I mean this in the most respectful way possible Dade. I am a gay 25-year-old man and you are hot. Did not know you were trans as this is the first time I've seen your channel but that makes me respect you more. Happy for you going and living your life. You fucking rock mate. Edit: Did watch the full video, very real message.
@@ElectricDadeAs a 63 y.o. 🏳️🌈 man, I 💯% agree about how 🔥🔥🔥 you are. I've followed you from your YT debut 👏 👏 Thx always for you honesty, authenticity and transparency
What a day, vids from both Dade and Christian from Transam Journey. Sooo nice to see you and hear our shared truth. Especially laying in my airbnb in Athens 15 hours after my top-surgery. A tit like having an unexpected family visit ;) I'm 36 in 3 weeks, finally visibly maturing and loving it through and trough. May the strength be with us, beautiful tribe.
Cis gay guy here, I believe you are aging beautifully :) We're all in the process of getting older with each passing day and, Sir, you're like a fine wine, if I may say so :D Much much love xo
I'm 10 this month, actually. I've gone mostly bald, hairy AF body, and FAT as a 49 year old graduate student. I've never been this out of shape in my life, and I am STILL happier to wake up every morning and see myself as a man than I ever was in the 39 years before I transitioned. I couldn't have done anything I've done in the past 10 years in my birth body. Yeah, I'm an old, fat man - but I feel successful. I'm alive to tell the tale, and no one can take that from me. Thank you for making this video
I’m a cis Gay, and I lost most of my hair quite a few years ago - now I regularly shave the remnants and have a fully bald head. Apparently, I look better that way anyway😅
Thanks for this video, Dade. I'm in my mid-fifties and really appreciate the shout out to older guys. Believe me, we need to hear it sometimes. You look fantastic & I wish I was as fit as you are. T didn't age me, but it sure did fatten me up! 😂
I'm a gay cis man in his 40s and I think you look fantastic! My own ageing process is a challenge to me, honestly. I've been struggling with my stressful professional life always and I think this stress is what aged me the most. More than anything else. I'm lucky that I don't have kids as I think I couldn't teach them how to be stable in this stressful cruel society/world.
Oh yeah... I forgot to mention the stresses of work. That definitely ages people. I'm a cybersecurity engineer and work on the incident response team. It can be super stressful, so I understand what you are saying, my friend.
Hey Dade! I keep meaning to leave you a comment. I started watching your videos sometime in my late teens I think. I'm now in my 30s. I spent a lot of time as a young person watching videos from trans creators in the early days of youtube. I remember thinking I was just sooo open minded, definitely just trying to learn about other people, definitely don't find all these transition stories super relatable or anything... So yeah turns out I'm trans lol I wanted to thank you for putting yourself out here. You were one of the first trans people that I really knew about, and you made a real difference to me. Thank you for spending so much time educating, I know its not easy. I've now been out for about 7 years, although I came out bi quite a bit younger. My youngest sibling is non binary, and one of my nieces is bi, and both of them came to me to ask questions and help them figure stuff out, so thats a whole new generation of LGBTQ kids that were able to learn about themselves thanks to you. I guess youre kinda like their trans grandpa lol. I wanted you to know how much your videos have meant to me. And to thank you. You really changed my life. ❤
Hey, thanks so much for this message. I have to say I feel really honored to be part of your life in this digital way - especially for so long. It feels good to know these videos have mattered. I am glad you came to your truth, my friend! Also... in you 30's, huh? Creeping up on your badge, man!!!
I really needed this vid. I just turned 29 last month and I still have to remind myself that I am now growing up in the right body, just to lessen the anxiety about aging. I couldn't envision myself growing up as a man, and if I did try to picture myself in...I don't know 30 years, that person sure as hell ain't me. I love how you described how growing old as a trans person is a Badge of Honor. Thank you for this it's already helped me allot.
I think trans people are the strongest people on earth. As a gay man, I know the thrength it takes to deal with losing family, church and jobs. But I know all that is magnified for trans people. I really respect how strong and determined they are
I am always so blown away when people tell me they have been watching my stuff the whole time its been on YT. I feel like it's special somehow to share so much time with people. It feels truer than just a random video here and there. Thanks for passing 13 years with me!
I love you, man! Dade, you make a significantly positive difference in our lives as you boldly post your progress and verbalize all that we are all experiencing. You are appreciated so much!!
James in Australia here. This video came up in my UA-cam feed - my first thought before I watched the clip was “what a gorgeous man”. That’s it, not old or anything else. You look great. And well done to you sir for actually getting to experiencing aging, for all the reasons that you said. Sending you nothing but respect and good wishes from Downunder 🙃
As a 71 yr old lesbian …I am so in awe of my trans brothers for standing in their truth and honoring their Soul’s desire. Thank you, Dade, for your heartfelt and powerful words. I proudly stand with all of you guys! STAY STRONG!!!
As a 71 year old lesbian, I know you understand the battle. I know I was transman specific in this video, but please know how grateful that I am that women like you have stood in your truth for so many years. You are part of what paved the way for us, and I thank you.
As a trans man in my 20s it is so great seeing an older trans man. It shows us it is possible to grow old, that there's life ahead. And you look awesome by the way! Thank you so much for this, you're such an inspiration!
The reasons about being unable to envision yourself as a mother or envisioning growing old as a woman were big reasons that pushed me to transition as well. Imagining myself as a mother felt wrong, almost perverse, even though I wanted kids. I found myself envisioning myself as a father even before I transitioned. And trying to imagine myself getting older, growing into adulthood (I was in late high school and early college at the time) as a woman was this terrible void in my mind; I simply couldn't form an image of what that would look like. I couldn't imagine my life going forward, couldn't plan for the future. Now I can imagine myself easily as an old man, and I can imagine a future for myself. Transitioning cost me a lot, but I mean it literally when I say I couldn't imagine my life without it.
