WENT TO LIVE WITH MY ONLINE BOYFRIEND FOR THE FIRST TIME AND THIS HAPPENED

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  • WENT TO LIVE WITH MY ONLINE BOYFRIEND FOR THE FIRST TIME AND THIS HAPPENED,in this video iam going to be sharing with you an online dating apps love story that went bad,thought at first we thought it was a success story.The lady's name in today's story is Rachel,from Namibia 45years old who found ove online on online dating apps with an Australian guy by the name of Sebastian.This online love she found in the end lost her car and her life returned to Zero after decided to go live with him for the first time,to be honest a lot happened in their relationship and as someone who is on online dating apps searching for love this love story will teach a lot.Another i would like to know is that iam not making this video to discourage you not to try your luck on online dating apps but help you pick out the redflags in the early stages of your relationship,because Rachel saw the redflags but chose to ignore them thats why we are here today to learn from her mistakes.Observe the redflags so that you find a good guy,that right one which i believe is possible on online dating apps exist good men too.So without wasting much of your time please like,share,comment and subscribe.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 246

  • @precious3175
    @precious3175 Рік тому +13

    Ladies, before you can start any relationship online or in real life, start by healing completely everything that has hurt you in the past, learn to sharpen and listen to your intuition and develop good self esteem and worth. Go to therapy if you have to . And remove emotion in your decision to settle down with someone.. many a time I hear people saying "it's because I was so in love"..No, this excuse has to come to an end. Otherwise, attracting toxicity will continue. Even after one gets married, it doesn't mean happy ever after, it can still be a toxic marriage. Be careful

  • @usertopista6633
    @usertopista6633 Рік тому +13

    Rachel's thinking was so bad. I can't allow anyone to tell me to sell my stuffs so we can do things together. I would rather be lonely for the rest of my life. I was once scammed but i got my lesson. I wish her all the best of luck as she moves on peacefully

  • @tomakstomakshouseofstyles1488
    @tomakstomakshouseofstyles1488 Рік тому +3

    Hi Bella 👋 happy to see you again and thanks for the great work of encouragement to us,God bless you more!

  • @lionidakirochi9863
    @lionidakirochi9863 Рік тому +2

    Thanks Bella for the story, online dating is not easy we should always shine our eyes

  • @EfranceNagadya
    @EfranceNagadya Рік тому +13

    Whenever I see notification from Bellaz channel I expect a massive story whether good or bad .keep up love .

  • @tarynkhilani7112
    @tarynkhilani7112 Рік тому +2

    Thanks my Bella 💕 you are our eye opener, when you are in dating apps you need to go hand in hand with God to make right choice for you 🙏🙏🙏 hope Rachel's life will go back to normal soon

  • @SharonandFamily
    @SharonandFamily Рік тому +7

    They should shine their eyes very well. Any red flag don't ignore to avoid matters that touches the heart. Be careful out there people. Take your time don't be in a hurry cut off those red flags till get the one. So sorry to Rachel she went through this.

  • @paulineafrican1197
    @paulineafrican1197 Рік тому +5

    Keep reminding us to shine our eyes Bella , Much love♥️

  • @bernadettetitus5212
    @bernadettetitus5212 Рік тому +2

    Thank you Bella for sharing us this video. Really we must open our eyes. Thank you that you are here for us. Be blessed 🙏

  • @memorybanda9277
    @memorybanda9277 Рік тому +1

    Thanks alot Bella with this video it will help us to shine our eyes and i pray that Rachel find someone who deserves her pure love

  • @bagumazainab126
    @bagumazainab126 Рік тому +1

    Thanks, Bella that's an eye-opening story, I pray Rachel gets back on her feet, and thanks for always being there for our sisters and us all.
    Thank you for being such a good woman with a kind heart ❤️ ❤️❤️🙏🙏

  • @Charlize2222
    @Charlize2222 Рік тому +8

    Wow Sebastian was a quick mover , 3 days after chatting . He waste no time at all . Crazy how he listened to every conversation she did. Glad Rachel left Sebastian. Many red flags there .

  • @peshpeshgal3796
    @peshpeshgal3796 Рік тому +1

    So so discouraging and at the same time encouraging to discover red flags and to learn too.Sorry for Racheal for what she went through.Thanks Bella for sharing to shine our eyes.

  • @consolataaudi2737
    @consolataaudi2737 Рік тому +2

    I have so many takeaways, I wish her all the best on her new journey. Be blessed too Bella❤️

  • @betsyakoko6810
    @betsyakoko6810 Рік тому +5

    Bella looking good but ladies outside here should be very watchful and careful

  • @patiencetumuherwe8501
    @patiencetumuherwe8501 Рік тому +1

    Thank you Bella for reminding us all the time for sure may God bless you.

