I used your method almost 2 years ago with my little boy when he was 4 months old and it worked sooo well with him! He was stubborn but I stuck it out and it was the best decision of my life. Now I share your video with anyone who asks how to get their child to sleep through the night. ❤️
So pretty much in short, feed them, put them in their bed, let them cry for a bit, come back in and shush them, leave again, keep doing this until they sleep
I did this, but never looked at it as sleep training. Just knew they needed their sleep, and so did I. I love that you, and others have a name for this.
Hi Elle, I have been following you for a year now and I just wanted to say a big THANK YOU under this video that I watched when my firstborn arrived in March 2018. Your advice worked like magic! He is almost 3 months old now and has been sleeping a solid 10 to 11 hours every night for the past 2 months. He is a happy and content baby 😊 Thank you so much again for sharing your life with us. You are an inspiration. Love from France
Hi, I'm a mom to 3 now young adults (born in 1995, 1996 and 2001). What you say in your video is exactly what I did and I feel completely in line with you. Children of any age need to know "who is the boss" - not meaning dominating them, but LEADING them. And this is even true with my 2 girls, aged 22 and 20 today: they're not yet economically autonomous so their parents still have their say about some topics in their lives. Also, our youngsters RESPECT me because they feel that I'm able to stand up for my own needs, too. And they are able to RESPECT THEMSELVES. Well done, keep on track!
I implemented this right from the get go when my baby was 4 days. The 5 hour sleep stretch is the key in those early days. It totally worked! Now my baby is almost 5 months and whenever there is a sleep regression due to teething, travelting etc i redo the sleep training steos and everything falls back in place. Thank you Elle!!
This was great, I have been researching "how to put your baby to sleep" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Ever heard of - Qeysaiah Baby Bangka - (search on google ) ? Ive heard some interesting things about it and my mate got amazing results with it.
This was great, I been tryin to find out about "baby to sleep on their own" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Ever heard of - Qeysaiah Baby Bangka - (do a search on google ) ? Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my m8 got amazing success with it.
This was great, thanks, been searching for "getting baby sleep through the night" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about - Qeysaiah Baby Bangka - (do a google search ) ? Ive heard some decent things about it and my work buddy got great success with it.
Thanks Elle! Your video convinced my wife to tough it out and give our 9 month old a try. Only took less than 30 min. I was in the room doing my thing. Wife was downstairs. This beats holding the baby for 2 hours until my wife's arms and back break + sleep deprivation.
I just tried my first time sleep training my 8 month old baby tonight using this videos tips. It took exactly 18 min with a pick up to comfort in between and it's only going to get better. For those saying you shouldn't let your baby cry, it's only for a few minutes at a time for 5 days probably less. You should know if your baby really needs attending to. I suppose it's really just routine. Best video ever! Definately sharing this to family and friends.
Best video ever! Our son started sleep regressions around 4 months after sleeping the through the night with no problems. We suffered through 6 weeks of sleeping a couple of hours a night and we were both at our wit's end. We research about dozen videos and liked this one the most. 9 MINUTES!!! IT TOOK 9 MINUTES OF LETTING HIM CRY AND HE SLEPT THROUGH THE NIGHT!!! That was March 2017 and I can count on one hand the number of nights we've had to get up with him since then! Thank you so much, Elle!
Sleep training night one, it's so hard hearing him cry but 8 months without a whole night of sleep has me needing to do this for both of us. Thanks for your tips. I used it to keep busy between going in to check on him ❤️ Finally, he's sleeping. Night one....
We are going to start sleep training our 11 month old tonight! Super nervous but we all need it!! She wakes up about 4 times a nights!! So ready to get our sleep back! I'm super nervous!!! But I'm going to stay strong!
You said it best! It's a very LOVING thing to do, to teach your child to sleep. Good sleep is so important for health and helps everyone in the family.
Thank you so much! The 1st night was okay, but *spoiler alert* nights 2 & 3 were hard and apparently that is common. Last night, night 5, he slept over 9.5 hours! If it wasn't time for me to get up for work and feed him, I'm sure he would have slept even longer! Thank you, thank you, thank you!!
Starting this today! My 2 1/2 year old has never slept in her own bed and my 9 month old still nurses all night long. After a week of 3-4 hours of sleep, I’m fed up and want them in their own beds and rooms asap! Thanks for the tips!
It’s worked!!!!!!! My 10 month old daughter who was breastfed would wake up 5-6 times a night just to nurse for like a minute and then I would have to carefully lay her back. First day, (her 2nd nap in the afternoon) she cried for about 30-45 minute off and on. She fell asleep and it lasted for 10 minutes. When it was time for bed, she cried 3 minutes!!! My husband and I couldn’t believe it! She woke once that night at 1am and cried for about 2 minutes and then it stopped..I went in and checked and she had put herself back to sleep and didn’t wake up until 8:30 when I went in and woke her up. All naps on the second day she cried a MAX of 3-5 minutes. 2nd night she slept all night long! I am amazed! Thank you for making this video!
Thank you!!!! Your video helped me so much. I was finally ready for my baby to stop sleeping with us, but I didn't know how to do it. I followed your instructions and IT WORKED!! I'm so happy. He is finally sleeping through the night. (He was nursing about 6 times at night) Thank you!! Thank you!!
Omg my daughter is 3months and i totally know the struggle of waking up 6times a night!!! I am really hoping this works, im gonna try it starting tonight!
This is totally on point! My son Kieran is 8 weeks old and we have him napping and going to bed for the night at the same time as his older sisters who are 2.5 and 1.5. He still wakes a few times at night but goes right back to sleep after feeding. Sleep training has been a life saver for us... There is no way I would survive having 3 kids without everyone getting sleep. Love your channel and your family! :-)
Thank you so much for this video Elle. Tried this on my 8months old baby who wakes up 4-6times to breastfeed overnight and wakes up at every slightest noise.Well, all that is in the past now😄 I am super excited to say he now sleeps for straight 10-12hrs without waking up for feeds from the 2nd day. He cried so much on the first day though but just a little on the 2nd day. It took him just 2days to get used to it. God bless you for sharing this with us😘😘
Thank you thank you thank you for this video! My daughter was sleep trained from the very beginning and then teething started around 6 1/2 months. She would only fall asleep with me in the bed. We resorted to letting her sleep in our bed because we couldn't fight the fight anymore. Bad idea! She's now 8.5 months and fully trained in 3 days! She doesn't even wake up at 3am for her night feed! We have our bed back and couldn't be happier. Sharing this video with all my co-sleeping mommy friends!
This saved my life! No joke, i was going nuts. Thanks for saying it’s ok to pick them up. So many sleep training techniques are sooo against that and it was making sleep training harder for us. Took us a good week and now our bedtime routine went from the most dreaded part of my day to my absolute favorite!
You have some really good advice and some not so good. The science behind baby cry is proven and it can actually change their nerve system, the way they bond with people later in life, their trust (or lack of it) to people, etc. I have 3mo old and I've never let him "cry out". Babies don't cry for no reason. They're helpless and they need you. Yes, there are times when moms feel frustrated, but noone said it was going to be easy (at least not anyone who had a child). A baby is a little person, an individual, who a mother needs to get to know and need to learn their signs and it takes time and A LOT of effort. Good luck to everyone who have troubles teaching their baby to sleep. Having a video nanny system may help you a lot to see how your baby sleeps and react accordingly.
I swear I've watched this video like 10 times :D :D We haven't let him cry, but just a night time routine has really helped our baby to get to sleep and stay asleep.
Thank you for this video. I originally sleep trained my baby and he was sleeping by 9 weeks old but then he started teething a few weeks later and he stopped sleeping through the night and I've been rocking him to sleep since... he's 10 months old... This just encouraged me and I'm going to sleep train him again! Thanks a bunch!
This video was a life saver for my first!! She slept 12 hours a night from 3 months on. Now my second is 6 months and sleeping terribly... realizing that I needed to revisit this, because I'm doing so much wrong lol. I did newborn part with not letting her nap more than 3 hours in the day and she did sleep better then. But now I nurse her and pick her up through out the night. The last few nights regressed even worse and she woke up at 12pm last night and every other hour after... I'm over it! Can't wait to get her back on track!
wow i watched this video for my newborn but turns out he taught himself. he sleeps exactly all the times you mentioned. im currently up right now for his 4am feeding and he went to bed at 11 by himself
Thank you for not being "ditchy!" so many mom's get on one side of the ditch or the other and I'm also a firm believer in taking bits from every philosophy and doing what works for each individual child. I first found you with your "10 tips for a natural labour" and now I am slowly watching all your other videos. It is just so refreshing to find this video. Thanks. :)
Wow this is so great, I was just going crazy. My first child was so easy to get to bed, the second not so much. Following your advice the first night was rough but it has gotten easier.
