My mum was diagnosed with breast cancer at 34, when I was 4 years old. To me and my younger brother, her wig was called Harry and I was so young that until she was rediagnosed when I was 16 I had totally forgotten about her cancer. She never really told anyone, my dad, her parents; she hid everything from us. She passed away October 2015, I was 19 and my brother was 16. I’m sure she thought a lot about whether or not to tell us all the details, but now at 22 I’m being tested for the BRACA gene mutations because of my mums cancer. All I can say from my experience with my mum, is that children need to be present, children need to be aware. As a teenager I look back and I would give anything to have been a support for my mum, she tried to protect us and did it all on her own. But this episode is so so so important, and what these women have done, speaking about their experiences so openly, is so important.
Gosh I’ve only just started watching/ listening to your podcast. I don’t look at the video I turn on so I don’t know when it was brought out. When at about 50% of this episode I went to look up the two amazing guests to support them and saw that this video was 5 years ago Deborah has sadly passed away since. Listening to them with this knowledge really does give you a perspective on how you want to live your life regardless if you’re ill or not.
My Mum died of cancer when I was 11 I’m now 25 and getting married in 8 weeks! it’s nice to hear a mums prospective on cancer with children as I only know what it’s like from the outside looking in as the child! I wish my mum had been as honest with me as these parents are with their children it would have helped the grieving stage massively! These ladies are incredible and I want them to know that if the time comes when they aren’t around to see big milestones, that their children will carry their memory every step of the way! Like I will be with my lovely mum in 8 weeks time 💜Thanks for having this conversation on your Podcast Gi, although I had a lump in my throat the whole time, it’s an important topic that needs to be shared.x
I completely agree with everything you've said and what was said in the podcast about not letting children fill in the gaps for themselves. I was a child (teen, I was 13) who was left to fill in the gaps. As you said, it makes the grieving process even harder. Also congratulations on your upcoming wedding :)
NicAnneLloyd • It’s bad enough something like that happening, but years ago these things (grief and loss) weren’t talked about like it is today. It was like forget about it, and don’t talk about the deceased parent (or whoever). Which was damaging, it’s good that you can talk positively about your mum like that. It makes a negative thing into a more positive thing.
Such admiration for these ladies. I laughed and sobbed all the way through. Your attitudes and approaches to this journey ypu are o is going to make such a differmcee to your children in the future. I only hope I am half the parent that you both are. Wishing you both all the best in the world x
You ladies are amazing! This was so inspirational and I have lost a lot of family to cancer but I was so young when I did. Watching this Podcast really helped me put everything in perspective. What my grandparents may have been thinking and feeling and other relatives and in a way it brings a lot of closure. You are wonderful women and I hope you know that
I wish there was more ‘cancer chat’ when I got diagnosed 7 years ago, people just said ah you’re fine now. Nope! Psychologically you’re never the same, took a few years before I was brave enough to say umm no, I’m different now. Life’s never the same. Although I’m still finding the words to tell a friend to shut up about a vegan diet and turmeric, kale, coconut oil 😡 Massive love for you ladies xx
Fantastic podcast Gi, as always. I actually found Deborah through you on Instagram and I'm completely in awe of her and Tracey. Wishing them many more 30 day windows 😘 Heroes ❤
I have so much to say about this video 💕 i dont have Cancer , but my son does....i can relate to so much in this video, the perspective that cancer gives you is a great thing. I dont worry about any of the crap i worried about before Cancer invaded our family. The dark humor is so real, we cal my boy "chemo kid" we called him "baldy locks" when he had no hair...there was even a song 😂 That Cancer Card is a great thing! My boy uses it at ANY opportunity..specially to get to be player one on the PS3 👍🏻 Cancer is cruel, it really is...you ladies are an inspiration to so many 💖💖💖💖💖
You know when you're asked to name a strong, powerful, independent woman and your go to is someone like Emma Watson? Well my go to are Deborah and Tracy
My mum was diagnosed with breast cancer at 34, when I was 4 years old. To me and my younger brother, her wig was called Harry and I was so young that until she was rediagnosed when I was 16 I had totally forgotten about her cancer. She never really told anyone, my dad, her parents; she hid everything from us. She passed away October 2015, I was 19 and my brother was 16. I’m sure she thought a lot about whether or not to tell us all the details, but now at 22 I’m being tested for the BRACA gene mutations because of my mums cancer. All I can say from my experience with my mum, is that children need to be present, children need to be aware. As a teenager I look back and I would give anything to have been a support for my mum, she tried to protect us and did it all on her own. But this episode is so so so important, and what these women have done, speaking about their experiences so openly, is so important.
