Aupair vs. chinese hostparents. A survival guide

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  • Опубліковано 18 лис 2024

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  • @Zavantica
    @Zavantica 7 років тому

    Thanks, I've been having a tough time in China, so it's nice to hear someone else's opinion.

    • @meganburnett8736
      @meganburnett8736 6 років тому +1

      hello, i am becoming an au pair in china in summer this year, is it very hard/different? sad to here youre having a bad time, hope it gets better

    • @shweta_world765
      @shweta_world765 6 років тому +1

      Hello i'm going to China after one month. Hope i Have good time there.

    • @Chiara.Keller
      @Chiara.Keller  4 місяці тому

      I'm so sorry I missed your comment! I feel like everyone's experience can be, not just different, but also very differently perceived.
      Struggling when you do something like this I can it's really normal, but for me, I was left also with good memories and a HUGE learning experience.
      How did your AuPair experience go in the end? Do you have a good memory of it or none at all?

    • @Chiara.Keller
      @Chiara.Keller  4 місяці тому

      Hi! Sorry for missing your comment!
      I did have quite a hard time at times while I was in China, but I learned SO much from it and in the end it was good enough to convince me to give it another try 😬
      How did it go for you? Good times or hard times? 😅

    • @Chiara.Keller
      @Chiara.Keller  4 місяці тому

      Hey! Sorry about the missed comment!
      I feel like it's SO rear to find people wanting to be an AuPair in China because the cultural difference can be challenging (as you can see from my videos 😅).
      How did your experience go?

  • @daniellaradiaz1834
    @daniellaradiaz1834 8 років тому

    Hello Wonder!! haha, I real¡y love all your videos! I have seen each one and definitely they've help me a lot to get ready for my future experience as AuPair in China!
    I'm wondering about the Chinese classes, because, you know, one of the main motivations to go there (in addition to share with children) it's to learn about the culture and language for sure... So, are you taking Chinese clases? How's that going? I Would really like to know about some advices with the language, tell us abut food, social life, everything!
    Hugs wonder! Greetings from Colombia :)

    • @Chiara.Keller
      @Chiara.Keller  8 років тому

      Hi! a video about food is on my to-do list for sure! I couldn't take chinese classes because the agency offered them only if I stayed more then 6 month, while I'm staying only 5. But a friend of mine took them, and she really learned a lot! Chinese teachers are very strict and demanding though and surely it's tough, but she really learned so much so it's all worth the hard work!
      Happy that the videos are helping you!

  • @viaggeira
    @viaggeira 8 років тому

    Liked the quote at the end :-)
    Nice advices ! thank you Pan !
    Next week would be my Visa appointment
    I am nervous ....
    One question, is your visa 3 months valid or more time?

    • @Chiara.Keller
      @Chiara.Keller  8 років тому

      +Ani Viaggeira thanks! Visa's validation time depends on your own country's agreements with China, so it changes for every state. Mine was super short for example and I had to go to Hong Kong to renew it

  • @jalinalinnkreutschmann9067
    @jalinalinnkreutschmann9067 6 років тому

    May I ask you which agency you went to China with? I also had the problem that the agency didn't really care about my problems in the host family and I've heard a lot like that from chinese agencys.

    • @Chiara.Keller
      @Chiara.Keller  6 років тому

      I went with ASC Aupair study in China. I understand what you mean, it depends a lot on a cultural difference and the way Chinese consider aupairing, sometimes more like a job then an exchange program. Don't feel down, some agencies are now more used to the worldwide concept of aupairing and consider more the aupair problems. The one I went with is probably going in this direction, although keep in mind that there will always be a difference dependent on cultural differences. Hope it helps and enjoy China!

  • @jaungreef7052
    @jaungreef7052 7 років тому

    Hi Pan, is there any communication barriers with you and the au pair child. Since their mother tongue isn’t English? Also how do you keep the child active, in the child’s free time ?

