They are a couple....You didn't Notice how he corrected her and said, "I feel like you're just lying," on camera without smiling? I watched a couple other videos where He didn't seem able to even force a smile in response to some of her comments/jokes. I really want nothing but happiness for this lovely young woman who i've watched on and off for almost three years and I hope she finds it and if she chooses him I hope he becomes it. Of course, I could be reading too much into it as someone who worked in the same public facing line of work as a partner. And saw him not be able to take joy in my success although I was always happy for his- Perhaps I am hyper vigilant for those signs..@kaitlinlennox2378
Rules and agreements aside, what lesson are you teaching your kid if you just allow them to quit school and not work or contribute to the household? How are they going to survive after you're not around? As parents, your job is to prepare your kids for the real world, so they have the tools needed to be independent. The wife in that story is just enabling the kid, and even though she's being inconvenienced she's willing to allow him to stay dependent on them. That kid will still be living at home when he's 50, lol.
Everyone harshing on the dad for setting the same rules for his youngest child. He is treating all his children the same. As a couple they had discussed things together, the wife made a decision without discussing it with her husband. I understand he is a little petty maybe. Two wrongs don't make a right. Also in the same breath, you don't want your other kids to resent the youngest for being the "favourite". Such a delicate situation.
As a mother, I don't think the father is in the wrong - the mother had no reason to make her own decision behind the father's back and if she respected the teamwork that is parenting and marriage she should have discussed with her husband first. Also, many older siblings tend to be more aware of the state of the younger siblings, thus able to come to the conclusion that the younger sibling is "coddled" or "spoiled".
I think it's possible that the rules were a little outdated being set in 1998, but his wife still had a responsibility to discuss it with him rather than going over his head and cutting the youngest a break. The most important thing that parents can do in any relationship is stick together on these things to set a good example to their children.
Setting extremely high standards is very manipulative. To be honest, the mother did the right thing. People aren't going to know what they want to do in life immediately. I think this dad is being a dick for no reason just because "he's following his plan." The dad needs to grow up and learn that not everyone is going to him and what he wants
@@dakotakulha8376i mean the dad is literally saying “go to college or get a job” to an adult living with them, i really dont see a problem in this whatsoever PLUS he was give 6 months to do literally whatever he wanted, the dads doing him a favor as if for some ungodly reason the parents died youngest son would be up a creek without a paddle, the mom is coddling him as its the youngest and if shes not pushing for him to, yknow, be apart of society she sets him up for failure, genuinely I dont think the father did anything wrong, if everything that the story said is what 100% happened that is
@@dakotakulha8376 outdated, sure, but not high. These aren't high standards at all. And the wife shouldn't go to him because he is the leader and kowtow to whatever he says. She should talk to him first. She doesn't have to agree with him, but she should at least give him a "hey, I think your rules are dumb and I don't wanna follow them" before going to the son. It sets a bad example that children can pit their parents against each other. It's how generational curses start.
@@dakotakulha8376 Brother, it sounds like you have no standards. The child is not a child and it is time to follow his path to employment and adulthood.
3:26 ohmygosh 😂 4 days into my relationship with my now husband, i farted cause i figured we were in it for the long run and I'd rather be comfortable. His response to that first fart was "im gonna marry you" 😂 and he did! We've been together for over 8 years, and married for over 5 years. So glad i chose to fart cause we have almost 4 kids and the farts are gonna come out whether i want them to or not now 🫠🤣
I agree 100%. I just turned 18 this year and I take care of all our cats stuff, I pay for my car insurance/maintenance, my phone bill, my dance classes, and I help with the groceries.
Ok, but what if dad got sick and he can’t work anymore? You kick him out of the house because he don’t contribute anymore? I agree that you can’t just do nothing, but also I think parents use their money power over kids while they are in full strength and don’t think thay there will be time when things will be opposite..
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While my son, like all teenagers, has some mental health issues at the moment, he is fine because I do this new age thing called "listen to him"! Some of his cousins won't come out of their rooms and are terrified of their fathers. My boy just talks to me whenever he feels the need. Sometimes for hours about nothing, other times, for 10 mins about something serious are vice versa. I also talk to him and ask him for help with things I don't understand. Basically, I treat him like a human being and a friend unless he does something that requires me to go into strict Dad mode, then I do that. It seems to be working. Oh and you're right. No one knows how to raise a child. Only can raise your kid, your way and hope for the best!
I love it when Caleb joins you! As for the "you aren't a parent" comment. I am not a parent. I, however, have been an early childhood educator, an elementary school teacher, a mentor to teenagers, helped a friend raise his 2 daughters (who are BRILLIANT if I say so myself), and have studied mental health counseling. I am well versed in children. Please don't let me know that I can't possibly know. The AUDACITY of people.
Personally I think the father is in the right. He’s just trying to instil values and not raise an entitled brat. More communication would be beneficial if it’s causing a major divide. Like to give the boy more time to get a part time job and even to lower the contribution until he gets settled. Both my partner and I had similar rules growing up and we are thankful for that lesson.
I agree. Their take wasn't good on this one. The dad might sound like he's being spiteful because of how he described it, but there's nothing wrong with teaching kids financial literacy, which so many young people don't learn these days. No one taught me, but I still got launched unceremoniously into adulthood with nowhere to live during college and I had to learn it all for myself.
@chuiduma I agree about the financial literacy aspect but punishing your partner for making a decision s/he feels is best isn't the way to go. I'm more concerned for the marriage.
