Discrimination against the Girl Child | Conversations with Kanwal S3 | Episode 06
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- Опубліковано 20 жов 2024
- In today's episode Maryam opens up about how her family mistreated her - and her mother - simply because she was born a girl. She talks about how rights and privileges in the family were only reserved for the boys and how she fought against that system.
We also speak to Isfandyar Inayat from The Citizens Foundation about why girls are forced to leave school.
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I just loved it when she said, feminism ka yh matlub nahi ke u dont need a man in your life. It means u need a man to support you NOT dominate you. So much respect for you guys for making this show!
Agree
True ❤❤❤❤
Feminism ka first use abortion ke liye Kiya gaya west countries mein or ye slogan use kia jata tha
My Body My Choice
Hamare Kuch bhi samajhne se word ki meaning nahin badal jaye gi feminism ladies ke rights ke liye nahin Aya tha it was for abortion which is completely Haram in our religion
Seeing this after two years but replying for those people who will see this video whenever
after listening to her regarding her uncle's order to clean his shoes, one thing came into my mind which I want to share with all of you. few years back, when I was studying Law, we went to our Khala's village to attend the wedding of her daughter. I was all dressed up for the event. My mamu came to me. His shoes were filled up with the garbage and cow dung (as in village it is very common) he came and ordered me to clean his shoes which I refused. My khala was there and she scolded me that you are batmeez. if mamu is asking me to clean his shoes, I should clean those immediately. I replied my father has never taught me to clean the shoes of males. its the responsibility of the male to clean his shoes himself. and can't mamu see that I am wearing new dress and I am ready. How can I touch his dirty shoes. this statement really offended my khala and Mamu but I gave no attention towards them.
Gud
Good for you. Did they cut ties with you after that incident?
Glad your father didn't have same mind set.
You did the right thing. We all have our self respect .
You did right👍👍💕
Omg this girl is so wise. About feminism. We do need men. For their support. Not dominance! Damn she’s awesome.
I hope her influential family doesn't harm them after this interview. More power to her
She is no more😥😭
"Betti woh phool hai Jo har bhag mai nahi kilti, sirf kismat walo ko milti hai" this is how I felt when my daughter's were born, so lucky Allhamdulillah. Treat your daughter's with kindness and ALLAH will treat you with kindness ❤️
Waqiye!
Yeh mera life experience hai(I can be wrong of course and there might be exceptions) ke Allah betiyaan sirf zarf walon ko deta hai. Allah ki rehmat hat kisi ko naseeb nahi hoti. Masha Allah Alhamdulillah I have the most perfect little baby girl. But I know for sure that even if I had 10 baby girls,I would still be equally happy for all of them in every way,just like I am for my first one currently. After her birth,Allah has given me such fulfillment that my heart doesn't even wish for a baby boy for one second. She has completed all my happiness.
Betiyan rehmat hain Allah pak ki💖
It's really fun when these male are proud of their sons. These sons show them their place few years later. And in old ages they wish/regret of not having a daughter. Allah dikhata hai woh badla le leta hai. 🙂
So true, my dad's best friend has 2 sons and I am single girl child. He always showed sympathy to my dad. Now I am married to a very understanding person we have been staying with my parents from past 5 months because my mother was not well. Whereas Uncle's one son is in Australia hasn't visited them for 6 years and younger one is a drunkard whose kidney failed at 27 only. Uncle had to donate his kidney and after recovering his son starting drinking again. 2 days back I saw him and he looked unwell and sad.Just remembered how he used to feel bad for us all these years and how I felt bad for him.
Uff I m sad reading this
Absolutely. No daughter abandon their parents only sons do. Love daughters ❤️ they are the best!
Even though Maryam is so polite and soft spoken... but the betrayal and rage in her eyes are so evident! Time always turns around for people who tirelessly work hard and are determined to change their future and with that spark in you..you will achieve whatever you want Maryam! Prayers for you with all my heart!
Thank you Kanwal for always highlighting such a prevalent issue!
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The nabi Muhammad s. a. a. w said "lucky is the man whose first child is a daughter".
Dear thats not true..its just an old people tale..there is no hadith who proved this..
@@natashamam875 ...
Yes there's no Judith on that but he did say on A conversation wid the sahAbas that if a man has 3 daughters treats them well then jannah is guaranteed for him. Sahabas asked wat if a person has two or one? Our prophet saw said even then.
I'm principal at TCF primary school and I'm really proud to be a part of this reputed organization.... TCF is really working on gender equality... Most of the employees in TCF are females...