Well said once again, Dade. I turned 30 this year, and I have spent some time looking at myself in the mirror, in total awe that I look like a 30 year old man. I spent so many years wanting to just look like an average man, and now here I am. I'm bald, I've got a big mustache, I'm hairy all over - and I love it. I remember being online watching your videos and others videos over a decade ago and we all seemed so young. The first time I saw an "older" trans man it suddenly felt possible for me to grow into a man. We need to fight the idea that trans men are forever 13 year old boys, we are grown men with all of the benefits and side effects that come with that role in society.
I love this comment and I could not agree more. While I get it, I hate that so many of us drop from visibility when we get older. We need to show what maturing looks like and that our existence is not a passing, pubescent whim.
Yes that was one of the things that really helped me when I was questioning. Imagining myself aging as a woman was horrible where imagining myself aging as a man felt totally fine
Thank you, brother. I transitioned because I couldn't stand to age as my grandmother. I wanted to be a little old man shuffling around the house. I got my wish, I almost didn't make it. I transitioned at 52 and I'm 60. Whatever happens from here, is icing on the cake. Thank you for posting this, Dade.
Hey Earl! So good to hear from you. Hope you are well? You, Dade and Stine were my "go to guys" and figuratively "gave me the balls" to transition in my 50's. Thankyou again and always
You have explained so much so eloquently. As a 63 year old trans man I certainly relate to every single word that you said. I thank you for this beautiful video. I've always been a big fan of yours and this video is one of the best one yet. Thank for all that you share.
We are all aging...it's inevitable. I think you look super good!! I'm a middle-aged mom of 2 and I'm letting my hair grow gray. I do try to take care of my face, but didn't start that til I was 43 and had 100lb weightloss that gave me some deep lines. I'm trying to accept it as a part of life, even the knee pain lol
I don't have the knee pain but I do feel like various parts of my body just feel bad. Every time something else starts to hurt I just laughingly say "well, that's my new shoulder", or whatever other part is the issue, lol.
I'm 67, Trans man, and I was always a dad to my kids, yes I birthed them only because that was expected of me growing up, not something I wanted to do. I never was a "mom" and was frustrated much of the time. Now with the blessing of medical intervention in transitioning, I look and feel as I should have years ago. I finally fit the life with them and myself that I was meant to be. I am so grateful to be able to grow older in my male form. It is so much more comfortable and suits me as their dad, grandpa and great grandpa, and our relationship has grown closer as a result. BTW I'm losing my hair, growing hair in places that is insane and have an average dad bod! LOL I love your content, been following you for a while.
Dude that's so heart warming! Congrats on being a dad/grandpa/great grandpa! I'm a young Trans Man and I have been socially transitioned for 1/2 a year now and I got to say it's never felt so right to be an uncle. I don't feel like I'm pretending anymore and frustrated. It's incredible. I want to stick around and grow old in my new body. Grilling and chasing my grandkids 😆. But it's fun to imagine. Thank you for your comment it brings me so much joy 💙
Bravo for you, Dade! Your video popped up in my feed for the first time and I am blown away! It doesn't take much to see that you're an amazing man...thoughtful, kind, intelligent, wise, and strong. You have a bright light! Thank you for sharing it with the world. You are far from an abomination (as one person has posted here). On the contrary...I've no doubt that you are a blessing to your family and to all who know you. I am a 66 year old Gay cisman and it is an honor to call you a brother. I've just subscribed so I can follow your journey and cheer you on. You are awesome!
I'm glad I came across your videos ages ago - down to earth, thoughtful, and kind. Almost nine years into my own journey the only thing I miss is the hair. On my head :D
Well put, as always... Of course you are entitled to your own opinion of yourself, but I think you look fantastic... Probably the fittest and best-looking dad at those games. Thank you and Take Care !
I don’t know why you have tears in your eyes, but I do know the sort of weight or relief or sorrow that puts them there. I am here, and as much as I can, I understand.
What an amazingly eloquent and inspirational video. I salute you...and btw, you are gorgeous, and ageing so beautifully. Love, peace and respect to you ❤
This is so incredible! I love your heart and courage and what you offer the profoundly beautiful and wonderful trans community. I hope more and more of the world will come to embrace you all and take in the gifts trans men and women offer humanity. Thank you all! ❤
Great having you back and great topic. Thankyou always for insightful, inspiring and wise content. I'm 57, celebrated 6 years on T a week ago and top surgery 2 years before that. So I've pretty much only known my "trans body" as an older man. Yip, receding grey hair, middle age "spread" & not quite the way I've thought about it my whole life..but I'm an aging man thank god and that sometimes is enough. T makes me stronger and I have more stamina - which is hugely helpful for my job & I have a body I can now look at in a mirror. So, better late than never!!! Wish I'd had the courage and known how relatively "easy" TRT was to start. Like you, could not imagine my self pregnant/as a mother or an "old lady". So to older trans guys, its never too late, to younger trans guys who get to transition much earlier - celebrate and look after your self and your bodies. Too few of us get to be old, let alone in the bodies we want or deserve. As you so well remind us, aging is more than a celebration of resilience and sheer survival
This is the first of your content I’m seeing but that point of aging is insightful and true for many in the queer community and especially Trans individual’s experiences. So wear that badge with honor❤ As a gay man entering my 30s this year, I’ve always struggled with my attraction for specific male physique and what my genetics are able to allow me look and the aging process doesn’t help. Respectfully you are one sexy man so I appreciate the video style but thank you for sharing your reflection on age.
You were one of the first trans men I came across around 10 years ago I am now 5 years on T and had top surgery. Thank you for your visibility I don’t know if I would have ever started my transition if it wasn’t for people like you , thank you 😊
What a beautiful, powerful and empowering response. More than a response: a Manifesto. A Manifesto that is life-affirming, enlightened and wise and that sheds light on our collective path out of hate and political persecution.
Thanks for sharing this!! It’s a shame you have to defend yourself against ignorance and stupidity. As a gay man I totally understand! BTW, you look incredible, own it and be proud of it!
You look absolutely amazing! (And respectfully, quite the DILF, now and for years to come. 🙂) I think we all, as we age, experience changes we didn't quite expect. And you are a person who is so very honest and thoughtful with yourself and others. Very impressive in my book.
