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You and Billy are the dearest most adorable funny loving couple. And whatever you are learning together right now will make your marriage stronger and better and happier. I also am so thankful for your utter honesty. We are all on the razors edge in this life. Battling to be more Christ like and have less of ourselves. In marriage it is tricky because there are truly times that it IS the other side that needs to change! And we do have the right and obligation to care for ourselves too. the tricky part is that both sides have to change. But when and whose turn is it? This video brings up so many deep and real challenges that marriage brings. No one speaks of the deeper harder truths than you Chy. Thank you for bringing the real stuff to the light.
Whether you realize or not, referring to your marriage as a "shipwreck...in deep waters" implies the battle is over. But choosing to remain married in name only is of course no one else's business and completely up to you and Billy.
Good luck with that Chynna. Your plan is what amicably divorced people do to keep the family unit together. It's also what people do on their way to divorce... said kindly.
I haven't tuned in to this channel for quite awhile but she's making a Big mistake. She's leaving the door wide open for him to meet someone new. If he doesn't want this separation there may come a time when he will if left alone long enough. If a person wants out of their marriage this might be a way to ease into it. But if a person wants to Save their marriage this is the last thing they should do. She needs to ask herself if she's wiling to take the risk? Things never work out as planned. Date nights 2-3X's a week? Things will get in the way until finally it won't even matter anymore. I see this as a downward spiral. I hope she reconsiders this move before it's too late.
Chynna that old devil is up to no good. Living separate lives is not a marriage. It will leave you wide open for trouble. You've had enough chaos in your life. Please reconsider. 1 Peter 5:8 King James Version (KJV) Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour.
@jennifertiemann6403 not necessarily... tons of non narcissists can be selfish. People throw this disorder around way too much. HG Tudor explains it well!
Shayne, your right, people can have narcissistic tendencies without having narcissistic personality disorder. I just happened to have studied narcissistic personality disorder extensively due to my adopted daughter having the disorder. I can tell someone has narcissistic personality disorder due to their different behaviors. I can go through the video and post everything she does that proves that she has the disorder if you'd like. 😊
@@brightblonde3508 very true .I'm getting the impression there is some anger within from her childhood and she's transferring that onto her husband . I find this very sad .
@@dissidentfairy4264 He seemed genuinely hurt that she wouldn't join him. "I'll think about it." It pains me to admit this, but I genuinely hope Billy meets somebody new.
I enjoy the things you share Chynna and your prayers have lifted me in moments of need. Thank you. Very sad, to see problems with you and Billy. Watching you push him away and be dismissive of him is a worry. You guys have such a history .. you'd never have with another. Its hard to understand, what it is that you're looking for that you don't already have. So many times we dont realize what we have until we lose it. Wishing the best for you both.
Do you have any idea how many ladies would LOVE to spend time with Billy. One of these days the temptation will be too much for him to resist! The Devil is working overtime to destroy relationships!
😢I have been concerned about this for a long time. I have been married 39 years. My husband and I are not alike in so many ways. We have to be together or we get way too independent. I came into the marriage wanting my rights. I find that the more I serve him, the more he serves me.
If Billy cheats, it won't be because of temptation. It'll be to get what he's not getting from Chynna, which is a lot! She doesn't validate him, seems like she doesn't want to be in his presence and kind of mocks him for his interests, like being excited for World Series tickets.
@lisayun8995 I certainly agree there should not be curses spoken over any marriage, but there can be loving caution brought to someone's attention. My "Spirit-filled" sister-in-law pushed my brother too far and it made sexual temptation too difficult to resist.
@jog8483 agreed!! She doesn't value him. Listen to her talk? It's draining. All about her. He is definitely all in. But it's so one sided. I imagine he is weary of it all. Does she know what a gift she has. ? I feel sorry for billy. U don't get married to live apart.
Someone will come along that wants to be with Billy. It's not as simple as it sounds. Go on trip with him. Fight for your marriage! I know because it happened to me.
@@spirituallysafe That commenter was trying to offer up a fun unique gift! No one said NASA owns the stars, mind you I’m not mean to you, pointing this out, I say that because it’s hard to interpret the feeling in a comment, since you can’t hear my voice, in fact they study our stars and galaxy. Think about it that way instead of attacking science. There are many believing wonderful scientists throughout history who admire God who is the one that is infinite with infinite knowledge. Science is a blessing to us, from God we get these wonderful people who can disseminate some of the mysteries of our universe and that do extraordinary miraculous things from medicine to technology and space study, and scientific minds have done great things and yet at the same time still honored God. Knowing he is the source of all knowledge. And many of them will tell you how Gods knowledge is infinite and mind boggling. And that he himself is infinite. I know because my scientist father told me this as a child when I asked him questions on where God came from. He said God is infinite and he has always been here. It’s dangerous to attack all scientific study as anti God. Many fascists, communists and horrible human beings have done this or tried to use science and repress knowledge to harm the world and its people, most scientists I have seen want to make this world a better place. Just think if we had someone find a way to cure world hunger. Through scientific means. We can’t attack researchers and scientific and intelligent minds as being anti God, in fact most scientists won’t even say there is no God, because there is no absolute proof to saying that. Even great ones that have may have doubts say well I cannot say there is no God, and many that have doubts will say I hope there is a loving God. Because of course that would be wonderful for all of us. Some scientists and mathematicians (my dad also was that) see math and physics as a code of Gods. You can really use science to see this beautiful code God has put in us. Just look at our DNA and RNA codes. Some scientists even call it the God code trying to unravel the mysteries of human mind and body and of nature. I hope you will see the beauty in that. And the incredible minds some of these people are blessed with. The Majority of them want to do good things. And help us and help our planet and study the wonderful incredible galaxy. I hope that people won’t fear that, because if we one day find out we can live on other planets or were to meet other human life forms, I hope that you could see the beauty that God made this infinite huge galaxy. Just like different people throughout history from different counties and languages have interpreted the Bible and have explained what Hebrew words mean, in their original meaning, we may one day meet people from other galaxies that love the same God we do, but perhaps speak a different language that might be more like a scientific code. And not like the languages we are used to on earth.
The scary thing is that Chynna has no self-awareness of how difficult she seems. I'm not even going off what Billy says about her, just the things she says makes her seem entirely self-interested. She's allowed to be that, but you can't be THAT and in a happy marriage. I mean, how can she sound so aggravated that Billy is excited about WS tickets?? That sounds like a big deal! Then she tells you how happy she is to separated from Billy, but she doesn't know how he feels about it. What??? Doesn't she even care how he feels about it. I hope they figure it out, but it won't happen if she doesn't value him & his feelings more.
You were correct when you said you and Billy had an arrangement. An arrangement is NOT a marriage. All I heard was I, I, I and ME, ME, ME! A marriage is a WE thing.
I lost my husband who died suddenly at only 45 yrs old. No way would I miss any time sharing our life together. Time together with the person you love is precious, and we don't get that back when it's gone. You've already missed so much time together due to your careers and having to travel, so why take more from yourselves? When your person is suddenly gone, it is not the date nights or big events you miss, but the normal casual days together you would give anything to get back.
This is incredibly sad. I'm now truly seeing why this is called "California Preaching". It's not walking with Christ, it's walking with Hollywood drama.
Chynna, dear sister. Why do you take it for granted that Billy will always be there? I was married for 30 years and it wasn't always easy. Yet it was so worth it! My husband got cancer and passed away, but we both realized how quickly those 30 years had gone by. Thankfully, as hard as it was sometimes, the two of us cherished our time together. Be a godly wife and go be with your husband.
This semi-separation sounds good..in theory. However, keep in mind that it may be dangerous too. What if another woman makes a pass at your husband and since you are not there...well, you know. The other thing is that he or you may decide it is better to live apart permanently. So, I would say please be mindful of these pitfalls. Praying for your healing!
