Is your mind a cluttered mess? Here’s how to clean it up, with Rajiv Surendra

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  • @robinmp3841
    @robinmp3841 Рік тому +1191

    You are the only one that can make cleaning out a drawer entertaining for 15 mins.❤

    • @julie-anntownley-rivett5173
      @julie-anntownley-rivett5173 Рік тому +28

      he is so beautiful to gaze at not unlike seeing a beautiful painting

    • @miriamalonso3959
      @miriamalonso3959 Рік тому +20

      Love him! The drawer as metaphor helps us see transformation as possible.

    • @LindyandDevin
      @LindyandDevin Рік тому +24

      Yes, I think the pile that was left on the table for me represents unnecessary friendships, that don’t bring pleasure social media is the dirt that I think litters my life with the wants and needs that society is telling me I should have Really all I need a few good friends and useful tools in my life.

    • @CrookedJoeBiden
      @CrookedJoeBiden Рік тому +3

      And hand washing dishes 😂

    • @debodatta7398
      @debodatta7398 Рік тому +6

      @@julie-anntownley-rivett5173 Rajiv Surendra is doing the Sri Lankan Tamil community proud

  • @hannae9842
    @hannae9842 4 місяці тому +15

    That flower arrangement in the back, right-hand side is one of the most stunning things I’ve ever seen. It’s simply scrumptious

  • @artyzartifacts9799
    @artyzartifacts9799 Рік тому +237

    My heart goes out to all the people who have had their minds poisoned and made unclean. Depression is like if Rhajiv had poured radioactive ooze into that drawer instead of dirt, you would need a hazmat crew to clean it up. It's a worthwhile venture, but some people need all the help they can get. Never be ashamed to ask for help.

    • @ScienceisRadAF
      @ScienceisRadAF Рік тому +22

      Brilliant point. This is a heavy lift; heavier for some. It’s okay to get some help with it.

    • @thissunchild
      @thissunchild Рік тому +3

      That's the entire world of humans. No one slips through the cracks of trauma

    • @Fwootgummi
      @Fwootgummi Рік тому +20

      @@thissunchildthis is true, but everyone is different. Some people struggle more and that’s ok. Sometimes the dirt turns to mud and gets into the cracks of the drawer and it’s harder to clean out. Sometimes more dirt gets thrown in when you least expect it. And sometimes you don’t have a vacuum (a therapist or proper guidance) and the best thing you can do is try to scoop it out. Unfortunately some people just get used to the dirt in the drawer, thinking they can just work around it until their drawer is so full of dirt they can’t put anything in or take anything out. We all get dirt in our drawer, that’s true, and we all have the ability to clean it out, but the difference is how much and how we go about getting it out.

    • @thissunchild
      @thissunchild Рік тому

      🥺

  • @jamesm.2802
    @jamesm.2802 Рік тому +35

    Rajiv is the Mr. Rogers of our time...for people of all ages.

  • @Bunnidove
    @Bunnidove Рік тому +793

    Sir, this visual and logical approach is helping me more than the 4 therapists I had in my life did. Thank you.

    • @samstruys3088
      @samstruys3088 Рік тому +7

      I hope you found some peace, happy he helped you.

    • @elartistaenelsuenolucido
      @elartistaenelsuenolucido Рік тому +3

      I don't think that's a good sign tho, but good that you keep trying with the different therapist, find one that is useful it's not a as easy as people think, one need to find them pretty much.

    • @Bunnidove
      @Bunnidove Рік тому +3

      @@elartistaenelsuenolucido Not a good sign?

    • @elartistaenelsuenolucido
      @elartistaenelsuenolucido Рік тому +3

      @@Bunnidove yeah if you think about it, by "not a good sign" I'm not meaning something fatal, more so like something that needs more attention than an abstract idea of "how to order your mind"

    • @rio8529
      @rio8529 Рік тому +3

      @@elartistaenelsuenolucidoyeah, its a pitty he didn’t mention therapy.

  • @ScienceisRadAF
    @ScienceisRadAF Рік тому +61

    I have found myself saying, “wait a minute. This doesn’t even belong to me!” It’s nice to stop letting it take up precious space.
    Same with beliefs, like pens, that are no longer helpful in writing my story. I don’t have to hold onto every used up item just because it served me at one time.
    Thank you Rajiv. ❤

  • @solsticesummer982
    @solsticesummer982 Рік тому +680

    Cleaning, psychology, philosophy, therapy, quiet beauty, and as always… inspiration. All in one video from our ~handsome~ Rajiv. 💕💜💕 Thank you

  • @alinatarkhanian
    @alinatarkhanian Рік тому +50

    I don't understand how your channel doesn't have at least 1M subscribers. I can listen to you talk all day. Thank you.

