I don’t know if you get this often but you look like a girl version of Zayn Malik and even have similar mannerisms from what I’ve seen in his interviews
I hope that your mom is gonna read all these lovely comments people left under your video telling you how inspiring you are... you’re a role model to many and I hope that your family can accept you one day ❤️
I respect you for sharing your story. I have a daughter who was scared to come out and i accepted her fully... what parents need to understand is that it doesn't matter what ur children sexually is... they are still the person you gave birth to and raised... i don't understand why ppl would turn their back on their kid for religious reasons or place views on them in a negative light.. if u choose to focus on other things then to love ur child then they are the ones with the problem.. believing in God is based on love not hate ..if u willingly to choose to turn your back on ur kids then you can't call urself a religion person at all.. i had to explain to my daughter i love u no matter what nothing would ever change that.. it just saddens me to here that some parents who scared to understand or ask questions and accept their kids for who they are just self centered and choose to hide behind their religious background. I would like to say im am a American and I stand behind all of LGBTQ community love u guys for telling ur truth
@@sufiandanjali4670 thank you for that i believe in my kids making their own decisions and to make sure they love themselves cause i kno how the real world could be judgmental...
Wow amazing. My mom literally said she would disown me if I was homosexual on the day I was about to tell her when she was watching a movie and a same sex couple appeared in it. I live with my parents my stepdad is homophobic as well he says they just need to pray and thinks it’s a choice. I don’t want to be homeless so I never pursue anything with anyone I’m bisexual btw but i like girls more it’s like a 70/30% ratio I hope I can move out by the time I’m 23 (I’m 19 now and I’m in college but I have to pay for everything so I couldn’t stay in a dorm because it was too expensive and I don’t want debt) :( I’m honestly so depressed but I’m trying to remain optimistic I’ve heard that there are a couple of gay people in my family but they are not talked about and not accepted either I don’t even know who they are I just heard whispers from time to time it sucks. I don’t get how my mom says she’s okay with gay people as long as it’s not her children and I hate it.
it is not that. In Islam - we all believe everyone gets tests from God (Allah). Whether it's in a form of poverty in that are you still thankful and don't give up hope or being rich and how you manage that money and if you flaunt it or are you humble. In losing loved ones from death, or fall - out relationships, or like debt . It's tests from God to each individual and how they manage and how their relationship with God is. In Islam- being gay is test from God also. We understand that being gay is a struggle and that you may want to act on your feelings and you want to express the world you are and not have to hide. But in Islam that in itself is a form of a test. It is okay to have feelings for the same gender- but it's forbidden to act upon it. It's just as the same for Muslim girls who may have a crush on a guy - but you can't go up and tell them and be like hey let's date and I like you. It is a test from God on how you deal with it and whether you fall into this short term happiness compared to when you go to paradise and it's an eternity. Yes- it's kinda true with culture people tend to hate on Gays and we don't at all!! Just cause we disagree with your decision doesn't mean we hate you and you guys don't deserve anything, etc. I respect your decision and admire you if you struggle with your feelings being gay and how you choose to not come out and act on it. Because it's a test. Anyways- some parents do get blinded by that and it's wrong that you shouldn't kick them out/ and try to understand their struggle. Instead they should tell them that it's okay but that don't act on it because Inshallah, Allah will reward a better gift of eternal happiness in paradise. And some parent's turn back on their children because the children themselves have gone the wrong path. They refuse to listen and are blinded by short lived happiness. Hopefully you understand though that not all Muslim Parents do this to children if they are gay. We are told that we should help them get back to the correct path and that it's a test and that to not act upon them. - This is coming from a Muslim teen girl who has a bi bestfriend and Ik a Muslim guy who really struggles with his identity and being gay but he knows that it's a test and that it's wrong to come out and showcase it to the world. It would be like the people of Lut.
smileforever all you are doing is suppressing someone that is not a test because being gay doesn’t harm them. Your friends should live there truth. There is nothing wrong with falling in love with someone of the same gender. It is not the same as you said if a girl has a crush on a guy but she can’t act on it because he is taken because that right there is just normal but for being gay imagine you like someone of the same gender and they like you but you can’t act on it because of society. Imagine you love your family deeply but someone says that’s a sin and you can never bond with them. Also when you are a homosexual you will never be sexually attracted to the opposite gender unless you are bi but there are bi people who like one gender wayyy more than the other. it’s not always 50/50 so if a homosexual person suppressed their feelings and tried to live a “straight” path they would never find true happiness and feel miserable, I think it’s a terrible thing to act like something you are not. Life would already seem like hell. I get where you are coming from but you are not a homosexual yourself so you will never truly understand. I myself have suppressed my feelings for the same sex ever since I recognized that I liked them and I know that I will never be happy with a man and I’ve come to terms of with who I really am, For YEARS I desperately cried and prayed and tried to feel attracted to men so that I can live a traditional life but that’s just not what my heart wants. It is never good to suppress your own happiness except if you’re like a serial killer/ criminal lol but I understand where you come from but please do not say it’s wrong and let your friends be themselves if you love them. If judgement ever does come then homosexuals will face it, it won’t concern you but I know for a fact that god would never turn down a good person because of who they love :) if he did I rather just go to hell then because I rather spend my time on earth with someone I love then always be depressed based off of a “god” that no one knows for certain exists. I hope you just let it go and let gay people be free because that’s all we want. Do not tell anyone to suppress there feelings please I beg of you. I truly see what you are trying to do but trust me that doesn’t work it will only lead to them hating themselves and becoming extremely depressed and ashamed.
you kept such a brave face on throughout this video! i was just crying throughout LOL i'm indian and came out a year ago and I'm experiencing the same things you did with your family. a lot of emotional blackmail, not acknowledging, not talking about it. the worst is my brother who gets physical but hes cancelled anyway and has been for a long time :)
Sneha John My family hasn’t had even one LGBT member till now I’m 17 now I’ve known I was bisexual since I was 12 but I have been keeping it with myself
@@aashma600 my family too have no lgbtq member . Even I tried coming out expect some of my cousins and my aunts who have accepted my sexuality . But my parents they don't believe coz until this day I had no relationship
As a desi heterosexual, I can't even begin to imagine what it's like to have nearly all your family scrutinize and condemn you for a natural part of your identity. Really glad you've gained a solid following from fellow Desi queer friends and heterosexual allies (myself included), who respect/appreciate you for who you are.
Visionary 707 they did a super cute photoshoot together showcasing their cultural clothing and culture in general and it went viral twitter.com/anj3llyfish/status/1156399884322238464?s=21
Sarah S tysm they were beautiful it’s sad she was outed but I understand how it went viral ahhh love is such a beautiful thing. I don’t know when I’ll be able to come out and find love :(
im straight and i just want to let all the lgbtq community knows that, love who you love and other people opinion dont matter cause its your life and you desserve to be happy.
i respect the lgbtq community as humans as persons but i don't support them remember if ur mom and dad my mom and dad all the moms and dads in the world were not straight u would'nt be here i would'nt be here those lgbtq ppl would'nt be here so why supporting such a thing their sex life also isn't healthy.....i'm like so tired of understanding with which logic u guys think and i don't see it ur blind u don't see the truth like ughh it's not logical we were born to be STRAIGHT and if anyone does not feel like straight please seek for help and try to overcome it please
Hayat Ch don’t support them if you don’t want to but that is not good reasoning. There are many infertile women who can’t have kids so not all straight people have kids anyways. Also, many straight people do not want to have kids. That would never happen logically. Also, for the lgbtq people who want to have kids but don’t want to have biological ones, it’s not a bad thing because there are many orphans who need to be adopted that won’t be taken in by some people who want biological children, but a preference for biological kids isn’t as big of a thing in lgbtq couples so we can get more kids off the street, not that lgbtq couples are obligated to have kids, but if they choose to, ive seen that they are more likely to adopt than straight couples so it would helps kids in the long run. Also, there’s something called being a surrogate, so even if all the moms and dads in the world were lgbtq, which would logically never happen, science would still be a thing so we would learn that reproduction works by a sperm fertilizing an egg so people would know that and have children through surrogates and reproduction would still be possible.
Hey :) it’s Emmanuel from high school, I wanted to tell you that, you are a great person and it was always nice talking to you. I wish the best for you and your channel, keep up the great videos and helping people!
It must not have been easy to share all this, especially with the way you were thrust into media glare after you went viral on Twitter, but thanks for doing so regardless. Hope your family comes around and you find peace with your chosen family.
As much as I love the fact that many coming out stories on UA-cam are fairly accepting. I am so so glad that this video exists. Because after watching this video I know that I'm truly not alone. Thank you Sufi. This video means so much to me as a South Asian Lesbian and many other members of the Desi LGBT community. 🌈🇵🇰🌈
@Pin Apple if we die and realise that there was truth to religion then that's it there is no going back. Your dead and can't undo all the wrong you did in life because you rejected faith.. so it's a big deal.
as someone from a indian family I just want to say how brave it is for you guys to be so vulnerable with us on here and how much you are helping so many people going through the same experience. love your channel and you guys!! ♡
I felt like I just watched the most relaxing video ever. Your voice is so soothing. Half of the things you been through I can just see the replay of myself when I went through it and it’s not over.
