coming back here to say that i took your advice, i bought some oversized menswear pants, got a couple belts, focused more on sillouette and less on trying to appear smaller, accentuated my broad shoulders and cinched things at my waist, and my fashion has tremendously changed, and looks so GOOD now!!! i've never felt so confident before, and so comfortable in my skin. thank you for making this video!
Because I have broad shoulders, I can put on up to 25 pounds over my ideal weight and size (US size 8) and people tend not to notice the weight (it takes a long time for my hips to overtake my shoulders). Well, my hips have overtaken my shoulders (I'm 40 pounds up) and I miss those days. If you're blessed enough to have broad shoulders as a woman, you're blessed. It's a good fashion tip to focus on them.
@@IExpectedBSJustNotThisMuchBS what do you mean? Like you gained weight and your hips look bigger now?? But you wish they were t as big now? Just trying to understand what you mean?
pro tip: If you think you can pull something off, you most probably actually can pull it off. It's all about the confidence. How do you think Rihanna makes all these ridiculous clothes look good? She is obviously gorgeous, but what makes the look is her confidence. She just knows she looks good in whatever crazy look some her stylist or some designer put her in, and other people can sense that.
Amen to that I ask a one of the girls if a orange lipstick and a all white outfit would look good on me she said no it would look bad ...I still went a head and bought and guess what it look Bomb I looked good
Sometimes I look at girls wearing cool things and think “she looks so cool” or “I wish I could do that.” So when I’m wearing something out of my comfort zone and worried that people will stare, I just tell myself they’re thinking the same things I do about strangers except about me lol
I love how positive this is! This advice is "look at your own body and make it work" instead of "do this to make your body look more conventionally attractive"
Another positive aspect of shopping the men`s section (in thrift stores) is that their clothes are often better quality like 100% Cotton, Wool, etc. Women`s clothes are more often mixed fibers or synthetic ones.
I feel so bad for younger people who need to thrift to maintain their style on a budget, because thrift stores now are full of crap from the 2000s, and the quality is awful. In the 90s and early 2000s, we would find amazing vintage clothes with very little effort... Great fabrics and quality. Even the synthetics were better quality. I remember getting rid of a vintage cashmere coat because I had too many nice vintage winter coats (and cashmere back then was a quality product, not the poorly milled, pilling quality that is sold ubiquitously now).
Petite women also shouldn't overlook the kid's section- there can be some surprisingly chic items and basics from there with more cropped proportions and a lower price! Kid's shoes are labeled a size and a half smaller than women's, so women up to a shoe size 8 1/2 can look in the children's section.
Also looking at the men's section can work well for many people. Depends on the fit but if you want a loose fitting white T-shirt grab a cheaper mens one and it will even be nicer than the women's shirt. There are a lot of things that work very well for people, going outside your gender, age and size can really work. If a brand has weird sizing maybe you need two sizes bigger but wear what suits you, not what the number says.
@@gem6105 I know my family bases it on the length of the foot. So you can see the shoe size length for each size and measure your foot to find the correct one. Many sites will be useful for that, the measurement will be in cm or inches.
Crop tops...I am in my forties and I just started wearing them since my teens. I do it tastefully with high waisted trousers and sometimes an open button down on top. I was scared to try this but I definitely have the body for it so why not. Lol. My newest addition are doc martens 🤣
I'm 31 and I'm so weary of crop tops, even though I like them and I def have the body for them. Also literally no one would guess that I'm in my early 30s, but my mom and sister always criticize me for wanting to try them and bring down my enthusiasm even when I find a pretty crop top to style. I should be stronger😩.
I was like that at your age but I had young and impressionable daughters. Plus I appear the same age as my oldest and I wanted to be respected as their mommy. My now older daughters find it cool to see their mom wearing this. I only show a sliver of skin though. Just enough to still feel classy. Try the aritzia brand Sunday best tank. It is what I have. A bit longer but still gives you the look. I wear this with high wasted trousers and Levi rib cage jeans. Try it girl. You are still young...do you!!
EP don't tell your mother and sis and just do it. Throw on the styles you enjoy and there are ways to wear them without feeling or looking teenage. In my generation they were not meant for teenagers anyway it was too adult, go figure. Once your family sees you looking nice their minds will open up. And either way you just may be the more stylish one out of your family members and you have your own style, it's ok to stand alone. That's also what trendsetters do.
Please remeber there is no right or wrong body for a specific type of clothing. If you like something piece and you feel good wearing it then you should wear it "fashion should be fun."
It’s so funny that the first thing you talk about is your shoulders, I too have broad shoulders that I try to hide, but the first thing I noticed about you, was that you had beautiful shoulders. Which made me realize that broad shoulders are not something to hide 🥰
I get it! I wouldnt buy any jeans that weren't skin tight skinnies because I thought any baggy leg looked bad. And now my most worn jeans are culottes, moms, wide legged and balloon.
@taЊa N. try the happy medium- Straight Leg jeans. I just bought a great pair of high waste, thin cut, full length straight leg jeans from Zara. They make my curves like an hour glass, and give an illusion of a couple extra inches of height (without heels) lol
I also recently made this transition, I have big hips and a smaller waist. I had the realization that A-line dresses look good on me, so maybe I can also find that silhouette with jeans and a shirt. I never felt quite right in a loose top and tight jeans.
