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  • @rethabilem05
    @rethabilem05 2 місяці тому +371

    i turned 30 this year and she’s absolutely right. everything you are ignoring and avoiding within will eventually catch up to you. it’s never to late to start though, learn to love on yourself ❤

    • @HeatherSmith-nd2td
      @HeatherSmith-nd2td Місяць тому +2

      Same girl claiming this decade 👏🏼👏🏼

    • @johnayabey
      @johnayabey 12 днів тому

      👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

  • @ciaraogilvie6257
    @ciaraogilvie6257 2 місяці тому +222

    You have yelled at me for 35minutes and 38 seconds and I loved it. Thank you 😮‍💨💚💚💚💚

    • @kerstintaylor1
      @kerstintaylor1 2 місяці тому +4

      I thought I was the only one who felt that way

  • @nya.nailsit
    @nya.nailsit Місяць тому +54

    “you can’t even pick up the trash off your floor” wait you’re right😂❤

  • @user-ye1ou3hv2d
    @user-ye1ou3hv2d Місяць тому +52

    I believe every girl should watch this video. Makes me realize I’ve always put myself in the back burner and loving others, and respecting them more than my own self to feel good about myself. This time I’m finally choosing myself, and loving myself before others. Thank you 🥰❤️

  • @delisadawnmariee5189
    @delisadawnmariee5189 2 місяці тому +70

    Not suppress that bank account! girl, facts are spoken there!

  • @ChamiaTiarra
    @ChamiaTiarra  2 місяці тому +88

    Anyone else struggling with this right now?

    • @CoastVie
      @CoastVie 2 місяці тому +3

      honestly yess,and you’re really helping alot 😊,thank you

    • @trinitidavis6876
      @trinitidavis6876 2 місяці тому +2

      For sure year 24 is literally episode 1 of who do I want me to be/ who am I?

    • @ChamiaTiarra
      @ChamiaTiarra  2 місяці тому +2

      @@trinitidavis6876 yes I feel exactly the same way, I’ve been learning so much about myself at 24

    • @celestecristwell5730
      @celestecristwell5730 2 місяці тому

      Yes, I'm working on it, though❤

    • @thankyoutaylor12
      @thankyoutaylor12 2 місяці тому +1

      Preach girl! WISE! I need to get my life together today.

  • @ariyanadesouza6257
    @ariyanadesouza6257 2 місяці тому +19

    Ure flesh will always protest your spirit! She’s spitting facts!

  • @theshaesthetic
    @theshaesthetic 2 місяці тому +51

    This video was right on time because I just got triggered today and realized my younger self don’t trust my current self. I have to build that trust within myself ❤ thank you for this. I’m definitely subbing

  • @Starrzfast
    @Starrzfast Місяць тому +5

    I never feel people through their videos, but YOU?! I found myself crying feeling lonely and sad and I put your video on and turned up. You are truly inspiring and incredible & your transparency with us is golden. It shows you live what you speak!

    • @ChamiaTiarra
      @ChamiaTiarra  Місяць тому

      Wow that’s so beautiful I’m so happy that it could help you, thank youu❤️

  • @megandci
    @megandci 2 місяці тому +16

    Baby girl, you’re killing it with the mindset! I’m 10 years your senior and I wish I had this mindset at your age. You will get everything you ever wanted if you continue the growth! It’s great to see the younger generation improving at a quicker pace. Thank you for dropping the gems queen!

  • @reabecoethabane5059
    @reabecoethabane5059 15 днів тому +3

    I turned 32 this month of November and ladies let me just say the sooner you do what she is saying on this video the better.
    And the fact that you watching this is a sign you moving in the right direction.
    Now after watching this to get the most value out of it, take action! Start small like she said “Do your bed “, consistently every morning!
    All the best to everyone on the journey of levelling up. May God bring to your obit things that will steer you in the right direction.
    Thanks for this content Chamia Tiarra here is your flowers 💐

  • @quierrashontae6762
    @quierrashontae6762 2 місяці тому +10

    I was just saying this to my brother yesterday about myself. I let go of certain anchors and failed forward, as I’m becoming the woman that I know through God, is beyond capable. Thank you Queen 💕

  • @lifeofchaewilliams3169
    @lifeofchaewilliams3169 Місяць тому +6

    I’m 24 years old too and i have tried a lot of things when i was 18-19 like selling lashes , outfits , and cosmetic products I don’t want to do that anymore either

  • @iamtiararainey
    @iamtiararainey 2 місяці тому +6

    I am 16 years old watching most if tour vudeos and it makes me want to love myself even more, I needed this THANK YOU! I need to be my safe space.

