we broke up
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- Опубліковано 27 вер 2024
- Hi friends,
Thank you for taking the time to watch this video. Please remember to keep your comments thoughtful and kind. This video was made to help me grieve, and to share and continue to be real with you all.
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Sending deep love to you both. A note to you Jess - My ex partner and I lived on the road, had a youtube channel, and shared our breakup publicly. It felt absolutely life shattering. After months of grief and growth, I can truthfully say that I have never felt more at peace with myself, more in love with where my life is going, and more hopeful about my future. Thank you for sharing your story, it makes us all feel more connected. Please reach out anytime.
I just came across this video randomly, poking around UA-cam. I’ve never seen your content before but I was intrigued, first by the tile, then by how genuine and thoughtful you are. I found myself thinking that I would love to see what you create next, which made me smile. It’s like a little beginning in the midst of a painful end. Beginnings are happening all the time. PS. When I was going through my big break up I read a lot of Pema Chodron and it helped keep things in perspective :) xo
Jess, you’re doing all the right self care…keep those daily walks, called ‘forest bathing’ in other cultures, and the intuitiveness of your pups will be a salve that will help you heal as well. You shine a beautiful light. It’s surrounding you now, and we’re all virtually supporting both you and Sarah. So much love sent your way….
Jess ♥️ I want to encourage you. You are NOT alone. You WILL get through this season in your precious, valuable life. You (and Sarah) are seen, known, and unconditionally LOVED. ♥️ 🙏🙏🙏♥️♥️♥️
Lean on the dogs as much as you can. They don’t know sadness and will always love you, no matter what!
Wow, this is hard to process just from a viewers standpoint. I know you will come out of this victorious & it will be ok. Feel your emotions Jess & you’ll get through this process. Sending you strength❤️
Holy moly this was painful to watch. I remember feeling much the same many years ago. Sounds like you're doing all the right things to survive this devastating time. Remember to love yourself.
AND BTW, you are crushing being absolutely real and transparent through this incredibly difficult time. Your lights shines through and you are leading even when you’re suffering. Well done. xo
Couldn’t agree more.
Jess, I was crying while watching your announcement. Anyone who has been through this knows the pain you both are feeling. We are grieving with you and holding you in our hearts!
My heart goes out to you. I ended my relationship in February. I was depressed. Started taking antidepressants. Adopted a wonderful dog. Found an amazing therapist. And over time, I felt better. You will get through this and be better for it! I wish I could send you a hug…🤗 I know we don’t know one another but I’m here if you need a knowing friend. Be easy on yourself love….
It is like a death, but the other person is still alive. It is a death of the relationship. You are smart to grieve the loss, and dear God it hurts like nothing else. I went through something similar a long time ago. I decided to focus on getting through the next hour, then the next day, then the next week until my heart healed enough to think about the future without the other person. You are smart to get therapy, medication and support from friends and family. You will get through this. I promise.
I was the "Sarah" in your story and called off my wedding to the love of my life. Seeing your process has been both heart breaking and comforting knowing what it looks like since we are not keeping in touch to allow each other to heal. Knowing that there is love and loss on both sides is particularly beautiful because logically, I sometimes can't comprehend why I would left my love. How can someone leave someone that they love.. well I did and I am still grieving. So I imagine Sarah is too. We are truly embracing this tragic yet vital part of life.
I’m so sorry to hear this news. When we love with our whole hearts, we always risk that our heart will be broken. It’s still worth the risk even though it doesn’t feel like it right now. You’re right - people come into our lives for just a season…and sometimes it takes a while to understand the reason. It’s right and appropriate for you to grieve and to do so loudly. Get it out and feel it all….every little bit.
We are here for you with support and love. I wish I could hug you right now. Deep breaths are hard but helpful.I have been through a very hard break up and I know it is overwhelming. Please don’t let some commenters make your grief harder and heavier. Sending all the love possible to you.
Sweetheart, I know exactly what you are going through. Ive been in a similar situation after a 10 year old relationship. You will push through and when you finally get your head over the surface you will be stronger than ever. I am so glad you have done good decitions about seeking help and medication. We will be right here by your side along your grieving period and we got your back, even if its "just" through our screens , our hearts are with you.