Another tip that I have that I think might be good is, you should have mostly basics. Like for example a white shirt and good jeans. Basics are building blocks for your style. Once you find the perfect basics for you you can add on more “unique” pieces. When you have too many pieces that are just all over the place it’s hard to create outfits (I had this problem a lot). Hope this makes sense, and helps! ☺️✨
That is so true! I had this problem for so long but now I mainly own basics + really unique peaces and it is much easier to style outfits than when everything I owned had "personality" and matching was much more complicated.
You have no idea how much your videos means to me right now. After years of suffering from body shaming, I was stuck with my broad shoulder, thick thigh, and not know which body type I was. I only spend more time styling my clothes lately and your videos appeared on youtube suggestions as clutch help. Thank you very much for these wise words. I learned the joy and freedom of celebrating different styles and especially how to love my body.
Talking about fabrics, I feel like Polyester smells bad on me when I sweat, so I started avoiding all type of polyester or fabrics that have not a part of cotton on its composition.
I had cheap school trousers that were made form a high percentage of polyester and when I crossed my legs and uncrossed them the material smell was awful 🤢
polyester is really bad for the environment too. it’s actually plastic made into clothing. it contaminates our water too when we wash polyester clothes. so from now on i try to avoid it too.
I wanted to try the satin midi skirt trend, and I would think of a million reasons why not to try it, but I was constantly pinning it, so I tried it and love it! So experimenting with my style and the sizes in pants, definitely worth it! 😎👌🏼
Love the tip of not being afraid to size up and down! I used to be scared for no good reason to size up. Being a smaller size was so intwined with my self-identity 😂even if things were too tight! I also am so glad I no longer buy or keep things I don't fit into thinking I'll just work on fitting a smaller size in the future. 🤦🏻♀️I also recently ordered some things from Heavy Manners and love that they say "don't be afraid to size up" on all of their descriptions! I'm loving the very baggy trend these days too. ❤️
I love what you said about sizing up and finding balance in the fit of your clothes-especially for bottoms, I 100% agree and I think it makes your clothes look more expensive. You have such thoughtful style videos 💎
Mandy Waynick well to me it’s rare, i’ve never come across a fashion video where the person talking never made fun of people wearing or doing these things 🤷🏻♀️
I have broad shoulders with narrow hips and I truly didn’t know how to dress my body in my early 20s because my proportions looked “weird” in everything I wore 🤦🏽♀️ Edit: also I feel you on the culottes! I still love them but I own wayyyyyy too many
So agree with many points you made but I want to especially address the gold vs silver part. As someone who works in a jewelry store, I have more chances observing how each color(and rose gold) looks on people with different skin tone and under tone. I had always questioned the cold under tone with silver, and warm undertone with gold method, and the more people I see at work the more I find it doesn't work. So my suggestion would be don't get yourself restricted because of those rules. I've seen so many people who don't have a neutral under tone who can wear both gold and silver as well. There are different shades of gold, and if one doesn't work maybe try another one. The style of the jewelry also matters. Try different things. I've found out that when I wear silver, something big and bulky looks better than dainty pieces, and when I wear gold, it cannot be too yellow and it has to be very small and minimal.
I wouldn’t have a waist if it weren’t for your tips 😂 I’m only 4’10, and my waist is small, but my hips are super narrow. I can still incorporate your tips into my everyday and they all work amazingly well, even though our body types are quite different!
Gem If you’re asking me, I believe I would be considered straight as a pencil! I might be a tiny bit like an inverted triangle, but my shoulders aren’t broad enough (At least to my knowledge) Love that for myself 😂
Depends on what type garment, I think. Slim fitting T-shirts with a bit (like less than 10%) of lycra or spandex hold their shape better & don't get so stretched out. And I love loose-fitting linen/ hemp tunics and babydoll dresses bc they wear beautifully throughout the day. I don't iron anything, so it's not like starting with a firmly starched garment. Soft, easy vibes♡
One thing that helps is AIR DRYING anything with spandex (or really most fabrics, but especially those with spandex)- the heat from the dryer causes it to break down and lose its stretch. That's why new tight jeans fit all day but eventually start to bag at the knees by mid-afternoon.
Omg thats why i look like im wearing bags at the end of the day. My clothes stretch out. I have been so disappointed with some basic tops ts or tanks. Brand new i use it once and then I realize its bad quality and already removed the labels. Pls tell me where to buy high quality basics with stretch and keeing the shape.
Great video. One thing I love about fashion and style is that it's a journey. Shoot, I only started my style journey in March, and even now I'm looking at pieces I added when I got started thinking to myself, 'what was I thinking!' And it was all based on points you've made here: I wasn't conscientious of the fabric or the cut, and picked it because it was cheap and trendy. However, it was definitely fun to experiment with it, and fun to grab a little bit of everything and then see over time which items I gravitated towards the most. It's great knowing what we like and being selective and intentional with our choices as our fashion tastes develop. And I'll still take risks with those trendy items, but I move quicker now so I can make my decision within the store's return window.
Thank you for addressing the issue regarding loose fitting bottoms and thicker thighs. I am the same but sadly I don't have the option to tailor mine, so I mostly stick to skinny fit or loose ones with an elastic at the top.
