Male Rape Survivor Reveals Devastating Effects Of His Ordeal | UNILAD - Original Documentary

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  • Опубліковано 20 лип 2017
  • WARNING SENSITIVE TOPICS WHICH SOME VIEWRS MAY FIND DISTRESSING
    Male rape is real and it happens. It is still not a much talked about subject - but here's a courageous survivor talking about his experience's and the devastating effect his ordeal had on his life.
    Please find all the information and helplines in the following links:
    Survivors UK: www.survivorsuk.org/
    Rape Crisis England & Wales: rapecrisis.org.uk/supportform...
    The Survivors Trust: thesurvivorstrust.org/national...
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 102

  • @gh0stlyjack707
    @gh0stlyjack707 6 років тому +3716

    Because I'm a boy, I'm not allowed to say what happened to me was rape. Not because it would ruin my "masculinity", but because nobody would care, nobody would believe. I feel violated, numb,and disgusted each time I look into the mirror. I Thank you for sharing this story, it lets me know that I'm not alone.

    • @lovely-mk4rt
      @lovely-mk4rt 5 років тому +77

      DeadGhostGuy *cough* My dear. You are not alone. So many of us direct our confusion , shame and anger at ourselves. Please don’t point these dark thoughts toward yourself. Look forward, one step at a time and talk to a professional. I stated to do service. Trained to be an advocate...... it was very very difficult... but helpful. Art, painting, clay... anything that might take your mind in a different direction or better mood. Much love

    • @TheCreativeAutistic37
      @TheCreativeAutistic37 2 роки тому +90

      as a female i feel so bad for you i will pray for you
      so sorry that society doesnt understand the feelings of males
      every human being has emotions and feelings and we should be believed when something such as rape/assualt occurs i really am hoping you find closure as you heal
      i am a survivor too

    • @mrclickbait105
      @mrclickbait105 2 роки тому +30

      This is too under rated

  • @so_cal_mom
    @so_cal_mom 6 років тому +3761

    What a brave person for speaking out. He’s doing so much good.

  • @Bondisaurus
    @Bondisaurus 6 років тому +2261

    The strength of this guy is unbelievable! 💪

  • @amansiddiqi1
    @amansiddiqi1 6 років тому +3234

    Thank you so much for sharing your heart breaking story. You will undoubtedly help many men come forward and seek help. It is very brave of you to share your experience with the world.

  • @ThEsiLhOuEtT3
    @ThEsiLhOuEtT3 6 років тому +889

    I wish all victims, male or female... would be able to feel comfortable in revealing such an ordeal. :/

  • @whimsysmith2835
    @whimsysmith2835 6 років тому +1313

    Thank you for sharing. I know two men who were raped. One was raped by a woman and when he tried to talk about what happened to him he was accused of being the perpetrator, and is now forced to pay child support. Even though they found that he had been drugged, and that there were witnesses to the event that corroborate him. The other's story is much like yours, and he had never told anyone about it before me. I hope more men like yourselves are brave enough to come forward, and that more people are willing to listen.

  • @italoruas7997
    @italoruas7997 6 років тому +1174

    You're not the only one dude, thanks for sharing

  • @shelleythompson2049
    @shelleythompson2049 6 років тому +618

    Everyones sexual safety comes first regardless of gender. Thank you for speaking up and taking it to the authorities. Your strength and willingness to be open with this horrific event shows the way for other who can draw on your strength to speak up, or to support someone they love that this has happened to.

  • @ayoung1
    @ayoung1 6 років тому +363

    You are a brave and compassionate young man. Thank you for sharing such a tragic experience with others who need to know that this is not their fault and that they are not diminished by this experience. Your public voice is a voice of courage. Thank you.

  • @missmonster2066
    @missmonster2066 6 років тому +215

    I'm sorry you were raped. I was too. I became a domestic violence advocate for a while because of it. Like you, I needed to help people. Thank you for sharing your experience with me and everyone else who watched your video. You're voice should be heard. Your words are important. There aren't many advocates for men who experience sexual assault and domestic violence. Statistics show the group with highest increase recently in sexual assault is young men and that number is actually believed to be much larger because of so many unreported cases. Victimization and abuse have got to stop and proper care and recovery is needed for everyone. Healing from this kind of trauma is so difficult and the effect it has on people touches every area of their lives. People really just don't get it.

  • @jjpotter5656
    @jjpotter5656 6 років тому +201

    Thanks for sharing and taking a brave stand against rapists, I did not report my rape because of negative criticism, time heals, but I still remember how psychologically humiliated I felt after, that never goes away.