I agree with them in that I think the parents need to talk. Maybe give the kid a new timeline they both agree upon for the son to at least find a part time job, figure out what he's going to do, maybe a trade school instead, volunteer for work experience.. maybe have the kid go apartment hunting to see how much he could be spending on a living situation for perspective. I agree the dad is fair to set rules.. but what if the kid genuinely doesn't have the money.. then what? kicks him to the curb? I'm not for coddling either as both my brothers are still living with my parents at 36 & 40... At least they're both working, but no motivation to move out or manage money since they're living rent free, but both my sister (37) and I (34) have been out of the house for 12 and 8 years, which I think most still consider mid 20s late to move out. But we also had the rule of having to be in school or working and not much rules after that.
Say what you want about the dad, but the mom's behavior will be the kid's downfall. She is bribing and blackmailing to be his enabler, because she can't let him go. Very selfish.
@@angelabullington6116It’s a cardinal rule of good parenting that you don’t let your kid cry to the other one when one enforces a rule. You can’t let them play the parents off each other. Bad for the marriage and bad for the kids. If the marriage is in trouble, it’s because Dad said rules are that you have to start paying rent and food now and when kid cried to Mom, she didn’t talk to Dad about eliminating or modifying the rule, she just told baby boy he could ignore the rules and Dad. My ex and I divorced and we still kept the rule of not overruling the other parent’s rules for their house. If Dad said no, they had to talk to Dad about it. If I thought their dad was being an ass, I’d talk to him away from the kids and encourage him to not be an ass, not just overrule him to the kids without even trying for a united front.
I am so glad you guys found each other. I never could have imagined that two of my FAVORITE youtubers would end up together! Caleb is so iconic, Kris is so kind, you guys are so amazing!
As someone with actual hearing loss, that's awful. Communication would probably solve the problem. Being HOH or deaf can be hard. Especially putting it in the context of losing hearing. I am losing my hearing rapidly and the amount of grief I've felt over losing sounds isn't something I feel like people should be pretending to have.
I absolutely understand her not wanting to listen to a lot of nonsense, but she made things so much worse. He might (rightfully) never trust her again, because who lies about something like this?
My parents used to write contracts detailing the terms of my grounding when I got into trouble, which was often given their low tolerance policy. We struggled to find an adult relationship where I laid down my own boundaries and quit needing their approval, but we got there in the long run. At the end of the day I'm glad I had parents who cared too much, rather than parents who didn't care at all. I liked hearing you and Caleb talk about this one. 👍
A lot of problems in a relationship can be made better with "COMMUNICATION" It's so important to talk to eachother. I know it easier said than done.. but it so important to just talk through things.
I agree. The parents decided how they were going to raise their kids and she went against it. He just wants the kid to get a job and be responsible and not live off him forever.
@@faithmiller1365 That’s how I see it, teaching him how to budget while still under the safety net of still being under his parent’s house. Even if she wanted to change the rule that’s a conversation not an executive decision to make on your own.
The husband is 100% correct. You absolutely cannot exclude ONE kid from the rules. I held my 2 daughters to the rules my guy and I made but yet his son got different treatment.. he ended up on the streets smoking fentanyl. STOP BABYING THE KIDS
Exactly. This kid is 19. He needs to learn to be an adult. The father should have not been petty but the mother shouldn't coddle her younger just because of empty nest syndrome
@@Draco_Zakai Right!! I solved empty nest by having another baby at 41! LoL It wasn't actually the plan at all, but I realize now that I needed this little guy. I wasn't ready to be all alone. The kids are busy a young adults building their own lives.
@mlwsmp not judging but hopefully you'll prepare yourself better this time around. I don't think you could pull off another child. Not saying you can or can't, I'm just assuming you wouldn't want to after so many. So I'd make sure the empty nest didn't hit me as hard. Now note. I'm saying this knowing full well I'm going to be a mess whenever my kid/kids leave the home. lol
@@Draco_Zakai I will be REALLY old. LoL. I already have 1 grandson. He is 3 weeks younger than my guy but I should have more grands by then. I'll be 61 when he's 20. Definitely old
My potentially OCD brain has managed to convince me I've ingested a parasite so great timing, I can distract myself with this. I feel other Kris fans are neurodivergent and will get this 😭
Oh my goodness basically same! (My hypochondriac self convinced myself I have tetanus and now I can’t stop twitching from the stress further concerning me)
My gosh, this is me. I walked into a thrift store, and did not touch anything, but I felt my skin crawling nonstop for like 2 weeks, ripping away any imperfections, convinced that I had somehow got bedbugs or scabies. There were no signs of anything like that. It was torture.
AAAHH YOU TWO ARE SO CUTE!!! I’m so glad you found a guy who makes you happy Kris!! Also I made ur cookies, they’re on my channel and they rlly good ❤❤❤
First time i have hardcore disagreed with their conclusion. the father was right, it's not so much the money, but it's the fact that you have to raise children to be full grown adults who can pay for things and have a job. The fact that the mother simply decided one child didn't need to become an adult and teach them it's okay to not be responsible for yourself is (unless im missing a HUGE context point) honestly sad. Describing him as manipulative feels wrong when there was an understanding between everyone for years... she basically "agreed" to take on the expenses of the child, so I would probably do the same. Honestly the worst thing people can do for their children is to allow them to not grow up.
My parents had a rule. When you graduate high school you have a grace period. After the grace period you go to college full-time, work full-time, or do both part-time. So long as you are going one of the three (or have agreed upon a unique arrangement) you are free to live at home
I'm totally on the dad's side, especially with how much he chose to withhold (likely the same as what they were paying for the youngest child's rent and food). Mom decided the youngest didn't have to pay without consulting Dad, so she can pay for it with her money. Like he said, she spends the money she earns how she chooses. As far as I'm concerned, she chose to let the youngest off easy, she chose the consequences.