I always completely tucked in my tops and wore high waisted skirts and pants, but eventually I realized how weird it looked because I have a very high waist. I switched to mid length shirts, mid waisted pants, and it’s better. I do sometimes lament the fact that I can’t partake in some trends but ah well
Love your tip with buying trousers oversized qnd getting it tailored! I haven't been feeling tight pants like before and definitely interested in a more comfy yet stylished style
This is so great! Especially the mens clothing, but I will say it's kind of annoying when everyone keeps buying larger sizes from thrift shops and then tailoring them down to fit 2 sizes smaller when there's precious little larger size clothes in second hand shops. Just something for people to keep in mind :)
This is so good. You are so on point. In search of the perfect jean that's all i keep purchasing. Now I have all these jeans but no tops or shoes to wear with them. Or like you if I find something I like I will purchase 10 of that same item and have no variety.
This video is such a breath of fresh air! I'm going on a mission to find some mens trousers and getting them altered to fit me. I even just googled some seamstress/tailors in my area....this could be a game changer.
Yeess omg I've recently started to buy pants 2-3 sometimes 4 sizes up and then I just fold 2 little sections on both sides at the top and I basically sinch the waist by sewing it or I use a belt to cinch on the ones I cant or dont want to sew👍
Woah. It’s like I knew i made these mistake but i never wanted to admit it. Now that you’ve enlightened me I will accept those mistakes and improve. Also, i love the way you say culottes.
Excuse me while I go get some oversized pants and tailor them at the waist. 😉 I cant believe I never thought of that! I'm the same size pants as you and have the same problem - always tight in the butt and thighs to fit my waist.
You have made highly good points which most of us generally ignore. You were soo lovely explaining these are just your opinions, not rules. Thank you sincerely.
Your advise is on point and very helpful. I am 54 and have just come to understand these rules. I am passing them on to my daughter so she can be spared the chaos of a cluttered wardrobe. I like what you said about overbuying a style. For me, I would just wear the one piece to death even though I had bought 3 more like it. It’s okay to buy and wear the one piece to death. I am now mindful of the joy I get in dressing up an enjoying it more. Thanks for a great video.
So true about the sizing thing. When I was younger I always tried to squeeze into the smallest size I could (shoes included! Yikes!). I love my comfy trousers these days. I belt them at the waist and let the fabric flow. They look much more chic and I dont feel like a sausage stuffed into a toosmall pair of skinny jeans!!!
Love love love the beautiful, sweet,gorgeous, and oh so calming sound of the birds in the background ❤🎵🎶🐦😍 And of course, thank you dear, so much for all the great tips!
AHHH the tip about jewelry... I've ALWAYS avoided gold anything and even choose not to buy handbags (or other accessories) that I like with gold accents because I never had gold jewelry to pair it with... but I've been wanting to experiment more lately!
I get that weird creasing in jeans when they are too big, I am almost 5’2 though. It is interesting how similar clothing issues occur for different reasons depending on a person’s height/body type. I also notice my less expensive jeans crease a little throughout the day.
I love that you use the word "balanced". Looking skinnier doesn't suit everyone. Sometimes you need to look bigger in some places for you to feel good!
Irrelevant but u have gorgeous eyes! Great video! I have always struggled with finding what suits my body and skin tone, still struggling but getting better at it
Experimenting is so important! Even if you think it's something ridiculous. One of my favorite outfits is a black over the knee dress with cargo skinny jeans. It sounds RIDICULOUS but it looks pretty nice and it makes me feel very badass. And that's the most important! If you wear clothes you really like they will make you happy. And happiness REALLY makes you look better for some reason.
I know what you mean about thick thighs. I get that crease a lot, but... Going up in a size works for you because you have wide shoulders. So loose pants balance your upper body. For me, I am a pear shape, and going up a size on the bottom makes my shape is even more unbalanced
i think experiment is the most important part ! i always felt like i was too fat, too curvy, too much breast, too tall...but now i'm starting to love myself and i love to try weird shits..sometimes turns out weird, sometimes turns out amazing
That jewelry bit got me. I wear a gold necklace (it's a religious thing) and it's stopping me from trying silver lol. One day, I will! Also, re undergarments, I've found that the right shade of nude bra makes the biggest difference! I got mine from Naja Co, they're perfectttt
Thanks for geat style tips. Mixing masculine and feminine clothes is very French. I spent the money and had Jennifer Butler style me. She totally changed me from severe Armani to more boho feminine. Instead of only gold jewelry, I now wear bronze and pewter, which are softer on me. My dry cleaners has a tailor so I can buy cheap vintage clothes which are better quality on Ebay and tailor them to fit.
love the point of exposing/ accentuating, instead of hiding. However its sooo sad that obviously, you cant expose certain parts. Like it would look so much better if I could show seem cleavace but its not accepted at my age/ in my area/ in society in general😫
I totally understand 😣 have you tried off-the-shoulder pieces? I feel as though you can achieve a modest, elegant and slightly sexy look with off-the-shoulder tops, without exposing the girls too much.