It feels so relieving to know that there are other Muslims who go through this struggle and accepting yourself as a whole being a Muslim and accepting your sexuality which is a part of who you’re
I am a Muslim homosexual from Nigeria and my dad is completely against homosexuality, I am still learning to accept this part of myself but I hope I eventually have the courage to come out like you.
Your coming out story speaks to me on so many levels. My parents still like to think I'm straight even though I've "come out" to them several times throughout the years. Thank you for sharing your story.
...gay is prohibited in Islam and quran...If anyone disagree with quran , then they are no muslim anymore..Desire is not haram in islam if u act upon it that is haram...then you are not muslim..U can have gay desire , If u act upon it ..then u are not muslim..It is a test from allah.allah destoried a city because they act upon their haram desire like gay both bible and quran
I relate to this so much and I knew I would so I was scared to watch this video at first lol. I want to talk to my conservative Bengali mom so badly even though our relationship isn’t the best. I have a range of different conversations with her, just hinting that I do not have any attraction to men. Sometimes they laugh when I say I’m not getting married, but other times they get so angry and tell me that this is not a “normal” thing. My parents have expressed disgust towards LGBT identities, so I haven’t been able to come out to them. Losing my family is one of my biggest fears but watching this video/ hearing your experience is so helpful. Thank you so much for sharing your personal, intimate experiences and thoughts. Loss is probable but there’s just so much to gain when you accept yourself and identity. ❤️❤️
I m bisexual and I said it to my mom..but she doesn't supports me...she says that its a sickness and it would get recovered soon when I grow up and she says that I should get married with a man...but I don't think so that I m sick...😔😔 it feels very bad when your parents and family doesn't supports you and they always tease you😔😔😔😔it really feels very bad and I feel like the most lonely person in the world...😭
..gay is prohibited in Islam and quran...If anyone disagree with quran , then they are no muslim anymore..Desire is not haram in islam if u act upon it that is haram...then you are not muslim..U can have gay desire , If u act upon it ..then u are not muslim..It is a test from allah.allah destoried a city because they act upon their haram desire like gay both bible and quran..
thank you so much for this. im currently a 15 year old muslim living in a homophobic household and I've only come out as a lesbian to my online friends + few of my irls. im so scared of my family finding out about my sexuality... even if i blocked them through social media- this video really comforted me and i wish to find myself in peace soon while loving girls, like moving abroad when i start college. i seriously am trying to be a good muslim like praying 5 times a day or read the quran despite my sexuality ;; so this video really made me feel happy, again, thank you so much!
im in the same situation im a fifteen non-binary bisexual living in a homophobic household and country and i feel like ill never come out of fear of loosing my family and i want to tell you that i support you and accept you, you matter you will be happy you will live a free life don’t listen to the hateful comments you have my upmost respect and support !
I am also from a Sunni Muslim household but from India and I know how brave it was of you to take the steps you did. I wanna thank you so so so so much for finally doing this video, I had been waiting for it for so long because I really am confuse about my relationship with Allah just because I am gay but today the things you said during the end of the videos, gave me a new hope and happiness. I am not saying that now I will be completely okay with being gay and accepting myself and not questioning my relationship with my maker but now atleast every time I will fluctuate, I will come here and watch this to feel better. Thank you so much. I really appreciate this video and you and I am really sorry that you guys got outed so badly and faced so many bad texts from relatives, I hope you are feeling better now. Once again, thank you from your chosen family. And wailekum Assalam
Allah (SWT) has made the perfect creation for worshipping Him. Humans, by nature are flawed, experience desires, and make mistakes. Being LGBT, and feeling an attraction to the same gender is a test that the person is being put through. To resist the humanly desires, and instead, choose the path of righteousness is a very noble deed. By the way, in Islam, one is allowed to feel attraction to the same gender. Desires are a natural human trait. But to act on these desires is haram. One must marry the opposite gender or remain single if it is not possible to do this. Allah (SWT) knows your struggle, and you are rewarded immensely for resilience. To follow the path to Allah (SWT) is the only way to make it to heaven in the afterlife.
we're the same i'm also a muslim and sunni, but I don't have the courage the same as urs to come out. and the fact that i'm already 21 damn you don't know how hard it is. 😩
Thank you for sharing your story. It’s so amazing that you are able to stay composed and strong throughout the whole thing - I was ugly crying all the way. Growing up Muslim and Southeast Asian, it’s so hard for me to accept who I really am and it’s taken a lot for me to get to where I am now. Wishing love for you and Anjali all the way!
Sufi, I know many people hv said this but I feel I have to say it again. What you and anjali are doing by taking the time to post videos on UA-cam is amazing. Don't ever doubt the magnitude of the impact you hv. These videos of yours are being watched by so many of us esp of Asian descent and it just resonates and we connect with you. There is a dearth of representation by gay South asians and it is just so comforting and inspiring to see the both of you owning yourselves. I live on the opposite end of the world so I may never hv the chance to meet you but know that you hv impacted my life in a way you could never comprehend. So thank you. Lots of love to you and anjali.
well being a muslim gay I can feel you. It holds everything like religious part, family, friends, society. you overcome those hardle. am so happy for you. I wish I could hold my love's hand and walk through the path without any fear to be exposed.
Ok, you're amazing, thank you for sharing. ❤️ I really hope your mother will come around. I can't even imagine not being close to my daughter, that would be awful. My love for her is unconditional. I have actually been preparing myself mentally the last years in case she chooses to come out. Which I kinda suspect she will, eventually...
I'm 17, Pakistani (living in Pakistan) , Muslim and I like girls. I'm afraid of my parents ever finding out cause I don't know if they'd ever accept me. I came out to my siblings when I was 13 and one of them wasn't very supportive but she thankfully came around and is my biggest supporter. although I'm still in the closet, hearing stories like this, especially this, makes me feel so incredibly happy cause it makes me feel so accepted?? and not alone?? thank you so much for this :)) I'm so glad you found your happiness
Allah (SWT) has made the perfect creation for worshipping Him. Humans, by nature are flawed, experience desires, and make mistakes. Being LGBT, and feeling an attraction to the same gender is a test that the person is being put through. To resist the humanly desires, and instead, choose the path of righteousness is a very noble deed. By the way, in Islam, one is allowed to feel attraction to the same gender. Desires are a natural human trait. But to act on these desires is haram. One must marry the opposite gender or remain single if it is not possible to do this. Allah (SWT) knows your struggle, and you are rewarded immensely for resilience. To follow the path to Allah (SWT) is the only way to make it to heaven in the afterlife.
What really makes me respect and salute you, is that you never leave your religion and never forget ur Prayer and your Maker. I've been with a girl who is 17 years older than me for almost 4 years, and one thing makes me love her so much is that she make me closer to my maker and help me to became a better Muslim, despite of being gay couple we never forget our Prayers and our Maker.
I yelled out, "Good for you!" when you mentioned your relationship to God ♡ You have a strong sense of self and I'm happy to see self-love when expressing yourself. Lovely! 🥰
I’ve been waiting for long to see Muslims / Pocs posting coming out stories with rather bad outcomes just to assure me that even if they react badly, it’s still gonna be okay. It got to the point where I ended up uploading my own coming out video where I go on detail how horrible my family reacted but still try to point out that it gets better. You find your own family. Watching your video warmed my heart and I just hope that all of us will keep encouraging each other so that the next generation has it much easier ❤️ you‘re amazing and I’m proud of you ❤️
...gay is prohibited in Islam and quran...If anyone disagree with quran , then they are no muslim anymore..Desire is not haram in islam if u act upon it that is haram...then you are not muslim..U can have gay desire , If u act upon it ..then u are not muslim..It is a test from allah.allah destoried a city because they act upon their haram desire like gay both bible and quran
@Mashiyattt ...gay is prohibited in Islam and quran...If anyone disagree with quran , then they are no muslim anymore..Desire is not haram in islam if u act upon it that is haram...then you are not muslim..U can have gay desire , If u act upon it ..then u are not muslim..It is a test from allah
Sufi, your soul is unbelievably beautiful. I can't even imagine what going through your experience would be like, yet the fact that you so openly spread your light and your story just to possibly help so many others means so much to so many people, including me. Thank you. You truly embody what it means to be a Sufi.
