Why I Am Not Getting Married? || Shaadi Ka Laddu || RR VIDEOS

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  • @vanshikabisht522
    @vanshikabisht522 2 роки тому +1484

    I m 41 and single . I m a govt. employee . I m taking care of my parents . My parents always supported my decision of being single . I m very happy in my life . So I donot think there is anything wrong in being single.

    • @MrinalM.
      @MrinalM. 2 роки тому +87

      I hope this happiness remains after your parents are no more with you which will eventually happen. Nobody is eternal living being on this earth. When you will be all alone in house. Nobody to talk and share your happiness and sorrow then you may think differently. Better think right now.

    • @CGAMVV
      @CGAMVV 2 роки тому +16

      @@MrinalM. : बहुत सही कहा आपने

    • @nikitathapa6543
      @nikitathapa6543 2 роки тому +34

      U r right i ma also single 😊and i m happyyyyyy

    • @ArtistsNook
      @ArtistsNook 2 роки тому +136

      @@MrinalM. and what's the guarantee that her spouse will be with her forever? Like you said, " Nobody is eternal living being. " Building a strong support group is important whether you are married or single.

    • @ArtistsNook
      @ArtistsNook 2 роки тому +70

      @@MrinalM. and mannnn... You are so negative aap apne har comment mein sirf marne ki baatein karte ho... Maine aapka pichhla comment bhi dekha where u said mamaji mar jayenge n all that... Ufff... Raise your vibrations dude... You don't wanna die as a low vibe being and become a ghost.

  • @vinayakpai1311
    @vinayakpai1311 2 роки тому +112

    So relatable... I am 32 single... And I am happy in my life being single as i m also finding a frnd , a campaign who accept me they way i am and vice verse and not only by my salary or my house size or i staying with my parents.... I never choose to stay single... Society need to change... We single are better that those fake marriage or married people now fighting for divorce...
    I am clear i can't be fake and marry anyone just i m ageing... A connection is required...

    • @jyotimasih1738
      @jyotimasih1738 2 роки тому +5

      Absolutely correct mam. Pata nai log kab samjege. Even jab apko type kar rahi hu tab bi frustrated hu. Partner jaroori hai par sahi partner ho.

    • @Motivationhub527
      @Motivationhub527 2 роки тому

      Same here

    • @blissofGuruji
      @blissofGuruji 2 роки тому

      So right Vinayak...connection is important...

    • @latabhatkar7910
      @latabhatkar7910 2 роки тому

      Same the way i am thinking... if marriage is only torcherment ..then its better to be single

    • @vandanaprajapati4131
      @vandanaprajapati4131 2 роки тому

      wawo nice thinking...

  • @lovelygautam4577
    @lovelygautam4577 2 роки тому +386

    I totally agreed with you. Marriage is not everything there are many thing after marriage that women have to pay for that
    Whether it is freedom, respect time. Really touched my heart what you shared. Lots of love from Jharkhand ❤️❤️

    • @Comedynews0035
      @Comedynews0035 2 роки тому +1

      Right bole rahe ho aap

    • @komalmasand566
      @komalmasand566 2 роки тому +2

      I am more into responsibility to take care of my parents & brother, sister, I have everything, stable in my life, I am single I also afraid to get married bcoz after marriage I will not able to take care of my own family, ...

  • @cppewdistinctthinking530
    @cppewdistinctthinking530 2 роки тому +23

    Yes, u r correct . Shadi is blessing for boys but sacrifice for girls.self esteem is ruined by in-laws .

  • @fathuhashim264
    @fathuhashim264 2 роки тому +117

    Your thoughts on marriage are so relatable Ratan! Specially when you said “ y are singles judged as being on the wrong side?!” That’s the problem most of us face today, the peer pressure is the most challenging thing to face rather than being single! Speaking for myself am single/ independent financially and crossed that “ technical marriageable age” for various reasons in my life but am still judged and it’s still a topic of discussion and nobody has ever asked me how I feel being judged for no real fault! Thanks for sharing your thoughts, very relatable..

    • @nehamishra7974
      @nehamishra7974 2 роки тому +3

      This peer pressure will never stop first it will be for marriage, then for baby, then for baby boy and then children's marriage .and list goes on and on ...even if you are contained and happy in your life ,people will try to that u feel sad about your own life ,they will make u feel that u have something to be sad about but not once they will peek in there own life to make things better..