Gemary Thats a great idea, but sometimes, it can look so weird because it gives the girls a weird shape lol But you know what, I‘ll still try it out once more.😘
I agree with you, it took me a while to realise that just because it looks good on someone else, doesn’t mean it would look the same on me, and it’s okay - I shouldn’t feel bad about it, people have different proportions. I have used a lot of your tips for broad shoulders and they are helping me a lot. I used to feel bad about it - getting teased if I were a rugby player LOL
I love going to the mens section for a little browse after looking at the women's.Sometimes i find gems there that are more up my style than the womens section 😇💕💕
Gotta point this out.. you mentioned, mens wear. Don't skip the kids wear section either. the biggest size in kids wear is sometimes still too big, (i'm not tiny, 12-14 AU depending on the style/shop) they are usually a lot cheaper and are good for staples like plain jumpers etc. I shop in every section, mens, womens, boys, girls..
Hey Gemary! Love your videos- been a subscriber for a very long time. Just a suggestion, I feel your content is very well suited for UA-cam's new "chapter" feature where you can section out the video? You always have very organized videos and it would be even more helpful to be able to easily toggle back-and-forth between sections. Just a thought :)
Loved this video! We have similar body shapes *besides boob department (wish mine were smallerrrrr) so this was v helpful! Especially about trousers, the way pants fit (too tight in thigh but perfect on waist) and shopping mens' thrift! It's a treasure in there!
coming back here to say that i took your advice, i bought some oversized menswear pants, got a couple belts, focused more on sillouette and less on trying to appear smaller, accentuated my broad shoulders and cinched things at my waist, and my fashion has tremendously changed, and looks so GOOD now!!! i've never felt so confident before, and so comfortable in my skin. thank you for making this video!
This makes me so happy!! 🤍🤍🤍
Because I have broad shoulders, I can put on up to 25 pounds over my ideal weight and size (US size 8) and people tend not to notice the weight (it takes a long time for my hips to overtake my shoulders). Well, my hips have overtaken my shoulders (I'm 40 pounds up) and I miss those days. If you're blessed enough to have broad shoulders as a woman, you're blessed. It's a good fashion tip to focus on them.
Amazing
@@IExpectedBSJustNotThisMuchBS what do you mean? Like you gained weight and your hips look bigger now?? But you wish they were t as big now? Just trying to understand what you mean?
pro tip: If you think you can pull something off, you most probably actually can pull it off. It's all about the confidence.
How do you think Rihanna makes all these ridiculous clothes look good? She is obviously gorgeous, but what makes the look is her confidence. She just knows she looks good in whatever crazy look some her stylist or some designer put her in, and other people can sense that.
I literally always tell my friends this! They always say I can pull off looks that they can’t and I’m like have faith!!
Amen to that I ask a one of the girls if a orange lipstick and a all white outfit would look good on me she said no it would look bad ...I still went a head and bought and guess what it look Bomb I looked good
I always tell this a friend but she never believes me!
Sometimes I look at girls wearing cool things and think “she looks so cool” or “I wish I could do that.” So when I’m wearing something out of my comfort zone and worried that people will stare, I just tell myself they’re thinking the same things I do about strangers except about me lol
@@motivation310 that combo sounds amazing!
I love how positive this is! This advice is "look at your own body and make it work" instead of "do this to make your body look more conventionally attractive"
Thanks love! ❤️❤️
Yes agree
This is such a gorgeous video. The sound of the birds, her accent, the house in the background, the styling, everything is so beautiful.
Thank you so much!
I agree!! I want to know what city or country she is in so I can move there!
Who would have thought miami accent sounded nice for other nationalities... (here in Miami people don't really love our LatinX accent)
@@valen0225 wow you should encourage ppl to embrace thier culture n accent
I thought she was in Mexico.
Yo I'm feeling you on every. point. you made. Maybe it's being late 20s, being less afraid while also knowing your own style better.
Yes true
Another positive aspect of shopping the men`s section (in thrift stores) is that their clothes are often better quality like 100% Cotton, Wool, etc. Women`s clothes are more often mixed fibers or synthetic ones.
So true, especially basic t shirts and jumpers
Ture and I hate that for us
I feel so bad for younger people who need to thrift to maintain their style on a budget, because thrift stores now are full of crap from the 2000s, and the quality is awful. In the 90s and early 2000s, we would find amazing vintage clothes with very little effort... Great fabrics and quality. Even the synthetics were better quality. I remember getting rid of a vintage cashmere coat because I had too many nice vintage winter coats (and cashmere back then was a quality product, not the poorly milled, pilling quality that is sold ubiquitously now).
Petite women also shouldn't overlook the kid's section- there can be some surprisingly chic items and basics from there with more cropped proportions and a lower price! Kid's shoes are labeled a size and a half smaller than women's, so women up to a shoe size 8 1/2 can look in the children's section.
Also looking at the men's section can work well for many people. Depends on the fit but if you want a loose fitting white T-shirt grab a cheaper mens one and it will even be nicer than the women's shirt. There are a lot of things that work very well for people, going outside your gender, age and size can really work. If a brand has weird sizing maybe you need two sizes bigger but wear what suits you, not what the number says.
Yes! I am petite and I often shop from Zara kids section as they sometimes bring really good clothes there
How do you convert women’s size shoes to kids sizes?