I just discovered your channel. I’m speaking very honestly. You look better now than you ever looked before. If you’re worried about aging or getting gray hair, you shouldn’t be. I’m a gay man and I noticed how many other gay men say the same thing about you on here. We have good taste, and you’re working it! Your journey is inspiring and you should be a role model for all trans teens or kids who feel alone and hopeless. It’s generous and kind of you to share so many deeply personal and private things about your life. All best regards. Keep doing what you’re doing! 👍👍👍👍👍 😂😂😂😂🎉🎉
I;m a sis gay man and I love my Daddy phase. Aging is natural and normal and your journey is no different from mine. Keep on being proud of your journey my man!
Well said! This the first video I’ve watched about the trans community where I haven’t come away feeling attacked, yelled at or made felt like I am transphobic when I’m not! I honestly believe trans men are much better ambassadors for the community than trans women!
Well said! Yes, the kids and bills will age you, but they have nothing on office politics and the toll they can take on more than just your physical appearance. You look great, by the way. I can't wait for my first greys. I'm going to rock the hell out of the salt n pepper look, as do you! ✌️
Great video as always, Dade. I started testosterone 11 years ago when I was 19 and it always filled me with hope seeing trans men who were older than me, in their 30s and 40s and beyond, looking their age (although it was rare to see anyone older than late 30s on youtube at the time). It reassured me that I could age in a body congruent with my brain's image of it, but more importantly, it reassured me that as trans people it was possible to keep growing older and thriving in life as ourselves despite all the difficulties society throws at us. It's a joy to be able to keep growing and to age in a body that feels right. I'm not "looking forward" to my hairline receding, but I sure am looking forward to being alive to see it.
I'm challenging you 😊 I've watched all of your videos. I have, I do, and I probably always will feel like you are a great person for others who are experiencing a similar life to turn to and not feel so alone. I know you are very busy with life lol. But it would be great if you would make more videos. You're a beacon.
I want to make more videos. I can't say I feel like a beacon, but I feel like people (in general) sharing their perspectives and stories is really important. Making these videos is really important to me. The last one I made was five months ago... believe it or not that was the last time I was alone! I look forward to figuring out how to have a more balanced life. It would help if I were not so private. I don't make these while my family is at home, lol. They just get up in my business and want to watch. Then I feel weird about it. On a side note, thanks for watching all my videos. You are very kind and I appreciate you for following for so long, my friend.
Thank you, today I really needed to hear this, from someone who actually does get how hard things can be and continues. However, at the same time, I can’t express enough, just how truly grateful I am to be able to age in this renewed body and still on the journey to fully transitioning. I would love to share my journey, but I would have to write the book first…💝🌈😉 Cheers for now &Thanks again for sharing Jeffree
I have lived 21 years as a female. I'm aging lovely. I haven't been beaten or killed. I will admit it was hard 20 years ago. But trust and believe Today's people have far more rights than we had years ago. Stay strong people.
I could not agree more. We own so much to the people that came before us. Still, the current struggles are also real and valid. Someday, hopefully, no one will have it harder than the other.
I think I’ve been following you since the beginning. Now I’m 11 years on T and right there aging with you. I agree that it’s awesome. I feel so good about the man I am. When I was a kid I thought a lot about having such an unfortunate name on my headstone one day. I’m so glad to not think about that anymore. Aging is a gift. Especially for us. Thanks for this
I will never forget, as a child, the time when ONE single person in my life, a teacher, told me I 'couldn't sing and was so bad at singing I couldn't be in the Christmas show at school. That ONE person changed my life...and I never sang again. Now that I'm older, I look back on that awful experience and realize the loss of pure joy that was taken away from me with one single comment. I still get angry with myself just thinking about how I let her define me. I certainly don't compare it with your situation, but the point is, never let someone destroy who you are. They are not smarter than you, better than you, or even a kind person. They are nothing to you. They mean nothing to you. They are completely out of the world you live in, so leave them there. If I only knew then what I know now. Aging IS good...aging is wisdom. Best regards, Dade. 🥰
I understand this SO MUCH. You're the only other person I've ever heard this from. I started my transition at 34 because the older I got, the harder it was for me to envision the rest of my life in the wrong body. Most especially, trying to envision myself as an old woman. It was wrong. Everything was wrong.
Dade, you may be ageing, like we all do, but you're still a hot, handsome man dammit! I think engaging with life with a consistently positive attitude is the tricky bit when it comes to getting older and staying in synch.
Ironically, it's also about trying to find a way of transitioning into a new mindset that embraces change without disconnecting totally with your past experience. I think in a way, it's like trying to see (and maintain) the bigger picture, without losing the attention to the smaller details that can life so rewarding. Thank you for a thought-provoking and insightful video - and opening a tiny window into your life.
As always, well put and spot on Dade! We are not immortal beings; we were not meant to stay or look young forever. Aging is a badge of honor that not everyone gets to experience. Be grateful and enjoy every age/moment of your life.
As someone who didn't transition until I was older, I agree that the thought of aging in the wrong body is beyond horrifying. Dysphoria was a daily torment. Glad you brought this up.
I had an orchiectomy and take estrogen as HRT. I still look like a boyish twink and I'm nearly 50. I haven't gotten a gray hair since I started HRT. I however present as male with male clothing. Many transwomen look young since their natal female counterparts lose their estrogen in 40's and 50's. I don't plan on aging and still get "buddy" when I go to the gas station. Remember those days! I had to lie and say that I wanted to be a woman just to get medical treatment and I don't regret anything. I still have my stick but had to get rid of testosterone as I couldn't stand aging under my natal testosterone. There is shame in growing old....for me. Others have nasty names for me because of the way I present and advocate and it begins with "p". Richie Heron and Alexander L look young as well but they say they are victims of trans-medicine. If I look young and embrace it, that's a big problem for them because I'm using gender medicine to hold onto my male youth. I think eunuchs/adult boys are going to be the next phase of the non-binary expression. And the fit is going to hit the shan like it did for Elliot Page who played it up a bit. Imagine being a natal male and doing that.