  • @michaelsheridandigital8135
    @michaelsheridandigital8135 6 років тому +703

    Handled very sensitively. I'm really pleased that these social companies are changing what it means to be "a lad"

  • @mickeyjim19844
    @mickeyjim19844 6 років тому +835

    Thank you. I have been dealing with this for 16 years without saying anything. I thought I was doing ok with being called the emotionless, heartless arsehole who just doesn't react to anything, who everyone goes to as he knows the right answers .. until a 17 year old boy confided in me about what he had been through... and now haven't thought about anything but this night since... the nightmares everything coming back.
    You are an inspiration I completely agree with everyone else's comments.

  • @sebbeboi481
    @sebbeboi481 6 років тому +531

    You are a very strong man. You are an inspiration to male rape victims. Stay strong

  • @karong7017
    @karong7017 6 років тому +107

    No one deserves this. Bless your heart.

  • @jakeannison6513
    @jakeannison6513 6 років тому +59

    I am so pleased that Sam is so very brave and has chosen to speak out and help others turning a vile disgusting act of violation into a more positive tool to help others. Sam is a legend of a man and should be commended for his bravery and strength of character. To anyone that has been a victim of rape or sexual abuse, it is never your fault and you have nothing to be ashamed of

  • @UNILAD
    @UNILAD 6 років тому +1296

    For any survivors of rape out there, please remember you are not alone. There is always help and advice available to you.
    Find links in the description that will take you to helplines available in the UK, and also general advice for survivors.

  • @lineakristensen1821
    @lineakristensen1821 5 років тому +47

    Such a beautiful man. Both inside and out. A great reminder that people can be going though hard times you can't even imagine, even though they look beautiful and on top.

  • @secsca
    @secsca 6 років тому +88

    you are a brave brave man! SO PROUD that you have the strength to speak out and help others-

  • @natashamartinez1739
    @natashamartinez1739 6 років тому +344

    Brave Man, I deeply appreciate your courage, Survivor

  • @farooqihasani7002
    @farooqihasani7002 6 років тому +347

    Male Rape is very common in my country and people of my religion unfortunately. These men are very brave. Thank you

  • @mariocondello2282
    @mariocondello2282 6 років тому +580

    I hope they caught the sick ppl who did this

  • @anamikaprakash2840
    @anamikaprakash2840 5 років тому +69

    Humanity is the hardest thing to find these days .

  • @beth-bi9yv
    @beth-bi9yv 6 років тому +186

    Thanks for sharing! So much stigma attached to rape, even more when it's a guy who is the victim. Very brave

  • @SkinnyBigManVids
    @SkinnyBigManVids 6 років тому +133

    really glad you've chosen to give issues like this a voice. Brave lad talking about it on video too

  • @elizabethh.415
    @elizabethh.415 6 років тому +150

    You are a strong dude. Keep going. I wish you all the best

  • @Lisa-qi6in
    @Lisa-qi6in 6 років тому +80

    Sam. What a terrible thing to happen to you. I wish the rest of your life will be full of happiness.

  • @notamused3715
    @notamused3715 6 років тому +29

    Fair play to this brave and selfless young man for speaking out about this terrible experience! He is a REAL man,unlike the spineless,depraved cowards who attacked him!

  • @casehamatojones1369
    @casehamatojones1369 6 років тому +220

    I’m so sorry that u had to experience this, it’s *horrible* and those people are *disgraceful* to do what they did ! ur such an inspiration, thank you for helping other victims of sexual assault . I’ll both pray for u and look up to u throughout my life as an idol and a hero .

  • @emeraldwindswept4327
    @emeraldwindswept4327 6 років тому +35

    I understand! There are no words or actions that could ever make what happened easier for you. You are doing a great job for male assault victims. Unfortunately sometimes bad things happen to make positive actions. Thank you for sharing. Much love sent to you on your journey.

  • @mariaestherrivas4988
    @mariaestherrivas4988 5 років тому +25

    You are so brave. Thanks for sharing

  • @neonmoon82
    @neonmoon82 6 років тому +20

    Your courage in speaking up is truly admirable. Most me are afraid to disclose. I think your coming forward has helped many.

  • @Christopher-Yabadabado
    @Christopher-Yabadabado 6 років тому +51

    Thank God for real men like you. Thank you for speaking.

  • @dianemccarthy5931
    @dianemccarthy5931 6 років тому +18

    You are so brave. Thank for being honest and sharing your story. It will help others out there.

  • @scooterthelostduckling1356
    @scooterthelostduckling1356 6 років тому +34

    I've tried therapy, but it brought only momentary relief from my thoughts.