@@sufiandanjali4670shame on you nosane maro gi to kya jwab do gi qabar mai aik to kud burai mai lagi ho dosra logo ko b batati ho tum jo marzi karo apna name muslim wala na use karo qoom lot pair azab daik lo agar muslim oti tum to quran mujeed mai kya lilkha hai is k bary mai par laiti jaum k ag mai jalo tum yai dua hai hamri
Ah this makes me really feel like I’m not alone because I knew I was lesbian since 11 and four years later it still haunts me knowing my Muslim family won’t call me their daughter if I come out to them. I suffer with depression because of this and I can’t even open up to them about it so I’m I’ll admit I’m struggling atm but thanks so much for sharing this you’ve just made my day🥰
...gay is prohibited in Islam and quran...If anyone disagree with quran , then they are no muslim anymore..Desire is not haram in islam if u act upon it that is haram...then you are not muslim..U can have gay desire , If u act upon it ..then u are not muslim..It is a test from allah
Most of the lesbian and gay men have become ex muslim . There are groups that have meetings and get together so you could go to one of them !!. In Canada and USA they are open about being Muslim and gay . In the UK it is kept more hush hush because the majority of people are a bit backward in their thought.. But there are lesbian Muslim women in the UK who are now coming out !!! But you need to be prepared for the backlash which will not be very nice from the religion of peace !!!
I am 13 yrs old right now and am struggling to come out as Bisexual to my strict Muslim father and my not as strict mother and my strict sister. And also the thought that they might be right and I'm doing something haram and just the thought of going to hell. this video has definitely helped and I can resonate with it a lot, so thank you so much for everything ❤❤
I have so much respect for you. You are insanely brave. My immediate family is rather liberally oriented and even so it was fucking hard to come out to them. I cannot imagine how hard this must have been / still is for you. You rock 💓
You are so brave, strong and inspiring for a lot of people around the world. Coming out is an everyday challenge because every new person we met, it's like a new coming out... But family is such a scary thing so congrats on every achievements you made. Lots of love from France
It's not easy for Muslim pakistanis, it's a blessing u born or grew outside Pakistan , at least u have a solid base , u don't have to plan for going n living outside ur country first , what u have rt now is nothing less than a treasure , always always value it, there r so many ppl out there who wish to have something similar like u have, they tried too but never get their ,result either they wandering around here n there or getting married to opposite sex n rest u know , just give sadqa khairat be humble n stable ur self financially, so much love , respect , dua pyar for both of you, stay strong, stay blessed.....love from Pakistan
.gay is prohibited in Islam and quran...If anyone disagree with quran , then they are no muslim anymore..Desire is not haram in islam if u act upon it that is haram...then you are not muslim..U can have gay desire , If u act upon it ..then u are not muslim..It is a test from allah.allah destoried a city because they act upon their haram desire like gay both bible and quran
@@sufiandanjali4670 goffy ass alien figure. Father less figure haram Astagfirulla get some help. You aint following islam just following shaytan doing public sin without any shame. Revert back your mistake or you will be in hell fire leave this gay stuff or your religion
I really appreciate and admire that you talked about the other side of going viral. when the primary visible result is an outpouring of love (which is amazing), it is honest and brave to talk about how your extended family also became aware of your sexuality without your consent. I can only imagine how draining it's been to navigate that process, while still responding to your growing community on social media with love and patience. thank you for sharing your story, and I hope that every day becomes a little easier.
Although I’m straight but this video of you coming out to your parents & people in general gave me so much positivity. ✨ Way to go, you guys! I’m sure your family would come around. #LoveIsLove ♥️
this video :') is so important :') SO much love from KSA I started thinking recently about telling my mom, we have a really good relationship, but even with that the idea that she'd understand or accept is kinda the craziest idea that I could have?? even though my mom is not all that close minded but STILL we're in the middle east here and there are bases that God knows how rooted they are in our brains
I'm 17 and I'm having a hard time of finding what I want but I guess your video just gave me the courage of coming out and what I want so thank you so much Sufi!
I’m 16, an Indian Muslim, I came out to my Mom last month. she was pretty shocked at first , then she said that she loves me but I have to move out by 20..she’ll provide me with money to get a start , but after that she doesn’t want me to be in connection with the family.. so I’m pretty fucked up.😑
I'm sorry that happened to u but at least she will still be connected to u. Don't worry u are amazing and people who don't accept u for who u are don't deserve u. Just live ur life and be happy ❤️
I'm 17, Indian, and this year I came out to my parents, I came out because I wanted to live my life the way I want, by being myself and I could not pretend to like men anymore, it was exhausting, so when I came out they were pretty chill about it, but I guess that would not be the cause for other people are in the lgbtqa+ community, so what I have to say is that, get a good education, follow your passion, invest your time doing what you find best for you, it might take a long while to figure it out but once you start earning money, you can then live in your own house, where you can live your life with your partner ❤️❤️❤️
my dad is a very sunni bengali immigrant, and my mom is white & old fashioned (idk how they got together but),, growing up as a mixed muslim was always hard since you could feel people judging you especially at the masjid & everything,, but as a lesbian muslim, I appreciate yall's channel so so much :(( i dont want to be disowned but I still want to keep in touch with my religion and seeing this really helped me feel a lot better, thank you!! 💖💖
Im so so grateful for my girlfriend, but I don't want to trouble her with all of this,, you guys are a big inspiration for me and a ton of people too 💖
Wow . I'm so thankful you made this video. In regards to your relationship with your mum and the fact that you said you had to come out to your mum a few times and it was exhausting, I resonate so much with that! My mum and i have a very rocky relationship, if not, very non existent. I also moved out due to the pressures I was facing because on one end, we'd be having these heated arguments about my sexuality and thinking she'd understand finally, to then going back to the whole marriage talk and honestly, it was super in- validating like you say. I think people can sometimes forget how BRAVE it is to still go out and make your own life and your own family after the pain of accepting that your own blood have such conditional love for you. I mean, coming out on its own is incredibly brave, but to have gone through the pain that you did, you deserve all the happiness in this world, and I honestly believe God is giving you that gradually! Thanks so much for this! You're such a genuine and kind hearted person and I'm so glad that you learned to make your own life. Be proud sister!!🙏👏👏
Hi Sufi ! I’ve been following you and Anjali for awhile now and I was hoping to see your coming-out story and now here it is ! I wanna thank you, from the bottom of my heart for being so strong and being able to share your experience as a gay Pakistani woman. I am so proud of you and how you handled everything. As a gay Pakistani man I’ve been looking for people like me, to talk to and to learn from. I felt so alone and so desperate that I needed to find someone like me, someone who understood what I was going through, just to not feel alone. I’ve been going through the same thing here. I am a 22 years old, Pakistani boy who was born and raised and who is living in France with his parents. I was outed during summer 2018 by my cousin who found out through social media that I was gay and that I had a boyfriend. It’s been very hard for me to handle this situation, as expected my family’s reaction wasn’t positive - not a bit positive - and just like you I had (and to this day I am still having) hours and hours of conversations trying to explain to my parents that this isn’t a choice. I’ve been struggling with depression, anxiety and loss of self confidence since I was outed. Nevertheless, I am staying hopeful because I have a loving and supportive boyfriend and because I have to stay optimistic if I want to get out of this situation and live the life I deserve to live, I believe. I think queer people of color like us, who have the privilege and freedom to speak up, to raise awareness and share our experiences safely should come forward. We need a plateform too, where we can have conversations and hopefully help and show young pakistanis for example that WE exist and we are here for each other, we’re not alone.
Thank you so much sufi I’m dealing same with my family and sharing your story helped me take few decisions and made me realise how community plays an important role thank you❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
I'm literally crying... I'm very scared.. how to tell my mom.. I have lost my dad.. when I was 6 years old.. I had faced many problems.. I'm feeling alone.. and now I want to live my life.. with my lesbian partner.. my mom will never except who I am.. and I will suicide.. please Sufi didi.. tell me.. how to tell my mom about my sexuality... Love from India.. Simran.. 😭😭😭😭
@@onedirectionxot596 and second i felt very baddd for what the person typed the only reason why i laughed was because someone made a joke to make the person feel better but they deleted the comment
love, love, love that you did not abandon your faith in God during the transition of coming out, it is so important to not lose faith!!!! love and prayers for you! thanks for sharing your personal experience
Hey Sufi I really appreciate you for sharing your experience I know it's not easy to stand out of the crowd listening to you speaking about your experience made me admire you. I really wish to meet you someday ❤️
You look like a female Zayne Malik and honestly I'm not mad at it. ❤ Being African and gay I can sort of relate of course not exactly to how it is being Muslim but its hard to tell my parents because I don't know how they will take it. It's really tough but at the same time I am who I am and there is no changing it. If they don't like it too badI'm not going to stop being me. 💯
@@Nelladrama633 Stop being discouraging. There are some families that are supportive, for instance look at this channel's video titled 'Parent of a LGBTQ+ Kid'. I am a Black American woman and attracted to women/lesbian, I personally have told my parents (through written letters) on National Coming Out Day in 2008 when I was age 23 going on 24. They were/have been supportive. And listen to this video at 8:00 mark which this individual describes you can build a new and chosen family. There are other individuals who have similar experiences, so as an individual isn't alone.