I know this is an old video but I am expecting and want to be prepared from day one on how to get my baby to sleep. I have friends and family who have children who still do not sleep well throughout the night and this mama will NEED sleep, just like we all do. This video has been the absolute best at explaining what I plan to do, I just didn't know how to go about it. thank you!!!
Thank you! My 7.5 month old cannot sleep without me holding her and I'm SO over having her sleep in my bed. I'll try this this week! They only obstacles are that we all share a room, so letting her cry it out might wake up my toddler. We'll see how it goes!
Hi Elle. I have doing this training to my 5 month baby, and she has made tremendous progress, being able to sleep all by herself. The only thing to notice is that she still wakes up once every night, around 1am, and cries a lot for at least 20-40 mins. I suspect it is hunger, bit I dont know if it is counterproductive to feed her in the middle of the night. I appreciate your comments! Thanks
I think it's great that you are encouraging parents to teach their children good sleep habits through your methods!😊 It's beneficial not only for the parent but also for the child. With my first, I read The Baby Whisperer, and she is a wonderful sleeper to this day. She falls asleep within a few minutes of laying down and sleeps soundly and peacefully through the night. She is 8 years old now and wakes up with a positive attitude every morning, and I don't have to make her wake up as she willingly gets up. Now, having more experience and knowledge from teaching my first child, my one month old lays down quietly and quickly falls asleep for each nap and at night for his bedtime. He also only wakes up once through the night if I haven't tanked him up enough throughout the day or he is going through a growth spurt. His 1st cluster feed is at 8 pm then his last one is at 10 or 11, depending on how long I want to stay up or spend time with my partner that evening. Then, he sleeps until 7 am. Unless, like I said, he needs that one more feed because of a growth spurt. I love it because it will quickly and increasingly get better. At three months, last feed is at 7 and bedtime 7:30 with still one dream feed and wake up at 7. Then, at 7 months, bedtime is 7:30 with no dream feed and wake up is 7. I love this program and so do my kids!!!! Yay for us understanding the importance of quality sleep and teaching our kids, lol!😊
We are working on this same exact thing. However we are trying to skip the evening nap... maybe we should try to skip the morning nap instead.. then do his two hour long nap.. then he'll do his normal 8:30 to bed... would you suggest skip morning or evening nap. I think he is ready to just skip it. Last night he did just fine without an evening nap but then woke up wide awake at 3 am. He's now 9 months. We kept him in our room until 7months and after his open heart surgery. Otherwise we would have started this way sooner!
Thank you so much for this... my 5 week old is slowly stretching out her 5 hour sleep block (which I moved to night time following this video, weeks ago ) by herself due to not letting her sleep too long during the day. Last night she slept for 7 hours !!!!!
just found this video today by accident but I feel it's God leading me to teach my little man to sleep through the night lol I jest but in all seriousness it's time and this is one of the best videos I've come across and starting today we are trying it. I have to say I'm shocked by some of the negative comments - everyone is entitled to their opinion but to "lose respect for" etc because someone wants to train THEIR child differently from how you train yours wow just WOW! I 100% know this will work for my child (and all children really) because I believe children thrive in discipline and schedule so here is to a perhaps tough week and full night sleeps from next week. thanks for the video you dedicated have a new subbie in me
My baby had more than one 5 hour stretch of sleep until she was like 4 months. She still slept through the night ( from 1 month ) 12 hours. I never woke her up during the day. To me a baby's sleep shouldn't be disturbed on purpose. And needing you for confort is still a need. I peacefully teach my babies to sleep but never let them cry it out. This is just for all the other out there that want to do it peacefully but still want to sleep. It is possible, but it takes longer than a week, and there will be regressions. But that's parenting...
Great tip! Thank you, I am going to try this asap. My baby is almost 8 months old and not sleeping through the night. She normally goes to bed at 10pm, then ill feed her around 12/1 then at one point fduring night, I am so ready to have more restful sleeps at night.
Hi Elle, should we follow the sleep training during day time as well or just night? When tried this sleep training, if baby gets up in middle of the sleep, should we go and soothe the baby?
Im doing this, I just started last night. Baby cried for 1 hour but slept the entire night! I just put him down for a nap day 2, and he cried for 28 min. I did go in a sooth him, I did not pick him up. I just shhh him and rub his back, his hair and layed him down :) wishing to get more restful nights.
Hi Elle, I found your video really helpful and inspirational. My LO is almost 7mths old and I am currently on day2 of training him to fall asleep on his own...from newborn loved being rocked over so I was sure he would not do this however he has now put himself to sleep EVERY nap and nighttime and I am so proud as he is getting too heavy for me to rock over. He was up twice through the night the first night so hopefully that will improve over time. Many Thanks
Last night Alexander slept through the night for the first time ever! He stirred at 5.15 but put himself over again I never left my bed which is a first! I'm nervous but excited to see how he does tonight. Can I ask how long I would do this training in his own bed before it would be ok for him to nap elsewhere I spend quite a bit of time at my mums house but have stayed in our house so far to put him in his own bed each nap.x
Isn't 20 min of crying little bit too much for a baby? Sounds little too harsh .Have they done any studies that shows if it doesn't have any psychological impact on the child for the future development ( if it makes sense )? Thx
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Letting a baby cry will have devasting effects on their brain, which can lead to psychological issues. Please never let your baby cry it out. It breaks my heart
New subscriber here! I did the exact same thing with both of my daughter's one was sleeping through the night at 3 months and the other at 7 weeks (we only needed to sleep train when she learned a new skill, especially rolling over!). I think the best tip you gave was for people to find the difference in their baby's cry, it is so true! Great video!
I love this video. my son is 19 months old and I'll be weaning him from the breast in the next few days, he falls asleep while breastfeeding, and I've been looking for a sleep training method that it's not the cry it out method. he is a great sleeper and on most night he will sleep through the night, sometimes he wakes up because he learned a new word(s) and wants to talk or something but he is mostly a great sleeper, let's hope this helps with the falling asleep part
I CANNOT thank you enough for this video 😍 I followed a feeding schedule for my daughter in order to also help with sleep training and we both hated sticking to the clock, just didn’t work. I’ve had the hardest time finding the feed on demand yet ALSO sleep train. So thank you! So glad to see it can be done!!
Hi, thank you for the video! I have done exactly the same way with my baby from the beginning and my baby also sleeps very well and through the night. It is very nice to see that this kind of training works because I did it on my own instinct but I never haven't had any references to it, so thank you for putting it all together in one video. I will defenetly share it to another new moms as they ask for advice!
we didn't really go out of our way to sleep train our boy, we just listened to him and found when he needed his naps (12pm-2 or 2:30, and 4 or 4:30 till close to 6pm.) and then found out his best schedule was dinner at 7 and bed at 8. and he will sleep till at least 9am. he has been doing this for a few months now and he is 10 1/2 mths
I have a 7 week old and he's been waking up every 2 hrs to eat, 3 hrs tops. How would you sleep train someone like this when he doesn't have that 5 hr sleep time at night like you do? I am however on day 2 of trying to keep him awake more during the day so that he'll sleep more at night but he still wakes up every 2-3 hrs to eat. Please help so that my baby cam sleep longer w/o interrupting his sleep and I can get my rest too.
my daughter is now 6 weeks old and I have the exact same problem.... how does I even start? I keep her up over the day so that she just sleeps 2 times ..., and then I put her down in the night and hope ? ^^ apart from that she hates sleeping by herself... it's only possible when she is really deep asleep and doesn't feel that she is not with me...
I know obviously this is an old post but for anyone reading now...at around 5 weeks my newborn was giving us 6-7 hr stretches. When they wake up, obviously they’re super hungry so you feed them right off. I think the key to getting longer sleep stretches is to “top them off” with more milk right before going back down. I heard that just even an extra ounce can give you an extra hour or two of sleep. They only wake up because they’re hungry, so make sure they’re nice and full before bed! Good luck!
you know I saw this video when I as pregnant and I've been using a lot of ur techniques with my baby from the get go. he ll still nurse in the night but I'm getting a decent amount of sleep. the business feed one lol yep I just nurse Bo talking or any.. burp n he's back to sleep .. he's almost 3 months old now. he likes his sleep too.. just that I can't get him to nap well in the day time.