When Billy finds a 28-year-old who thinks he hung the moon and stars, and then, oops, she is pregnant, Chynna will have regrets. Chynna Women get older, and men become more distinguished. I didn't make the rules.
1 peter 3:7 says husbands, live WITH your wives in an understanding way.....I have heard it expounded by that that means you actually have to live together.
I was as flippant about my relationship w my partner as you are. Then he died unexpectedly. Maybe if someone had tried to make me look at myself and dysfunction; i would have realized..something, or snything, at all. Maybe, but probably not. So, in the name of trying to make you take a hard look at your state of mind, I will say, please take a long hard look, before its too late, &you find yourself devastated, like i have been since Feb 2022. And, time doesnt heal wounds such as these.
Marriage is also (and mostly) for children. Since the child-rearing is basically finished and being together as a couple is no longer workable what's the point of staying married.
@@spirituallysafe If Chynna and Billy choose to live separate lives, only getting together to file joint taxes and maybe grab dinner, then they are married in name only.
Hi Chynna.....I know that everyone does marriage differently but I am concerned about this arrangement for your marriage. It sounds like a trial separation/divorce. It's also easy to get set in your ways if you do this. If you want your marriage to stay strong, I would advise against this. I'm also praying for your health and that you do *not* have cancer. God bless. ♥
I personally believe y’all need an expert counselor. There is one my daughter found and it’s guaranteed to change the situation if you’re marriage is in trouble . It’s extremely expensive , but it’s for both partners .
I feel like as long as I've been watching your channel you've been trying to leave your marriage. Billy is a wonderful person, as are you, but he deserves a partner who wants to be with him in a healthy marriage. He makes a lot of compromises for your happiness. I don't say that to be hurtful. You are not a bad person, you are growing. We never stop growing, and sometimes we grow apart. I was in your shoes once and it took me way too long to leave because of guilt and the children, but that was so unfair to my husband who could have found a better partner sooner and had a healthier marriage. God doesn't want people to be unhappy and he is forgiving. A lot of things change in a marriage during menopause. I'm praying for you so much, because I know what you are going through, and if this new living situation is what ends up being best for you both then I think that God will still support you.
Very insightful and well said. Now that their children are grown, perhaps Chynna no longer feels the need to be so resistant toward moving on from her marriage. Let's be honest -- a healthy nurturing marriage shouldn't require that much work! Both Chynna and Billy deserve better now that they've gotten older, and their children are grown.
I agree. I've been watching her for years. I've observed that there is always a struggle between the two of them. All of the therapy has not seemed to make things better for them. They are just not compatible. Living separately looks like a good idea to me.
Not true- God does not want us happy as His priority. God wants us holy. What holy thing is God asking you to live up to and do, Chynna? That is the question.
If your surgery is not happening soon get a ticket and go with your husband. Your ego is not your amigo. No complaining or worrying will change your tumor. Live as if it is your last day. Love as if it was your last day. Start loving, quit thinking. Being right never wins. Become a listener ad pray.
I wouldn't not go on that trip with my husband. No way! Continental Divide means more than one thing! He wants you with him!! It's a terrible feeling not to be wanted, take care of his heart ❤️ and he'll take care of yours. 😊
Ohhhh Chy, not gonna pretend with you that you're still committed to your marriage.........good luck with everything Divorce sucks but if you are happier without Billy than with Billy I think you have your answer.❤
I wouldn't leave a husband, a man alone very long. My cousins husband left to work in California. She went for awhile & decided to come back home for a stay. Went back & caught him shacked up with another woman. Men are not like us They won't go long without sex! I dont care if hes the most perfect husband in the world. Billy will finally find that special woman that will scratch his back & love him like he wants. Get with it Chynna if you want to keep him or you will lose him.
Pray Chynna, I'm sure you do for you and Billy to keep your marriage together The Enemy is trying to break you up!! 😢. The Enemy is working hard on the family unit!
I know this is just a snipped of your lives. But you arent coming off looking to good right now in this one. Kind of like when you left him at the restraunt because you forgot about him while he was paying the bill. You had to go back to pick him up. Really it kind of seemed like you were trying to bring him down a couple notches maybe. Everyone wants to be wanted. And maybe secretly you want him to go else where for comfort as long as you dont have to see it.
Chynna, without wishing to be unkind if you haven’t realised how good you’ve had it with Billy, you will when he’s in the arms of another woman, and there may will be no going back for him. Good man are rarer than hens teeth.
This last part was so difficult to watch .She's so filled with anger and need to see a good therapist . Self Sabatoge stems from feelings of inadequacy . She needs to regroup ,refocus and face herself .My heart dropped This man is still in love .She's not .
You had better be glad this does not appeal to Billy, But if u don’t get out of this idea, he will love this arrangement! ARE YOU CWAZY. This is not okay!
Anyone else see a problem with the fact that she has no idea if living separately is working for Billy? You gotta love how she fluffs her hair at the same time she says this. "I have no idea if the current living situation that I have forced upon my husband is working for him, but I love him so much." Gaslighting? Narcissism?
@@harper_anne2089 I've never felt that she fully appreciates Billy and I think he needs to look at why he has been putting up with her lack of appreciation for years. He deserves better and Chynna needs to figure out why she thinks it's okay to push him away year after year. It must be exhausting for him.
She has a sense of entitlement and years of trauma. She took a nap at her own wedding and didn't tell him. That days it all. She is a mess, preaches god yet is not happy, and makes money off of God!!! I could go on and on, here! She needs off of ALL social media and needs to work to earn money!!@MothGirl007
I feel your anxiety...you have a wonderful present and understanding husband..I get the feeling you have both weathered some storms before this one...the trip does sound great...but you don't sound comfortable ...not sure about separate lives but there also is a reason you need space..I wish you peaceful days ahead.
Interesting fact: If a man is asked whether he'd prefer respect or love, he will always say respect. Conversely, if a woman is asked the same question, she will always choose love (yes, we need them both; but when forced to choose which they'd prefer). This is why the bible has the scripture on "women, submit to your men". Because if we respect them, they in turn automatically feel love for us and wish to express it from feeling respected. Thus, the cycle continues. I received love, as a woman, so I desire to respect you as my husband. When we don't honor each other in these ways, the cycle reverses. For example, "I resent you because you never show love". The woman holds back respect automatically as punishment. The man continues to not show love because he feels disrespected. And on it goes; taking on it's own life form. There's a book on it titled (surprise) Love and Respect. Great for marriages.
The whole world is about to blow up.. people can’t pay their bills they are losing their homes ..floods and hurricanes and your talking about … WHAT 😮 SMDH!!! 💜🙏💕
@nightengale829 I agree. Imagine how a husband would feel if his wife turns down a trip with him and then wants to live separately? You can love God AND your husband.
Guys, we're truly navigating right now. I'm Making myself vulnerable to all of you by sharing intimate details. Please trust my journey. I'm definitely not unwise to the fact that I'm married to a real winner. ❤
@@ChynnaPhillipsBaldwin Please navigate through the Word. There really isn't room for debate. God was clear. Love you, and how real you chat. This idea tho has red flags all over it.
@@ChynnaPhillipsBaldwin I appreciate that. My comment is meant to hopefully help you see something that you might not be seeing. I've been married to the same man since 1987. I also went through perimenopause. I know how you are feeling. It messed with my body AND my brain.
I definitely saw real life in this video. These prayers have helped me through tough lifelong relationships - speaking Jesus' name, thanking Him for my pain because He can turn anything into something good, and "Christ make speed to save us. Make haste to help us. In your mercy, hear my prayer." ❤️
Retired OB nurse...and we do a happy dance when ish happens....SO NO EMBARRASSMENT. It means the baby is coming down exactly as it should. Shaved legs? My answer was always," no worries, I didn't shave for you, either".... Women .....we LOVE our warrior moms regardless of delivery method....