  • @dannyp2058
    @dannyp2058 6 років тому +35

    I'm so sorry to know of your story, your a strong brave man and I wish you the very best for your future.

  • @sneedle252
    @sneedle252 6 років тому +17

    Good that this is being talked about. The person being interviewed has done a lot of good with this.

  • @josephjames.2277
    @josephjames.2277 6 років тому +38

    You're strong man. I'm so sorry this happened to you. Stay strong and God bless you.

  • @BrookeSingleton
    @BrookeSingleton 6 років тому +43

    You are so brave to get through this and share your story. A lot of people feel alone and think they are the only ones going through this. Because of you they know they are not alone anymore.

  • @fahmidayeasmin4780
    @fahmidayeasmin4780 6 років тому +21

    You are so brave Sam, Respect from the core of my heart

  • @Ruffiello
    @Ruffiello 6 років тому +11

    Love to you, Sam! Thank you for sharing this.

  • @fluffystarafina
    @fluffystarafina 5 років тому +42

    Brave guy.respect to you sir.❤

  • @pedronuevo8571
    @pedronuevo8571 6 років тому +10

    Thank you for spreading awareness on this topic

  • @clair233
    @clair233 6 років тому +87

    I really believe this will give many others courage to call out and seek help.

  • @Aritul
    @Aritul 6 років тому +8

    Incredibly brave of him to share his story.

  • @derekstynes9631
    @derekstynes9631 6 років тому +16

    Very Brave Man, I Hope He feels Better by Sharing His Ordeal.

  • @JG-mt3rp
    @JG-mt3rp 6 років тому +24

    Brave man, I wish him well. This shows so much courage and class, bravo.

  • @boujeemakeup
    @boujeemakeup 6 років тому +68

    Thank you for sharing

  • @gretashapiro4118
    @gretashapiro4118 6 років тому +38

    It happens way more than people think. Men are extremely reluctant to come forward. .go for you bro,I how you help many

  • @Juanitalikes
    @Juanitalikes 5 років тому +34

    Wow, thank you for sharing your story. Male rape is something not widely discussed so thank you : ) xo

  • @slimeonadeuwu9493
    @slimeonadeuwu9493 6 років тому +25

    Your a brave man. You shouldnt of had this happen to you, I am truly sorry this happened to you... Your a brave man sharing this.

  • @AABLAY
    @AABLAY 6 років тому +13

    You seem to be a really nice person. Good luck and thanks for sharing your story because It can help many people.

  • @madeleine8977
    @madeleine8977 5 років тому +10

    Sam, I am just so sorry this happened to you. I hope this will help you to heal. It was not your fault.

  • @henrypeacock9834
    @henrypeacock9834 6 років тому +21

    Wow. Poor guy. Thanks for sharing...

  • @davidspensberger7862
    @davidspensberger7862 6 років тому +16

    powerful man speaks his truth thank you

  • @butterflyper8140
    @butterflyper8140 6 років тому +21

    Thanks for telling us your story, you are an inspiration 💕

  • @blueh9
    @blueh9 6 років тому +11

    You are so brave. I support you.

  • @DarthFurie
    @DarthFurie 6 років тому +10

    I'm so sorry you went through this ordeal

  • @MultiJak15
    @MultiJak15 6 років тому +16

    Amazing story it’s great when survivors speak about their stories survivors Manchester also helped me as well and helped me turn my life around

  • @seanyurt334
    @seanyurt334 6 років тому +53

    Poor guy that's awful

  • @gulizararslan6493
    @gulizararslan6493 6 років тому +12

    thank you for sharing. i really hope we can help more men to feel more comfortable to speak about it to their families and loved ones so that they can get help and not have to go through this alone.

  • @amberwallbridge4034
    @amberwallbridge4034 6 років тому +19

    Well done you.. I hope you can find peace with the awful thing that happened to you.

  • @infledermaus
    @infledermaus 6 років тому +185

    Sounds like they drugged you. I feel bad for you. It's just after your 1 year anniversary. I h ope you're still working it our. Thumbs up to you.

  • @BSON900
    @BSON900 6 років тому +15

    I'm so sorry.

  • @PM-ql1nx
    @PM-ql1nx 6 років тому +80

    Thank you for sharing your story. Even women get the same response you got from the police department. They can be insensitive and non believing.