  • @veronica2380
    @veronica2380 8 місяців тому

    Hi Bella
    Am happy to have you here
    You are helping us a lot
    Thank you so much
    Am from congo find love with a Poland Man need some advise please and thank you

  • @elizamwetulundila3171
    @elizamwetulundila3171 Рік тому +2

    Sorry my home girl. Wishing you all the strength and courage to get back on your feet again. Aunt Bella thank you for sharing with us those eye opener stories. 🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @sakyadventures
    @sakyadventures Рік тому +1

    More tips here by my sister
    You dont know how grateful I am to you infact I watch and repeat most of your videos..."to shine my eyes" 🥰
    God bless you

  • @Favour3558
    @Favour3558 Рік тому +3

    Never make big decision without praying for it .
    God talks ladies , if you are a Christian you know what I mean , we must search and pray hard for guidance .

  • @esthernakajiri
    @esthernakajiri Рік тому +1

    Hello sister Bella 💓💓💓 Thanks for updated ☺️☺️☺️☺️ dear 🙏

  • @chipobenjaminnyahuye4165
    @chipobenjaminnyahuye4165 Рік тому +2

    Oh my God, what a story. Thank you sister for sharing this story.

  • @FebineAwuor
    @FebineAwuor Рік тому +4

    Love can make some people blind for sure. It's always a red flag when someone tells you to leave your work that means you will be depending on him for everything. I'm so sorry for what she had to go through. Lots of lessons to learn from her story.

  • @usertopista6633
    @usertopista6633 Рік тому

    Thanks for your time and always giving us more tips all the time. Wishing all single women success in their journey

  • @elsiegotora4596
    @elsiegotora4596 Рік тому +2

    Rachel went through a lot, sad story indeed. We really have to be careful on dating apps!!!

  • @michelle76678
    @michelle76678 Рік тому +1

    I wish her all the best on her new journey i am so sorry the other relationships didn't work out , that man talking about food and money is not good thanks for another video Bella

  • @brendamusekiwa582
    @brendamusekiwa582 Рік тому +1

    It's so unfortunate and painful. But I know she will recover from this with a big lesson learnt and she will be wiser.. Ma God restore everything lost.. I pray she gets a job... Mungu anakupenda, ambarikiye sana

  • @charlottequeen2079
    @charlottequeen2079 Рік тому +1

    Hello Bella, this talk is so touching. But i can't judge my sister because every thing happens for a reason and a problem that does not kill you saves you. Thank you Bella for opening our eyes i always learn from your talks. And for my sister sorry don't loose hope focus. Sebastian i can say he is possessed .

  • @laetitiamathe5779
    @laetitiamathe5779 Рік тому +1

    Oh m'y God🤦 that sad! Thanks again for these advices. A lot of redflags , she Didn't see😁

  • @angelamkandawire7612
    @angelamkandawire7612 Рік тому +1

    Sorry Rachel, it's real sad sometimes we do the stupidest things for Love, stay strong girl and restart your life strongly, never repeat the same mistakes, I wish you the best

  • @marykevin-zf5ww
    @marykevin-zf5ww 11 місяців тому

    Hi bella thanks for educative message

  • @florabrayson
    @florabrayson Рік тому +1

    Thanks Bella my home sis. I think this "red flags"it'll be our song ever Asante kwa kutupenda na tunakupenda mno🇹🇿🇹🇿

  • @The-African
    @The-African Рік тому +2

    Thank you sister Bella God may help Rachael 🙏

  • @lilianogola3635
    @lilianogola3635 Рік тому +1

    Thank you siz Bella for the story though it is sad but I have learned a lot from it, I feel sad for Rachael for what she had gone through but God will see her let me not judge her for ignoring the red flag but pray for her coz she is now going through difficulties

  • @nureenrahmaumat7151
    @nureenrahmaumat7151 Рік тому

    Lavu eno walai eziiba amaaso sorry for ccta Rachel i pray her next jny to b of joy and happiness thx ccta Bella for shining our eyes sometimes manipulation looks like love that's the truth i don't blame her but thank God she learnt her lesson.

  • @jessicatrnovec
    @jessicatrnovec Рік тому +2

    Wow Rachel really went through a lot on dating app 😳, red flags are really important not to ignore... some men are players, its important to take your time to find true love... this is a very encouraging video not to give up when looking for love ...

