NTA This is why I won't tell what my baby's name is until they're born. I've had a miscarriage before and I don't want anyone stealing that name in any regard.
NTA- SIL is acting she hasn’t heard your baby names for 5 years!! Get real ! She likes the name and wants it, how many more names could she pick or a variation of it?? SIL is and will continue to be a problem…be nice and stay as far away as possible…she’s a user!
I love how hard the 2 were going. "oh yea my baby is gonna have that name, my boyfriend is adopted so he is gonna change his name to my name." like damn just committed to hating Op.
Nta you planned for 5yrs+ to name your kid’s that she was TA to knowingly use your child name it is clear that they somewhat did this out of spite she did this to hersealf and is trying to play victim
Exactly what I think. She's trying to have what her brother has and is using a toxic asshole to achieve that. She thinks using that name will create something she doesn't have. I would still name my child that because everybody in the family knows that was the name that was picked. She's the only one that looks like an inconsiderate asshole. Then to pull the, "I thought you were my sister. How can you do this to me?" Well I thought you were my sister, too, how can you do this to me? That kind of person is so exhausting. She needs help.
I honestly don’t see why multiple people can have the same name. My stepdads family is like this; there are multiple Christopher’s, Michael’s,and Angela’s. And who knows, maybe OP and her husband get a boy but maybe he doesn’t like his name or there are cases where the parents think the name they have picked out will be their name but when they meet their child the name doesn’t fit, if that makes any sense
They could also have a girl or never have kids at all, and she stated they wouldn't change an adopted child's name. Though a couple of those end comments sound like her husband should not adopt. "He wants to be there from the start" and "kids of our own" come across like he might be too into kids belonging to him or not to be right for adopting. I feel like this is more about OP and her husband's fertility issues and dislike for the sister's bf than just the names.
Normally I'd agree except in this case, it's not just a name of a Christopher or a Michael. It's the exact, full entire name of both first and middle names and then family name. I could easily see problems begin to pop up once the kids start school and into their adult life if the only thing differentiating them is a different address. I could see issues popping up even for things like medical records and medical history.
@@tucagwathiel3380 to be fair, OP and her spouse aren’t even pregnant and might not ever get pregnant or have a child. Or like I mention, they might have a girl, or the boy they may have the name they originally wanted just doesn’t suite him. Besides, the kids might not live in the same city or even in the same state years down the line, they could go to different schools. They are going to have different social security numbers. I’m terms of medical records and medical history, they might not see the same doctor and each kids parents have their own medical history and the cousins blood types might not even be the same. If the hospitals ness up the medical records that’s on the hospital and medical staff not the parents.
@@scottibrown3274 I'm speaking strictly on the idea of family having same first names vs same exact names completely. Because, you're right, they don't even have their kid yet so it's rather a moot point for OP right now anyways. I'm just meaning that it's one thing to have just the first name the same, but just that it's different for the names to be an exact copy. I only gave medical records as an example, but also thinking of later in life with things like bills and such. I just know I've heard stories of people who had exact names like that in one family having issues later on in life because they kept getting wrong bills and such. I just think that OP is insisting on sticking with the name regardless just based on the principle of the matter and not necessarily thinking of what may be best for the actual child if it turns out to be same gender as the cousin.
Use the name. My family has like 17 John's and 9 Marie's scattered throughout it cuz gmas middle name was Marie and gpas first was John. Is a name. Who cares. Only issue would be if the kids go to school together and that's not common
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This is why you don't announce a name until the child is already born and the papers filled in.
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This! I think its stupid to tell your favorite names to everyone
I mean its a good way to find bad people
The way I see it is first come first served for all we know her baby could never come
NTA she knew that you were going to use your child name and she went along and tried to play the victim.
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NTA This is why I won't tell what my baby's name is until they're born. I've had a miscarriage before and I don't want anyone stealing that name in any regard.