Of course, I don't know you and your husband, but I know men, and you are doing everything in your power, consciously or unconsciously, to push him away. He will seek out the love, attention and kindness elsewhere, if he doesn't get it from you. I hope you two stay together. Marriage is WORK.
And with men, they can find someone young and start a whole new family!!! Yikes! Chynna, what if Billy did that? How would that make you feel? No date night, no nothing.
Don’t separate. It can bring a greater wedge and I can attest to it. It will eventually bring resentment and also it will become so normal that you forget what brought you together in the first place. It can also lead to a place of no recovery. Once that happens, and the family falls apart, it’s not just you two who suffer, the entire family develops deep trauma and the kids wind up with lasting effects. The greatest gift God gave you next to your children is the gift of marriage and family. I am truly speaking from experience. It’s actually soul shaking. I’m praying for you guys. I’m praying for Billy to come to Christ too.
Not to sound mean but it sounds like he is making all the sacrifices. You can tell by his face he doesn’t like it. Also, why would you not go on this trip with your husband who clearly wants you to go. I saw the pics on his Instagram and it looks amazing. It sounds like this marriage is a one way street . He is doing all the sacrifices and your reasons/excuses for doing the separate living as well as not scratching his back or going on the trip…. well it sounds like your baby impression spot on.
The trip would be the perfect time to reconnect. Go!! The longer your married, the harder it is because you are so comfortable with each other and sometimes the little things just piss you off! Go!! With your health issue 🙏..go..you won't regret it!
No disrespect, but you are behaving selfishly, period. I find that when my marriage is more strained , as soon as I self examine, I see that I’m beginning to look out for ME, putting up walls, and I have to rehumble myself, and let go of something. Praying for you to see the damage being gone before it is too late ❤️
I can't tell if you are real or phony for the cameras - you say "of course, I am going with you, darling". I watch you less and less and was addicted and uplifted by you early on. but I don't get you anymore.
Living apart will destroy your marriage. Someone will at some point, stray. Try separate bedrooms but not separate cities. And the Bible says married people should live togethe - and the two shall become ONE (together).
Girl, you are simply trying to get the freedom of divorce without the papers in order to make yourself feel like a "good Christian". You moved away from your marital home and children to pursue your own selfish endeavors and simply drop in for ice cream visits while Billy actively parents your children and engages in normal, daily family life. I'm, honestly, amazed that Billy is putting up with such behavior from you. Absolutely none of your behavior expresses love, care or commitment to your husband and family. My suggestion is to "sh*t or get off the pot", so to speak. Either commit to your husband fully or divorce and allow him to grieve, process, heal and move on from you. At the moment, you're holding him hostage because you know that he loves you. It is cruel and wholly unfair to him. From one who has a graduate Seminary degree and has worked in ministry for my entire adult life - you are NOT behaving as a Christian wife here.
🥀CHYNNA, why don't you do what many other married couples have done and sleep in separate bedrooms if you need space. Living in separate houses has the door thrown wide open inviting trouble in. It's not good to even crack the door to trouble ever. Don't be a fool please. I grew up in a family with many happy marriages on both sides. You and Billy are separated. You're living in separate dwellings. That's what separated means. It's not a risk worth taking. Don't fool yourself please. 🥀
Chynna, I love you but as an older child of God I must tell you living apart is so wrong. How can your heart be able to hold different groups when you can not live in a Godly marriage? May God change your life to live your whole life for him and not just when you want to. This is so sad.
@@BooBooKitty001 AMEN & well articulated. The Bible is a reference tool vs the "Be All End All". God observes that's the extent of it. What many fail to realize is God lacks the ability to stand in judgment. Judgment only exists on the physical side of the equation, NOT the spiritual side. We as humans are born with an ego. From the moment our consciousness awakens, we begin to be left by our egos. The 7 deadly sins are all bound up in the ego (including judgment). The ego is humanity's cross to bare. it's important to remember GOD did not walk the earth, he created it. Jesus walked the search but he was born devoid of the ego (Avatar is the name for it). B/c he lacked ego, he walked the earth knowing he was born of god and "Life is an illusion)". While he could experience pain, it had NO effect b/c he became one with the pain and allowed it to simply pass through him and he had NO fear of death. Once we die we shed the ego and return to the spiritual side of the equation.
I agree with Billy. Blame it on perimenopause. My husband and I blame everything on it. 😂 But seriously, this arrangement is concerning. Go on the trip with him! Staying apart from your husband by choice is not a good thing.
Billy I'll go on the trip with you!!!!❤️ My goodness you won't even go on a trip with him is it that hard The flight will stress you out the time's almost stress you out it's not like you have anything to do woman You just come home and rest and recuperate
Chynna, Sister you need a BIG wakeup call. I know you love the Lord and it shows most of the time. You definitely have mixed in weird ideas with your spiritual ones. Get off social media, stop tearing down your marriage on there. Christian husbands would not appreciate it, except for the money it brings, much less a non Christian husband who has so many personal things exposed to the world. If you want him to come to the Lord, which is most important, stop this nonsense. I rarely tune in because I feel there is so much nonsense on here. Like Holy Spirit activate for one. Holy Spirit is a part of the Godhead. Worthy of honor.
Genesis 2:24, "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh." The lexicon says this: וְדָבַ֣ק (ve·da·vak) 1692: to cling, cleave, keep close. I'd say that pretty much means LIVE together and cling to one another. That's what being one flesh is all about.
Everything is up to interpretation. "Submit to your husband" like many (if not all) passages in the GoOd book, was not to be taken literally. Some would say it's referring to Consciousness. That the conscious and subconscious are one/not separate. That's from a deeper psychological Spirituality interpretation, but IMO, it makes more sense than most of the conventional biblical interpretations. All guilt or hierarchies amoungst people is nonsence.
@@ChynnaPhillipsBaldwinI agree Chy I know my mom was having the same issue w my dad and he was feeling the same way as Billy and he did say his feelings were hurt my mom even would suggest it and my Mom ending up discovering while in prayer that God had put it on her heart that what she was struggling with was rebellion and not wanting to submit to my dad so my mom really had to like lay down her pride and her stubbornness and rebellion at the Lords feet and my dad moved back in. He was only gone for like a couple of months and they are doing better than ever really annoying. They’re like teenagers in love ❤❤❤ but it is true what God joined can no man separate I agree w Billy just give yourself some grace sweet beautiful Chy❤❤❤❤❤ we need CHILLY I think as we just get older, we start getting on each other’s nerves I mean, I’m married but now a widow since June 30, 2020 😢and I know I used to feel the same way my hubby would get on my nerves but now that’s he’s not here and passed so young at 45 and I was 40 wie have small young children who were 2 and 4 at the time I really wish he was here even to bug me and get on my nerves as long as he was still here everything is gonna be, but God has a purpose for everything and I know now God had a plan and his loss led us to being born again and now I’ve totally devoted my life to raising my children to live a God centered life and know that Jesus is our savior. I homeschooled them with a Christian faith-based curriculum because I don’t want them being led to believe anymore woke nonsense they’re spilling everywhere I do have a lot of compassion and I feel like my heart goes out to you because now that I’m going through pre-menopause and dealing with hot flashes and such it’s horrible. I am always in a grumpy mood. I really try to give myself grace though so I can be a mom, but I would be dealing with it if my husband was here to tease me or get on my nerves, but like I said since he’s gone, I would give anything just for him to be able to bug me again I know I’ve rambled on, but I just really want for you and Billy to pray about it, give yourself some grace sweetheart I don’t know I feel like marriage you should be together even and it’ll pass. It’s all for a reason. Remember before anything happens to us. It always has to pass through God‘s hand first so maybe this is going on with you so that you and Billy will become closer trying to work through it pray about it in your time with Jesus, sweetie love and God bless you and love and God bless everyone here who gave you such beautiful, godly advice everyone is so sweet and compassionate a beautiful community that you have grown here❤🥰🙏
@@ChristyMoore888 "Wives, submit to your husbands" is pretty straightforward. Don't try to turn it into something existential. Would you take another straightforward line like, "Do not murder" and say it means to not murder your conscience (or some similar mumbo-jumbo)? You can tell which passages to take literally.