@@gem6105 I know my family bases it on the length of the foot. So you can see the shoe size length for each size and measure your foot to find the correct one. Many sites will be useful for that, the measurement will be in cm or inches.
Gem I believe its 2 sizes smaller in kids. For example I wear a 6 in womens US but in kids I'd wear a 4.
Men’s clothing is often better materials & quality ❣️
I agree!! 🤍
And way more expensive :(
M V Not usually for basic items
So true! I am a 22year old lady but I love wearing my grandpa's trousers.
And they have proper pockets... 😀
Crop tops...I am in my forties and I just started wearing them since my teens. I do it tastefully with high waisted trousers and sometimes an open button down on top. I was scared to try this but I definitely have the body for it so why not. Lol. My newest addition are doc martens 🤣
I'm 31 and I'm so weary of crop tops, even though I like them and I def have the body for them. Also literally no one would guess that I'm in my early 30s, but my mom and sister always criticize me for wanting to try them and bring down my enthusiasm even when I find a pretty crop top to style. I should be stronger😩.
I was like that at your age but I had young and impressionable daughters. Plus I appear the same age as my oldest and I wanted to be respected as their mommy. My now older daughters find it cool to see their mom wearing this. I only show a sliver of skin though. Just enough to still feel classy. Try the aritzia brand Sunday best tank. It is what I have. A bit longer but still gives you the look. I wear this with high wasted trousers and Levi rib cage jeans. Try it girl. You are still young...do you!!
Regardless of age, and not to mention how young both of you still are, if something makes you look and feel good, go for it!
EP don't tell your mother and sis and just do it. Throw on the styles you enjoy and there are ways to wear them without feeling or looking teenage. In my generation they were not meant for teenagers anyway it was too adult, go figure. Once your family sees you looking nice their minds will open up. And either way you just may be the more stylish one out of your family members and you have your own style, it's ok to stand alone. That's also what trendsetters do.
Please remeber there is no right or wrong body for a specific type of clothing. If you like something piece and you feel good wearing it then you should wear it "fashion should be fun."
It’s so funny that the first thing you talk about is your shoulders, I too have broad shoulders that I try to hide, but the first thing I noticed about you, was that you had beautiful shoulders. Which made me realize that broad shoulders are not something to hide 🥰
I have broad shoulders, and items- tops, dresses- with a cinched waist do wonders tor my figure.
I have the same body too. I think we're soft natural in the Kibbe system.
It’s all about your posture!!
@@nna2852 so true! I need to work on my posture so bad 😂😂
the mens trousers is such a hack! Women's trousers are so expensive and I have a hard time finding them high enough in the waist.
I get it! I wouldnt buy any jeans that weren't skin tight skinnies because I thought any baggy leg looked bad. And now my most worn jeans are culottes, moms, wide legged and balloon.
@taЊa N. try the happy medium- Straight Leg jeans. I just bought a great pair of high waste, thin cut, full length straight leg jeans from Zara. They make my curves like an hour glass, and give an illusion of a couple extra inches of height (without heels) lol
I also recently made this transition, I have big hips and a smaller waist. I had the realization that A-line dresses look good on me, so maybe I can also find that silhouette with jeans and a shirt. I never felt quite right in a loose top and tight jeans.
Great idea
Another tip that I have that I think might be good is, you should have mostly basics.
Like for example a white shirt and good jeans. Basics are building blocks for your style. Once you find the perfect basics for you you can add on more “unique” pieces. When you have too many pieces that are just all over the place it’s hard to create outfits (I had this problem a lot). Hope this makes sense, and helps! ☺️✨
That is so true! I had this problem for so long but now I mainly own basics + really unique peaces and it is much easier to style outfits than when everything I owned had "personality" and matching was much more complicated.
the off shoulder top is SUCH a game changer for you. you look stunning!!
I have broad shoulders and thought off the shoulder stuff wouldn't suit me but now I see I should try it.
You have no idea how much your videos means to me right now. After years of suffering from body shaming, I was stuck with my broad shoulder, thick thigh, and not know which body type I was. I only spend more time styling my clothes lately and your videos appeared on youtube suggestions as clutch help. Thank you very much for these wise words. I learned the joy and freedom of celebrating different styles and especially how to love my body.
I have a silver and gold two toned watch and it allows me to mix gold and silver jewelry in a seamless put together looking way.
Talking about fabrics, I feel like Polyester smells bad on me when I sweat, so I started avoiding all type of polyester or fabrics that have not a part of cotton on its composition.
Polyester smells bad on EVERYBODY
I had cheap school trousers that were made form a high percentage of polyester and when I crossed my legs and uncrossed them the material smell was awful 🤢
Same!
polyester is really bad for the environment too. it’s actually plastic made into clothing. it contaminates our water too when we wash polyester clothes. so from now on i try to avoid it too.
@@M.1607-h9n thank you for this tip, ma'am
I wanted to try the satin midi skirt trend, and I would think of a million reasons why not to try it, but I was constantly pinning it, so I tried it and love it! So experimenting with my style and the sizes in pants, definitely worth it! 😎👌🏼
"Things that made me look like im just ready for a flood at all times " lol that killed me
😩😂
@@Gemaryermus i laughed so hard
When? I guess I missed it!
I came to find this comment!