  • @Rose01bloom
    @Rose01bloom Рік тому +313

    Journalling and keeping a planner helps reduce my 'brain clutter' so much ❤ My memory tends to get really bad in times of stress (and I have a lot of those) and keeping both notebooks helps me remember the good, ease the pain of the bad things, and reduce feelings of overwhelm. Highly recommend it to anyone who struggles

    • @ponnimnath4145
      @ponnimnath4145 Рік тому +8

      I do the same ❤

    • @sandymakesplans
      @sandymakesplans Рік тому +7

      bullet journaling method, Ryder Caroll's original, as described in the book

    • @angelflot
      @angelflot Рік тому +16

      @@sandymakesplansI love your name! I have a crazy quirk of buying beautiful journals and then not using them. I will approach them now with a different state of mind. 1. Take from shelf 2. Open and enjoy the creaking 3. PICK UP A PEN And …. Don’t freeze up.
      That’s my plan so far. Thanks Sandy.

    • @smileymileywiley
      @smileymileywiley Рік тому +9

      I've been doing it for the last 16 years regularly. I dont know how I could still be here / be sane today if I didn't. Its the only thing that's got me through all of the hard, lonely and confusing times in my life.

    • @LowSlungBadBitch
      @LowSlungBadBitch Рік тому +2

      ​@@angelflot I used to have that issue. What got me over it is dedicating the first two pages (as in like the left page that goes to the right page when lying flat) to doing art and doodles, whatever i wanted, even just a literal scribble to see if a pen is working. Basically it's allowed to be a mess and not look good. Then after I'm just like well I can't ruin it beyond this. Another tip is just starting with using one color pen (black is my recommendation it makes messy stuff look cool). Now though I use so many color pens, markers, tape, stickers, etc. But In the beginning I just wanted to start, I had bought the journal a year before finally using it, and these two things helped me.
      Maybe you tried these already though :P

  • @danielsneyers
    @danielsneyers Рік тому +138

    This was such a beautiful metaphor Rajiv, and much needed. Please keep sharing the good you bring to this community.

  • @AmyAnnetteHenion
    @AmyAnnetteHenion Рік тому +621

    Watching you grab that second handful of soil gave me SO much anxiety 😂

    • @chiquipineda
      @chiquipineda Рік тому +31

      Same! I literally said “Noooooo!” at my iPhone screen. 😂

    • @l.williams6249
      @l.williams6249 Рік тому +20

      Me too! I literally held my breath😅

    • @elizabethcablesings
      @elizabethcablesings Рік тому +8

      Right?!!!

    • @karenbransome6978
      @karenbransome6978 Рік тому +14

      Same. I had an internal screaming fit. Thankfully, he didn't.

    • @anaisminto
      @anaisminto Рік тому +11

      Yess, me too! I was gasping and at the same time trusting the Rajiv would know what to do to get it clean again ✨☺️

  • @micuplans
    @micuplans Рік тому +132

    Rajiv, I have to say, the moment you took everything out and started cleaning the drawer with so much love and care, I started crying. I don't know exactly how to feel about it, but this metaphor got really deep into my soul. Thank you for this blessing. Send you warm hugs from Argentina ;w;

    • @mascarenhas9624
      @mascarenhas9624 Рік тому +6

      #Micaelavega742
      Lo mismo me pasò a mi. Tu eres muy jovencita, no dejes cómo yo, se acumulen tantas cosas sin valor. Esa cajón me dejó pensando mucho. Un abrazo cariñoso de una abuela sin nietos.🌹
      Maka🇺🇲

    • @lelaannotto650
      @lelaannotto650 11 місяців тому +3

      I cried through the whole thing. I never look at the comments on videos and wanted to see if anyone else had this reaction. This simple action and metaphor was so impactful and important.

    • @Srik_2024
      @Srik_2024 7 місяців тому +1

      … Me too…

  • @linaD08
    @linaD08 Рік тому +485

    What a meaningful and clever metaphor Rajiv!!!
    Thank you!
    Clutter applies to the physical drawers as well as the mental and emotional ones.
    Blessings to you Rajiv. Your gifts are well received.

    • @gregpendrey6711
      @gregpendrey6711 Рік тому +16

      Vote Rajiv for most interesting man!

    • @roxannedaly279
      @roxannedaly279 Рік тому +13

      Oh wow, you've totally said what I wanted to say to Rajiv!! Couldn't verbalize it better!!
      Rajiv, you are an amazing human & bless our lives in so very many ways❤!!

  • @alifetime5161
    @alifetime5161 11 місяців тому +3

    I never see a person with a beautiful mind like you

  • @andreacatura3382
    @andreacatura3382 Рік тому +289

    Amazing how we let so much clutter and dirt consume the precious space in our minds and yet we can’t seem to figure out why we’re so chronically stressed and overwhelmed. This is a genius metaphor. In order to do this exercise, i will be writing down all the items in my mind’s drawer to identify, assess and clean them. You’re the best Rajiv!

  • @bhanani5480
    @bhanani5480 Рік тому +10

    Having always lived with others, I am finally living on my own and I was reflecting on my hoarding and cluttering. It's a family trait and I thought to myself that yes I have this family trait but its not a good one and as an adult I can control it - I can choose to keep hoarding my brain and living space (and give myself excuses) or I can be free by letting go physically and mentally of the clutter. It's been a slow journey but every day is a win.

  • @marionsworld24
    @marionsworld24 Рік тому +38

    This brought me to tears... You are an amazingly thoughtful and insightful man....

  • @hannahmaxwell6891
    @hannahmaxwell6891 Рік тому +222

    This is wonderful. Im a therapist working with kids and teens and the visual aspect of the drawer and contents is so powerful. I will definitely share this with those that need it. Thank you.

