Their crazy logic is to blame him, rightfully so, and the wife. instead of feeling accountable for their own poor choice and actions, they scapegoat it as, her problem his choice.
How ironic would it be if the lady who's teaching people how to be a mistress ends up being dumped by her now husband due to a mistress taking her class.
The odds are, she will be, even if she is beautiful this man is only interested in the moment. He has her and will continue to look for better, and their is always better. Plus, these types of men grow used to you and bored of you.
Being the 'other women' is for the benefit of men and continuing patriarchy. It forces women to compete with other women for a man, it also puts the burden of the affair on the woman, because it is i'f she was giving her husband what he wanted he wouldn't be going elsewhere'.
That might seem like the case with wives with low self esteem, but the woman who knows her worth and loves herself will never carry the burden of an affair and will just leave him, because she knows that it was her partner with the real problem.
There's people that do this to a wombman even if a man commits pedophilia saying stupid garbage like: .. well were you doing your wifely duty? How these insane people immediately blame wombmen for male monsters behavior and pity an support them is beyond me. It's insanity.
I totally agree. When men can have their cake and eat it too, there’s no incentive for them to be better people for their wives. Every pot is supposed to have a lid and if a pot can have multiple lids, then what’s the point in being faithful to one?
I remember working with an elderly woman who told us girls in the office about her side chick chronicles. She was a side chick for years, missed some of her best years and when the male was old and died she complained about him not leaving her nothing in his will. I was side eyeing her but I’m telling you, I’m not being no side chick. It’s not worth it.
Girl, this one. I used to tell my cousin, leave other women husband's alone. Correct, she is now late 40s and no man of her own. They never build themselves or their own relationship so they end up in emotional bankruptcy.
My ex husband had a female friend who bragged about sleeping with someone who was in a relationship talking crap about how they messed around in the baby mommas car. I think it’s their insecurities but still. People suck
People swear up and down that cheating only affects the couple, but this explains how it affects the children! You cheat on your WHOLE family and it affects everyone. She’ll be on Reddit in 5 years crying, complaining about how her step children don’t want anything to do with HER children. I’ve read it time and time again. Kids suffer from their parent’s wrongdoings. And that’s written in the Bible! They will suffer because of the adults actions.
My mum was always the mistress in her “relationships” and it was so incredibly frustrating! As a teen I had to always comfort her whenever they had to go back to their wives. It never sunk in when I would tell her over and again to STOP seeing married men because they’re just using you for a good time, that’s it. It really does affect the kids… not just the kids in the family that’s being wrecked, the kids of the mistresses have to be a therapist and watch it all blow up
That’s why mistresses should never attach emotionally. She should have used him just like he used her or at best she should have stopped seeing him, if she wasn’t able to.
@@mabel9701 She had low self esteem stemming from childhood SA… any attention that came her way validated her existence (if that makes sense?) I’m not excusing her behaviour at all but she was always way too emotionally attached to these dropkicks. She actually thought they’d have a future together 🤦🏼♀️
Bashing bashing women all the time.Even the man is so broken for him to mess around. And at the end of day,you marry wrong, both will not be happy. So better leave each other.Most men cannot see how broken they are btw.
The fact that when people ask her if she feels bad for the family she broke up, she replies that they are fine financially... the ex-wife has houses and alimony, the kids are grown. She only thinks that a relationship is about money. I call bs on her saying she loves the man she had an affair with. He is nothing more then a piggy bank that she felt the ex-wife took enough from and now its her turn to take the piggy bank. She probably won't even feel any real emotions when she is kicked to the curb for the next mistress except to be sad her piggy bank was taken from her.
She did not break up that family, the husband did. If it wouldn't be her he'd cheat with someone else and the marriage is already a sham. I DO agree you shouldn't be a side piece, but mistresses don't "break up" anything, can't break anything that is already bust
@annnee6818 A getaway driver doesnt actually rob or kill but they still get sent to jail for helping rob and kill. Pluss you never know what you open yourself up to when you decide to be a mans personal prostitute. My sister blinded my fathers mistress.
She's trashy af. She doesn't care about other people. She and her husband are gross. You know when he needs a nurse maid, he's going to whine and beg that his kids don't come around and say his first wife turned them against him, blahblahblah, and the side piece turned wife isn't going to stick around to care for a man twice her age. She'll find someone else to leach off of. On an unrelated note, I love your pfp. FF14 is one of my favorite games. ❤
@@annnee6818No she did break up that family. She will be held accountable for that. There’s a difference when a man lies to a woman about being married and when a woman knows a man is married and continues to contribute to the destruction of a family. If a man wants to end his marriage that’s on him but when a mistress contributes to it they are guilty too.
Most of the side women justify their actions with " I'm not the one who made the vows" but you know! and you willingly put another woman through that pain and anguish for what? A Gucci bag? A trip to Bali? Rent? Something you can completely do yourself if you work hard enough. My gran once said "Suffering is a coat we all keep taking turns wearing, so be careful how you treat others because when it's finally your turn, the tears you caused will make a coat that should have been light heavier than a blanket." Karma always comes back to bite! There are no exceptions. My great-aunt was the SW and finally managed to kick the wife away to be the main wife and 2 years ago, after 35 years of marriage my great uncle did the exact same thing to her! kicked her out for a woman half their age, apparently they even have a 15 year old. It was a giant fair as he threw her clothes out the gate, cursing her out while the 'new other woman' watched on. It was heartbreaking, It's been 30+ years, I'm sure by then she probably forgot she once did this to someone else.
I always say a cheater isn't worth ish because he shows his true character and a side chick isn't worth ish either Both are toxic with low morals and low empathy and self centered. They can never actually make each other happy, they will always want a good person, who is self less and loving.
This year, I ended a 4 year relationship after finding out about his infidelity & the crazy part about it, every woman he cheated on me with, knew he was in a relationship & didn’t care. Quite sad that some women have this mentality, which the women isn’t to fault, the partner should just leave instead of damaging a person beyond repair. Cheating is so selfish
Knew a woman who loved being a home wrecker. I couldn’t stand her but she was so brazen about it and acted like her faults for pursuing married men was a funny quirk. She was the biggest pick-me I’ve ever met and she relished the feeling of being “chosen” over the wife. None of it ever lasted, as far as I heard.
It is the other women’s fault if she knew and did it anyway. Making a conscious choice to contribute to the hurt of another woman for her own self gain or pleasure is disgusting and vile. They’re guilty too. Cheaters are cheaters they don’t get a free pass.
But if you were the wife and another woman was the side chick, you wouldn’t be promoting side chick energy in the manner you are now, now your fellow side chicks will be your enemies 😊
If only all the side chicks could link up together and start their own village. They get to bring their man of choice to tag along with them. Unfortunately, they'd probably be too paranoid because they'd know that ALL of the women there would have no self-respect and would have ZERO problem with sleeping with their "man." 😂😂
I agree that mistresses don't break up marriages, cheating husbands do, and if it wasn't her he'd cheat with someone else, but I still feel resentment to people who knowingly become the side piece. Why? Because they're enabling scumbags
I am into loyalty. So I don't respect mistresses of whatever gender. The cheater is 100% wrong and should just break up or tell their partner they are opening the relationship. But if you are aware you are a "mistress" you are a component to the cheater and in turn part of that relationship of 3 people.
@@melaninmoxiellc963 Some people surprisingly do have open relationships. The poster is right, anyone knowingly cheating whether it’s the mistress or spouse is in the wrong. Everyone is accountable for the choices they make.
The worst part is if hes even cheating, he wasn't good enough for either of them. The sidechick is being played and the wife is at risk healthwise and made to look like a fool😓
My mother was the other woman. She took pride in being with my father. He unsurprisingly was emotional unavailable to myself and “my family” hated me and my sister. They made sure to treat us less than because we were products of his infidelity. I choose not to talk to my mother because all my life she choose men over me and my sibling. Emotionally unavailable, abusive, and already in relationships are some of the things I would describe these dudes. Now as an adult I don’t know how to attach myself to other people nor how to have relationships. Let this be a cautionary tale for anyone who thinks it’s okay to be with someone who is already married or even worse chooses to have a child with someone who is already in a relationship.