@@blackamericanlesbianprofes4357 i dont want a New family i love my family to Death but they will never understand at all. I rather being in my closet for life. But i'm happy for you 😊😊. And i dont want to discouraging. I speak french so maybe i havent use the right sentence. I just fell how she fell about telling her family. Mine will kill me or my Mum i dont want to thing about that. I was Always the perfect girl in my family. All my cousins look After me, and if they knew this 😱😱. Only my best friend knows this part of my life.
@@Nelladrama633 You can still love your biological family but as you grow up an adult, you will begin to build a new family and have a job/career, etc to rely on. And a family can be biological, or platonic friendships, romantic loves, pets/furbabies, etc.
Don't worry about what awaits you in the afterlife. Many years ago I had a near death experience. I was shown what incredible loving beauty awaits us when we pass thru the veil. Know that your Creator accepts you just as you are--just keep walking the Great White Path in your honesty, integrity, love and kindness and there will be no worries. BTW, in that NDE experience I was shown very clearly that we don't get to cross over one moment sooner than our Creator deems it so. Anyone contemplating suicide--please re-think the idea.
@Muhammed Dharani Why would you ask this? It makes no sense. In the afterlife we are all beautiful light beings. Not male, female, gay or straight. Only Love.
@Mashiyattt ...gay is prohibited in Islam and quran...If anyone disagree with quran , then they are no muslim anymore..Desire is not haram in islam if u act upon it that is haram...then you are not muslim..U can have gay desire , If u act upon it ..then u are not muslim..It is a test from allah
I love this so much. Thank you for this video, been waiting for it. Your existence is helpful in and of itself. Also, that last bit was so important for so many of us to hear. I feel like many Muslim communities still don't know that lesbians actually exist. That actual people are like that. As Pakistani's we've only seen transwomen and gays publicly so like our entire community lacks knowledge of queer people especially the older generation. Makes it hard to come out. Thank you again for this video Sufi! Love you both so so much.
Allah (SWT) has made the perfect creation for worshipping Him. Humans, by nature are flawed, experience desires, and make mistakes. Being LGBT, and feeling an attraction to the same gender is a test that the person is being put through. To resist the humanly desires, and instead, choose the path of righteousness is a very noble deed. By the way, in Islam, one is allowed to feel attraction to the same gender. Desires are a natural human trait. But to act on these desires is haram. One must marry the opposite gender or remain single if it is not possible to do this. Allah (SWT) knows your struggle, and you are rewarded immensely for resilience. To follow the path to Allah (SWT) is the only way to make it to heaven in the afterlife.
AHH im bi and muslim, i have a WONDERFUL AND AWESOME relationship with my parents, i love them so much and i wanna make them proud, but ik if i ever came out to them they would never accept me.
Wow, its mind blowing how this is helping me so much and I'm so glad i get to share this video with my girlfriend. Shes indian and shes scared to come out and i always tell her that I'm working towards everything for her to be able to feel free. I want us to be able to have a stable life for her to be able to come out and be with me, its pretty hard on her too and i know for a fact that things will get better and we just need to believe that Love always win no matter what kind of love.
This video always gives me so much confidence, being a part of LGBTQ community (les) in Pakistan, look forward to connect with more people like me, More Love to you sis 💝💝💝
.gay is prohibited in Islam and quran...If anyone disagree with quran , then they are no muslim anymore..Desire is not haram in islam if u act upon it that is haram...then you are not muslim..U can have gay desire , If u act upon it ..then u are not muslim..It is a test from allah.allah destoried a city because they act upon their haram desire like gay both bible and quran
I don’t know if you get this often but you look like a girl version of Zayn Malik and even have similar mannerisms from what I’ve seen in his interviews
Brenda Kamga haha thanks! i get that a lot :)
True. ❤
I see it tooooo!
Exactly
so trueehh 💯 yaaasss
I hope that your mom is gonna read all these lovely comments people left under your video telling you how inspiring you are... you’re a role model to many and I hope that your family can accept you one day ❤️
I’m sure she just did this for all the internet attention. If you are really supporting LGBTQ, why are you being so selfish?
@@IanSager23 You must be mad.
@@IanSager23 hey don't be a jerk
i know I'm kinda randomly asking but does anyone know of a good site to stream newly released series online ?
@Julio London flixportal xD
Sufi talks as if you’re sitting right in front of her I was so engaged.😂❤️
Omgg yaaass
Exactly omgg
Hello
Çem Sultan Why don’t you leave that for God to decide?
@Muhammed Dharani What do you want with that information?
I respect you for sharing your story. I have a daughter who was scared to come out and i accepted her fully... what parents need to understand is that it doesn't matter what ur children sexually is... they are still the person you gave birth to and raised... i don't understand why ppl would turn their back on their kid for religious reasons or place views on them in a negative light.. if u choose to focus on other things then to love ur child then they are the ones with the problem.. believing in God is based on love not hate ..if u willingly to choose to turn your back on ur kids then you can't call urself a religion person at all.. i had to explain to my daughter i love u no matter what nothing would ever change that.. it just saddens me to here that some parents who scared to understand or ask questions and accept their kids for who they are just self centered and choose to hide behind their religious background. I would like to say im am a American and I stand behind all of LGBTQ community love u guys for telling ur truth
Jeannine johnson you are an amazing mom 💖
@@sufiandanjali4670 thank you for that i believe in my kids making their own decisions and to make sure they love themselves cause i kno how the real world could be judgmental...
Wow amazing. My mom literally said she would disown me if I was homosexual on the day I was about to tell her when she was watching a movie and a same sex couple appeared in it. I live with my parents my stepdad is homophobic as well he says they just need to pray and thinks it’s a choice. I don’t want to be homeless so I never pursue anything with anyone I’m bisexual btw but i like girls more it’s like a 70/30% ratio I hope I can move out by the time I’m 23 (I’m 19 now and I’m in college but I have to pay for everything so I couldn’t stay in a dorm because it was too expensive and I don’t want debt) :( I’m honestly so depressed but I’m trying to remain optimistic I’ve heard that there are a couple of gay people in my family but they are not talked about and not accepted either I don’t even know who they are I just heard whispers from time to time it sucks. I don’t get how my mom says she’s okay with gay people as long as it’s not her children and I hate it.
it is not that. In Islam - we all believe everyone gets tests from God (Allah). Whether it's in a form of poverty in that are you still thankful and don't give up hope or being rich and how you manage that money and if you flaunt it or are you humble. In losing loved ones from death, or fall - out relationships, or like debt . It's tests from God to each individual and how they manage and how their relationship with God is. In Islam- being gay is test from God also. We understand that being gay is a struggle and that you may want to act on your feelings and you want to express the world you are and not have to hide. But in Islam that in itself is a form of a test. It is okay to have feelings for the same gender- but it's forbidden to act upon it. It's just as the same for Muslim girls who may have a crush on a guy - but you can't go up and tell them and be like hey let's date and I like you. It is a test from God on how you deal with it and whether you fall into this short term happiness compared to when you go to paradise and it's an eternity. Yes- it's kinda true with culture people tend to hate on Gays and we don't at all!! Just cause we disagree with your decision doesn't mean we hate you and you guys don't deserve anything, etc. I respect your decision and admire you if you struggle with your feelings being gay and how you choose to not come out and act on it. Because it's a test. Anyways- some parents do get blinded by that and it's wrong that you shouldn't kick them out/ and try to understand their struggle. Instead they should tell them that it's okay but that don't act on it because Inshallah, Allah will reward a better gift of eternal happiness in paradise. And some parent's turn back on their children because the children themselves have gone the wrong path. They refuse to listen and are blinded by short lived happiness. Hopefully you understand though that not all Muslim Parents do this to children if they are gay. We are told that we should help them get back to the correct path and that it's a test and that to not act upon them. - This is coming from a Muslim teen girl who has a bi bestfriend and Ik a Muslim guy who really struggles with his identity and being gay but he knows that it's a test and that it's wrong to come out and showcase it to the world. It would be like the people of Lut.
smileforever all you are doing is suppressing someone that is not a test because being gay doesn’t harm them. Your friends should live there truth. There is nothing wrong with falling in love with someone of the same gender. It is not the same as you said if a girl has a crush on a guy but she can’t act on it because he is taken because that right there is just normal but for being gay imagine you like someone of the same gender and they like you but you can’t act on it because of society. Imagine you love your family deeply but someone says that’s a sin and you can never bond with them. Also when you are a homosexual you will never be sexually attracted to the opposite gender unless you are bi but there are bi people who like one gender wayyy more than the other. it’s not always 50/50 so if a homosexual person suppressed their feelings and tried to live a “straight” path they would never find true happiness and feel miserable, I think it’s a terrible thing to act like something you are not. Life would already seem like hell. I get where you are coming from but you are not a homosexual yourself so you will never truly understand. I myself have suppressed my feelings for the same sex ever since I recognized that I liked them and I know that I will never be happy with a man and I’ve come to terms of with who I really am, For YEARS I desperately cried and prayed and tried to feel attracted to men so that I can live a traditional life but that’s just not what my heart wants. It is never good to suppress your own happiness except if you’re like a serial killer/ criminal lol but I understand where you come from but please do not say it’s wrong and let your friends be themselves if you love them. If judgement ever does come then homosexuals will face it, it won’t concern you but I know for a fact that god would never turn down a good person because of who they love :) if he did I rather just go to hell then because I rather spend my time on earth with someone I love then always be depressed based off of a “god” that no one knows for certain exists. I hope you just let it go and let gay people be free because that’s all we want. Do not tell anyone to suppress there feelings please I beg of you. I truly see what you are trying to do but trust me that doesn’t work it will only lead to them hating themselves and becoming extremely depressed and ashamed.
