I am 5 days sober and it's already starting. By that I mean getting stronger physically, emotionally, and intellectually. I hate this poison and let it control me when I am damn sure that the greatest chance at happiness lies without it. Depression starts to lessen without booze to fuel it. I have great respect for those that stay sober and they deserve it.
Alcohol helps my anxiety temporarily, then makes it 10x worse the next few days afterwards. It's a toxic relief that is only temporary and makes things MUCH worse in the longrun. It's a horrible habit to get into, I've lost friends, I even lost a relationship. I'm alone because of my mistake, because people couldn't deal with me anymore. I can't really blame them, if I put my self in their position I'm sure it wouldn't be easy dealing with a reckless drunken mess like me.
Yep. I get severe anxiety at night before sleep and have been using alcohol as a depressant to get to sleep for about 10 years. Only now am I starting to realize that it's making my anxiety during the daytime worse and worse.
Same here, friends gone, gf gone, license gone. Been sober for half a year. But you shouldn’t be too tough on yourself, alcohol is a bitch addiction. People around you tend to feel helpless because they are. It’s your fight and your fight alone. It’s possible to change your perspective on it, but it’s tough. It’s about proving to yourself that you can get through bad situations and feelings without it. But ye, that shit takes time. My advice is don’t be too hard on yourself when you relapse, just pick it again and be proud of your dryness atm😅
Holy. Crap. The statement “nobody thinks about me as much as I do” made me fall out of my chair laughing!!! Like DUH. I’ll have to remind myself of that hourly from here on. I used to be painfully self-conscious in my teens. Now it’s evolved into “just not as ‘good’ as everyone else.” Like WHO??!? Who else?? Who is everyone? Thank you so much. Hearing that statement was liberating.
At 14:00 is something I want to remind myself. I think most of my anxiety is nervousness about what others think about me. Then I come home and realize that no one really cared. I’m recently sober.
W need to get to the root of the problem. Anxiety is increased with abuse of alcohol consumption. We all have to face life ups and down every day, turn to God instead of alcohol. It takes a strong person to overcome drugs and alcohol, with God in your life you get your strength. When we use drugs and alcohol it causes long term dependency and more problems.
Wow thank you for this ! My anxiety gets so bad I feel like vomiting , then I drink and really do end up vomiting. It’s a viscous cycle ! I literally paused the video at like 15:00 to subscribe to this channel because your breakdown of not living in the present and worrying about things that haven’t happened yet spoke so loudly to me . It’s so true that I’m almost mad at myself that I didn’t realize it... Thank you for what you do and I hope everyone reading this is getting better !
OMWtoRighteousness &Glory yea and unfortunately if you notice when alcohol first start hitting your bloodstream or it gets to your head it gives you this feeling of presence and focus, that’s why a lot of anxiety sufferers unfortunately go to alcohol, the brain remembers this feeling and that’s why we go back to it we’re already trained
This video was so comforting to watch man. I’ve been dealing with social/general anxiety since my early teenage years and eventually started drinking about 2 years ago to deal with it and still am unfortunately. In the past 3 months I went from being able to comfortably go to work and be out in public to a complete state of utter panic at all times even while alone at my house without alcohol. This perfectly describes everything.
Makes perfect sense! I have been in and out of rehab for 11 years, and never heard any counsellor explain to me just why I have that eternal feeling of doom! To walk around all day with that feeling is a hell I wouldn’t wish on anyone. The few hours sleep I get are the only release. Thank-you, Marcus! At present am struggling to get sober for any length of time and have still have some major crap in my life, so I think that giving up the booze will be hard! But I have learned something very valuable in your video.
This video was extremely helpful. I feel so much relief when you said 99% of anxiety is fake and whatever the situation that’s making you anxious (future situations) you cannot control. That along with numerous other things you stated gives me so much relief and inner peace. 🙏🏼
Thank you very much for this video - I’ve struggled with the alcohol anxiety cycle for years - I’m now 4 days sober and thinking if there had only been the internet to learn about such things when it all started going wrong with alcohol in my youth.
Just a follow up - npw I'm 2 and a half years sober and no longer even get the craving feelings when I'm in a supermarket and see the alcohol aisle. You can do it too. I was already in my 50s when I finally became abstinent. I'd lost many friends, girlfriends and, decades of my life and vast amounts of money to booze, For those friends who stayed and put up with my ridiculous behaviour when I was drunk thank you for doing that.
I find myself drinking more now in the evening to help me relax, I hate that feeling in the morning when your high from the night before feels like a crushing low. I am going to stop and I am finding these videos very helpful. Good luck to everyone who feels like I do and is determined to change. Peace and love.
I watched this over 90 days ago in active addiction. When you first said the word anxiety i had my first anxiety attack in years. I never thought it would get better. The false realities we create in our minds are insane. Alcohol multiplies these thoughts. If you even have the idea you might be an alcoholic and its not too late for you make an AA meeting or seek help from a rehab/detox! ASAP!
I remember when I was about 20-23 years old. I never had anxiety the day after I drank. You laughed about the stupid thinks you don the last night. You watch a movie and ordered a pizza or something. Sometimes you felt ill because of the hangover but no more then that. Today I feel like shit mentaly only after one day or night of drinking. I´m almost impressed how much the alcohol trashes my brain. Its sick.
Anxiety all my life since early childhood! Avoided all social situations and when older self medicating with alcohol and other drugs. Since quitting alcohol for 41 days I definitely feel more in control and anxiety has lessened somewhat! Thanks for your great presentation. I think it can help other people in my situation!
I had a full blown panic attack when I was bout 27.....Im 50 now. I became a heavy drinker because I never wanted that shit ever again ! I dont drink no more but I see how anxiety can make a good person into a full blown alcoholic. ....its tough !