I wish she named her cousins and her chachas and tayas but then again... I believe she's way above all that and is moving forward with dignity.
Can see the pain in her voice and the eyes. The eyes never lie! Imagine the trauma she had to go through. These shackles are to be broken now! Yar har kisi kay aspirations hotay hain.... Every one has a dream to be something or achieve goals! Be it a boy or a girl! That support of her mamoo, father and mother is really appreciated ! The way she was brought up despite the tough childhood and life speaks volumes of her mother's upbringing and her own personality as well!
This is unbelievable. How can a family be so cruel!? I wish this girl all the success mental, religious, educational and more than she deserves.
This episode reminded me of my family who use to say to my mother BARI BETI SY PEHLY EK BETA PAID KARLETI TOU AJ ITNY MASLAY NAII HOTAY TUMHYN. And my mother use to cry but today my mother is a proud mother of 3 daughters and a son whose daughters made her proud more than those with Elder sons.
Such people should be answered that it is not possible for anyone to give birth to her baby by choice. If it is possible for them, they should come forward and try to do so. One should not stay silent or cry to these ignorant ones.
@@fauziaarif1404 exactly
.. Sometimes I feel that only stupid ppl suffer such baseless taunts
I’m a mother of 3 daughters and one son and I wouldn’t change it for the world. Daughters are the best ❤️👍
Imagine the horror. When even the matchstick you use is counter! And this is the reality of so many families in Pakistan. 😭😭
Thankyou Kanwal for highlighting! And thankyou Maryam for sharing your story. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
The emotions in her voice, the rage, the disappointment, everything is visible through her expression!! I hope she gets that peace she deserves and I hope she get over her trauma Ameen. Thank you Kanwal for bringing another strong episode.
Thank you!
I have two daughters and I wouldn't trade them for my life. The reason middle-class families want a son is that he is considered to be an investment; the prize bond they can cash when they are old. Someone who can look after them, feed them and work day and night to keep them happy. Things are different in cultures where women are independent and are not considered a burden.
Betiyon ka kya sukoon hai koi Betiyon ke maan baap se pooche. Allah sab ko betiyan De aur koi aisa na ho jo betiyon ka sukh na dekhe Aameen. 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖
"Aurat ko mard ki zaroorat iss liye hoti hai k wo usko support kare, iss liye nahi k usko dominate kare" ... hands down 🙌🏻
So much respect for maryam for coming forward and wellllll .. those male cousins can sit and watch this diva winning the world now. InshaAllah !!
This lady have my heart for promoting such topics ❤❤
Amazziinnng. Firstly her mother who stood strong for her daughter, her father undoubtedly. Lots of prayers for her. In the end, most satisfying thing was the way they are mentally preparing their son for his future wife.
Marium's father passed away last year and yesterday she passed away after a long battle with cancer
I always heard from people when I told them we are two sisters: oh, bhai nahi hai? bus do behnain? chalo Allah bhai bhi de ga.
Omg I heard the same thing and we are two sisters too!
It’s infuriating to hear people say such crap.
Ssp squad!
First one to be here and so excited for the showww. Gonna be amazing as usualll lots of love and prayers to you both🤩🤩😍😍😍
yeh 4 dislikes lgta hai maryam ky cousins hain!! I dont get why ppl dislike videos like these??
😂😂😜🤣🤣🤣
@@hussaingulaa8913 what's so funny here?
Ahahaha
Such a strong daughter! Great determination...and such so called political or strong families should be shamed, they should know what they are from inside... instead of this fake banawtii izzat....
More power to you!!!! ❤️
Feminism ki true def : we need man to support us, and be there for us.. Not to dominate us!!
Thank you for sharing your story with us.. I hope you all the best in life ❤️❤️❤️💙
Maryam is lucky that her parents did not discriminate against her and supported her to their best.
Listen this I remember that we are 5 sisters and our taya had 5 sons their sons always used to say "tm se 1_2 mar ku nahi jati itni itni dhair larkiyan ho"
When our youngest brother was born he died after 3 months then our taya's family said "iss larky ki jagha tm 5 me se koe aik mar jati"
I am so sorry to hear that 💔💔
Koi aur brother hy??
Very sorry but stay strong
Ajeeb log hoty hein Yar kaisay moun khol k bol daitay hein aisay
Jahillon ki baton k parwa nahi karni chahiay, i grow up same mentality, never care, just believe on yourself.