I’m 21 and have been on T for 3 years, and I’m so excited to age as a man. I couldn’t imagine myself being an adult when I was younger and now I’m living my adult life with big and exciting goals. I feel so lucky to be getting to this point and older
9:28 My thoughts are weird, but: (cis male) Ever since I was a kid, I've been wondering what sorts of problems will be mine as I age. I was always treated like a kid, but I was always listening to the things adults said to each other that gave me clues about life. (Tangent: I recently rediscovered, I seem to have a sense of humor much in common with The Dick Van Dyke Show. It was one of many shows I watched, growing up lol) I have begun to deal with some of those problems and that child mind of mine is quite satisfied, already, to have some of the answer. I have some time left in me, too, tho; I'll surely be adding to the list lol 💙
Can't say it enough, you are a beautiful amazing person. I remember when I first realized what trans was and that that was me, I found your channel and it helped me to make the decision to transition. Best decision of my life. Thank you for putting yourself out there. I'm only a few years younger than you, both actual age and transition age. 39, and 8 years on T. You inspired me and still do to this day. I don't hide that I'm trans, and when it comes up I share it just as you do. It makes me feel good to know I can change people's perspectives on trans people. And the ones I can't...fuck them, lol.
Glad to hear from you again Dade. You're one of the few I look up as role models for almost a decade. Even though I am not middle aged yet, I completely understand what you're referring to. Still facing hell where I come from but given over time things have been easier. Given the fact most of us don't even make it to this point, is a literal privilege to be here today. More than a badge of honor to live and age. Btw you've aged like wine :-) Stay strong
I am nowhere near as far along as you are (I start T in a week and a half and I'm only eighteen lol), but you're such a huge inspiration. That part where you say you can't envision aging into an elder woman nor can you envision taking on the role of a mother hit me hard. I've always wanted to be a father as an adult since I was a little little kid.. And you seem like a great one. Being present for them and introspective overall are both the qualities of both the greatest fathers and men. Also, I wouldn't get so down on yourself about your physique. Sure, you're not at your prime anymore and you have other responsibilities now, but you look great, man. I'd say your years of being fit still shows. It also brings me comfort to know I can grow old as a masculine man with a stable wife and kids, since that's all I really want out of life. Thank you for your example, paps.
I’m a gay man that has followed you for years. I remember watched you going through your last surgery. If you’ve aged, dammit, I’ve aged with you. Why anyone would think forever young was real must live on another earth apparently. To me, you don’t look much different than you did years ago. And still looking like the hot man you are. Keep doing what you’re doing just as you are doing it. Because something is definitely right.
I just turned 46 Mrch 3rd. As a teen I thought of suicide so many times. I lost my hair early after hormones. The men on my mom side go bald. I got hair on my body before my face did since my Dad was hairy.
I've been following you for 10 years and I admire you for always speaking your truth. This is so encouraging to me as a 71 yr old trans man. YES, we are still here and vital! So I look like what I envisioned from transitioning? No, but I look like a man my age and as you said, I could not see myself growing old in the other body. Thank you for being an inspiration!
That comment also strikes me as "terminally online". Like their perception of aging has been completely warped by social media gurus and celebrities, so they needed some special explanation when they saw a normal person aging normally. 🤷♂
I mean this in the most respectful way possible Dade. I am a gay 25-year-old man and you are hot. Did not know you were trans as this is the first time I've seen your channel but that makes me respect you more. Happy for you going and living your life. You fucking rock mate.
Edit: Did watch the full video, very real message.
You are very kind, my friend. Thanks for stopping by and being rad. You, too, rock!
WOW you pervert
As a 24 year old gay guy I respectfully agree to that
As a 63 y.o. 🏳️🌈 man, I 💯% agree. 🔥🔥🔥 I've followed @electricdade from his YT debut 👏 👏
@@ElectricDadeAs a 63 y.o. 🏳️🌈 man, I 💯% agree about how 🔥🔥🔥 you are. I've followed you from your YT debut 👏 👏 Thx always for you honesty, authenticity and transparency
Wow Thank you Dade this video really hit home. Growing old is a badge of honour!!
Not in the gay community.
What a day, vids from both Dade and Christian from Transam Journey. Sooo nice to see you and hear our shared truth. Especially laying in my airbnb in Athens 15 hours after my top-surgery. A tit like having an unexpected family visit ;) I'm 36 in 3 weeks, finally visibly maturing and loving it through and trough. May the strength be with us, beautiful tribe.
Happy healing, man!!!
You look good. You are definitely in the top 10% of the population.
Cis gay guy here, I believe you are aging beautifully :) We're all in the process of getting older with each passing day and, Sir, you're like a fine wine, if I may say so :D Much much love xo
I'm 10 this month, actually. I've gone mostly bald, hairy AF body, and FAT as a 49 year old graduate student. I've never been this out of shape in my life, and I am STILL happier to wake up every morning and see myself as a man than I ever was in the 39 years before I transitioned. I couldn't have done anything I've done in the past 10 years in my birth body. Yeah, I'm an old, fat man - but I feel successful. I'm alive to tell the tale, and no one can take that from me. Thank you for making this video
You and I can be old, fat, and successful together, lol!
I’m a cis Gay, and I lost most of my hair quite a few years ago - now I regularly shave the remnants and have a fully bald head. Apparently, I look better that way anyway😅
Yes the point about so many of us never getting the opportunity to grow old really hit home and made me grateful. Thanks Dade.
Thanks for this video, Dade. I'm in my mid-fifties and really appreciate the shout out to older guys. Believe me, we need to hear it sometimes. You look fantastic & I wish I was as fit as you are. T didn't age me, but it sure did fatten me up! 😂
T tries to fatten me up daily, lol.
So how come e does the same for trans fems? I'd dump this one on age.
@@ElectricDadeThank you for keeping this project up till now.
