unhappier, your urge to get high gets stronger. Basically, getting high is distracting you from the thoughts that make you unhappy. That is why you are able to be happier in those moments. But it is a very temporary fix that often creates more issues. If it hasn't worked at really giving you peace, might as well try something new. And directly address the thoughts that make you unhappy. You can use my 5 steps. The link is in the description.
I said that I had a better chance of making a better difference in the world than they did, and the next day, I said I was sorry, and they forgave me but... I can't forgive myself for saying something so heartless. I don't deserve anything after what I've said. I'm completely unworthy.
I hate myself because I'm ugly , a failure, not good at anything and just a piece of shit daughter to my mom I've not hit my mother but I always talk back and I know when she passes I'll regret what I said to her....
You are amazing man. I learned here more than 30 books I have about self-hatred. In fact, there is nothing to hate about ourselves. There are facts and reality.
I never knew I hated myself, until I realized how much I avoided opportunity to be happy.over the years, I wanted to have meaning relationships, family or friends, but I always have this tiny voice in my head that I'll mess everything up. I found my self undeserving of love, im scared to be hurt again. I never respected myself, I want to change, but I don't have passion in life
I hate myself
I have crooked teeth
I'm lonely
Socially awkward
Make everything worst for myself....
But when you see me
I seem like the happiest person alive
And I had 2 recent bad break ups
To make it even worst
I have hurt my self many times
But stop recently
It's ok stay strong and be happy you even got girlfriends cuz I'm a girl and no one will dat em cuz I don't really know any boys because I go to a all girls school
Jeff Mason my life in a nutshell
Same 😔
Me to
it's sad that I had to look this up
Yeah it’s been pretty rough, I don’t know why I would find this video, kinda did and kinda didn’t help, it’s sucks that I can’t explain more but let’s just say it’s not my fault but at the same time it is... if that makes sense to anyone thank you for understanding if anyone didn’t, I’m sorry.
Samething...
I wish I were dead tbh
Ditto
Hahah I’m lolling bc same
I always do thing I regret. I go home and cry until I dont have any tears left. "Why did I do that?" "What will people think of me?" Im hitting myself in the head a thousand times. I want to fall asleep so I can have a bit of fake hapiness, until I wake up and suddently remember everything.I just want to die.
I'm crying while reading this . I know how you feel 😭
I agree
Same
#metoo. I do dumb shit all the time. But why?
i feel the exact same way, hang in there xo
Can't sleep.. because of self hatred......
Me too
stop
Same
me too..
@@asishould625 stop
I hate myself all the time.
Same
same
same
I stopped enjoying things that used to make me happy cuz I hate myself
Me too
I feel that I am a failure.
My fear of letting everyone down and being a failure made me into the person who gets angry at people who compliment me because I know I'm gonna let them down.
I know that I am a failure. Trust me your not I am. And I’m also ugly, weird and lonely 😭😢🥺😔
stop , its a waste thought
@@pr3sley639 but...I love you. I don't know you but I love you, because I was like you once(last year)
So I can relate
@@unscriptedlogicgames I avoid letting people in because I fear disappointing them
I don't exactly hate myself, I just don't believe in myself. I can't see anything good about me, I don't feel happy about what i do and i can't stop nailing myself down for everything i do. No matter how hard i try, i can't please myself. i don't set the bar to high in anyway, I just don't believe in anything i do. I have no friends, not one. No-one likes me. I try to be happy, but i can't, i try and please others but i can't. Nothing i do has any achievement in my mind.
Thanks for this. It helped.
Hi Douglas, I'm sorry that you've been hating yourself. But, a key misunderstanding is that the way to be happy is to try to think positively about yourself. My recommendation is that you discover there is nothing good or bad about you in reality. You are just there... being. Check out my video about how to deal with depression, it may help
Douglas Phillips No I’m sure there are a lot of people who like you & even love you, you just don’t know it yet. You can achieve anything you want to & you will be exactly where you need to be.. Everything takes time but take it one step at a time, I’m sure there are a lot of good things in you that you haven’t acknowledged but that doesn’t mean they aren’t there. We are all made of good qualities & we are capable of something. Look at the good things you’ve done & believe in yourself.. tell yourself that you have done well. You are good enough, you are worthy.
@@NoahElkrief I feel the same way most days.😭
I hate myself because of acne, very dry skin, a big lump on my forehead (always wear a hat), crooked teeth, not witty or charming, very socially awkward, and I have anxiety all the time. However if you knew me you'd think I was a happy person.
hoody hoo Try watching my depression and how to deal with being ugly video
Learn to accept yourself for who you are, including imperfections. We see people in the media and all around who seem perfect and when we compare our imperfections with theirs we start hating ourself. I've learned to think about the good things about myself and accept the things that I perceive as bad.
It's ok I know
just trying to help but if you know then good for you.
Alina Barron what do you know?
I don't understand. I hate myself every moment, every day. There is never a time I do not hate myself. I can see that it is a thought and yes sometimes I am not always thinking it because I get destracted ..but that doesn't mean I don't always hate myself. I factually do hate myself. if I could play god and change everything about myself I would if I could.