    • @aditisangwan5967
      @aditisangwan5967 2 роки тому

      X CD x

    • @Selflove997
      @Selflove997 2 роки тому

      True

  • @varshadubey817
    @varshadubey817 2 роки тому +36

    Hi ,Ratan ma'am I am varsha Dubey from Ujjain MP .I am watching your vlogs but I didn't comment on any vlog .But now I thought that today I have to comment ,I thought that u know every thing about marriage .Marrige bhagwan ka banaya hua ek bhot hi sunder rishta hota he jo phle se decided he .Don't think too much what will happen after marriage,Jo hoga accha hi hoga kyoki aap bhi bhot acchi ho . basically you want to do marriage but you r nervous whether it will go right or wrong .Bhagwan pr vishwas rkho aur kr lo marriage .It is very beautiful .Apne bacche apne hi hote he. Social media to bus ek entertainment he.I think u understand this .Love u so much 😘😘😘😘😘

  • @PS-cl3jt
    @PS-cl3jt 2 роки тому +45

    You are not mad..you are just different. I have similar questions in my mind too, like what is permanent in life and all the questions you said about life and this world... Finally I get to know someone like me!

  • @kss2066
    @kss2066 2 роки тому +60

    Being single is the happiest times of an individual's life. Nothing wrong in being single or married each has its' own flavors.

    • @gracie99999
      @gracie99999 2 роки тому

      like right now this chick is alll overt me [for real real no 🧢] but i ain’t haven it [but alittle 😳💯]

  • @kaurkaur5744
    @kaurkaur5744 2 роки тому +18

    No Ratan there is nothing wrong with you , nowadays alot of people think like this and everything you said made so much sense. Bless you

  • @ananyapant3935
    @ananyapant3935 2 роки тому +100

    This video was like a msg from divine to me.. I have my exams but also have peer pressure of getting married. And sometimes becoz of that pressure I m ready to give up on my dreams and get married to anyone.. I feel so scared of being alone if I will keep rejecting ppl.. But after seeing this video I m feeling so relaxed.. Thank you ratan di

    • @ScienceJourney-v9z
      @ScienceJourney-v9z 2 роки тому +5

      U will remain hanged in middle of something. Dont get wrong inspiration from her. This is not right for human society. Dont be selfish. Be a citizen. U r not alone in this world. First educate urself for every point of marriage and it's advantages , disadvantages to the self and society. then compare all the points based on rational weightage given to all points. Eise hi kisi ko dekh k decision lena theek nahi . Apni biddhi bhi to lagao .

    • @krishnakidiwani7571
      @krishnakidiwani7571 2 роки тому

      Don't give up your dreams and career.....And if possible,then do meditation daily to concentrate on your Career.

    • @Raveena9-z1z
      @Raveena9-z1z 5 місяців тому

      You spoke out my heart Ananya! Not sure what to do... Currently am ready to settle for anyone... Leaving aside my dreams and values... Feeling of being alone through haunts me,.. if someone can guide please help

    • @soumili2860
      @soumili2860 2 місяці тому

      ​@@ScienceJourney-v9zOh bhaiii ohhh khud itna shaadi karna hai toh karlo Bhai aur agar already ho chuki hai zyada gyaan Matt pelo...gajab ch**ya log bhare pade hai

    • @ScienceJourney-v9z
      @ScienceJourney-v9z 2 місяці тому

      @@soumili2860 do u want to debate on this ?

  • @ArtistsNook
    @ArtistsNook 2 роки тому +158

    I see myself in you. You are speaking exactly as I think. I also don't want to be homebound.... I want to live life🦋🦋

    • @godlover214
      @godlover214 2 роки тому +4

      m bhi yahi sochti hu

    • @rupikashukla
      @rupikashukla 2 роки тому +4

      Me too

    • @shwetasangari7142
      @shwetasangari7142 2 роки тому +3

      Mai bhi

    • @suchetamitra9453
      @suchetamitra9453 2 роки тому +2

      Same

    • @sankalpsingh5619
      @sankalpsingh5619 2 роки тому +1

      Marriage don't mean to be homebound the only thing is u can't work full time after marriage
      Nowadays women are doing both exploring life and also managing family which is good but they fail to achieve that because they don't have time left for the other thing that's why full time work may not be possible there should be a balance of everything in life and men and women together gives a meaning to life
      But if someone wants to explore more he/she is free and should not marry out of compulsion

  • @somashrivastava480
    @somashrivastava480 2 роки тому +44

    Woww what a way of explanation... Being a married and happy in marriage life still i can say whatever u are saying is true... After marriage ur life is not in your control and not able to witness the actual beauti of life... U are leading dream life.,. Go girl❤️