The problem with this is that while couples are still individuals, starting a family unit is no place to hold on to "us and them" mentalities. While her money is hers to begin with, it's unhealthy to allow this situation to persist without a lot of civil talk, otherwise they risk abandoning the basic tenets of being "partners." There shouldn't be an ongoing situation that sets anyone up as an outgroup in a family dynamic. I agree that the kid needs to work his share, that's how the world works and really isn't hard given their set rules. He probably needs help getting into the world, but golly, a semester is hardly enough to experience college to an extent that you can make a life-altering decision. Most college programs don't even start until the third semester. I'm angry at both of them, and the kid, but today's day sucks for young people, so I guess this is going to happen.
@@SideBit I'm more bothered with the fact that the dad seems to be paying all the bills while the mom works and doesn't pay for anything. It doesn't seem like this marriage is healthy in any way.
As someone from the north of England id like to say that Caleb's impression was perfect. He should go up to someone in liverpool and do the exact same impression. Im sure it will be well appreciated
i watched both of you separately and loved your videos so i love that you guys make videos together, you suit each other so well and your personalities mesh very well
Someone i live with asks questions like in the first one, like we'll be at the store and she will grab something off the shelf, and then ask how much it costs. Or will ask me something i literally just told her, literally 15 to 30 seconds later. I love her, so ive always felt bad about getting irritated about it, because i know its just her being her, and she doesnt mean anything by it. I always felt i was being a bit grouchy, but im glad to know that for 1. Im at least reasonable to be annoyed by questions that can easily be answered by just looking around or thinking for a couple of seconds, and that 2. There are far worse ways i could handle it than just occasionally opting out of conversations if i anticipate those questions.
ok but the wife doesn't pay for anything either she spends it on herself or on the "good stuff" so of course its ok for her to say, "ok honey you don't have to do anything, just relax" literally saying daddy will pay for you to do nothing... and go behind the father's back on top of that... so why is it that the dad is bad when he decides after her, that if she is okay with the youngest not working, then she should be the one covering the expenses then... and now thats a no no for her suddenly... i don't see a problem there as he didn't kick out the kid .... he just did the same as the wife... at this point it is who is going to cover his expenses, wife wants the dad to do it without consulting him first so he decides she is the one to do so if she is okay with him not acquiring any money and staying home...
main point is that it's really childish to not have a discussion with your spouse after what mom did. She shouldn't make that decision without consulting indeed. But we all make mistakes. Adult thing to do next, would be for them to talk between eachother and find solution. Not just "oh you did a wrong decision, then let me make you suffer", like wtf??? Bro, grow up and just talk to your wife about it, instead of doing something out of spite and probably causing more tension and arguments, instead of talking through a problem... It's really not that complicated, they are both a bit of assholes in this scenario, but I think dad is more
Hey Kris just wanted to say, you really inspire me and I found ur videos one random day several years ago and have been obsessed with your content ever since, especially loving your new true crime content but also you AITA videos ❤️🤣
This is the parents just trying to teach the kid how to grow up and be an adult. The older two obviously figured it out. The youngest has yet to get a clue. It's not like they were kicking the kid out of the house, they are teaching him basic responsibilities, whilst still living where he is comfortable, safe, and affordable. It has nothing to do with mental illness, it's simply called growing up.
Kris! I am a momma of 4 and I have been a different mom to each child ( not on purpose but due to maturing) you're on point with the theory that we chill out the older we get and I think my youngest boy is getting the best version of me . I apologize to my older kids all the time and send them your shorts about the unfairness lol
I'm still trying to accept Calebs presence. i think it's cool to see Kris doing different kinds of videos with him and she seems extremely happy.. which makes me happy 😊
in my experience, the reason that parents stop caring at the point of their youngest is just because they’ve gone through this and cant be bothered anymore
I really enjoy watching this channel. Yall r so funny. On the subject of the family that was dealing with the kid that didn't want to go to college or work, my son was the same way. I gave him an ultimatum. Either school or work and that he was not going to sit at home all day and play video games. He chose work.
Kris I didn't know you had so many younger siblings! I'm the oldest of eight and every word you said is true, the closer you are to being the youngest the softer your parents get
I must say, your energy and personalities complement each other beautifully. I am delighted to witness your growth and success, Kris. It is truly remarkable to have been a part of your journey from the very beginning.
My only thought on the money story is that we need more info. If the youngest is spending his time actually doing something, like focusing on a hobby and/or developing a skill, then I'd say charging rent isn't necessary, and if they wanna teach him financial responsibility there are others ways to do so. However, if the son is just playing video games, binge watching shit, or scrolling through social media all day, then absolutely charge rent. It's not about the money, it's about motivating the kid to do something with his life, and ideally be able to do something that means he can financially support himself in the future
I wouldn't because it's pretty dumb and pretty selfish to. As a parent, u are supposed to GUIDE NOT FORCE your child to do things. He's not guiding, he's forcing which leads to abusive behaviors in the child. Dad needs to learn that the world doesn't revolve around his plans and he needs to revise and edit those plans constantly
@@dakotakulha8376he is guiding, he’s not forcing a specific job or schedule just that the son needs to do something that doesn’t leave him stuck where he is for the rest of his life. If your parents let you stay home everyday after highschool and never spoke to you about your future and getting on with life then they are negligent… The mom shouldn’t permit such behaviour as it will become a debilitating habit.
What if his hobby is gooning? A hobby is something you do in you free time. You can build skills in your free time as well. I am doing both things. Grow up.
