Watching this got me teary-eyed Got me thinking about how much i can relate to the feelings that you shared. You are a great writer. Loved hearing your writings. I hope that you are doing better.
Aww stop💔💔💔 You're going to have so many other firsts, and I want you to look forward to those. I'm so happy you got to have these memories and you get to think over them as many times as you can❤
be strong and don't have regrets, you were right about to take your memories with you, it's all I have and what keeps me sane; I always tell people (usually if it's the final time I see them) not to forget where they come from so to know where they are going; i'm about to turn 38 on the 23rd, and all my friends have left me, gotten married, moved away, had families, things I always wanted when I was a young child - been completely blind for seven years starting in about a couple weeks, yes I know a beautiful birthday gift to lose both my kidneys and my vision at the same time within a couple months, not to mention my friends because you get to learn who your true friends are when you are no benefit to them, and while I do miss reading all my books watching my movies, playing video games, just seeing people in general, I've learnt to accept it, sometimes I feel blessed, to experience life on both sides of the vision spectrum - let me tell you... a disability, it is definitely a horrible stigma when you don't appear disabled at all let alone appearing disabled, even today, after seven years, people are still rude to me, they think I walk slow, or I'm dumb in the head, even people think I'm pretending, and trust me I wish I was pretending, I regret studying too hard and working too much and no time for a social life for relationships, and now that I have a little free time lol, I see the difficulties of the current state of society, you can have it pretty well-made and people will still fault you on a flaw and not like you, and me being completely blind, yeah... as long as you stay focused, disciplined, dedicated, you can achieve whatever you set out for, everybody has different timelines, some people get married young some people never get married, some people have children young, and some people have children old, and some people even have children not their own; what I used to do to destress back in the day of vision, is to read a book or take a nap, and sometimes if I didn't want to be by myself, I would volunteer, anything, don't even have to be anything official, just go to a neighbor and ask how they're doing and if need anything to be helped with, or a friend, even a phone call is better than nothing, call up a friend that you haven't talked to in a long time, don't do any of that superficial social media stuff, meet up for lunch and catch up, that's what I do, or at least do a phone Call, something more personal than an automated text message that lacks the personable attention that used to be the social life
...Through the eyes of a real friendship an individual is larger than their everyday actions, and through the eyes of another we receive a greater sense of our own personhood, one we can aspire to, the one in whom they have most faith. Friendship is a moving frontier of understanding, not only of the self and the other but also of a possible and as yet unlived future. ... But no matter the medicinal virtues of being a true friend or sustaining a long, close relationship with another, the ultimate touchstone of friendship is not improvement, neither of the other nor of the self: the ultimate touchstone is witness, the privilege of having been seen by someone and the equal privilege of being granted the sight of the essence of another, to have walked with them and to have believed in them, and sometimes just to have accompanied them for however brief a span, on a journey impossible to accomplish alone. ~ ~David Whyte
Watching this got me teary-eyed Got me thinking about how much i can relate to the feelings that you shared. You are a great writer. Loved hearing your writings. I hope that you are doing better.
I’m so glad my words touched you. I am definitely doing better! 😊 Happy holidays!
@soorosie Happy holidays to you, too.
Aww stop💔💔💔
You're going to have so many other firsts, and I want you to look forward to those. I'm so happy you got to have these memories and you get to think over them as many times as you can❤
And you're such an awesome writer❤ Got me feeling nostalgic too. Even tho I'm still 19😭😭
be strong and don't have regrets, you were right about to take your memories with you, it's all I have and what keeps me sane; I always tell people (usually if it's the final time I see them) not to forget where they come from so to know where they are going; i'm about to turn 38 on the 23rd, and all my friends have left me, gotten married, moved away, had families, things I always wanted when I was a young child - been completely blind for seven years starting in about a couple weeks, yes I know a beautiful birthday gift to lose both my kidneys and my vision at the same time within a couple months, not to mention my friends because you get to learn who your true friends are when you are no benefit to them, and while I do miss reading all my books watching my movies, playing video games, just seeing people in general, I've learnt to accept it, sometimes I feel blessed, to experience life on both sides of the vision spectrum - let me tell you... a disability, it is definitely a horrible stigma when you don't appear disabled at all let alone appearing disabled, even today, after seven years, people are still rude to me, they think I walk slow, or I'm dumb in the head, even people think I'm pretending, and trust me I wish I was pretending, I regret studying too hard and working too much and no time for a social life for relationships, and now that I have a little free time lol, I see the difficulties of the current state of society, you can have it pretty well-made and people will still fault you on a flaw and not like you, and me being completely blind, yeah... as long as you stay focused, disciplined, dedicated, you can achieve whatever you set out for, everybody has different timelines, some people get married young some people never get married, some people have children young, and some people have children old, and some people even have children not their own; what I used to do to destress back in the day of vision, is to read a book or take a nap, and sometimes if I didn't want to be by myself, I would volunteer, anything, don't even have to be anything official, just go to a neighbor and ask how they're doing and if need anything to be helped with, or a friend, even a phone call is better than nothing, call up a friend that you haven't talked to in a long time, don't do any of that superficial social media stuff, meet up for lunch and catch up, that's what I do, or at least do a phone Call, something more personal than an automated text message that lacks the personable attention that used to be the social life
...Through the eyes of a real friendship an individual is larger than their everyday actions, and through the eyes of another we receive a greater sense of our own personhood, one we can aspire to, the one in whom they have most faith. Friendship is a moving frontier of understanding, not only of the self and the other but also of a possible and as yet unlived future.
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But no matter the medicinal virtues of being a true friend or sustaining a long, close relationship with another, the ultimate touchstone of friendship is not improvement, neither of the other nor of the self: the ultimate touchstone is witness, the privilege of having been seen by someone and the equal privilege of being granted the sight of the essence of another, to have walked with them and to have believed in them, and sometimes just to have accompanied them for however brief a span, on a journey impossible to accomplish alone.
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~David Whyte