Sarah Perkins if you changed the way you looked you would be the 1st person in the world who is perfect. You should see yourself almost perfect because that is the most perfect you can be. I hope this helps🙂
I hate myself. But I have nothing to complain about. Living in a huge house with a lot of luxury and being healthy, but really, I do hate myself. I have the feeling no one can understand me. My interests, my way of thinking and plenty of other things. While my friends are getting girlfriends it just doesn't happen to me. I am lying to people, even pretending things to myself. It's almost like I am isolating myself from the reality. But yeah, who would give a single fuck...
Death Season Then, what you are saying is you hate yourself because you feel different from others, and you feel like there is something wrong with you because you can't get girlfriends. I suggest watching my how to deal with depression video. I think it will help. Good luck
Andstyggð damn it this sounds like me except I'm girl but I have a nice home my parents are very well off but I still hate myself I always do and say stupid things I am awkward I also have trust issues and my friends don't help i have different interests than them and they make fun of me for it they are also all getting boyfriends
UOG050 same
Same but I hurt everybody around me nobody can last week or two around me I hate myself for not have the courage to kill myself not anybody have the courage to the side what they want
I can relate
*My stupid little self-hate issues*
I just want to accomplish something and help people and become self-reliant, even though the mere thought of it is scary. I hate that I don't live up to my own standards of being productive and helping people, and I hate that I'm supposed to be gifted and have so much potential and yet I'm lazy and I don't even try.
I hate that I hate myself. Hating myself lets down the people who love me and makes me even less self-reliant. I don't trust myself, can't even accept myself. People tell me I'm great and smart and get A's and I know my family loves me and I love them... but I hate myself because I can't be good enough, I can't even say out loud that 'I love myself' because of it all.
I also hate myself because I hate myself, and I can't mock or dismiss the thought because I'm so sick and twisted that I'm almost proud that I hate myself, and I feel like if I were to love myself it would be terribly egotistical. But then I feel like even venting this is selfish. I know it's a distorted perception but if I lost that perception I would lose who I am because it'd be losing what I believe. Please, what do I do?
God, I'm so stupid. Nobody's going to care about the ramblings of a teenage girl. I'm probably just overreacting. I'm not desperate or anything, really. Here I go again, being selfish and asking for help with my little drama before the people with serious problems.
Just ignore me. Look, I'm even seeking attention by saying 'I don't want help' when I genuinely do!!!
Agh, brain, stop talking already! You're just having a late-night breakdown because you're immature n' all that.
edit a loooong time later: hi folks. i completely forgot this thing existed until i got a reply notification. just wanted to say that i still feel this way sometimes. more than sometimes. but it's better, and i recover more quickly.
a big chunk of my self-hate turned out to be gender dysphoria. i'm a guy now; i'm out to most people and i've begun hormone replacement therapy. it took me a long time to get here and there's a long way to go, but i can actually imagine a future where i'm comfortable and secure in my own skin now. so if your self-hating talk contains a lot of stuff about being ugly/monstrous and feeling disgusted with your gender maybe do a little questioning? who knows, there might be something there.
but for everybody else, another huge part of me feeling better came from being open about my feelings. it's kind of the most awful mortifying thing in the world to talk to someone you love about hating yourself, but it can get you out of that mental space. also by talking about your feelings you are admitting they are worth talking about. and (if whoever you talk to is a decent person they will confirm this) your pain is an actual thing that you don't deserve and isn't shameful. i know, shocker. and hey, telling somebody how you feel can be really uncomfortable, but at least if you turn out to be queer like me it's practice for coming out lol
I hate myself like you
I understand you, I hate myself too, I have such low self esteem, I don't accept myself, I'm scared of doing things and it's messed me up big time, I care so much about what people think and it angers me, I get very sad sometimes when I think about it all and what I did in the past. I think of all the things I should've done and said but I was too afraid and I'm still too afraid. I'm tired of being so fucking weak and I hate being like this, and I don't want people to pity me, I just want to change, I've tried to change before and it's worked but only for a very small time, there are times I felt a little hint of confidence but most of the time I feel like I'm a horrible person. I feel like I bother people or make people ashamed of me, I feel guilty too. I really do want to change, I really do wanna love myself, I'd rather be extremely cocky than extremely weak and self concious about everything, at least I'd get things done when I'm cocky because then I'd believe in myself and then I wouldn't give a fuck about people, I could care less.
All of this gets me extremely upset, I feel angry most of the time, and I feel like I've gotten worse, I feel like I've gotten even more self concious than before. But I do understand how you feel, I completely understand, and maybe, hopefully we'll get out of this, I mean we both are teenagers, and being a teen is tough with all these emotions but I've been emotional ever since I was a kid, I've always had emotional issues it's just now as a teen I feel very very self concious about my looks, I've been paying attention to that more. I just wanna love myself one day.