I’m really sorry to hear that news. There’s no doubt it’s tough. Really tough. One day at a time. It will be ok and slowly but surely you will start to see the sunshine again. It is just a season. Really. A tough season but you are strong. Please take care of yourself and I hope Sarah is ok as well. Grieving is exactly what you have to go through. Take care. Love and hugs from Australia. 💖
Seems like there were too many huge things happening at once. The house, the wedding, the baby… she may have just freaked out and ran. It’s good that u are getting help to get throo this. U are a strong and fierce woman. I know that u know U will get past the hurt and grief. We are here for u!
This is so sad to hear, and I empathize with both of you. The only person I ever unreservedly loved left me also to follow a different path. Although it is devastating for the moment, I can say with certainty that you will survive this. It was in my darkest moment that I learned to love myself and realized that I am strong and can restructure my life into something worthwhile. Don‘t give up, you‘re o.k.. And don‘t forget, there are many of us out here who would be honored to give you whatever support you may need or desire. Don‘t lose hope!
It’s okay to “not be okay” right now. Grief is grief. Be with it, just don’t make it your forever home. In 2013, my partner of 5 years left me and went straight into the arms of someone she met on FB. I thought my life was over. But I knew that if I loved her, then my love shouldn’t change because she was no longer with me. I learned how to live without her, and wished her well. You will too. A funny thing happened when I went about making a new life, 2 years after she left me, she came back into my life. I didn’t change my life, but the love was still there. 3 years later we got married. I don’t want to give you false hope, but rather encourage you to live your best life right now. You owe it to yourself. You got this. And we’ve got you!
I hope this is not the case here,....leaving because of there being someone else. The comment that Sarah "wants to make a different choice"? ->haunting. YOU are full of grace and did things the right way. So glad to see that there was another chance and that you are happy. LOVE the "Live your best life right now" comment. SO TRUE.
When my long-term ex and I broke up, I cried almost non-stop for three months, and I absolutely thought that I would never be okay again. I thought I was weak and a bad person if I asked for help. Finally I realized that accepting help was actually a strength. You are doing SO AWESOME. That experience was awful for me, but it was hugely helpful in making me realize that I am a much stronger person than I ever thought, and I trust that you will find something equally breathtaking about yourself. You have shown over and over again how resilient you are, and you're walking and going to therapy and looking at medicine, and talking and processing, all of which puts you miles ahead. Even if you are feeling light years behind. Love to you both, and to those pups of yours
I’m old and been broken up with a number of times. I’ve never had to brake up with anyone but I can’t imagine how hard that had to be for her too. The beginning is always so painful. Time will heal your heart. Meanwhile, find the funny where ever you can. It’s ok to be friends still. But if it’s too painful, take the space you need. You’ll grow in leaps and bounds during your time alone. Learning to be comfortable with yourself alone is a huge blessing!
I’ve been through something similar and found a wonderful life on the other side. It’s a bumpy road but not one that you travel alone. Holding you in my heart. ❤️
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Jess I have never seen anyone smile as much as you and you make me smile things always get better over time. Stay strong
I feel that undercurrent of strength you have in this video. During a very dark time, I stumbled into a volunteer oportunity (thru work). I don't feel overly dramatic saying it may have saved my life. Service to others changed everything for me. Your family, friends and pups all need you, if things get to dark, please reach out, you are absolutely not alone. Take hope from all these folks commenting, the take your breath away grief will ease.
Very sorry for your loss and pain. I was with someone for 14 years when it ended abruptly and painfully. That was 10 years ago. Something that really helped me was watching a lot of standup comedy. I wasn't able to laugh for the first few months, but just knowing that people were eventually able to see humor past the pain was inspiring to me.
Dear Jess,
As I watched your video, your sadness and grief came through loud and clear. I just want you to know that you have my most heartfelt/soul-deep compassion and empathy. I know the pain of loving a partner who's gone as I lost my love over three years ago to death and yet I still love her as if we were together yesterday. But just know, you have all of the combined love and positive energy of all of us here and that we are standing with you and surrounding you with the most powerful collective band of love and strength and we will get through this, with you, together.
Hugs, love, and prayers!
I have only just found your channel. Sending love and strength across the miles. i went though an unexpected marriage breakdown after 8 years together some 15 years ago now. You sound like you are doing everything you can and in such mature way. I learnt that it takes time to heal and grieve the lose of the life you thought you were going to have. But through the darkness can come light. New directions and meaning will come into your life and new perspectives present themselves.
Give yourself time and allow those around you give you support and love. Please be kind to yourself and heal. xxx
Big hugs from Australia. Dumped everything as soon as I saw the video title. You are epic. Of course I will stand by you.