Thank you for the tips! I am now starting out sleep training my 2 month old baby. And I want to do this now. I dont want her sleeping with me till she's 6 months then it will just get harder to get her to sleep on her own
GOD bless you mightily for sharing the great encouragement, wisdom, insights, your experience in what has worked for you and what hasn't worked in sleep training your precious little one(s). We are first time parents with a 6 weeks and 5 days old -beautiful boy at the time of posting this, early in the morning of 01/25/17. Thanks so much!! My wife and I just decided to buckle down and dive in to start implementing the "business only" care within an hour of watching your video, and we're believers! It works!! I timed that screaming cry and soothed him for about 5 minutes after he went for about 8 or so almost at the top of his lungs, which was tough to listen to, but kept the interaction and 5 minute soothing I mentioned "business only" as you encouraged. With only one false start he self -soothed on the second attempt! Praise GOD! We've also been working to establish the feeding schedule as taught by Babywise, and we're now so encouraged by the hybrid approach we'll end up having; using some of Babywise's and your insights ... We're certainly not naive that baby will challenge the new regimen, however we'll keep chugging up the mountain!! So grateful and blessed. What a beautiful and precious family you have by the way! You're blessed and highly favored! [Pardon my excitement! I see and envision incredible, energy- filled, revived and refreshed days ahead! 😄😅😀 Return of some sanity and normalcy!! 🎉🎊🏇 Wohooooo!! Praise JESUS!! This was divinely orchestrated that we watch and land on your videos and your channel today, and we subscribed!👍👊🙌] Have blessed remainder to your week with the family. Thank you!! Don't stop encouraging and uplifting others!! Don't mind or give a thought to the naysayers! GOD will greatly increase this and HE's super proud and pleased by your precious and beautiful heart! > 1 Corinthians 15:57-58, Judges 6:2-16
I put commitment and I definitely start to sleep training my 1month old baby boy after seeing this video. At 2 weeks old I also went to see a doctor and check if he feel sick or something might gone wrong with him, but the doc just said: i need to teach him to soothe himself and he is completely healthy and a very strong baby. But as he is my first son, I couldn't do it (only first night only) and after a while now he become more and more unstoppable, Every night at the same time around 10:30-11pm, he starts crying and nothing I do or anyone do Would soothe him, no matter what I do. I try to sing him a song, feed him (though he is still hungry, but he is not), check his diaper, or maybe the room temperature is too hot or too cold, put him down or even if I hold him he is still crying. I have no idea what he want. Here I come to the point that no one can sleep at night. When the night come, I feel worried and always pray for him to give me a good night sleep for once. The least we could sleep at night is 30min and max 3h (10-15min here and there, total 3h. There's time I alway faint during the day because the lack of sleep and rest). The problem is not only about my sleep, I love my son, really, but when I look at him, I feel that he is tired too, he couldn't sleep, his brain keep functioning, at this stage he is suppose to sleep, feel happy and have a good rest. It's not good for him to stay awake and sleep 10-15min and wake up and sleep again, it's just a mess. So I make up my mind again after watching this video, I have to sleep train him immediately. It's for both of us. For him to get a good sleep at night and for me to have time to rest after a whole day with housework + with him. Today is the second night, my mom is a bit mad at me after I left him cry it out. But what can I do, I have to watch him all day, do all works, my husband often traveling away for his office works, rarely at home. There was a time when I feel so sad seeing my own son and got scared of him because I am so new at this and I have no idea what to do. :/ I pray for this to work. I know all babies are different but I really want my baby to have a good night sleep liked others and even he does not sleep much at daytime, it's okay for me too. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Ka Dyna did it work? My 3 months baby is just like yours, i got scared every night because i dont know whats wrong im doing everything im supposed to do as a mother and it gets me frustrated to hear him cry and with thisw difficulties for sleeping
New comment for an old video😋 my daughter isn't awful about getting a good night sleep; most nights. She's turning 3 months today. My situation is tough as we have another one under one as well. She's great but he us not and he's 11 months. I've been doing a few of the things you've said already but not all. I will definately be trying everything on both babies. Thank you so much for the advice I'm wishing myself luck 😂😅💜
My 4 month old gets up every 2 hrs sometimes every houre every half hour depends but its really driving me crazy ive tried letting him cry it out and i thought he was doing good but then it got bad again and if i try to soothe him and let him fall asleep on his own again he gets angry and cries even louder when i walk away he has gone 45 non stop then he fell asleep and woke up again yelling after 20 minutes! This is my 3rd baby hes 4 months old and youd think id have it down by now but nope im so tired during the day and cranky so i really want this to work 😩
Hi there, may I ask you a question? For newborn sleep training that you had mention, the last feed is around 10:30-11pm, what if after the feed and he still doesn't want to sleep or cry after I put him down, should I just leave him cry it out n leave d room? My newborn never have 5h stretch, his maximum sleep is 3h, so what if he wake up at 2am, should I comfort him or pick him up? I hope you will reply. Thanks you very much
I am pregnant right now. And the sleeping routine is my biggest fear. I truly loved your advice and I will try my best to follow them because you seem to know what you are talking about.
Loved this video - very logical and not too teacher like! Our bubster is 8 weeks in a few days and we are going to start trying this - wish us luck! Thanks for the great advice and tips xx
Hay Hun so this is day 2 of sleep training day 1: I put him in the bed 8:30 after I feed him a lot Then he cry and I go inside 8:33 Then he cry and stop cry at 8:39 He cry again 8:50 I go inside 8:53 He cry for 1 min then no cry until 9 and he sleep Woke up 2 cried till 2:10 a Woke up 4:30 cried till 4:40a Woke up 5:30 cried till 5:35a He Woke up 6:30 and I decided I guess I should feed him since it's close to 7 and he will be up soon anyways I fed him changed him he went back to nap in my bed at 7:30 till 9:30 before sleep training he would wake up at 7am and stay up until he napped at 9am so I started sleep training at 7:40 Pm day 2 - now the question is if I want him to sleep until 7 or 7:30 or even 8 am- should I let him cry it out and see if he will fall back to sleep - through the night I decided not to go in on him because I know that would only get him angry - but day 2 he fell asleep after 3 mins of crying and day 1 was like 13 min total
+Bedo Hanafi sounds like he's starting to learn as he's crying less. Keep in mind it sometimes seems worse while they're learning the skill. Give this a solid week. I would give him 5 mins to see if he'll go back down on his own and if not then go in.
Hi, I've got a very important question, and would appreciate it so much if you can reply me. Currently, I'm still breastfeeding my 7 month old son by direct latching. I think he associates this feeding with comfort-latching and it aids him to sleep as well. During his day time naps, he wakes up sometimes and I will latch him to enable him to fall back to sleep again. Similarly, I latch him for night feedings when he wakes up. The duration can be 30 to 45 min each session. My question is, do I need to stop direct latching in order to sleep train my baby? Is it crucial to change him to bottle feeding, and if so, how do I go about doing it? Thank you so so much!
Some thoughts.. 1)Regarding "babies have one 5 hour sleep stretch from birth", my son's was pretty close! He would sleep one 4-hour chunk at night and one 4-hour chunk during the day. Other than that it was always just 40 minutes to an hour & a 1/2 all throughout the day and night. But we breastfeed so that may have something to do with his waking. 2) once he hit about 3 months old, he started screaming bloody murder every night at 7 p.m., for the simple reason that he was tired and did not understand 'if I just close my eyes and relax, sleep will come'. He's 1 year now, and still nurses "part-time" and wakes 2 or 3 times during the night only very quickly ("business" like you said) and right back to sleep. Until he's done nursing I don't really want him to sleep through the night because then I have to get up and be bothered with pumping so that I don't go too long without nursing and affect my supply. I often wonder - once he weans, if he'll have a problem sleeping through the night. Only time will tell! Maybe I'll come back and let you know :)
thanks for your video! hoping to use for my daughter. she is 8 months old and still wakes every 2-3 hrs for a feed. i know shes not really hungry, just wants to nurse to go back to sleep. the problem is, her crib is in my room, due to lack of space at the moment. so she can see me and smell me, or so i've been told. IM EXHAUSTED! can this sleep training work even with her crib in my room?? she is OKAY with nap time during the day, its just staying asleep through the night. we have a routine, and she goes to bed between 7-8. shes up by 1am and thats when the constant waking begins.