@@guitarsaremyfriendzzz7077 The fuck do you mean grow up? You're the on talking about gooning lol. You could definitely argue that things like gaming are hobbies, but I was pretty clearly talking about productive hobbies that may or may not translate to a skill. Shit like painting, writing, carving, doing puzzles, etc. If he's actually doing something with his time then I'd say asking him for rent is essentially punishing him for pursuing a passion. But if he's doing something that will ultimately have zero impact on his future, then he needs some kinda kick in the pants to motivate him to care about his future
I love Caleb idc if you say its a lie lol you guys have the best content together and I found and became a fan of Caleb because I saw him on here and now I watch almost everything he puts out and make my friends watch him too lol he reminds me so much of my husband and I love both of you guys!
It has been soo long since I have sat down and watched your channel 😢😢😢😢 I always listen to your videos while crafting but I moved recently and I had to leave my supplies and it’s a vibe I miss
Sometimes I feel like a failed adult. I went to college and got good jobs....bought a house and got married then hadca baby at 30. Divorce at 31...crazy 10 years....a few years of therapy I'm living with my parents with my 15 year old...i did it all rigjt but mental health problems started showing early 20s and took a long time to get it in check
Kris i just wanna say you are so brave to make your relationship known because people love to get upset at creators for breaking up with their "perfect" partner, not say y'all gonna break up, yall are beautiful, but viewers can be crazy Love you, sorry if this is mean
Kris, I just have to tell you just how gorgeous your hair color is on you. It really brings your natural facial coloring alive more than your natural blonde hair color does. I know, weird right? But I am the same way. I have an ugly, mousy brown hair color naturally but a nice deep red, similar to yours, really makes me look alive too.
Caleb, just ignore the bad comments! Who cares if they don't like you! If they don't like you, then they can stop watching! We LOVE you on this channel!
When Caleb dose the British accent with the Sherlock homes had k Lictrully got me choking in my own laughter love you two soo much keep on doing what ur doing ❤❤❤❤💕💕💕
I'm waiting for Kris's "I'm always two steps ahead" video, I would DIE DEAD for her villain monologue
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They're so cute together, Kris is just glowing! Their personalities just bounce off each other into a beautiful cacophony of humor
And Kris and Caleb are very comfortable he’s very chill and funny same Kris too all that matters is that they both are happy together
Are they dating? They are cute together:)
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They are a couple....You didn't Notice how he corrected her and said, "I feel like you're just lying," on camera without smiling? I watched a couple other videos where
He didn't seem able to even force a smile in response to some of her comments/jokes. I really want nothing but happiness for this lovely young woman who i've watched on and off for almost three years and I hope she finds it and if she chooses him I hope he becomes it. Of course, I could be reading too much into it as someone who worked in the same public facing line of work as a partner.
And saw him not be able to take joy in my success although I was always happy for his- Perhaps I am hyper vigilant for those signs..@kaitlinlennox2378
yeah it's been a while now@@cutenerdgirl9756
Omg I love how cute they are together AHHHH I WANT SOMETHING LIKE THIS
I know! They are #goals 🥰
They are literally the older version of me and my bf but with followers 🤣
i love how the videos go back and forth between your new hair and old hair haha ❤
Rules and agreements aside, what lesson are you teaching your kid if you just allow them to quit school and not work or contribute to the household? How are they going to survive after you're not around? As parents, your job is to prepare your kids for the real world, so they have the tools needed to be independent. The wife in that story is just enabling the kid, and even though she's being inconvenienced she's willing to allow him to stay dependent on them. That kid will still be living at home when he's 50, lol.
Everyone harshing on the dad for setting the same rules for his youngest child. He is treating all his children the same. As a couple they had discussed things together, the wife made a decision without discussing it with her husband. I understand he is a little petty maybe. Two wrongs don't make a right. Also in the same breath, you don't want your other kids to resent the youngest for being the "favourite". Such a delicate situation.
As a mother, I don't think the father is in the wrong - the mother had no reason to make her own decision behind the father's back and if she respected the teamwork that is parenting and marriage she should have discussed with her husband first. Also, many older siblings tend to be more aware of the state of the younger siblings, thus able to come to the conclusion that the younger sibling is "coddled" or "spoiled".
Or in my case not having a shity dad
"AITA for having a functional human body"
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I think it's possible that the rules were a little outdated being set in 1998, but his wife still had a responsibility to discuss it with him rather than going over his head and cutting the youngest a break. The most important thing that parents can do in any relationship is stick together on these things to set a good example to their children.
Setting extremely high standards is very manipulative. To be honest, the mother did the right thing. People aren't going to know what they want to do in life immediately. I think this dad is being a dick for no reason just because "he's following his plan." The dad needs to grow up and learn that not everyone is going to him and what he wants
@@dakotakulha8376i mean the dad is literally saying “go to college or get a job” to an adult living with them, i really dont see a problem in this whatsoever PLUS he was give 6 months to do literally whatever he wanted, the dads doing him a favor as if for some ungodly reason the parents died youngest son would be up a creek without a paddle, the mom is coddling him as its the youngest and if shes not pushing for him to, yknow, be apart of society she sets him up for failure, genuinely I dont think the father did anything wrong, if everything that the story said is what 100% happened that is
@@dakotakulha8376 outdated, sure, but not high. These aren't high standards at all. And the wife shouldn't go to him because he is the leader and kowtow to whatever he says. She should talk to him first. She doesn't have to agree with him, but she should at least give him a "hey, I think your rules are dumb and I don't wanna follow them" before going to the son. It sets a bad example that children can pit their parents against each other. It's how generational curses start.
@@dakotakulha8376 Brother, it sounds like you have no standards. The child is not a child and it is time to follow his path to employment and adulthood.