I had an emotional affair with a married man. I just got out of a very abusive relationship 14yrs ago and this guy was a coworker. we commisserated about our relationships (his wife cheated and would throw stuff at him). we got close. im so glad we didnt get physical but it was still too far. Even his dad and siblings wanted me to be there instead of the wife O.o oh and that awful relationship he was in? yea he got her pregnant so he stayed. i didnt hear from that guy till this year. he apologized for going for me when i was so vulnerable. He stayed in the abuse for another 6 yrs, divorced her, and started fighting for custody. didnt get custody till this year. just wild. im glad hes okay, but never again. no married people for me. stay away. (oh and hes remarried, he said Id like to befriends but it cant be how it was. and I said I would NEVER go anywhere or do anything down that road with you again homie")
So, he had a wife. Then, remarried someone ELSE. But, still reaching for you. Like, you see it, right? He chose someone else twice. I'm glad you chose to stay away. ❤🎉
I've NEVER understood the "I don't owe her anything" mentality. That's anti-woman. How can women act like they care about women so much, but when you put a man in the mix, you become selfish? There's no logic to that outside of selfishness and hypocrisy, because if they were in a committed relationship and were cheated on, they'd feel bad and want people to care. I can't believe how many people salute this mentality. I always suspect they're cheaters when they do.
People with avoidant attachment styles a emotionally unavailable people benefit from these relationship dynamics because they get the companionship they want without the vulnerability. They get the "best" aspects of the man because the wife is the scapegoat for all of the traditional bullshit that comes from the disparity of heterosexual relationships. Also it doesn't matter if a woman chases after taken men. It's still the man who made the commitment of being monogamous. These men that want multiple women can simply choose to be in open relationships, but they don't because they get off on cheating. Women significantly ignore that these men cheat because they want to.
Yep I had a friend who intentionally went after wealthy married men for several reasons.... 1. because he was always happy to see her, make her happy when they were together and buy her things so that she would stay happy when he had to go back to his WIFE ! 2. because she was always the preferred and the favorite. 3. because she actually did not want to have that much of a commitment or owe him that much of her time and energy! and so she could always just blame it on the family or his wife, when she didn't want to hang out with him and rather go do something else.... 4. And this is a big one .... If or when he does try to end it, she can blackmail him for MORE money and then she doesn't even have to pretend to want him!
Mistresses don't break up families, the unfaithful husband does. If it wasn't her It would be another woman. Let Me say this, its easy to become a mistress. You have to have a strong moral code because more than once I have been pursued by men who were acting single but I found out after we talked and got together a few times that they were married. Imagine a woman being manipulated and being intimate and getting emotionally involved then finding out later hes married. It will be harder to walk away BUT YOU MUST. Some women dont have or use their self worth or strength to walk away when they find out. Also, while the mistress is alone on holidays the wife is alone when hes with the mistress so neither are winning. As a woman, women should honor other women by doing towards them what they want for themselves. If all women honored other women that way then men wouldn't have anyone to cheat with. Yet because women either are manipulated into messing with or some willingly mess with married men, cheating men will always have supply. Thats also why they pursue younger women, because they can be more easily manipulated. If that man didn't cheat with that woman, he would have found another.
I don’t really fault the other women who didn’t know the man was involved already. That isn’t their fault. The ones I do have issues with, are the ones who know he’s involved already or married and still pursues him in order to “win” him from his girlfriend/wife.
I had a date with a man who pretended being single. I know before I knew with my intuition… I said no second date and than he told me he has a gf and is unhappy. Todo se paga en la vida. The sadest part is he didn’t felt bad about it at all wasting the time of his gf or me as a single. Anyway I told him will you ever contact me again I will tell your gf. What happened? He tried to call me 2 months later, what have I done? Told his gf 🤷🏻♀️ she was in shock 🤦🏻♀️ I am like I would smell immediately if I would live with someone and they would cheat.
Totally agree, I hate that "Even if it wasn't me it'd be someone else" excuse because that's also another excuse side chicks use to justify hurting the wife. Afterall honey, it is you. He's going to get his but so are you. Because one day you'll find "the one" all happy and pregnant, life together and ISH; some 20sum year old is going to do the exact same thing to you. Only then will she realise how ridiculous that statement is. It's one thing for men to hurt women, it ain't nothing new and women are learning to expect better but I really can't accept when women hurt each other for a man who's not even worthy of either of them.
When you are getting to know someone it’s important to see where they live. Daytime, night time. If a man has a “business hours” for you and you can only contact or see him during those hours, he’s probably got somebody already. Don’t allow yourself to become emotionally attached to someone who keeps you at arms length or has weird rules and excuses about his availability. If you suspect he’s married, he probably is and unless he’s willing to go out of his way to prove otherwise, just block and delete.
The problem with your statement is that even if women honored each other with a girl code, your man still WANTS to cheat on you. If given the opportunity, he would. He has no loyalty or love towards you; it's just that he can't cheat because he can't find a woman to cheat with. You are not enough for him. Does that not bother y'all at all?
Ive been the other woman without knowing. I told myself never to accept something like things but it happened. After I found out I kept the relationship going for payback and financial benefits. At first a felt bad about it but as long as you keep telling yourself lies you will close your eyes. I compared myself with the other woman. The only reason I left the situation is because I couldn’t handle the lonely feeling anymore. So not because of him or his family but of my own ego. The ego is a toxic thing if it’s not manage right. But I do feel that woman have to make platforms to prevent this type of behavior because being a side chick is not good for your mental health.
My kids father cheated he was 28 and I was 20 we had three children together 4 year old, 1 year and 9 month old and when it all came out he left us and moved in with her and her son. It destroyed me for a long time! He was very abusive so when it all came out I was actually happy because she took my headache, but once everything calmed down the trauma of it all set in it took about 3 years to heal from it. She was an 27 or 28 and she made messing with my family & kids a game for her to "win", now I know her self esteem was low she HAD to try to make other women feel terrible to make herself feel good. (She was known in the area for messing with families like this) that was the thing that messed with me the most to be honest! How another women could intentionally set out to mess with families and children, absolutely disgusting! I've healed from it though, I now am in a healthy relationship and engaged to an amazing man who treats my children like his own and we all adore him. She is still messed up, I catch her looking at my Instagram stories time to time and it just makes me laugh. I am happier than I've ever been and she is still miserable and seeking self esteem. Edit: I do hold him accountable not just her (Check the comments) I just feel the video is about proud side chicks, not the cheating ass men, hence why this is mainly about her.
I noticed in all your writing that you never once held your man accountable for cheating on you and hurting your family. It was all about HER. Interesting. 🤔
My dad was married and my mom the babysitter was having an affair with my dad in his first marriage. My older half sister told me this. My dad left his first wife and married my mom. My mom eventually cheated on my dad which was an abusive alcoholic. What a mess🤦♀️
I won't even date a guy who ended a relationship less than 4-6 months ago! That's too soon! There's still too many lingering feelings and issues that have NOTHING to do with me, that I'm not trying to deal with PERIOD! I don't understand people who begin a relationship with someone who is STILL in a relationship!!!🙄 That's no friggin way!
8:44 If your affair partner is with you instead of their kids for their special occasions, that person is sht. But the OP was rewarded when the cheaters wife got divorced and she got him to herself. Good for the wife getting all she got. But OP just was a trash human. And the cheater is just married to an official homewrecker.
I remember my brothee cheated on this woman. She rols me he'd slept with her, got up and got dressed, told her he was with someone else and left. I told him he was an ass, and he was gone answer for that. In fact the woman he cheated with was with his lady's nephew! So my brother left the woman for her nephew's girl. She had always had a crush on my brother and was desperate for him. Welp...my brother cheated on ol girl too. I was in the mall and she came in the dressing room trying to talk to me about my brother and how heartbroken she was. I opened the dressing room door, looked at her and asked hiw she thought his woman felt. Told she couldn't see past what she wanted to what was right. I told her you got done the same way you did the other woman, thats your karma. You had it coming. If he did her that way, what makes you so special?
I didn't find out I was the child of the other woman until the sperm donor died and three other children had laid claim to his social security benefits. Turns out the fool was MARRIED with three kids WHILE getting my biological mother pregnant THREE times. Which is why I never want to be in a relationship, never wanted kids, and never wanted to be married. Who's got time for all that drama?!
Need a larger discussion about women staying with men that offer to divorce their wife once the woman finds out he's married. Did that in my 20's, and found out in the worst ways that men that leave their wife for you aren't good people. I have a new dating rule; if he cheats, I yeets. Though, currently not dating nor intending to. Focusing on my goals. Equal power dynamics are nice!