Deborah and Tracy you are both truly incredible. I wish you many years and special moments.
Gosh I’ve only just started watching/ listening to your podcast. I don’t look at the video I turn on so I don’t know when it was brought out. When at about 50% of this episode I went to look up the two amazing guests to support them and saw that this video was 5 years ago Deborah has sadly passed away since. Listening to them with this knowledge really does give you a perspective on how you want to live your life regardless if you’re ill or not.
My Mum died of cancer when I was 11 I’m now 25 and getting married in 8 weeks! it’s nice to hear a mums prospective on cancer with children as I only know what it’s like from the outside looking in as the child! I wish my mum had been as honest with me as these parents are with their children it would have helped the grieving stage massively! These ladies are incredible and I want them to know that if the time comes when they aren’t around to see big milestones, that their children will carry their memory every step of the way! Like I will be with my lovely mum in 8 weeks time 💜Thanks for having this conversation on your Podcast Gi, although I had a lump in my throat the whole time, it’s an important topic that needs to be shared.x
I completely agree with everything you've said and what was said in the podcast about not letting children fill in the gaps for themselves. I was a child (teen, I was 13) who was left to fill in the gaps. As you said, it makes the grieving process even harder. Also congratulations on your upcoming wedding :)
Congratulations on getting married
NicAnneLloyd • It’s bad enough something like that happening, but years ago these things (grief and loss) weren’t talked about like it is today. It was like forget about it, and don’t talk about the deceased parent (or whoever). Which was damaging, it’s good that you can talk positively about your mum like that. It makes a negative thing into a more positive thing.
I would love an episode about adoption. Loved this one!
Such admiration for these ladies. I laughed and sobbed all the way through. Your attitudes and approaches to this journey ypu are o is going to make such a differmcee to your children in the future. I only hope I am half the parent that you both are. Wishing you both all the best in the world x
You ladies are amazing!
This was so inspirational and I have lost a lot of family to cancer but I was so young when I did. Watching this Podcast really helped me put everything in perspective. What my grandparents may have been thinking and feeling and other relatives and in a way it brings a lot of closure. You are wonderful women and I hope you know that
I wish there was more ‘cancer chat’ when I got diagnosed 7 years ago, people just said ah you’re fine now. Nope! Psychologically you’re never the same, took a few years before I was brave enough to say umm no, I’m different now. Life’s never the same. Although I’m still finding the words to tell a friend to shut up about a vegan diet and turmeric, kale, coconut oil 😡 Massive love for you ladies xx
Amazing, amazing! Thank you for sharing your stories! Such inspirations! Not talked about enough so thank you for putting it out there xxxx 💖
Amazing and inspirational women. This subject is not spoken about enough xx
What amazing ladies xxx thank you for sharing 💕 💕
Absolutely amazing. What strong amazing ladies.
Fantastic podcast Gi, as always. I actually found Deborah through you on Instagram and I'm completely in awe of her and Tracey. Wishing them many more 30 day windows 😘 Heroes ❤
I cried, I laughed, I have so much love for this podcast 💜
The best Happy mum ive listened too. Amazing women x
Such an emotional podcast episode. Hard to listen to but an amazing episode.
I have so much to say about this video 💕 i dont have Cancer , but my son does....i can relate to so much in this video, the perspective that cancer gives you is a great thing.
I dont worry about any of the crap i worried about before Cancer invaded our family.
The dark humor is so real, we cal my boy "chemo kid" we called him "baldy locks" when he had no hair...there was even a song 😂
That Cancer Card is a great thing! My boy uses it at ANY opportunity..specially to get to be player one on the PS3 👍🏻
Cancer is cruel, it really is...you ladies are an inspiration to so many 💖💖💖💖💖
Two very brave,funny and down to earth ladies 👏🏼🙌🏻❤️
What amazing and inspiring women to listen to. I didn’t want this episode to end 💕
Absolute legends.
You know when you're asked to name a strong, powerful, independent woman and your go to is someone like Emma Watson? Well my go to are Deborah and Tracy
My beautiful friend Tracie. Am in awe of her drive in campaigning for Coppafeel ❤️ two wonderful women being interviewed xxx
Wonderful , thank you so much for that. Great ladies
Two wonderful women with a story that is still relevant in 2023
Congratulations hope you are all well xx
I just lost a parent to cancer, and let me tell you that, despite being 25, it was not “all okay.”
R. B I lost my dad to cancer at 28, two years ago and it’s still the hardest thing I have ever been through.
Sending love xx
Is Tracie still with us ? I can’t find her online
I believe she is