Of course I will keep watching the channel. You have become someone I really care about.
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Sorry for your loss. You are young and it doesn’t seam like it now but it will get better. I have divorced 2 times before I found the love of my life. We have been together for 17 years.
I am very sad to hear your news. It must have been very hard for Sarah to make this decision and even harder for you to have to face it. I have always admired how loving and open you are. This is your superpower that will allow you to live through the grief and come out on the other side able to love again. And who knows maybe this chapter is not fully closed yet. Love you both.
You are so amazing. I am still in utter shock, so can’t imagine what you are going through. Sending love and comfort to the both of you and your families. Just sending so much love and nothing else.
I have been through this, it broke me open. It was the worst and the best thing that ever happened to me. You are incredible. You are doing all the right things. You are going to be ok. Better than ok.
I'm so sorry Jess. You're such a strong person, and everything you're doing to help yourself just shows that.
I personally find it helps to write down questions for your future self in diary/ calendar - anything you'll be reading/ writing in in the future. For example - 'have I done this' 'do I still feel like this'. By the time you read it, you'll not only know the answer but be able to reflect back on it. Helps take the pressure/ enormity of the situation you're in at the moment and give it to your future self. Hope this helps, sending love
This is very sad, you are a beautiful person and deserve happiness, I have a feeling that you will find it eventually.
You are strong and beautiful inside and out. It’s normal to feel off centered. You will get your bearings and as time passes you will be even stronger. We love you!!
Thank you for your courage in sharing your raw real pain. We look forward to walking with you on this path 🙏🏼
Thank you for your courage in sharing this very difficult journey with us. I'm concerned that i'm heading into a similar situation in my own relationship and listening to your express your feelings so clearly and with so much strength gives me hope in weathering the storm ahead.
Please don't feel an obligation to us. If you need to take a break to focus on you, please do so without guilt or hesitation. Sending virtual hugs and healing vibes your way, you've got this!
Sending love to you and Sarah, and the dogs. I'm 45 and spent my whole life having my heartbroken...its time to focus on finding yourself - for you. Don't avoid the pain, use it as a force to learn from and use it to reshape a new imagined future. You got this girls. 💜
Praying for you both! Don’t hide your feelings from us, social media needs to start representing the truth of life’s struggles! You will take it one moment at a time at first, then hours, then a full day, etc. Glad you are in counseling, walking and have your beautiful pups! Look up all kinds of self care and build a strong toolbox that suits you! You are strong and will move past this at your own pace....
💛💛💛 There's always been smthg abt your spirit that has always resonated with me. I know you'll make it through. Thanks for sharing. I love your content. I have watched many of your videos multiple times. I will surely continue to watch. You are in my thoughts & prayers.
Oh Jess this just breaks my heart. You a a beautiful young woman with your whole life ahead of you. I wish nothing but the best for you and Sarah. Stay strong and we are all sending love 💜💛💙💚
My heart aches for you. You are so brave to be so vulnerable. Especially so publicly, and also to be so kind and respectful, despite the pain you are in. You are a strong woman. With the best heart. An hour at a time. A day at a time. A minute at a time when that's what you need. It's so great you have your dogs, they will save you in your darkest moments. They will be there, knowing. They will help you so much.
This made me tear up with you. From the comments, you will come to understand you’re a human living a human experience. I am so stinking proud of you and your strength. I’m 43. Engagement and wedding was called off two years ago. My guy realized his “mistake” and we’re trying to build back that trust and mend the heart. It’s a journey. Glad you’re addressing the emotional and mental aspects. That shows your maturity. It’s one day at a time. Lean in to the love and support of the pups, family and friends. You deserve it! I’ll be here to cheer you along the way to find what makes your heart smile. Sending lots of ((Hugs)). ❤️
You are loved more than you know, more than you will ever know. This is not the end, this is not the end, this is not the end. This is just the beginning of what is next. What is next will have its incredibly hard moments and moments when you will feel joy again. Eventually, sooner than you think, the moments of joy will be more frequent than the hard moments. That is healing and that is what you can expect, because you are loved. I promise- you are loved, and you will know joy again- it just takes time. ♥ Be happy. Your friends, Mike and Lisa.
I took a strange path to this video as I came upon your traveling adventures and found my way here. My heart breaks for you, because that pain is natural and real. One thing I can tell is that you are sweet, mature, brave, and thoughtful. I am way older than you and I can tell you these type of things results in new directions, adventures, and personal growth that will be positive and the genesis of great things. Please keep on posting content, you are really a wonderful communicator. Best wishes.