Love the tip of not being afraid to size up and down! I used to be scared for no good reason to size up. Being a smaller size was so intwined with my self-identity 😂even if things were too tight! I also am so glad I no longer buy or keep things I don't fit into thinking I'll just work on fitting a smaller size in the future. 🤦🏻♀️I also recently ordered some things from Heavy Manners and love that they say "don't be afraid to size up" on all of their descriptions! I'm loving the very baggy trend these days too. ❤️
You’re a god send for the women with our shape! Lol
😂❤️❤️❤️ Thanks love!
Really helpful video! I agree - sizing up is the best. I simply won’t reach for anything tight.
This is so true! Watch this even though I'm not a similar shape hoping for tips, and also because it's just a nice video
She sure is.
@Alejandro Ascencio huh?
I love what you said about sizing up and finding balance in the fit of your clothes-especially for bottoms, I 100% agree and I think it makes your clothes look more expensive. You have such thoughtful style videos 💎
broad shoulder gang!!
This was the most practical inoffensive video on styling mistakes. Who could possibly be offended?? 🤷🏽♀️
Thank you!
Oh my gosh!! My trend is mom jeans! I tried one pair and now every time I go shopping I’m drawn to mom jeans 😫😂😂😂
Honestly, same 😩 I hope they’re here to stay!
Me too 🔥
Same❣️
Alejandro Ascencio ew
i love and admire how you talk about these things, you don’t shame people for doing any of that 🤍🤍. that’s rare to see.
i wishing you a good day. 💚
🤍🤍🤍
Is it really rare to see though, pretty much all videos I watch like this always put that kind disclaimer
Mandy Waynick well to me it’s rare, i’ve never come across a fashion video where the person talking never made fun of people wearing or doing these things 🤷🏻♀️
I love mixing metals. I was gifted a watch for my college graduation and it is gold and silver. So beautiful and versatile
Just stumbled across your channel and omg 🥺 I absolutely hate my broad shoulders but you are making me rethink my insecurities! You are stunning!
Aww thank you so much 🥺🤍
Girl, I like your shoulders :( they look so nice!!!
Aww thank you! 🥺❤️
your home seem so environment friendly with the bird chirping behind..
I noticed them too... very calming
I kind of think it might be added sound? Don’t know
I have broad shoulders with narrow hips and I truly didn’t know how to dress my body in my early 20s because my proportions looked “weird” in everything I wore 🤦🏽♀️
Edit: also I feel you on the culottes! I still love them but I own wayyyyyy too many
So agree with many points you made but I want to especially address the gold vs silver part.
As someone who works in a jewelry store, I have more chances observing how each color(and rose gold) looks on people with different skin tone and under tone. I had always questioned the cold under tone with silver, and warm undertone with gold method, and the more people I see at work the more I find it doesn't work.
So my suggestion would be don't get yourself restricted because of those rules.
I've seen so many people who don't have a neutral under tone who can wear both gold and silver as well. There are different shades of gold, and if one doesn't work maybe try another one. The style of the jewelry also matters. Try different things. I've found out that when I wear silver, something big and bulky looks better than dainty pieces, and when I wear gold, it cannot be too yellow and it has to be very small and minimal.
I wouldn’t have a waist if it weren’t for your tips 😂
I’m only 4’10, and my waist is small, but my hips are super narrow. I can still incorporate your tips into my everyday and they all work amazingly well, even though our body types are quite different!
Yay!! So happy they’ve worked for you! 🤍🤍🤍
Are you an inverted triangle?
Gem
If you’re asking me, I believe I would be considered straight as a pencil! I might be a tiny bit like an inverted triangle, but my shoulders aren’t broad enough (At least to my knowledge)
Love that for myself 😂
I like the idea to alter you clothes yourself. It is such creative thing to do, and nice hobby and skill to learn.
3:00 what kind of materials would work really well through the entire day?
cotton maybe?
Depends on what type garment, I think. Slim fitting T-shirts with a bit (like less than 10%) of lycra or spandex hold their shape better & don't get so stretched out. And I love loose-fitting linen/ hemp tunics and babydoll dresses bc they wear beautifully throughout the day. I don't iron anything, so it's not like starting with a firmly starched garment. Soft, easy vibes♡
@@hayleyb467 o thank you for your reply!
i thought she was going to explain what type of fabric works well too
One thing that helps is AIR DRYING anything with spandex (or really most fabrics, but especially those with spandex)- the heat from the dryer causes it to break down and lose its stretch. That's why new tight jeans fit all day but eventually start to bag at the knees by mid-afternoon.
Thank for talking about the sizing up tip you dont know how much i needed to hear that.
how do you keep the off the shoulder thing you do with cardigans from sliding off as you move around??
a big part of it is making sure that you’re using a cardigan that’s not too big!
You could try body tape
Omg thats why i look like im wearing bags at the end of the day. My clothes stretch out. I have been so disappointed with some basic tops ts or tanks. Brand new i use it once and then I realize its bad quality and already removed the labels. Pls tell me where to buy high quality basics with stretch and keeing the shape.