    • @angulaaagula5926
      @angulaaagula5926 Рік тому +2

      When you move to new countries like Australia what is integration associates with people with other Afrikans and christian church communities.
      Those failure and excellent learned from them!
      Is better to be strong for do than suffer of evils
      Lessoned learned

    • @africanbellatherealtalk
      @africanbellatherealtalk  Рік тому +1

      Yes don't allow a man to put you in hurry for marriage. Thank you dear ❤❤

  • @akuaquabena4466
    @akuaquabena4466 Рік тому +1

    Sorry dear Rachel and thanks for sharing your story

  • @lydianalukwago7668
    @lydianalukwago7668 Рік тому +1

    Blessings be upon Rachel's friend😍

  • @olivianangobi1746
    @olivianangobi1746 7 місяців тому

    Thanks so much dear sister.😢😢

  • @annmungai4753
    @annmungai4753 Рік тому +1

    True..shine your eyes gals especially on matters of finances

  • @mssanddi4155
    @mssanddi4155 Рік тому +3

    Oh Rachel, I hope she heals and picks herself up, so she can leave this past behind her. The Guy is definitely a scammer. I say this again, I hate grown men who always complain about money, it turns me off.
    Some oyinbos want to quickly live with us or marry us in disguise to make us work, in order to pay his debts, mortgages he might have before meeting you online or offline, Etc. Don’t just follow anyhow white older men, shine your eyes, be very selective with them, becos some are looking for “saviour” to come clear their outstanding debts in their countries.
    The first 🚩was when he got happy that he will be saving his money by staying in Rachel house during their first meeting instead of staying at a hotel. I’m like No No!!
    Sis let’s stop putting men from dating site that we barely know in our houses for the first time!! Not safe.

  • @Hlulizinyanga
    @Hlulizinyanga Рік тому +1

    Good advice for the young ladies looking for love

  • @OsvaldaAchichi
    @OsvaldaAchichi Рік тому +1

    Sad for Rachel indeed. Praying for her 🙏

  • @benedictaokogie845
    @benedictaokogie845 Рік тому +1

    Ciao Bella,
    Ur new montages are really cool!👌
    Like ur tops. 😊

    • @benedictaokogie845
      @benedictaokogie845 Рік тому +1

      Oh Bella, wat a story!.
      It's good 2 be watchful and mindful of who u date. So many red flags dat Rachel didn't take note of.
      Thank God she was able to leave . Such toxic relationship can destroy someone!
      (Omo, na run be dat o, Bella!!)
      Just a saying in my place....
      Can't be a fool 2 someone who doesn't like or respect u, not even once mother!
      Thank God, u were der 2 guide her, and her friend was der to help her.
      So, sad .
      Ladies shld really shine their 👀!
      Tnx gal.

    • @africanbellatherealtalk
      @africanbellatherealtalk  Рік тому

      Thank you cara🥰

    • @africanbellatherealtalk
      @africanbellatherealtalk  Рік тому

      Yes dear good she had to run 🏃‍♀️

  • @natukundadebbie100
    @natukundadebbie100 Рік тому +1

    Happy new year queen ❤️

  • @jessicatrnovec
    @jessicatrnovec Рік тому +2

    From the beginning the relationship was toxic.... red flags was showing .am happy they are not more together again.. its very important to be patient when looking for love

  • @charlottequeen2079
    @charlottequeen2079 4 місяці тому

    This is a true definition of someone being a burden to you, for sure some guys are merciless, how can he sleep for free and still takes advantage of our sister, we should learn how not to ignore red flags, thank you Bella, for the advice ww love you so much❤

  • @user-bv3et8ji3v
    @user-bv3et8ji3v Рік тому +1

    I love you bella,,, thanks for your advice

  • @MichilenDoll
    @MichilenDoll Рік тому

    Glad Rachel left Sebastian he was not good too many flags there thank you sis for another story

    • @africanbellatherealtalk
      @africanbellatherealtalk  Рік тому

      Yes sis so true he was not a good man too bad she did not see the redflags. Thank you sis🥰

  • @asia9548
    @asia9548 Рік тому +8

    Recho was not serious at all,no matter how desperate I am to find love I will never be manipulated by a man in the name of loveTinder is full of scammers

    • @africanbellatherealtalk
      @africanbellatherealtalk  Рік тому +1

      We need to learn from her mistakes not to ignore the redflags

    • @asia9548
      @asia9548 Рік тому +2

      @@africanbellatherealtalk With ur advice now I can tell all the redflags,in u we trust🙏

    • @africanbellatherealtalk
      @africanbellatherealtalk  Рік тому +1

      That makes me happy no man will ever play with you💃❤

  • @Barr.JoyO.
    @Barr.JoyO. Рік тому +4

    But this oyibos I thought don't use juju so I don't understand Rachel's story, she is over thirty and....well maybe she just didn't know......