My little girl is almost 6 months. she goes to bed 7/8 and wakes up every 2/3 hours doesn't even sleep till 1 am... I'm so, so, so exhausted... so I feel your pain and will definitely try this sleep training
Excellent tips....It's great that you said you kinda combined all the methods. I feel the same although I have 4 kids and they all shared the bed with me and I never had problems. I know that doesn't work for most of you but it worked great for me. Mine were 4 and 10 years spaced out so there never was 2 babies sleeping in my bed at the same time.
Braver than me. 4 kids with the 5th on its way and I have never had to sleep train a single one. They are also awesome sleepers. letting them cry was never something I could or would do.
My mum has four children me being the youngest and she has told me pretty much the exact same thing. Loving your videos! In many ways they're very inspiration :) Forde is going to be an absolute gentlemen when he grows up!
I tried to figure out how to PM you but idk what I'm doing so here goes. My son is 10 months. He is such a good baby and rarely ever cries. I'm exclusively nursing and we cosleep. I'm a single mom and widow since he was 4 months and I really want to "sleep train" him so he can sleep better. The problem is, he never sleeps. He actually saw a sleep specialist because he didn't take naps all day and wakes up every hour at night and it's been like that since he was about 3 months old which once he was about 4 months we started cosleeping because me getting up every half hour when he woke up was too much I guess. I regret it now. He's better with naps during the day now. He takes two sometimes. Usually 9:30 and between 1-3 pm. He cries sooooo much when I try to put him in his crib at night and I only last about 3 minutes because he gets all sweaty and hyperventilates. And ends up getting in the bed with me. Will this method still work or should I tweak it a bit? I need sleep and so does the baby but I don't want him sweating and throwing up on himself. Thank you in advance. No negative comments please. I'm a young single widow and I don't have family closer than 2k miles so I'm trying my best. Thanks
Kassandra Lee I am in in a similar situation. Do you think it is because you cry in front of him or get upset? I wonder as this is what I sometimes do. My son is 1 yo, bad sleeper, waking up all night, crying and tossing. My mum say I should not leave to sleep, so this is part of the problem. I am so confused. I have no idea to fix this. You leave him, he will cry and not stop! I cannot wait 15 mins, ti is cruel.
I don't even have kids yet, hopefully soon, and when the time comes (God willing), I am SO coming back to this video! I feel like this is a sound way to go about it, and like you said, this is what worked for you and Forde. May not work for everyone, but it might be worth a shot! Excellent video, madam :)
Omg thank you for this video! I've been losing so much sleep with my little one, it was causing stress for both my husband and I. I haven't begun training yet, but this is super useful!
My newborn is 4 weeks old. should I be putting him in his crib for day naps too? Or would it be okay to put him in a bassinet in our living room/kitchen?
It is a general sugestion to start to sleep train most babies around 3 to 4 every baby is different as when they just new it important they know your there for them
I’m currently doing cry it out method and I’m on day two and it worked great me and my spouse let him cry and checked him on him every ten to 30 minutes so far day one he cried for 1 hour in a half then day two he only cried for 30 mins and I checked on him at the 10 minute and he is currently out after 30 mins
Elle did you swaddle the boys when they were younger infants? Did you put them in the crib/bassinet/pack n play from the beginning? We use a rock n play right now so I am curious if your boys started on a flat surface. Thanks for the video
I did with my twins and it worked. I started when they were 2 weeks old. I always put them to bed at 7 pm. We never had a problem. When they got up, I just feed them and put them back down. I never played with them.
Thanks for the video. Do you use a pacifier? When did you get rid of it? And how did you do it? Somehow I managed to do exactly same thing how you are training, BUT her night sleep got much worse recently and from waking up once at night, we are now waking up 3 times 😤. She will be turning 6 months soon and I want to get rid of the pacifier, put her in her room and eliminate all night feelings. Not sure if I should do it all at once or what would you recommend? Thank you in advance!
Hi there, I just wanted to thank you for your video and advice. I think I watched it about 50 times and from all my research on sleep training your "method" is the simplest and most effective (I've tried the chair one but it didnt really work for us). I've started sleep training my 8mo old boy and I started by making small changes in the bedtime routine (Ive noticed that if I fed him dinner too late he wouldnt settle to sleep very well) anyway DAY ONE put him down at 7pm as usual and he slept through after a total of 25 min crying (10 min- 15min). I did the "business check", calmed him down (in my case I picked him up but put him back in the crib once he calmed down - but completely awake) :) repeated my key words and left the room. I did this in two intervals and mentioned before. Then I went to bed and when I woke up I realised he had slept through. He woke up early but I am counting as victory because he didnt wake up three or four times (or 1 time for 3 hours) as he used to. DAY TWO - nap 1 and he cried for 10 min. T E N M I N U T E S !! I know it might be "beginners luck" but I will stick to the schedule I set for us and I will come back in a week to let you know. So far things are working, I'm amazed how afraid I was for no reason, he cried a lot less than I expected. Now I am expecting things to get more difficult but consistency is key. Thank you I, like you also choose sleep! I am a better mum when I am rested. xxx to you and Forde!
Hi Elle, I'm not sure if you've talked about this before but what do you dress your baby in at night? My baby boy is 12 weeks now, sometimes he does poop in the middle of the night and I havent yet mastered to change the nappy/diaper quickly. I dress him in a sleeveless onesie and bodysuit. Thanks for making this video, it has been very informative!
I will try this again for the week...I am sooo dreading the crying. I did it for a day and let my daughter cry for about 4 minutes before I had to "rescue" her. LOL She falls asleep on her own here and there and night time sleeping is going well, but I do want her to be able to do it easily for her daytime naps without help from me. Will report back!
I used your method almost 2 years ago with my little boy when he was 4 months old and it worked sooo well with him! He was stubborn but I stuck it out and it was the best decision of my life. Now I share your video with anyone who asks how to get their child to sleep through the night. ❤️
So pretty much in short, feed them, put them in their bed, let them cry for a bit, come back in and shush them, leave again, keep doing this until they sleep
I did this, but never looked at it as sleep training. Just knew they needed their sleep, and so did I. I love that you, and others have a name for this.
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Yep me lol!
365k now! Lol
+Elle Lindquist I've been studying getting your baby to sleep and found an awesome resource at Calmer Fixer Blueprint (google it if you're interested)
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Hi Elle, I have been following you for a year now and I just wanted to say a big THANK YOU under this video that I watched when my firstborn arrived in March 2018. Your advice worked like magic! He is almost 3 months old now and has been sleeping a solid 10 to 11 hours every night for the past 2 months. He is a happy and content baby 😊 Thank you so much again for sharing your life with us. You are an inspiration. Love from France
Hi, I'm a mom to 3 now young adults (born in 1995, 1996 and 2001). What you say in your video is exactly what I did and I feel completely in line with you. Children of any age need to know "who is the boss" - not meaning dominating them, but LEADING them. And this is even true with my 2 girls, aged 22 and 20 today: they're not yet economically autonomous so their parents still have their say about some topics in their lives. Also, our youngsters RESPECT me because they feel that I'm able to stand up for my own needs, too. And they are able to RESPECT THEMSELVES. Well done, keep on track!
I implemented this right from the get go when my baby was 4 days. The 5 hour sleep stretch is the key in those early days. It totally worked!
Now my baby is almost 5 months and whenever there is a sleep regression due to teething, travelting etc i redo the sleep training steos and everything falls back in place.
Thank you Elle!!
Amina Don't worry about the hate love! Keep doing you. It's awesome this works for you and your baby 👶All the best xx
This was great, I have been researching "how to put your baby to sleep" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Ever heard of - Qeysaiah Baby Bangka - (search on google ) ? Ive heard some interesting things about it and my mate got amazing results with it.
This was great, I been tryin to find out about "baby to sleep on their own" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Ever heard of - Qeysaiah Baby Bangka - (do a search on google ) ? Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my m8 got amazing success with it.
This was great, thanks, been searching for "getting baby sleep through the night" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about - Qeysaiah Baby Bangka - (do a google search ) ? Ive heard some decent things about it and my work buddy got great success with it.