@@guitarsaremyfriendzzz7077 There is a bunch of ways to earn money. Livestreaming is a job too
3:26 ohmygosh 😂 4 days into my relationship with my now husband, i farted cause i figured we were in it for the long run and I'd rather be comfortable. His response to that first fart was "im gonna marry you" 😂 and he did! We've been together for over 8 years, and married for over 5 years. So glad i chose to fart cause we have almost 4 kids and the farts are gonna come out whether i want them to or not now 🫠🤣
100% with the dad on the last one. It is a very common rule to go to school or contribute to the household when you're an adult.
I agree 100%. I just turned 18 this year and I take care of all our cats stuff, I pay for my car insurance/maintenance, my phone bill, my dance classes, and I help with the groceries.
Ok, but what if dad got sick and he can’t work anymore? You kick him out of the house because he don’t contribute anymore? I agree that you can’t just do nothing, but also I think parents use their money power over kids while they are in full strength and don’t think thay there will be time when things will be opposite..
@@natalijas.1511 dad has provided for the last 26 years the kids done nothing it's not the same.
@@jenspanyard9551 But yet treating him as a slave isn't helping, it's hindering.
@@dakotakulha8376 a slave?! If you think that "child" is being mistreated then you need to reevaluate your life and values...
4:36 Caleb out here fishing for compliments - It's okay, Caleb, we love ya!
0:18 as an Liverpoolian we do not sound like this, this is what we sounded around 200 years ago, now though, we’ll that’s another story😂
actually we do
and i don’t think you know how long 200 years is
You'll never believe the accent I read this with
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While my son, like all teenagers, has some mental health issues at the moment, he is fine because I do this new age thing called "listen to him"! Some of his cousins won't come out of their rooms and are terrified of their fathers. My boy just talks to me whenever he feels the need. Sometimes for hours about nothing, other times, for 10 mins about something serious are vice versa. I also talk to him and ask him for help with things I don't understand. Basically, I treat him like a human being and a friend unless he does something that requires me to go into strict Dad mode, then I do that. It seems to be working. Oh and you're right. No one knows how to raise a child. Only can raise your kid, your way and hope for the best!
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I love it when Caleb joins you! As for the "you aren't a parent" comment. I am not a parent. I, however, have been an early childhood educator, an elementary school teacher, a mentor to teenagers, helped a friend raise his 2 daughters (who are BRILLIANT if I say so myself), and have studied mental health counseling. I am well versed in children. Please don't let me know that I can't possibly know. The AUDACITY of people.
Personally I think the father is in the right. He’s just trying to instil values and not raise an entitled brat. More communication would be beneficial if it’s causing a major divide. Like to give the boy more time to get a part time job and even to lower the contribution until he gets settled. Both my partner and I had similar rules growing up and we are thankful for that lesson.
I agree. Their take wasn't good on this one. The dad might sound like he's being spiteful because of how he described it, but there's nothing wrong with teaching kids financial literacy, which so many young people don't learn these days.
No one taught me, but I still got launched unceremoniously into adulthood with nowhere to live during college and I had to learn it all for myself.
@chuiduma I agree about the financial literacy aspect but punishing your partner for making a decision s/he feels is best isn't the way to go. I'm more concerned for the marriage.
I agree with them in that I think the parents need to talk. Maybe give the kid a new timeline they both agree upon for the son to at least find a part time job, figure out what he's going to do, maybe a trade school instead, volunteer for work experience.. maybe have the kid go apartment hunting to see how much he could be spending on a living situation for perspective. I agree the dad is fair to set rules.. but what if the kid genuinely doesn't have the money.. then what? kicks him to the curb? I'm not for coddling either as both my brothers are still living with my parents at 36 & 40... At least they're both working, but no motivation to move out or manage money since they're living rent free, but both my sister (37) and I (34) have been out of the house for 12 and 8 years, which I think most still consider mid 20s late to move out. But we also had the rule of having to be in school or working and not much rules after that.
Say what you want about the dad, but the mom's behavior will be the kid's downfall. She is bribing and blackmailing to be his enabler, because she can't let him go. Very selfish.
@@angelabullington6116It’s a cardinal rule of good parenting that you don’t let your kid cry to the other one when one enforces a rule. You can’t let them play the parents off each other. Bad for the marriage and bad for the kids. If the marriage is in trouble, it’s because Dad said rules are that you have to start paying rent and food now and when kid cried to Mom, she didn’t talk to Dad about eliminating or modifying the rule, she just told baby boy he could ignore the rules and Dad. My ex and I divorced and we still kept the rule of not overruling the other parent’s rules for their house. If Dad said no, they had to talk to Dad about it. If I thought their dad was being an ass, I’d talk to him away from the kids and encourage him to not be an ass, not just overrule him to the kids without even trying for a united front.
I am so glad you guys found each other. I never could have imagined that two of my FAVORITE youtubers would end up together! Caleb is so iconic, Kris is so kind, you guys are so amazing!
As someone with actual hearing loss, that's awful. Communication would probably solve the problem. Being HOH or deaf can be hard. Especially putting it in the context of losing hearing. I am losing my hearing rapidly and the amount of grief I've felt over losing sounds isn't something I feel like people should be pretending to have.
I absolutely understand her not wanting to listen to a lot of nonsense, but she made things so much worse. He might (rightfully) never trust her again, because who lies about something like this?
I agree with you! (I'm also hard-of-hearing)
My parents used to write contracts detailing the terms of my grounding when I got into trouble, which was often given their low tolerance policy. We struggled to find an adult relationship where I laid down my own boundaries and quit needing their approval, but we got there in the long run. At the end of the day I'm glad I had parents who cared too much, rather than parents who didn't care at all. I liked hearing you and Caleb talk about this one. 👍
I did not have contracts but I knew the expectations. I am thankful I got my ass reamed when I effed around. I definitely fund out.