'Here I am, gay af.'
Speaking my language, sis!
@@jackwilliams5474 i think someone name starts with J is an asshole # no one cares 🤣🤣
@@jackwilliams5474 bruh no one cares about ur opinion too why are u telling them go get a life
go to hell
@@muslim_allah-is-the_greate1295 Hell or heaven don't exist.
@@pluviophile5996 you will see it trust me
Strongest person I know ♥️
Everybody needs a friend like you Sarowar
❤️❤️❤️
you kept such a brave face on throughout this video! i was just crying throughout LOL i'm indian and came out a year ago and I'm experiencing the same things you did with your family. a lot of emotional blackmail, not acknowledging, not talking about it. the worst is my brother who gets physical but hes cancelled anyway and has been for a long time :)
I’m nepali and bisexual. Afraid to come out because my family will never accept me
Awesome Aashmaa 🤘don’t be afraid dear
Just come out to ur parents if they don't accept that that s their matter. But if they see u how happy u r they will except udr
Sneha John My family hasn’t had even one LGBT member till now I’m 17 now I’ve known I was bisexual since I was 12 but I have been keeping it with myself
@@aashma600 my family too have no lgbtq member . Even I tried coming out expect some of my cousins and my aunts who have accepted my sexuality . But my parents they don't believe coz until this day I had no relationship
@@aashma600 I am Nepali too and I can totally understand u aashma.
As a desi heterosexual, I can't even begin to imagine what it's like to have nearly all your family scrutinize and condemn you for a natural part of your identity.
Really glad you've gained a solid following from fellow Desi queer friends and heterosexual allies (myself included), who respect/appreciate you for who you are.
Love from Pakistan
I'm so sorry you were outed through those viral photos.
This video means so much to me, thank you for being vulnerable enough to share it with us.
satan 's spawn what photos?
Visionary 707 they did a super cute photoshoot together showcasing their cultural clothing and culture in general and it went viral twitter.com/anj3llyfish/status/1156399884322238464?s=21
Sarah S tysm they were beautiful it’s sad she was outed but I understand how it went viral ahhh love is such a beautiful thing. I don’t know when I’ll be able to come out and find love :(
@@sarahs9404 her own girlfriend outed her??
@@Zaacats no they were both "out" just not to specific people. it went viral and started to spread in their communities and then to their families
im straight and i just want to let all the lgbtq community knows that, love who you love and other people opinion dont matter cause its your life and you desserve to be happy.
Thank you
i respect the lgbtq community as humans as persons but i don't support them remember if ur mom and dad my mom and dad all the moms and dads in the world were not straight u would'nt be here i would'nt be here those lgbtq ppl would'nt be here so why supporting such a thing their sex life also isn't healthy.....i'm like so tired of understanding with which logic u guys think and i don't see it ur blind u don't see the truth like ughh it's not logical we were born to be STRAIGHT and if anyone does not feel like straight please seek for help and try to overcome it please
Hayat Ch don’t support them if you don’t want to but that is not good reasoning. There are many infertile women who can’t have kids so not all straight people have kids anyways. Also, many straight people do not want to have kids. That would never happen logically. Also, for the lgbtq people who want to have kids but don’t want to have biological ones, it’s not a bad thing because there are many orphans who need to be adopted that won’t be taken in by some people who want biological children, but a preference for biological kids isn’t as big of a thing in lgbtq couples so we can get more kids off the street, not that lgbtq couples are obligated to have kids, but if they choose to, ive seen that they are more likely to adopt than straight couples so it would helps kids in the long run. Also, there’s something called being a surrogate, so even if all the moms and dads in the world were lgbtq, which would logically never happen, science would still be a thing so we would learn that reproduction works by a sperm fertilizing an egg so people would know that and have children through surrogates and reproduction would still be possible.
But we are muslims
@@amaltaher2717 exactly. I'm straight, and I don't want children.
Love how softly you talk, Sufi. Your spirituality is so palpable.
I think Sufi is just her name she was not a sufi mystic.
Hey :) it’s Emmanuel from high school, I wanted to tell you that, you are a great person and it was always nice talking to you. I wish the best for you and your channel, keep up the great videos and helping people!
The most courageous and strongest person I've ever seen♥️
It must not have been easy to share all this, especially with the way you were thrust into media glare after you went viral on Twitter, but thanks for doing so regardless. Hope your family comes around and you find peace with your chosen family.
Esha Sood It wasn’t easy, thank you for acknowledging that 💞 - Sufi
As much as I love the fact that many coming out stories on UA-cam are fairly accepting. I am so so glad that this video exists.
Because after watching this video I know that I'm truly not alone. Thank you Sufi. This video means so much to me as a South Asian Lesbian and many other members of the Desi LGBT community.
🌈🇵🇰🌈
Iqra sending you so much love my friend :’)
Can we be that blatant? No matter how one may feel.. it is still Haram and will be.. how we can deny that..
@@iqrabilal2370 Only God will judge in afterlife- tell this to anyone who asks
@@ayeshanaseer4980 England, u?
@Pin Apple if we die and realise that there was truth to religion then that's it there is no going back. Your dead and can't undo all the wrong you did in life because you rejected faith.. so it's a big deal.
as someone from a indian family I just want to say how brave it is for you guys to be so vulnerable with us on here and how much you are helping so many people going through the same experience. love your channel and you guys!! ♡
Hey Sapna. Did u come out yet to your family?
@@annshii6771 Hey! I am straight. This comment was not because I relate but just to show support 🙂
She’s so beautiful , i almost cried
Super strong you are sufi 🌹
I felt like I just watched the most relaxing video ever. Your voice is so soothing. Half of the things you been through I can just see the replay of myself when I went through it and it’s not over.
You’re helping so many people!! I’m so sorry you didn’t get the response or comfort that you deserved
It feels so relieving to know that there are other Muslims who go through this struggle and accepting yourself as a whole being a Muslim and accepting your sexuality which is a part of who you’re
You're never alone!
I am a Muslim homosexual from Nigeria and my dad is completely against homosexuality, I am still learning to accept this part of myself but I hope I eventually have the courage to come out like you.
❤
I hope your desires won't act out
@@Mikaeel10 well they do, but I control and myself as much as i can. As I said, I'm just learning to accept this.
@@Mikaeel10 your desire to write this stupid reply is way worse
Your coming out story speaks to me on so many levels. My parents still like to think I'm straight even though I've "come out" to them several times throughout the years. Thank you for sharing your story.
...gay is prohibited in Islam and quran...If anyone disagree with quran , then they are no muslim anymore..Desire is not haram in islam if u act upon it that is haram...then you are not muslim..U can have gay desire , If u act upon it ..then u are not muslim..It is a test from allah.allah destoried a city because they act upon their haram desire like gay both bible and quran
@@rushadmahmud1699 astaghfirullah you're not the One to declare such things about fellow humans.
@ggao001 I have had this issue with my evangelical family since they found out about me reverting to Islam 😅
I relate to this so much and I knew I would so I was scared to watch this video at first lol.
I want to talk to my conservative Bengali mom so badly even though our relationship isn’t the best. I have a range of different conversations with her, just hinting that I do not have any attraction to men. Sometimes they laugh when I say I’m not getting married, but other times they get so angry and tell me that this is not a “normal” thing. My parents have expressed disgust towards LGBT identities, so I haven’t been able to come out to them. Losing my family is one of my biggest fears but watching this video/ hearing your experience is so helpful. Thank you so much for sharing your personal, intimate experiences and thoughts.
Loss is probable but there’s just so much to gain when you accept yourself and identity. ❤️❤️
I m bisexual and I said it to my mom..but she doesn't supports me...she says that its a sickness and it would get recovered soon when I grow up and she says that I should get married with a man...but I don't think so that I m sick...😔😔 it feels very bad when your parents and family doesn't supports you and they always tease you😔😔😔😔it really feels very bad and I feel like the most lonely person in the world...😭
Hi sweetie, it sounds like narcissism. Would you like to speak on Instagram?