I'm glad you stopped. I started at 28.. first with wine then hard liquor. It's been almost nine years and now I had enough of it. Never were a constant drinker beforehand until I got full blown panic attacks and a anxiety disorder to manage the symptoms.. I do not want to live like this anymore and to be honest, I'm sick of drinking. I know this is a old post but it will nice to know how you overcame it.
hi im 27 and drank heavily for 5 years recently stopped cause it made me fat and tried everything natural you name is meditation tapping crystals herbs diet working out and nothing is working. im tired of suffering been 5 months and want relief. i want to drink in moderation since i can eat in moderation. can u share how much u drank and how u stopped? and curious u said the alcohol just ended it from age 27-50? thanks
@@truthbetold4024 hey man this i old post but hopes it gets to you and well i got really fat i was 150 but now i am 200 pounds i gained alot of weight drinking i stopped drinking 2 months now and a 1 week and ive been losing weight eaing well exercising and drinking teas to detox you as much as you can tbh but the anxiety and panic attacks i get like right now it sucks but you have to calm down on your own way tbh i am 23 so i am young and thats why i quit i don want to be older and get worse and worse tbh and losing my patience tbh and tought you should quit man its hard but your not alone i hope it got to you in time and i hope it helped man stay healthy and safe i hope you stopped as well as me goodluck and stay strong we are all here for you
That's exactly how I started too! I feel like Inspector Clouseau (the Pink Panther movies) it's a miracle I am still alive. Hilarious in the film, not so much in our lives.
Wow..i feel way better after watching this. When anxiety hits, I will remember that none of the toughts that come in mind are real, I will enjoy the present moments and accept that I cant have control over the future..and I will put it in practice on a day to day basis. Thank you so so so much. Cant believe this information is free. Stay blessed. Subscribed.
thanks for this video, I've dealt or lived with anxiety for most of my life, and I use to find that drinking seemed to quiet my mind down enough where I could honestly and genuinely follow another persons conversation, alcohol helped me get relief from my anxiety but like your description there came a point where it was hurting me more than helping i
Marcus, I found this video over a year ago, and I thought it was good but it didn't resonate. I stumbled upon it again after a tumultuous time in my life and I'm absolutely floored by this. This is unbelievable! I feel like a found a giant treasure chest ful of riches that was in plain sight and I have been walking by everyday for my whole life without noticing. It was right there in front of me! All of this makes so much sense! I am going to try and watch this video everyday for a few weeks and try and learn as much as I can from it.
Absolutely they go hand in hand . 12yr Sober Alcoholic I am from Australia. I ended up in the Mental Hospital Private , & was lucky to have best Money could buy. A lot of people don't . But we are all Alcoholics. This Man ,Bless Him is Great. And to all who are Trying to get Sober keep at it .
I can relate to this a lot I’ve dealt with anxiety ever since I was a kid, it built up since then. My family has been through some tough stuff and it effected me ever since then.
I know for a fact I feel better on the days when I tell myself "no more, that's it". But I still slip & do it all over again. If anything it proves this thing CAN be beat with mental strength. Thanks again for addressing it because anything that provokes realization is a massive help!
I've been watching a lot of videos on alcohol the past few months, but this is the best articulated and easiest to listen to out of all of them. I really enjoy what you're saying and how you are saying it. Subscribed!
@@noureldin4372 I'm thinking about stopping for at least a month to see if my anxiety calms. I have a weekend binger every weekend and then recoup throughout the week. I'm interested in the nofap thing. Really works for anxiety?
I am 7 mins into you video and watching for the first time and I am blown away by how everything your saying is me!! I have admitted to myself yesterday that I need t make a change and I need to get my anxiety under control.
Thanks for the video. Very insightful and helpful. You are correct in your assertion that anxiety is not real but is in our head, Many worries we have never manifest, hence wasted energy and needless angst with retrospective reflection.
One of the most important videos about anxiety on the UA-cam. Believe me! It was made by someone who suffered from the condition using simple languange.
Thank you so much sir. I quit drinking 24 days ago and my anxiety has been crippling, today especially but I watched this video and it helped me a lot. Your voice and experience calmed me a lot. I wish I could give you a hug
Thank you for this video! I've been off alcohol for 6 months, God willing, tomorrow and been feeling very anxious about my situation. The "what ifs" come about as I don't know where I will reside after sober living. I'm going to work on reminding myself that it is not real and that my mind is playing tricks on me to scare me. It's going to take daily practice, but one day will overcome my anxiety/fear. ***I've been wanting to drink to calm myself and would have forfeited my sobriety and the work I've accomplished. This is a journey and need to take this one day, minute, second at a time. :')
congrats on your 6 months :) that is awesome. just remember 15 minutes is all it takes to let a craving or thought pattern to usually fade out or be less "in your face" we have our live calls every Thursday at 11am est where we go over alcoholism and anxiety and all sorts of stuff.
Yes u r right bro alcohol make it worst the more you drink the more the anxiety disorders become helpless same goes to beer I been alcoholic for 18years it's true drinking make it worst only way is to quit totally no turning back....
Starting a new job tomorrow and have drank a full bottle of rose tonight. I have crippling anxiety so changes in my life good or bad make me panic and alcohol helps. Even just a little. I can go ages with out drinking but if something anxiety triggering occurs I really want to drink. It’s such an awful cycle something I’ve done since I’ve been 18 and I’m 20 now and it makes me feel awful about myself
I used to only drink once or twice a week and I hated it every time, the next day I would wake up feeling like a loser, but I kept going back to it for some unknown reason. I'm trying to stop now while i'm ahead and this video was very eye opening. I didn't know anxiety was such a consistent problem across different people. I mean the triggers are different for everyone but the symptoms are all the same. this helped a lot.