  • @KioraMckinney
    @KioraMckinney 2 місяці тому +13

    Wheewww, it’s like God put this video on my suggestion feed with purpose!🙏🏾Thank you! 👏🏾🔥

  • @MissYOUna
    @MissYOUna 20 днів тому +2

    How do I like this several times 😅 ❤ " you don't trust yourself enough" hit hard though

  • @ShamiDenerson
    @ShamiDenerson 2 місяці тому +16

    Girl, you STAY on point. WOW. Thank you for following through for you and enabling others to do the same in the process. ❤

  • @ZyliaArmoni
    @ZyliaArmoni 2 місяці тому +21

    I want to give you your flowers now, first I want to say you are absolutely gorgeous and that is the main reason why I love watching your videos 😂❤ but also this video just hit every single point that needed to be hit. This is to genuinely encourage you to keep going when I tell you, I listen to this and feel so much relatability from starting multiple businesses to, just learning about life and becoming a better woman and we’re the same age so I definitely feel like I really understand what you’re talking about like to be the same exact age and being in this transitional period of life thank you for showing up. Please continue to make this type of content. ❤❤

  • @cecilyhill1570
    @cecilyhill1570 17 днів тому +1

    I definitely use to be this way! I use to hate manipulators. Now my no means no! I don't owe anyone an explanation and I only hang around people who respect my boundaries.

  • @pradaakeyy4
    @pradaakeyy4 2 місяці тому +11

    this video is so enlightening bc i have been so mad at myself for the past few years for not having a real relationship with myself😄

  • @tiyanaj393
    @tiyanaj393 2 місяці тому +7

    I love how you gave the example of how you tried many things and know what you want compared to people who don’t know what they want and then they don’t try anything. People are scared to fail.

  • @SianiWhite-l7n
    @SianiWhite-l7n 2 місяці тому +11

    The wrapper been on the floor 3-4 days pick it up now 😭😭

  • @therapytalkwithnikita2383
    @therapytalkwithnikita2383 12 днів тому

    I legit can’t stop watching this video it really woke me up !!!!! I’m making a chance is ME FOR ME
    ☺️

  • @KOFTHEWEST2314
    @KOFTHEWEST2314 Місяць тому +1

    24?! I’m excited for you thank you for sharing your insight/ perspective 🫶🏾

  • @craveyournatural8682
    @craveyournatural8682 2 місяці тому +9

    Wow omg feels like you were speaking directly to me, love your videos!🙌🏾✍🏾

  • @therealanna1
    @therealanna1 2 місяці тому +3

    Thank you so much for this I thank God for you & giving this message! I needed it & it helped me I took so many notes from this & im moving forward thank you sweet soul ! God Bless🙏🏾🥰🥰🫶🏿🫶🏿

  • @kayla.z
    @kayla.z 2 місяці тому +29

    girl you got a podcast?? i would LOVEE to listen while doing my daily routines u clocked me HARD ♥🥲

  • @amaricurrie9605
    @amaricurrie9605 Місяць тому +1

    not she clocking my tea omg😭🤏🏾

  • @Itsreallyjamyra
    @Itsreallyjamyra Місяць тому +1

    Girl, I am almost 30 years old and this video inspired me. Thank you so much. Keep doing your thing.

  • @H3ba_
    @H3ba_ Місяць тому

    The gym/ bed one definitely resonates so much 😭

  • @servusdei8629
    @servusdei8629 2 місяці тому +3

    Girl chill😢😢😢 you came in hot😅🔥 ......but lowkey EXACTLY what i needed. Im not mad tho😂
    I've been burnt out for years. Running family businesses when crisis hit in 2019. About 5yrs no breaks and no leave. Always in GO mode just rolling with the punches. I'm worn out and exhausted. Dealing with Business struggles, family drama, failed relationships, infidelity, unfair female friendships, PCOS, financial challenges, schooling, unmet expectations, hmmmm. And there seems to be no escaping. Now i don't even know who i am and what i want in life. Im 31, single, overweight and borderline depressed. I know it's not over. Im working my way to move out, hire my replacement, sell off some assets, resign and take things slow. This is not how to live.
    This video is timely. Bless you