    • @Chiara.Keller
      @Chiara.Keller  7 років тому +1

      Just Jaun hi!
      Well first of all my kid went to a bilingual school and had been studying English for a while, therefore could understand quite a bit.
      Lenguage barriers all depend on the child knowledge of the lenguage their parents want them to learn.
      If you have some issues with communication with the kid I would suggest to start from very basic communication. Few words, speak slowly and do try to translate when you need to explain something in both lenguages. By learning the kid's lenguage as well you will emprove the communication between you two on a deeper level, making it easier on long term. The kid will appriciate the fact that you're learning as well and it will also be a good example.
      As for how to entertain the kid I think you could speak with the parents about it. They might like for you to teach the kid something you know like playing an instrument, drawing, play a sport or something similar.
      If they don't have anything in particular in mind lucky you! Just do what you think the kid would like. With time you'll come to know the kid and what they like, try new things with them, make the kid play, ask about what they like and just go with the flow. You might not get it at the first try but persever and you'll see results.
      It's a kid, all they want is to play, if they can :)
      I hope it was of some help. I'm no expert at all, all I can share is what I would do and tried to do.
      Hopefully it will be of some help :)

  • @luismartinez-ue4fv
    @luismartinez-ue4fv 6 років тому

    thanks for the video!!! really helpful. don't know if someone already ask you this but, I'm asking anyway hahahahha.
    after you end up your year as Au Pair were you able to speak fluent chinese ? how long did it take you ?

    • @Chiara.Keller
      @Chiara.Keller  6 років тому

      luis martinez unfortunately as I've stayed in China only 5 months my aupair agency didn't offer mandarin classes. With that and having to speak only English with the kid and not much free time, I haven't learned mandarin. It is defenetly my biggest regret and I strongly suggest to take classes if you can.
      With that said, my friend stayed a year and took mandarin classes. She was pretty fluent with it at the end, as in she could have a full conversation with a native speaker. It all depends on your lenguage learning skills and on practice, so it comes to you😉

    • @luismartinez-ue4fv
      @luismartinez-ue4fv 6 років тому

      woow thanks a lot for your answer !!! now I'm a new subscriber waiting for more videos :) !!!!

  • @arianearon981
    @arianearon981 6 років тому

    Btw, what age have your kids? I'm having problem about the 2 years old guy because the mother wants that I read books to him but he don't stop quiet... :/

    • @Chiara.Keller
      @Chiara.Keller  6 років тому

      I had a 5 years old with special needs and there the real problem was the mom. Then I had a 9 years old, very spoiled, so different kinds of problems. I think every aupair experience with the kids will come with some kind of difficulties, that's part of the deal and an important one as well. Both parties will learn from each other.
      As for your case, it might be helpful trying to understand why the toodler won't be able to listen at some point. Did he just watch TV or recently had some food or snack? That could keep his energy levels high and make it hard for him to relax as he's got sugars in his body and TV stimulates your brain to be active. You could try to pick a time to read further from this times, or avoid having the kid eat sugary snacks right before. If it's just a matter of the kid's usual behavior, you'll have to work with that step by step, channeling his energy in more active activities at other times of the day. That could help making him more calm in other moments and read to him at that time.
      I'm really no expert, so I'm simply sharing my own experience through dealing with similar issues, but I still hope it helps😉

  • @LennyMali
    @LennyMali 5 років тому

    What :D Fruit is not expensive in CHINA :D I am an au pair now myself, vlogging and struggling with getting the things I want to eat. Also, I am refusing to eat bones and other weird things. Just will not do that :D

    • @Chiara.Keller
      @Chiara.Keller  5 років тому

      Ahah! I KNOW the feeling! Duck brain was my turning point. I had it and it was ok, but I can understand some things are not easy to try, especially in the beginning. No need to push oneself excessively. Trying new things it's good, but it shouldn't be a chore

    • @LennyMali
      @LennyMali 5 років тому

      Duck brain 😆🙈 WTF

    • @Chiara.Keller
      @Chiara.Keller  5 років тому

      @@LennyMali I still live 😆

  • @moli603
    @moli603 7 років тому

    Hi,Are you still in China as Au Pair and which agency you applied for?