Your openness and honesty is just beautiful - life will get easier for both of you after such a heartbreaking & tough decision. I have been here myself, close to a marriage myself and felt like my entire world had crumbled… it took some time, but I found happiness again and my entire life changed - all so positively. Allow yourself to cry & feel sad, it’s a huge life change. This is very much a season and you have a new one owed to you. Sending you so much love xxx Jo
I'm currently going through the same thing. My husband of 20 years, kindly, told me he doesn't love me like a husband should love his wife but only like a bestfriend. My world was shattered. This was 4 months ago. I'm doing better today but the emotions come in large waves. I send you peace in your heart, sweet lady. Bug hugs♡
Prayers and Love your way..Time heals heart aches…
Been in your situation befor, and my only tips would be: alowe yourself to feel what ever is coming up, don't judge yourself for hating her even if it's for 1 minute, to judge yourself for hoping that she'll be back, don't retain yourself for crying or laghing, all those emotion are part of the process and won't be their in few days or weeks. Aurora have a strong song that is ''the river'' and sais: let the river go wild, who missed the sadness when it's gone? It's ok to be mad, to be releif, to be sad, to be lost, to be angry, to be happy, to be hopefull, to be... to be. Take care xx
Hi Jess, if there’s one thing that I’ve learned when grieving and loss, there’s always a positive in a negative situation. It may take a while to find it, but it’ll be there💛
Thoughts and healing prayers for you both. Give yourself some time to process and heal. Hug those beautiful dogs of yours and stay strong.
Hi love how are you feeling now 🌺🌼🌹🥀🌻🌺 your WhatsApp plz 🌹🥀 you have a horseyard I Lisa
Congratulations Jess. You have been soo blessed with such inner strength & courageousness. My mother once told me.. From the hardest pain comes the greatest strength.. Step by Step, Day by Day... Continue to Grow..
My heart is so very sad for you both and your families. Many have posted loving support and encouragement, I hope this helps during the darkest days of healing. You are not alone, you are loved, you are respected, you are admired...you are NOT alone. Sending you a big, swaying side to side mom hug!
My heart is breaking for you both. I can't imagine what is going on in Sara's mind, I hope she finds here way to her peace and recognition of the incredible unconditional love you have for her. Stay focused on your mental health, your growth and your inner peace. In time all things will be clear and as they should be whatever that is. Big hug, big big hug!
Great words of wisdom. Cannot even imagine the "why" with this,... what in the world is going on in Sarah's mind; but it is not for us to figure out. Time will make things much clearer.
JESS!!! You are stronger than you know! Keep up with those walks - yes, you are crushing it! Can't wait for the day when we look back at this video and see how far you've come. Looking forward to that day ❤
We know it’s hard, and it is overwhelming, but take it one day at a time, set a goal to do something nice for yourself everyday. Day by day the sting will subside and you will be a stronger woman for pushing through it. You got this!!! Much love ❤️
Hey! I haven’t been watching your videos regularly, but this one just showed up. And I just wanted to tell you that you are so brave for showing up like that. Totally honest and authentic. Your are a strong and brave woman! Everything happens for a reason. Even all those incomprehensible and hurtful things. Just keep breathing and taking one step after another. The darkness has so much light and learning in store for us. Eventually the pain will change, nothing is permanent. No joy and also no pain. Meditate, breath, go out to nature and let go! Sending a big hug full of my love from Austria. You are light. You are love xoxo
I’m sending you my heartfelt, healing thoughts. Relationships are very hard. Please allow the dogs to help you heal. I will pray for you and Sarah.
Experiences help us grow and gives us a chance to use the tools we accumulate during this life time. I think you have mastered kindness, love, and compassion. I stumbled on your channel just today. Once you get to the other side of the pain I hope you look back and can see what a wonderful person you are. What a beautiful heart.
Heartbroken for you both. Sending love and strength. You are strong, resilient, and so honest about your feelings. Keep that amazing heart open.
your intro in which you clearly stated what your intention for this video is, and what is NOT your intention, really touched and inspired me.so clear and strong. your strength reached me through the screen, dear.
