Was I Scammed? | How I ended up in Africa.
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- Опубліковано 8 вер 2024
- Masks off! This is a season of vulnerability. I've decided to bare all and share what really went down. It's time to share the truth and nothing but the truth!
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Hey Anton, I think you would have faired better in Joburg S. Africa with romance. The financial aspect there should not be as much of a hinderance and you can find someone in your age bracket.
Yeah, I absolutely agree. Thank you for your input!
I’m so glad I found your channel. Your perspective came right on time. 🖤 Many of us have the same concerns, desires and outlook. With so much negativity out there it’s refreshing to hear the truth. I look forward to hearing more about your journey! 🌱
Wow! Thank you so much for stopping by. I am glad you found my channel 🙏🏾
Person X was not trying to come to the US because she couldn’t get a visa. Don’t make it seem she had no interest in the US. The mere fact she was not granted a student visa says a lot.
I appreciated your honesty in this video. As you know I've been pondering whether my partner is at home or abroad. I've walked with you through this journey and I appreciate you giving the world a little peak behind the scenes of what it was really like. I do believe we can make our dreams come true at home
Well said! We certainly can make our dreams come true at home ❤️💯
That’s good u realize that. I see so many thinking they found “love” but are simply looking like sitting ducks to those that need that heavier dollar and/or citizenship (sad truth).
There’s the guy with locks and glasses in Kenya that met (who is now his wife) and she never went back home from the 1st day she met him at a hotel (??)…couldn’t get rid of her. She then hurried and got pregnant too. That guy thought it was “love at first site,” but it was really “U.S. $$$” at first site! Poor clueless guy, and there are women getting duked by opportunists just the same, smh.
Be careful for whoever is thinking they’re finding “love” abroad. Hate to say it and wouldn’t ordinarily say this…..but make sure they have something if you’re dealing with them. Even still dealing with ones that have something they may still just want the citizenship. Just pray that it’s the right person and God shows u truth about whoever it is, period.
Hey bro I appreciate your transparency and my story . I have been to the continent and dated on the continent and my story is very similar. The culture differences are very difficult to understand for me. Women on the continent are to depended on men financial and not just them but their extended families.. When u visit occasionally and having to support your life and their life including their extended family it becomes tiring and exhausting.. when do you get in return? A visit every 3 months? My advice is if u not going to live in that country permanently then just forget it…
New subcriber here. Great video❤
Thanks for being here! 🙏🏾
The term passport bro comes from Europe which is a jargon term for a s3x tourist. If you are not one of them, then you're not a passport bro. Most Americans who use the term have no idea what it actually means.
I really hope you find someone who appreciates you. You appear to be a great guy. I would love to introduce you to someone but they live in S.Africa. However, I live in the states.
Lol😂😂😂😂 yeah Anton.
Praying that you find true love
Finding a relationship? Become the type of man women want to be with.
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I've been back and forth to Africa, and met someone before. But in reality, with Africa, you need so much money to be able to see them regularly, I never could take it seriously. Bringing someone back to the US, was not an option, my main issue with the US is family law and propoganda, if I bring them here its the same problem.
Also, the cultural differences can be an issue, the Black pride and race conciousness in Africa in general is very low in comparsion to here(We aren't ever where we should be). I want the mother of my children instilling Black pride in my kids, w/o me pushing her to do so. This will be an issue with many African women you will meet. Another thing, which you mentioned, is money. They will definitely ask you for money. I've sent a few dollars here and there(to one's i've said no to for years) but i'm not going to be supporting someone that I'm not seeing or getting anything from, doesn't work for me, so the answer is always a no. This made me realize the concept of being equally yolked, I turned my attention to more privileged African women who were more my peer.
I spent 4 months in Nigeria to see if it was a place that I would want to live. I concluded that it was. But I would rather bring an African American with me, if I can't find one that wants to go(which most likely will not want to go), I will probably marry in Africa.
Basically, its tough trying to date in Africa, unless you're rich or you move over there(with foreign income). Long distance doesn't really work unless you take it from long to short distance in reasonable time. And you can't truly learn a person w/o cohabitating, or at least spending a lot of real time.
Very thorough comment, brother! Thank you for sharing your experience with us here. Relationships are tough enough - long-distance only makes it more challenging!
There is another inherent risk in dating in some of these countries that you may or may not address at another time.
I commend your courage and honesty in the video. I think your approach was okay (minus the financial support), but these thing do take time. So, don’t be too hard on yourself. All have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God 😅.
I basically did what you did (20 years back) but on a longer timeframe. I essentially went deep in USA, Brazil and Nigeria and eventually married a fellow Nigerian (almost 20 years now).
The USA was a distant third (in terms of marriage (no issues dating then or even longer relationships). I wouldn’t marry then in the US and wouldn’t do it today.
Brazil was a very close second, and ‘til today I still have significant roots including family and friends over the last almost 25 years. Met some wonder women there over the years. The timing wasn’t ideal for me at the time and I wasn’t ready to move to Brazil full time, and that would have been necessary.
With that all said the greatest thing I learned is that culture should come first and you seem to understand that.
It makes sense to prefer the culture you were raised in, came of age in, and are accustomed to.
Going outside of that takes serious work and a person of a certain mind set.
I grew up partially and went to school in Nigeria and I’m of Nigerian parentage and speak and understand my tribal language, so that helps A LOT.
I also spent enough time in Brazil over the decades to learn the language (basic elementary level) and the culture.
With all that like any long term relationship there are still challenges.
I may just do a video on this 😅
Thank you very much for your comment! I appreciate you sharing your perspective, and how you learned a lot of valuable lessons along the way. Cheers! And thanks again 🙏🏾
You should make a video from your perspective on why it wasn’t working dating women in America and how that has changed.
Anton what a question "Why would that person be interested in you"? Why would you be interested in them too if you don't want reciprocity 😂😂😂😂
Good question! And I appreciate you always engaging in the comments. I see you, Rosalinda! 🙌🏾
You should tried 90 day fiance
Something tells me he didn't WANT that type of visa 🤣🤣🤣
@@marlandtownsend4715 He would have been getting paid for the whole experience while on the show..
😆😆 good idea!
You seems reluctant to mention the gender of X and O. I don’t care but wondered about that. It could made a very interesting discussion.
You're right. Will definitely make for an interesting discussion in another video.
I thought they were women? 😭😩😩😩
These people target Americans and Europeans. They just don't really care for Americans.. Very intelligent people and they know how they are going to say to someone for that person to believe them.. If African women are your passion make sure their papers are correct. Honestly you seem to be a good catch for someone I say just be patient love will come...
I appreciate you! 🙏🏾 Thanks for your input
Have you tried Thailand? It’s affordable and plenty of single persons who speak English.
Why didn’t you marry person X? Just thinking if this is someone you could not live without!
If you date within the 30s, how do you have children that you want? Wouldn't that make it difficult?
Have you ever thought about dating a lady from another Western country?
Being American is probably special 😂
They go on and on about their passport as if it is the only valuable thing in the world. 🤣🤣🤣
Lol. You're so clueless it's adorable to watch but you'll figure it out soneday.
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What? You never answered why you left Africa. Oh boi.
That's on another video.
He became broke. Namibia is just very expensive.