HER AND OOMPA ARE SO ADORABLEEE
A lot of problems in a relationship can be made better with "COMMUNICATION" It's so important to talk to eachother. I know it easier said than done.. but it so important to just talk through things.
9:33 I agree with the father on this one. The other kids had to do it and the mother just made the decision without him.
I agree. The parents decided how they were going to raise their kids and she went against it. He just wants the kid to get a job and be responsible and not live off him forever.
@@faithmiller1365 That’s how I see it, teaching him how to budget while still under the safety net of still being under his parent’s house. Even if she wanted to change the rule that’s a conversation not an executive decision to make on your own.
The baby gets away with the most! 😂
@@GenXfrom75 lmao you not wrong and he knows that, that’s why he ran straight to his moms.
both of them can be wrong
The husband is 100% correct.
You absolutely cannot exclude ONE kid from the rules.
I held my 2 daughters to the rules my guy and I made but yet his son got different treatment.. he ended up on the streets smoking fentanyl.
STOP BABYING THE KIDS
Exactly. This kid is 19. He needs to learn to be an adult. The father should have not been petty but the mother shouldn't coddle her younger just because of empty nest syndrome
And if he refuses to work at 19, then he's doing everything at the house. Without either me or his mom asking for it.
@@Draco_Zakai Right!!
I solved empty nest by having another baby at 41! LoL
It wasn't actually the plan at all, but I realize now that I needed this little guy.
I wasn't ready to be all alone.
The kids are busy a young adults building their own lives.
@mlwsmp not judging but hopefully you'll prepare yourself better this time around. I don't think you could pull off another child. Not saying you can or can't, I'm just assuming you wouldn't want to after so many. So I'd make sure the empty nest didn't hit me as hard.
Now note. I'm saying this knowing full well I'm going to be a mess whenever my kid/kids leave the home. lol
@@Draco_Zakai I will be REALLY old. LoL. I already have 1 grandson. He is 3 weeks younger than my guy but I should have more grands by then. I'll be 61 when he's 20. Definitely old
My potentially OCD brain has managed to convince me I've ingested a parasite so great timing, I can distract myself with this. I feel other Kris fans are neurodivergent and will get this 😭
Oh my goodness basically same! (My hypochondriac self convinced myself I have tetanus and now I can’t stop twitching from the stress further concerning me)
Yep I constantly convince my self that the worst possible things will/have happened to me
As a pretty bad OCD haver I hope things get better for you! OCD sucks horribly but these 2 are a great distraction :)
My gosh, this is me. I walked into a thrift store, and did not touch anything, but I felt my skin crawling nonstop for like 2 weeks, ripping away any imperfections, convinced that I had somehow got bedbugs or scabies. There were no signs of anything like that. It was torture.
Don't worry. Brain eating amoebas leave the host if no food is found. :P
AAAHH YOU TWO ARE SO CUTE!!! I’m so glad you found a guy who makes you happy Kris!! Also I made ur cookies, they’re on my channel and they rlly good ❤❤❤
These two are so good together. Their personalities match so well and you can see how happy they are ❤❤
First time i have hardcore disagreed with their conclusion. the father was right, it's not so much the money, but it's the fact that you have to raise children to be full grown adults who can pay for things and have a job. The fact that the mother simply decided one child didn't need to become an adult and teach them it's okay to not be responsible for yourself is (unless im missing a HUGE context point) honestly sad. Describing him as manipulative feels wrong when there was an understanding between everyone for years... she basically "agreed" to take on the expenses of the child, so I would probably do the same. Honestly the worst thing people can do for their children is to allow them to not grow up.
TBH I usually disagree with them. They are entertaining and seem sweet but they are very naive and childish.
@@guitarsaremyfriendzzz7077I agree tbh. I think that when Kris is alone or with her sister she has a lot better opinions.
My parents had a rule. When you graduate high school you have a grace period. After the grace period you go to college full-time, work full-time, or do both part-time. So long as you are going one of the three (or have agreed upon a unique arrangement) you are free to live at home
@@0MGITSPANDAme too, especially with the sister videos
I'm totally on the dad's side, especially with how much he chose to withhold (likely the same as what they were paying for the youngest child's rent and food). Mom decided the youngest didn't have to pay without consulting Dad, so she can pay for it with her money. Like he said, she spends the money she earns how she chooses. As far as I'm concerned, she chose to let the youngest off easy, she chose the consequences.
The problem with this is that while couples are still individuals, starting a family unit is no place to hold on to "us and them" mentalities. While her money is hers to begin with, it's unhealthy to allow this situation to persist without a lot of civil talk, otherwise they risk abandoning the basic tenets of being "partners." There shouldn't be an ongoing situation that sets anyone up as an outgroup in a family dynamic. I agree that the kid needs to work his share, that's how the world works and really isn't hard given their set rules. He probably needs help getting into the world, but golly, a semester is hardly enough to experience college to an extent that you can make a life-altering decision. Most college programs don't even start until the third semester.
I'm angry at both of them, and the kid, but today's day sucks for young people, so I guess this is going to happen.
@@SideBit I'm more bothered with the fact that the dad seems to be paying all the bills while the mom works and doesn't pay for anything. It doesn't seem like this marriage is healthy in any way.
Dad needs to grow up and learn that everything isn't going to go his way. He treats people like property not human beings
@@dakotakulha8376 You must be the kid with how much you are posting here.
@@guitarsaremyfriendzzz7077 You must be verbally abusive but don't want to admit it
0:35 this is the best into ever😂
As someone from the north of England id like to say that Caleb's impression was perfect. He should go up to someone in liverpool and do the exact same impression. Im sure it will be well appreciated
It's not an ego thing for husband to withhold the money that would be paid by rent. Not ego at all.