You will rise up better and stronger. What a lovely decent person you are. Life has many many, twists and turns, and there will be many more. Look forward x
You are so incredibly strong and brave to feel your feelings. To process the flood of feelings now is going to prepare you for so many blessings in the future. Prepare to meet a whole new you. The spaces that are grieving now will be filled with versions of yourself you never imagined or had space to cultivate outside of relationship. I can't tell you the pain stops, because for me it hasn't and it's a reminder of the great capacity I have to love. What makes it easier is all of the magic, love and resiliency I have found within myself. Peace on your journey
I'm so very sorry, Jess. It sounds like you are taking care of yourself and allowing yourself to feel what you feel. It will get easier. You should be proud of showing the world (or at least the 33K of us who subscribe) that it's ok to be vulnerable in front of other people. It is a sign of maturity and strength. Sending love to you and Sarah (and the puppies.)
Sending you both so much love & support. Thank you for sharing your truth & vulnerability. I am so sorry for what you are going through, both of you, and I just hope you find peace soon.
You have so many shoulders to lean on & we are here for you as you start this new chapter.
If you ever need support or a friend to chat with, my inbox is always open.
Jess, I hope the rest of your day treats you gently. And I hope both of you see something today that makes you smile or laugh- you both deserve a respite from grief, even for a moment. Take care of yourselves 💕
I am so sorry to hear this. The pain of this type of break up is devastating and heart wrenching. It is okay to cry and mourn the loss of what sounds like a wonderful relationship. It just takes time. Sometimes a lot of time. Film your walks. Film your dogs. Talk with us about how you feel, process your hurt and the loss you are feeling, but take care of you. Best wishes.
this morning my friend was telling me that when forest fires burn down an entire area... it promotes new beautiful growth. i assume us humans are no different. sending you love
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You two have had major life changes in such a very short amount of time. Those events can weigh heavily, as you well know.. please take time to engage in things you find healthy. Plug in to folks you find love with. And do things that make you feel good when you do them. You’re brave. You both are. May you find small blessings in the beauty around you as you continue to grieve.
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Sending love and strength to both of you. Life is confusing as hell and I feel for you both. I wish you both all the best in your futures. I hope you keep making these videos because I think it will be therapeutic for you. You will see that life goes on and you are incredibly strong and you will be ok. I promise.
What is life without this kind of pain? These moments, are the basis of future happiness 😍
Hi Jess and thank you for sharing your story. You are a very strong women for doing that. I divorced 6 years ago after a 24 year marriage. One thing I learned in my healing process that the healing comes in form of waves. Somedays the waves are hopeful light and calm, other days the waves are hard and dark. My advice is not to be scared of the waves. In every wave there is a process towards healing that will be personal for you.
Embrace the waves. Hugs
What you are going through is so real. You will hurt for some time, but the love and grace you have shown in this situation shows what a positive human you are. It will get better. There are so many of us “strangers” that you graciously let into your life that are cheering for you.
Jess when I went through a break up there were 3 things I did to help myself heal Number 1 was surrounded myself with my loved ones , Number 2 was I did not listen to any music for quite awhile as the songs took me ta painful place at that time , Number 3 I exercised so much that I honestly thought I could make the Australian Olympics team for the marathon event . Those things slowly but surely got me through don’t expect to much from yourself at the moment big hugs to you xxxxx
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A huge hug, although it seems that the world is ending in reality a new life begins, neither better nor worse. You have a lot of time ahead to enjoy it, take advantage of it. Un abrazo desde Spain.
I’m so sorry you are hurting. Props to you for getting a therapist and meds. I also want to say one of my few regrets in life was going thru with a marriage I didn’t want. We divorced 9 months later. It sucked! This pain will force massive growth for you both and the saying give yourself one month for every year together to grieve and feel the sting seems to hold some truth. It will get better with time. Don’t hold it in. Feel all the emotions and honor them. You will survive and one day thrive!
One of the most beautiful videos. To speak with such articulation while grieving is such a hard thing. Thank you for sharing. I am sure you have helped countless people who are struggling now themselves. You are so strong and it shows in every part of your video. Thank you.
You are cleary a very strong woman. I've been through something similar and didn't believe I'd get through without ending my life at one point but I stuck it out and made my way to peace again. It took a lot of work and everyday felt like a year but I truly believe that anyone determined to heal and rebuild can do it. I'm with you!
I hope you have the support you need around you. I went through a similar situation, but I was more of Sara's side. Just know that she is probably hurting just as much as you are, it's not easy to leave when you still care for the person. Sometimes you can really love someone but you just can't get to a place where both are happy. I'm glad you are in therapy. Hang in there and if it's meant to be, you'll find your way back to each other, but, if not, try to be strong. You deserve to have someone love you completely.