She prove that women are worth of getting their rights although she struggle alot but finally achieved it more power to soul sisters more power to her
Yes my mom faced this thing when my youger sister born and everyone like hawww hayeee 3sri beti ho gai even though we have two brothers too but still my dado cried that her ladla Chota beta have 3rd daughter. But hats off to my abba he was so happy and he distribute sweets in whole muhalla so that no one thinks that he is unhappy for 3rd daughter. More power to girls like Maryam. Love u mate♥️ we have similar names too❤️ And more power to Kanwal for bringing this up🤗
My dadi cried too when my third sister was born. I don’t know what the hell is wrong with our people!
@@anumelyk ohh yes but this is the mentality. U remember our Qur'an teaching Baji have 7 daughter and when her 4th born her mil didn't give her milk or any other thing and she said" knsa beta paida Kia ha Jo ise m makhan r dhood pilao"😔
@@anumelyk yeh dadiyan hi sabse sexist hoti hai.. And the irony is that they themselves are FEMALE
This episode was so emotional n heart touching..kitne cruel log exist krte hain society mein...im impressed she never gave up on them n continued her struggle mashaAllah...beshak Allah bbia ese he logon ki madad farmata hai jo apni madad aap krte hain...loads of prayer for maryam m her family❤️
Bluckbuster episodes 👍👍,,,,much needed topic in society,,her life story made me cry😭😭😭😭,,,more power to you girl❤,,,,,Kanwal really really appreciate to ur hard work,,,stay blessed kanwal
Amazing! This lady has so much courage, it’s not easy to stand strong in the face of such adversity. Along with the stories, I really appreciate you bringing in external speakers that equip us with more information Kanwal. The stats were heartbreaking and eye opening. More power to Maryam, you and your team ❤️ thank you 🙏🏻
In Islam the daughter s place is so high... Our prophets family was extended due to his daughter.... Those who still don't respect woman plz look at our beloved prophet and his love towards his daughter
This girl is a role model for everyone. I am amazed by her sheer resilience and resolve to not give up.
Her father passed away last year and yesterday Marium also passed away from a long battle with cancer.
Its sad to see that we as a society are still struggling to accept girls as human beings. Well done to this brave girl for sharing her story. Great episode again Kanwal. ❤️
Listening to her, it is reminding me of our story, we are also 4 sisters only, and faced almost same situation as her in our family, but now by God's grace I have Government Job, and i am able to take care of my family well.
We should never lose hope, and keep working. God never leaves us, he is always there to take care.
I don't believe ..this was happening with her in 21st ce ...I literally can't believe .. shocking 🥺
Very much needed episode. Only proud parents have the proud, daughters. Thank you Kanwal mwaaahhhhhs 😘😘😘😘😘
Another stimulating episode! Well done Kanwal!
Felt so sad to know about life of this girl. Can see her pain and struggle. But she did not submit to the pressure and fought against all odds. These are the people who are helped by Allah.
Great to see you here Marrium,
I know her personally, she is my class fellow... She is vary brave and hardworking girl, she knows how to get rights..
More power to you Mona 😊
She is a true example of women empowerment, keep up the good work, we all are proud of you Marium ❤
OMG I just cannot stop crying after watching this. I want everyone to watch this plz hear her trauma she has gone through a lot and still struggling. I wish her all the best in her life. and must congratulate her Parents especially her father to support his wife and daughter since he it must be very difficult for him fighting with such rubbish mindset people. lots of prayers for your father. hope he is doing well now.❤❤❤❤
Literally her story brought me to tears. What a strong and powerful soul. May Allah give her all the happiness in her life that she deserves. Ameen
She is so polite.... Love from India 🇮🇳❤
Awesome. Having traditional middle class background myself, I was unable to understand the complaints of my late mother towards the society. She was a working lady and worked hard to stabilize her brothers and then our family (with my father.). But as my hair started growing white, i shifted to Europe and became proud father of little daughter, I started realizing many issues. Well its never too late and we can still contribute a lot positively. Thanks Kanwal for sharing this interview. All prayers and best wishes to this young girl.
The wait was worth it... lots of prayers 4 this brave girl & family, May Allah ease out all of her problems ameen
Zabardast. Her mom rightly said time proves everything so you don’t need to answer cruel people. Such a brave girl and hats off to her mother.
A man should support you, not dominate you!
Loved this!
I have immense respect for Kanwal and the way she has brought forward all these important issues.You are truly an inspiration !!