@@ChynnaPhillipsBaldwin I remember when I told my FOREVER it was best if we lived apart. He's been remarried now for almost 40 years and had another child with his second wife.
@@ChynnaPhillipsBaldwin You broke his heart when you turned down the trip. He was ready to disconnect the call. Please don't be surprised if he finally moves on. And most do after being rejected. Men are so diff than women. I pray it all works out 🛐
Praying for you bother and hoping it will all work out super well for your marriage. You are a lovely couple ❤ I was homeless, did drugs, went into prison, where I got to know God. He changed my life. Now I have a home, a husband and a lovely year old daughter (Zoe), and a stream of income that gets me $32,000 Weekly. Plus a new identity- a child of God. Hallelujah!!!
😮 My dear sister. I have been watching you since you started Cal Preach. Please be the Biblical example of a wife or stop this ministry now. I am so sad to say this but I was in ministry and after I stopped and made time for my marriage I realized I had been so out of line. I have been married 39 years. Stay with him, serve him so that your children and grandchildren will learn how to stick to a marriage through thick and thin.,and hopefully learn to trust the Lord.❤
True ,only a tiny ,tiny portion of the population has such financial wealth they can afford separate homes and lives 😮😮. They are seperated ,and she wants him to woo her again ,rekindle the butterflies and brand new feelings of dating . Midlife crisis .Could be possible.
So, I am your age and I have been married since 1997. I still LOVE spending time with my husband. We still hate being away from each other. It seems like you are really annoyed with Billy. He will probably find someone that adores him if you don’t . Make sure you won’t regret pushing him away.
Unsolicited advice....be careful Chynna. Once you open the door to separation, bigger problems arise. It gets you use to being away from one another, making reuniting full time unlikely. I know this for a fact in so many marriages that ended.
Maybe you should stop sharing Billy's & your relationship with the public. Be a mature adult, log off and speak to him like a human being. Getting advice from strangers won't help you at all.
Agree 100%. People magazine has already gotten wind of this information and it's on their website. Not gossip, they have just reported word for word the content of this video.
92.9K followers sending prayers your way. Went through this myself with a spot on my liver and everything turned out fine. It will turn out fine for you too, Chynna.
You have an allergy to one another? Billy says no, you have the allergy. If you let this guy go, you’ll never find a guy to love you this much. That’s my intuition.
Nope. You are justifying and rationalizing this decision w all the different reasons when what you should be doing is using that energy to deal w your “triggers.” This is a slippery slope and you’re making a mistake. I’m a big fan but I also care enough to be truthful. This is NOT how Heavenly Father designed marriage. This is selfish. Instead of rationalizing this trial separation, dig in and fight for your marriage. Missing this trip isn’t all about you. Stop giving excuses and support your husband. Geez.
When I got to that point and wanted to live apart- long time coming - - I can look back now and know I really wanted a divorce. So hard to really do after 37 years. I’m divorced now 19 years.
Hi Friends!
Guys,
I'm battling for our marriage not against it 😅.
We have decades of love between us, that's definitely not going anywhere 🙏.
Marriage is deep waters and I'm running a tight shipwreck! 😂
Me & Billy are peanut butter & jelly 🍞
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You and Billy are the dearest most adorable funny loving couple. And whatever you are learning together right now will make your marriage stronger and better and happier. I also am so thankful for your utter honesty. We are all on the razors edge in this life. Battling to be more Christ like and have less of ourselves. In marriage it is tricky because there are truly times that it IS the other side that needs to change! And we do have the right and obligation to care for ourselves too. the tricky part is that both sides have to change. But when and whose turn is it? This video brings up so many deep and real challenges that marriage brings. No one speaks of the deeper harder truths than you Chy. Thank you for bringing the real stuff to the light.
You should have said yes and went with him
I think you need help for real
Whether you realize or not, referring to your marriage as a "shipwreck...in deep waters" implies the battle is over. But choosing to remain married in name only is of course no one else's business and completely up to you and Billy.
@@smallhouseinthemeadow6131 A marriage of convenience. How romantic.
I was NOT ready for that baby impression 😭😂
Good luck with that Chynna. Your plan is what amicably divorced people do to keep the family unit together.
It's also what people do on their way to divorce...
said kindly.
Pls go with him on the trip, that sounds soo amazing and I think you’ll regret it it later if you don’t go Chynna!! Gooooooo!!!!
Nothing good can come from this separate living situation.
I competely agree 1000%!!!
I haven't tuned in to this channel for quite awhile but she's making a Big mistake. She's leaving the door wide open for him to meet someone new. If he doesn't want this separation there may come a time when he will if left alone long enough. If a person wants out of their marriage this might be a way to ease into it. But if a person wants to Save their marriage this is the last thing they should do. She needs to ask herself if she's wiling to take the risk? Things never work out as planned. Date nights 2-3X's a week? Things will get in the way until finally it won't even matter anymore. I see this as a downward spiral. I hope she reconsiders this move before it's too late.
I agree with all these ladies. Get back to being together. You’ve got a great family. Don’t mess with it.❤❤❤
I agree my husband is definitely my best friend and we do everything together, that’s why we got married 🤍
I agree. Also, she is making a suggestion most people cannot afford to do. I know Chyna can do as she wishes, but she has a platform...and influence.
Chynna that old devil is up to no good. Living separate lives is not a marriage. It will leave you wide open for trouble.
You've had enough chaos in your life. Please reconsider.
1 Peter 5:8 King James Version (KJV)
Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour.
YES!!!
prov 14:1 Every wise woman builds her house, but a foolish one tears it down with her own hands.
Oooo, good one!
Oh.. wow. :/
I like that! Every answer to every question is in God's word.
That is so true!
Wow! Just wow! It’s all about you, your comfort, your issues. Now how is that unconditional or sacrificial love? You expect it yet won’t give it.
Agreed. Sounds like a covert narcissist.
@jennifertiemann6403 not necessarily... tons of non narcissists can be selfish. People throw this disorder around way too much. HG Tudor explains it well!
Shayne, your right, people can have narcissistic tendencies without having narcissistic personality disorder. I just happened to have studied narcissistic personality disorder extensively due to my adopted daughter having the disorder. I can tell someone has narcissistic personality disorder due to their different behaviors. I can go through the video and post everything she does that proves that she has the disorder if you'd like. 😊
Sounds so unhealthy Chynna. Are you Chynna a little selfish.
@@jennifertiemann6403 do you have a channel?
"Me in Santa Barbara and you in Beverly Hills" is the definition of a separation.
I agree. Living apart … you risk growing apart.
@@brightblonde3508 Not only do you risk growing apart, but you also make it more possible to come together with somebody else.
@@brightblonde3508 very true .I'm getting the impression there is some anger within from her childhood and she's transferring that onto her husband . I find this very sad .
The two cities are almost 100 miles apart. So much for 2-3 day a week date nights. It's not going to happen.
@@dissidentfairy4264 He seemed genuinely hurt that she wouldn't join him. "I'll think about it." It pains me to admit this, but I genuinely hope Billy meets somebody new.
I enjoy the things you share Chynna and your prayers have lifted me in moments of need. Thank you. Very sad, to see problems with you and Billy. Watching you push him away and be dismissive of him is a worry. You guys have such a history .. you'd never have with another. Its hard to understand, what it is that you're looking for that you don't already have. So many times we dont realize what we have until we lose it. Wishing the best for you both.
Love is unconditional. Love is kind, longsuffering and bears all things. Marriage is together, not apart.