Great video. One thing I love about fashion and style is that it's a journey. Shoot, I only started my style journey in March, and even now I'm looking at pieces I added when I got started thinking to myself, 'what was I thinking!' And it was all based on points you've made here: I wasn't conscientious of the fabric or the cut, and picked it because it was cheap and trendy. However, it was definitely fun to experiment with it, and fun to grab a little bit of everything and then see over time which items I gravitated towards the most. It's great knowing what we like and being selective and intentional with our choices as our fashion tastes develop. And I'll still take risks with those trendy items, but I move quicker now so I can make my decision within the store's return window.
Thank you for addressing the issue regarding loose fitting bottoms and thicker thighs. I am the same but sadly I don't have the option to tailor mine, so I mostly stick to skinny fit or loose ones with an elastic at the top.
This is my favorite kind of video that you make, you always give such great advice! thanks!
Thank you!! ☺️🤍
OK last thing, I LOVE looking at the men's sections of stores! Especially at those really functional, local, work-wear stores.
I always completely tucked in my tops and wore high waisted skirts and pants, but eventually I realized how weird it looked because I have a very high waist. I switched to mid length shirts, mid waisted pants, and it’s better. I do sometimes lament the fact that I can’t partake in some trends but ah well
Love your tip with buying trousers oversized qnd getting it tailored!
I haven't been feeling tight pants like before and definitely interested in a more comfy yet stylished style
So glad you popped up on my recommended! We have similar body shapes, features and styles. Feel like I can learn a lot from your videos!
This is so great! Especially the mens clothing, but I will say it's kind of annoying when everyone keeps buying larger sizes from thrift shops and then tailoring them down to fit 2 sizes smaller when there's precious little larger size clothes in second hand shops. Just something for people to keep in mind :)
This is so good. You are so on point. In search of the perfect jean that's all i keep purchasing. Now I have all these jeans but no tops or shoes to wear with them. Or like you if I find something I like I will purchase 10 of that same item and have no variety.
Can you do a video on clothing materials and how they wear throughout the day? Example: materials that are more prone to wrinkling, etc
This video is such a breath of fresh air! I'm going on a mission to find some mens trousers and getting them altered to fit me. I even just googled some seamstress/tailors in my area....this could be a game changer.
Yeess omg I've recently started to buy pants 2-3 sometimes 4 sizes up and then I just fold 2 little sections on both sides at the top and I basically sinch the waist by sewing it or I use a belt to cinch on the ones I cant or dont want to sew👍
Woah. It’s like I knew i made these mistake but i never wanted to admit it. Now that you’ve enlightened me I will accept those mistakes and improve. Also, i love the way you say culottes.
literally my switch from just gold jewelry to silver was a game changer. now i wear silver usually more than gold because i love it so much
Excuse me while I go get some oversized pants and tailor them at the waist. 😉 I cant believe I never thought of that! I'm the same size pants as you and have the same problem - always tight in the butt and thighs to fit my waist.
You have made highly good points which most of us generally ignore. You were soo lovely explaining these are just your opinions, not rules. Thank you sincerely.
you opened my eyes to sizing up in pants an getting them tailored will def give that a go.
I'm so glad you are speaking from a Floridian stand point. The humidity and heat is real different out here!
The struggle 😩
Your advise is on point and very helpful. I am 54 and have just come to understand these rules. I am passing them on to my daughter so she can be spared the chaos of a cluttered wardrobe. I like what you said about overbuying a style. For me, I would just wear the one piece to death even though I had bought 3 more like it. It’s okay to buy and wear the one piece to death. I am now mindful of the joy I get in dressing up an enjoying it more. Thanks for a great video.
Could you find people with different body types and do another video like this, I’m a pear shape and it’d be sooooo nice to have a video like this
You have such big beautiful eyes 💓
Aww tysm 🥺🤍
You have such unique and chic style, i love it
Thank you so much love! 🤍🤍
“just ready for a flood at all times” 😂
😩😩🤍
So true about the sizing thing. When I was younger I always tried to squeeze into the smallest size I could (shoes included! Yikes!). I love my comfy trousers these days. I belt them at the waist and let the fabric flow. They look much more chic and I dont feel like a sausage stuffed into a toosmall pair of skinny jeans!!!
Always appreciate your tips and aesthetic😍
Thank you so much!! ☺️❤️❤️
Love love love the beautiful, sweet,gorgeous, and oh so calming sound of the birds in the background ❤🎵🎶🐦😍
And of course, thank you dear, so much for all the great tips!
I am gonna work on my styling keeping these tips in mind. Thank you Gemary for the valuable content!!
I think I'm gonna have to re watch this because I spent most of the time staring at your earrings 😭
AHHH the tip about jewelry... I've ALWAYS avoided gold anything and even choose not to buy handbags (or other accessories) that I like with gold accents because I never had gold jewelry to pair it with... but I've been wanting to experiment more lately!
I get that weird creasing in jeans when they are too big, I am almost 5’2 though. It is interesting how similar clothing issues occur for different reasons depending on a person’s height/body type. I also notice my less expensive jeans crease a little throughout the day.
I love that you use the word "balanced". Looking skinnier doesn't suit everyone. Sometimes you need to look bigger in some places for you to feel good!
u really look good in the straight leg jeans!! and in the ankle black pants, love how black looks on u
Please do more videos for women with broad shoulders!! I need that sooo much. I wear a lot of A line skirts and that helps a lot
Yes! So over the ankle length pants. It took me forever to find nice fitting full length jeans. Zara ftw 👍
this is such a gorgeous video, I'm in love: the birds singing in the background and your voice and so many amazing tips ☺️
Kindly consider putting inverted triangle body type to the title or description, would really help so many women.