Its very rare that I ve seen a speaker at an AA meeting who has not used the word anxiety. Great advice about staying in the current I ve learned quite a bit about my alcoholism and mental illness by listening to the wisdom of Dr Gabor Mate.
Im going through that at the moment too. I was so blind, had a hunch it was the booze but never thought it was the route of the problem until i stopped drinking for a couple weeks and to my surprise i slowly started feeling better. I wouldn't wish anxiety on my worst enemy, not only does it get you down and turns your brain inside out but it can cause so many health problems and go so far to heart attacks but it can get so out of control people end up killing themselves or others. Ive had help by talking to people, taking CBD oil and quitting the booze. If i didnt do those things id probably not be here. The mind is the most powerful part of the body.. dont waste it.
Thank you so much Marcus, this was like a great AA meeting; I'm a bit stuck because I broke my leg so definitely found the right place. In the words of the late great Tom Petty, "most things I worry about, never happen anyway', bless him. And you. Sober 5 yrs and gratitude list every day. Just one more point because I don't want people to rush into recovery without protection; get a physical. I don't know any alcoholic who doesn't suffer from hypoglycemia - low blood sugar as you know -- which will trigger the jitters so eat healthy. I know old timers in the program who think I'm full of it but I stopped caffeine and desserts and as soon as I was able got back to my responsibilities -- I was lucky that someone took my beloved dog out during that period but now it's a joy and a privilege to brave the elements (in Canada I mean that literally) together with my tiny dancer who thinks she's Northern Dancer and her optimism and joy never fails to cheer me up. Tx again my friend!
I’m commenting on this but haven’t actually watched it yet. Let me tell you alcohol in the worst drug out there and partly as it’s legal. , it’s the best and worst friend you will ever have. It relieves anxiety and then feeds it. From experience when you stop drinking you will go into that dark dark place, I check in there around. 3am every day, it can be constant but normally starts in the early hours when your body wakes you up begging for a drink, every issue is a problem , every problem is a crisis, every crisis in unbearable , and anything unbearable results in a headline. Been there, still there sometimes, but I will win . Eventually I’m subscribing either way Excessive Alcohol does definitely create anxiety which creates depression which creates panic , I’m plagued by these issues, I don’t want any sympathy for it but it does exist . Anxiety, depression, panic are part of a roundabout that you ride until you get off, eg, stop drinking, then it gets worse and is hellish at best. Then gets better and it’s the best feeling in the world
Thanks Marcus for your video. I have been self medicating with alcohol for anxiety for a long time. Your video helped me to recognize this cycle. While for me, drinking does work to reduce anxiety, it has other negative effects which make it a poor option. I have been involved in AA for over 10 years, but have not found it helpful in breaking the cycle of drinking. Again thanks for your work.
I'm currently waiting to go to inpatient rehab!! These days After partying I'm in tears by the time I get home! "Hating myself" once that started happening is when I went to try and get some kinda help!
wow this video has helped me understand more about myself and my illness than any sessions with psychologists, counselors, and psychiatrists. Thank you .
the worst thing about my anxiety attacks is whenever i ran out of nicotine it just added another layer of things to be anxious about bc i thought nicotine was calming my anxiety when it really wasnt
But the bad thoughts and bad anxiety is a REAL experience so whether it’s real or not , I experience it as real and that is something I feel like I need to prevent or deal with. Like the lie is something that feels true and is experienced as true so therefore recognizing it’s not real or true is truly helpful but not enough to stop my going through this and that’s not enough for me. Thank you and I so appreciate you!!!!!
You might not be able to spell but you are a F***ING GENIUS bro. THANK YOU SO MUCH GOD BLESS YOU. I don't even drink but the same thing has happened to me with Kratom and Cannabis. I'm exactly where you were with just anxiety and the kratom doesn't help anymore, driving me insane. It's gotten so bad I actually considered drinking after being clean for a year now, hence I found this video. I'm so grateful you made this video and for your work bro. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
@MICHAEL MONFREDO I'm just not ready to die yet cause I want to do soo much before I die. I use to drink heavy but lately i toned it down a bit. My heart use to feel like yours but after going to a cardiologist and verifying that my heart is fine i realized it's all just anxiety. So now i just do my best at controlling my thoughts and feelings. I microDose shrooms every now and then. It helps soooo much with centering me. Idk. Drinking makes it all worse so that's why I've been doing my best to not drink often .
@MICHAEL MONFREDO Everyday you wake up you have another chance at redemption. Maybe GOD wakes you up everyday cause he believes in You. Regardless, you have another day to make a change in yourself where you're at peace with yourself and the world.
Oh My God! I drink and I ways know coffee flares it up, makes the happy and up feeling. But it's like my anxiety disapear. Coffee gives me this up up up racy few hours, up but I alway feel more anxious after.....it's the days I drink coffee i always drink alcohol. You are amazing I was always feeling alone until you shared with me. Thank you
I have an anxiety disorder since 2 years and I am on depression meds . so this helps me that my fears are not real and I am not living the present . this is very true .
I can see your point of view of not being able to control the everyday situations you're in, and how that can cause anxiety, but for those of us who have anxiety from past experiences, and not present/future experiences, it just does not make sense to me. I have issues with forgiving myself for things I have done in the past and because of that, I cannot help but dwell on those horrible memories every single day, all day. Almost to the point where I'm not concerned about my future, and only concerned about forgetting the past. No matter what I do, these thoughts always come back.
You guys are so awesome. Thanks for really getting down to the nitty gritty. I especially like the thoughs on early sobriety and sitting with the feelings and knowing this to shall pass. Very educational information. You were my beacon of light for 5 miserable days. Thank you so much!!!