If I were in Billy's shoes, I would feel that my wife was easing us into a Divorce. And/or that my wife had someone else.
Do you have any idea how many ladies would LOVE to spend time with Billy. One of these days the temptation will be too much for him to resist! The Devil is working overtime to destroy relationships!
😢I have been concerned about this for a long time. I have been married 39 years. My husband and I are not alike in so many ways. We have to be together or we get way too independent. I came into the marriage wanting my rights. I find that the more I serve him, the more he serves me.
If Billy cheats, it won't be because of temptation. It'll be to get what he's not getting from Chynna, which is a lot!
She doesn't validate him, seems like she doesn't want to be in his presence and kind of mocks him for his interests, like being excited for World Series tickets.
I rebuke that negative prophecy off of Billy and Chynas marraige in Jesus name!!
@lisayun8995 I certainly agree there should not be curses spoken over any marriage, but there can be loving caution brought to someone's attention. My "Spirit-filled" sister-in-law pushed my brother too far and it made sexual temptation too difficult to resist.
@jog8483 agreed!! She doesn't value him. Listen to her talk? It's draining. All about her. He is definitely all in. But it's so one sided. I imagine he is weary of it all. Does she know what a gift she has. ? I feel sorry for billy. U don't get married to live apart.
Someone will come along that wants to be with Billy. It's not as simple as it sounds. Go on trip with him. Fight for your marriage! I know because it happened to me.
She is rejecting him in many ways and laughs about it. Sad. That's not what JESUS does
As for the baby gift a unique gift could be buy a star from NASA in honour of him/ her
@@BeckyYTTNASA do not own God's stars! 😊
@@spirituallysafe That commenter was trying to offer up a fun unique gift! No one said NASA owns the stars, mind you I’m not mean to you, pointing this out, I say that because it’s hard to interpret the feeling in a comment, since you can’t hear my voice, in fact they study our stars and galaxy. Think about it that way instead of attacking science. There are many believing wonderful scientists throughout history who admire God who is the one that is infinite with infinite knowledge. Science is a blessing to us, from God we get these wonderful people who can disseminate some of the mysteries of our universe and that do extraordinary miraculous things from medicine to technology and space study, and scientific minds have done great things and yet at the same time still honored God. Knowing he is the source of all knowledge.
And many of them will tell you how Gods knowledge is infinite and mind boggling. And that he himself is infinite. I know because my scientist father told me this as a child when I asked him questions on where God came from. He said God is infinite and he has always been here. It’s dangerous to attack all scientific study as anti God. Many fascists, communists and horrible human beings have done this or tried to use science and repress knowledge to harm the world and its people, most scientists I have seen want to make this world a better place.
Just think if we had someone find a way to cure world hunger. Through scientific means. We can’t attack researchers and scientific and intelligent minds as being anti God, in fact most scientists won’t even say there is no God, because there is no absolute proof to saying that. Even great ones that have may have doubts say well I cannot say there is no God, and many that have doubts will say I hope there is a loving God. Because of course that would be wonderful for all of us.
Some scientists and mathematicians (my dad also was that) see math and physics as a code of Gods. You can really use science to see this beautiful code God has put in us. Just look at our DNA and RNA codes. Some scientists even call it the God code trying to unravel the mysteries of human mind and body and of nature. I hope you will see the beauty in that. And the incredible minds some of these people are blessed with.
The Majority of them want to do good things. And help us and help our planet and study the wonderful incredible galaxy. I hope that people won’t fear that, because if we one day find out we can live on other planets or were to meet other human life forms, I hope that you could see the beauty that God made this infinite huge galaxy. Just like different people throughout history from different counties and languages have interpreted the Bible and have explained what Hebrew words mean, in their original meaning, we may one day meet people from other galaxies that love the same God we do, but perhaps speak a different language that might be more like a scientific code. And not like the languages we are used to on earth.
The scary thing is that Chynna has no self-awareness of how difficult she seems. I'm not even going off what Billy says about her, just the things she says makes her seem entirely self-interested. She's allowed to be that, but you can't be THAT and in a happy marriage.
I mean, how can she sound so aggravated that Billy is excited about WS tickets?? That sounds like a big deal!
Then she tells you how happy she is to separated from Billy, but she doesn't know how he feels about it. What??? Doesn't she even care how he feels about it.
I hope they figure it out, but it won't happen if she doesn't value him & his feelings more.
It's always about her. I'm surprised Billy has put up with her this long.
@@rosemarynewman1876 He needs to move on, truly.
You were correct when you said you and Billy had an arrangement. An arrangement is NOT a marriage. All I heard was I, I, I and ME, ME, ME! A marriage is a WE thing.
I lost my husband who died suddenly at only 45 yrs old. No way would I miss any time sharing our life together. Time together with the person you love is precious, and we don't get that back when it's gone. You've already missed so much time together due to your careers and having to travel, so why take more from yourselves? When your person is suddenly gone, it is not the date nights or big events you miss, but the normal casual days together you would give anything to get back.
I wish all married couples would listen to your wisdom.
I would never expose my marriage or humiliate my spouse in this way.
I use to love watching you but now, way too much drama. And your making a big mistake with Billy. Signing off.
This is incredibly sad. I'm now truly seeing why this is called "California Preaching". It's not walking with Christ, it's walking with Hollywood drama.
Chynna, dear sister.
Why do you take it for granted that Billy will always be there? I was married for 30 years and it wasn't always easy. Yet it was so worth it! My husband got cancer and passed away, but we both realized how quickly those 30 years had gone by. Thankfully, as hard as it was sometimes, the two of us cherished our time together.
Be a godly wife and go be with your husband.
China you are too focused on yourself get off of social media and vocus on your family ....get over yourself
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You overthink things and make things more complicated than they are!
It’s not always about you!
This semi-separation sounds good..in theory. However, keep in mind that it may be dangerous too. What if another woman makes a pass at your husband and since you are not there...well, you know. The other thing is that he or you may decide it is better to live apart permanently. So, I would say please be mindful of these pitfalls. Praying for your healing!
Th e Bible states that if you separate, to spend that time in prayer so you won't fall into sin. Hopefully they will be able to do that.
When Billy finds a 28-year-old who thinks he hung the moon and stars, and then, oops, she is pregnant, Chynna will have regrets. Chynna Women get older, and men become more distinguished. I didn't make the rules.
1 peter 3:7 says husbands, live WITH your wives in an understanding way.....I have heard it expounded by that that means you actually have to live together.
You just dropped the mic!
Don’t stay apart!!
As a retired military spouse, don’t do it!
Men are like children, they can’t be alone! women will pounce on your man!
I was as flippant about my relationship w my partner as you are. Then he died unexpectedly. Maybe if someone had tried to make me look at myself and dysfunction; i would have realized..something, or snything, at all. Maybe, but probably not. So, in the name of trying to make you take a hard look at your state of mind, I will say, please take a long hard look, before its too late, &you find yourself devastated, like i have been since Feb 2022. And, time doesnt heal wounds such as these.
Separate bedrooms would be the furthest I would go in a marriage.
Done with the drama
My brother and his ex-wife tried this, and they ended up divorced. Marriage is for togetherness! ❤
Marriage is also (and mostly) for children. Since the child-rearing is basically finished and being together as a couple is no longer workable what's the point of staying married.
@@riverebec1Because God hates divorce. Only exception is adultery. God's word trumps human opinion.
@@spirituallysafe So, God is okay with staying married in name only? Okay.
@@riverebec1 What?
@@spirituallysafe If Chynna and Billy choose to live separate lives, only getting together to file joint taxes and maybe grab dinner, then they are married in name only.
Is there such a thing as too California flaky? Turns out, yes there is.
Hi Chynna.....I know that everyone does marriage differently but I am concerned about this arrangement for your marriage. It sounds like a trial separation/divorce. It's also easy to get set in your ways if you do this. If you want your marriage to stay strong, I would advise against this. I'm also praying for your health and that you do *not* have cancer. God bless. ♥
Because it is unfortunately separate living
It is def a separation and not an "arrangement." Arrangement is a friends with benefit situation. This is very sad.
