For Alisha: when people say you should read a book or watch a movie, reframing it as that people are using it as bids for connection with you could help. When people recommend media to us, it's because they want to connect with us and they thought of you.
37:17 Alisha saying let’s go to Vegas soon and I know this was filmed like 2 weeks ago and BASICALLY UNFILTERED justttt announced Vegas for team bonding pt 2
@Remi, for our wedding (2022) we just prioritized our goals. We wanted: a) a huge party with all of our friends and b) an easily accessible venue that makes it easy for older and out of town guests. So our venue was just in a big downtown athletic club, which had a hotel IN the building, AND had the ceremony room down the hall from the reception. We did very minimal decor because the venue looked fine, and that was just not something I cared about. We made sure the food and alcohol was good and plentiful. And that's it! Biased but best wedding we've ever been to 👀
@18:00 No Alisha! They are not entitled to your phone number just because they asked. You dont have to feel bad for them. You have your own interests and boundaries and if youre not interested in them, its not your problem they dont get your number.
For remi, as a 2023 bride that literally didn’t want a “wedding” me and my husband both very chill people didn’t want a big wedding and didn’t wanna spend the money truly. My mother in law took over a lot of the planning and I wanted to literally elope and call it a day. We ended up getting married at the courthouse with our closest friends and family watching. We did our vows in private just the 2 of us and had a small “reception” in the upstairs of a bar. Now mind you we got married on a Monday 🤣 not a big crowd on a Monday at 2pm. I’m saying all this to say. None of it really matters and yes I loved how our wedding was so small I would have loved it just being us too but you will never regret marrying your person. You may regret the choice of flowers or who you invited but you will never regret marrying your best friend. So always have that in the back of your head that even when things don’t go how you thought at the end of the day you’re still marrying cal! ❤️
Alisha plz don’t feel obligated to give out ur number if you’re genuinely not interested lol the guys feelings be damned grown women don’t need to babysit men’s feelings ❤
As a wedding photographer, large getting ready spaces are so nice to have because you can have an area for clutter and an area to keep clean for pics. I struggle with small getting ready spaces!
Just got married in May! Something we did not know we needed to consider when venue shopping was accessible bathrooms for older family members or anyone who may be in a wheelchair/cain or has trouble with stairs! This was huge
Y’all need to clip 14:33 bc the duality in your friendship really showed there. I’m def more losh girl in romantic situations my fellow Aries I understand 😭
Hiiii!! (I apologize as this is super long) I’ve been following along on Remi’s wedding journey and just wanted start off by saying that Remi, I am so excited for you. You are going to be an absolutely STUNNING bride. As someone who recently got married, I LOVE hearing all of your behind the scenes regarding the wedding planning, so please do not shy away from sharing what YOU want to. I got married on September 23rd last year and know how absolutely overwhelming the whole entire wedding planning experience can be. There was MANY times I had breakdowns and wished I would’ve just eloped. All of that to say, having an actual wedding was so wonderful and worth all of the stress once it’s all said and done. Seeing all of the things you worked so hard to plan come together on the day of is so rewarding. One thing I was so beyond grateful to have at my wedding was having a sparate “bridal” space. ( bare with me as I attempt to explain my thoughts haha) We got married on my grandma’s lake property. We rented a big white tent, plopped it infront of the water and rented bathrooms for all of the guests. Being someone who can get a little overwhelmed in crowds it was honestly super nice to have the lake house as a separate space for me to “escape” to periodically for a few minutes. Whether it was to take a minor breather, grab a little snack away from everyone or even to just use a separate bathroom it was a game changer for me and I’m so grateful I had it. I’m sure A LOT of the venues you’re looking into have a separate space and I just wanted to underline that I found it to be so beneficial as it can definitely be overwhelming being the centre of attention all night long. Another thing is, I genuinely don’t think I ate really anything the day of my wedding as I was SO full of anxiety. Having snacks for you that you can have uninterrupted in that separate space (especially after all of the nerve racking things are done) is a game changer (I didn’t have any aside from a dinner roll but would’ve appreciated a little something to absorb the alcohol I was consuming as I quite literally have never been SO sick the day after in my entire life🤪) Best wishes to you as you continue on your wedding journey Remi ❤️ Opinions whether wanted or not will be thrown at you left and right but always remember that it’s YOUR (and Cal’s) special day. Make it what YOU want. Ps. As a fellow people pleaser, make sure to surround yourself with people who YOU truly want to be there and who also want the best for you. ❤️ I learned A LOT about the people who I chose to surround myself with pre wedding but looking back now it really was a blessing in disguise.