..gay is prohibited in Islam and quran...If anyone disagree with quran , then they are no muslim anymore..Desire is not haram in islam if u act upon it that is haram...then you are not muslim..U can have gay desire , If u act upon it ..then u are not muslim..It is a test from allah.allah destoried a city because they act upon their haram desire like gay both bible and quran..
You know you can marry a man being a bisexual.
thank you so much for this. im currently a 15 year old muslim living in a homophobic household and I've only come out as a lesbian to my online friends + few of my irls. im so scared of my family finding out about my sexuality... even if i blocked them through social media- this video really comforted me and i wish to find myself in peace soon while loving girls, like moving abroad when i start college. i seriously am trying to be a good muslim like praying 5 times a day or read the quran despite my sexuality ;; so this video really made me feel happy, again, thank you so much!
im in the same situation im a fifteen non-binary bisexual living in a homophobic household and country and i feel like ill never come out of fear of loosing my family and i want to tell you that i support you and accept you, you matter you will be happy you will live a free life don’t listen to the hateful comments you have my upmost respect and support !
@@maydayjanette226 do u know about gelman ??
"community is so important." amen
I am also from a Sunni Muslim household but from India and I know how brave it was of you to take the steps you did. I wanna thank you so so so so much for finally doing this video, I had been waiting for it for so long because I really am confuse about my relationship with Allah just because I am gay but today the things you said during the end of the videos, gave me a new hope and happiness.
I am not saying that now I will be completely okay with being gay and accepting myself and not questioning my relationship with my maker but now atleast every time I will fluctuate, I will come here and watch this to feel better.
Thank you so much. I really appreciate this video and you and I am really sorry that you guys got outed so badly and faced so many bad texts from relatives, I hope you are feeling better now.
Once again, thank you from your chosen family.
And wailekum Assalam
Allah (SWT) has made the perfect creation for worshipping Him. Humans, by nature are flawed, experience desires, and make mistakes. Being LGBT, and feeling an attraction to the same gender is a test that the person is being put through. To resist the humanly desires, and instead, choose the path of righteousness is a very noble deed. By the way, in Islam, one is allowed to feel attraction to the same gender. Desires are a natural human trait. But to act on these desires is haram. One must marry the opposite gender or remain single if it is not possible to do this. Allah (SWT) knows your struggle, and you are rewarded immensely for resilience. To follow the path to Allah (SWT) is the only way to make it to heaven in the afterlife.
@@nazbuddeee8989 mashallah, may Allah bless you brother for inviting people to the truth...
@@nazbuddeee8989 🤢🤮
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we're the same i'm also a muslim and sunni, but I don't have the courage the same as urs to come out. and the fact that i'm already 21 damn you don't know how hard it is. 😩
Thank you for sharing your story. It’s so amazing that you are able to stay composed and strong throughout the whole thing - I was ugly crying all the way. Growing up Muslim and Southeast Asian, it’s so hard for me to accept who I really am and it’s taken a lot for me to get to where I am now. Wishing love for you and Anjali all the way!
Sufi, I know many people hv said this but I feel I have to say it again. What you and anjali are doing by taking the time to post videos on UA-cam is amazing. Don't ever doubt the magnitude of the impact you hv. These videos of yours are being watched by so many of us esp of Asian descent and it just resonates and we connect with you. There is a dearth of representation by gay South asians and it is just so comforting and inspiring to see the both of you owning yourselves. I live on the opposite end of the world so I may never hv the chance to meet you but know that you hv impacted my life in a way you could never comprehend. So thank you. Lots of love to you and anjali.
So I guess Anjali will be doing the next one solo...?
well being a muslim gay I can feel you.
It holds everything like religious part, family, friends, society.
you overcome those hardle.
am so happy for you.
I wish I could hold my love's hand and walk through the path without any fear to be exposed.
U should be more worried about where you'll end up
Astaghfirullah
I hope that day will come for u bro. But idk when
your gonna be joining her in hell
Please recite surah qayamah
you’re so strong! we’re proud of you 🌸🌸
hugs from brazil!
I’m desi, bi, and so afraid to come out because I know my family won’t accept me. Thank you for this, it helps to ease some tension about it.
ua-cam.com/video/GtyZWbpVToo/v-deo.html.
Sufi you're a queen for real and a friggin strongest person. Ily!❤
these comments are doing a great job of giving the perfect impression of islam
Ok, you're amazing, thank you for sharing. ❤️
I really hope your mother will come around.
I can't even imagine not being close to my daughter, that would be awful. My love for her is unconditional. I have actually been preparing myself mentally the last years in case she chooses to come out. Which I kinda suspect she will, eventually...
I have never seen a description for visually impaired people. That's so nice of you guys
I'm 17, Pakistani (living in Pakistan) , Muslim and I like girls. I'm afraid of my parents ever finding out cause I don't know if they'd ever accept me. I came out to my siblings when I was 13 and one of them wasn't very supportive but she thankfully came around and is my biggest supporter. although I'm still in the closet, hearing stories like this, especially this, makes me feel so incredibly happy cause it makes me feel so accepted?? and not alone?? thank you so much for this :)) I'm so glad you found your happiness
Sending u love and i hope u will remain safe
Don't be a sinner you can't be gay and a Muslim
@@saniaarain5156 omg youre so right, i can just feel the gayness leaving my body WOW😮😮 thank you, you really saved my life😭😭
Allah (SWT) has made the perfect creation for worshipping Him. Humans, by nature are flawed, experience desires, and make mistakes. Being LGBT, and feeling an attraction to the same gender is a test that the person is being put through. To resist the humanly desires, and instead, choose the path of righteousness is a very noble deed. By the way, in Islam, one is allowed to feel attraction to the same gender. Desires are a natural human trait. But to act on these desires is haram. One must marry the opposite gender or remain single if it is not possible to do this. Allah (SWT) knows your struggle, and you are rewarded immensely for resilience. To follow the path to Allah (SWT) is the only way to make it to heaven in the afterlife.
@@first_day_of_samar4358 OK then leave Islam and go to hell or wherever u want
What really makes me respect and salute you, is that you never leave your religion and never forget ur Prayer and your Maker. I've been with a girl who is 17 years older than me for almost 4 years, and one thing makes me love her so much is that she make me closer to my maker and help me to became a better Muslim, despite of being gay couple we never forget our Prayers and our Maker.
How were you able to meet another LGBT Muslim?
@@anon20000 it's fairly easy with social media now. There's a lot of groups for LGBTQ Muslims and other things that help connect u with them.
I am really happy for you two! I am a Muslim as well and all I just feel scared what if I am not able to connect with Allah anymore
Wait sufi still prays namaz and is a practicing Muslim ?
Your partner may be advising you and reminding you to pray but the fact still remains that it is forbidden in islam.
I yelled out, "Good for you!" when you mentioned your relationship to God ♡ You have a strong sense of self and I'm happy to see self-love when expressing yourself. Lovely! 🥰
I’ve been waiting for long to see Muslims / Pocs posting coming out stories with rather bad outcomes just to assure me that even if they react badly, it’s still gonna be okay. It got to the point where I ended up uploading my own coming out video where I go on detail how horrible my family reacted but still try to point out that it gets better. You find your own family. Watching your video warmed my heart and I just hope that all of us will keep encouraging each other so that the next generation has it much easier ❤️ you‘re amazing and I’m proud of you ❤️
You have no idea what this means to Muslims living in Pakistan. So much love and power to you. Thank you, thank you for the vulnerability.
Hi Maryam aftab
I love u u u i like u u really meet me 💏💑😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
Yeah well, SHE doesn't live in Pakistan be more careful over there.
One would wonder why EVERY GAY MUSLIM person wouldn't stand with Israel. Only Western Muslim gays don't understand how important it is!
...gay is prohibited in Islam and quran...If anyone disagree with quran , then they are no muslim anymore..Desire is not haram in islam if u act upon it that is haram...then you are not muslim..U can have gay desire , If u act upon it ..then u are not muslim..It is a test from allah.allah destoried a city because they act upon their haram desire like gay both bible and quran
I really hope your Ma and family comes around. InshaAllah, they will. You're very strong, girl. Keep rocking and keep being you.
xoxo
sabi
@Mashiyattt ...gay is prohibited in Islam and quran...If anyone disagree with quran , then they are no muslim anymore..Desire is not haram in islam if u act upon it that is haram...then you are not muslim..U can have gay desire , If u act upon it ..then u are not muslim..It is a test from allah
Shame on you
Sufi, your soul is unbelievably beautiful. I can't even imagine what going through your experience would be like, yet the fact that you so openly spread your light and your story just to possibly help so many others means so much to so many people, including me. Thank you. You truly embody what it means to be a Sufi.
Srijana Smith oh gosh 🥺 this comment made me cry
Yes narcissism
I'm sobbing like a bi*tch. You guys are helping so many of us without even knowing. I've so much love for the both of you. PARENTS.
im pakistani and lesbian and honestly i really appreciate you making this video. thank you.