  • @jadatar
    @jadatar Рік тому +201

    I was just having a huge crisis and cry, and of course, you return with a nearly unnerving precision. It's mostly comforting, honestly. Seeing your videos pop up always give me a spark of joy, an interesting new outlook, an invigorating drive to keep being good and kind and honest and open.
    Your timing, as always, is impeccable. Thank you for making content and for sharing yourself with us. Thank you for being so yourself it makes others, it makes me, feel more brave to try being just ourselves too.

    • @allyson--
      @allyson-- Рік тому +12

      I hope you're ok

    • @ritaamor283
      @ritaamor283 Рік тому +13

      I’m wishing, wherever you are, you are feeling well and safe. I too was in the middle of a day I will probably not forget, because it came with a big surprise that changed my life and had to make a difficult decision, when this video pop up and allowed me to re-center and face life. 🌷

    • @laurapeck9199
      @laurapeck9199 Рік тому +13

      Sending you a hug. Hope it gets better.

  • @jeanettedorfman5872
    @jeanettedorfman5872 Рік тому +40

    I just loved this. It reminded me of my childhood, sitting in front of Mr. Rogers at the television set. He taught so many of us who didn’t have particularly loving role models how to love not only the people in our lives but even the space and things around us. ❤

    • @jjiacobucci
      @jjiacobucci 8 місяців тому +1

      Mr Rogers was very very genuine and peace loving man. RIP

  • @sashaamsterdam
    @sashaamsterdam Рік тому +15

    Aww Rajiv. Just want to give you a hug. Thank you for sharing your beautiful soul with us. Much love from Amsterdam.

  • @divyanair4535
    @divyanair4535 Рік тому +85

    Over the years I have found that when I actually clean out my living space, I can feel my mind calming down as well. So the metaphor used here is also a tool for me to actually organize my mind while I am literally sorting out the clutter in my living space. I loved this video. It is a work of art. Keep up the good work, Rajiv and I look forward to your next.

    • @rajivsurendra
      @rajivsurendra  Рік тому +10

      Thank you!

    • @smustipher
      @smustipher 11 місяців тому +3

      Decluttering and reorganizing is my favorite daily, weekly, monthly, quarterly, annual activity. A tidy home is a tranquil home.

  • @nlbhaduri
    @nlbhaduri Рік тому +6

    Clean your mind and your things with LOVE….and patience. Thank you Rajiv for reminding us why we are even here in the first place…to love ourselves, live a life of value and respect our diversity….everyone’s drawer is different yet , isn’t it fascinating to look inside?

  • @radical_thinking
    @radical_thinking 11 місяців тому +3

    so seemingly innocuous but deeply personal, philosophical, and spiritual. What a wonderfully simple way to present something so necessary and profound!

  • @silvertree2189
    @silvertree2189 Рік тому +33

    This is the best video yet. This isn’t about organizing. It’s about clearing your head of all the shit you’ve been through. ;)

  • @archangelvalentine
    @archangelvalentine Рік тому +4

    I think this is also Konmari's tidying philosophy. It's a very kind and compassionate way to see the process of tidying and the self-respect one needs to get to the point of being capable of cleaning. Thank you for this sweet sentiment, this loving philosophy.

  • @cynthia2233
    @cynthia2233 Рік тому +43

    It always feels good to unclutter! A drawer, a closet, and your mind! I love the way you address this issue!

  • @TheAnimalsMagicShop
    @TheAnimalsMagicShop Рік тому +27

    Well there's no way I'm going to forget this Lesson Of The Dirty Draw, or the important message you delivered to me from my mom.. She had an awful childhood and battled mental illnesses her entire life. But she was the queen of clean and that's how she coped for 101 years of life on earth. She was also a wonderful mom along with being my best friend in the world and I miss her deeply. Thank you for bringing her message, and for being a bright light in the thunderstorm. I know it's hard...sending you love and peace 💚

  • @Wanderlust.travelandcoffee
    @Wanderlust.travelandcoffee Рік тому +35

    I lost my cat Mia, learnt of the death of both my parents and now going through a horrible work related stress leave all in the last 5 months and now am on anti- depressants for the first time ever. I am the type of person who does not like stress or complications in their life. Watching this Rajiv was like a breath of fresh air today. Thank you! 🙏😊🙏

    • @skycelestial4449
      @skycelestial4449 Рік тому +7

      Just find 1 minute of your time and 3 just big 3 breathes.Inhale and exhale.. Do close your eyes And once opened watche Sky, water, soil or a flower or dark green leaves... Start with this... Maybthe force be with you.. Om Shanti.. Wishing you peace and tranquility.

    • @PLuMUK54
      @PLuMUK54 Рік тому +3

      I can understand how you must feel. I had a similar time thirteen years ago, though I refused antidepressants.
      Just keep in your mind that, however dark it is right now, it does get easier to cope. The pain does not go away, but it does ease with time.
      Personally, I found that keeping a journal helped me. I'd write about how I felt, and seeing it on the page, it somehow seemed as if I could cope with it. I used to end each entry with something positive, even if it was something as simple as seeing the sunset. It helped me, and I found that I enjoyed it. I still write a journal for pleasure, and I now have a shelf full.
      Just hang in there. The human heart breaks easily, but it's so strong that it will recover.
      Sending you love and blessings from England.