Amin
Thanks Elle! Your video convinced my wife to tough it out and give our 9 month old a try. Only took less than 30 min. I was in the room doing my thing. Wife was downstairs. This beats holding the baby for 2 hours until my wife's arms and back break + sleep deprivation.
I just tried my first time sleep training my 8 month old baby tonight using this videos tips. It took exactly 18 min with a pick up to comfort in between and it's only going to get better. For those saying you shouldn't let your baby cry, it's only for a few minutes at a time for 5 days probably less. You should know if your baby really needs attending to. I suppose it's really just routine. Best video ever! Definately sharing this to family and friends.
Best video ever! Our son started sleep regressions around 4 months after sleeping the through the night with no problems. We suffered through 6 weeks of sleeping a couple of hours a night and we were both at our wit's end. We research about dozen videos and liked this one the most. 9 MINUTES!!! IT TOOK 9 MINUTES OF LETTING HIM CRY AND HE SLEPT THROUGH THE NIGHT!!! That was March 2017 and I can count on one hand the number of nights we've had to get up with him since then! Thank you so much, Elle!
When you said how much your baby sleeps my mouth dropped. I am so sleep deprived I really need to try some new methods
did it work for you?
ANNA GINO it worked for me... my baby was 1 week when i started
Haha same here. Mine is 2 years old and still wake at night
Me too
Sleep training night one, it's so hard hearing him cry but 8 months without a whole night of sleep has me needing to do this for both of us. Thanks for your tips. I used it to keep busy between going in to check on him ❤️ Finally, he's sleeping. Night one....
We are going to start sleep training our 11 month old tonight! Super nervous but we all need it!! She wakes up about 4 times a nights!! So ready to get our sleep back! I'm super nervous!!! But I'm going to stay strong!
You said it best! It's a very LOVING thing to do, to teach your child to sleep. Good sleep is so important for health and helps everyone in the family.
Thank you so much! The 1st night was okay, but *spoiler alert* nights 2 & 3 were hard and apparently that is common. Last night, night 5, he slept over 9.5 hours! If it wasn't time for me to get up for work and feed him, I'm sure he would have slept even longer! Thank you, thank you, thank you!!
Starting this today! My 2 1/2 year old has never slept in her own bed and my 9 month old still nurses all night long. After a week of 3-4 hours of sleep, I’m fed up and want them in their own beds and rooms asap! Thanks for the tips!
It’s worked!!!!!!! My 10 month old daughter who was breastfed would wake up 5-6 times a night just to nurse for like a minute and then I would have to carefully lay her back. First day, (her 2nd nap in the afternoon) she cried for about 30-45 minute off and on. She fell asleep and it lasted for 10 minutes. When it was time for bed, she cried 3 minutes!!! My husband and I couldn’t believe it! She woke once that night at 1am and cried for about 2 minutes and then it stopped..I went in and checked and she had put herself back to sleep and didn’t wake up until 8:30 when I went in and woke her up. All naps on the second day she cried a MAX of 3-5 minutes. 2nd night she slept all night long! I am amazed! Thank you for making this video!
I'm preparing to head back to work, I will need to start sleep training my daughter who will 2 months soon. Wish me luck :)
Capri82 about two months now
How was your experience?
Capri82 b/
Thank you!!!! Your video helped me so much. I was finally ready for my baby to stop sleeping with us, but I didn't know how to do it. I followed your instructions and IT WORKED!! I'm so happy. He is finally sleeping through the night. (He was nursing about 6 times at night) Thank you!! Thank you!!
Maggie Mendoza how
How old was your baby? Howlong did it take?
Xantia Farley he was 10 months it took me 4 days.
Omg my daughter is 3months and i totally know the struggle of waking up 6times a night!!! I am really hoping this works, im gonna try it starting tonight!
10 months? I'll have to try this! My daughter is 9 months and I'm desperately in need of sleep 😭
Should i try it before every nap or only before nightslee0
This is totally on point! My son Kieran is 8 weeks old and we have him napping and going to bed for the night at the same time as his older sisters who are 2.5 and 1.5. He still wakes a few times at night but goes right back to sleep after feeding. Sleep training has been a life saver for us... There is no way I would survive having 3 kids without everyone getting sleep. Love your channel and your family! :-)
Amen to that!! You sound like such a great mom! 👍🏻☺️
Thank you so much for this video Elle. Tried this on my 8months old baby who wakes up 4-6times to breastfeed overnight and wakes up at every slightest noise.Well, all that is in the past now😄 I am super excited to say he now sleeps for straight 10-12hrs without waking up for feeds from the 2nd day. He cried so much on the first day though but just a little on the 2nd day. It took him just 2days to get used to it. God bless you for sharing this with us😘😘
Hi Maureen :) for how long did your baby cry? the first time?
than you :)
Thank you thank you thank you for this video! My daughter was sleep trained from the very beginning and then teething started around 6 1/2 months. She would only fall asleep with me in the bed. We resorted to letting her sleep in our bed because we couldn't fight the fight anymore. Bad idea! She's now 8.5 months and fully trained in 3 days! She doesn't even wake up at 3am for her night feed! We have our bed back and couldn't be happier. Sharing this video with all my co-sleeping mommy friends!
This saved my life! No joke, i was going nuts. Thanks for saying it’s ok to pick them up. So many sleep training techniques are sooo against that and it was making sleep training harder for us. Took us a good week and now our bedtime routine went from the most dreaded part of my day to my absolute favorite!
How old is your baby? I wanna start training mine soon she just turned 7 months!
You have some really good advice and some not so good. The science behind baby cry is proven and it can actually change their nerve system, the way they bond with people later in life, their trust (or lack of it) to people, etc. I have 3mo old and I've never let him "cry out". Babies don't cry for no reason. They're helpless and they need you. Yes, there are times when moms feel frustrated, but noone said it was going to be easy (at least not anyone who had a child). A baby is a little person, an individual, who a mother needs to get to know and need to learn their signs and it takes time and A LOT of effort. Good luck to everyone who have troubles teaching their baby to sleep. Having a video nanny system may help you a lot to see how your baby sleeps and react accordingly.
I agree. This mama has the sleep best ideas! This is the way I trained our seven little ones.
I swear I've watched this video like 10 times :D :D We haven't let him cry, but just a night time routine has really helped our baby to get to sleep and stay asleep.
Thank you for this video. I originally sleep trained my baby and he was sleeping by 9 weeks old but then he started teething a few weeks later and he stopped sleeping through the night and I've been rocking him to sleep since... he's 10 months old... This just encouraged me and I'm going to sleep train him again! Thanks a bunch!
This video was a life saver for my first!! She slept 12 hours a night from 3 months on. Now my second is 6 months and sleeping terribly... realizing that I needed to revisit this, because I'm doing so much wrong lol. I did newborn part with not letting her nap more than 3 hours in the day and she did sleep better then. But now I nurse her and pick her up through out the night. The last few nights regressed even worse and she woke up at 12pm last night and every other hour after... I'm over it! Can't wait to get her back on track!
this is by far number 1 video about sleep training i saw on youtube. You are so real and right and i agree with everything 100 % !!
wow i watched this video for my newborn but turns out he taught himself. he sleeps exactly all the times you mentioned. im currently up right now for his 4am feeding and he went to bed at 11 by himself
How many feeds do you do for your newborn throughout the night. Is 5 hours ok to hold off for a feed?
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have twins got this assholes to sleep after 5 months of hell
Thank you for not being "ditchy!" so many mom's get on one side of the ditch or the other and I'm also a firm believer in taking bits from every philosophy and doing what works for each individual child. I first found you with your "10 tips for a natural labour" and now I am slowly watching all your other videos. It is just so refreshing to find this video. Thanks. :)
THANK YOU! Glad you're enjoying the channel!
Wow this is so great, I was just going crazy. My first child was so easy to get to bed, the second not so much. Following your advice the first night was rough but it has gotten easier.
I know this is an old video but I am expecting and want to be prepared from day one on how to get my baby to sleep. I have friends and family who have children who still do not sleep well throughout the night and this mama will NEED sleep, just like we all do. This video has been the absolute best at explaining what I plan to do, I just didn't know how to go about it. thank you!!!
Thank you! My 7.5 month old cannot sleep without me holding her and I'm SO over having her sleep in my bed. I'll try this this week! They only obstacles are that we all share a room, so letting her cry it out might wake up my toddler. We'll see how it goes!