Friends?
@@nomisatti1650 ??
its very difficult to be a lesbian in pakistan & in muslim family i'm still figuring out what can i do 💔
Laanat
@@dieticianAfrashame on you
i recommend reading “We’ve always been here: a queer muslim memoir” by Samra Habib!
i’ve read it!
@@sufiandanjali4670shame on you nosane maro gi to kya jwab do gi qabar mai aik to kud burai mai lagi ho dosra logo ko b batati ho tum jo marzi karo apna name muslim wala na use karo qoom lot pair azab daik lo agar muslim oti tum to quran mujeed mai kya lilkha hai is k bary mai par laiti jaum k ag mai jalo tum yai dua hai hamri
You speak so clearly about such difficult things. You seem like a very strong person, I'm glad you have some support though.
Ah this makes me really feel like I’m not alone because I knew I was lesbian since 11 and four years later it still haunts me knowing my Muslim family won’t call me their daughter if I come out to them. I suffer with depression because of this and I can’t even open up to them about it so I’m I’ll admit I’m struggling atm but thanks so much for sharing this you’ve just made my day🥰
Same
I'm so sorry but times will definitely change k...everything will be fine with time
...gay is prohibited in Islam and quran...If anyone disagree with quran , then they are no muslim anymore..Desire is not haram in islam if u act upon it that is haram...then you are not muslim..U can have gay desire , If u act upon it ..then u are not muslim..It is a test from allah
I feel the same
Most of the lesbian and gay men have become ex muslim . There are groups that have meetings and get together so you could go to one of them !!. In Canada and USA they are open about being Muslim and gay . In the UK it is kept more hush hush because the majority of people are a bit backward in their thought.. But there are lesbian Muslim women in the UK who are now coming out !!! But you need to be prepared for the backlash which will not be very nice from the religion of peace !!!
Sunni Muslim Pakistani heterosexual ally here sending all of my love and support ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
you can just say muslim
@@MuhammadImran-ln4fz ew creep
@@MuhammadImran-ln4fz dude stop
@@MuhammadImran-ln4fz what
@@MuhammadImran-ln4fz What's your insta
I’m so happy seeing how positive the comment section❤️
I am 13 yrs old right now and am struggling to come out as Bisexual to my strict Muslim father and my not as strict mother and my strict sister. And also the thought that they might be right and I'm doing something haram and just the thought of going to hell. this video has definitely helped and I can resonate with it a lot, so thank you so much for everything ❤❤
honestly if my daughter turned out gay, i would be so disappointed and regret life choices
@@unixrel419 Why?
@@unixrel419 then dont have kids if you wont support and love them unconditionally. you will wonder why they wont talk to you once they move out!
Its just sad to see how many children are falling for this. May God protect the youth
@@mrnorthz9373 you mean simply realizing their sexuality?
I have so much respect for you. You are insanely brave. My immediate family is rather liberally oriented and even so it was fucking hard to come out to them. I cannot imagine how hard this must have been / still is for you. You rock 💓
hey sending love from india ......ur giving us hope and we are so grateful
You are so brave, strong and inspiring for a lot of people around the world. Coming out is an everyday challenge because every new person we met, it's like a new coming out... But family is such a scary thing so congrats on every achievements you made. Lots of love from France
It's not easy for Muslim pakistanis, it's a blessing u born or grew outside Pakistan , at least u have a solid base , u don't have to plan for going n living outside ur country first , what u have rt now is nothing less than a treasure , always always value it, there r so many ppl out there who wish to have something similar like u have, they tried too but never get their ,result either they wandering around here n there or getting married to opposite sex n rest u know , just give sadqa khairat be humble n stable ur self financially, so much love , respect , dua pyar for both of you, stay strong, stay blessed.....love from Pakistan
You like girls?
Sadqa Khairat ? Dua ? Lol these things are for Good Deeds not for anti Islam activities like homosexuality
You are right
In India homosexuality and homosexual marriage is legally.
This why you guys should have stayed part of India since it's a pluralistic society.
Mad respect Queen, Keep flourishing❤🙌
.gay is prohibited in Islam and quran...If anyone disagree with quran , then they are no muslim anymore..Desire is not haram in islam if u act upon it that is haram...then you are not muslim..U can have gay desire , If u act upon it ..then u are not muslim..It is a test from allah.allah destoried a city because they act upon their haram desire like gay both bible and quran
Representation is so meaningful and important, thank you for sharing your story. I am forever grateful to you and the courage you give me
AriWilson It makes me so happy that I can do that for you 💖
@@sufiandanjali4670 you should be arrested
Let’s see what we can do
Wait and see
@@sufiandanjali4670 goffy ass alien figure. Father less figure haram Astagfirulla get some help. You aint following islam just following shaytan doing public sin without any shame. Revert back your mistake or you will be in hell fire leave this gay stuff or your religion
I feel like crying, thank you so much for sharing!!!!! you make me feel less alone
U know wht ? I really wanna hug u 🥺
When you said Nepalis, Idk may be I wasnt expecting it - I felt something inside. :)
Love from Nepal
Samee😬😂
Hiii
Well then I'm a Nepali too and I didn't expect it as well😅😂
I love you too both😍❤️
Hit me up on my ig @ _vishaka_09 maybe I get a chance jk 😂
I really appreciate and admire that you talked about the other side of going viral. when the primary visible result is an outpouring of love (which is amazing), it is honest and brave to talk about how your extended family also became aware of your sexuality without your consent. I can only imagine how draining it's been to navigate that process, while still responding to your growing community on social media with love and patience. thank you for sharing your story, and I hope that every day becomes a little easier.
Although I’m straight but this video of you coming out to your parents & people in general gave me so much positivity. ✨ Way to go, you guys! I’m sure your family would come around. #LoveIsLove ♥️
this video :') is so important :') SO much love from KSA
I started thinking recently about telling my mom, we have a really good relationship, but even with that the idea that she'd understand or accept is kinda the craziest idea that I could have?? even though my mom is not all that close minded but STILL we're in the middle east here and there are bases that God knows how rooted they are in our brains
I'm 17 and I'm having a hard time of finding what I want but I guess your video just gave me the courage of coming out and what I want so thank you so much Sufi!
I’m 16, an Indian Muslim, I came out to my Mom last month. she was pretty shocked at first , then she said that she loves me but I have to move out by 20..she’ll provide me with money to get a start , but after that she doesn’t want me to be in connection with the family.. so I’m pretty fucked up.😑
I'm sorry that happened to u but at least she will still be connected to u. Don't worry u are amazing and people who don't accept u for who u are don't deserve u. Just live ur life and be happy ❤️
I'm 17, Indian, and this year I came out to my parents, I came out because I wanted to live my life the way I want, by being myself and I could not pretend to like men anymore, it was exhausting, so when I came out they were pretty chill about it, but I guess that would not be the cause for other people are in the lgbtqa+ community, so what I have to say is that, get a good education, follow your passion, invest your time doing what you find best for you, it might take a long while to figure it out but once you start earning money, you can then live in your own house, where you can live your life with your partner ❤️❤️❤️
Hey what do you do for your survival?
Im new here, send hug’s & love from Philippines 😘💖♥️🇵🇭
my dad is a very sunni bengali immigrant, and my mom is white & old fashioned (idk how they got together but),, growing up as a mixed muslim was always hard since you could feel people judging you especially at the masjid & everything,, but as a lesbian muslim, I appreciate yall's channel so so much :(( i dont want to be disowned but I still want to keep in touch with my religion and seeing this really helped me feel a lot better, thank you!! 💖💖
Im so so grateful for my girlfriend, but I don't want to trouble her with all of this,, you guys are a big inspiration for me and a ton of people too 💖
@@overlaur Great 👍🏻
there is no such thing as ‘lesbian muslim’ either ur muslim or not
Even satan is confused.
Lesbians Muslim? Congratulations you are part of tribe of prophet lut who was punished by Allah...
Wow . I'm so thankful you made this video. In regards to your relationship with your mum and the fact that you said you had to come out to your mum a few times and it was exhausting, I resonate so much with that! My mum and i have a very rocky relationship, if not, very non existent. I also moved out due to the pressures I was facing because on one end, we'd be having these heated arguments about my sexuality and thinking she'd understand finally, to then going back to the whole marriage talk and honestly, it was super in- validating like you say. I think people can sometimes forget how BRAVE it is to still go out and make your own life and your own family after the pain of accepting that your own blood have such conditional love for you. I mean, coming out on its own is incredibly brave, but to have gone through the pain that you did, you deserve all the happiness in this world, and I honestly believe God is giving you that gradually! Thanks so much for this! You're such a genuine and kind hearted person and I'm so glad that you learned to make your own life. Be proud sister!!🙏👏👏
Hi Sufi ! I’ve been following you and Anjali for awhile now and I was hoping to see your coming-out story and now here it is ! I wanna thank you, from the bottom of my heart for being so strong and being able to share your experience as a gay Pakistani woman. I am so proud of you and how you handled everything.