  • @Rachelsstyle
    @Rachelsstyle Рік тому +4

    I dont think its a good idea,but that was sad for her to leave her job and go and leave with him and that dogs wahala too

  • @graceachandi2471
    @graceachandi2471 Рік тому +1

    Bella,I have tried to search for my saulmate but I have failed to get one.its one year now.

  • @dorothyotieno4608
    @dorothyotieno4608 Рік тому +1

    Wow! Of all this is a Real Eye Opener

  • @marywaithera6443
    @marywaithera6443 Рік тому +2

    Kumbe Wazungu wengine ni Shetani

  • @jessicatrnovec
    @jessicatrnovec Рік тому +3

    Wow she should have not done that , she made a very big mistake , that guy was a bad influence on her 😕

  • @mookolamweneni1899
    @mookolamweneni1899 Рік тому +2

    Such is what is happening here in Namibia. Ladies buy things for man, and move in with then without them being married. It's a trend and shocking. It's a very common practice.. and also be asking man to pay for their accommodation and so on which sometime work out and at times it doesn't. Bt nowadays its such a trend here that girls are the ones taking care of man. In deed a pity.

  • @longatsos
    @longatsos Рік тому +1

    Always smiley, inabidi

  • @simplycaren375
    @simplycaren375 Рік тому +1

    Nimejifunza vitu mob sana by your videos everything you say is very true

  • @rosaliandapandulamokahwa9839

    This quite educative

  • @anneluchera3896
    @anneluchera3896 Рік тому +4

    Sorry for her, I knew that man is a product of tinder before you said it.

  • @vailetheanyambilile9749
    @vailetheanyambilile9749 Рік тому +3

    Mungu wangu 😪😪

  • @junewangurunga7136
    @junewangurunga7136 6 місяців тому

    Lol Bella. If you know you know. The dogs part

  • @aishanaziwa9431
    @aishanaziwa9431 Рік тому +2

    It was not good adia to go and stay with the boyfriend for the first time, imagine she loose everything and ended up with nothing #so sorry dear #

  • @EfranceNagadya
    @EfranceNagadya Рік тому +3

    For girls try to shine up your eyes ohh my God how can a guy use u like that sorry Rachel try to collect up urself stand again look for way forward ohh my God I'm so Down after listening to this story 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔

  • @SusanTembo-rq1ek
    @SusanTembo-rq1ek Рік тому

    It's was not good but am happy she get to know men because u have to know

  • @angulaaagula5926
    @angulaaagula5926 Рік тому +4

    Rachel is foolishness
    The car is not hers the car as long is not finished to be payed should immediately return it to the company.
    How can trust a man who's is not married to
    You yets
    He was dating a criminals identify a thief's
    I would have called police officers that there is a stranger man who wants to sell a borrowed loan car from a company!!
    Never do that again
    Tell a man to marry you in first conversation

  • @charitynwaobum1960
    @charitynwaobum1960 Рік тому

    Waw oo this is interesting.

  • @betsyakoko6810
    @betsyakoko6810 Рік тому +2

    Felt for her but lesson learnt

  • @anitatumeka1466
    @anitatumeka1466 Рік тому +1

    Rachel girl you were so Naive,maybe she showed signs of desperacy. Hope she learnt her lesson

  • @SusanTembo-rq1ek
    @SusanTembo-rq1ek Рік тому

    To find love it's not easy sometimes but when God gives hehehe it's nice 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤

  • @Joyoscar777
    @Joyoscar777 Рік тому +1

    Sometimes red flags looks green too. Let's be eye opened.

  • @dictarchelsea
    @dictarchelsea Рік тому +1

    Whoaa whoaaa this is crazy,that guy is a scammer, sorry for her

  • @agie9328
    @agie9328 Рік тому +1

    Paying keen attention to red flags is the best, men can be evil
    Life can really disappoint, that's my most worry leaving my job to relocate and live with the man in his country what a risk🤔

  • @barbranyashega7113
    @barbranyashega7113 Рік тому +1

    Its just pipo think differntly but once a guy tells u to stop going to school or to wrk its a big red flag.seems like Rachel had a better life than the boyfriend.iam really sorry but i thank God you mananged to run away from him.i pray you get a job soon.and we need part 2 kkk when u get a job

  • @jjdorothy7866
    @jjdorothy7866 Рік тому +1

    Ohh my Bella am happy to see your smiles again 😊 ☺️ darling and am hoping to tell you something soon though am still not sure weather he's the one

  • @liliannekesa8643
    @liliannekesa8643 Рік тому +2

    No it wasn't right for her to move in with Sebastian aperson you have never met, Racheal showed desparacy over him lol

  • @Barr.JoyO.
    @Barr.JoyO. Рік тому +1

    I think she needs to get a lawyer to handle the car issue with him.Selah.