1000% agree!!! Please share all wedding updates that YOU want to share, and as Much as you want to share!! I personally love wedding content! And yes, weddings are very much worth it! One of my Best memories to date!
Hearing alisha acknowledge her last name in the year 2024 is wild (i used to have a fan page when i was like 13 and i used to think it was a big secret hahaha)
Wedding Tip: For venues, look to see what the bathroom situation is and the bride suite if you plan on getting ready there! Also, how long is the walk down the aisle to the groom? The longer the aisle, the more chances of falling or tripping LOL!
Remi, I had to give a speech as the MOH and I was so nervous. I recommend snacking throughout the day if you can, cause I was so nervous that I didn’t eat the dinner!
Alisha! Do NOT feel bad about giving RANDOM MEN a fake number!! Some of these men are dangerous or crazy and you never know who, so no one is ever entitled to your personal number.
I felt that when Alisha said I’d be a whore if I had the confidence, same girl same🤣 If y’all can handle trigger warnings in books I highly recommend haunting Adeline & hunting Adeline. It’s soooo good! I’m almost done with the second book and I’m sad it’s almost over!
I skipped the drama and got married in Vegas but I still had a big dress and it was live streamed to anyone who couldn’t come. It was the best decision we made.
This could be a book of a long message but the shortest I can do is this. The literal day after my wedding I felt sad about all the time, stress, and money that we put into the wedding and regretted it. Felt like it took so much of us and the result was pretty and a memory but also in the end not that important in the grand scheme. So my general advice is don’t put too much into it that you won’t ever get back. We can tell ourselves it’s worth to spend the money cause it’s our only wedding but also it’s just one day. That money could go towards so much more long lasting things.
My besties mom and dad... threw an engagement party, changed halfway though and announced it was the wedding.... the insane amount of money they saved/the surprise. Mind you this was marraige 2 for both. .. but still such a cool day
I’m here for the wedding talk. But I just finally decided two weeks ago that we are going to the courthouse to get married. Not worth all the stress for me and I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. I also don’t want to pay for any of it ha! We are just going to take a nice trip just the two of us next summer ❤❤
📚📚📚📚 💒 About the wedding topic.. I learned how important parking and guest experience was. Like really thinking about what the guest are doing while we’re taking photos or if there were clear instructions and how long it would take for everyone to check in and get their table numbers.
Amazing episode as always, ladies. Just the light-hearted and uplifting conversations needed. Finished work for the day; I can listen while sorting the clean laundry out. Cheers for the romantic novel recommendation as I love reading 💜📚 Hope you are both well. 🎧🎤
Hi! 2024 Bride here! You absolutely need a day of coordinator AND someone to intercept any questions the whole day of the wedding. Don’t be the planner, BE THE GUEST. I didn’t have this and I was so stressed my entire wedding day.
I was having the hardest time finding a venue until I went to the one I didn’t want to tour. I was not listening to my wedding planner but I should have bc I could’ve avoided all the stress 😂 she was right and i ended up falling in love with the venue and booked it the same day. And it was the first venue I toured😅
I watched crossroads as an adult for the first time and while I don’t think it was ~amazing-, I 100% know that if I watched it in 2002 it would be my entire personality
For Remi: not sure if you remember but I met you and Cal at Crystals mall in Vegas I think two days after I got married there at the Bellagio Fountain! I have to say I have zero regrets about doing it that way!
Ouuu book recommendations: Stalking Jack the Ripper is a good one if you like Mysteries and Romance and then How does it feel? omg its sooo good, i think Alisha you would like it! Also📚📚
It's like when your manifesting anything, so with that guy, you probably subconsciously just "let it go" and so when you brought up his name with no attachment to him. He messaged you.