    • @Nurse2026
      @Nurse2026 Місяць тому +1

      It’s gonna be okay! Take her advice and show up for you. It’s gonna fall in place perfectly. I’m in the same situation

    • @servusdei8629
      @servusdei8629 Місяць тому

      @@Nurse2026 wishing you the best too

  • @sequoiamonique7429
    @sequoiamonique7429 Місяць тому +1

    I don’t even know you 1st time watching but I’m proud of you! You’re so young but your mind is so ahead of its time! Wisdom is such a blessing💜🥰

  • @cedricadaniels7983
    @cedricadaniels7983 27 днів тому

    Right out the gate, baby girl was reading me up and down 😭🙌🏾❤️

  • @dmvmeu7140
    @dmvmeu7140 2 місяці тому +2

    your character shines thru in this video, i honestly don't know why there aren't more comments. this one video in itself is literally the fix to my life (tho ik it'll take time). seriously thank you for your wisdom even at such a young age i feel like u know life's lessons so well 🥺❤️❤️✨️✨️

  • @dorothyburt5400
    @dorothyburt5400 2 місяці тому +3

    So glad my feed sent me ths! You have read me for filth and I love it! Instant subscrbe! I'm an older woman, but you've taught me alot!

  • @erystitch5299
    @erystitch5299 2 місяці тому +1

    Thank you for this ! Finally someone who gets it and doesn’t sound narcissistic but sounds genuine with care. Thank you!!!

  • @Sculsiveesi
    @Sculsiveesi 2 місяці тому +3

    All your videos feel like the FT call I needed thank you for this 😢❤

  • @Wokenmystic
    @Wokenmystic 2 місяці тому +5

    called me out so hard!! I. really do need to start showing up for myself.

    • @ChamiaTiarra
      @ChamiaTiarra  2 місяці тому +1

      Yes, you gotta put YOU first💕

  • @ThePhillykid23
    @ThePhillykid23 2 місяці тому +1

    I know you made this for the girls but this just great advice in general. Excellent self reflection and awareness. Thanks for sharing.

  • @Pynkfrenchchic
    @Pynkfrenchchic Місяць тому

    Yesssss!!!! My 34 year old self needed to hear this!!! I’m currently on a self love/ healing journey and this video definitely helped me. ❤🙌🏽

  • @Buplr
    @Buplr Місяць тому

    amen girl this i finally pulled myself out of a depression and it’s because i started treating myself like a friend instead of my own enemy

  • @Mietterinaluisa
    @Mietterinaluisa 5 днів тому

    7:44 you just taught me one of the most important things in life with a few words💕

  • @mariaarzoumanidou6078
    @mariaarzoumanidou6078 Місяць тому

    You are literally the only person that actually talks and I can literally understand and act on it. Thank you love❤

  • @eriellewilliams4980
    @eriellewilliams4980 18 днів тому

    Listened to you while I did the workout I was supposed to do this morning at the gym at home and I even found a weight. This is day two of me working out I’m 3 months postpartum and this was my second pregnancy you def talked some sense into because I was laying on my couch with Netflix on scrolling and your video popped up. You made me get up while my kids were sleep to get my workout done and baby IM TIRED BUT FEELING ACCOMPLISHED 💚

    • @ChamiaTiarra
      @ChamiaTiarra  17 днів тому +1

      Yess I love that for you, also congratulations on the new baby🫶🏾 I love that even with everything going on you still found time for YOU💕 also thank you for the support

  • @AngelLight-r7t
    @AngelLight-r7t Місяць тому

    You have such an old soul! Keep thriving your doing great 🤍

  • @AsheyLuv12
    @AsheyLuv12 2 місяці тому +3

    You snapped ngl

  • @scboogiee
    @scboogiee 19 днів тому

    loved this~ everything you said resonated with me, i'm bout to lock in 🤧

  • @shadaesolis
    @shadaesolis 2 місяці тому +1

    This spoke to my soul and I want to say thank you cause I’ll definitely start to build a relationship with myself

  • @deangelacrumbley
    @deangelacrumbley 29 днів тому

    Hey your page is a game changer I needed this I have heard it before but I came across your page and it's like a veil been lifted or it came across at a certain time in my life I already thought what you speak on but I've never put it into a tion till now keep doing what you do ❤

  • @therapytalkwithnikita2383
    @therapytalkwithnikita2383 12 днів тому

    This video was soo impactful I had to re watch it I feel like baby girl
    was talking to me !!!