I know it’s not real, but it does become real tho when we feel it and keep feeding it with more thoughts because we are already in that vicious cycle, our thoughts create our emotions and feelings therefore our reality on the way we feel (sad, happy, angry, anxious, depressed) that’s why it feels so real cuz you’re feeling it. It all starts with our thoughts but the problem is we can’t control our thoughts sometimes they come out of the blue and you can’t stop them so I believe the key is to not believe our thoughts (negative thoughts) it’s hard not to believe them because that’s what we have been programmed to do already through practice of a lifetime in my case (I wish I knew this 20 years ago) I also noticed that sometimes programmed emotions are so deep engraved in us that they come automatically sometimes without even having a neg. thought, in that case I’ve learn to accept it not judge it, stay present and then it goes...... Now I gotta say the hardest of all is that alcohol psychology to give up tho, when we’ve been programmed that that’s the only way we can feel totally free and be happy and be able to enjoy good company or a party , that’s when you realize that’s the Devi’s invention.
yes Maam i agree with everything u said but i do struggle with alcohol also...crazy part is that i feel strongly about the last thing u said...it is the Devils Work and there is a reason why alcohol is also called spirits...Because it allows dark entities to enter your mind and space and the subconcious...sucks
Chemical and endocrine disorders cause anxiety, along with nutritional deficiencies. So it's not really fair to say that anxiety is not real. I have had extreme anxiety for years and it's completely chemical, it has no link to my situation or being worried about something in the future. For example hyperthyroid makes people feel extremely anxious, so does PMDD and low growth hormone. Low B vitamins, or Zinc can cause anxiety. And anything that prevents the brain from being able to make enough calming neurotransmitters will cause anxiety that has nothing to do with worries about future events. I think it could be harmful telling people that they're anxiety is not real, they May have a legitimate endocrine or neurochemical imbalance and not seek treatment. However I agree that alcohol causes and perpetuates anxiety ❤
Manoj S Crippling isn't it, brings me to my knees. Cant shake it off & i cycle, gym, swim, eat sensible & stay away from beer. Nightmares, sweating, constant lethargy on & on the list goes😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Hello Brother of Life. This was the First Video I ever Watched on your channel. Also when I learned & Accepted The fact I Have Social Anxiety Disorder. So Greatful. Thank you & God bless. Ps I will not drink today no matter what, even if my ass falls off! :)
Good video! A friend of mine experiences this actually and it started to suddenly give him panic attacks the day after he drank. I'll be sharing this with him!
Thank you so much for your words, I can truly relate and am new to the sober life and let me tell you I have anxiety and am new to it and needed to hear this today
I drank once every 90 days for the last 3 years but back in May I drank for 2 days in a row then after that 2 day binge I was unable to sleep for 8 days and I haven't felt the same since my last binge. Now it's been almost 3 months since I drank and I still can't sleep and I feel super depressed and very anxious. What happened to me? I am 32 and I have never been on medications or anything. I just want to get fixed.
Good explanation of falling down the rabbit hole. The key is to find multiple anxiety relief strategies. For me, I’m on a plan of supplementation while tapering alcohol.
I am 5 days sober and it's already starting. By that I mean getting stronger physically, emotionally, and intellectually. I hate this poison and let it control me when I am damn sure that the greatest chance at happiness lies without it. Depression starts to lessen without booze to fuel it. I have great respect for those that stay sober and they deserve it.
are you still sober ? im sober 15 months now .....
Alcohol helps my anxiety temporarily, then makes it 10x worse the next few days afterwards. It's a toxic relief that is only temporary and makes things MUCH worse in the longrun. It's a horrible habit to get into, I've lost friends, I even lost a relationship. I'm alone because of my mistake, because people couldn't deal with me anymore. I can't really blame them, if I put my self in their position I'm sure it wouldn't be easy dealing with a reckless drunken mess like me.
TheMetalhead678 in in the same boat man
Yep. I get severe anxiety at night before sleep and have been using alcohol as a depressant to get to sleep for about 10 years. Only now am I starting to realize that it's making my anxiety during the daytime worse and worse.
yeah me too lost friends gfs good jobs car license and self respect all thru booze im quiting forever starting today
Same here, friends gone, gf gone, license gone. Been sober for half a year. But you shouldn’t be too tough on yourself, alcohol is a bitch addiction. People around you tend to feel helpless because they are. It’s your fight and your fight alone. It’s possible to change your perspective on it, but it’s tough. It’s about proving to yourself that you can get through bad situations and feelings without it. But ye, that shit takes time. My advice is don’t be too hard on yourself when you relapse, just pick it again and be proud of your dryness atm😅
I QUIT YESTERDAY!!!!!!!!!!!! YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!
Holy. Crap. The statement “nobody thinks about me as much as I do” made me fall out of my chair laughing!!! Like DUH. I’ll have to remind myself of that hourly from here on. I used to be painfully self-conscious in my teens. Now it’s evolved into “just not as ‘good’ as everyone else.” Like WHO??!? Who else?? Who is everyone? Thank you so much. Hearing that statement was liberating.
At 14:00 is something I want to remind myself. I think most of my anxiety is nervousness about what others think about me. Then I come home and realize that no one really cared. I’m recently sober.
A bit late now but do you still have anxiety?
Marcus, you sound like a "professional" AA circuit speaker, you had my attention 100%, good job !!
W need to get to the root of the problem. Anxiety is increased with abuse of alcohol consumption.
We all have to face life ups and down every day, turn to God instead of alcohol.
It takes a strong person to overcome drugs and alcohol, with God in your life you get your strength. When we use drugs and alcohol it causes long term dependency and more problems.
Wow thank you for this ! My anxiety gets so bad I feel like vomiting , then I drink and really do end up vomiting. It’s a viscous cycle ! I literally paused the video at like 15:00 to subscribe to this channel because your breakdown of not living in the present and worrying about things that haven’t happened yet spoke so loudly to me . It’s so true that I’m almost mad at myself that I didn’t realize it...