My husband and I are both Vietnamese and Vietnamese people go hard and big for weddings, so we decided to save ourselves the stress and our livers by eloping 😅
I love how Crossroads got brought up again!!! If you know, you fucking know!!! I seen it at the theater and I have it on DVD. Last time this got brought up I offered to send it to remi so she can watch it!
my mom used to say if you bite your tongue, someone is talking about you. maybe he bit his tongue and he thought of you, in the hopes of you were thinking of him too
My fiance and I decided to elope on Halloween. My best friend is also engaged right now and helping her plan her wedding has made me realize a big wedding is not for me
Remi, I was the same way when it came to Weddings. I never really had a vision and was engaged for 3 years hahaha We did end up doing a 20 person wedding realllly nice dinner and cute photos and it was like a cute party and even had an outfit change. It was defiantly less stressful, but I still wish we did a big wedding as well because I love the idea of having allll of our friends get to together.
As a man let me help you, a rich guy loses nothing in the break-up. You're not going to boss a rich guy around, unless he's a simp" and even they will leave. Money is power, but you ladies know this. Rich people are bosses, so if this is what you want fine, but if you think being attractive is going to keep a man around, wrong" he needs to like or love you to want to stay, especially if he already had sex with you, why would he want to stay if he has no reason to care if it's all about "You and only "You and what "you want?
Girl are we reading the same book? ACOMAF she is literally depressed in the first two chapters, there’s literally sex in 2 chapters of acotar & honestly the same with acomaf. Those books are books with spice not smut. Smut has basically no plot or other themes
📚 there’s such a good rule to who you want to invite. If you haven’t talked to them either in person or via the phone, not texting, then you could invite them if you want. Invite who is going to make you happy!
For Alisha: when people say you should read a book or watch a movie, reframing it as that people are using it as bids for connection with you could help. When people recommend media to us, it's because they want to connect with us and they thought of you.
This is actually such a useful skill for people to learn!!! Gonna keep this in my back pocket, thank you! ❤️❤️❤️
Yes
Oh I love this 🥹🥹
Such a good take! I’m like Alisha too regarding books and movies but I’m going to try this now ❤👏🏻
Remi, you can have Alisha as your Maid of Honor and Kay as Matron of Honor!!!! How fun!
I relate to Alisha sooo much when it comes to anxiety and overthinking about guys and dating!
Remi is me when a man actually puts effort into my best friend 😭🤞🏻
37:17 Alisha saying let’s go to Vegas soon and I know this was filmed like 2 weeks ago and BASICALLY UNFILTERED justttt announced Vegas for team bonding pt 2
Alisha it’s okay i’m so the same. i have such bad social and dating anxiety i used to have to force myself to hang out with guys 😂
@Remi, for our wedding (2022) we just prioritized our goals. We wanted: a) a huge party with all of our friends and b) an easily accessible venue that makes it easy for older and out of town guests. So our venue was just in a big downtown athletic club, which had a hotel IN the building, AND had the ceremony room down the hall from the reception. We did very minimal decor because the venue looked fine, and that was just not something I cared about. We made sure the food and alcohol was good and plentiful. And that's it! Biased but best wedding we've ever been to 👀
The intro is serving class and sass and I love it ❤
Always look forward to my hour of cleaning the house on a Wednesday to catch up with you 🤍 Loving all the recent content!
Wait Alisha please elaborate more on brand consulting!! It’s so cool I think a lot of us would love to hear about that ❤
4:12 SO LITTE TIME!! I swear I’ve never heard anybody talk about this iconic series! Ahh!
@18:00 No Alisha! They are not entitled to your phone number just because they asked. You dont have to feel bad for them. You have your own interests and boundaries and if youre not interested in them, its not your problem they dont get your number.