    • @ChamiaTiarra
      @ChamiaTiarra  9 днів тому

      Aww thank you so much I really appreciate that🫶🏾🫶🏾

  • @fabfitforever4934
    @fabfitforever4934 2 місяці тому +1

    Girl you blowing me away your amazing, very happy to be here !

  • @TheKaySaditty
    @TheKaySaditty 2 місяці тому +1

    Yes mamas! You hit every point and I appreciate the bluntness. This is a great way to hear it especially when no one currently around you is experiencing it in such a similar manner…if they even are at all. Thank you ! 💐💓

  • @iamlove9053
    @iamlove9053 2 місяці тому +1

    This video is full of wisdom ! I’m so proud of you keep going girl ! ❤️

  • @Therealshawncoco
    @Therealshawncoco 14 днів тому

    I was just listening but then actual looked at the video and girl you are STUNNING 😍😍 talk that talk to me bookie 🕺🏾

  • @nayomeyearwood5640
    @nayomeyearwood5640 10 днів тому

    I Can relate to this statement.

  • @breonahawkins1018
    @breonahawkins1018 23 дні тому

    New subscriber !!! And sending this to my group chat because YASSSS GIIRL I NEEDED THIS!! And ima play it back until it STICKS!!!!

    • @ChamiaTiarra
      @ChamiaTiarra  23 дні тому

      Aww thank you so much for the support and im happy the video could help🫶🏾💕

  • @therapytalkwithnikita2383
    @therapytalkwithnikita2383 12 днів тому

    Thank you for making this video bbz I really needed this wake up call

  • @tianabrashea
    @tianabrashea 2 місяці тому +1

    You ate this from the beginning to the end! Needed all 35 mins

  • @tameciaanderson2371
    @tameciaanderson2371 2 місяці тому +1

    Girl you need to be preacher! Such an amazing video!

  • @nevaelena
    @nevaelena 2 місяці тому +1

    I Needed this!! My mindset has to change !

  • @HelenMatthew-j9x
    @HelenMatthew-j9x Місяць тому

    Wow at 7:25, YOU completely clocked me! Thank you because I really needed it. And you definitely gained a new subscriber 💕

  • @OmgGirlzLife
    @OmgGirlzLife Місяць тому

    I needed this at this moment. Thank you.

  • @Nokwanda-s5p
    @Nokwanda-s5p 26 днів тому

    I'm in love with your honesty mam. This is the second video I've watched on your channel and I already look up to you like my big sis 🤗

    • @ChamiaTiarra
      @ChamiaTiarra  26 днів тому

      Aww thank youu, that’s so sweet! ❤️

  • @ziyahziyon
    @ziyahziyon Місяць тому

    So young yet so enlightened❤

  • @FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj
    @FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj 2 місяці тому +2

    It's so easy to fall short sometimes

  • @thebestest5692
    @thebestest5692 Місяць тому

    Thank you so much for your wisdom.

  • @shannendunham8666
    @shannendunham8666 14 днів тому

    This face me the confidence I needed to move to NY

  • @BriHarmony
    @BriHarmony 8 днів тому

    first 10 seconds you clocked my tea😂 immediately subscribed!!❤️‍🩹

  • @monaefierce
    @monaefierce 2 місяці тому

    I love how real and authentic your videos are it’s so relatable

  • @mikeysslice531
    @mikeysslice531 25 днів тому

    Sigh. Thank you! I needed to hear this

  • @dymondlanee
    @dymondlanee 12 днів тому

    A word! Thank you for this🩷

  • @v.g1186
    @v.g1186 Місяць тому

    Also, as well as a motivational speaker that will sell out arenas, your the best selling author in your future.

  • @ariannazuke6054
    @ariannazuke6054 2 місяці тому

    i genuinely love you, i needed this video. i take care of myself quite well but i had a baby and I'm only 21, so its easy for myself to put me in a box and think I'm not capable of changing my life. but I'm working on that

    • @ChamiaTiarra
      @ChamiaTiarra  2 місяці тому +1

      Yes girl you got this🤞🏾 my mom got pregnant with me at 19 and still went on to get a masters degree. I’m not going to say it will be easy because it won’t but it will be a lot harder if you quit‼️ we are always our biggest competition, doesn’t matter who did “it” before you or “faster” than you I want you to know you can literally do ANYTHING you want with your baby right beside you in this thing called life❤️