Is called holding your kids accountable.
i watched both of you separately and loved your videos so i love that you guys make videos together, you suit each other so well and your personalities mesh very well
I'm loving you guys as British icons😂😂😂❤
Why are the glasses so good? Like I loveeee them on Kris
Someone i live with asks questions like in the first one, like we'll be at the store and she will grab something off the shelf, and then ask how much it costs. Or will ask me something i literally just told her, literally 15 to 30 seconds later. I love her, so ive always felt bad about getting irritated about it, because i know its just her being her, and she doesnt mean anything by it. I always felt i was being a bit grouchy, but im glad to know that for 1. Im at least reasonable to be annoyed by questions that can easily be answered by just looking around or thinking for a couple of seconds, and that 2. There are far worse ways i could handle it than just occasionally opting out of conversations if i anticipate those questions.
As a British person I am absolutely.......dying 😂😂😂😂 more British accents please
Same here 😂
My friends a scouse and that’s defo not scouse 😂
same
So, so far from Scouse or any other Northern accent! Lol!
I love the way Caleb makes her smile she genuinely looks so happy ❤🥺
ok but the wife doesn't pay for anything either she spends it on herself or on the "good stuff" so of course its ok for her to say, "ok honey you don't have to do anything, just relax" literally saying daddy will pay for you to do nothing... and go behind the father's back on top of that... so why is it that the dad is bad when he decides after her, that if she is okay with the youngest not working, then she should be the one covering the expenses then... and now thats a no no for her suddenly... i don't see a problem there as he didn't kick out the kid .... he just did the same as the wife... at this point it is who is going to cover his expenses, wife wants the dad to do it without consulting him first so he decides she is the one to do so if she is okay with him not acquiring any money and staying home...
Exactly!!!!
For starters, the father doesn't treat people lke a human being. The father treats people like property
@@dakotakulha8376and the mom treats him like a wallet and the son treats her like a shield
main point is that it's really childish to not have a discussion with your spouse after what mom did. She shouldn't make that decision without consulting indeed. But we all make mistakes. Adult thing to do next, would be for them to talk between eachother and find solution. Not just "oh you did a wrong decision, then let me make you suffer", like wtf??? Bro, grow up and just talk to your wife about it, instead of doing something out of spite and probably causing more tension and arguments, instead of talking through a problem... It's really not that complicated, they are both a bit of assholes in this scenario, but I think dad is more
@@alchemistcrown6489 Dad still forces children to work like slaves
Hey Kris just wanted to say, you really inspire me and I found ur videos one random day several years ago and have been obsessed with your content ever since, especially loving your new true crime content but also you AITA videos ❤️🤣
This is the parents just trying to teach the kid how to grow up and be an adult. The older two obviously figured it out. The youngest has yet to get a clue. It's not like they were kicking the kid out of the house, they are teaching him basic responsibilities, whilst still living where he is comfortable, safe, and affordable. It has nothing to do with mental illness, it's simply called growing up.
I came here cause of Caleb, Stayed for kris. Both are great on their own, but the best when they are together.
Caleb is obviously the BEST addition to Kris's life❤😊 love you Caleb😊😊😊😊
HII KRIS! I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS SMM AND UR SOO PRETTY! I HOPE YOU HAVE GOOD DAYS FOREVER AND EVER!
PERFECT COUPLE!
Favorite thing ever is to watch you guys’s videos on my lunch break. So nice to listen to sensible people after dealing with morons all day
Kris! I am a momma of 4 and I have been a different mom to each child ( not on purpose but due to maturing) you're on point with the theory that we chill out the older we get and I think my youngest boy is getting the best version of me . I apologize to my older kids all the time and send them your shorts about the unfairness lol
I'm still trying to accept Calebs presence. i think it's cool to see Kris doing different kinds of videos with him and she seems extremely happy.. which makes me happy 😊
in my experience, the reason that parents stop caring at the point of their youngest is just because they’ve gone through this and cant be bothered anymore
For the gas passing one: That is a normal human function. He sounds controlling. Run and fast!
I really enjoy watching this channel. Yall r so funny. On the subject of the family that was dealing with the kid that didn't want to go to college or work, my son was the same way. I gave him an ultimatum. Either school or work and that he was not going to sit at home all day and play video games. He chose work.
Kris I didn't know you had so many younger siblings! I'm the oldest of eight and every word you said is true, the closer you are to being the youngest the softer your parents get
I must say, your energy and personalities complement each other beautifully. I am delighted to witness your growth and success, Kris. It is truly remarkable to have been a part of your journey from the very beginning.
Kris, you're so amazing! I'm so happy to see you happy and in Loooovve.❤❤
You and oompaville work perfectly together i see the best in you when ur with him its really cool
Caleb getting mad at bad parents is my new favorite thing
My only thought on the money story is that we need more info. If the youngest is spending his time actually doing something, like focusing on a hobby and/or developing a skill, then I'd say charging rent isn't necessary, and if they wanna teach him financial responsibility there are others ways to do so. However, if the son is just playing video games, binge watching shit, or scrolling through social media all day, then absolutely charge rent. It's not about the money, it's about motivating the kid to do something with his life, and ideally be able to do something that means he can financially support himself in the future
Yeah, I get the Dad’s feelings, but his solution was jerkish
I wouldn't because it's pretty dumb and pretty selfish to. As a parent, u are supposed to GUIDE NOT FORCE your child to do things. He's not guiding, he's forcing which leads to abusive behaviors in the child. Dad needs to learn that the world doesn't revolve around his plans and he needs to revise and edit those plans constantly
@@dakotakulha8376he is guiding, he’s not forcing a specific job or schedule just that the son needs to do something that doesn’t leave him stuck where he is for the rest of his life. If your parents let you stay home everyday after highschool and never spoke to you about your future and getting on with life then they are negligent…
The mom shouldn’t permit such behaviour as it will become a debilitating habit.