Kara Hill yeah I hope we get out of this soon, usually young people care so much and hate themselves a lot, probably cuz of hormones and shit. Once you get older I think you stop giving a shit and just start to feel more comfortable in your skin. I would love to finally be comfortable with myself and be happy with who I am, I'd be the happiest person in the world :) and you're right, forgetting about it or trying to ignore by doing activities does help a lot, like excersing or drawing, doing active stuff relieves a lot of stress and it makes you feel better.
Kara Hill what. I don't get it? I mean we were just talking about how much we hate ourselves and you're saying this weird stuff that makes no sense? Lol
Kara Hill I understand, I don't know what to say either in conversations, we can all list tons of reasons to hate ourselves, it's quite sad actually.
We very often keep hurting ourselves on many levels and thus attract others that do the same ..a viscous circle..releasing the need to withhold love and consideration from ourselves is the way the way forward Its a real journey given the fact those patterns have been stored in our subconscious It figures its gonna take time to make the shift and that my friends is an ongoing process ..I wish you well..❤
I wish this help me but it did not
Eventually you come to the realization that no mentoring, medication, lifestyle changes, nor anything even magical like wishing can prevent your thoughts, BUT knowing that **you aren’t** your thoughts creates power to entertain the one’s which get you how you like to imagine yourself. Like he said when “i hate myself” only exists as a thought, do not choose to believe. But nothing i just said matters because myself just reminded myself that i wish to not exist :)))))
Same here.
It might be good advice for the majority of people who only experience self-hatred occasionally, those whose problems are resolved in the course of a Hallmark holiday special
But for those of us traumatized since early childhood, this advice tastes like a non-nutritive sweetener
Me too.!! I hate myself, because myself keeps making horrible mistakes, decisions with thinking ahead. I did so much harm to myself... I cannot forgive myself, and.... im suffering the consequences of my actions, thoughts, my mouth, decisions....
When he said "when you play with your friends"...I don't have friends
I feel that, I can relate hardcore
play video games online ^^
Serious SK imagine having friends lol must b nice
Me neither
Good advice but I still really do hate myself, I wish I was not in this world
Can you please tell me why you feel that way? There has to be a reason..
You still alive?
Same
Same
Same
I generally feel like I'm a boring person that is uncapable of making jokes or stuff like that. And I know it is a thought. Now my question is: should I believe this thought? On one hand I shouldn't, because it doesn't do anything good for me. But on the other hand, I think I should, because I have many experiences that prove that I am, in general, boring.
Nikola Angelov There is no such thing as boring, you talk loud sometimes, and sometimes soft. you tell jokes sometimes, and sometimes don't. you have energy sometimes, and sometimes don't. if you claim that any of those are "boring", you are defining them as bad. Then you are saying because you act that way in some moments, it is who you are. Clap for a few seconds. Now stop. Are you a clapper?
Noah Elkrief I understand what you are saying. And no, if you clap for some seconds you are not a clapper. But I think that if you clap frequently than people will consider a clapper. That doesn''t mean that you should feel bad just because people label you something. But I think it is important to acknowledge what people will think of you, so you can know how people think you should behave.
Nikola Angelov That's the problem, you shouldn't have to worry about how people think you should behave. That's where the thoughts come in, you start thinking 'I wonder how this person thought of me" and ect. Just be you and stop impressing people.
King Minty FiddleSticks What I meant was that you shouldn't have a problem with what you are, but it can be useful to know what effect you make on people.
Nikola Angelov But why should you have to make an affect on someone? is it required?
I hate myself because I allowed my own self to be taken
away. The person I believe I could have been. A allowed that person to be taken
away. I didn’t show the courage to stop this. I didn’t realize the consequences
to be paid later in life. I don’t mind what I brought upon myself, but the person
I thought I could have been would enhance those around me lives so much. So
today they deal with a broken person and I can never forgive myself for doing
that to them.
Its never too late!
this resonates with me so much... what were the consequences you have paid?
It's going to be ok...
We're going to survive..
They'll survive, too.
Just keep living, and it's going to get better.
..We're gonna be ok.
This video really calmed me down, I feel really bad about comparing myself to people and I feel bad about my weight and how clothes fit me. I want to feel comfident about my looks but it's hard when I see everyone around me being legitimately half my size
You might also find these videos helpful:
1) How To Deal With Depression - Tactics That Work Immediately
2) How To Stop Feeling Depression - Instant Relief From Depression
3) How To Love Yourself - The Permanent Way
4) How To Deal With Loneliness... Right Now
5) How To Forgive Yourself - How To Stop Feeling Guilty
Thanks!!!
N I wanted to know about some good and inspirational books if u could help
+Raveena Sachdev read his book it's amazing.
+Noah Elkrief thank you! the depression video really help getting me out of it!
i was so sad and upset that i did not know what ton get joy back.
I DONT CARE 😿 I MISS MY BOYFRIEND I MISS CHRISTINE I LOVED HIM BUT I WENT TO A another school and now he hates me they left him
my friends they hate to some of them 😖 I'm paranoid but when I think of it I MISS them too
This video really opened my eyes. I was suffering depression, but came to the conclusion that depression is nothing but thoughts that pop up in you're head that aren't even true.