Hi Elle. I have doing this training to my 5 month baby, and she has made tremendous progress, being able to sleep all by herself. The only thing to notice is that she still wakes up once every night, around 1am, and cries a lot for at least 20-40 mins. I suspect it is hunger, bit I dont know if it is counterproductive to feed her in the middle of the night. I appreciate your comments! Thanks
Felipe Monsalve please feed her. She is just 5 month old. They are still hungry !
This was SUPER helpful as a full time nanny to a 3 month old! Thanks, Elle! Always love your tutorial videos!
Awesome Marisa! Glad you found it helpful!
I think it's great that you are encouraging parents to teach their children good sleep habits through your methods!😊 It's beneficial not only for the parent but also for the child.
With my first, I read The Baby Whisperer, and she is a wonderful sleeper to this day. She falls asleep within a few minutes of laying down and sleeps soundly and peacefully through the night. She is 8 years old now and wakes up with a positive attitude every morning, and I don't have to make her wake up as she willingly gets up.
Now, having more experience and knowledge from teaching my first child, my one month old lays down quietly and quickly falls asleep for each nap and at night for his bedtime.
He also only wakes up once through the night if I haven't tanked him up enough throughout the day or he is going through a growth spurt. His 1st cluster feed is at 8 pm then his last one is at 10 or 11, depending on how long I want to stay up or spend time with my partner that evening. Then, he sleeps until 7 am. Unless, like I said, he needs that one more feed because of a growth spurt.
I love it because it will quickly and increasingly get better. At three months, last feed is at 7 and bedtime 7:30 with still one dream feed and wake up at 7.
Then, at 7 months, bedtime is 7:30 with no dream feed and wake up is 7.
I love this program and so do my kids!!!! Yay for us understanding the importance of quality sleep and teaching our kids, lol!😊
We are working on this same exact thing. However we are trying to skip the evening nap... maybe we should try to skip the morning nap instead.. then do his two hour long nap.. then he'll do his normal 8:30 to bed... would you suggest skip morning or evening nap. I think he is ready to just skip it. Last night he did just fine without an evening nap but then woke up wide awake at 3 am. He's now 9 months. We kept him in our room until 7months and after his open heart surgery. Otherwise we would have started this way sooner!
Thank you so much for this... my 5 week old is slowly stretching out her 5 hour sleep block (which I moved to night time following this video, weeks ago ) by herself due to not letting her sleep too long during the day. Last night she slept for 7 hours !!!!!
I needed this 4.5 years ago!!!! #I didn't sleep for 4 years 😫😫😫
just found this video today by accident but I feel it's God leading me to teach my little man to sleep through the night lol I jest but in all seriousness it's time and this is one of the best videos I've come across and starting today we are trying it. I have to say I'm shocked by some of the negative comments - everyone is entitled to their opinion but to "lose respect for" etc because someone wants to train THEIR child differently from how you train yours wow just WOW! I 100% know this will work for my child (and all children really) because I believe children thrive in discipline and schedule so here is to a perhaps tough week and full night sleeps from next week. thanks for the video you dedicated have a new subbie in me
honestly this was the most helpful video I've seen on sleep training!
Amber Loudy I totally agree! She is so matter of fact and clear!!
My baby had more than one 5 hour stretch of sleep until she was like 4 months. She still slept through the night ( from 1 month ) 12 hours. I never woke her up during the day. To me a baby's sleep shouldn't be disturbed on purpose.
And needing you for confort is still a need. I peacefully teach my babies to sleep but never let them cry it out.
This is just for all the other out there that want to do it peacefully but still want to sleep. It is possible, but it takes longer than a week, and there will be regressions. But that's parenting...
Great tip! Thank you, I am going to try this asap. My baby is almost 8 months old and not sleeping through the night. She normally goes to bed at 10pm, then ill feed her around 12/1 then at one point fduring night, I am so ready to have more restful sleeps at night.
Hello, I'm confused on exact method..go back in after how long when they start to cry?
Hi Elle, should we follow the sleep training during day time as well or just night?
When tried this sleep training, if baby gets up in middle of the sleep, should we go and soothe the baby?
Im doing this, I just started last night. Baby cried for 1 hour but slept the entire night! I just put him down for a nap day 2, and he cried for 28 min. I did go in a sooth him, I did not pick him up. I just shhh him and rub his back, his hair and layed him down :) wishing to get more restful nights.
11k likes! I'm glad I'm not the only one losing my mind from lack of sleep.
Great take on sleep training!! I've been reading up on it a bunch since I am expecting my first child near the end of summer.
Hi Elle, GREAT video! QQ's - 1) do you recommend a night light? 2) How old was Ford when you did the 3 nights of sleep training? Thanks lady!
Hi Elle, I found your video really helpful and inspirational. My LO is almost 7mths old and I am currently on day2 of training him to fall asleep on his own...from newborn loved being rocked over so I was sure he would not do this however he has now put himself to sleep EVERY nap and nighttime and I am so proud as he is getting too heavy for me to rock over. He was up twice through the night the first night so hopefully that will improve over time. Many Thanks
That will totally improve over time. You're doing GREAT! Stay consistent and you'll be successful
Last night Alexander slept through the night for the first time ever! He stirred at 5.15 but put himself over again I never left my bed which is a first! I'm nervous but excited to see how he does tonight. Can I ask how long I would do this training in his own bed before it would be ok for him to nap elsewhere I spend quite a bit of time at my mums house but have stayed in our house so far to put him in his own bed each nap.x
Isn't 20 min of crying little bit too much for a baby? Sounds little too harsh .Have they done any studies that shows if it doesn't have any psychological impact on the child for the future development ( if it makes sense )? Thx
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Letting a baby cry will have devasting effects on their brain, which can lead to psychological issues. Please never let your baby cry it out. It breaks my heart
I just love your video ...it gives hope for a better sleep for my little one and for me ...cause we both need it
New subscriber here! I did the exact same thing with both of my daughter's one was sleeping through the night at 3 months and the other at 7 weeks (we only needed to sleep train when she learned a new skill, especially rolling over!). I think the best tip you gave was for people to find the difference in their baby's cry, it is so true! Great video!
Glad you enjoyed it'
I love this video. my son is 19 months old and I'll be weaning him from the breast in the next few days, he falls asleep while breastfeeding, and I've been looking for a sleep training method that it's not the cry it out method. he is a great sleeper and on most night he will sleep through the night, sometimes he wakes up because he learned a new word(s) and wants to talk or something but he is mostly a great sleeper, let's hope this helps with the falling asleep part
I'm so so happy I stumbled upon this video because we have a 7 month old who suddenly will not sleep! thank you!
+Angel Rosee Hope it helps!!
Elle, when did you start the napping sleep training piece with Ford!? How old was he?
Did you use white noise to aid sleep?
Hi Ellie. What was the sleep routine you had used for his naps?
I CANNOT thank you enough for this video 😍 I followed a feeding schedule for my daughter in order to also help with sleep training and we both hated sticking to the clock, just didn’t work. I’ve had the hardest time finding the feed on demand yet ALSO sleep train. So thank you! So glad to see it can be done!!
Hi, thank you for the video! I have done exactly the same way with my baby from the beginning and my baby also sleeps very well and through the night. It is very nice to see that this kind of training works because I did it on my own instinct but I never haven't had any references to it, so thank you for putting it all together in one video. I will defenetly share it to another new moms as they ask for advice!
we didn't really go out of our way to sleep train our boy, we just listened to him and found when he needed his naps (12pm-2 or 2:30, and 4 or 4:30 till close to 6pm.) and then found out his best schedule was dinner at 7 and bed at 8. and he will sleep till at least 9am. he has been doing this for a few months now and he is 10 1/2 mths
+Rebekah Gallaher that's Awesome!
I have a 7 week old and he's been waking up every 2 hrs to eat, 3 hrs tops. How would you sleep train someone like this when he doesn't have that 5 hr sleep time at night like you do? I am however on day 2 of trying to keep him awake more during the day so that he'll sleep more at night but he still wakes up every 2-3 hrs to eat. Please help so that my baby cam sleep longer w/o interrupting his sleep and I can get my rest too.
Hi, my son does the exact samething. He doesn't have a 5 or even 4 hour stretch it has always been 2-3 hours since he's been born. He is 6 weeks now.
my daughter is now 6 weeks old and I have the exact same problem.... how does I even start? I keep her up over the day so that she just sleeps 2 times ..., and then I put her down in the night and hope ? ^^ apart from that she hates sleeping by herself... it's only possible when she is really deep asleep and doesn't feel that she is not with me...