I'm a gay cis man in his 40s and I think you look fantastic! My own ageing process is a challenge to me, honestly. I've been struggling with my stressful professional life always and I think this stress is what aged me the most. More than anything else. I'm lucky that I don't have kids as I think I couldn't teach them how to be stable in this stressful cruel society/world.
Oh yeah... I forgot to mention the stresses of work. That definitely ages people. I'm a cybersecurity engineer and work on the incident response team. It can be super stressful, so I understand what you are saying, my friend.
I don’t know what they’re talking about. You were and still are one of the most attractive men I’ve seen.
Hey Dade! I keep meaning to leave you a comment.
I started watching your videos sometime in my late teens I think. I'm now in my 30s. I spent a lot of time as a young person watching videos from trans creators in the early days of youtube. I remember thinking I was just sooo open minded, definitely just trying to learn about other people, definitely don't find all these transition stories super relatable or anything...
So yeah turns out I'm trans lol
I wanted to thank you for putting yourself out here. You were one of the first trans people that I really knew about, and you made a real difference to me. Thank you for spending so much time educating, I know its not easy.
I've now been out for about 7 years, although I came out bi quite a bit younger. My youngest sibling is non binary, and one of my nieces is bi, and both of them came to me to ask questions and help them figure stuff out, so thats a whole new generation of LGBTQ kids that were able to learn about themselves thanks to you. I guess youre kinda like their trans grandpa lol.
I wanted you to know how much your videos have meant to me. And to thank you. You really changed my life.
❤
Hey, thanks so much for this message. I have to say I feel really honored to be part of your life in this digital way - especially for so long. It feels good to know these videos have mattered. I am glad you came to your truth, my friend! Also... in you 30's, huh? Creeping up on your badge, man!!!
I really needed this vid. I just turned 29 last month and I still have to remind myself that I am now growing up in the right body, just to lessen the anxiety about aging. I couldn't envision myself growing up as a man, and if I did try to picture myself in...I don't know 30 years, that person sure as hell ain't me. I love how you described how growing old as a trans person is a Badge of Honor. Thank you for this it's already helped me allot.
Handsome as always❤
I think trans people are the strongest people on earth. As a gay man, I know the thrength it takes to deal with losing family, church and jobs. But I know all that is magnified for trans people. I really respect how strong and determined they are
We are all fighting the same fight, my friend. Our losses all hurt, and hurt is hurt. There is not comparing, it is all valid.
And housing. Housing discrimination and loss is a real thing.
Just had to tell you, you've been an inspiration to me for 13 years. Thank you!
I am always so blown away when people tell me they have been watching my stuff the whole time its been on YT. I feel like it's special somehow to share so much time with people. It feels truer than just a random video here and there. Thanks for passing 13 years with me!
And I echo your words 100% !
I love you, man! Dade, you make a significantly positive difference in our lives as you boldly post your progress and verbalize all that we are all experiencing. You are appreciated so much!!
James in Australia here. This video came up in my UA-cam feed - my first thought before I watched the clip was “what a gorgeous man”. That’s it, not old or anything else. You look great. And well done to you sir for actually getting to experiencing aging, for all the reasons that you said. Sending you nothing but respect and good wishes from Downunder 🙃
“Priorities shift”. So true! And also there is no shame in finding a bigger purpose in life than the pursuit of an ‘ideal’ body.
As a 71 yr old lesbian …I am so in awe of my trans brothers for standing in their truth and honoring their Soul’s desire. Thank you, Dade, for your heartfelt and powerful words. I proudly stand with all of you guys! STAY STRONG!!!
As a 71 year old lesbian, I know you understand the battle. I know I was transman specific in this video, but please know how grateful that I am that women like you have stood in your truth for so many years. You are part of what paved the way for us, and I thank you.
You are an abomination
Be gone, little doggie, be gone. @@bernardsebranek1963
@@bernardsebranek1963Look in the mirror.
@bernardsebranek1968 why? It's people like you, is why there is so much hate in this world.
As a trans man in my 20s it is so great seeing an older trans man. It shows us it is possible to grow old, that there's life ahead. And you look awesome by the way! Thank you so much for this, you're such an inspiration!
The reasons about being unable to envision yourself as a mother or envisioning growing old as a woman were big reasons that pushed me to transition as well. Imagining myself as a mother felt wrong, almost perverse, even though I wanted kids. I found myself envisioning myself as a father even before I transitioned. And trying to imagine myself getting older, growing into adulthood (I was in late high school and early college at the time) as a woman was this terrible void in my mind; I simply couldn't form an image of what that would look like. I couldn't imagine my life going forward, couldn't plan for the future. Now I can imagine myself easily as an old man, and I can imagine a future for myself. Transitioning cost me a lot, but I mean it literally when I say I couldn't imagine my life without it.
You and me, man... we are on the same page. That is exactly how I feel.
Well said once again, Dade. I turned 30 this year, and I have spent some time looking at myself in the mirror, in total awe that I look like a 30 year old man. I spent so many years wanting to just look like an average man, and now here I am. I'm bald, I've got a big mustache, I'm hairy all over - and I love it.
I remember being online watching your videos and others videos over a decade ago and we all seemed so young. The first time I saw an "older" trans man it suddenly felt possible for me to grow into a man. We need to fight the idea that trans men are forever 13 year old boys, we are grown men with all of the benefits and side effects that come with that role in society.
I love this comment and I could not agree more. While I get it, I hate that so many of us drop from visibility when we get older. We need to show what maturing looks like and that our existence is not a passing, pubescent whim.
Yes that was one of the things that really helped me when I was questioning. Imagining myself aging as a woman was horrible where imagining myself aging as a man felt totally fine
age?? this guy looks stunning!
i agree that aging as a trans person is a privilege. shout out to all my trans bros out there
Beautiful, poignant message delivered by a good looking dude. Keep on rocking!
Aged to perfection. Daddy is smoking 🥵
Thank you, brother. I transitioned because I couldn't stand to age as my grandmother. I wanted to be a little old man shuffling around the house. I got my wish, I almost didn't make it. I transitioned at 52 and I'm 60. Whatever happens from here, is icing on the cake. Thank you for posting this, Dade.