    • @helenalexanderbristow1187
      @helenalexanderbristow1187 Місяць тому

      ❤❤❤

  • @lorrainedowdeswell2446
    @lorrainedowdeswell2446 Рік тому +10

    As a professional packer for those moving house, I see many of these drawers on a weekly basis. Most people seem to not look in their drawers or cupboards for things they already have so they just buy more of the same and end up with multiple drawers. As Rajiv suggests in this video, taking the time to sit quietly and connect with our mind to see what state it is in, would be one of the best times spent with ourselves. Thank you Rajiv, the eloquent way you present things is a blessing to us all.

  • @annamahon9240
    @annamahon9240 Рік тому +8

    I got so stressed when you almost put that dirt back in the drawer! What a genuine joy that video was though ❤Time to give my own drawers a clean!

  • @LeilaAMMartin
    @LeilaAMMartin Рік тому +61

    This is lovely, and a great metaphor. Minds aren't quite so easy--and when you do this, be prepared to be uncomfortable. To cry. Heck, be prepared to scream. Especially if you're unpacking stuff like attachment style, childhood trauma, physical or emotional abuse, depression, anxiety, etc. and/or how those things led you to decisions or places in life that you're struggling with now. All you can control is yourself and how you choose to process and react, forgive, whatever. You can't control anyone else, and you can't change the past. If you have access to a therapist, don't be ashamed to ask for help.

    • @MsMizz1
      @MsMizz1 Рік тому +3

      ❤ to go further be prepared to breakdown, shutdown, have an anxiety or panic attack. Scheduling self exploration on an off day, few days or before therapy, or smthg therapeutic like -a massage, yoga, gym, nature walk, plans with a safe loved one is practical. This is coming from a not always practical person but one who’s experienced all the above. It can be scary but self exploration leads to more awareness than you may imagine. It’s worth it. You come out better - feeling more whole. Good luck ✨

    • @grizeldaxxx4568
      @grizeldaxxx4568 Рік тому +3

      Leila , Your comment feels like Your are reading my Mind , I NEEDED to read this right now , thanks so much for sharing Your Mind x

    • @ponnimnath4145
      @ponnimnath4145 Рік тому +3

      Beautifully written dear❤

    • @misszsazsa6288
      @misszsazsa6288 Рік тому +3

      One teeny tiny step at a time! Nothing needs to happen all at once.

  • @catherineamato9004
    @catherineamato9004 Рік тому +5

    WOW !!! That was spot on ! I'm 66 years old and so happy to see someone like you, so young, who says exactly what MY internal dialogue was saying all my life about a cluttered desk , not drawer. I like your drawer !!!

  • @LostSoulSearching
    @LostSoulSearching Рік тому +6

    ❤ I am so humble and grateful there are people like you who care about the well-being of humanity. I know I just wrote a post...but I just finished the vid and want to cry. You gave me Hope. Thank you my friend.

  • @lisakinderman4054
    @lisakinderman4054 Рік тому +8

    No problem having a little mess in the drawer. Sometimes it takes a long while (and even a lifetime) to sort things out. It’s not a character flaw to collect more clutter (life lessons) along the way, either. Life is fundamentally beautiful AND messy. It’s how we choose to engage and work with what we have, which is the part of the message I appreciate the most.

  • @makloch
    @makloch Рік тому +9

    This is such a great analogy! If we could just see the Junk in our junk drawer! Mediation/prayer and silence have been helpful to clean out that drawer. At 9:40 you mention to ask yourself why am I still thinking those thoughts. Constant self reflection is key to self realization. When that junk is exposed it seems to melt away. Thanks Rajiv, you’re amazing!

  • @oshokk
    @oshokk Рік тому +106

    Thanks Rajiv, for being so authentic, so transparent and kind.
    Glad I found you and all your content.
    I really like you, and your videos, and all your aesthetics.
    This video felt like a hug, a very long and warm one, and I think it doesn't happen often in these places.
    Please keep doing what you're doing and don't hesitate with all that dirt messing everything up.

  • @SuzanneCherdarchuk
    @SuzanneCherdarchuk Рік тому +3

    I had just finished cleaning out a drawer when I saw this. Rajiv, you speak in such a calm and thoughtful voice, the message is sure to sink in.
    And on a completely different note: my first thought when I saw your socked feet below the table was, "ah, yes, a little bit of Canada in New York," (we don't wear shoes indoors) and it made me smile.

  • @Happy-to-be-here888
    @Happy-to-be-here888 Рік тому +10

    I love that you have 2 bone folders in the drawer

    • @rajivsurendra
      @rajivsurendra  Рік тому +1

      Of course! I use them both for bookbinding.

  • @TheHAYWARDFILMS
    @TheHAYWARDFILMS Рік тому +61

    This has just become my favourite video of his. I hope people don’t assume they know the metaphor and skip through the video. I hope people really listen to him all the way through. This should be compulsory viewing in schools and throughout life! What a wonderful human.