Thank you for what you do and I hope everyone reading this is getting better !
OMWtoRighteousness &Glory yea and unfortunately if you notice when alcohol first start hitting your bloodstream or it gets to your head it gives you this feeling of presence and focus, that’s why a lot of anxiety sufferers unfortunately go to alcohol, the brain remembers this feeling and that’s why we go back to it we’re already trained
This video was so comforting to watch man. I’ve been dealing with social/general anxiety since my early teenage years and eventually started drinking about 2 years ago to deal with it and still am unfortunately. In the past 3 months I went from being able to comfortably go to work and be out in public to a complete state of utter panic at all times even while alone at my house without alcohol. This perfectly describes everything.
Makes perfect sense! I have been in and out of rehab for 11 years, and never heard any counsellor explain to me just why I have that eternal feeling of doom! To walk around all day with that feeling is a hell I wouldn’t wish on anyone. The few hours sleep I get are the only release. Thank-you, Marcus! At present am struggling to get sober for any length of time and have still have some major crap in my life, so I think that giving up the booze will be hard! But I have learned something very valuable in your video.
Only anxious alcoholics felt relief when he said, "Nobody gives a rip about you.".
You've saved lives with these videos. I admire you. Keep up the good work and know that you're really helping people.
This really helped me a lot... dealing with this now and dad dealt with it his whole life.. very helpful
This video was extremely helpful. I feel so much relief when you said 99% of anxiety is fake and whatever the situation that’s making you anxious (future situations) you cannot control. That along with numerous other things you stated gives me so much relief and inner peace. 🙏🏼
Thank you very much for this video - I’ve struggled with the alcohol anxiety cycle for years - I’m now 4 days sober and thinking if there had only been the internet to learn about such things when it all started going wrong with alcohol in my youth.
Just a follow up - npw I'm 2 and a half years sober and no longer even get the craving feelings when I'm in a supermarket and see the alcohol aisle. You can do it too. I was already in my 50s when I finally became abstinent. I'd lost many friends, girlfriends and, decades of my life and vast amounts of money to booze, For those friends who stayed and put up with my ridiculous behaviour when I was drunk thank you for doing that.
I find myself drinking more now in the evening to help me relax, I hate that feeling in the morning when your high from the night before feels like a crushing low. I am going to stop and I am finding these videos very helpful. Good luck to everyone who feels like I do and is determined to change.
Peace and love.
I watched this over 90 days ago in active addiction.
When you first said the word anxiety i had my first anxiety attack in years.
I never thought it would get better.
The false realities we create in our minds are insane. Alcohol multiplies these thoughts.
If you even have the idea you might be an alcoholic and its not too late for you make an AA meeting or seek help from a rehab/detox! ASAP!
Thank you 🙏 this helps me a lot. I used alcohol to overcome the fear that i feel (anxiety) but now I’m 6 days sober and Im gonna keep on going
I remember when I was about 20-23 years old. I never had anxiety the day after I drank. You laughed about the stupid thinks you don the last night. You watch a movie and ordered a pizza or something. Sometimes you felt ill because of the hangover but no more then that. Today I feel like shit mentaly only after one day or night of drinking. I´m almost impressed how much the alcohol trashes my brain. Its sick.
Think about the feeling compounding every day, year after year. I am glad you didn't submit yourself to that
Anxiety all my life since early childhood! Avoided all social situations and when older self medicating with alcohol and other drugs. Since quitting alcohol for 41 days I definitely feel more in control and anxiety has lessened somewhat! Thanks for your great presentation. I think it can help other people in my situation!
I had a full blown panic attack when I was bout 27.....Im 50 now. I became a heavy drinker because I never wanted that shit ever again ! I dont drink no more but I see how anxiety can make a good person into a full blown alcoholic. ....its tough !
Gee Gee Waldrop mi e gives me panic attacks.
I'm glad you stopped. I started at 28.. first with wine then hard liquor. It's been almost nine years and now I had enough of it. Never were a constant drinker beforehand until I got full blown panic attacks and a anxiety disorder to manage the symptoms.. I do not want to live like this anymore and to be honest, I'm sick of drinking. I know this is a old post but it will nice to know how you overcame it.
hi im 27 and drank heavily for 5 years recently stopped cause it made me fat and tried everything natural you name is meditation tapping crystals herbs diet working out and nothing is working. im tired of suffering been 5 months and want relief. i want to drink in moderation since i can eat in moderation. can u share how much u drank and how u stopped? and curious u said the alcohol just ended it from age 27-50? thanks
@@truthbetold4024 hey man this i old post but hopes it gets to you and well i got really fat i was 150 but now i am 200 pounds i gained alot of weight drinking i stopped drinking 2 months now and a 1 week and ive been losing weight eaing well exercising and drinking teas to detox you as much as you can tbh but the anxiety and panic attacks i get like right now it sucks but you have to calm down on your own way tbh i am 23 so i am young and thats why i quit i don want to be older and get worse and worse tbh and losing my patience tbh and tought you should quit man its hard but your not alone i hope it got to you in time and i hope it helped man stay healthy and safe i hope you stopped as well as me goodluck and stay strong we are all here for you
That's exactly how I started too! I feel like Inspector Clouseau (the Pink Panther movies) it's a miracle I am still alive. Hilarious in the film, not so much in our lives.
Wow..i feel way better after watching this. When anxiety hits, I will remember that none of the toughts that come in mind are real, I will enjoy the present moments and accept that I cant have control over the future..and I will put it in practice on a day to day basis. Thank you so so so much. Cant believe this information is free. Stay blessed. Subscribed.
zoe 4real you got anxiety and panic attacks from alcohol?