Every time I get close to a friend they always throw me to the curb and find someone else to replace me and honestly, it hurts a lot. Its happened almost every year for about 7 years and my best friend now always says she won't leave me, but I just don't trust anyone anymore. If I do and I tell them something important I feel like they'll leave. I guess I think I'm protecting myself but I always feel bad that I don't tell my friend anything. I've always looked at myself as being less then everyone else since it started because I thought something was wrong with me and that was why they were leaving. I've hated myself for so long but i think this video actually helped me. Thank you so so much!
kingdom_of_alex You're welcome, glad it helped. Try my videos about relationships as well (even though you're talking about friends)
y'all I hate myself all the time
Me too
I hear that!
Strawberry Princess I saw you before
Yea, like, even when I'm dancing. How does this help?
stop
I hate my life so much that almost every day I curse myself.
Same
Please don't do that. I hope you are doing well now. No matter what happened or for whatever reason you hate yourself know that your are good enough. I used to hate myself, but learned to love every part of me, be gentle to my body that is the "suit" of our soul and that takes cares of us no matter how mean we are to it, have some goals written down and spreading kindness.
Self-hatred has become a strange comfort to me over the years. I reject myself before others can. Part of me enjoys thinking about blowing myself away, knowing the world will go on. In the cosmic sense, my life is nil anyway.
i will stop hating myself when i achieve my goals.
Mountain Ash nope
I will stop hating myself when the world forgets I ever was.
I can't stop hating myself. :'(
+sxysparton Don't give up. You are not alone.
I only saw the first 2 min and realise i hate myself in every moment and will always do and the video cant change how i feel ..
+Linn Ahlskog same /:
Linn Ahlskog me too
I don't hate myself all the time but his method still doesn't work for me. His way of thinking about it just doesn't click. Onto the next thing I guess...
same😔
I dont think im good enough, I don't fit in. I don't feel happy ever. But when you see me I am the happiest happy go lucky person there can be.
But I am not
I am miserable
I hate myself because I feel like everyone else does when they probably don't. I never get invited to things with my friends, when I see photos of them together I cry because I feel so lonely
oh-yugyeom I have the same problem but they do hate me and I know they do. They all leave me out, give me dirty looks , leave me by myself and make me feel small. My mum says "hangout with other friends " and I tell her I can't because they all hangout together but only a few (like 3 or 4) don't but I feel like if I tell them they hate me and all that they'll tell them. For me it's gone on for ages and now most nights I cry myself to sleep sometimes 😭😔 but my point is I understand how you feel.
Caitlin Kay if they do that they're not really your friends. Smile and be happy 😊 that may help you find new friends who actually care about you. Maybe even I could be your friend, you seem like a nice person 😁😁
oh-yugyeom why do you care about people who don't care about you?
I’m in the same boat as you girl.
I had this same problem.. You will be suprised that you will find out years later the reasons why they leave you out is usually they feel threatened by you. You may be more attractive then them, more intelligent, so you may make them look not so smart. They may reject you because their own self esteem and they need to it because it give them control when they dont have control in other areas of their life. You need to stop trying to get your acceptance from people who arnt worthy of you anyway
For those being suffered, please be noticed that you are not the only one. Everyone at some point in their life will share the same feeling with you. No one on earth can say he/she is always the righteous one. Keep your eyes on the bigger world and soon you will find out this emotional downturn is kinda notion of self-awareness. You are not ignorant. You are a real human. It's good for your betterment in the future.
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I hate myself what feels like 98% of my waking day. I'm 48, lost my marriage of 22yrs, 18 yr old son doesn't want to see or speak to me, financially broken, no friends, struggle mentally at work, sleeping in my mom's living room, can't stop thinking of suicide...hate myself so much for my behavior and choices of my life. I can't see the good in my life. I just want out of this world.
I'm so sorry to read your story. And although I am a stranger, and I can never fully appreciate all the events that have occurred in your life, I hope the you can understand my message and remember that life is full of peaks and troughs. You are at a low right now, and may have been for a while. But take a look at each problem objectively, and try and plan how to fix it, and hold on to what you love, like your mother, and what you are good at.
I doubt it will be much consolation, but I am 19 and fall out with my parents a lot. But I will always love them. I'm sure your son will show his love again, please give it time. You aren't alone, and help will be found for those who need it.
***** Thank you for the support and kind words
The facts are that society taught me that cellulite and stretch marks are bad and now I hate myself :( They're not "just thoughts" if I can see it in the mirror
+Emily Hawkins "cellulite and stretch marks are ugly/bad" is not a fact. It's a stupid opinion. So your cellulite might be there, but there is no "bad" cellulite. There is no "good" cellulite. It just is what it is.