I personally believe y’all need an expert counselor. There is one my daughter found and it’s guaranteed to change the situation if you’re marriage is in trouble . It’s extremely expensive , but it’s for both partners .
I feel like as long as I've been watching your channel you've been trying to leave your marriage. Billy is a wonderful person, as are you, but he deserves a partner who wants to be with him in a healthy marriage. He makes a lot of compromises for your happiness. I don't say that to be hurtful. You are not a bad person, you are growing. We never stop growing, and sometimes we grow apart. I was in your shoes once and it took me way too long to leave because of guilt and the children, but that was so unfair to my husband who could have found a better partner sooner and had a healthier marriage. God doesn't want people to be unhappy and he is forgiving. A lot of things change in a marriage during menopause. I'm praying for you so much, because I know what you are going through, and if this new living situation is what ends up being best for you both then I think that God will still support you.
Very insightful and well said. Now that their children are grown, perhaps Chynna no longer feels the need to be so resistant toward moving on from her marriage. Let's be honest -- a healthy nurturing marriage shouldn't require that much work! Both Chynna and Billy deserve better now that they've gotten older, and their children are grown.
I agree. I've been watching her for years. I've observed that there is always a struggle between the two of them. All of the therapy has not seemed to make things better for them. They are just not compatible. Living separately looks like a good idea to me.
God hates divorce, unless adultery. The Bible never changes. It is always going to be hard in a spiritually unequally yoked marriage.
I completely agree! She picks apart every part of this man.
Not true- God does not want us happy as His priority. God wants us holy.
What holy thing is God asking you to live up to and do, Chynna? That is the question.
If your surgery is not happening soon get a ticket and go with your husband. Your ego is not your amigo. No complaining or worrying will change your tumor. Live as if it is your last day. Love as if it was your last day. Start loving, quit thinking. Being right never wins. Become a listener ad pray.
"Your ego is not your amego."
Niiiice 😎
That’s a great little saying, your ego is not your amigo.
I wouldn't not go on that trip with my husband. No way! Continental Divide means more than one thing! He wants you with him!! It's a terrible feeling not to be wanted, take care of his heart ❤️ and he'll take care of yours. 😊
Every situation is different. Caring for yourself is important, and knowing your limitations is healthy.
@@ChristyMoore888 Sure you are right... I'm sorry, feminist thought they had it right too! lol
@@ChristyMoore888 I'm not sure if her current limitations regarding her husband are all that healthy.
I cannot imagine not going on a delightful vacation with my husband!
@@jayniekinser7029 Apparently Chynna Phillips can. She'd rather stay home and stretch.
Ohhhh Chy, not gonna pretend with you that you're still committed to your marriage.........good luck with everything
Divorce sucks but if you are happier without Billy than with Billy I think you have your answer.❤
I wouldn't leave a husband, a man alone very long. My cousins husband left to work in California. She went for awhile & decided to come back home for a stay. Went back & caught him shacked up with another woman. Men are not like us
They won't go long without sex! I dont care if hes the most perfect husband in the world. Billy will finally find that special woman that will scratch his back & love him like he wants.
Get with it Chynna if you want to keep him or you will lose him.
I think it's companionship that he wants more than anything. Not just one day here and there. He wants to share his these years.
If a husband would cheat if not being watched by his wife and have his needs met 24/7, that begs the question if he is a worthy husband
Pray Chynna, I'm sure you do for you and Billy to keep your marriage together
The Enemy is trying to break you up!! 😢. The Enemy is working hard on the family unit!
I know this is just a snipped of your lives. But you arent coming off looking to good right now in this one. Kind of like when you left him at the restraunt because you forgot about him while he was paying the bill. You had to go back to pick him up.
Really it kind of seemed like you were trying to bring him down a couple notches maybe.
Everyone wants to be wanted.
And maybe secretly you want him to go else where for comfort as long as you dont have to see it.
She definitely doesn't behave like a woman who values her husband and her marriage.
Billy deserves better, I am sad to say.
and he will. He is handsome and funny! A lot of "young" women will want to be with him and start a family with Billy.
Chynna, without wishing to be unkind if you haven’t realised how good you’ve had it with Billy, you will when he’s in the arms of another woman, and there may will be no going back for him. Good man are rarer than hens teeth.
So basically a trial separation?
And 99.9% if the human population agrees with you.
Chynna remember respect goes both ways!! Maybe its time you both moved on❤
This last part was so difficult to watch .She's so filled with anger and need to see a good therapist . Self Sabatoge stems from feelings of inadequacy . She needs to regroup ,refocus and face herself .My heart dropped This man is still in love .She's not .
Every thing you said was about you!!! Poor Billy.
Exactly!!! Billy is so I patient with her. It's exhausting!!
@@lisaferrin The man is a saint.
Why would you not go?? My goodness. Poor Billy!!!!
You had better be glad this does not appeal to Billy, But if u don’t get out of this idea, he will love this arrangement! ARE YOU CWAZY. This is not okay!
Chynna, go! Let Billy lead the way and take care of you. Have that experience together.
Anyone else see a problem with the fact that she has no idea if living separately is working for Billy? You gotta love how she fluffs her hair at the same time she says this.
"I have no idea if the current living situation that I have forced upon my husband is working for him, but I love him so much."
Gaslighting?
Narcissism?
So cruel and trashy
When he moves on, it will be too late for Chyna. I don't think she realizes how she is making Billy feel. It's called rejection.
@@harper_anne2089 I've never felt that she fully appreciates Billy and I think he needs to look at why he has been putting up with her lack of appreciation for years. He deserves better and Chynna needs to figure out why she thinks it's okay to push him away year after year. It must be exhausting for him.
She has a sense of entitlement and years of trauma. She took a nap at her own wedding and didn't tell him. That days it all. She is a mess, preaches god yet is not happy, and makes money off of God!!! I could go on and on, here! She needs off of ALL social media and needs to work to earn money!!@MothGirl007
@@jennifertiemann6403 It’s baffling. She seems dead behind the eyes. Praying.
I feel your anxiety...you have a wonderful present and understanding husband..I get the feeling you have both weathered some storms before this one...the trip does sound great...but you don't sound comfortable ...not sure about separate lives but there also is a reason you need space..I wish you peaceful days ahead.
I can't watch anymore as you're too Hollywood ..makes me sad as I so admired you until...
It's sad.
@@MothGirl007It is sad. I thought she had potential to help others, but the constant self-examining & unregulated moodiness are blocks, for sure.
@@weezerchick She says this works for me, but I don't know about Billy. Wow!!! She is going to push him into another woman's arms.
I think maybe Billy's feelings are hurt?
Interesting fact: If a man is asked whether he'd prefer respect or love, he will always say respect. Conversely, if a woman is asked the same question, she will always choose love (yes, we need them both; but when forced to choose which they'd prefer). This is why the bible has the scripture on "women, submit to your men". Because if we respect them, they in turn automatically feel love for us and wish to express it from feeling respected. Thus, the cycle continues. I received love, as a woman, so I desire to respect you as my husband.
When we don't honor each other in these ways, the cycle reverses. For example, "I resent you because you never show love". The woman holds back respect automatically as punishment. The man continues to not show love because he feels disrespected. And on it goes; taking on it's own life form.
There's a book on it titled (surprise) Love and Respect. Great for marriages.
Please listen to Billy.
The whole world is about to blow up.. people can’t pay their bills they are losing their homes ..floods and hurricanes and your talking about … WHAT 😮
SMDH!!!
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Poor Billy.
This!
This was just sad to watch.
@nightengale829 I agree. Imagine how a husband would feel if his wife turns down a trip with him and then wants to live separately? You can love God AND your husband.