I don’t have the words to tell you how helpful your video is, and what you outlined is exactly the reason(s) that I stopped drinking. Thank you.
thanks for the video, im still sober, but im not anxious anymore, no bad thoughts and a clear mind its such a relief, as it plagued me for years.
This is probably the best video I've ever seen, you perfectly described exactly what I'm going through. Thank you so much!
I just quit drinking a few days and now i discovered your chanel, great info. Big Thanks 👍
thanks for this video, I've dealt or lived with anxiety for most of my life, and I use to find that drinking seemed to quiet my mind down enough where I could honestly and genuinely follow another persons conversation, alcohol helped me get relief from my anxiety but like your description there came a point where it was hurting me more than helping i
Marcus, I found this video over a year ago, and I thought it was good but it didn't resonate. I stumbled upon it again after a tumultuous time in my life and I'm absolutely floored by this. This is unbelievable! I feel like a found a giant treasure chest ful of riches that was in plain sight and I have been walking by everyday for my whole life without noticing. It was right there in front of me! All of this makes so much sense! I am going to try and watch this video everyday for a few weeks and try and learn as much as I can from it.
Absolutely they go hand in hand . 12yr Sober Alcoholic I am from Australia. I ended up in the Mental Hospital Private , & was lucky to have best Money could buy. A lot of people don't . But we are all Alcoholics. This Man ,Bless Him is Great. And to all who are Trying to get Sober keep at it .
thanks and congrats on your sobriety.
The more you said anxiety the more anxious I became 😭😭
Me too at the beginning, then I felt better at the end of the video.
Same !
just wanted to say thanks for the video. I drink a lot because if my anxiety is really high. I would drink so much that I would black out.
Michelle Simmons this exactly what i do and dont remember anything the next day. i curse people out and fight
Same. Shit sucks and I’m over it.
Michelle S feel you ...
How r u doing now?
I can relate to this a lot I’ve dealt with anxiety ever since I was a kid, it built up since then. My family has been through some tough stuff and it effected me ever since then.
I have really bad social anxiety but I'm ok after a drink.
That's exactly the problem though. People with Social Anxiety Disorder (SAD) are unable to rationalize logically when they are going through SAD.
Same. But I've been sober for over 5 years. Now I'm just always socially awkward and avoid socializing. I miss drinking.
Me tii
Jasmine Marie yeah ever since I quit, I’ve become a recluse.
@@ceeIoc which is much better that being depressed and unhealthy
Wow,
This makes so much sense. I'm dealing with anxiety and alcohol in my boyfriend. I am here to seek a clearer understanding.
I know for a fact I feel better on the days when I tell myself "no more, that's it". But I still slip & do it all over again. If anything it proves this thing CAN be beat with mental strength. Thanks again for addressing it because anything that provokes realization is a massive help!
Man I think you just saved my life. I will try.
Thank you
I've been watching a lot of videos on alcohol the past few months, but this is the best articulated and easiest to listen to out of all of them. I really enjoy what you're saying and how you are saying it. Subscribed!
Man this video helped me out so much. I'm 2 years sober and have anxiety all the time. Thanks for sharing.
So even after being sober you still have anxiety?
I stopped for 3 weeks now n my anxity is 80% gone..i suggest doing nofap too
@@noureldin4372 I'm thinking about stopping for at least a month to see if my anxiety calms. I have a weekend binger every weekend and then recoup throughout the week. I'm interested in the nofap thing. Really works for anxiety?
EXCELLENT presentation! 😁
...the one missing piece is your discussion of Amygdala/ fear center in brain.....🤓
Liking your vid wouldn’t be enough, you’ll help a LOT of people, including me. Thanks for your speech. It’s ON POINT
I am 7 mins into you video and watching for the first time and I am blown away by how everything your saying is me!! I have admitted to myself yesterday that I need t make a change and I need to get my anxiety under control.
I'm still sober and haven't had a drink since this comment!!
I just want to feel well again
ME TOO IT BEEN FOUR DAYS I TOOK WHISKEY TWO DAYS IN A ROW
Thanks for the video. Very insightful and helpful. You are correct in your assertion that anxiety is not real but is in our head, Many worries we have never manifest, hence wasted energy and needless angst with retrospective reflection.
Nail on the head. No one around me understands me but this made me feel really good.. thank you
One of the most important videos about anxiety on the UA-cam. Believe me! It was made by someone who suffered from the condition using simple languange.
Thank you so much sir. I quit drinking 24 days ago and my anxiety has been crippling, today especially but I watched this video and it helped me a lot. Your voice and experience calmed me a lot. I wish I could give you a hug
Thank you for this video! I've been off alcohol for 6 months, God willing, tomorrow and been feeling very anxious about my situation. The "what ifs" come about as I don't know where I will reside after sober living. I'm going to work on reminding myself that it is not real and that my mind is playing tricks on me to scare me. It's going to take daily practice, but one day will overcome my anxiety/fear. ***I've been wanting to drink to calm myself and would have forfeited my sobriety and the work I've accomplished. This is a journey and need to take this one day, minute, second at a time. :')
congrats on your 6 months :) that is awesome. just remember 15 minutes is all it takes to let a craving or thought pattern to usually fade out or be less "in your face" we have our live calls every Thursday at 11am est where we go over alcoholism and anxiety and all sorts of stuff.
Such a great video. It really helped me through my anxiety today, ‘you don’t have to fight it, it’s not real’. Thank you!
Yes u r right bro alcohol make it worst the more you drink the more the anxiety disorders become helpless same goes to beer I been alcoholic for 18years it's true drinking make it worst only way is to quit totally no turning back....