I know obviously this is an old post but for anyone reading now...at around 5 weeks my newborn was giving us 6-7 hr stretches. When they wake up, obviously they’re super hungry so you feed them right off. I think the key to getting longer sleep stretches is to “top them off” with more milk right before going back down. I heard that just even an extra ounce can give you an extra hour or two of sleep. They only wake up because they’re hungry, so make sure they’re nice and full before bed! Good luck!
you know I saw this video when I as pregnant and I've been using a lot of ur techniques with my baby from the get go. he ll still nurse in the night but I'm getting a decent amount of sleep. the business feed one lol yep I just nurse Bo talking or any.. burp n he's back to sleep .. he's almost 3 months old now. he likes his sleep too.. just that I can't get him to nap well in the day time.
My baby is nine months and is in dire need of sleep training. I'm going to try all your tips! Hoping for a good night sleep sometime soon!!
Awesome!! Let me know how it goes!
Thank you for the tips! I am now starting out sleep training my 2 month old baby. And I want to do this now. I dont want her sleeping with me till she's 6 months then it will just get harder to get her to sleep on her own
GOD bless you mightily for sharing the great encouragement, wisdom, insights, your experience in what has worked for you and what hasn't worked in sleep training your precious little one(s). We are first time parents with a 6 weeks and 5 days old -beautiful boy at the time of posting this, early in the morning of 01/25/17.
Thanks so much!! My wife and I just decided to buckle down and dive in to start implementing the "business only" care within an hour of watching your video, and we're believers! It works!! I timed that screaming cry and soothed him for about 5 minutes after he went for about 8 or so almost at the top of his lungs, which was tough to listen to, but kept the interaction and 5 minute soothing I mentioned "business only" as you encouraged. With only one false start he self -soothed on the second attempt! Praise GOD! We've also been working to establish the feeding schedule as taught by Babywise, and we're now so encouraged by the hybrid approach we'll end up having; using some of Babywise's and your insights ...
We're certainly not naive that baby will challenge the new regimen, however we'll keep chugging up the mountain!! So grateful and blessed.
What a beautiful and precious family you have by the way! You're blessed and highly favored! [Pardon my excitement! I see and envision incredible, energy- filled, revived and refreshed days ahead! 😄😅😀 Return of some sanity and normalcy!! 🎉🎊🏇 Wohooooo!! Praise JESUS!! This was divinely orchestrated that we watch and land on your videos and your channel today, and we subscribed!👍👊🙌] Have blessed remainder to your week with the family. Thank you!! Don't stop encouraging and uplifting others!! Don't mind or give a thought to the naysayers! GOD will greatly increase this and HE's super proud and pleased by your precious and beautiful heart! > 1 Corinthians 15:57-58, Judges 6:2-16
I don't have a baby and don't plan on it any time soon but I loved this video. It was so interesting and hopefully i can go back to it when I need it
+NicoleO woohoo!!
I put commitment and I definitely start to sleep training my 1month old baby boy after seeing this video.
At 2 weeks old I also went to see a doctor and check if he feel sick or something might gone wrong with him, but the doc just said: i need to teach him to soothe himself and he is completely healthy and a very strong baby. But as he is my first son, I couldn't do it (only first night only) and after a while now he become more and more unstoppable, Every night at the same time around 10:30-11pm, he starts crying and nothing I do or anyone do Would soothe him, no matter what I do. I try to sing him a song, feed him (though he is still hungry, but he is not), check his diaper, or maybe the room temperature is too hot or too cold, put him down or even if I hold him he is still crying. I have no idea what he want.
Here I come to the point that no one can sleep at night. When the night come, I feel worried and always pray for him to give me a good night sleep for once. The least we could sleep at night is 30min and max 3h (10-15min here and there, total 3h. There's time I alway faint during the day because the lack of sleep and rest).
The problem is not only about my sleep, I love my son, really, but when I look at him, I feel that he is tired too, he couldn't sleep, his brain keep functioning, at this stage he is suppose to sleep, feel happy and have a good rest. It's not good for him to stay awake and sleep 10-15min and wake up and sleep again, it's just a mess. So I make up my mind again after watching this video, I have to sleep train him immediately.
It's for both of us. For him to get a good sleep at night and for me to have time to rest after a whole day with housework + with him.
Today is the second night, my mom is a bit mad at me after I left him cry it out. But what can I do, I have to watch him all day, do all works, my husband often traveling away for his office works, rarely at home. There was a time when I feel so sad seeing my own son and got scared of him because I am so new at this and I have no idea what to do. :/
I pray for this to work. I know all babies are different but I really want my baby to have a good night sleep liked others and even he does not sleep much at daytime, it's okay for me too. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Ka Dyna did it work? My 3 months baby is just like yours, i got scared every night because i dont know whats wrong im doing everything im supposed to do as a mother and it gets me frustrated to hear him cry and with thisw difficulties for sleeping
New comment for an old video😋 my daughter isn't awful about getting a good night sleep; most nights. She's turning 3 months today. My situation is tough as we have another one under one as well. She's great but he us not and he's 11 months.
I've been doing a few of the things you've said already but not all. I will definately be trying everything on both babies. Thank you so much for the advice I'm wishing myself luck 😂😅💜
My 4 month old gets up every 2 hrs sometimes every houre every half hour depends but its really driving me crazy ive tried letting him cry it out and i thought he was doing good but then it got bad again and if i try to soothe him and let him fall asleep on his own again he gets angry and cries even louder when i walk away he has gone 45 non stop then he fell asleep and woke up again yelling after 20 minutes! This is my 3rd baby hes 4 months old and youd think id have it down by now but nope im so tired during the day and cranky so i really want this to work 😩
Hi there, may I ask you a question?
For newborn sleep training that you had mention, the last feed is around 10:30-11pm, what if after the feed and he still doesn't want to sleep or cry after I put him down, should I just leave him cry it out n leave d room?
My newborn never have 5h stretch, his maximum sleep is 3h, so what if he wake up at 2am, should I comfort him or pick him up?
I hope you will reply.
Thanks you very much
I am pregnant right now. And the sleeping routine is my biggest fear. I truly loved your advice and I will try my best to follow them because you seem to know what you are talking about.
+Amandine Njonkou thank you!! I'll be doing an updated step by step one w my newborn soon
Thank You :) 22 weeks pregnant with our first. Need more tips like these :)
Woohoo! You must be getting so excited :)
Loved this video - very logical and not too teacher like! Our bubster is 8 weeks in a few days and we are going to start trying this - wish us luck! Thanks for the great advice and tips xx
Hay Hun so this is day 2 of sleep training day 1: I put him in the bed 8:30 after I feed him a lot
Then he cry and I go inside 8:33
Then he cry and stop cry at 8:39
He cry again 8:50 I go inside 8:53
He cry for 1 min then no cry until 9 and he sleep
Woke up 2 cried till 2:10 a
Woke up 4:30 cried till 4:40a
Woke up 5:30 cried till 5:35a
He Woke up 6:30 and I decided I guess I should feed him since it's close to 7 and he will be up soon anyways I fed him changed him he went back to nap in my bed at 7:30 till 9:30
before sleep training he would wake up at 7am and stay up until he napped at 9am so I started sleep training at 7:40 Pm day 2 - now the question is if I want him to sleep until 7 or 7:30 or even 8 am- should I let him cry it out and see if he will fall back to sleep - through the night I decided not to go in on him because I know that would only get him angry - but day 2 he fell asleep after 3 mins of crying and day 1 was like 13 min total
+Bedo Hanafi sounds like he's starting to learn as he's crying less. Keep in mind it sometimes seems worse while they're learning the skill. Give this a solid week. I would give him 5 mins to see if he'll go back down on his own and if not then go in.
+The Lindquists thanks Hun ur a doll! Ur video motivated me to start sleep training
Hi, I've got a very important question, and would appreciate it so much if you can reply me.
Currently, I'm still breastfeeding my 7 month old son by direct latching. I think he associates this feeding with comfort-latching and it aids him to sleep as well. During his day time naps, he wakes up sometimes and I will latch him to enable him to fall back to sleep again. Similarly, I latch him for night feedings when he wakes up. The duration can be 30 to 45 min each session.
My question is, do I need to stop direct latching in order to sleep train my baby? Is it crucial to change him to bottle feeding, and if so, how do I go about doing it?