Loved the video, great tips🙌🙌🙌
Irrelevant but u have gorgeous eyes!
Great video! I have always struggled with finding what suits my body and skin tone, still struggling but getting better at it
Aww thanks Love!! 🥺🤍
I bought the pack of headbands that you recommend and they are great! No headaches, and such a good deal! Thanks Gemary.
Yay!! so glad you like them! ☺️❤️
Experimenting is so important! Even if you think it's something ridiculous. One of my favorite outfits is a black over the knee dress with cargo skinny jeans. It sounds RIDICULOUS but it looks pretty nice and it makes me feel very badass.
And that's the most important! If you wear clothes you really like they will make you happy. And happiness REALLY makes you look better for some reason.
"ready for a flood all the time" that made my day =))) Very helpful video! thank you
I so resonate with buying pants above the ankle because I felt it makes me legs look thinner and longer, and buying things in the same style.
I know what you mean about thick thighs. I get that crease a lot, but... Going up in a size works for you because you have wide shoulders. So loose pants balance your upper body. For me, I am a pear shape, and going up a size on the bottom makes my shape is even more unbalanced
i think experiment is the most important part ! i always felt like i was too fat, too curvy, too much breast, too tall...but now i'm starting to love myself and i love to try weird shits..sometimes turns out weird, sometimes turns out amazing
That jewelry bit got me. I wear a gold necklace (it's a religious thing) and it's stopping me from trying silver lol. One day, I will!
Also, re undergarments, I've found that the right shade of nude bra makes the biggest difference! I got mine from Naja Co, they're perfectttt
Thanks for geat style tips. Mixing masculine and feminine clothes is very French. I spent the money and had Jennifer Butler style me. She totally changed me from severe Armani to more boho feminine. Instead of only gold jewelry, I now wear bronze and pewter, which are softer on me. My dry cleaners has a tailor so I can buy cheap vintage clothes which are better quality on Ebay and tailor them to fit.
Yeees girl, I've been waiting for you to post another video! I adore your style so much! Thank you!!! ❤️
Thank you so much 🤍🤍🤍
where is the wrap top from?!? 12:22
Literalmente, estoy en exactamente el mismo proceso que tu. Funciona para mi y me motiva mucho que lo compartieras ✨
love the point of exposing/ accentuating, instead of hiding. However its sooo sad that obviously, you cant expose certain parts. Like it would look so much better if I could show seem cleavace but its not accepted at my age/ in my area/ in society in general😫
I totally understand 😣 have you tried off-the-shoulder pieces? I feel as though you can achieve a modest, elegant and slightly sexy look with off-the-shoulder tops, without exposing the girls too much.
Gemary Thats a great idea, but sometimes, it can look so weird because it gives the girls a weird shape lol
But you know what, I‘ll still try it out once more.😘
Ayeee Miami reppin!! Could tell right away by your accent. Love the style of this video! New follower!
I agree with you, it took me a while to realise that just because it looks good on someone else, doesn’t mean it would look the same on me, and it’s okay - I shouldn’t feel bad about it, people have different proportions. I have used a lot of your tips for broad shoulders and they are helping me a lot. I used to feel bad about it - getting teased if I were a rugby player LOL
You better work those shoulders!!!! ☺️🤍🤍
I love going to the mens section for a little browse after looking at the women's.Sometimes i find gems there that are more up my style than the womens section 😇💕💕
Hi I am a broad shouldered gal too but I can’t wear off shoulder could you suggest other ways to look proportional with shoulders covered
I agree, I think cool tones look great on your skin tone!
I love this video 😢 The birds!!!! LOVE IT!
Thanks for not adding music. Background music is so overrated. This was great to watch.
btw what material usually works best throughout the day?
Gotta point this out.. you mentioned, mens wear. Don't skip the kids wear section either. the biggest size in kids wear is sometimes still too big, (i'm not tiny, 12-14 AU depending on the style/shop) they are usually a lot cheaper and are good for staples like plain jumpers etc. I shop in every section, mens, womens, boys, girls..
I GUFFAWED at “ready for a flood” because yes that is how I dress 😂😂😂
Hey Gemary! Love your videos- been a subscriber for a very long time. Just a suggestion, I feel your content is very well suited for UA-cam's new "chapter" feature where you can section out the video? You always have very organized videos and it would be even more helpful to be able to easily toggle back-and-forth between sections. Just a thought :)
Thanks dear, I didn’t even know about that feature! I’ll try it out 🤍🤍🤍
@@Gemaryermus Awesome! Happy to help :) Looking forward to your next video.
Loved this video! We have similar body shapes *besides boob department (wish mine were smallerrrrr) so this was v helpful! Especially about trousers, the way pants fit (too tight in thigh but perfect on waist) and shopping mens' thrift! It's a treasure in there!
Glad you found it helpful! ☺️🤍
I definitely need to experiment more, thank you for the vid!
omg this video inspired me like no other💞💞 i feel a little more confident already thank u