Whoever is in a relationship and has an affair is always to blame. So the married man is always at fault. However we cannot deny that there are women who love knowing they are the other woman, they specifically choose married men or men in relationships. They like knowing that they are having an affair under the wife's nose (sometimes in the marital bed). Also sometimes the other woman isn't someone that wife doesn't know. It could be a friend, sister, sister in-law etc. The other woman may not be the one who has a duty to the wife but what you are doing is horrible. There are women who have harmed and/or murdered their lover's wives because they got tired of waiting. Personally I could never do that to someone because it is just wrong, I would never want to be put in that situation. Also karma can be real, there are women who went from other woman, to wife only for their man to do the same thing. Also the fact that a man is willing to cheat, should let you know what type of wicked man he is. You should never be with a man who is horrible to any women. That is a red flag and part of misogyny.
They are both to blame. Him 100% more definitely but I think we’ve started this narrative that it’s only the husband and that’s why these “other women” are not held accountable and think it’s cute to come on TikTok and tell everyone this
@jnyree5178 Not every "other woman" knows that she is one and is not to blame if they did not know until you caught them together and informed her. There are some really stealth cheaters in the game (like military servicemen - ask me how I know!), and while it's tempting to the ego to want to place blame on the affair partner for the betrayal and unhappiness you feel it's not always right because some do not even know he's married or in a relationship. But I've they find out, and continue to engage, they're no longer fellow victims, they're complicit volunteers.
Do not fall for this trap. If he's married and he's flirting run. If he's got a SO and he's flirting with you anyway run. If they can't be faithful to their present SO why would they be faithful to you? Men like these are never satisfied with what they already got.
Here’s what I don’t understand: why do side chicks get so mad and act so hurt when someone cheats on them? I mean they’re always saying “if the wife did xyz he wouldn’t cheat” but when they get cheated on and you say the same thing they get BIG MAD. I never thought I’d say this but I think willing side chicks and Red Pill men are perfect for each other, and it saves decent people the heartache of getting involved with gutter trash since the gutter trash is dating one another.
I don’t have the heart to do this. Also it’s truly bad juju. Even as a wife myself, I understand how women can end up a mistress many different ways and I even empathize to an extent. I wouldn’t advise it if you ever had to be hidden or sneak around. It speaks to the character of who you’re dealing with. And if you’re being honest with yourself, it speaks to your character as well.
I’ve always pondered about the thought process of women willingly being side pieces. I still do because when I found out the man I was seeing was married with children-after months of emotionally connecting with him-it hurt me. I had to go back into therapy to deal with the anger and confusion. I couldn’t continue dating a married man knowing that he would never choose me 11 times out of 10. It’s too much.
6:30 At the end of the day whether there are women like her intentionally going out and trying to pursue married men, the point is the same: they only get as far as the married man let’s them get. Nothing keeps a man except a man that wants to be kept. If a man is committed, it doesn’t matter what any woman does, he will reject her and remain committed. Can we PLEASE stop treating men like they lack the ability to be strong minded? Society just teaches them since they are young (backed by too many women) that they don’t need to be because they are “just being men,” so they spend their lives believing that if tempted enough (which in most men’s cases is simply having a woman look at them), they have a right to participate because “we all know men lack self-control.” Bull. We don’t require it of them and blaming “vulture women” is another symptom of that. If I were married and my husband cheated, I am blaming HIM and only him. Yeah, the woman may have been wrong for being a part of the deception, but there would have been no deception if MY HUSBAND didn’t allow it. Once again, they only get as far as the man lets them get. Period.
She does feel shame because she said when her mom would ask she'd skirt around the question so she had someone that wouldn't support her delulu behavior. Other side of this is if she would have just played her part she'd still be taken care of as opposed to having to "work" now he's lost money because you wanted to be the wife that's likely to get cheated on😂
The fact of the matter is being the other women means he doesn't really care about you. When push comes to shove they will leave. Its really dumb to get involved with a man who is not single. Also a man who is not loyal to his wife is also scum.
As someone who's family has broken up this way I can't fathom cheating or aiding in cheating. Its disrespectful to the family and to yourself knowing you can do better!
SMH it’s like you’re either the “main” ( the one getting cheated on and having life ties to someone who’s mentally checked out of the relationship) or a side piece when it comes to these men. Relationships are so pointless
I never realised I was actually the side piece for a man I was with for 7 yrs & I was shocked when he mentioned this to me that he was technically cheating on another woman with me!!!….I was mortified but never left him immediately which was my regret!! Should have left long after the revelation!!😢😢😢
Women will always blame other women! Instead of shaming the guy all we talk about is how she won't benefit from the relationship and how immoral her choices are. Man a cruel!
@@Childfree334 continues holding man accountable, most women are desperate and will do anything and everything to defend a man that's abusing and misusing them.
People who cheat with married men in hopes of being the new wife are wild, most men aren’t gonna leave their wife, especially if they have young kids, because they don’t want to break up the family, and don’t want to lose the cars or houses they might have bought during the marriage, the only logical reason to be the other woman to a married man, is to get the bag and that’s it, if you’re doing that for any other reason than you’re out of your mind, if you’re not going into it business only money working girl mindset, than you’re just wasting your time, because he’s not gonna leave her.
I could never knowingly be in a relationship with a married man, especially if he has children. I’ll always remember how devastated I was when my 12-year-old self realized that my father was cheating on my mother, and I would never want to be the cause of that pain for another family. My parents have been together for over 30 years. My dad is a narcissist, though I didn’t realize this until I was in my late teens, and my mom passively accepts his behavior even though she openly admits that it’s not right. She still defends him, which is one of the many reasons why we don’t have a strong relationship, but I hope she wakes up and finally decides to move on with her life. He doesn’t support her financially or emotionally. He even made her close down her successful business just so he could start his, which he ended up closing down as well. Now he’s been sitting in Africa for the past several months and has the audacity to ask her to send him money. 🤦🏽♀️
Those who know that the guy is married and continue to be in a mistress deserve scorn and the husband deserve to lose everything and not the stuff, but respect and live with the guilt.😡
7:09 Not just the affair partner, but whatever love children/outside children miss out on the holidays too. I think I might understand the conflicted feelings one would have when they find out the person they're seeing was married the entire time, after catching feelings and all. But it has to end once you find out. Just the fact a married person deceives you by portraying themselves as single. A deception to get with you is already the first disrespect, why put up with more. Millionaire or not. Ignore that entitled homewrecker, about her "it's my turn now", I really hope it's her turn now.
I don't understand how she posted a video like that without thinking it was embarrassing. How do you loudly proclaim to the world that you were the other woman and still hold your head up high? And than apparently married him? Like, congratulations, you're married to a man you know doesn't care about commitment. Just be honest and say you married him for his money, stop with that ‘we’re in love’ bs. There's a reason he didn't seek to divorce his wife and chose to get a little extra on the side. He didn't want to leave her. He's with the AP because his wife left him and he needed someone to fill her shoes. APs are for entertainment, wives are for the house. Since he needed both to feel content, his new wife has big shoes to fill. You gotta be the wife he expects you to be, entertain him, and hype him up. You honestly can't brag about bagging a man like that unless he has money.
The thing I don’t get is why people always say “what about the wife and kids?” (Sadistic, sociopathic mistresses aside) is she really the one that should be worried about that? I’d say any woman who willingly puts herself in that position has huge issues with self-worth and validation. And should focus on fixing that first. But place the blame where it belongs. A home can’t wrecked without someone getting the door.
@@Childfree334 Fr. If mistresses said no, cheating still wouldn’t stop. Cheaters would just adapt. They would get even better at manipulation and hiding the fact that they’re taken. Some take their ring off and get a whole separate apartment just to seem single. I went down a rabbit hole on the cheating subreddit. The things I read made my stomach turn. If someone has a history of cheating, I don’t want them. Period. It’s no one’s fault but their own
Everybody wants to fault the "other woman" they should fault the "cheating husband!!" Basically the other woman doesn't owe anything to the main woman!! Unless they were friends!! The husband should be the one that's dealt with!! The husband is the one with the issues! If he wants to cheat. Then maybe he shouldn't be married 😑
4:13 money will never replace the man that you thought loved you and that you loved like "ohhhh she has thousands alimony" she didn't want alimony she wanted her husband to love her !!!! What???
Apart from money there's really no reason as a single woman to deal with married men. We cant stop people from doing what they want, so proceed with caution. Wife or mistress, these men don't see a difference.
My mom insisted on being a miatress. I was a born to her 15 year relationship and became an instant therapist. I remember when she developed a drug problem to cope and spiraled. Almost lost her job due to it. Meanwhile, my dad and his wife laughed at my mom. I'll never forgive my mom for forcing me to deal with her lack of self control.