What if his hobby is gooning? A hobby is something you do in you free time. You can build skills in your free time as well. I am doing both things. Grow up.
@@guitarsaremyfriendzzz7077 The fuck do you mean grow up? You're the on talking about gooning lol. You could definitely argue that things like gaming are hobbies, but I was pretty clearly talking about productive hobbies that may or may not translate to a skill. Shit like painting, writing, carving, doing puzzles, etc. If he's actually doing something with his time then I'd say asking him for rent is essentially punishing him for pursuing a passion. But if he's doing something that will ultimately have zero impact on his future, then he needs some kinda kick in the pants to motivate him to care about his future
We love you to Caleb because you make Kris happy and from what we see your a decent guy ❤
I love all the supportive comments ❤ People are so hard on Caleb sometimes. They're a cute couple and I'm happy for them 😊
I love Caleb idc if you say its a lie lol you guys have the best content together and I found and became a fan of Caleb because I saw him on here and now I watch almost everything he puts out and make my friends watch him too lol he reminds me so much of my husband and I love both of you guys!
Been watching the both of you for years now, absolutely adore you guys wish you nothing but the best
Kris and Caleb are just such a cute couple ❤❤
Caleb and his accents LOL I love these so much, when you can let out a genuine belly laugh in the first 40 seconds of the video xD
It has been soo long since I have sat down and watched your channel 😢😢😢😢
I always listen to your videos while crafting but I moved recently and I had to leave my supplies and it’s a vibe I miss
I love Kris and Caleb so much
DONT JUST READ THE BAD COMMENTS, WE LOVE YOU UNCLE CALEB❤and auntie kris too ofc❤
11:10 killed me I can’t 🤣
Thank you for the beautiful depiction of England and its culture at the beginning. We are flattered.
I love it when you and Caleb collab it’s funny and adorable
This got deep. I agree that life is too short to fall out with people you love about petty things. I love you Caleb ❤️
I’m waiting for Kevin to just jump on Pete 😂
Your pfp is everywhere lol I saw you the other day 🫖🫖
@@MillieJones-t8xoh yeah hello again
Hii where did your pfp come from Ik it’s Daz but which vine?
@@MillieJones-t8x I think it’s one of the ones where he is being a woman arguing over little thing
Oh course we love seeing you on the channel. You make Kris happy that makes us happy!! You guys are a breath of fresh air!
Kris that scream in the end made me think of the movie: The Dark Crystal 😂 when the Skeksis see a Gelfling 😱
always loved when you did these video w your siblings
i’m so glad you post them more frequently on this channel :D
Sometimes I feel like a failed adult. I went to college and got good jobs....bought a house and got married then hadca baby at 30. Divorce at 31...crazy 10 years....a few years of therapy I'm living with my parents with my 15 year old...i did it all rigjt but mental health problems started showing early 20s and took a long time to get it in check
10:25 the way she’s looking at him❤ she’s in loveee
I started laughing halfway through realizing Caleb was wearing the hat 😂😂🫶🏼
Kris i just wanna say you are so brave to make your relationship known because people love to get upset at creators for breaking up with their "perfect" partner, not say y'all gonna break up, yall are beautiful, but viewers can be crazy
Love you, sorry if this is mean
People can be really hard on Caleb, and I am here to say that we LOVE him on this channel and you guys are adorable together!💖✨
I love that he is sporting the detective fit Kris’s best friend got her!😂❤
0:01 Kris you have got yourself a great one a keeper you and Caleb are wonderful for each other 😊 this guy is funny 😊
i love second channels, they always seem a bit more laid back and more in touch with their audience and the videos are always so funny too
Let it be known, I LOVE you guys as a duo, I fall asleep to these videos, Caleb is always welcome 🤬❗️
Kris, I just have to tell you just how gorgeous your hair color is on you. It really brings your natural facial coloring alive more than your natural blonde hair color does. I know, weird right? But I am the same way. I have an ugly, mousy brown hair color naturally but a nice deep red, similar to yours, really makes me look alive too.
Hey Kris hope you’re having a good day
To make sure that the following statement is not misunderstood, YOU CALEB, ARE THE BEST THING, THAT HAS HAPPENED IN HER IN ALONG TIME. (in my opinion)
The greatest fartner of all time
In her tho????😂
*in* her?
probably meant in her life
@@live4viv no, I didn't
I can’t believe these two met each other. 😂❤️
Caleb, just ignore the bad comments! Who cares if they don't like you! If they don't like you, then they can stop watching! We LOVE you on this channel!
kris' hair looks so pretty in this
I get sooo happy when Kris posts
When Caleb dose the British accent with the Sherlock homes had k
Lictrully got me choking in my own laughter love you two soo much keep on doing what ur doing ❤❤❤❤💕💕💕
WE LOVE YOUUUUUUU CALEB!!!! hugs from NZ
I love their parenting advice❤❤
The one thing I miss from these videos is reading a couple of the comments on this post along with your opinions and discussions. Thanks for the vid!
You know, I smile every time I see Oompa on this channel. He is the true king of stupid questions.
Caleb spittin facts in this vid
nice two of my fav creators now they are together
Caleb got me wheezin, yall look incredible as always.
When he said 'no one loves me' i was like exucuze me your the best. Also love you guys❤
Love you Kriss and Caleb, I live for your chaotic and hilarious intros 😂
Kris, the hair looks soo good omg 😭🤌🏾