+ece s I know, and it's so stupid that it's all demonized by society, but now I see it and no matter how many times I tell myself and tell others that it's completely normal and not bad, I can't seem to let it go for my own body. I can't friggin get over it and it's driving me crazy. I've had stretch marks since I was 10 :(
It's all in your head.. I also have stretch marks but I never really cared about it... I have other things like I don't like my face and hate my smile.. I have a long way to go till I accept myself
I also have strech marks and I´m a dude,i got 'em on my back and I always keep my shirt on when I go to swim,which I love but I just can not help but get self concious
Hi Emily, I'm a male....42. I have felt ugly for a really really long time...stretch marks...balding...sometimes our human condition doesn't always bring us what we want 😓. But you are worth something....love. 🌹♥️
I dunno, man. Telling people their problems don't really exist isn't a good way to seek a solution. If someone hates themselves, they have to have a reason they think is valid. Start from there. There's nothing wrong with a little self-examination, so long as it's tempered with objective analysis and not subjective emotion. "I hate myself because I'm _______." Okay, let's look at that blank and see if it's something you need to change about yourself. If so, then let's figure out how to change it. If not, let's figure out how to accept it.
Pokerface well this video helped me a lot and your comment did not. you have no idea
+Audrey Lawrence Well, this video didn't really help me much. I hate myself, but I really do believe that I have good reasons to. It's not because I'm ugly, or unsuccessful, or shy, or anything of the sort. I understand that it helped you, and I'm happy for you. However, I know I'm not the only one that didn't get a lot of help from this. I think the only way I can really fix my problem is by changing.
Actually this vid helped me more than telling me I need to either change or accept myself. Because honestly, Idk how to do either.
Hi James, I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Normally when we think that a "bad" event is our fault, we tend to feel guilty. Then, we continue to feel guilty because we believe "I deserve to be punished for what I did", "guilt and sadness means I care about the victim", and "it would be selfish not to feel guilty". Because of these beliefs, we actually try to stay unhappy and hating ourselves. But none of these beliefs are true. To see this for yourself, try my free web app (in description)
I've been on youtube for 7 years.. never have I encountered such a well spoken, intelligent man in my life until this video. WOW. Probably the most brightest youtuber on youtube history..just a thought ;)
Abigail Dapaah haha I'm glad you found the video to be clear.
Brown 👃ing
I hate this guy
Hi Matt, I'm glad that the video was able to make things clearer for you. I often see that hating oneself can act as a catalyst to examining one's thoughts which leads to an incredibly peaceful life
I dispise myself and there is no getting better
I shed a tear after all of this, finding that he said some of the things I think about myself and am told by other people.
"I'm sure there are some breaks in there when you don't hate yourself". Bwaaahaaahaaaahaaa. Okay.
My fave comment 🤣
Thank you for making this video. It didn’t do much help but it’s still good. Well when I’m mad I just put random Hate poems in my. Savings.
"When you're having fun do you hate yourself?"
You fail to take into account that it is possible to reach a point where you literally never enjoy yourself, and the "when you're with friends" really digs it in for people that don't have those. I couldn't watch much longer than 60 seconds because you were actually making me more depressed and I didn't want to go catatonic.
Though I suppose I'm stupid for thinking an 11 minute video would correct what 20 years of therapy hasn't. To answer the question though, YES I hate myself ALL THE TIME.
It's such a relief to hear that bad thoughts and mistakes from them are not my fault. Beating myself up feels really bad..
I think for me it’s gotten to the point I can’t even stand to look at myself in the mirror.
Me too
I do hate myself in all of those moments, you just made me hate myself even more because now I know I'm worse off than normal people who hate themselves, but not when they're watching TV. Unhelpful.
Watching this in 2019 and still has not cured my depression!
I notice how gentle and empathetic you are with your delivery..Thank you for trying to help us question our life histories and be through mindfulness in the present.
I've beaten myself up and ruminated about arguments and the past for years but now it's really starting to affect me. My thoughts are so negative that it's almost impossible to think positively and when I try to make a conscious effort to do so I feel so much resistance. Between disliking so much things about me and how my mind works I feel like I'm in a trap. Even when I'm in a good frame of mind I still find myself thinking negatively but the thoughts don't really affect me at that point. When I feel down my mind is vulnerable and I think all sorts of fearful and negative thoughts. I really want to permanently being my state of being from the negative type to the positive type and be confident enough to maintain it versus caving into my thoughts and emotions all the damn time.
Whenever that happens, focus yourself on improving something you like about yourself. You will feel better knowing you can.
I've been throught that, and by doing so, I learnt that there is nothing I like more about myself than self improvement and self discovery. You'll learn it by time. But only if you do so: your mind will realize it through experience and gain.
Don't worry, the hardest part is to begin and to continue until you see the improvements ;).
Azolot Loner
I appreciate the input. Yeah starting is always the hardest but I guess since I thought my way into a negative state I can think and act my way into a healthy and positive state.
I hate myself because i am always trying to be a good person and I have big ears which causes me to get bullied and I’m short which also causes me to get bullied, I’m on the brink of expulsion because I go on my phone in class and I have a crush on somebody but when I built up the confidence over two years she said that I was ugly and she would never date someone like me, the next day I found out that she had a crush on my best friend in the entire world who I would do anything for and my family lives in poverty.
People are always asking me why i always have my head down and I tell them that it’s just a habit but in reality it’s that I’m so skinny that I hate to even look at my weak little arms.