Hey man. Thanks for stoping by. I always love seeing you on FB too. I love you aesthetic and I love your art!
Hey Earl! So good to hear from you. Hope you are well?
You, Dade and Stine were my "go to guys" and figuratively "gave me the balls" to transition in my 50's. Thankyou again and always
@EarlCornbread You are another example of a fine, aged-like-expensive wine man!!
You have explained so much so eloquently. As a 63 year old trans man I certainly relate to every single word that you said. I thank you for this beautiful video. I've always been a big fan of yours and this video is one of the best one yet. Thank for all that you share.
You look awesome. I am 63, queer male, and have just embraced my aging and taking care of myself better than ever.
You still look better than most men your age. Keep up the good work. You are an inspiration to so many people.
OMG, you transitioned?! If you had not said d it I would had never guessed. Great, you are a handsome man.
You are looking great man❤
We are all aging...it's inevitable. I think you look super good!! I'm a middle-aged mom of 2 and I'm letting my hair grow gray. I do try to take care of my face, but didn't start that til I was 43 and had 100lb weightloss that gave me some deep lines. I'm trying to accept it as a part of life, even the knee pain lol
I don't have the knee pain but I do feel like various parts of my body just feel bad. Every time something else starts to hurt I just laughingly say "well, that's my new shoulder", or whatever other part is the issue, lol.
@@ElectricDade I went to the doctor with arm pain and he said "That's tennis elbow, welcome your mid-forties" haha
I'm 67, Trans man, and I was always a dad to my kids, yes I birthed them only because that was expected of me growing up, not something I wanted to do. I never was a "mom" and was frustrated much of the time. Now with the blessing of medical intervention in transitioning, I look and feel as I should have years ago. I finally fit the life with them and myself that I was meant to be. I am so grateful to be able to grow older in my male form. It is so much more comfortable and suits me as their dad, grandpa and great grandpa, and our relationship has grown closer as a result.
BTW I'm losing my hair, growing hair in places that is insane and have an average dad bod! LOL
I love your content, been following you for a while.
Dads birth kids too. I am so happy you are here and made it and helped pave the way for the rest of us. Much love and respect, my friend.
Dude that's so heart warming! Congrats on being a dad/grandpa/great grandpa! I'm a young Trans Man and I have been socially transitioned for 1/2 a year now and I got to say it's never felt so right to be an uncle. I don't feel like I'm pretending anymore and frustrated. It's incredible. I want to stick around and grow old in my new body. Grilling and chasing my grandkids 😆. But it's fun to imagine. Thank you for your comment it brings me so much joy 💙
@@Jack-rf6mw thank you, good luck and enjoy the process.
Thanks Dade, just turned 40 and so happy to be able to do so the way I am today.
Bravo for you, Dade! Your video popped up in my feed for the first time and I am blown away! It doesn't take much to see that you're an amazing man...thoughtful, kind, intelligent, wise, and strong. You have a bright light! Thank you for sharing it with the world. You are far from an abomination (as one person has posted here). On the contrary...I've no doubt that you are a blessing to your family and to all who know you. I am a 66 year old Gay cisman and it is an honor to call you a brother. I've just subscribed so I can follow your journey and cheer you on. You are awesome!
You are very kind. As a guy a bit older, I know you understand the battles all too well.
@@ElectricDade Indeed I do. It's all part of life's journey, as you stated so well.😊
I'm glad I came across your videos ages ago - down to earth, thoughtful, and kind.
Almost nine years into my own journey the only thing I miss is the hair. On my head :D
Well put, as always...
Of course you are entitled to your own opinion of yourself, but I think you look fantastic...
Probably the fittest and best-looking dad at those games. Thank you and Take Care !
This dude is ageing beautifully into a Silver Fox Level of Hotness
Dude looks good
You look amazing
I had tears in my eyes listening to your video. Thank you so much Dade ❤
I don’t know why you have tears in your eyes, but I do know the sort of weight or relief or sorrow that puts them there. I am here, and as much as I can, I understand.
This concept of "eternal youth" has persisted for millenium. It's not healthy. Healthy is being the best you that you can be... for your time of life.
What an amazingly eloquent and inspirational video.
I salute you...and btw, you are gorgeous, and ageing so beautifully.
Love, peace and respect to you ❤
This is so incredible! I love your heart and courage and what you offer the profoundly beautiful and wonderful trans community. I hope more and more of the world will come to embrace you all and take in the gifts trans men and women offer humanity. Thank you all! ❤
You are kind, and sweet, and your comment is very much appreciated by every trans person who will read it.
Great having you back and great topic. Thankyou always for insightful, inspiring and wise content.
I'm 57, celebrated 6 years on T a week ago and top surgery 2 years before that.
So I've pretty much only known my "trans body" as an older man.
Yip, receding grey hair, middle age "spread" & not quite the way I've thought about it my whole life..but I'm an aging man thank god and that sometimes is enough. T makes me stronger and I have more stamina - which is hugely helpful for my job & I have a body I can now look at in a mirror.
So, better late than never!!!
Wish I'd had the courage and known how relatively "easy" TRT was to start.
Like you, could not imagine my self pregnant/as a mother or an "old lady".
So to older trans guys, its never too late, to younger trans guys who get to transition much earlier - celebrate and look after your self and your bodies.
Too few of us get to be old, let alone in the bodies we want or deserve.
As you so well remind us, aging is more than a celebration of resilience and sheer survival
Wise words and well said!
As a Transgender Woman I support Transman Brothers. You Go Dave.
This is the first of your content I’m seeing but that point of aging is insightful and true for many in the queer community and especially Trans individual’s experiences. So wear that badge with honor❤
As a gay man entering my 30s this year, I’ve always struggled with my attraction for specific male physique and what my genetics are able to allow me look and the aging process doesn’t help.
Respectfully you are one sexy man so I appreciate the video style but thank you for sharing your reflection on age.