Thank goodness I've never knowingly been the side chick. Side chicks serve a purpose and that purpose varies. She's not cheating he is. Being side chick can also be lucrative financially with less labor ie cooking cleaning nursing. We all experience karma so yeah, it is what it is.
Now that we concluded that men do not even like the woman does it matter if you are his wife or not? You just have to learn to embrace your position if you have decided to take that route and accept what comes with it. Take what you can get out of it and live your life. The mistresses don't have to put up with the emotional load of having him full time and all the house work, given that, you can't complain about being the one getting the days after holidays.
Being the side chick can let you know what a man is like in a relationship without actually having to commit to him. Let's keep it real, blk women are man sharing anyway when we only date blk men. Look at the women around you, what is their love life looking like?
Every married man who's ever proposed to me I've always asked them what makes me look like a fool to them. You'll be in the hospital and I can't visit you, sit at home and worry. I have to explain to your kids why you're never around for Christmas and why you're not at their end of year shows because someone from your real life might recognize you. No thanks. I credit the Oprah show for this. She had some mistresses on the show and they all said: men never leave their wives. If they're going to leave let them do it, let them get sorted out before starting something new.
Oh to add another comment. One of the ladies said, by the other woman being the side peice. That she's actually making their marriage stronger! Then why complain about it. 80/20 rule. That side chick is fulfilling 20% of what your husband is lacking from u. BUT wouldn't u rather be the one that's fulfilling the whole 100% as the wife? Instead of your husband going outside the marriage! If side-chicks didn't exist. I bet the divorce rates would be even higher! No I don't condon cheating! I'm just thinking logically 🤔
The only women I can understand taking up a married man is the sex workers - that's just their job, a client. Others? Actively sabotaging someone's family? If you find out man is trash, you tell his wife. She might not be happy, she might not react politely but she deserves to know and have opportunity to make informed choices.
I hear yall, but this seems like another instance of blaming women for males decisions. This woman did not make a vow to anybody. Wasting anger on her is silly. In my opinion... And I'm someone who was cheated on by my husband.
She made the video so she would be held accountable in this part. She will be addressed. Yes the man would face his drums when time comes but for now, she'll face the music because she made a post about it and put it out there for public consumption.
100%. Always told my ex's if you cheat on me don't expect me to be mad on the other woman! You are the one I have a relationship with, you knew this when you decided to cheat and most likely she didn't know about me! But what you can count on my anger and aggression will be 100% forced onto you!
How are we supposed to get anywhere if women keep tearing other women down by ruining her life? Men should be held accountable but these women deserve the shame… it shows a lack of character to willingly be a homewrecker. I cannot support a woman harming another woman
5:28 oh yeah fact is, now that she “has him”, he’s only with her now because he’s gonna be defending himself forever and that defensive shit makes guys go nuts, they just love it 🙄🙄 as soon as shit calms down, his kids just stop talking to him, and the sex is boring, he’s gonna go fin the next one (or try to grovel to the ex, poor woman)
I think it all depends on how the husband feels about their feelings for their wife, because some men will lie to the wife and be out with the mistress more than her or their kids.
The only way being the other woman works is if YOU are using him. Do not look for anything emotional, financial, or supportive from the piece you're using. Just use him and walk away when something better comes along. edit: make sure he's clean before enjoying a std from your funtime toy.
In the first story. She paid $100 a month for a site and only expected "D", then she hooks up with a 70 year old. She then tells the wife about the affair because she wants a bigger piece of the pie. Then he married her? That prenuptial must be a monster if she trying to sell the con while still with him. When he dies or moves on she is won't get 25% of what the first wife got.
Tbh I think the role of the first woman (rather than affair) is overrated. She has to put up with all the bs of her man and on top go through him cheating and disrespecting her. The side piece gets to see him from his best side, doesn’t have to deal with him 24/7 and is autonomous. The issue is when side pieces get delusional by wanting to occupy the place of the 1st woman.
i definitely wouldn't like if my future husband was interested in any other woman than me. I'm curious what goes into the minds of the side chicks who "steals" another woman's man. a woman's worst enemy is a woman itself
STOP normalizing immoral behavior STOP breaking girl code Girly put it best at 6:56 when she said: women like this make men think they can do whatever they want to us I have an old story: My grandma (when she was young) found out about my grandpa's love child and she agreed to take care of her and the rest of her children. My grandpa still cheated on her with various types of women and always left afterward and never took care of those illegitimate children. and on top of that, my grandma knew about these women and just accepted it. It took a toll on her but she never wanted to admit it years later she now reaped what she sowed. P.S. divorce wasn't an option because she refused to do so and also because of our culture and therapy wasnt promoted back then so the lesson is, that struggle love is not love
When I was in my early 20s I was sleeping with a married man with his wife’s permission 🤷🏽♀️ had no idea why I was doing it but I was intrigued at their dynamic just 2 ppl doing whatever they wanted but was married he would be like hey babe going to GiGi house she would be like have fun 😳 😂😂😂 being young now being older I would never do that again idk if this counts because wife knew and was happy and fine with it?
The fact that this has to be discussed is crazy I've never understood being a willing side piece.
Exactly, common sense knows it never ends well.
I think it shows they didnt get love growing up typically. Like these women (often women) are really pathetic and insecure
Their crazy logic is to blame him, rightfully so, and the wife. instead of feeling accountable for their own poor choice and actions, they scapegoat it as, her problem his choice.
Same.
Or the main! Why do women brag about being cheated on?
How ironic would it be if the lady who's teaching people how to be a mistress ends up being dumped by her now husband due to a mistress taking her class.
It will happen like this or as a different version. What comes around goes back around. Always
You know what's even better? When cheating husbands get cheated back on. But then y'all would defend him by saying two wrongs don't make a right.
When the mistress becomes the wife, that vacancy needs to be filled.
The odds are, she will be, even if she is beautiful this man is only interested in the moment. He has her and will continue to look for better, and their is always better. Plus, these types of men grow used to you and bored of you.
That’s how it always ends
“When the mistress becomes the wife she creates a vacancy.” Idk where that quote came from…but it’s facts.
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I can’t blame a woman who is the Other Woman unknowingly.
But when you find out that you’re with a lying cheater, leave!
She is a mistress and she is really on here whining about being alone for the holidays. 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
Being the 'other women' is for the benefit of men and continuing patriarchy. It forces women to compete with other women for a man, it also puts the burden of the affair on the woman, because it is i'f she was giving her husband what he wanted he wouldn't be going elsewhere'.
That might seem like the case with wives with low self esteem, but the woman who knows her worth and loves herself will never carry the burden of an affair and will just leave him, because she knows that it was her partner with the real problem.
There's people that do this to a wombman even if a man commits pedophilia saying stupid garbage like: .. well were you doing your wifely duty?
How these insane people immediately blame wombmen for male monsters behavior and pity an support them is beyond me. It's insanity.
I totally agree. When men can have their cake and eat it too, there’s no incentive for them to be better people for their wives.
Every pot is supposed to have a lid and if a pot can have multiple lids, then what’s the point in being faithful to one?
Yep!
@@melaninmoxiellc963facts
I remember working with an elderly woman who told us girls in the office about her side chick chronicles. She was a side chick for years, missed some of her best years and when the male was old and died she complained about him not leaving her nothing in his will. I was side eyeing her but I’m telling you, I’m not being no side chick. It’s not worth it.
I grew up watching older family members being the proud side piece. Now they’re in their 50s and 60s looking for love. Honey, karma didn’t forget you.
That's why you don't take them back because it's always going to be another woman with these types.
@@Confessions089 once your partner cheats, the damage is done. Time to end that relationship.
Girl, this one. I used to tell my cousin, leave other women husband's alone. Correct, she is now late 40s and no man of her own. They never build themselves or their own relationship so they end up in emotional bankruptcy.
@@memes.1114 exactly. I’d rather be alone than unhappy.
My ex husband had a female friend who bragged about sleeping with someone who was in a relationship talking crap about how they messed around in the baby mommas car. I think it’s their insecurities but still. People suck
People swear up and down that cheating only affects the couple, but this explains how it affects the children! You cheat on your WHOLE family and it affects everyone. She’ll be on Reddit in 5 years crying, complaining about how her step children don’t want anything to do with HER children. I’ve read it time and time again. Kids suffer from their parent’s wrongdoings. And that’s written in the Bible! They will suffer because of the adults actions.