Starting a new job tomorrow and have drank a full bottle of rose tonight. I have crippling anxiety so changes in my life good or bad make me panic and alcohol helps. Even just a little. I can go ages with out drinking but if something anxiety triggering occurs I really want to drink. It’s such an awful cycle something I’ve done since I’ve been 18 and I’m 20 now and it makes me feel awful about myself
I used to only drink once or twice a week and I hated it every time, the next day I would wake up feeling like a loser, but I kept going back to it for some unknown reason. I'm trying to stop now while i'm ahead and this video was very eye opening. I didn't know anxiety was such a consistent problem across different people. I mean the triggers are different for everyone but the symptoms are all the same. this helped a lot.
Its very rare that I ve seen a speaker at an AA meeting who has not used the word anxiety. Great advice about staying in the current
I ve learned quite a bit about my alcoholism and mental illness by listening to the wisdom of Dr Gabor Mate.
Mr. Affiliatemarketingdude - I did not know your videos started here!! Great to see how far you've come brother!!
Im going through that at the moment too. I was so blind, had a hunch it was the booze but never thought it was the route of the problem until i stopped drinking for a couple weeks and to my surprise i slowly started feeling better. I wouldn't wish anxiety on my worst enemy, not only does it get you down and turns your brain inside out but it can cause so many health problems and go so far to heart attacks but it can get so out of control people end up killing themselves or others. Ive had help by talking to people, taking CBD oil and quitting the booze. If i didnt do those things id probably not be here. The mind is the most powerful part of the body.. dont waste it.
Marcus thank you so much for that video. This is the day I turn things around.
Thank you so much Marcus, this was like a great AA meeting; I'm a bit stuck because I broke my leg so definitely found the right place. In the words of the late great Tom Petty, "most things I worry about, never happen anyway', bless him. And you. Sober 5 yrs and gratitude list every day. Just one more point because I don't want people to rush into recovery without protection; get a physical. I don't know any alcoholic who doesn't suffer from hypoglycemia - low blood sugar as you know -- which will trigger the jitters so eat healthy. I know old timers in the program who think I'm full of it but I stopped caffeine and desserts and as soon as I was able got back to my responsibilities -- I was lucky that someone took my beloved dog out during that period but now it's a joy and a privilege to brave the elements (in Canada I mean that literally) together with my tiny dancer who thinks she's Northern Dancer and her optimism and joy never fails to cheer me up. Tx again my friend!
Oh wow. This hit the nail on the head for my headspace perfectly. Thank you for sharing.
I’m commenting on this but haven’t actually watched it yet. Let me tell you alcohol in the worst drug out there and partly as it’s legal. , it’s the best and worst friend you will ever have. It relieves anxiety and then feeds it. From experience when you stop drinking you will go into that dark dark place, I check in there around. 3am every day, it can be constant but normally starts in the early hours when your body wakes you up begging for a drink, every issue is a problem , every problem is a crisis, every crisis in unbearable , and anything unbearable results in a headline. Been there, still there sometimes, but I will win . Eventually
I’m subscribing either way
Excessive Alcohol does definitely create anxiety which creates depression which creates panic , I’m plagued by these issues, I don’t want any sympathy for it but it does exist . Anxiety, depression, panic are part of a roundabout that you ride until you get off, eg, stop drinking, then it gets worse and is hellish at best. Then gets better and it’s the best feeling in the world
Thanks Marcus for your video. I have been self medicating with alcohol for anxiety for a long time. Your video helped me to recognize this cycle. While for me, drinking does work to reduce anxiety, it has other negative effects which make it a poor option. I have been involved in AA for over 10 years, but have not found it helpful in breaking the cycle of drinking. Again thanks for your work.
I'm currently waiting to go to inpatient rehab!! These days After partying I'm in tears by the time I get home! "Hating myself" once that started happening is when I went to try and get some kinda help!
Yes, alcohol is NOT the answer
wow this video has helped me understand more about myself and my illness than any sessions with psychologists, counselors, and psychiatrists. Thank you .
the worst thing about my anxiety attacks is whenever i ran out of nicotine it just added another layer of things to be anxious about bc i thought nicotine was calming my anxiety when it really wasnt
Thank you so much, this video helps❤
glad you like it :-) post any questions or video ideas if you have them... we are here to help.
Thank you for being honest 🙏
watching during the pandemic, thank you
But the bad thoughts and bad anxiety is a REAL experience so whether it’s real or not , I experience it as real and that is something I feel like I need to prevent or deal with. Like the lie is something that feels true and is experienced as true so therefore recognizing it’s not real or true is truly helpful but not enough to stop my going through this and that’s not enough for me. Thank you and I so appreciate you!!!!!
My God that's why I keep drinking and I'm getting worse at controlling it. Thank you
You might not be able to spell but you are a F***ING GENIUS bro. THANK YOU SO MUCH GOD BLESS YOU. I don't even drink but the same thing has happened to me with Kratom and Cannabis. I'm exactly where you were with just anxiety and the kratom doesn't help anymore, driving me insane. It's gotten so bad I actually considered drinking after being clean for a year now, hence I found this video. I'm so grateful you made this video and for your work bro. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I mainly have anxiety cause I'm afraid of dying.
@MICHAEL MONFREDO I'm just not ready to die yet cause I want to do soo much before I die. I use to drink heavy but lately i toned it down a bit. My heart use to feel like yours but after going to a cardiologist and verifying that my heart is fine i realized it's all just anxiety. So now i just do my best at controlling my thoughts and feelings. I microDose shrooms every now and then. It helps soooo much with centering me. Idk. Drinking makes it all worse so that's why I've been doing my best to not drink often .
@MICHAEL MONFREDO Everyday you wake up you have another chance at redemption. Maybe GOD wakes you up everyday cause he believes in You. Regardless, you have another day to make a change in yourself where you're at peace with yourself and the world.
This is powerful and spot on. Thank you for making this!