  • @amorca4653
    @amorca4653 Рік тому +69

    This episode, and how you delivered the message, reminds me so much of Mr. Rogers. Such a beautiful respite from the loud and fast out there. Thank you so much, Rajiv. You're a gem in this world :)

    • @carenscaife2721
      @carenscaife2721 Рік тому +5

      Yes! I, too, thought of Mr. Rogers. We all need those soft-spoken friends to remind us of what’s important in life.

    • @erinradford1845
      @erinradford1845 Рік тому +2

      My thoughts exactly!

    • @SalyAnnsArt
      @SalyAnnsArt Рік тому +2

      I too, thought the same thing. Thank you so much.

    • @lj401
      @lj401 Рік тому +1

      😄 I also thought of Mr. Rogers!

  • @thaniaxo
    @thaniaxo Рік тому +7

    Meditation for me is prayer. At the end of the day, when I feel alone, I know I am not. I know God is with me. I know He will never leave me. I know I am loved and cared for by Him 🤍

  • @princesshyrule
    @princesshyrule Рік тому +29

    I think one's home surroundings really speak to the state of their mind. Cleaning the physical space and the mental space at the same time is a great way to heal. Wonderful video!

  • @LeanMeanAsianCuisine
    @LeanMeanAsianCuisine Рік тому +4

    Trying to get a grip with myself and the hell hole I have allowed my mind and soul to become. It feels like my personhood is being tortured by my choice to keep the drawer closed but I wouldn’t even know where to begin. I have a lot of respect for what you do and the life you choose to live, a life that seemingly has more intention and beauty within a single video than I probably achieve in a week. Seeming this all visualized makes it feel possibly to do.

  • @MichaelaFreeman
    @MichaelaFreeman Рік тому +18

    I teach personal development and my clients need to see this. You managed to perfectly illustrate that I teach.

  • @Kelly-n2z7q
    @Kelly-n2z7q Рік тому +8

    That floral arrangement you created is so beautiful and the lighting on it is stunning. It is a work of art.

  • @Esther-ps3vx
    @Esther-ps3vx Рік тому +134

    This video made me emotional. Life has its ups and downs, and it can get difficult. Thanks, Rajiv, for this beautiful video, you are such a blessing to us. Love you! Sending positive vibes to everyone out there and may we all heal and be in our happy place soon.

    • @elizabethcablesings
      @elizabethcablesings Рік тому +8

      😢me too. Thanks for your blessing

    • @patriciamoffitt9543
      @patriciamoffitt9543 Рік тому +8

      I didn't start crying until I read your comment. Good healing, cleaning the mess up tears.

    • @angelflot
      @angelflot Рік тому +5

      He also speaks so gently. Reminds me of my therapist who I loved so much. Always speaking calmly to me. He also is so articulate.

  • @freedomwalkerpeace3727
    @freedomwalkerpeace3727 Рік тому +5

    Using the table drawer was a great way to demonstrate clearing out the mental and material clutter. Very simple and to the point. Clearing out clutter doesn't have to become a painful grueling ordeal it can be an ongoing rewarding process.

  • @eritua433
    @eritua433 Рік тому +12

    if you can afford to, sometimes having a professional desk cleaner can help clean up and make sense of your desk drawer

    • @kaylaevans5885
      @kaylaevans5885 Рік тому

      YES

    • @MoonSpinners
      @MoonSpinners Рік тому +3

      Omg, is that an actual job someone has? I’ve never heard of a professional desk cleaner! Do they just clean desks?

    • @kaylaevans5885
      @kaylaevans5885 Рік тому +6

      Not sure if you’re joking or not but I believe @eritua433 was using “desk cleaner” as an analogy for therapists!

  • @Patti-1962
    @Patti-1962 Рік тому +5

    I have been living with a long list of chronic health issues for over 20 years. One of them can become life threatening, hence my stay in the hospital this month. I am proud to say that with a lot of work my mind is now a disciplined place, where I am able to block negative thoughts, allowing only positive ones that bring contentment and joy. Of course in times of intense pain or when stressful events happen, I must continue being proactive in maintaining a positive outlook on life. Your explanation was helpful to me in how you talked about cleansing the mind..... like doing a huge de-clutter!

  • @ryanmiske2178
    @ryanmiske2178 Рік тому +7

    Wonderful.
    I've been struggling with issues from the past of all the dirt I poured in during teenage and college years. Weighing heavily on me. I had been considering sitting with it. I have a propensity to get myself busy or avoid thoughts. I have OCD / scrupulocity, , therefore certain thoughts bother me and I push them aside. Through therapy I've learned about exposure therapy and allowing the thoughts even if they bother me because by allowing them to come you get habituated to them and come to accept them.
    Your video is is wonderful confirmation. Found myself laughing through this. Usually speaks to the truth of what I am hearing for me.
    I also see our environment, that is our homes, a representation of our internal psyche. I've been striving hard for the past few years to organize, remove things from my parents home, Maintaining my apartment, and getting rid of things that I have unnessary attachment to. Then maintaining the space is so hard for me. I have a propensity to fill it back up. Literally bought two things I did not need yesterday.... Now I need to get rid of them. But then I've been adding things that are really wonderful and fulfilling to me. That's the wonderful thing about emptying of the dirt. You get to fill it with wonder.
    Thanks again Rajiv.