As someone who watches true crime, it affects everyone, even the pets. Whole families have been wiped out because of cheating.
My mum was always the mistress in her “relationships” and it was so incredibly frustrating! As a teen I had to always comfort her whenever they had to go back to their wives.
It never sunk in when I would tell her over and again to STOP seeing married men because they’re just using you for a good time, that’s it.
It really does affect the kids… not just the kids in the family that’s being wrecked, the kids of the mistresses have to be a therapist and watch it all blow up
That's horrible that she did that in front of you, but thank goodness you learned what she was doing was wrong.
That’s why mistresses should never attach emotionally. She should have used him just like he used her or at best she should have stopped seeing him, if she wasn’t able to.
@@mabel9701 She had low self esteem stemming from childhood SA… any attention that came her way validated her existence (if that makes sense?)
I’m not excusing her behaviour at all but she was always way too emotionally attached to these dropkicks. She actually thought they’d have a future together 🤦🏼♀️
@@mabel9701found one
Side pieces are the ultimate pick me. They accept so little .
And they’re the ones that have the biggest meltdowns and cry the loudest when someone cheats on THEM.
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Unfortunately the side chick faires better than the wife ( she doesn't have to deal with housework and emotional abuse)
@ladyeva1980 Yes. Ppl don't understand that becoming the wife or the main girlfriend after he was cheating with you is a demotion.
Facts@@CadenceWallace
How broken do you have to be to convince yourself it's a better deal ..
Bashing bashing women all the time.Even the man is so broken for him to mess around. And at the end of day,you marry wrong, both will not be happy. So better leave each other.Most men cannot see how broken they are btw.
The fact that when people ask her if she feels bad for the family she broke up, she replies that they are fine financially... the ex-wife has houses and alimony, the kids are grown. She only thinks that a relationship is about money.
I call bs on her saying she loves the man she had an affair with. He is nothing more then a piggy bank that she felt the ex-wife took enough from and now its her turn to take the piggy bank.
She probably won't even feel any real emotions when she is kicked to the curb for the next mistress except to be sad her piggy bank was taken from her.
Idk, I understand. It's better for her to operate in reality than delusion being the other woman. Why should she care, she's already made her choice.
She did not break up that family, the husband did. If it wouldn't be her he'd cheat with someone else and the marriage is already a sham. I DO agree you shouldn't be a side piece, but mistresses don't "break up" anything, can't break anything that is already bust
@annnee6818
A getaway driver doesnt actually rob or kill but they still get sent to jail for helping rob and kill.
Pluss you never know what you open yourself up to when you decide to be a mans personal prostitute. My sister blinded my fathers mistress.
She's trashy af. She doesn't care about other people. She and her husband are gross. You know when he needs a nurse maid, he's going to whine and beg that his kids don't come around and say his first wife turned them against him, blahblahblah, and the side piece turned wife isn't going to stick around to care for a man twice her age. She'll find someone else to leach off of.
On an unrelated note, I love your pfp. FF14 is one of my favorite games. ❤
@@annnee6818No she did break up that family. She will be held accountable for that. There’s a difference when a man lies to a woman about being married and when a woman knows a man is married and continues to contribute to the destruction of a family. If a man wants to end his marriage that’s on him but when a mistress contributes to it they are guilty too.
Most of the side women justify their actions with " I'm not the one who made the vows" but you know! and you willingly put another woman through that pain and anguish for what? A Gucci bag? A trip to Bali? Rent? Something you can completely do yourself if you work hard enough.
My gran once said "Suffering is a coat we all keep taking turns wearing, so be careful how you treat others because when it's finally your turn, the tears you caused will make a coat that should have been light heavier than a blanket."
Karma always comes back to bite! There are no exceptions. My great-aunt was the SW and finally managed to kick the wife away to be the main wife and 2 years ago, after 35 years of marriage my great uncle did the exact same thing to her! kicked her out for a woman half their age, apparently they even have a 15 year old. It was a giant fair as he threw her clothes out the gate, cursing her out while the 'new other woman' watched on. It was heartbreaking, It's been 30+ years, I'm sure by then she probably forgot she once did this to someone else.
No, side chicks don't willingly put wives through anything. Their cheating husbands do.
Karma never forgets
Beautiful analogy
KARMA: The most patient gangsta ever!!!
I always say a cheater isn't worth ish because he shows his true character and a side chick isn't worth ish either
Both are toxic with low morals and low empathy and self centered. They can never actually make each other happy, they will always want a good person, who is self less and loving.
This year, I ended a 4 year relationship after finding out about his infidelity & the crazy part about it, every woman he cheated on me with, knew he was in a relationship & didn’t care. Quite sad that some women have this mentality, which the women isn’t to fault, the partner should just leave instead of damaging a person beyond repair. Cheating is so selfish
As long as you're alive, you're not behind repair. Time and therapy can heal.
Knew a woman who loved being a home wrecker. I couldn’t stand her but she was so brazen about it and acted like her faults for pursuing married men was a funny quirk. She was the biggest pick-me I’ve ever met and she relished the feeling of being “chosen” over the wife. None of it ever lasted, as far as I heard.
@@chandranapier2259 that is so low & disgusting! I know a lot of women like that
It is the other women’s fault if she knew and did it anyway. Making a conscious choice to contribute to the hurt of another woman for her own self gain or pleasure is disgusting and vile. They’re guilty too. Cheaters are cheaters they don’t get a free pass.
@@chandranapier2259Women like that are dangerous because they'll plot to take the life of the wife if they want the lifestyle enough.
But if you were the wife and another woman was the side chick, you wouldn’t be promoting side chick energy in the manner you are now, now your fellow side chicks will be your enemies 😊
If only all the side chicks could link up together and start their own village. They get to bring their man of choice to tag along with them. Unfortunately, they'd probably be too paranoid because they'd know that ALL of the women there would have no self-respect and would have ZERO problem with sleeping with their "man." 😂😂
Your enemies are men for which you are foolishly compete and that are not worthy humans at all, not women.
@@IAMGROOT4EVA too true
I agree that mistresses don't break up marriages, cheating husbands do, and if it wasn't her he'd cheat with someone else, but I still feel resentment to people who knowingly become the side piece. Why? Because they're enabling scumbags
I am into loyalty. So I don't respect mistresses of whatever gender. The cheater is 100% wrong and should just break up or tell their partner they are opening the relationship. But if you are aware you are a "mistress" you are a component to the cheater and in turn part of that relationship of 3 people.
No self-respecting spouse is going to allow their partner to unilaterally declare their marriage open, so it's not a feasible solution.
@@melaninmoxiellc963 Some people surprisingly do have open relationships. The poster is right, anyone knowingly cheating whether it’s the mistress or spouse is in the wrong. Everyone is accountable for the choices they make.
The worst part is if hes even cheating, he wasn't good enough for either of them. The sidechick is being played and the wife is at risk healthwise and made to look like a fool😓
Men in a nutshell
My mother was the other woman. She took pride in being with my father. He unsurprisingly was emotional unavailable to myself and “my family” hated me and my sister. They made sure to treat us less than because we were products of his infidelity. I choose not to talk to my mother because all my life she choose men over me and my sibling. Emotionally unavailable, abusive, and already in relationships are some of the things I would describe these dudes. Now as an adult I don’t know how to attach myself to other people nor how to have relationships. Let this be a cautionary tale for anyone who thinks it’s okay to be with someone who is already married or even worse chooses to have a child with someone who is already in a relationship.
I had an emotional affair with a married man. I just got out of a very abusive relationship 14yrs ago and this guy was a coworker. we commisserated about our relationships (his wife cheated and would throw stuff at him). we got close. im so glad we didnt get physical but it was still too far. Even his dad and siblings wanted me to be there instead of the wife O.o oh and that awful relationship he was in? yea he got her pregnant so he stayed. i didnt hear from that guy till this year. he apologized for going for me when i was so vulnerable. He stayed in the abuse for another 6 yrs, divorced her, and started fighting for custody. didnt get custody till this year. just wild. im glad hes okay, but never again. no married people for me. stay away. (oh and hes remarried, he said Id like to befriends but it cant be how it was. and I said I would NEVER go anywhere or do anything down that road with you again homie")
So, he had a wife.
Then, remarried someone ELSE.
But, still reaching for you.
Like, you see it, right?
He chose someone else twice.
I'm glad you chose to stay away. ❤🎉
@@florindagonzalez5700yea. These men stay trying to make It seem like it’s completely the wives fault. They stir up the toxicity as well.