Back to the person who is my best friend in the whole world, I always wish I was him to the point where I always ask to go to his house because he is so rich (both his parents are surgeons) and he always comes to school with an iphoneXR and a Apple Watch, I just wish that I could ever be like him
I sometimes try to act like everything is okay, but whenever I think of reasons to be happy, I find none,
I had a class presentation yesterday and I tried to walk up to the front of the classroom acting confident but as I was walking up I tripped and burst out into tears
I wish that I was better and could be better
this just calmed me down from the overwhelming suicidal thoughts.
Thank you so much
why thinking of suicide?
+Abdelaziz Abid lol prob cause she subconsciously knows the Jews and Antichrist are manipulating the world to take it over. oh and you feel what you project. if you hate a lot you'll feel hate and anger. "love is the only truth everything else is an illusion."
@@Coyote_boa lol
Self hatred is the most difficult thing I've ever delt with, and I've felt it as long as i have memories. It strikes when you need it least. For instance, I've told myself a dozen times this morning I'm weak and pathetic for looking up these videos. But, over 35 years, I've learned when i deal with the vitriol in order to learn or achieve something that it would normally prevent
Thank you for this video
I hate myself very, very much. I feel like, I'm a mistake, like I shouldnt have existed. For me, Im the only bad person in the planet. I would rather be anyone else.
Everytime I do something wrong, I insult myself. I think to myself that I'm stupid and useless, and that I'm just an obstacle to everyone. I want to kill myself, but I'm too much of a coward to actually do it. So I just cut myself. When I cut myself , I feel like Im doing the right thing. Like I'm punishing myself for all the mistakes I've done. I want to stop it, but I dont seem able to do so. Everytime I do something wrong, that's the first thing that comes to my mind. I grab a knife and go to the bathroom, and depending how many mistakes I've made, changes how many times I cut.
I have great friends. I have great friends that I dont' deserve. When I'm with them I feel bad. Like I shouldnt be with them, like I dont deserve them. I'm thankfull that they want to be with me, and I'm terirified at the idea that they'll leave me. They are the only perople that make my life worth living. I'm jealous and overprotective, and that annoys them. They also fight a lot with each other, and I'm scared that they'll separate.
I dont know what to do :( If they leave me, I dont see any point on living. (Sorry if my english is not good ;-;)
Hey! How are you doing now?
This is so important. To understand the conditioning from childhood that creates our thoughts. Stop believe your thoughts!
What if you DO hate yourself during all of those fun times too?
Thank you for this. Many don't understand that when you truly feel this way about yourself, you really can't help it. Self loathing is a painful thing to go through and I feel when people know you hate yourself, it pushes them away and makes them view you negatively. This adds fuel to the fire. Personally, I don't want to hate myself, I want to seem more confident, attractive, etc. but I really can't help the thoughts and feelings I have. Thank you for meeting this with compassion and understanding.
Tbh I hate myself because I act like a weirdo
Being weird is good if everyone was "normal" this world would be boring it's the "weirdos" who make this world fun, if your the so called perfect person then you are boring. I'm weird aswell but I dont care it's a good thing 👍😀
The thing that almost every depressed person relates to, is...
When someone _else_ is depressed you want to help them, because you know how being _"worthless"_ is.
It makes me hate myself even more when i hear some barf bag talk about loving yourself when i already feel like dying
I feel like such a disappointment to this world almost everyday.
Hi Nichole, I understand. This is not about liking yourself. Hating yourself is having a negative thought about yourself. Liking yourself is having a positive thought about yourself. When you are engaging in some sort of hobby or watching, you won't be thinking at all. So there is no positive thoughts or negative thoughts. Then you will not suffer in that moment. But that is not a permanent solution. If you want to be happy, you have to disbelieve your thoughts. To do this, see my comment below.
This man must have a boss level chill
He's a hateful moron.
lol
I hate myself because i feel like im fake but the real me at the same time. Im disgusted by myself, my past, my thoughts and my actions.
I feel sad that I even had to search for this. 💔
Oh wow i don't hate myself anymore because i am too busy hating Noah for being so condescending.
My lips are too small, I'm too fat, my waist is huge, I have man shoulders😥, my smile is stupid, and the worst for last my feet are gigantic!😭 I've hated myself for all my life and it's not possible for me to stop! I hate myself more, and more everyday! I eat less than I used to!😡 I will NEVER STOP HATING MYSELF!😭😡😭
Nickole E.- Thank your mother for bringing you into this life and for even having a mom to support you and take care of you when you are down on yourself. No one is 100% perfect and you are beautiful in every way just like you are on the inside.
Me too
the way it went for me is that I cried a lot and wished I had a friend as sweet and amazing as you are thank you
Not any of these reasons are why I hate myself.. So this video didn't really help.
For me it's simply that I screw everything up. I keep lying to people, even my friends- myself too. Because I'm too weak to stand for the truth. I keep hurting everyone I'm close to. Then I isolate myself and get mad at myself for feeling lonely and pitying myself.
Binova Art Try my depression video
I did and tried to stop the thoughts, but I could do was distract myself from them. But I don't have time to do the fun things all the time, do I?