You were one of the first trans men I came across around 10 years ago I am now 5 years on T and had top surgery. Thank you for your visibility I don’t know if I would have ever started my transition if it wasn’t for people like you , thank you 😊
Men mature as time goes on! I feel like I don’t look like a MAN and won’t until I’m 40 lol
What a beautiful, powerful and empowering response. More than a response: a Manifesto. A Manifesto that is life-affirming, enlightened and wise and that sheds light on our collective path out of hate and political persecution.
what a beautiful expressive face and soothing voice
Well I think you look incredible, your progress has clearly been the desired outcome, and I'm elated about your success and authenticity. Great video!
Well you look good very male appearing glad your happy.
Thanks for sharing this!! It’s a shame you have to defend yourself against ignorance and stupidity. As a gay man I totally understand! BTW, you look incredible, own it and be proud of it!
Such a handsome dude. Thank you for living in your truth and being an inspiration by sharing your story
You look absolutely amazing! (And respectfully, quite the DILF, now and for years to come. 🙂) I think we all, as we age, experience changes we didn't quite expect. And you are a person who is so very honest and thoughtful with yourself and others. Very impressive in my book.
He is fiiiiiine 🤤
We grow older, and that's ok. Time marches on. Its what we do with that time. You are an inspiration. Not just trans, as a human.
This video was exactly what I needed♥️You’re so right!
I just discovered your channel. I’m speaking very honestly. You look better now than you ever looked before. If you’re worried about aging or getting gray hair, you shouldn’t be. I’m a gay man and I noticed how many other gay men say the same thing about you on here. We have good taste, and you’re working it!
Your journey is inspiring and you should be a role model for all trans teens or kids who feel alone and hopeless. It’s generous and kind of you to share so many deeply personal and private things about your life.
All best regards. Keep doing what you’re doing!
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Nothing but love for you man. Beautiful soul and body.
I;m a sis gay man and I love my Daddy phase. Aging is natural and normal and your journey is no different from mine. Keep on being proud of your journey my man!
Well said! This the first video I’ve watched about the trans community where I haven’t come away feeling attacked, yelled at or made felt like I am transphobic when I’m not!
I honestly believe trans men are much better ambassadors for the community than trans women!
Well said! Yes, the kids and bills will age you, but they have nothing on office politics and the toll they can take on more than just your physical appearance. You look great, by the way. I can't wait for my first greys. I'm going to rock the hell out of the salt n pepper look, as do you! ✌️
Great video as always, Dade. I started testosterone 11 years ago when I was 19 and it always filled me with hope seeing trans men who were older than me, in their 30s and 40s and beyond, looking their age (although it was rare to see anyone older than late 30s on youtube at the time). It reassured me that I could age in a body congruent with my brain's image of it, but more importantly, it reassured me that as trans people it was possible to keep growing older and thriving in life as ourselves despite all the difficulties society throws at us. It's a joy to be able to keep growing and to age in a body that feels right. I'm not "looking forward" to my hairline receding, but I sure am looking forward to being alive to see it.
I'm challenging you 😊 I've watched all of your videos. I have, I do, and I probably always will feel like you are a great person for others who are experiencing a similar life to turn to and not feel so alone. I know you are very busy with life lol. But it would be great if you would make more videos. You're a beacon.
I want to make more videos. I can't say I feel like a beacon, but I feel like people (in general) sharing their perspectives and stories is really important. Making these videos is really important to me. The last one I made was five months ago... believe it or not that was the last time I was alone! I look forward to figuring out how to have a more balanced life.
It would help if I were not so private. I don't make these while my family is at home, lol. They just get up in my business and want to watch. Then I feel weird about it.
On a side note, thanks for watching all my videos. You are very kind and I appreciate you for following for so long, my friend.
Thank you, today I really needed to hear this, from someone who actually does get how hard things can be and continues.
However, at the same time,
I can’t express enough, just how truly grateful I am to be able to age in this renewed body and still on the journey to fully transitioning.
I would love to share my journey, but I would have to write the book first…💝🌈😉
Cheers for now &Thanks again for sharing
Jeffree
I am also very grateful to be aging in this body!
I have lived 21 years as a female. I'm aging lovely. I haven't been beaten or killed. I will admit it was hard 20 years ago. But trust and believe Today's people have far more rights than we had years ago. Stay strong people.
I could not agree more. We own so much to the people that came before us. Still, the current struggles are also real and valid. Someday, hopefully, no one will have it harder than the other.
I think I’ve been following you since the beginning. Now I’m 11 years on T and right there aging with you. I agree that it’s awesome. I feel so good about the man I am.
When I was a kid I thought a lot about having such an unfortunate name on my headstone one day. I’m so glad to not think about that anymore.
Aging is a gift. Especially for us. Thanks for this
I agree completely. Bleh.. I had not even thought about a headstone. That would have been horrific.
You don’t look like you’re aging, I think you are ripening! You look amazing dude! 😉😊
“Ripening”. I love that. Thanks!
I will never forget, as a child, the time when ONE single person in my life, a teacher, told me I 'couldn't sing and was so bad at singing I couldn't be in the Christmas show at school.
That ONE person changed my life...and I never sang again.
Now that I'm older, I look back on that awful experience and realize the loss of pure joy that was taken away from me with one single comment. I still get angry with myself just thinking about how I let her define me.
I certainly don't compare it with your situation, but the point is, never let someone destroy who you are. They are not smarter than you, better than you, or even a kind person. They are nothing to you. They mean nothing to you. They are completely out of the world you live in, so leave them there.
If I only knew then what I know now. Aging IS good...aging is wisdom.
Best regards, Dade. 🥰
Looking good Dade. For me I can't wait to be the cool older white-haired auntie traveling around.
Growing old? You look pretty hot to me mate!
I understand this SO MUCH. You're the only other person I've ever heard this from. I started my transition at 34 because the older I got, the harder it was for me to envision the rest of my life in the wrong body. Most especially, trying to envision myself as an old woman. It was wrong. Everything was wrong.