This behaviour shouldn’t be encouraged tbh. OP is out here humiliating herself and fighting for a man who will never be fully committed to her
She's going to get her payback, karma is going to get her. Then she'll be on social media wanting sympathy 🙄
I've NEVER understood the "I don't owe her anything" mentality. That's anti-woman. How can women act like they care about women so much, but when you put a man in the mix, you become selfish? There's no logic to that outside of selfishness and hypocrisy, because if they were in a committed relationship and were cheated on, they'd feel bad and want people to care. I can't believe how many people salute this mentality. I always suspect they're cheaters when they do.
People with avoidant attachment styles a emotionally unavailable people benefit from these relationship dynamics because they get the companionship they want without the vulnerability. They get the "best" aspects of the man because the wife is the scapegoat for all of the traditional bullshit that comes from the disparity of heterosexual relationships. Also it doesn't matter if a woman chases after taken men. It's still the man who made the commitment of being monogamous. These men that want multiple women can simply choose to be in open relationships, but they don't because they get off on cheating. Women significantly ignore that these men cheat because they want to.
Yep I had a friend who intentionally went after wealthy married men for several reasons....
1. because he was always happy to see her, make her happy when they were together and buy her things so that she would stay happy when he had to go back to his WIFE !
2. because she was always the preferred and the favorite.
3. because she actually did not want to have that much of a commitment or owe him that much of her time and energy!
and so she could always just blame it on the family or his wife, when she didn't want to hang out with him and rather go do something else....
4. And this is a big one ....
If or when he does try to end it, she can blackmail him for MORE money and then she doesn't even have to pretend to want him!
Always putting the blame on the wife/girlfriend. SMH
What if another woman takes her courses and takes her husband...
I would scream so hard 😂😂😂😂
Mistresses don't break up families, the unfaithful husband does. If it wasn't her It would be another woman. Let Me say this, its easy to become a mistress. You have to have a strong moral code because more than once I have been pursued by men who were acting single but I found out after we talked and got together a few times that they were married. Imagine a woman being manipulated and being intimate and getting emotionally involved then finding out later hes married. It will be harder to walk away BUT YOU MUST. Some women dont have or use their self worth or strength to walk away when they find out.
Also, while the mistress is alone on holidays the wife is alone when hes with the mistress so neither are winning. As a woman, women should honor other women by doing towards them what they want for themselves. If all women honored other women that way then men wouldn't have anyone to cheat with. Yet because women either are manipulated into messing with or some willingly mess with married men, cheating men will always have supply. Thats also why they pursue younger women, because they can be more easily manipulated.
If that man didn't cheat with that woman, he would have found another.
I don’t really fault the other women who didn’t know the man was involved already. That isn’t their fault. The ones I do have issues with, are the ones who know he’s involved already or married and still pursues him in order to “win” him from his girlfriend/wife.
I had a date with a man who pretended being single. I know before I knew with my intuition… I said no second date and than he told me he has a gf and is unhappy. Todo se paga en la vida. The sadest part is he didn’t felt bad about it at all wasting the time of his gf or me as a single. Anyway I told him will you ever contact me again I will tell your gf. What happened? He tried to call me 2 months later, what have I done? Told his gf 🤷🏻♀️ she was in shock 🤦🏻♀️ I am like I would smell immediately if I would live with someone and they would cheat.
Totally agree, I hate that "Even if it wasn't me it'd be someone else" excuse because that's also another excuse side chicks use to justify hurting the wife. Afterall honey, it is you.
He's going to get his but so are you.
Because one day you'll find "the one" all happy and pregnant, life together and ISH; some 20sum year old is going to do the exact same thing to you. Only then will she realise how ridiculous that statement is.
It's one thing for men to hurt women, it ain't nothing new and women are learning to expect better but I really can't accept when women hurt each other for a man who's not even worthy of either of them.
When you are getting to know someone it’s important to see where they live. Daytime, night time. If a man has a “business hours” for you and you can only contact or see him during those hours, he’s probably got somebody already. Don’t allow yourself to become emotionally attached to someone who keeps you at arms length or has weird rules and excuses about his availability. If you suspect he’s married, he probably is and unless he’s willing to go out of his way to prove otherwise, just block and delete.
The problem with your statement is that even if women honored each other with a girl code, your man still WANTS to cheat on you. If given the opportunity, he would. He has no loyalty or love towards you; it's just that he can't cheat because he can't find a woman to cheat with. You are not enough for him. Does that not bother y'all at all?
Why are man not being held accountable?
I agree...post his picture on the wall of shame...
Men will NEVER be held accountable because women are too busy blaming each other.
"wHy aRE wOMeN sTayInG sINgLe aNd NoT hAviNG kiDs?"
Ive been the other woman without knowing. I told myself never to accept something like things but it happened. After I found out I kept the relationship going for payback and financial benefits. At first a felt bad about it but as long as you keep telling yourself lies you will close your eyes. I compared myself with the other woman. The only reason I left the situation is because I couldn’t handle the lonely feeling anymore. So not because of him or his family but of my own ego. The ego is a toxic thing if it’s not manage right. But I do feel that woman have to make platforms to prevent this type of behavior because being a side chick is not good for your mental health.
At least you acknowledge your faults
And this is the true problem. It messes you up mentally.
For payback? Against whom, his wife?
@@LadyAstarionAncunin against him for lying to me in the first place…but even that was just to feed my toxic ego
My kids father cheated he was 28 and I was 20 we had three children together 4 year old, 1 year and 9 month old and when it all came out he left us and moved in with her and her son. It destroyed me for a long time! He was very abusive so when it all came out I was actually happy because she took my headache, but once everything calmed down the trauma of it all set in it took about 3 years to heal from it. She was an 27 or 28 and she made messing with my family & kids a game for her to "win", now I know her self esteem was low she HAD to try to make other women feel terrible to make herself feel good. (She was known in the area for messing with families like this) that was the thing that messed with me the most to be honest! How another women could intentionally set out to mess with families and children, absolutely disgusting! I've healed from it though, I now am in a healthy relationship and engaged to an amazing man who treats my children like his own and we all adore him. She is still messed up, I catch her looking at my Instagram stories time to time and it just makes me laugh. I am happier than I've ever been and she is still miserable and seeking self esteem.
Edit: I do hold him accountable not just her (Check the comments) I just feel the video is about proud side chicks, not the cheating ass men, hence why this is mainly about her.
Oh not to mention the trauma it left on my kids 😵 I am also the product of an affair and it's just ✨trauma!✨
I noticed in all your writing that you never once held your man accountable for cheating on you and hurting your family. It was all about HER. Interesting. 🤔
ugh, a 24 year old man messing with and impregnating a 16 year old. I'm so sorry. second, block the affair partner!
I guess it's generational karma @@JessJordan98
Your man was nasty, why was he dating a child?
My dad was married and my mom the babysitter was having an affair with my dad in his first marriage. My older half sister told me this. My dad left his first wife and married my mom. My mom eventually cheated on my dad which was an abusive alcoholic. What a mess🤦♀️
I won't even date a guy who ended a relationship less than 4-6 months ago!
That's too soon!
There's still too many lingering feelings and issues that have NOTHING to do with me, that I'm not trying to deal with PERIOD!
I don't understand people who begin a relationship with someone who is STILL in a relationship!!!🙄
That's no friggin way!
8:44 If your affair partner is with you instead of their kids for their special occasions, that person is sht. But the OP was rewarded when the cheaters wife got divorced and she got him to herself. Good for the wife getting all she got. But OP just was a trash human. And the cheater is just married to an official homewrecker.
I remember my brothee cheated on this woman. She rols me he'd slept with her, got up and got dressed, told her he was with someone else and left. I told him he was an ass, and he was gone answer for that. In fact the woman he cheated with was with his lady's nephew! So my brother left the woman for her nephew's girl. She had always had a crush on my brother and was desperate for him. Welp...my brother cheated on ol girl too. I was in the mall and she came in the dressing room trying to talk to me about my brother and how heartbroken she was. I opened the dressing room door, looked at her and asked hiw she thought his woman felt. Told she couldn't see past what she wanted to what was right. I told her you got done the same way you did the other woman, thats your karma. You had it coming. If he did her that way, what makes you so special?
A woman can be a mistress because she doesn't ever want to marry. She doesn't want him to leave his wife.
Why is the man seen as a prize.
I didn't find out I was the child of the other woman until the sperm donor died and three other children had laid claim to his social security benefits. Turns out the fool was MARRIED with three kids WHILE getting my biological mother pregnant THREE times. Which is why I never want to be in a relationship, never wanted kids, and never wanted to be married. Who's got time for all that drama?!