  • @AllThingsDree
    @AllThingsDree 10 днів тому

    You need to suppress that bank account 😳🙌🏽 Clock that tea

  • @cierradimarino9272
    @cierradimarino9272 13 днів тому

    I subbed I will let you know I’m happy your video came on my feed I’m starting to heal and it’s been a very helpful video thank you 🙏

    • @ChamiaTiarra
      @ChamiaTiarra  9 днів тому

      I’m happy to hear that, keep going you got this 🫶🏾

  • @star444star
    @star444star 2 місяці тому +1

    Beautifully said

  • @asmanimou4883
    @asmanimou4883 Місяць тому

    Girl thank u so much, you’re so inspiring ❤

  • @zakiyatamin5744
    @zakiyatamin5744 2 місяці тому +1

    New subie❣️you clocked so much tea 😭 & I’m here for it 🥰🙂‍↕️

  • @lexissizzle5371
    @lexissizzle5371 2 місяці тому

    You better preach sister

  • @yasminibro4632
    @yasminibro4632 2 місяці тому

    Hey sis just wanted to say, I like your channel, you’re smart and beautiful. Keep it up! ❤

  • @bklynbarbie90
    @bklynbarbie90 2 місяці тому

    Saved to favorites ❤
    You definitely hit the nail on the head. This video blessed me. I’ve had my business for years but haven’t treated it with the seriousness that I should. I get up everyday frustrated when it’s my fault because I’m not doing what I need to do to push myself forward.
    You’re right, we wouldn’t take the saying one thing and doing another disappointment from a friend! So stop doing it to yourself! 👏🏾

  • @jahnvisingh7692
    @jahnvisingh7692 2 місяці тому

    Thanks ❤for picking up this topic

  • @lavenderandbiscuitbakery
    @lavenderandbiscuitbakery 2 місяці тому

    I needed to have this conversation, thanks 😊

  • @lamontevlogs
    @lamontevlogs 2 місяці тому +4

    DAMN, might as well call Ms Chamia a vampire the way she just came at my NECK in the first 3 seconds lmao no hi nothing 😂

    • @lamontevlogs
      @lamontevlogs 2 місяці тому

      I love this video, never change Chamia. This is so relatable.
      edit: 7:22 SHE SPITTING - oh mannnn let me subscribe okay Chamia really talk that talk

  • @TaTianaBiera
    @TaTianaBiera 2 місяці тому

    Tough Love 🙌🏾💕☺️😁 I love it. I needed to hear this. Right on time.

  • @TikTokUser7
    @TikTokUser7 2 місяці тому

    This video is such a gem! Thank you!

  • @Oneborntyra
    @Oneborntyra 2 місяці тому

    I love this whole video ❤ I’m 18 and I still don’t know what to do I have lots of things I want to do but I just don’t know the path

  • @StellaIhechu
    @StellaIhechu 2 місяці тому

    I really needed to hear this!

  • @E.Martin-hw5vp
    @E.Martin-hw5vp 2 місяці тому

    Whew chile, I needed this read!!!

  • @PaytonEklund
    @PaytonEklund 16 днів тому

    called me out but i needed this!

  • @demidiana562
    @demidiana562 2 місяці тому

    Thank you for this ! I needed to hear this today ! ❤

  • @ezenwanyi3756
    @ezenwanyi3756 2 місяці тому

    love this video ❤️‍🔥🙏🏿 everything said was a reminder to keep going

  • @jemimajameson578
    @jemimajameson578 2 місяці тому +1

    Exactly what I need ❤

  • @FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj
    @FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj 2 місяці тому

    Yeah l put it on the back burner l have been lacking going to the gym

  • @kimoramorley8493
    @kimoramorley8493 3 години тому

    Thank you

  • @miyahanderson797
    @miyahanderson797 2 місяці тому

    When u just said my name i got chills... my name is Shamiyah, message received😭.

  • @altaviecejones5142
    @altaviecejones5142 2 місяці тому

    You SNAPPED!!!💯

  • @paigelouxo
    @paigelouxo Місяць тому

    Watching from the UK🤍 so glad to found this channel !

  • @KimBee_PolishedGems
    @KimBee_PolishedGems Місяць тому

    This was so helpful, Thank you ❤

    • @ChamiaTiarra
      @ChamiaTiarra  Місяць тому

      🫶🏾🫶🏾 thank you for watching

  • @Boujienadiadaniel
    @Boujienadiadaniel Місяць тому

    I currently lost my job like last week on Wednesday n that was the most painful n stressful and loveing career I been worked at it tough me a lot