For remi, as a 2023 bride that literally didn’t want a “wedding” me and my husband both very chill people didn’t want a big wedding and didn’t wanna spend the money truly. My mother in law took over a lot of the planning and I wanted to literally elope and call it a day. We ended up getting married at the courthouse with our closest friends and family watching. We did our vows in private just the 2 of us and had a small “reception” in the upstairs of a bar. Now mind you we got married on a Monday 🤣 not a big crowd on a Monday at 2pm. I’m saying all this to say. None of it really matters and yes I loved how our wedding was so small I would have loved it just being us too but you will never regret marrying your person. You may regret the choice of flowers or who you invited but you will never regret marrying your best friend. So always have that in the back of your head that even when things don’t go how you thought at the end of the day you’re still marrying cal! ❤️
Alisha plz don’t feel obligated to give out ur number if you’re genuinely not interested lol the guys feelings be damned grown women don’t need to babysit men’s feelings ❤
Crossroads has been one of my favorite movies since it came out when I was 7 🥰
I've always said if you want someone to reach out, you just have to start talking about them 😂
As a wedding photographer, large getting ready spaces are so nice to have because you can have an area for clutter and an area to keep clean for pics. I struggle with small getting ready spaces!
Just got married in May! Something we did not know we needed to consider when venue shopping was accessible bathrooms for older family members or anyone who may be in a wheelchair/cain or has trouble with stairs! This was huge
Never get tired of this duo❤️📚
This was an excellent episode. Absolutely love hanging out with you girls 💕📚
This my favorite episode in a while I love how it isn’t a plan and more convo vibes
Y’all need to clip 14:33 bc the duality in your friendship really showed there. I’m def more losh girl in romantic situations my fellow Aries I understand 😭
Watching this while working from home. 🥰 Best way to start my Wednesday!
So wild to hear you guys talk about Monterey! It’s where I live and its beauty never gets old.
Trailing behind you in age has been so helpful ty ily
Hiiii!! (I apologize as this is super long)
I’ve been following along on Remi’s wedding journey and just wanted start off by saying that Remi, I am so excited for you. You are going to be an absolutely STUNNING bride.
As someone who recently got married, I LOVE hearing all of your behind the scenes regarding the wedding planning, so please do not shy away from sharing what YOU want to.
I got married on September 23rd last year and know how absolutely overwhelming the whole entire wedding planning experience can be. There was MANY times I had breakdowns and wished I would’ve just eloped.
All of that to say, having an actual wedding was so wonderful and worth all of the stress once it’s all said and done. Seeing all of the things you worked so hard to plan come together on the day of is so rewarding.
One thing I was so beyond grateful to have at my wedding was having a sparate “bridal” space. ( bare with me as I attempt to explain my thoughts haha) We got married on my grandma’s lake property. We rented a big white tent, plopped it infront of the water and rented bathrooms for all of the guests.
Being someone who can get a little overwhelmed in crowds it was honestly super nice to have the lake house as a separate space for me to “escape” to periodically for a few minutes. Whether it was to take a minor breather, grab a little snack away from everyone or even to just use a separate bathroom it was a game changer for me and I’m so grateful I had it.
I’m sure A LOT of the venues you’re looking into have a separate space and I just wanted to underline that I found it to be so beneficial as it can definitely be overwhelming being the centre of attention all night long.
Another thing is, I genuinely don’t think I ate really anything the day of my wedding as I was SO full of anxiety. Having snacks for you that you can have uninterrupted in that separate space (especially after all of the nerve racking things are done) is a game changer (I didn’t have any aside from a dinner roll but would’ve appreciated a little something to absorb the alcohol I was consuming as I quite literally have never been SO sick the day after in my entire life🤪)
Best wishes to you as you continue on your wedding journey Remi ❤️ Opinions whether wanted or not will be thrown at you left and right but always remember that it’s YOUR (and Cal’s) special day. Make it what YOU want.
Ps. As a fellow people pleaser, make sure to surround yourself with people who YOU truly want to be there and who also want the best for you. ❤️ I learned A LOT about the people who I chose to surround myself with pre wedding but looking back now it really was a blessing in disguise.
1000% agree!!! Please share all wedding updates that YOU want to share, and as Much as you want to share!! I personally love wedding content! And yes, weddings are very much worth it! One of my Best memories to date!
Definitely needed outdoor lighting !
Hearing alisha acknowledge her last name in the year 2024 is wild (i used to have a fan page when i was like 13 and i used to think it was a big secret hahaha)
More book talk on the pod please!!