Need a larger discussion about women staying with men that offer to divorce their wife once the woman finds out he's married. Did that in my 20's, and found out in the worst ways that men that leave their wife for you aren't good people. I have a new dating rule; if he cheats, I yeets. Though, currently not dating nor intending to. Focusing on my goals. Equal power dynamics are nice!
Whoever is in a relationship and has an affair is always to blame. So the married man is always at fault. However we cannot deny that there are women who love knowing they are the other woman, they specifically choose married men or men in relationships. They like knowing that they are having an affair under the wife's nose (sometimes in the marital bed). Also sometimes the other woman isn't someone that wife doesn't know. It could be a friend, sister, sister in-law etc. The other woman may not be the one who has a duty to the wife but what you are doing is horrible. There are women who have harmed and/or murdered their lover's wives because they got tired of waiting. Personally I could never do that to someone because it is just wrong, I would never want to be put in that situation. Also karma can be real, there are women who went from other woman, to wife only for their man to do the same thing. Also the fact that a man is willing to cheat, should let you know what type of wicked man he is. You should never be with a man who is horrible to any women. That is a red flag and part of misogyny.
They are both to blame. Him 100% more definitely but I think we’ve started this narrative that it’s only the husband and that’s why these “other women” are not held accountable and think it’s cute to come on TikTok and tell everyone this
@jnyree5178 Not every "other woman" knows that she is one and is not to blame if they did not know until you caught them together and informed her. There are some really stealth cheaters in the game (like military servicemen - ask me how I know!), and while it's tempting to the ego to want to place blame on the affair partner for the betrayal and unhappiness you feel it's not always right because some do not even know he's married or in a relationship. But I've they find out, and continue to engage, they're no longer fellow victims, they're complicit volunteers.
@@melaninmoxiellc963 yes! That’s what I meant, of course she’s not to blame if she didn’t know. But once you know and continue you are wrong.
This is ho/side piece logic
@@mikikiki What about my comments is hoe/side piece logic. No where have I said that the mistress in the video is right!
Once a cheater, Always a cheater.
How could her heart be broken like a part is missing... when she's the misstress? Unreal. How delulu do you need to be?
Do not fall for this trap. If he's married and he's flirting run. If he's got a SO and he's flirting with you anyway run. If they can't be faithful to their present SO why would they be faithful to you? Men like these are never satisfied with what they already got.
Here’s what I don’t understand: why do side chicks get so mad and act so hurt when someone cheats on them? I mean they’re always saying “if the wife did xyz he wouldn’t cheat” but when they get cheated on and you say the same thing they get BIG MAD. I never thought I’d say this but I think willing side chicks and Red Pill men are perfect for each other, and it saves decent people the heartache of getting involved with gutter trash since the gutter trash is dating one another.
I don’t have the heart to do this. Also it’s truly bad juju. Even as a wife myself, I understand how women can end up a mistress many different ways and I even empathize to an extent. I wouldn’t advise it if you ever had to be hidden or sneak around. It speaks to the character of who you’re dealing with. And if you’re being honest with yourself, it speaks to your character as well.
I’ve always pondered about the thought process of women willingly being side pieces. I still do because when I found out the man I was seeing was married with children-after months of emotionally connecting with him-it hurt me. I had to go back into therapy to deal with the anger and confusion. I couldn’t continue dating a married man knowing that he would never choose me 11 times out of 10. It’s too much.
6:30 At the end of the day whether there are women like her intentionally going out and trying to pursue married men, the point is the same: they only get as far as the married man let’s them get.
Nothing keeps a man except a man that wants to be kept. If a man is committed, it doesn’t matter what any woman does, he will reject her and remain committed. Can we PLEASE stop treating men like they lack the ability to be strong minded? Society just teaches them since they are young (backed by too many women) that they don’t need to be because they are “just being men,” so they spend their lives believing that if tempted enough (which in most men’s cases is simply having a woman look at them), they have a right to participate because “we all know men lack self-control.” Bull. We don’t require it of them and blaming “vulture women” is another symptom of that.
If I were married and my husband cheated, I am blaming HIM and only him. Yeah, the woman may have been wrong for being a part of the deception, but there would have been no deception if MY HUSBAND didn’t allow it.
Once again, they only get as far as the man lets them get. Period.
She does feel shame because she said when her mom would ask she'd skirt around the question so she had someone that wouldn't support her delulu behavior. Other side of this is if she would have just played her part she'd still be taken care of as opposed to having to "work" now he's lost money because you wanted to be the wife that's likely to get cheated on😂
The fact of the matter is being the other women means he doesn't really care about you. When push comes to shove they will leave. Its really dumb to get involved with a man who is not single. Also a man who is not loyal to his wife is also scum.
As someone who's family has broken up this way I can't fathom cheating or aiding in cheating. Its disrespectful to the family and to yourself knowing you can do better!
SMH it’s like you’re either the “main” ( the one getting cheated on and having life ties to someone who’s mentally checked out of the relationship) or a side piece when it comes to these men. Relationships are so pointless
Mistresses are giving "I want to be chosen so bad sydrome". It's the high of getting off that no matter what you still get chosen.
I never realised I was actually the side piece for a man I was with for 7 yrs & I was shocked when he mentioned this to me that he was technically cheating on another woman with me!!!….I was mortified but never left him immediately which was my regret!! Should have left long after the revelation!!😢😢😢
Women will always blame other women! Instead of shaming the guy all we talk about is how she won't benefit from the relationship and how immoral her choices are. Man a cruel!
Your first sentence is everything. There are people accusing me of being a side chick because I am holding the married men 100% accountable .
@@Childfree334 continues holding man accountable, most women are desperate and will do anything and everything to defend a man that's abusing and misusing them.
People who cheat with married men in hopes of being the new wife are wild, most men aren’t gonna leave their wife, especially if they have young kids, because they don’t want to break up the family, and don’t want to lose the cars or houses they might have bought during the marriage, the only logical reason to be the other woman to a married man, is to get the bag and that’s it, if you’re doing that for any other reason than you’re out of your mind, if you’re not going into it business only money working girl mindset, than you’re just wasting your time, because he’s not gonna leave her.
I could never knowingly be in a relationship with a married man, especially if he has children. I’ll always remember how devastated I was when my 12-year-old self realized that my father was cheating on my mother, and I would never want to be the cause of that pain for another family. My parents have been together for over 30 years. My dad is a narcissist, though I didn’t realize this until I was in my late teens, and my mom passively accepts his behavior even though she openly admits that it’s not right. She still defends him, which is one of the many reasons why we don’t have a strong relationship, but I hope she wakes up and finally decides to move on with her life. He doesn’t support her financially or emotionally. He even made her close down her successful business just so he could start his, which he ended up closing down as well. Now he’s been sitting in Africa for the past several months and has the audacity to ask her to send him money. 🤦🏽♀️
Those who know that the guy is married and continue to be in a mistress deserve scorn and the husband deserve to lose everything and not the stuff, but respect and live with the guilt.😡
7:09 Not just the affair partner, but whatever love children/outside children miss out on the holidays too.
I think I might understand the conflicted feelings one would have when they find out the person they're seeing was married the entire time, after catching feelings and all. But it has to end once you find out.
Just the fact a married person deceives you by portraying themselves as single. A deception to get with you is already the first disrespect, why put up with more. Millionaire or not. Ignore that entitled homewrecker, about her "it's my turn now", I really hope it's her turn now.
I don't understand how she posted a video like that without thinking it was embarrassing. How do you loudly proclaim to the world that you were the other woman and still hold your head up high? And than apparently married him? Like, congratulations, you're married to a man you know doesn't care about commitment.
Just be honest and say you married him for his money, stop with that ‘we’re in love’ bs. There's a reason he didn't seek to divorce his wife and chose to get a little extra on the side. He didn't want to leave her. He's with the AP because his wife left him and he needed someone to fill her shoes. APs are for entertainment, wives are for the house. Since he needed both to feel content, his new wife has big shoes to fill. You gotta be the wife he expects you to be, entertain him, and hype him up.
You honestly can't brag about bagging a man like that unless he has money.
The thing I don’t get is why people always say “what about the wife and kids?” (Sadistic, sociopathic mistresses aside) is she really the one that should be worried about that? I’d say any woman who willingly puts herself in that position has huge issues with self-worth and validation. And should focus on fixing that first. But place the blame where it belongs. A home can’t wrecked without someone getting the door.