I can’t stand mirrors. Haven’t looked in one in weeks because when I do sink into the deepest depression with vile thoughts of self loathing and think of ways of destroying myself.
I personally feel self hatred because I am gay,but I don't want to admit it,because I feel like if i do.i will be caving in to the anti gay sentiment towards people like me,even though I have come out to myself.
eren luin theres no reason to hate yourself
Ty Donaldson thanks for your concern.
eren luin if someone does dislike you for being gay they are not in the right mind and you should be proud of your self and how much you expressed to your self that your are gay and you should be proud of yourself for admitting it.🙂
eren luin I think that you should be yourself even if other people don't like it. If you want to be gay, that's okay 👌🏻 I think that's a good idea if you like it😊 . Just be yourself and ignore those losers who hate you
I'm trans, and I feel you so much
wow it really hit me when you said ''its not your fault that you hate yourself'' :'(
I don't have the best life, the most exciting and the most loved/loving life... But I want it, so I'm a newly student to loving myself... I want to love myself. I want to learn to appreciate what I have.
Thank you Noah xx
If you hate everything does that mean that you hate yourself
I love this video! Thank you for opening my sleepy eyes. Life for me will be much better now because I realize for the first time (I'm 65 now) the simplicity of recognizing my thoughts! They are not always mine! Incredible, my beliefs (taught to me, when I had no choice) betrayed me! I didn't realize any of this. I've been so blinded, thanks so very much! I just let myself off the hook--knowing I'll have to do it again tomorrow but that is ok, it's actually wonderful! 😎
By hating myself i become insecure and thats why I can’t do anything in class
I hate myself because of my laugh, the way I talk, the way I text, I hate it when I breath into the phone when I'm talking to people, I hate how my ex makes me what to be normal because he thinks girls are annoying and they laugh to much, I hate the way I think about my friends and how I talk about them behind their backs, I hate myself because I'm weird, I hate my normal self person, I hate the way I look, I hate myself life doesn't make since to me I don't like my body I don't believe I have accepted myself for who I am.
Excuse my English and my spelling, please. I have a big problem about myself. I hate myself because everyday, I overthink and I remembered a certain moment in that day that made me feel bad because I made this mistake, I made this thing wrong... and it keeps going and going until I feel that I hate myself and I want to die!! I hate it and I don't know what is happening, it keeps getting worse everyday and I want it to stop. I'm just a teen and I want to live a normal life but I can't because of this thing, these thoughts that always come out... it's horrible. When I wake up in the morning, I feel bad about myself but I don't know why. I start to remember the things that happend the day before and maybe I did something wrong that makes me feel mad, but then I remember that there's nothing wrong but I still feel odd. Is this some kind of phase? Or what? I need help. I don't know if this is normal. I just want to feel happy once in my life.
i think that's pretty normal. I understand how you feel and I believe every teenager feels that way at some point at least. What I can say for sure is you will be happier. Eventually you'll give yourself a break and stop over thinking. I hope this helped..
+melaninja barr thanks... it helped alot.
You're welcome Kirsty. I'm glad that my video was useful for you.
still hate myself :/
I feel like I don't belong anywhere.. get bored easily.. and never can stick to my goals.. it is really frustrating. But things are getting better as am getting older.. if only I could focus more on what I want and not waste my life on hating myself >.
Yes I do hate myself in those times and I have never been happy I am happy to make other people not to be like me. Others deserve to happy but I don't I am SAMs brother not actually him.
I really wish I could believe this... but I still hate myself & I don’t know how to get past it.
I'm not the one in the profile pic that's my older sister. And I hate myself and I want to die but I don't want to hurt my family by diying:(
I hate myself when I am having fun, it's just in the back of my mind. It's always there, I just manage to forget about it every once in awhile, there is no escape.
I hate my very existence. There is no picking of the thought, it is just an integral part of me, that I am sub par, unworthy of love, unworthy of existence. There is no conditioning that makes me hate myself, I have hated myself since I was very young. My parents were very supportive. I'm just am a horrid excuse for a human being. I will never be worth anything regardless of what society I'm in. It is my fault. I am 100% to blame. I am a subhuman wretch that deserves nothing but hatred. And I can show you that I am worthless, if you just come and talk to me for about five minutes, you'll hate me like everyone else does and should. I should just end this worthless existence of mine, save everybody else the emotional trauma.
I am 22 and look like I'm 40. What is there to love about that?
The Batman thank you but that's just the face. My body is thick-curvy and most people think that's not attractive :(
Maddie C people should not judge you by your looks it's what matters in your heart and how much of a nice person you are.🙂
oh sorry, I forgot that your face is NOT part of you, my mistake.
just lose some weight, bitch, you would look like a movie start, you are born very beautiful!
I honestly dt understand why you are bitching, SMH.
It is true that you are not your body Lenna. You have been you in every moment of your life. But your body changes. Who you are, at the core of it, doesn't change. When you don't tell a story about how you're ugly, you don't feel ugly. You need to examine what is ugly and whether it is real and factual. Regardless of what someone's body looks like, if they tell themselves "I am ugly" that creates a feeling. The body doesn't create this feeling, thoughts do.