You know there was a relative of my dad who was very proud of his 9 sons (or was it 11?). Anyway, my dad was the only son with three sisters. He became yateem at age 15. He felt this person with sons was very proud (in a not so nice way) and degrading somewhat towards them. Freshly yateem kids and widowed woman. During the 1971 war, VERY unfortunately each son was lined up and shot dead except
the youngest. It was the saddest thing for my dad and sometimes my dad is extra sad to think was it pride that Allah did not like? But he never says that’s the reason. It’s just a lingering thought he has.
Thank you so much for bringing these people out Kanwal and listening to their stories . We live in a sad , scary world and actually believe we will not be held accountable for our oppression on others.
Update: Marium's father passed away last year and today Marium passed away after loosing a long battle with cancer. Marium was young, ambitious and had high dreams for herself and her family. Please pray for her maghfirah. May Allah bless her soul. May she reunite with her father in Jannah and may He give patience to her family to endure this loss. Aaameen.
Love itttt!!! Kudos to the team for highlighting these issues through simple, real life stories. 🙏 More power to you!
#SSP SQUAD
She is so humble and polite after everything....proud of her...lots of hugs...thanks kanwal...❤❤❤
Such a tragic story
May no one ever have to face such a life span
May Allah make and keep you and your family healthy happy and prosperous always
This made me so saddened and happy at the same time! She is so strong. May Allah give her all the success she deserve. ❤️
Hats off for that sister I am glad to see and hear that she is raised her voice against that so called gender phobia and carry on her struggle for her and her family MAY ALLAH ALMIGHTY give her more strength physically,mentally and financially safe her from every hardship remove her all sorrows give her completely health,wealth and prosperity
And how shameless people's are those who are taking ALLAH'S REHMAT as zehmat I pray ALLAH TAA"ALA filled their hearts and minds with respect ,care ,loyalty,sincerity,kindness about MARYAM and her PARENTS and enlighten them with HIDAYAT
I literally got goosebumps while kanwal mam and maryam smiled
MAY ALLAH ALMIGHTY shower countless blessings on both of you guys and on all of thise sisters who are facing problems and issues such like maryam
May Allah bless her in every step of her life❤
Ssp squad!
Maryam may have female cousins on her father's side. Was the attitude of family same to them as was to her? If not, then why was it bad for Maryam? She has a younger brother then why was her family treated badly? It seems to be matter of property grabbing as well.
I really hope this brings a change in the society or at least we learn to speak against these odds of thw very society we are living in.
Thanks kanwal foe highlighting this. It was much needed. We need to know our rights and ways to defend them as a human.
A topic that gets least importance. Well done Kanwal & team❤
Great! She really showed courage and played her part to break this hard layer of discrimination.
This gender discrimination is so evident in our society.. A group discussion can be held on this topic..
I'm proud of Maryam for showing such strength and willpower. Having faced a few similar situations, I understand how hard her journey has been. May ALLAH make her the coolness of her family's eyes and May HE bestow her with inner peace and real happiness. Again, great job, Kanwal and team!
This was such a powerful episode!
All the more power to Maryam. Prayers and respect for her.
Hats off to you Maryam..the struggle and power you showed to talk up on gender discrimination based on your own life is just beyond any expression of words. May Allah protect you and bless your father with speedy recovery and health. Amen. @kanwalahmed you are a gem.. investing in raising these issues which are a norm basically in our society and to raise voice aginst them is merely being rebellious. More power to team kanwal👍
Marium was my friend. Her father passed away last year and yesterday she passed away after a long battle with cancer
Beautiful sharing as always. You are doing great to open about those matters and realizing people that they're doing sin with this gender discrimination and hatred. Please don't stay quiet for every kind of abuse.
Thank you for this episode, Kanwal and Maryam. So many people think this kind of discrimination is a thing of the past, but many women and girls still suffer this all around the world. I grew up in America and I have seen and experienced very similar things. Gender discrimination is a sickness, the real pandemic.
Here I am 😬 I was anxiously waiting 😬
Maryam you are beyond strong for speaking up. Maasive massive respect for your mother and father.
May Allah give you ease and success
More power to her for gathering courage to talk about this and to you for giving her the platform to speak. Kanwal you are doing a great job MashaAllah keep it up 👏👏❤❤
So soft and yet so strong! What an amazing girl!!
How pathetic his father's siblings are.....just insane, even he is the eldest one and they have no respect for him just bcz of his daughter......Allah hidaiyat dy dy unko moat sy pehly...
Good luck to this brave girl...I hope she meet her goals remain empowered and prove these LOG wrong....love u girl❤❤❤❤❤😚😚
Don't worry, their sons will do the same to them and they will remember their past of what they did wrong.