Thank you. The cheating spouse is the homewrecker.
@@Childfree334 Fr. If mistresses said no, cheating still wouldn’t stop. Cheaters would just adapt. They would get even better at manipulation and hiding the fact that they’re taken. Some take their ring off and get a whole separate apartment just to seem single.
I went down a rabbit hole on the cheating subreddit. The things I read made my stomach turn. If someone has a history of cheating, I don’t want them. Period. It’s no one’s fault but their own
Everybody wants to fault the "other woman" they should fault the "cheating husband!!" Basically the other woman doesn't owe anything to the main woman!! Unless they were friends!! The husband should be the one that's dealt with!! The husband is the one with the issues! If he wants to cheat. Then maybe he shouldn't be married 😑
Apparently married men get a free pass and are not required to say no when he is approached by another woman to cheat.
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4:13 money will never replace the man that you thought loved you and that you loved like "ohhhh she has thousands alimony" she didn't want alimony she wanted her husband to love her !!!! What???
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Apart from money there's really no reason as a single woman to deal with married men. We cant stop people from doing what they want, so proceed with caution. Wife or mistress, these men don't see a difference.
My mom insisted on being a miatress. I was a born to her 15 year relationship and became an instant therapist. I remember when she developed a drug problem to cope and spiraled. Almost lost her job due to it. Meanwhile, my dad and his wife laughed at my mom. I'll never forgive my mom for forcing me to deal with her lack of self control.
Thank goodness I've never knowingly been the side chick. Side chicks serve a purpose and that purpose varies. She's not cheating he is. Being side chick can also be lucrative financially with less labor ie cooking cleaning nursing. We all experience karma so yeah, it is what it is.
Bring a side piece in general is for trash humans begging for bad karma.
@@melaninmoxiellc963despite it all, it's life for a lot of people.
In the words of Nina Simone, “…and as the years go by, the other woman will spend her life alone.”
Imagine complaining about being a home wrecker not getting to see their “partner” who’s busy with his damn WIFE AND KIDS.
Now that we concluded that men do not even like the woman does it matter if you are his wife or not? You just have to learn to embrace your position if you have decided to take that route and accept what comes with it. Take what you can get out of it and live your life. The mistresses don't have to put up with the emotional load of having him full time and all the house work, given that, you can't complain about being the one getting the days after holidays.
The thing about this is he’s 60 so I’m pretty sure he won’t be cheating on her or leaving but she’s definitely gonna experience some karma 😫
"If you have to normalize it, it shouldn't be normalized" applies here
Being the side chick can let you know what a man is like in a relationship without actually having to commit to him. Let's keep it real, blk women are man sharing anyway when we only date blk men. Look at the women around you, what is their love life looking like?
Every married man who's ever proposed to me I've always asked them what makes me look like a fool to them. You'll be in the hospital and I can't visit you, sit at home and worry. I have to explain to your kids why you're never around for Christmas and why you're not at their end of year shows because someone from your real life might recognize you. No thanks.
I credit the Oprah show for this. She had some mistresses on the show and they all said: men never leave their wives. If they're going to leave let them do it, let them get sorted out before starting something new.
Oh to add another comment. One of the ladies said, by the other woman being the side peice. That she's actually making their marriage stronger! Then why complain about it. 80/20 rule. That side chick is fulfilling 20% of what your husband is lacking from u. BUT wouldn't u rather be the one that's fulfilling the whole 100% as the wife? Instead of your husband going outside the marriage! If side-chicks didn't exist. I bet the divorce rates would be even higher! No I don't condon cheating! I'm just thinking logically 🤔
The only women I can understand taking up a married man is the sex workers - that's just their job, a client. Others? Actively sabotaging someone's family? If you find out man is trash, you tell his wife. She might not be happy, she might not react politely but she deserves to know and have opportunity to make informed choices.
Damn shes taking all kinds of Ls. How are you a side check to a man in his 60's and you met him on a app you have to pay for. Thats ridiculous.
I HAVE BEEN THE OTHER WOMAN & NOT KNOWN A COUPLE TIMES. SOME MEN HIDE THEIR CHEATING & OTHER LIVES VERY WELL. IT'S SAD.
I have an ex-fiance who was trying to make a side check after he married with kids 😂
When it comes to infidelity and cheating, if someone will do it with you, they will also be fine with doing it to you.
I hear yall, but this seems like another instance of blaming women for males decisions. This woman did not make a vow to anybody. Wasting anger on her is silly. In my opinion... And I'm someone who was cheated on by my husband.
💯Exactly
Agree but both must be held accountable. Bad decisions are bad decisions no matter who is making them.
She made the video so she would be held accountable in this part.
She will be addressed.
Yes the man would face his drums when time comes but for now, she'll face the music because she made a post about it and put it out there for public consumption.
100%. Always told my ex's if you cheat on me don't expect me to be mad on the other woman!
You are the one I have a relationship with, you knew this when you decided to cheat and most likely she didn't know about me!
But what you can count on my anger and aggression will be 100% forced onto you!
How are we supposed to get anywhere if women keep tearing other women down by ruining her life? Men should be held accountable but these women deserve the shame… it shows a lack of character to willingly be a homewrecker. I cannot support a woman harming another woman
5:28 oh yeah fact is, now that she “has him”, he’s only with her now because he’s gonna be defending himself forever and that defensive shit makes guys go nuts, they just love it 🙄🙄 as soon as shit calms down, his kids just stop talking to him, and the sex is boring, he’s gonna go fin the next one (or try to grovel to the ex, poor woman)
Id be one pissed off dead person to know that my liver went to a serial cheater.
I think it all depends on how the husband feels about their feelings for their wife, because some men will lie to the wife and be out with the mistress more than her or their kids.
The only way being the other woman works is if YOU are using him. Do not look for anything emotional, financial, or supportive from the piece you're using. Just use him and walk away when something better comes along.
edit: make sure he's clean before enjoying a std from your funtime toy.
In the first story. She paid $100 a month for a site and only expected "D", then she hooks up with a 70 year old. She then tells the wife about the affair because she wants a bigger piece of the pie. Then he married her? That prenuptial must be a monster if she trying to sell the con while still with him. When he dies or moves on she is won't get 25% of what the first wife got.
Tbh I think the role of the first woman (rather than affair) is overrated. She has to put up with all the bs of her man and on top go through him cheating and disrespecting her. The side piece gets to see him from his best side, doesn’t have to deal with him 24/7 and is autonomous. The issue is when side pieces get delusional by wanting to occupy the place of the 1st woman.
I don't like this behavior but I feel bad that she needs to appease terrible men to feel secure.
I've been there in younger days! Big mistake! Not gonna turn out good for u sis!!!
Why would a woman want to be a mistress?
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i definitely wouldn't like if my future husband was interested in any other woman than me. I'm curious what goes into the minds of the side chicks who "steals" another woman's man. a woman's worst enemy is a woman itself
How does one "steal" a whole grown azz man? You talk like he has no choice in the matter.
Definitely. He didnt tell me he was married till the morning after.. just yikes..
peak pick me behavior
STOP normalizing immoral behavior
STOP breaking girl code
Girly put it best at 6:56 when she said: women like this make men think they can do whatever they want to us
I have an old story: My grandma (when she was young) found out about my grandpa's love child and she agreed to take care of her and the rest of her children. My grandpa still cheated on her with various types of women and always left afterward and never took care of those illegitimate children. and on top of that, my grandma knew about these women and just accepted it. It took a toll on her but she never wanted to admit it years later she now reaped what she sowed.
P.S. divorce wasn't an option because she refused to do so and also because of our culture and therapy wasnt promoted back then
so the lesson is, that struggle love is not love
Wow. With all the women talking online now, exposing truths, anyone who enters willingly into that role of mistress is making her own bed.
11:54 girllllllllllllll everyone needs to see this 🤣
Dear Priscilla, you are very beautiful and intelligent
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One of the few side chicks who came out victorious was Camillia. She had to wait decades for Charles.
Is she really “victorious” though? When her name comes up it’s almost always in this context. The same can’t really be said for Charles.
What they do with you, they will do to you!!
When I was in my early 20s I was sleeping with a married man with his wife’s permission 🤷🏽♀️ had no idea why I was doing it but I was intrigued at their dynamic just 2 ppl doing whatever they wanted but was married he would be like hey babe going to GiGi house she would be like have fun 😳 😂😂😂 being young now being older I would never do that again idk if this counts because wife knew and was happy and fine with it?