Making videos is clearly a cathartic release and you should continue producing them. You're an intelligent, creative, beautiful person and will get through this storm. Thank you for sharing your life and amazing adventures, I look forward to seeing more!
I'm so very sorry to hear your news. It must have been such a very hard decision for Sarah. My thoughts and prayers are with you both. It sounds like you are doing all the right things but be kind to yourself. Love and hugs from Bristol UK xx
So many auntie hugs to you!! I went thru something similar. Don't put a timeline on "getting over it". You are grieving for the loss of your past, present, & future. Nothing is harder. Be gentle with yourself. Stay with therapy. Make sure you like the connection with your therapist and don't feel bad if you need a different one as you go forward.
It's not "just you", it is "new you" now! As a person who has been single for a long time I had and have to explain a lot that it is not "just me". People can be happy alone and there are so many couples that are not happy either. try to find new you and what she likes. You got this!
Sorry to hear for your loss. Thank you for your honesty. Only something better can arise after this, more joy, and a more beautiful and easy connection. Can you imagine? It's going to be a beautiful thing.
A raw and heartbreaking vlog 💔 be kind to yourself, be ok with putting yourself first. Support and thoughts to both you Jess and Sarah. x
Thank you for sharing. My heart goes out to you both. No break up is easy, whether you are the one to do it or the other, it hurts like hell. It takes such courage for you to share your hurt and it took her courage to speak her truth. I'm sending you both positive energy to heal, strength to honor your authentic selves and peace for a better tomorrow.
With love,
Danielle
My husband left me after our first child was less than a year old, we were 16 and 15 years old when we met, he was my first love and I thought he would be my last , the devastation was all consuming but time is a great healer and little by little I put myself back together with the love and support of family and friends and I started to live again, it’s better to find out before children are involved as it was very difficult for my daughter loosing her father in her life everyday and I was not fully unavailable to her as I was depressed. Many years on I still love him but as I would any member of my family, we both have new spouses and are happy, and happy for one another. You will get there, it’s not a pleasant journey to undertake, your dreams are shattered, your heart and sole ache for her 24/7 but it will get easier. You are beautiful inside and out and I’m sure you will look back in times to come and see this was the right thing for you, someone will come along and together you will be blissfully happy, raising your kids in a home full of love and dogs 🐕😍🥰. I am thinking of you and sending lots of love and healing from Scotland xx
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I've been going through some really hard stuff for a while, the love of my life married someone else and now I feel like I'll never get over it and see the light at the end of the tunnel....all you have to do is be strong for 1 second, then 1 minute, then for 1 day,then for 1 month........just start with what you can handle❤you are not alone❤
Hello friend. I'm 49 and I was in a relationship of 12 years and went through a divorce. It felt like my world was ending. It sounds like you are doing all the right things to care for yourself. It sounds like you are very honest and present with your grief. I promise you things will get better. Right now it feels crushing and it's hard to see past the grief. You are an amazing human. You are kind and loving. You have an inner light that pulls people towards you. Love will find you again and when it does she will want to build a family with you. She will want to build a home with you. I rebuilt my life with my soulmate and you will too. Much love to you. xoxox
So sorry for your loss. Thank you so much for sharing. You'll find so many relatable stories. I went through a divorce. A year later I lost a beloved pet, that was essentially my child, suddenly and without warning. With support (emotional, medical, social, etc.) and self care you can make it through. It's a new journey, one you may not want, one you weren't expecting, but eventually it can be a beautiful and fulfilling as you want it to be. Grieve the future you thought you were going to have and then start building a new one. One day at a time.
Just smile and the whole world will smile with you Take care we all love you.
i had a similar experience with my second wife. we were together for almost 12 years. i worked a night shift and she tucked me in, kissed me, and told me she loved me when i got home. i worked 10 p.m. - 10 a.m. at the time. i woke up at 2 in the afternoon because something felt weird. my wife was at the end of the bed and told me she wanted me to leave. no explanation, nothing. that was almost 22 years ago. i can't say you will ever get over it but it will become something in the past that you just grow and learn to accept. i wish there was something i learned through my experience that would help. just stay strong, take time for yourself with your dogs they understand more than we know. i'm glad you have friends and family to support you during this time. we are all thinking of you and here for you to reach out to and lean on.