  • @tennysoneffie6943
    @tennysoneffie6943 Рік тому +1

    The drawer was a very good analogy. We declutter our homes, sweep and wash floors, sort out our wardrobes and remove what’s not needed or wanted and then we restock with fresh clean items…….of course it makes absolute sense that we should declutter our minds but sometimes the simple obviousness of the chore remains elusive. Start with a good diet and exercise and let the wind blow the cobwebs and ballast away.
    Another great video Rajiv.

  • @D.Dragoon
    @D.Dragoon Рік тому +18

    Clarity of mind is everything.

  • @pamelapeterson2987
    @pamelapeterson2987 Рік тому +3

    I know you were using the drawer as a metaphor, but I've found a lot of mental peace as I've let go of many physical possessions. It has created more time and space to deal with my cluttered mind. Just wish I'd figured that out when I was younger.

  • @mariannetracy4248
    @mariannetracy4248 Рік тому +4

    As I've decluttered the drawer, it creates space for other insights to just pop in. This week: as a retired professional now tending to home and hearth, I'm shocked at how boring housework is to me. I was doing dishes, and got that DUH moment --- "your mother hated being a housewife too,": - although she performed it dutifully and lovingly. So that's where it comes from, I do believe, and that will help me with it. My point is - "having an emptier drawer" seems to create the space for sudden gifts of insight... though not necessarily overnight. As with Rajiv and us all, one's greatest creation is the self. I write this because I truly love this channel and everyone who contributes.

    • @softsophisticate
      @softsophisticate Місяць тому

      I hope you are enjoying your retirement and have started to enjoy the housework. Washing the dishes can be a great time to let the mind relax, look out of the window at nature and let your mind roam and you never know what inspiration or interesting thoughts pop up.

  • @TheGPFilmMaker
    @TheGPFilmMaker Рік тому +8

    I needed this video so badly today in particular. In a phase where so many things have been dumped into my mental drawer and I'm feeling overwhelmed. I know the phase will end - and then I can tidy up my mind!

  • @End_Orca_Captivity
    @End_Orca_Captivity Рік тому +15

    Living in the time of 24hr news, I do think it has become increasingly important to look after our 'drawers', especially when fed with a constant diet of doom and gloom. After the decluttering we should remember often, to look for the roses in life and smell them, of which your floral display Ranjiv, is truly lush! 💜 Much love from London xx

    • @grizeldaxxx4568
      @grizeldaxxx4568 Рік тому +2

      So true ...the news is a really crap meal! x

    • @softsophisticate
      @softsophisticate Місяць тому +1

      For the last 18 months, I have stopped watching the news. I could no longer stand the morning news with its dramatic music - not what I want to hear first thing in the morning. Now I choose relaxing music.

  • @torilea8104
    @torilea8104 Рік тому +3

    I spent a day going through my draws a few weeks ago, threw heaps stuff away and organised the rest. This is a very rewarding and therapeutic excercise.

  • @benwrex6280
    @benwrex6280 Рік тому +22

    As someone who loves organization and is on a big journey of self-improvement, this video was very timely and deeply satisfying.

  • @lalailm
    @lalailm Рік тому +2

    This man’s videos are my safe space

  • @pinalpatel8156
    @pinalpatel8156 Рік тому +77

    “Curate what goes into your mind”! Love it!
    Thank you Rajiv! This could not have come at a better time.
    💕

  • @lolgriffin3243
    @lolgriffin3243 Рік тому +2

    I was discussing something similar with my 14 year old son just this evening. We must take a proactive approach to our minds.

  • @bbrosser694
    @bbrosser694 Рік тому +7

    Thanks! As always, you've shared good ideas and good plans for improving daily living. Thanks!

  • @shannonvans
    @shannonvans Рік тому +2

    This reminds of Philippians 4:8, Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. When I struggle with anger or bitterness, I can get consumed by my feelings, and I try to stop, understand why I'm feeling that way, can I do anything about it, or just decide I don't want to controlled by those feelings, and try to turn my thoughts like the verse above, and your drawer. I may need to do it over and over because feelings can be powerful, but I also don't like living negatively.

  • @laurafetterley
    @laurafetterley Рік тому +18

    I’ll be watching this on repeat when I need it. Thanks mister ❤️

  • @reallyaprilstarr
    @reallyaprilstarr Рік тому +5

    Please take this as a very massive compliment. This reminded me of watching Mr Rogers. ❤ Your drawer management is what we therapists call The Work. Love the dirt metaphor at the end- self worth comes from cleaning out that drawer. 😜

  • @floraluxla
    @floraluxla Рік тому +57

    Sometimes we need basic reminders like this. Thanks for the beautiful video, Rajiv. 💗

  • @sarahbreisch4750
    @sarahbreisch4750 Рік тому +7

    "Your mind cannot hold an endless amount of stuff."-Rajiv "My brain hurt like a warehouse, it had no room to spare, I had to cram so many things to store everything in there. "-David Bowie

  • @chloe7288
    @chloe7288 Рік тому +36

    Everything about this is so incredibly masterful. I can't believe that Rajiv is filming these videos and putting them on the internet for us to watch for free. Thank you so much.