Guys, we're truly navigating right now. I'm
Making myself vulnerable to all of you by sharing intimate details. Please trust my journey. I'm definitely not unwise to the fact that I'm married to a real winner. ❤
@@ChynnaPhillipsBaldwin Please navigate through the Word. There really isn't room for debate. God was clear. Love you, and how real you chat. This idea tho has red flags all over it.
@@ChynnaPhillipsBaldwin
I appreciate that. My comment is meant to hopefully help you see something that you might not be seeing. I've been married to the same man since 1987. I also went through perimenopause. I know how you are feeling. It messed with my body AND my brain.
I definitely saw real life in this video. These prayers have helped me through tough lifelong relationships - speaking Jesus' name, thanking Him for my pain because He can turn anything into something good, and "Christ make speed to save us. Make haste to help us. In your mercy, hear my prayer." ❤️
Conjugal. You’re playing a dangerous game. Abide in the Lord. Abide in your marriage if you want to keep it.
Retired OB nurse...and we do a happy dance when ish happens....SO NO EMBARRASSMENT. It means the baby is coming down exactly as it should. Shaved legs? My answer was always," no worries, I didn't shave for you, either".... Women .....we LOVE our warrior moms regardless of delivery method....
Of course, I don't know you and your husband, but I know men, and you are doing everything in your power, consciously or unconsciously, to push him away. He will seek out the love, attention and kindness elsewhere, if he doesn't get it from you. I hope you two stay together. Marriage is WORK.
And with men, they can find someone young and start a whole new family!!! Yikes! Chynna, what if Billy did that? How would that make you feel? No date night, no nothing.
Definitely sounds like you're pushing for a separation. Not a good idea.
Not getting a good vibe from this arrangement!
This is a disaster waiting to happen! Not a great idea at all.
Don’t separate. It can bring a greater wedge and I can attest to it. It will eventually bring resentment and also it will become so normal that you forget what brought you together in the first place. It can also lead to a place of no recovery. Once that happens, and the family falls apart, it’s not just you two who suffer, the entire family develops deep trauma and the kids wind up with lasting effects. The greatest gift God gave you next to your children is the gift of marriage and family. I am truly speaking from experience. It’s actually soul shaking. I’m praying for you guys. I’m praying for Billy to come to Christ too.
Goodness…gracious me! All about me, me, me and us, us,us…Never watching these selfless people again..EVER!
Not to sound mean but it sounds like he is making all the sacrifices. You can tell by his face he doesn’t like it. Also, why would you not go on this trip with your husband who clearly wants you to go. I saw the pics on his Instagram and it looks amazing. It sounds like this marriage is a one way street . He is doing all the sacrifices and your reasons/excuses for doing the separate living as well as not scratching his back or going on the trip…. well it sounds like your baby impression spot on.
My SO went on a work trip to China. I didn’t want to go for the same reasons. I went anyway, and had the best time. So glad i went!
The trip would be the perfect time to reconnect. Go!! The longer your married, the harder it is because you are so comfortable with each other and sometimes the little things just piss you off! Go!! With your health issue 🙏..go..you won't regret it!
No disrespect, but you are behaving selfishly, period. I find that when my marriage is more strained , as soon as I self examine, I see that I’m beginning to look out for ME, putting up walls, and I have to rehumble myself, and let go of something. Praying for you to see the damage being gone before it is too late ❤️
Don’t ever do that baby impression again! Horrible!
@@weezerchickI loved the baby impression!
I think you're being hard on her. This life is way too short to be unhappy. PERIOD. U DO U GIRL! #STILLHOLDINGON
PS Conjugal visit Chynna 😂😂😂
I adore you but I don’t think you like being married…just sayin’.
I can't tell if you are real or phony for the cameras - you say "of course, I am going with you, darling". I watch you less and less and was addicted and uplifted by you early on. but I don't get you anymore.
I wish it wasn't true, but it's the same here. It isn't loving to be so privileged but so self-absorbed.
Living apart will destroy your marriage. Someone will at some point, stray. Try separate bedrooms but not separate cities. And the Bible says married people should live togethe - and the two shall become ONE (together).
Girl, you are simply trying to get the freedom of divorce without the papers in order to make yourself feel like a "good Christian".
You moved away from your marital home and children to pursue your own selfish endeavors and simply drop in for ice cream visits while Billy actively parents your children and engages in normal, daily family life. I'm, honestly, amazed that Billy is putting up with such behavior from you. Absolutely none of your behavior expresses love, care or commitment to your husband and family.
My suggestion is to "sh*t or get off the pot", so to speak. Either commit to your husband fully or divorce and allow him to grieve, process, heal and move on from you. At the moment, you're holding him hostage because you know that he loves you. It is cruel and wholly unfair to him.
From one who has a graduate Seminary degree and has worked in ministry for my entire adult life - you are NOT behaving as a Christian wife here.
Best comment. I pray she sees this.
All you're doing is adapting to living apart. It's not going to draw you closer. I think you should reconsider that arrangement.
🥀CHYNNA, why don't you do what many other married couples have done and sleep in separate bedrooms if you need space. Living in separate houses has the door thrown wide open inviting trouble in. It's not good to even crack the door to trouble ever. Don't be a fool please.
I grew up in a family with many happy marriages on both sides. You and Billy are separated. You're living in separate dwellings. That's what separated means. It's not a risk worth taking. Don't fool yourself please. 🥀
agree 100%!!!!
Chynna, I love you but as an older child of God I must tell you living apart is so wrong. How can your heart be able to hold different groups when you can not live in a Godly marriage? May God change your life to live your whole life for him and not just when you want to. This is so sad.
As another older child of God, I 100% agree. Well said. I could barely believe what I was hearing her say. Very sad.
As another older child of God, I too completely agree 100%. The bible is very clear. This was painful to watch. Very sad indeed.
I agree 100 per cent
“Free will” is a slippery slope cop-out. Can’t have it both ways.
@@BooBooKitty001 AMEN & well articulated. The Bible is a reference tool vs the "Be All End All". God observes that's the extent of it. What many fail to realize is God lacks the ability to stand in judgment. Judgment only exists on the physical side of the equation, NOT the spiritual side. We as humans are born with an ego. From the moment our consciousness awakens, we begin to be left by our egos. The 7 deadly sins are all bound up in the ego (including judgment). The ego is humanity's cross to bare. it's important to remember GOD did not walk the earth, he created it. Jesus walked the search but he was born devoid of the ego (Avatar is the name for it). B/c he lacked ego, he walked the earth knowing he was born of god and "Life is an illusion)". While he could experience pain, it had NO effect b/c he became one with the pain and allowed it to simply pass through him and he had NO fear of death. Once we die we shed the ego and return to the spiritual side of the equation.
I agree with Billy. Blame it on perimenopause. My husband and I blame everything on it. 😂 But seriously, this arrangement is concerning. Go on the trip with him! Staying apart from your husband by choice is not a good thing.
Billy I'll go on the trip with you!!!!❤️ My goodness you won't even go on a trip with him is it that hard The flight will stress you out the time's almost stress you out it's not like you have anything to do woman You just come home and rest and recuperate
Chynna,
Sister you need a BIG wakeup call. I know you love the Lord and it shows most of the time. You definitely have mixed in weird ideas with your spiritual ones.
Get off social media, stop tearing down your marriage on there. Christian husbands would not appreciate it, except for the money it brings, much less a non Christian husband who has so many personal things exposed to the world.
If you want him to come to the Lord, which is most important, stop this nonsense. I rarely tune in because I feel there is so much nonsense on here. Like Holy Spirit activate for one. Holy Spirit is a part of the Godhead. Worthy of honor.
Wow many everyday people don't even have the money to take such trips, but dream of doing that. You should go!!
You don’t HAVE to do anything! But SHOULD you? Absolutely!
Wise words.