All the best. Hope you get better soon. Grieving is a process. You are on the right track. My heart goes out for you
I know it's cliche, but time is the primary healer here. At least that's my experience. As time passes, you will heal, but it sure would be nice if it could happen faster!
Thank you for sharing your life with us.
May love and light surround you Sweet Jess. Family/framily, friends, the dogs, walks, meditation, therapy and self-love will bring you to your peace, emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually.
All the best to you and Sarah as well.
Jess, I've never been through a breakup like this, mostly because I'm too scared to be open enough for a relationship. You are so brave for letting someone in, even if you know you may get hurt. I know all the pain is still worth it because of all the good times. 💙💙
Nature is the best healer! 11 years ago when I went through my burnout and depression, my sister went with me walking through the forest day after day and about a month after, I started feeling better and slowly got off my meds. The forest is still today my best friend!
Grief takes time…give it time honey.
I know it’s hard to see but this as a blessing before you did get married and had kids. Learn to love your life as a single person. It is pretty fun plus you have family and the pups. 😘💕🐾
We are so sorry for you situation. My wife was crying while watching this video. You are very strong person that you find strength to share this with us. Though you see only a small eye of your camera when you speak, please feel that thousands of people do think about you and Sarah and grieve with you. Send you a lot of hugs. ❤️
My wife and I split earlier this year because our marriage wasn’t what she wanted anymore. I was devastated. It seemed to have totally come out of the blue. We lived together for several months before I was able to move out to make our split official and it was the most heartbreaking months of my life. I’m still heartbroken and trying to cope each day. We still had a lot of love for each other but I couldn’t be what she needed. I gave her the gift (?) of freedoms. It seems like that’s what you did for Sarah. And you clearly did it out of the love you have for her. After my wife and I made the decision to split, I reached a level of sadness that scared me. Truly scared me. I reached out to a therapist and talked to my doctors and went on medication as well. I still take a long walk each day too. I spent a lot of those earlier walks being so angry that she took my whole life away from me. Everything I had worked so hard for. The family and life that we worked so hard to build together. I felt so betrayed and lied to. I found that I had to forgive her for my own well-being. If you are having or have feelings of anger, but know that’s not the place you want to be, forgiving for selfish reasons is okay too. It’s helped our friendship. Of course we sat and poured our hearts out to each other for hours several times. We still have some tough conversations even a year later. We just kept working at it and we’re better parents to our kid now. We are still very close friends. We know each other better than anyone and that can sometimes make it really difficult to think that the person you know better than anyone in the world and the person that knows you better than anyone, is also the person that has played a major part in the pain you are feeling. It’s possibly to still be friends. You’ll get there. It will be hard. It will be agonizing at times, but I believe you’ll get there. You are both beautiful souls. Sending so much love and healing to both of you. ❤️
gosh, thanks for sharing this
@@UphillAdventure Thank YOU for sharing! Watching this video made me feel less alone knowing there are other people out there that have broken up but still want the best for each other, who still have so much love for each other but it just can’t work for whatever reason. I felt like I was doing something wrong or wasn’t mad enough because others were telling me I should have been feeling. Please don’t let others tell you how angry you should be. Decide that for yourself. Or choose to be compassionate and understanding with yourself and your grieving, but also to what Sarah is going through to have brought her to this point. It couldn’t have been easy for her.
Sorry, I rambled on again lol. I wish you the best of luck in your process and I will definitely be one of those people here supporting you!
A little over five years ago, me and my ex of 8 years (who I had been with since college) also called off our wedding a few months out. Almost immediately, I took the dog and moved back home with my parents and also felt like I was losing my entire world. More so scared at the thought of also losing my best friend- the one person who I shared my life with for 8 years. A handful of months after the breakup, love fell into my lap and I met the absolute love of my life (my now wife) and we’re trying to have a baby and buy a house. I was NOT expecting it and was terrified when it happened, but everything really truly does happen for a reason. I gave myself space to grieve the life I was losing, and the life I thought I was supposed to live. But then also gave myself permission to be happy and find who I truly was. I know my story is unique but just a reminder that it can feel so damn hard in the moment, but it always, always gets better and you’ll be so proud of yourself in the end for the growth that you see. Love to you both.
I am only giving you a like to help your channel, but I do not like that you all are going through this. Hang in there Jess...if it's meant to be, you and Sarah will find your way back to each other. hugs