After watching this episode I realised that more or less it is the story of almost every household! Those women who do not face any kind of discrimination are the luckiest
More power to you maryam ❤👍 ur such a strong girl... Mai ny bht nazdek sy ye rawayye dekhy hain sirf beti hony py nhn bulky us ky complexion py bhi 😥 beta hy aur fair bhi hy usko itna pyar aur beti hy aur uska complexion thora sa kam hy to usky sath bura salook... Thanku so much kanwal itny important issues py baat krny ky leye ❤❤
Kanwal, people are now looking at you for raising their problems and issues. Every single aspect in this episode, every single detail and every single reference is so relatable. " shadi kr di jati hy k 1 roti khane wala kam ho jae"
Jiyo Kanwal!
Thankyou Kanwal for another brilliant episode ❤️ More power to you Maryam. Really sorry to know all this still happening in 21st century
How can any1 hate a little girl, a little angel, bundle of joy... My husband just can't imagine himself without her daughter. He even can't stop his tears come by imagining her wedding.
Once my father said parh k kia krogi or sary medle shields phenk dey thy.20 saal bd bhi unk alfaz nhi bhol ski .me khandan me sbsa educated hon alhamdullillah.or jb bety na sath nhi dia jb me na sath dia father ka financially bhi or emotionally bhi .aj mery father sbsa zyda mjsa pyar krty or sbko btaty meri beti na mera hr mshkil time sath dia ha
I agree, we need men but not to dominant us. Brilliant girl with pure thoughts.. thanks Kanwal Ahmed👍
How softly she talks 🌺
Many duas for her. She is an inspiration
I appreciate her father and mother. Parents can make a difference
Hi kanwel ....me apki sb videos dekhti hon ...q k ye kafi sy zeda achi or hm Ladies ko motivate krti hen ✌🏻✌🏻
MashaAllah again a beautiful message and episode ... MashaAllah zaberdast
Salute to this girl and her mother👏👏👏👏👏 suna bohat asaan hay per jis k sath hoyi hoti ussay pata hota taleef kua hay May Allah always bless her family Allah apko bohat acha husband day or ap anay past k sarey zakham bhool jaye Ameen🤲
I just love the way she defines every thing. And the best part was that feminism ka matlab clapping for it. Love thus episode and many duas for u maryam and thx Kanwal to highlight this topic.
Ya Allah!! Kya mounh dikhaeyn gay hum Allah aur uskay Rasool (SAW) ko? 😔😔
So much more power to you Maryam and kanwal for bringing these topics into the light of media and everyone's eyes as well. It's a shame that in this day and age we have such gender biased ppl living amongst us. May Allah make us see better days for the women in our communities and nation
I dont even have words to express my love for kanwal and her team.
:')
Wht a point made, no one remembers the physical pains of their past but do remember the mental affect that was made!
Much needed topic
Mry taya abu ki b beti thi
Us k bd ma apny parents ki 1st aulad thi or mery bd phr behn hoi mjy aj b yd hai mry brdy ki ma bht khush thi tyar thi tu mri dadi maa ne kaha bs kro ktni salgira(birthdays) krni h kitni botiyan torni hai mry bety ki aj beta hota tu mry bety ki bazu banta
Or ma itna roi thi tb
Aj k dour main 21st century ma b log still gender discrimination krty hain
Din ma itni itni bar betion k dil tory jaty hain hla k betian itni hassas hoti hain 😞
Pata nahi kab tk ye jahalt chalegi humare society me
Again Kanwal, an amazing job. You are a role model and an inspiration. Maryam is amazing and this show gives hope to so many. 💕💕
How can people discriminate? Very touching story 💖
A topic much needed to be discussed! great job
Very composed personality.
More power to you girl! 👍🏻
Lots of love and respect!!💕
Brilliant job Kanwal👍🏻👍🏻
Another powerful episode ❤️
You go girl Maryam! Hugs coming your way!!
You r doing a great job and changing people lives through your videos stay blessed always kanwal ❤️
Love the hope in her voice, next generation main aisa na ho. انشاءاللہ ❤️
Gharat karey ALLAH aesy logo ko ameeenn
MashaAllah brave girl to come up and speak about her struggles.
Maryam is such a bright and intelligent young woman. I’m glad her mother pushed for her to get an education and I’m glad that Maryam is standing up for herself. Her paternal family sounds so horrible and greedy, absolutely disgusting behavior by them towards Maryam’s family.