We attended the Quail a few years back to see a friends car unveiled and it was such a fun experience!
Wedding Tip: For venues, look to see what the bathroom situation is and the bride suite if you plan on getting ready there! Also, how long is the walk down the aisle to the groom? The longer the aisle, the more chances of falling or tripping LOL!
Enjoy your ACOTAR moment Alisha! Those are my favorite books! 📚
Alisha stop apologizing for your sense of humor!!!!!! It’s funny and silly!!!
Remi forgot to say she’s an auntieeeee
This got me back into my reading era!! I was in such a slump.
Remi, I had to give a speech as the MOH and I was so nervous. I recommend snacking throughout the day if you can, cause I was so nervous that I didn’t eat the dinner!
Alisha! Do NOT feel bad about giving RANDOM MEN a fake number!! Some of these men are dangerous or crazy and you never know who, so no one is ever entitled to your personal number.
I felt that when Alisha said I’d be a whore if I had the confidence, same girl same🤣
If y’all can handle trigger warnings in books I highly recommend haunting Adeline & hunting Adeline. It’s soooo good! I’m almost done with the second book and I’m sad it’s almost over!
📚 pride and prejudice and the knife of never letting go
I skipped the drama and got married in Vegas but I still had a big dress and it was live streamed to anyone who couldn’t come. It was the best decision we made.
This seemed like such a short episode…. Longer podcasts please!!!!
the penny slots are going to be in local spots like gas stations or convient stores in vegas 😉
This could be a book of a long message but the shortest I can do is this. The literal day after my wedding I felt sad about all the time, stress, and money that we put into the wedding and regretted it. Felt like it took so much of us and the result was pretty and a memory but also in the end not that important in the grand scheme. So my general advice is don’t put too much into it that you won’t ever get back. We can tell ourselves it’s worth to spend the money cause it’s our only wedding but also it’s just one day. That money could go towards so much more long lasting things.
My besties mom and dad... threw an engagement party, changed halfway though and announced it was the wedding.... the insane amount of money they saved/the surprise. Mind you this was marraige 2 for both. .. but still such a cool day
I’m here for the wedding talk. But I just finally decided two weeks ago that we are going to the courthouse to get married. Not worth all the stress for me and I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. I also don’t want to pay for any of it ha! We are just going to take a nice trip just the two of us next summer ❤❤
Getting ready for work with you two today 🥰💕 I’m excited for this
I could not believe Shonda made crossroads.
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💒 About the wedding topic.. I learned how important parking and guest experience was. Like really thinking about what the guest are doing while we’re taking photos or if there were clear instructions and how long it would take for everyone to check in and get their table numbers.
you guys manifested the vegas trip 😂😂
MY FAVE BESTIES, it’s all always day when a new episode comes out ❤
📚 i’mcurrently reading ACOTAR series too like Alisha, but I’m also reading the Icebreaker series so hockey smut like Remi too 😂
Amazing episode as always, ladies. Just the light-hearted and uplifting conversations needed. Finished work for the day; I can listen while sorting the clean laundry out. Cheers for the romantic novel recommendation as I love reading 💜📚 Hope you are both well. 🎧🎤
I just LOVE Y'ALL. Makes me so happy to see a new episode every time ❤❤❤
I love the pod so much ❤
One of my favorite book series is called serpent and dove it’s an enemies to lovers trilogy. 📚
Red queen !!!!! Is a must read
Hi! 2024 Bride here! You absolutely need a day of coordinator AND someone to intercept any questions the whole day of the wedding. Don’t be the planner, BE THE GUEST. I didn’t have this and I was so stressed my entire wedding day.
I was having the hardest time finding a venue until I went to the one I didn’t want to tour. I was not listening to my wedding planner but I should have bc I could’ve avoided all the stress 😂 she was right and i ended up falling in love with the venue and booked it the same day. And it was the first venue I toured😅
Car girlie here! 🙋🏼♀️
I watched crossroads as an adult for the first time and while I don’t think it was ~amazing-, I 100% know that if I watched it in 2002 it would be my entire personality
📚 I loved this episode💗💗
For Remi: not sure if you remember but I met you and Cal at Crystals mall in Vegas I think two days after I got married there at the Bellagio Fountain! I have to say I have zero regrets about doing it that way!