Exactly!
Genesis 2:24, "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh." The lexicon says this: וְדָבַ֣ק
(ve·da·vak) 1692: to cling, cleave, keep close. I'd say that pretty much means LIVE together and cling to one another. That's what being one flesh is all about.
Very good scripture reference 🎉. Taking that to heart ❤
100% agree. This according to the Word.
Everything is up to interpretation. "Submit to your husband" like many (if not all) passages in the GoOd book, was not to be taken literally. Some would say it's referring to Consciousness. That the conscious and subconscious are one/not separate. That's from a deeper psychological Spirituality interpretation, but IMO, it makes more sense than most of the conventional biblical interpretations. All guilt or hierarchies amoungst people is nonsence.
@@ChynnaPhillipsBaldwinI agree Chy
I know my mom was having the same issue w my dad and he was feeling the same way as Billy and he did say his feelings were hurt my mom even would suggest it and my
Mom ending up discovering while in prayer that God had put it on her heart that what she was struggling with was rebellion and not wanting to submit to my dad so my mom really had to like lay down her pride and her stubbornness and rebellion at the Lords feet and my dad moved back in. He was only gone for like a couple of months and they are doing better than ever really annoying. They’re like teenagers in love ❤❤❤ but it is true what God joined can no man separate
I agree w Billy just give yourself some grace sweet beautiful Chy❤❤❤❤❤ we need CHILLY
I think as we just get older, we start getting on each other’s nerves I mean, I’m married but now a widow since June 30, 2020 😢and I know I used to feel the same way my hubby would get on my nerves but now that’s he’s not here and passed so young at 45 and I was 40 wie have small young children who were 2 and 4 at the time I really wish he was here even to bug me and get on my nerves as long as he was still here everything is gonna be, but God has a purpose for everything and I know now God had a plan and his loss led us to being born again and now I’ve totally devoted my life to raising my children to live a God centered life and know that Jesus is our savior. I homeschooled them with a Christian faith-based curriculum because I don’t want them being led to believe anymore woke nonsense they’re spilling everywhere
I do have a lot of compassion and I feel like my heart goes out to you because now that I’m going through pre-menopause and dealing with hot flashes and such it’s horrible. I am always in a grumpy mood. I really try to give myself grace though so I can be a mom, but I would be dealing with it if my husband was here to tease me or get on my nerves, but like I said since he’s gone, I would give anything just for him to be able to bug me again I know I’ve rambled on, but I just really want for you and Billy to pray about it, give yourself some grace sweetheart I don’t know I feel like marriage you should be together even and it’ll pass. It’s all for a reason. Remember before anything happens to us. It always has to pass through God‘s hand first so maybe this is going on with you so that you and Billy will become closer trying to work through it pray about it in your time with Jesus, sweetie love and God bless you and love and God bless everyone here who gave you such beautiful, godly advice everyone is so sweet and compassionate a beautiful community that you have grown here❤🥰🙏
@@ChristyMoore888 "Wives, submit to your husbands" is pretty straightforward. Don't try to turn it into something existential. Would you take another straightforward line like, "Do not murder" and say it means to not murder your conscience (or some similar mumbo-jumbo)? You can tell which passages to take literally.
Chynna have to say Billy is a keeper and you're making a huge mistake
He's my FOREVER ❤
@@ChynnaPhillipsBaldwin I remember when I told my FOREVER it was best if we lived apart. He's been remarried now for almost 40 years and had another child with his second wife.
@@ChynnaPhillipsBaldwin You broke his heart when you turned down the trip. He was ready to disconnect the call. Please don't be surprised if he finally moves on. And most do after being rejected. Men are so diff than women. I pray it all works out 🛐
@@ChynnaPhillipsBaldwin It never seems like it and I am sad for both of you.
Please listen to your husband. Be respectful. Be kind.
Praying for you bother and hoping it will all work out super well for your marriage. You are a lovely couple ❤ I was homeless, did drugs, went into prison, where I got to know God. He changed my life. Now I have a home, a husband and a lovely year old daughter (Zoe), and a stream of income that gets me $32,000 Weekly. Plus a new identity- a child of God. Hallelujah!!!
I'm feeling really motivated. Could you share some details about the bi-weekly topic you brought up?
Thanks to my co-worker whom God used to give a great opportunity of crossing paths with Mrs MARY MARGARET SCHIMWEG",
Wow I know her too Miss Mary Margaret Schimweg is a remarkable individual whom has brought immense positivity and inspiration into my life.
What is the best way to get connection to that woman y'all mentioning and speaking bout?
“ Jesus is my rock and that’s how I roll “ Chynna Phillips 🤦♀️ really ?!?
Go with Billy on that trip. Your in the post menopausal years, and they are horrible. Go with Billy and enjoy yourself!!! ❤
😮 My dear sister. I have been watching you since you started Cal Preach. Please be the Biblical example of a wife or stop this ministry now. I am so sad to say this but I was in ministry and after I stopped and made time for my marriage I realized I had been so out of line. I have been married 39 years. Stay with him, serve him so that your children and grandchildren will learn how to stick to a marriage through thick and thin.,and hopefully learn to trust the Lord.❤
Well said.
Celebrity marriages are so different than non celebrity. Very worldly. Chynna seems bored . With life. With Billy.
yes like no one has a second house to live in to do this kind of thing amoung other things
My immediate thought exactly 😢
Yeah, OTHER worldly.
True ,only a tiny ,tiny portion of the population has such financial wealth they can afford separate homes and lives 😮😮. They are seperated ,and she wants him to woo her again ,rekindle the butterflies and brand new feelings of dating . Midlife crisis .Could be possible.
@@deniseganey6890 they have everything and they are bored.
So, I am your age and I have been married since 1997. I still LOVE spending time with my husband. We still hate being away from each other. It seems like you are really annoyed with Billy. He will probably find someone that adores him if you don’t . Make sure you won’t regret pushing him away.
Agreed.
This is sad. Poor billy. Always all about chy
Unsolicited advice....be careful Chynna. Once you open the door to separation, bigger problems arise. It gets you use to being away from one another, making reuniting full time unlikely. I know this for a fact in so many marriages that ended.
Yup
Maybe you should stop sharing Billy's & your relationship with the public. Be a mature adult, log off and speak to him like a human being. Getting advice from strangers won't help you at all.
Agree 100%. People magazine has already gotten wind of this information and it's on their website. Not gossip, they have just reported word for word the content of this video.
92.9K followers sending prayers your way. Went through this myself with a spot on my liver and everything turned out fine. It will turn out fine for you too, Chynna.
Amen!
Praying that you both can figure things out.
Praying for good news on your test results, Chynna. Everything will be fine. God's always in control 🙏 💜
hey please dont live separate .....
This is a really bad sign, I speak from love. You need the Lord’s power to help you love him unconditionally and selflessly
You have an allergy to one another? Billy says no, you have the allergy. If you let this guy go, you’ll never find a guy to love you this much. That’s my intuition.
Absence does not make the heart grow fonder. It makes the heart cheat. I would not recommend this at all. I know from experience.
Nope. You are justifying and rationalizing this decision w all the different reasons when what you should be doing is using that energy to deal w your “triggers.” This is a slippery slope and you’re making a mistake. I’m a big fan but I also care enough to be truthful. This is NOT how Heavenly Father designed marriage. This is selfish. Instead of rationalizing this trial separation, dig in and fight for your marriage. Missing this trip isn’t all about you. Stop giving excuses and support your husband. Geez.
Spot on 100% !!!
When I got to that point and wanted to live apart- long time coming - - I can look back now and know I really wanted a divorce. So hard to really do after 37 years. I’m divorced now 19 years.
haha that baby cry is perfect 🎉🎉🎉 God bless you sister, in Jesus’ precious name, Amen 🌷🤍🌷
This is so unbelievably selfish and cruel to Billy, yikes