As a gay Pakistani man I’ve been looking for people like me, to talk to and to learn from. I felt so alone and so desperate that I needed to find someone like me, someone who understood what I was going through, just to not feel alone.
I’ve been going through the same thing here. I am a 22 years old, Pakistani boy who was born and raised and who is living in France with his parents. I was outed during summer 2018 by my cousin who found out through social media that I was gay and that I had a boyfriend. It’s been very hard for me to handle this situation, as expected my family’s reaction wasn’t positive - not a bit positive - and just like you I had (and to this day I am still having) hours and hours of conversations trying to explain to my parents that this isn’t a choice. I’ve been struggling with depression, anxiety and loss of self confidence since I was outed. Nevertheless, I am staying hopeful because I have a loving and supportive boyfriend and because I have to stay optimistic if I want to get out of this situation and live the life I deserve to live, I believe.
I think queer people of color like us, who have the privilege and freedom to speak up, to raise awareness and share our experiences safely should come forward. We need a plateform too, where we can have conversations and hopefully help and show young pakistanis for example that WE exist and we are here for each other, we’re not alone.
Haider Munir sending you so much love Haider!
"color like us" what does that mean?
Thank you so much sufi I’m dealing same with my family and sharing your story helped me take few decisions and made me realise how community plays an important role thank you❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
Nice of you mention Bengalis. Love from Bangladesh :)
Daanggg.... It's nice seeing someone from my country being nice to the community :) much love 💕
you’re so brave and thank you i feel validated i needed this
I'm literally crying... I'm very scared.. how to tell my mom.. I have lost my dad.. when I was 6 years old.. I had faced many problems.. I'm feeling alone.. and now I want to live my life.. with my lesbian partner.. my mom will never except who I am.. and I will suicide.. please Sufi didi.. tell me.. how to tell my mom about my sexuality... Love from India..
Simran.. 😭😭😭😭
i feel bad for laughing
@@bratbarbie444 excuse me , thats so immature of u , coming out is very hard for some ppl , are straight? cause ur acting like one
@@onedirectionxot596 first off im not straight
@@onedirectionxot596 and second i felt very baddd for what the person typed the only reason why i laughed was because someone made a joke to make the person feel better but they deleted the comment
@@bratbarbie444 well it alright , but delete the reply she might feel bad
love, love, love that you did not abandon your faith in God during the transition of coming out, it is so important to not lose faith!!!! love and prayers for you! thanks for sharing your personal experience
Allah isn't real
I feel so happy to watch such videos because I have seen my friends struggling inside themselves hiding their identity.. more power to you girl ☺️💘
Hey Sufi I really appreciate you for sharing your experience I know it's not easy to stand out of the crowd listening to you speaking about your experience made me admire you. I really wish to meet you someday ❤️
Waiting to hear anjali story too . Lots of love ❤
You are brave and beautiful ! So proud of you for living your truth ♥️🌈
You're so brave and strong Sufi, I'm a fan
thank you sufi, i really needed this :’)
YESS girl! You are so brave and so strong, and thank you for sharing. I know I can relate ❤️
Ys
You look like a female Zayne Malik and honestly I'm not mad at it. ❤
Being African and gay I can sort of relate of course not exactly to how it is being Muslim but its hard to tell my parents because I don't know how they will take it. It's really tough but at the same time I am who I am and there is no changing it. If they don't like it too badI'm not going to stop being me. 💯
I think so too!!! She definitely resembles Zayn malik
They will kill u for sure i Can even imagine this. I dont want my Mum to died cause of me
@@Nelladrama633 Stop being discouraging. There are some families that are supportive, for instance look at this channel's video titled 'Parent of a LGBTQ+ Kid'.
I am a Black American woman and attracted to women/lesbian, I personally have told my parents (through written letters) on National Coming Out Day in 2008 when I was age 23 going on 24. They were/have been supportive.
And listen to this video at 8:00 mark which this individual describes you can build a new and chosen family. There are other individuals who have similar experiences, so as an individual isn't alone.
@@blackamericanlesbianprofes4357 i dont want a New family i love my family to Death but they will never understand at all. I rather being in my closet for life. But i'm happy for you 😊😊. And i dont want to discouraging. I speak french so maybe i havent use the right sentence. I just fell how she fell about telling her family. Mine will kill me or my Mum i dont want to thing about that. I was Always the perfect girl in my family. All my cousins look After me, and if they knew this 😱😱.
Only my best friend knows this part of my life.
@@Nelladrama633 You can still love your biological family but as you grow up an adult, you will begin to build a new family and have a job/career, etc to rely on. And a family can be biological, or platonic friendships, romantic loves, pets/furbabies, etc.
Just couldn’t stop smiling all along♥️ planning to come out to my parents soon just hoping it goes well😅
Unspoken Dreams Good luck my friend ❤️
hope it goes wel!l!
How did it go?
Don't skip the ad for this guys .. please 🎈
Don't worry about what awaits you in the afterlife. Many years ago I had a near death experience. I was shown what incredible loving beauty awaits us when we pass thru the veil. Know that your Creator accepts you just as you are--just keep walking the Great White Path in your honesty, integrity, love and kindness and there will be no worries. BTW, in that NDE experience I was shown very clearly that we don't get to cross over one moment sooner than our Creator deems it so. Anyone contemplating suicide--please re-think the idea.
Wow!!
@Muhammed Dharani Why would you ask this? It makes no sense. In the afterlife we are all beautiful light beings. Not male, female, gay or straight. Only Love.
I love you so so much and I’m always by your side no matter what. You’ve always been my favorite cousin and nothing will ever change it moti chowi😘
Palwashi shay hehe love u
@Mashiyattt ...gay is prohibited in Islam and quran...If anyone disagree with quran , then they are no muslim anymore..Desire is not haram in islam if u act upon it that is haram...then you are not muslim..U can have gay desire , If u act upon it ..then u are not muslim..It is a test from allah
Maybe you've lost lots of people, but you haven't lost yourself, and that's a big win.
I love this so much. Thank you for this video, been waiting for it. Your existence is helpful in and of itself. Also, that last bit was so important for so many of us to hear. I feel like many Muslim communities still don't know that lesbians actually exist. That actual people are like that. As Pakistani's we've only seen transwomen and gays publicly so like our entire community lacks knowledge of queer people especially the older generation. Makes it hard to come out. Thank you again for this video Sufi! Love you both so so much.
I’ve had this same thought process over the years and I'm content with any representation I can bring to that!
Exactly!💯
Allah (SWT) has made the perfect creation for worshipping Him. Humans, by nature are flawed, experience desires, and make mistakes. Being LGBT, and feeling an attraction to the same gender is a test that the person is being put through. To resist the humanly desires, and instead, choose the path of righteousness is a very noble deed. By the way, in Islam, one is allowed to feel attraction to the same gender. Desires are a natural human trait. But to act on these desires is haram. One must marry the opposite gender or remain single if it is not possible to do this. Allah (SWT) knows your struggle, and you are rewarded immensely for resilience. To follow the path to Allah (SWT) is the only way to make it to heaven in the afterlife.
I can just listen to Sufi for my whole entire life🥺😍 how is she so adorable
Im so glad that people get to be who they are and share their coming out stories
AHH im bi and muslim, i have a WONDERFUL AND AWESOME relationship with my parents, i love them so much and i wanna make them proud, but ik if i ever came out to them they would never accept me.
It's ok👍🏻
@@Random-pg2kl no one is born a certain sexuality and they didnt say they were
well obviously not. Just saying that they will go to hell and be blamed if they just sit and accept
@@crimson4977 what a hateful and rude thing to say.
Wow, its mind blowing how this is helping me so much and I'm so glad i get to share this video with my girlfriend. Shes indian and shes scared to come out and i always tell her that I'm working towards everything for her to be able to feel free. I want us to be able to have a stable life for her to be able to come out and be with me, its pretty hard on her too and i know for a fact that things will get better and we just need to believe that Love always win no matter what kind of love.
The one video I cried watching today❤️
Your voice is so soothing and calming. I love it!
You are a strong person❤ All the Love And Support from Karnataka, India❣❣ Love you😘😘🙏
In karnataka if v cm out, Indian momz strong weapons ( specifically chappals) would fall on us ! ;)
@@user-wh6zu1dr7n yuppp
yall are so articulate and eloquent....good luck....
This video always gives me so much confidence, being a part of LGBTQ community (les) in Pakistan, look forward to connect with more people like me, More Love to you sis 💝💝💝
.gay is prohibited in Islam and quran...If anyone disagree with quran , then they are no muslim anymore..Desire is not haram in islam if u act upon it that is haram...then you are not muslim..U can have gay desire , If u act upon it ..then u are not muslim..It is a test from allah.allah destoried a city because they act upon their haram desire like gay both bible and quran