    • @mariannetracy4248
      @mariannetracy4248 Рік тому +6

      Agreed!

    • @angelflot
      @angelflot Рік тому +3

      He is like a therapist with such gentle delivery. He reminds me of my therapist. I haven’t seen her since the pandemic, she moved facilities and she was honest and told me I was such a good patient and did everything she taught (Behavior modification therapy) to deal with pain management if my fibromyalgia and Chronic pain, depression and anxiety. Rajiv is that type of person. He had a good soul.

  • @trompeta79
    @trompeta79 Рік тому +1

    Even though it was uncomfortable, I'm glad you included the second fistful of dirt ready to throw in - those are the moments we have a choice whether to hold our drawers clean!

  • @julietetlours
    @julietetlours Рік тому +68

    beautifully vulnerable, so much to take from this. I can't wait to put it into practice. we all deserve peace of mind.

  • @Kelly-n2z7q
    @Kelly-n2z7q Рік тому +13

    Thank you for taking the time to explain this in an easy-to-understand-way. If the state of my house is the state of my mind, I'm overdue for a big and thorough cleanse. And you are right, wanting to face it all, takes courage, love and compassion for oneself. I have been avoiding 'cleaning out my drawer'.

  • @spensercasino
    @spensercasino Рік тому +7

    I absolutely adore your videos! Watching from the forest in Northern California, and yet I feel a kinship with you. Please keep letting us have these precious peeks into your world and your mind, they are comforting and inspiring. Love from the Sierra Nevada Foothills!

  • @richardeliano9143
    @richardeliano9143 Рік тому +2

    Grown up MR. Rogers! I love it. Life as Draw. I am a stylist and I swear when I go through my clients drawers with them it is a real challenge emotionally and physically. It's a tender issue. I truly believe it takes practice and consistency on a regular basis to clear things out...Just like in your brain. So this is such a great process and exercise that symbolizes more than just cleaning out your draws.Thank YOU Rajiv! you are a genius!

  • @amy83079
    @amy83079 Рік тому +21

    OMG Rajiv! Thank you so much 😊 I can’t afford therapy but this is a good start 👏🏼 Now I know how you’ve been able to live a life of passion without paralyzing fear.

  • @amandamartinez4657
    @amandamartinez4657 Рік тому +8

    Hi Rajiv! Thank you for this timely video. Today I tackled some of the clutter in the basement I’d brought with me to my new home. I threw out a postcard in my “memory things” from a person I was close with after reading it and realizing it no longer made me feel happy. There’s lots in the donation pile, too. It’s okay to let go. Peace to you

  • @sunnymountainhoneyfountain
    @sunnymountainhoneyfountain Рік тому +8

    This metaphor really worked for me, thank you. Plus it was fun getting to see what interesting objects you keep in your actual drawer.

  • @mariaelenaloveslove
    @mariaelenaloveslove Рік тому +5

    A lesson for super nice people, always stay away from people with dirty drawers. Thank you Raj❤❤

  • @ahirudesu
    @ahirudesu Рік тому +9

    These videos I’ve realized are like a Mr. Rogers for adults, at least to me! Gentle self improvement, a meditation in and of themselves! Looking forward to the next, thanks for making the time to make these lovely vids.

  • @cyndifalk
    @cyndifalk Рік тому +1

    This was so beautiful - I'm literally in tears for our poor Self when you carelessly tossed that dirt in the drawer. I couldn't wait for the vacuum and was so worried it would never come.

  • @l.williams6249
    @l.williams6249 Рік тому +4

    I’ve recently started doing morning pages where you just write whatever comes out of your mind for a few minutes. I think I will incorporate this into it!

  • @patdarish6777
    @patdarish6777 Рік тому +2

    My dearest Rajiv- you realize you may have given some folks a glimmer of insight into managing “the monkey mind” perhaps for the first time. This vid, for me, served as a reminder to manage that drawer more efficiently. You exude the energy of someone who’s “got it together”. Thank you for this one in particular, in this crazy world, it was important and timely. Blessings to you always.

  • @megan2176
    @megan2176 Рік тому +3

    So much to think about! And so true, many of us are so distracted with this or that (ear buds are like a lock on our drawers!!), we rarely let ourselves even peek into those drawers, fearful of whatever is lurking in there! It can be scary to be alone with the contents of the drawer, but so important to face them, to move on and heal, and have a less cluttered life! Just, wow! Thanks for the therapy!! ❤❤

  • @melaniereeder2349
    @melaniereeder2349 Рік тому +1

    I was watching a new video by Colin and Samir where they had a table with some of the biggest UA-camrs and they asked them what UA-camrs they liked or thought they wished they could make what the other did. I immediately thought of your channel! You’re not as big as some of the huge UA-camrs but you don’t waste a video. Each video feels very authentic.

  • @herbauxceleste1038
    @herbauxceleste1038 Рік тому +3

    This is gold.
    I could have cried watching you decluttering this drawer, I am in this process of cleaning my whole appartement and my relationships and my mind and god knows there is a loooot of work to do and this feel discouraging sometimes, I just look at this mess and it’s exhausting and I feel terrible about how it ended up there
    I couldn’t have expected a better way to put words on my struggle,
    You are truly an inspiration for my 22 year old self trying to get her shit together thank you!!