Ouuu book recommendations: Stalking Jack the Ripper is a good one if you like Mysteries and Romance and then How does it feel? omg its sooo good, i think Alisha you would like it! Also📚📚
Alisha have you read the second book to Fourth Wing, Iron Flame?? It’s soo good
It's like when your manifesting anything, so with that guy, you probably subconsciously just "let it go" and so when you brought up his name with no attachment to him. He messaged you.
Can I just say that I love Dating Lida so bad.
I love the stories and the giggling over a boy it’s so cute.
No pressure tho but very cute 🥰
My husband and I are both Vietnamese and Vietnamese people go hard and big for weddings, so we decided to save ourselves the stress and our livers by eloping 😅
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Also…the Chestnut Springs series by Elsie Silver is soooooooo good!
Yayyyyyy hi I love this podcast episode today remi and alisha 🩵🩵🩵
📚 (have fun reading ACOTAR Alisha!! that was my fav series ever)
You should try Powerless by Lauren Robert! Mix of hunger games and divergent vibes. (No smut tho) 📚📖
Not even 5 minutes in: biopic or biopic lmaoo
Welll , im married but never had a wedding , we just walk in the courthouse and got married. Lol.
I love how Crossroads got brought up again!!! If you know, you fucking know!!! I seen it at the theater and I have it on DVD. Last time this got brought up I offered to send it to remi so she can watch it!
18:11 AHAHAHA SAME
Yeahhhhh heyyyy🎉❤
my mom used to say if you bite your tongue, someone is talking about you. maybe he bit his tongue and he thought of you, in the hopes of you were thinking of him too
I wish it was zane
ALISHA THE FIT!!!!🔥🔥
Fire 🔥🔥
Pretty Basic Hour 😊
My fiance and I decided to elope on Halloween. My best friend is also engaged right now and helping her plan her wedding has made me realize a big wedding is not for me
Alisha could definitely play Britney I always thought she resembled younger Britney
y’all are amazing!! I always enjoy watching this podcast so much🩷🩷
obv all emily henry books but other than that magnolia parks for the gg fans
Yes there are penny slots! That is all that I play. 😢 Cannot relate to those that play $0.25 or more 😭
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I don’t have any book recommendations for ya Rems haha
Remi, I was the same way when it came to Weddings. I never really had a vision and was engaged for 3 years hahaha We did end up doing a 20 person wedding realllly nice dinner and cute photos and it was like a cute party and even had an outfit change. It was defiantly less stressful, but I still wish we did a big wedding as well because I love the idea of having allll of our friends get to together.
Remi, in the romance fantasy world fairies are more like LOTR elves if that helps lol
Remi your also an auntie !
Imagine having Britney Spears on the show!! 😮
📚🧚🏻 I recommend the Serpent and The Wings of Night series, there are 2 out now and 1 more coming out in November 2024!!
As a man let me help you, a rich guy loses nothing in the break-up. You're not going to boss a rich guy around, unless he's a simp" and even they will leave. Money is power, but you ladies know this. Rich people are bosses, so if this is what you want fine, but if you think being attractive is going to keep a man around, wrong" he needs to like or love you to want to stay, especially if he already had sex with you, why would he want to stay if he has no reason to care if it's all about "You and only "You and what "you want?
📚 I’m currently reading The Night Circus. Two magicians bound to each other as kids, grow up to fall in love. I’m enjoying it :D love yall!
Tomorrow is my birthday and can you wish me happy birthday and I love your podcast so much ❤
Happy birthday!! ❤❤🎉
Girl are we reading the same book? ACOMAF she is literally depressed in the first two chapters, there’s literally sex in 2 chapters of acotar & honestly the same with acomaf. Those books are books with spice not smut. Smut has basically no plot or other themes
📚 there’s such a good rule to who you want to invite. If you haven’t talked to them either in person or via the phone, not texting, then you could invite them if you want. Invite who is going to make you happy!
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📕 please read The Roommate by Rosie Danan
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