  • @mavischihera8506
    @mavischihera8506 Рік тому

    Too many Red flags,that was Hell on earth,sad what she went through..such a controlling bastard He was going to kill her

  • @africannabz4302
    @africannabz4302 Рік тому +2

    So sad.....fake men can pretend to be honest and real ones...sorry it's really bad..too loose açar in such way

  • @numbernon6779
    @numbernon6779 Рік тому +2

    In the name of 💕 yooo

  • @muhumuzasafinaphiona9315
    @muhumuzasafinaphiona9315 Рік тому +1

    May God help recheal to succeed in her life again because God never disappoints.if she trust's God and let him handle everything she will succeed again and she will find someone who will deserve her.

  • @puritykibaara7808
    @puritykibaara7808 Рік тому +1

    Am scared... 😥😥😥

  • @sarahdoosuur6226
    @sarahdoosuur6226 Рік тому +1

    This is so sad 😞

  • @dianangomamumbi7495
    @dianangomamumbi7495 Рік тому +2

    She was desperate. I feel bad for her.

  • @marywaithera6443
    @marywaithera6443 Рік тому +1

    Am done with dating app

  • @user-nv5cb3oe5n
    @user-nv5cb3oe5n Рік тому +2

    Hahahaha I have one but video calls he tells me that he is a soldier and he is on a mission 😂😂😂now I stopped chasing him 😂😂this guys there are not easy but we have to keep on searching

    • @itsinesantonio
      @itsinesantonio Рік тому +2

      Hahahahahaha 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @jjdorothy7866
      @jjdorothy7866 Рік тому +1

      Yeah no giving up sweetie, I've gotten one but am in Saudi Arabia &he's in London but we're just 6days but he's already talking about marriage I don't know weather is a red flag cz we haven't video called

    • @user-nv5cb3oe5n
      @user-nv5cb3oe5n Рік тому +2

      @@jjdorothy7866 tell him to video call you and am also in Saudi Arabia

    • @africanbellatherealtalk
      @africanbellatherealtalk  Рік тому +2

      That one is a player

    • @africanbellatherealtalk
      @africanbellatherealtalk  Рік тому +2

      Just be careful

  • @The-African
    @The-African Рік тому +2

    I think it was not good idea for Rachel

  • @mwakaliambela9677
    @mwakaliambela9677 Рік тому +1

    Rachel made a bad decision of leaving her job and selling her stuff,my sister's out there let's have patience and not being desperate to find love,I really feel bad for Rachel,she went through alot.Remember to put God first and shine your eyes, thanks sis Bella for this story.

  • @ndahambepraise1028
    @ndahambepraise1028 Рік тому +1

    Sorry for that my home girl, but Bella tells us to shine our eyes, red flag etc, and let's not be hurry on relationship or attached with white man or any man we meet online dating app.

  • @hopehope8201
    @hopehope8201 8 місяців тому

    That sabastian guy is so self centered ,manipulative and annoying. Recheal was so naive. Oh God

  • @RebeccaUdoh-qr5px
    @RebeccaUdoh-qr5px 4 місяці тому

    Hi

  • @Ugo292
    @Ugo292 Рік тому +2

    Rachel was really fast and foolish

  • @TheMillenialClub
    @TheMillenialClub Рік тому +1

    I haven't heard a good story about Spanish men.. 😎
    .

  • @betterjuliet6407
    @betterjuliet6407 Рік тому +1

    I pity her

  • @marblechingema2076
    @marblechingema2076 Рік тому +1

    It wasn't a good idea to follow him.

  • @Barr.JoyO.
    @Barr.JoyO. Рік тому +1

    😳😳😳

  • @ihruga
    @ihruga Рік тому +1

    Hmmmm lord 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

  • @opioivan6498
    @opioivan6498 Рік тому

    A big no

  • @SusanTembo-rq1ek
    @SusanTembo-rq1ek Рік тому

    🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🤔🤔🤔