Thank you so so much!
Some thoughts.. 1)Regarding "babies have one 5 hour sleep stretch from birth", my son's was pretty close! He would sleep one 4-hour chunk at night and one 4-hour chunk during the day. Other than that it was always just 40 minutes to an hour & a 1/2 all throughout the day and night. But we breastfeed so that may have something to do with his waking. 2) once he hit about 3 months old, he started screaming bloody murder every night at 7 p.m., for the simple reason that he was tired and did not understand 'if I just close my eyes and relax, sleep will come'.
He's 1 year now, and still nurses "part-time" and wakes 2 or 3 times during the night only very quickly ("business" like you said) and right back to sleep. Until he's done nursing I don't really want him to sleep through the night because then I have to get up and be bothered with pumping so that I don't go too long without nursing and affect my supply. I often wonder - once he weans, if he'll have a problem sleeping through the night. Only time will tell! Maybe I'll come back and let you know :)
thanks for your video! hoping to use for my daughter. she is 8 months old and still wakes every 2-3 hrs for a feed. i know shes not really hungry, just wants to nurse to go back to sleep. the problem is, her crib is in my room, due to lack of space at the moment. so she can see me and smell me, or so i've been told. IM EXHAUSTED! can this sleep training work even with her crib in my room?? she is OKAY with nap time during the day, its just staying asleep through the night. we have a routine, and she goes to bed between 7-8. shes up by 1am and thats when the constant waking begins.
soccer kid what did you end up doing and results??? I have the same problem!
Kori Max I do have the same problem
My little girl is almost 6 months. she goes to bed 7/8 and wakes up every 2/3 hours doesn't even sleep till 1 am... I'm so, so, so exhausted...
so I feel your pain and will definitely try this sleep training
Excellent tips....It's great that you said you kinda combined all the methods. I feel the same although I have 4 kids and they all shared the bed with me and I never had problems. I know that doesn't work for most of you but it worked great for me. Mine were 4 and 10 years spaced out so there never was 2 babies sleeping in my bed at the same time.
Braver than me. 4 kids with the 5th on its way and I have never had to sleep train a single one. They are also awesome sleepers. letting them cry was never something I could or would do.
That's amazing that you have 4 great sleepers!!!!
My mum has four children me being the youngest and she has told me pretty much the exact same thing. Loving your videos! In many ways they're very inspiration :) Forde is going to be an absolute gentlemen when he grows up!
So glad you're loving them Hannah!
I tried to figure out how to PM you but idk what I'm doing so here goes. My son is 10 months. He is such a good baby and rarely ever cries. I'm exclusively nursing and we cosleep. I'm a single mom and widow since he was 4 months and I really want to "sleep train" him so he can sleep better. The problem is, he never sleeps. He actually saw a sleep specialist because he didn't take naps all day and wakes up every hour at night and it's been like that since he was about 3 months old which once he was about 4 months we started cosleeping because me getting up every half hour when he woke up was too much I guess. I regret it now. He's better with naps during the day now. He takes two sometimes. Usually 9:30 and between 1-3 pm. He cries sooooo much when I try to put him in his crib at night and I only last about 3 minutes because he gets all sweaty and hyperventilates. And ends up getting in the bed with me. Will this method still work or should I tweak it a bit? I need sleep and so does the baby but I don't want him sweating and throwing up on himself. Thank you in advance. No negative comments please. I'm a young single widow and I don't have family closer than 2k miles so I'm trying my best. Thanks
Kassandra Lee I am in in a similar situation. Do you think it is because you cry in front of him or get upset? I wonder as this is what I sometimes do. My son is 1 yo, bad sleeper, waking up all night, crying and tossing. My mum say I should not leave to sleep, so this is part of the problem. I am so confused. I have no idea to fix this. You leave him, he will cry and not stop! I cannot wait 15 mins, ti is cruel.
By baby was born Christmas eve. My Wife and I are going to try this and I will let you know how it goes!
Aubrey Young let me know how it goes for you & your wife I will be trying it out my son also he was born on the 14 of dec
Did it work?
My baby is due on Christmas Eve this year😊Did sleep training work for you?
I don't even have kids yet, hopefully soon, and when the time comes (God willing), I am SO coming back to this video! I feel like this is a sound way to go about it, and like you said, this is what worked for you and Forde. May not work for everyone, but it might be worth a shot! Excellent video, madam :)
This makes me so happy to hear! I can't WAIT to hear when God blesses you with a child!
thank you for video i have a 7week old. But first how do i train to get him to sleep on back. please write tips/recommendations. thank you!
I'd like to know this as well! :)
Omg thank you for this video! I've been losing so much sleep with my little one, it was causing stress for both my husband and I. I haven't begun training yet, but this is super useful!
My newborn is 4 weeks old. should I be putting him in his crib for day naps too? Or would it be okay to put him in a bassinet in our living room/kitchen?
So helpful. Starting tonight 😩😩. Wish me luck
It is a general sugestion to start to sleep train most babies around 3 to 4 every baby is different as when they just new it important they know your there for them
can you make a video about your daily routine? are you feeding him before or after bath time?
I’m currently doing cry it out method and I’m on day two and it worked great me and my spouse let him cry and checked him on him every ten to 30 minutes so far day one he cried for 1 hour in a half then day two he only cried for 30 mins and I checked on him at the 10 minute and he is currently out after 30 mins
Elle did you swaddle the boys when they were younger infants? Did you put them in the crib/bassinet/pack n play from the beginning? We use a rock n play right now so I am curious if your boys started on a flat surface. Thanks for the video
My LO is 8 months old and we are just starting!! How would you start sleep training for naps.. do the 10 min check ins?
I did with my twins and it worked. I started when they were 2 weeks old. I always put them to bed at 7 pm. We never had a problem. When they got up, I just feed them and put them back down. I never played with them.
Tamu Bracken one question .. did you breastfeed or used formula?
Thanks for the video. Do you use a pacifier? When did you get rid of it? And how did you do it? Somehow I managed to do exactly same thing how you are training, BUT her night sleep got much worse recently and from waking up once at night, we are now waking up 3 times 😤. She will be turning 6 months soon and I want to get rid of the pacifier, put her in her room and eliminate all night feelings. Not sure if I should do it all at once or what would you recommend? Thank you in advance!
Hi there, I just wanted to thank you for your video and advice. I think I watched it about 50 times and from all my research on sleep training your "method" is the simplest and most effective (I've tried the chair one but it didnt really work for us). I've started sleep training my 8mo old boy and I started by making small changes in the bedtime routine (Ive noticed that if I fed him dinner too late he wouldnt settle to sleep very well) anyway DAY ONE put him down at 7pm as usual and he slept through after a total of 25 min crying (10 min- 15min). I did the "business check", calmed him down (in my case I picked him up but put him back in the crib once he calmed down - but completely awake) :) repeated my key words and left the room. I did this in two intervals and mentioned before. Then I went to bed and when I woke up I realised he had slept through. He woke up early but I am counting as victory because he didnt wake up three or four times (or 1 time for 3 hours) as he used to. DAY TWO - nap 1 and he cried for 10 min. T E N M I N U T E S !! I know it might be "beginners luck" but I will stick to the schedule I set for us and I will come back in a week to let you know. So far things are working, I'm amazed how afraid I was for no reason, he cried a lot less than I expected. Now I am expecting things to get more difficult but consistency is key. Thank you I, like you also choose sleep! I am a better mum when I am rested. xxx to you and Forde!
Gigi Loop I can really relate to this!! How are things going with your baby sleeping?
Hi Elle, I'm not sure if you've talked about this before but what do you dress your baby in at night? My baby boy is 12 weeks now, sometimes he does poop in the middle of the night and I havent yet mastered to change the nappy/diaper quickly. I dress him in a sleeveless onesie and bodysuit. Thanks for making this video, it has been very informative!
I'm only 26 weeks right now, but this is so relieving.
Day three of training , going better than I expected. Would love naps to lengthen though. Thoughts?
Still trying, now he is taking at least one good nap but now not sleeping threw the night...
I will try this again for the week...I am sooo dreading the crying. I did it for a day and let my daughter cry for about 4 minutes before I had to "rescue" her. LOL She falls asleep on her own here and there and night time sleeping is going well, but I do want her to be able to do it easily for her daytime naps without help from me. Will report back!
Let me know how it all goes!! Praying for good sleep in her future!