"Me and my husband picked out baby names almost 5 years ago"
All that needed to be said. NTA
NTA- SIL is acting she hasn’t heard your baby names for 5 years!! Get real ! She likes the name and wants it, how many more names could she pick or a variation of it?? SIL is and will continue to be a problem…be nice and stay as far away as possible…she’s a user!
I love how hard the 2 were going. "oh yea my baby is gonna have that name, my boyfriend is adopted so he is gonna change his name to my name." like damn just committed to hating Op.
Not gonna lie her being mad that u want o still use it probably means they picked it so you could not
Thats pretty obvious
Nta you planned for 5yrs+ to name your kid’s that she was TA to knowingly use your child name it is clear that they somewhat did this out of spite she did this to hersealf and is trying to play victim
NTA it's not a list of names, it's literally one name, sister can just use any other name in existence
SIL want to use the full name
First, Middle and last
NTA she is obsessed with y’all and she is in a toxic relationship just keep doing what you’re doing and everything will be fine ❤
Exactly what I think. She's trying to have what her brother has and is using a toxic asshole to achieve that. She thinks using that name will create something she doesn't have. I would still name my child that because everybody in the family knows that was the name that was picked. She's the only one that looks like an inconsiderate asshole. Then to pull the, "I thought you were my sister. How can you do this to me?" Well I thought you were my sister, too, how can you do this to me? That kind of person is so exhausting. She needs help.
NTA she knew that you were using thses names and she played the victim
given the situation, these two did. great way of responding to it. glad they're not giving up on using the names ❤️❤️❤️
I honestly don’t see why multiple people can have the same name. My stepdads family is like this; there are multiple Christopher’s, Michael’s,and Angela’s. And who knows, maybe OP and her husband get a boy but maybe he doesn’t like his name or there are cases where the parents think the name they have picked out will be their name but when they meet their child the name doesn’t fit, if that makes any sense
They could also have a girl or never have kids at all, and she stated they wouldn't change an adopted child's name. Though a couple of those end comments sound like her husband should not adopt. "He wants to be there from the start" and "kids of our own" come across like he might be too into kids belonging to him or not to be right for adopting. I feel like this is more about OP and her husband's fertility issues and dislike for the sister's bf than just the names.
@@PandoraBear357 and OP might be one of those people who doesn’t want to hire a surrogate because she wants to have to experience of being pregnant
Normally I'd agree except in this case, it's not just a name of a Christopher or a Michael. It's the exact, full entire name of both first and middle names and then family name.
I could easily see problems begin to pop up once the kids start school and into their adult life if the only thing differentiating them is a different address. I could see issues popping up even for things like medical records and medical history.
@@tucagwathiel3380 to be fair, OP and her spouse aren’t even pregnant and might not ever get pregnant or have a child. Or like I mention, they might have a girl, or the boy they may have the name they originally wanted just doesn’t suite him.
Besides, the kids might not live in the same city or even in the same state years down the line, they could go to different schools. They are going to have different social security numbers. I’m terms of medical records and medical history, they might not see the same doctor and each kids parents have their own medical history and the cousins blood types might not even be the same. If the hospitals ness up the medical records that’s on the hospital and medical staff not the parents.
@@scottibrown3274 I'm speaking strictly on the idea of family having same first names vs same exact names completely. Because, you're right, they don't even have their kid yet so it's rather a moot point for OP right now anyways.
I'm just meaning that it's one thing to have just the first name the same, but just that it's different for the names to be an exact copy. I only gave medical records as an example, but also thinking of later in life with things like bills and such. I just know I've heard stories of people who had exact names like that in one family having issues later on in life because they kept getting wrong bills and such.
I just think that OP is insisting on sticking with the name regardless just based on the principle of the matter and not necessarily thinking of what may be best for the actual child if it turns out to be same gender as the cousin.
Use the name. My family has like 17 John's and 9 Marie's scattered throughout it cuz gmas middle name was Marie and gpas first was John. Is a name. Who cares. Only issue would be if the kids go to school together and that's not common