    • @Chiara.Keller
      @Chiara.Keller  7 років тому

      Mo li I'm not in China anymore. I applied to ASC Aupair Study in China; they were the ones to contact me through a aupair website. Hope it helps! :)

    • @moli603
      @moli603 7 років тому

      Hi Pan, Thank you so much! It helps :)
      How do you first notice this Au Pair program? Why do you want to go to China as Au Pair, and how do you like the time in China? Is everything works as you planed through the whole year in China? Do you know any of your friends show their interest in this program too? Does this program help you in any sense after you back to your own country?
      I'm sorry I'm asking so many question. It's very interesting to see these kind of videos, which actually not a lot. I assume there are not many foreign Au Pair in China. So I would like to know more detail as reference.
      Thank you very much!:)

    • @Chiara.Keller
      @Chiara.Keller  7 років тому

      Sure no problem!
      They contacted me while I was on a aupair website and asked me to come to China.
      Of course there were ups and downs, like for every aupair experience I think, both with the agency and the family. But in the end everything would work out and I had an amazing time over there!
      Learned so much in my time, from everyone and everything.
      I came to love China and I'll always keep it in heart and advice others that want to go but are not sure to go, go, go!
      You'll just love it in the end.
      From the food, to the things I learned from the culture and the family. I took everything and it has become a part of what I am. The memories I've made over there are something I'll always cherish :)

    • @moli603
      @moli603 7 років тому

      Thanks a lot. That's great information!

    • @enzazeze
      @enzazeze 6 років тому

      Do you have a link address to give me, please? Cause i googled the name but there were a lot of wrong results. Thank you

  • @abadartist1029
    @abadartist1029 7 років тому

    Hi Pan!!! I'm in the process of becoming an au pair in China, and I wanted to know if you learned how to speak Mandarin?

    • @Chiara.Keller
      @Chiara.Keller  7 років тому

      Hi! Unfortunatly not! My agency offered mandarin classes only if you stayed more then 6 months and I only stayed 5. I really wish i did though, so if you're considering it I absolutly advice you to do so!

    • @wandering_unicorn9223
      @wandering_unicorn9223 7 років тому

      Which program/company did you go with? I want to start the process but I’m nervous, don’t want to end up in a bad place.

    • @Chiara.Keller
      @Chiara.Keller  7 років тому

      Ibegz2differ I see you're worries and they're totally natural. I went with ASC aupair study in China and it was good. Keep in mind you might meet communication barriers since Chinese people can be very direct and might come off as rude if you're not use to it. You will though. Promise.
      I know there are others but as a haven't had any experience with them I can't really give you an opinion.
      ASC works in Shanghai and Nanjing.

  • @luisinacasirola
    @luisinacasirola 7 років тому

    Do hostparents speak english or do you comunicate with them in english?

    • @Chiara.Keller
      @Chiara.Keller  7 років тому

      Luisina Casirola one of them spoke english, the other just a little. Usually at least one of them would

    • @luisinacasirola
      @luisinacasirola 7 років тому

      Pan which company did you sing up with? what level of english was required? did you pay for the flight?

    • @Chiara.Keller
      @Chiara.Keller  7 років тому +1

      Luisina Casirola My agency was ASC aupair study in China. There wasn't a specific english level required, they would make a valuation by speaking with you through skype.
      I did pay for my round trip ticket but the way back was refunded by the agency at the end of my program.

  • @arianearon981
    @arianearon981 6 років тому

    My life in China is 100% like yours hahaha

    • @Chiara.Keller
      @Chiara.Keller  4 місяці тому

      🙈 I feel like I hear that quite a lot 😅