Oh My God! I drink and I ways know coffee flares it up, makes the happy and up feeling. But it's like my anxiety disapear. Coffee gives me this up up up racy few hours, up but I alway feel more anxious after.....it's the days I drink coffee i always drink alcohol. You are amazing I was always feeling alone until you shared with me. Thank you
What a fabulous video! Great info!! Wow really hit home for me in a lot of ways! Thank you!!
I have an anxiety disorder since 2 years and I am on depression meds . so this helps me that my fears are not real and I am not living the present . this is very true .
I can see your point of view of not being able to control the everyday situations you're in, and how that can cause anxiety, but for those of us who have anxiety from past experiences, and not present/future experiences, it just does not make sense to me. I have issues with forgiving myself for things I have done in the past and because of that, I cannot help but dwell on those horrible memories every single day, all day. Almost to the point where I'm not concerned about my future, and only concerned about forgetting the past. No matter what I do, these thoughts always come back.
You guys are so awesome. Thanks for really getting down to the nitty gritty. I especially like the thoughs on early sobriety and sitting with the feelings and knowing this to shall pass. Very educational information. You were my beacon of light for 5 miserable days. Thank you so much!!!
I really appreciate all your videos buddy! :) I love them alot.
everything you said is exactly how i feel, i thought was alone
thank you. because you do this for us and not for your self. I'm in that bad position right now. I will fight
The drink itself isnt the problem..Its just a band aid for bigger issues a lot of it cognitive issues from childhood and/or trauma..
I know it’s not real, but it does become real tho when we feel it and keep feeding it with more thoughts because we are already in that vicious cycle, our thoughts create our emotions and feelings therefore our reality on the way we feel (sad, happy, angry, anxious, depressed) that’s why it feels so real cuz you’re feeling it. It all starts with our thoughts but the problem is we can’t control our thoughts sometimes they come out of the blue and you can’t stop them so I believe the key is to not believe our thoughts (negative thoughts) it’s hard not to believe them because that’s what we have been programmed to do already through practice of a lifetime in my case (I wish I knew this 20 years ago) I also noticed that sometimes programmed emotions are so deep engraved in us that they come automatically sometimes without even having a neg. thought, in that case I’ve learn to accept it not judge it, stay present and then it goes...... Now I gotta say the hardest of all is that alcohol psychology to give up tho, when we’ve been programmed that that’s the only way we can feel totally free and be happy and be able to enjoy good company or a party , that’s when you realize that’s the Devi’s invention.
yes Maam i agree with everything u said but i do struggle with alcohol also...crazy part is that i feel strongly about the last thing u said...it is the Devils Work and there is a reason why alcohol is also called spirits...Because it allows dark entities to enter your mind and space and the subconcious...sucks
Chemical and endocrine disorders cause anxiety, along with nutritional deficiencies. So it's not really fair to say that anxiety is not real. I have had extreme anxiety for years and it's completely chemical, it has no link to my situation or being worried about something in the future. For example hyperthyroid makes people feel extremely anxious, so does PMDD and low growth hormone. Low B vitamins, or Zinc can cause anxiety. And anything that prevents the brain from being able to make enough calming neurotransmitters will cause anxiety that has nothing to do with worries about future events. I think it could be harmful telling people that they're anxiety is not real, they May have a legitimate endocrine or neurochemical imbalance and not seek treatment. However I agree that alcohol causes and perpetuates anxiety ❤
Numbness inside out , Fear , High traffic thoughts & a feeling of defeat. . Its so horrible.
Manoj S Crippling isn't it, brings me to my knees. Cant shake it off & i cycle, gym, swim, eat sensible & stay away from beer. Nightmares, sweating, constant lethargy on & on the list goes😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Meditation helps slow the brain down, do some research
Hello Brother of Life. This was the First Video I ever Watched on your channel. Also when I learned & Accepted The fact I Have Social Anxiety Disorder. So Greatful. Thank you & God bless. Ps I will not drink today no matter what, even if my ass falls off! :)
very well put, i like the relevance of the arguement that you have, easy to relate too and get my head around.
Good video! A friend of mine experiences this actually and it started to suddenly give him panic attacks the day after he drank. I'll be sharing this with him!
thanks for the share :-)
Thank you so much for your words, I can truly relate and am new to the sober life and let me tell you I have anxiety and am new to it and needed to hear this today
I drank once every 90 days for the last 3 years but back in May I drank for 2 days in a row then after that 2 day binge I was unable to sleep for 8 days and I haven't felt the same since my last binge. Now it's been almost 3 months since I drank and I still can't sleep and I feel super depressed and very anxious. What happened to me? I am 32 and I have never been on medications or anything. I just want to get fixed.
You just made me tear up. I'm crippled with anxiety and I used alcohol to help it and it ultimately doesn't work.
The best video ive seen on anxiety, as an anxious person this helps. Im on my 4th day of no drinking.
very good video, i could relate to it quite a lot, keep up the good work as always.
Great video dude😄
Dude, you’re awesome. Thanks for spelling it out.
yes it is real i have had it my whole life i dont go away sober or not my anxiety is all day feel like im goin crazy nothing helps nothing
You're a fantastic teacher with this addiction craziness!!!!!!
This smokes AA!!!!!
Thanks!!!!
Omg that’s me !!! I need everything and everyone ok and I’m order . I’m anxious all the time
What a great perspective. I have been searching for answers to my issues.
Thank you.
Good explanation of falling down the rabbit hole. The key is to find multiple anxiety relief strategies. For me, I’m on a plan of supplementation while tapering alcohol.
excellent talk! congrats on your victory.
my method of dealing with anxiety is to turn to Jesus
Thanks Marcus, I wish I knew this sooner, very good stuff.
53 days sober I do feel better and I deal with anxiety better as well.
You are helping me stay sober day to day. Thanks for your videos
Your speak the truth . most real video I have seen . and thank you for making this video. God Bless man