Thank you, I'm at a time that i just need to hear that everythings ok. I just needed to hear it
Jordan Russell You're welcome Jordan
Thank you so much...This really helped me. Yanno...I just happened to look up "I Hate Myself" and here you are. Keep posting these videos because you never know what could happen. Your videos could save someone's life. Your videos seem more like a counseling session then a "How To" video. That's what I needed. Someone who cares. Thanks a lot again :)
I hate myself. I hate my face and body. Just er everything about me tbh
I'm sorry to hear that snowl owl. This video was meant to show you why you hate yourself. But, it doesn't provide the tools to stop hating yourself. Sometimes, when we already hate ourselves, and then recognize that our suffering has only been caused by our own thoughts... it can give us 1 more reason to hate ourselves because we can think "I am stupid for not recognizing that my suffering was created by thoughts". But, then you have the power to examine these thoughts and lose them.
Thanks u .i am crying .
Hi James... yes the media, our parents, our teachers and our societies have taught us many ideas about what is "perfect" and how things "should" be. Then we constantly compare our life to the idea of perfect that we have been taught. But, the interesting thing about it is that even if our life matches our idea of perfect, we will still be unhappy because then we will be worried about losing the perfect appearance, job, house, kids, wife etc.
this is stupid. distracting myself does not make me hate myself less...
Truth! Its good to know that I'm not the only one that struggles with self-loathing, anxiety and depression
I just suck at everything I provide nothing
Same
I relapsed after a year and a half clean today but hearing this calms me down a lot, thank you
I hate myself because of my life... I get called names everyday by my family! I look in the mirror and all I see is acne! My point is I hate my looks, and i'm not smart...
but I feels good to write/type it down..
IM SO SORRY YOU FEELING THIS WAY LOVELY COME JOIN ME I AM ON A MOTIVATIONAL MOVEMENT JUST STARTED MY CHANNEL WOULD YOU MIND WATCHING AND COMMENTING ON MY VIDEO :-)
Average Boy GOD bless you... I pray you start to view your life as valuable as it really is one day before your life is taken from you being consumed in the hatred you have created for yourself. life isnt easy for most of the world your situation is no exception to the rule there are people dying from cancer right now, kids dying from hunger ,people getting murdered and rapped brutally, innocent lives taken for no reason, so if you think your life is 10x worse cause your handicapped i pray you wake up and appreciate your life and help others in your condition. god blless
Average Boy
Average Boy GOD bless you... I pray you start to view your life as valuable as it really is one day before your life is taken from you being consumed in the hatred you have created for yourself. life isnt easy for most of the world your situation is no exception to the rule there are people dying from cancer right now, kids dying from hunger ,people getting murdered and rapped brutally, innocent lives taken for no reason, so if you think your life is 10x worse cause your handicapped i pray you wake up and appreciate your life and help others in your condition. god blless
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Hi Cid, it seems that you are aware that as you get unhappier, your urge to get high gets stronger. Basically, getting high is distracting you from the thoughts that make you unhappy. That is why you are able to be happier in those moments. But it is a very temporary fix that often creates more issues. If it hasn't worked at really giving you peace, might as well try something new. And directly address the thoughts that make you unhappy. You can use my 5 steps. The link is in the description.
This was usless
I said that I had a better chance of making a better difference in the world than they did, and the next day, I said I was sorry, and they forgave me but... I can't forgive myself for saying something so heartless. I don't deserve anything after what I've said. I'm completely unworthy.
Hi Nostalgic, please watch my video about how to forgive yourself. Good luck!
Okay. Thanks. b('u'd)
Noah Elkrief Okay. Thanks. b('u'd)
Btw, that was insanely quick reply. I didn't even think you would. xD
I hate myself because I'm ugly , a failure, not good at anything and just a piece of shit daughter to my mom I've not hit my mother but I always talk back and I know when she passes I'll regret what I said to her....
I feel the exact same :( I wish I could be born again and could change my mistakes , or Mabye not come back at all .
Kyle Duffy the good thing about your mistakes is you learn from them and that's what makes you a stronger person
+stella b they haven't made me stronger, I've lost too many "friends" stupid things
+Kyle Duffy then they're not your real friends
+stella b :( too hard to explain
You are amazing man. I learned here more than 30 books I have about self-hatred.
In fact, there is nothing to hate about ourselves.
There are facts and reality.
If you don't cry a little while watching this then you really don't hate yourself. Needed to see this though. Thanks
I didn't cry because I cannot cry. My OCD medication has taken away everything except my depression.
Nicholas Vetter I did
Nicholas Vetter I'm not a very emotional person so I don't cry very easily
If I cried every time someone gave me advice, I'd be crying all the time. People experience things differently.
I did cry
I never knew I hated myself, until I realized how much I avoided opportunity to be happy.over the years, I wanted to have meaning relationships, family or friends, but I always have this tiny voice in my head that I'll mess everything up. I found my self undeserving of love, im scared to be hurt again. I never respected myself, I want to change, but I don't have passion in life