Great video, all so true. Good on you
Dade, you may be ageing, like we all do, but you're still a hot, handsome man dammit! I think engaging with life with a consistently positive attitude is the tricky bit when it comes to getting older and staying in synch.
I agree 100%. It is hard to stay positive... finding a way to be excited with life when it seems like the thrill is gone!
Ironically, it's also about trying to find a way of transitioning into a new mindset that embraces change without disconnecting totally with your past experience. I think in a way, it's like trying to see (and maintain) the bigger picture, without losing the attention to the smaller details that can life so rewarding. Thank you for a thought-provoking and insightful video - and opening a tiny window into your life.
That comment you're referring to looks like it was a hate/troll comment. Don't let those people get to you.
As a straight woman, I clicked on this video because, well, cute guy no shirt. I had no idea. Seriously, whatever age you are, I think you look great!
As always, well put and spot on Dade! We are not immortal beings; we were not meant to stay or look young forever. Aging is a badge of honor that not everyone gets to experience. Be grateful and enjoy every age/moment of your life.
As someone who didn't transition until I was older, I agree that the thought of aging in the wrong body is beyond horrifying. Dysphoria was a daily torment. Glad you brought this up.
Good job being so honest !
I had an orchiectomy and take estrogen as HRT. I still look like a boyish twink and I'm nearly 50. I haven't gotten a gray hair since I started HRT. I however present as male with male clothing. Many transwomen look young since their natal female counterparts lose their estrogen in 40's and 50's. I don't plan on aging and still get "buddy" when I go to the gas station. Remember those days! I had to lie and say that I wanted to be a woman just to get medical treatment and I don't regret anything. I still have my stick but had to get rid of testosterone as I couldn't stand aging under my natal testosterone.
There is shame in growing old....for me. Others have nasty names for me because of the way I present and advocate and it begins with "p". Richie Heron and Alexander L look young as well but they say they are victims of trans-medicine. If I look young and embrace it, that's a big problem for them because I'm using gender medicine to hold onto my male youth. I think eunuchs/adult boys are going to be the next phase of the non-binary expression. And the fit is going to hit the shan like it did for Elliot Page who played it up a bit. Imagine being a natal male and doing that.
I’m 21 and have been on T for 3 years, and I’m so excited to age as a man. I couldn’t imagine myself being an adult when I was younger and now I’m living my adult life with big and exciting goals. I feel so lucky to be getting to this point and older
As a person born a male, I don’t like being male, however if you like it good luck to you. Respect.
Middle age is rough, yes ppl start getting sick, more doctor visits, more responsibility, that’s why we start to show age for sure.
I couldn’t tell…till you said something wow…You just looked like a really pretty man. Just wow.
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My thoughts are weird, but:
(cis male)
Ever since I was a kid, I've been wondering what sorts of problems will be mine as I age. I was always treated like a kid, but I was always listening to the things adults said to each other that gave me clues about life. (Tangent: I recently rediscovered, I seem to have a sense of humor much in common with The Dick Van Dyke Show. It was one of many shows I watched, growing up lol) I have begun to deal with some of those problems and that child mind of mine is quite satisfied, already, to have some of the answer. I have some time left in me, too, tho; I'll surely be adding to the list lol 💙
Can't say it enough, you are a beautiful amazing person. I remember when I first realized what trans was and that that was me, I found your channel and it helped me to make the decision to transition. Best decision of my life. Thank you for putting yourself out there. I'm only a few years younger than you, both actual age and transition age. 39, and 8 years on T. You inspired me and still do to this day. I don't hide that I'm trans, and when it comes up I share it just as you do. It makes me feel good to know I can change people's perspectives on trans people. And the ones I can't...fuck them, lol.
Glad to hear from you again Dade. You're one of the few I look up as role models for almost a decade. Even though I am not middle aged yet, I completely understand what you're referring to. Still facing hell where I come from but given over time things have been easier. Given the fact most of us don't even make it to this point, is a literal privilege to be here today. More than a badge of honor to live and age. Btw you've aged like wine :-) Stay strong
Great video! I was gonna say when I saw the title...I think time has aged you as it does to everyone lol
Exactly!
I am nowhere near as far along as you are (I start T in a week and a half and I'm only eighteen lol), but you're such a huge inspiration. That part where you say you can't envision aging into an elder woman nor can you envision taking on the role of a mother hit me hard. I've always wanted to be a father as an adult since I was a little little kid.. And you seem like a great one. Being present for them and introspective overall are both the qualities of both the greatest fathers and men.
Also, I wouldn't get so down on yourself about your physique. Sure, you're not at your prime anymore and you have other responsibilities now, but you look great, man. I'd say your years of being fit still shows. It also brings me comfort to know I can grow old as a masculine man with a stable wife and kids, since that's all I really want out of life. Thank you for your example, paps.
You are sooooo handsome! Cheers from Phoenix!
What a wonderful inspiring video. Thank you. Beauty in aging ❤❤❤❤❤
I’m a gay man that has followed you for years. I remember watched you going through your last surgery. If you’ve aged, dammit, I’ve aged with you. Why anyone would think forever young was real must live on another earth apparently. To me, you don’t look much different than you did years ago. And still looking like the hot man you are. Keep doing what you’re doing just as you are doing it. Because something is definitely right.
I just turned 46 Mrch 3rd. As a teen I thought of suicide so many times. I lost my hair early after hormones. The men on my mom side go bald. I got hair on my body before my face did since my Dad was hairy.
I get it. My dad was a gorilla. If I did not manscape, I would look like a wild animal, lol.
I've been following you for 10 years and I admire you for always speaking your truth. This is so encouraging to me as a 71 yr old trans man. YES, we are still here and vital! So I look like what I envisioned from transitioning? No, but I look like a man my age and as you said, I could not see myself growing old in the other body. Thank you for being an inspiration!
So proud of you. Higher power hold on to you tight because you are gifted.
That comment also strikes me as "terminally online". Like their perception of aging has been completely warped by social media gurus and celebrities, so they needed some special explanation when they saw a normal person aging normally. 🤷♂