    • @grizeldaxxx4568
      @grizeldaxxx4568 Рік тому +1

      Someone once told me the Manure makes the Roses smell so much Sweeter , so as someone who is also sorting Her shit out I thought You might get a giggle out of it too

  • @eliseannmifsud2972
    @eliseannmifsud2972 Рік тому +8

    This is one of the most meaningful videos you have ever made. I am saving this to rewatch every time I need

  • @mysteriousu5528
    @mysteriousu5528 Рік тому +3

    👋👋👋 Excellent video, Rajiv. Hugs from Florida❤.
    I love cleaning, be it my closet, kitchen, mind.
    Knowingly or unknowingly, you covered Bhagavad Gita and John Milton in one sentence 😂. BG- You're your own best friend or worst enemy. Milton- The mind is its own place, and in itself can make hell of heaven and heaven of hell.
    We all should, from to time, go back to our childhood as it was a period of innocence, curiosity, pure joy and lost in theirown little world.
    My father, who was very good in English literature, would crack a joke about Milton's real life incidence. Milton wrote Paradise Lost when he was blind and also his wife was alive. He wrote Paradise Regained after his wife died and got his eyesight back😅
    Rajiv, You are an all-rounder and a wholesome being. I am very proud of you and happy to come across your channel. Best wishes to you for a very long healthy, wealthy and joyous life.

  • @jennywalker9572
    @jennywalker9572 Рік тому +8

    This video, and your kind words, need to be shared with everyone. 15 minutes of mental health brilliance.

  • @avivat3010
    @avivat3010 Рік тому +31

    Dear Rajiv, You care so much for others! Thank you for sharing this very clear lesson with all of us. We've all had a difficult time the last few years. That on top of other "dirt" that was also residing in our minds has made many of us vulnerable. A close friend has suggested meditation. I wasn't sure if it would help me. Now I understand. You really touched me today. Thank you so much! 💖 (I'm soooo relieved that you didn't throw dirt in that beautifully clean drawer. I won't throw dirt in mine, either.)

  • @katrinalee292
    @katrinalee292 Рік тому +1

    I just started following you actually less than three hours ago. You were on my timeline as I was watching a documentary earlier on my television and you happen to be on my timeline. All I wanna say is. Rajiv you are such a beautiful human I don’t believe it was by accident that I started to watch your videos especially this one excuse any spelling I’m talking in the microphone do not stop making videos please there is so many loss people, depressed, lonely sad and this world we need more people like you continue to be great, and all that you do thank you for the videos

  • @coconut922
    @coconut922 Рік тому +24

    This was so personal and beautiful! Quality content, like always. Thank you for sharing Rajiv

  • @leanev4019
    @leanev4019 Рік тому +4

    Just WOW. I love this. This is a great way to show how mental crutter affects your life. Knowing what to do and how to do it vs. digging a a drawer of clutter trying to find something meaningful. Losing sight of inspiration due to failed or uninspiring clutter hiding your potential... Mourning bad memories while the good happy memories are just below the surface of the dirt but you can't see it... Feeling rushed and fuelled by all the wrong emotions because you can't find your focus, your drive, your purpose. A very beautiful way of explaining mental clutter. Thank you, Rajiv.

  • @utahdan231
    @utahdan231 Рік тому +5

    You are absolutely right. Life is much easier with a decluttered mind. There are chapters we have to erase.

  • @drcarrot415
    @drcarrot415 Рік тому +10

    I am so glad I found this channel. I genuinely feel like everything you say in all of your videos, whether it deals with heavy topics like this one, or more superficial ones, is exactly what I need to hear. Not to mention your uploads tend to work out to line up with my own journey of self-improvement and preservation. This cake at a great time for me and I appreciate everything you share with the world.

  • @chiquipineda
    @chiquipineda Рік тому +6

    Rajivjaan, you have a way of expressing and teaching that is so elegant and eloquent yet so easy-breezy and relatable! I just luv ya. That’s all. 😊❤

  • @LarsDahlin
    @LarsDahlin Рік тому +1

    What I also do is to thank the objects for letting me have or use them before parting with it. It was a time that the object ment something so I try to respect that and therefore minimising the "dirt".
    Great analogy and thank you for telling this story. Love it!

  • @mmaknae
    @mmaknae Рік тому +3

    The most elegant decluttering/organize video of the kind! Finally someone who does it without and empty and boring clean, superficial intentions, but the result is curated and the objects, choices are of so much quality. Thank you.

  • @fran3715
    @fran3715 11 місяців тому +1

    Raji is my new GURU ! I really enjoy every single video of you !

  • @vintagebliss6755
    @vintagebliss6755 Рік тому +9

    Rajiv, only you could make organizing a junk drawer captivating and beautiful ❤ you are always an inspiration!!

  • @JK-iw6yn
    @JK-iw6yn Рік тому +2

    I didn’t even notice it’s your own channel, Rajiv! Was thinking it was the good old HGTV. Good for you and please keep on inspiring us ❤ You have a good soul.