  • @balajialagurajan243
    @balajialagurajan243 6 років тому +20

    God bless you! Stay strong

  • @warriorspirit910
    @warriorspirit910 6 років тому +22

    Very sorry this happened to him

  • @criticalbill2090
    @criticalbill2090 6 років тому +18

    Fairplay to you brother, Top Respect

  • @lovemosss2001
    @lovemosss2001 6 років тому +73

    You're the Man. God is Good. God gave you a strong heart... You gave hope for other people who also a victim of rape...

  • @jsmith1754
    @jsmith1754 6 років тому +69

    inspirational

  • @were-all-human9427
    @were-all-human9427 6 років тому +37

    You are a brave man, total kudos to you. May I ask were the men caught and jailed?. Best wishes to you.... I heard recently on a radio 4 prog that female rape crisis centres refuse to talk to male rape victims... surely rape is rape. Im wondering if UNILAD would add links for crisis call hotlines that will help male victims could be added here (& other useful links)

    • @UNILAD
      @UNILAD 6 років тому +11

      Hi, we've added a few links in the description that take you to helplines in the UK. These pages also have a wealth of advice for rape survivors.

  • @karlnicholls9181
    @karlnicholls9181 6 років тому +15

    Such a role model keep strong !

  • @christymckee8133
    @christymckee8133 6 років тому +18

    Awe :( so sad. I hate for this to happen to anyone...

  • @Laura-fc9cy
    @Laura-fc9cy 6 років тому +7

    GOD BLESS HUN IT MUST BE HARD BUT LIFE GOES ON AND YOU BECAME STRONGER TO HAVE THE STRENGTH YOU HAVE NOW TO BE A VOICE FOR THOSE WHO CHOOSE TO STAY SILENT

  • @abara5678
    @abara5678 6 років тому +7

    all the best for you man!!!

  • @anagavashelishvili935
    @anagavashelishvili935 6 років тому +12

    incredibly brave 💗

  • @1966nz
    @1966nz 6 років тому +68

    Superb role model

  • @PATRICKCASARES
    @PATRICKCASARES 5 років тому +15

    wow it take a man to come out with this thank you for sharing iam sorry that some one took you like that they stole from you not cool

  • @lungien8481
    @lungien8481 6 років тому +15

    im sorry😢

  • @skylewylde4506
    @skylewylde4506 6 років тому +31

    I’m here after that traumatic 13 Reasons Why season 2 finale, need to know as much as I can about male rape because these issues can’t be taken lightly. It’s something that hopefully will spark a debate among everyone so that no one will have to feel ashamed in dealing with this situation.

  • @adinapoole3798
    @adinapoole3798 6 років тому +62

    God bless you

  • @lizc5017
    @lizc5017 6 років тому +120

    You are very brave take care I was raped too

  • @ZOMBO100
    @ZOMBO100 6 років тому +31

    fucking hell heavy duty stuff

  • @cabbagelettuce3340
    @cabbagelettuce3340 6 років тому +7

    Be strong. Be careful.

  • @sunnydae8521
    @sunnydae8521 6 років тому +10

    Very brave 💖

  • @virginianeil6185
    @virginianeil6185 6 років тому +117

    Such a henious crime .

  • @lilly-xn7ug
    @lilly-xn7ug 6 років тому +9

    brave brave man!

  • @aliciacroft
    @aliciacroft 6 років тому +10

    Good on you: very important what you are doing

  • @esmediamond
    @esmediamond 6 років тому +26

    This is a progressive video. All victims need to gain courage and self-love to tell what had happened. Unfortunately, when videos are posted about female rape survivors, the comments are toxic and demeaning towards the victim. Reading this - if you ever have watched a women about women's experiences as a victim, do not demean her, blame her, or threaten her. For whatever reasons you have, do not. Solve what is truly bothering you, because hurting others is nt the solution.

  • @brianpan6453
    @brianpan6453 6 років тому +7

    The whole subject of rape is very interesting to follow. In the U.S. armed services, a huge amount of attention is focused on male on female rapes. What army brass, as well as high government refuses to acknowledge is that there is much more 'm on m' rape than 'm on f' rape in the armed services. Senator Kristen Gillibrand (D - NY) has been working on this issue for quite some time.

  • @TheActual5000
    @TheActual5000 6 років тому +3

    You are the brave chap that reached out to Coronation Street!!!

  • @sebanojrgensen9537
    @sebanojrgensen9537 6 років тому +12

    🙁

    • @asersah
      @asersah 6 років тому +2

      Sebano Jørgensen there there ❤

  • @Calferr
    @Calferr 6 років тому

    😪

  • @ruddiato
    @ruddiato 6 років тому +4

    I don't support rape in any way,but how do u rape someone of the same sex?? He's a strong man to come forward