    • @gracie99999
      @gracie99999 2 роки тому

      yup, live your life and not anothers idea of life..you ask ten people a question and you will get ten different responses, leading you more confused then the start!
      now you have to find and answer/solution with bunch of others hangups

    • @nehasamreen3563
      @nehasamreen3563 2 роки тому +2

      Correct

  • @supriyadeshmukh5302
    @supriyadeshmukh5302 2 роки тому +15

    Kya jarurat hai Ratan aap ko Shadi ki..aap to bahot acchese apni life enjoy kar rahi hai...aur frankly speaking jab apni khud ki marji ho tab hi shadi karni chahiye

  • @ankitabhatta2618
    @ankitabhatta2618 2 роки тому +7

    It's always better to be single instead of getting into wrong relationship and get frustrated, I am 30 years and feels that being single is easy and don't expect anything from anyone because only parents love is real except that everything is ek hath do ek hath lo aur you can say it's all maya , My parents left there body but still I can feel there blessing is with me.

  • @kohimakohima3066
    @kohimakohima3066 2 роки тому +6

    I m 33 and depressed but apki bt sunkr bahut jayada achcha lga ki life kaisi honi chahiye or bina marriage k ghabrana nhi h marriage kya h ye bhi smjh aya nhi to yahi lagata tha ki bs marriage honi chahiye.

  • @Bollywood.ind9
    @Bollywood.ind9 2 роки тому +4

    आपकी बातों से मैं सहमत हूँ
    मनुष्य जन्म बंधनों को काटने के लिए हुआ है
    जन्म के साथ ही बहुत सारे रिश्तें मिल जाते हैं उन्हें तो ठीक से समझ ले पहले, निभा ले पहले ।आपका जीवन और विचार दोनों ही बेहद ख़ूबसूरत है रतन ।
    आप हमेशा ऐसे ही रहे
    यायावर 😍

  • @richasharma5843
    @richasharma5843 2 роки тому +12

    100% Same thoughts I have... M running in 29 th years of my age.. And m working for my dream... Marriage is one day matter.. But partner should be understanding.. Otherwise life jhhand hone se koi nhi rok sakta.. Aur us riste se bahr aane ki sochte h.. Jindagi aur bhi jada jhhand ho jayegi as per society.... So wait if good person come its ok otherwise alone also happy..

    • @jyotimasih1738
      @jyotimasih1738 2 роки тому +1

      Richa Sharma same meri bi thoughts hai . Sai partner milega to hi shadi karni chaiye warna life kharab hi jayegi.

  • @Preetisingh-mb6ld
    @Preetisingh-mb6ld 2 роки тому +18

    Right said.... Shaadi society mein rehne ke liye aur time pass ke liye hi hoti poori life kaam hi krna.... Jaise bhi time nikalo akele yaa dukele... Koi farak nhi padta.....
    Bilkul mat krna shaadi agar apka mann nhi

  • @kayayoga3161
    @kayayoga3161 2 роки тому +14

    I m 37 and single,if you dont find right partner don't rush to forced marriage,better to remain single

  • @Krishnakripa-satya-gyaan
    @Krishnakripa-satya-gyaan 2 роки тому +5

    Only a spiritual person can understand what she's trying to say this is kalyug and girls like us who are spiritually inclined know it's not easy to find such people to get married to. But if u find then it lucky. I feel the same ratan didi..but still open and go with flow. I don't want to get into karmic mess too.

  • @cheryldaly9017
    @cheryldaly9017 2 роки тому +15

    Ratan I was very lucky in marriage mine was a love marriage for 15 years he was very understanding and loving but after I list him I am lonely. I live in kolkata but at the moment I am in bihar. Yes it is important to have a understanding husband who can understand your feelings and walk side by side with you. So do think about marriage.

  • @chandnijohri6545
    @chandnijohri6545 2 роки тому +24

    Hatsoff to u beta 👌💕👍I totally agree with you n respect ur thoughts ❤️❤️ God bless you 😘😘

  • @cookeatrelax8685
    @cookeatrelax8685 2 роки тому +33

    This is my perception as well towards marriage! You are speaking to my mind! Thank you for sending the affirmations!

  • @diptipriya2670
    @diptipriya2670 2 роки тому +35

    I respect u dil se 💜, I am 27 n not married, but I can relate to each n everything that u said in this video. 😅

    • @gracie99999
      @gracie99999 2 роки тому

      Ofcourse I want someone but I don’t really need to have it..I have in a sense other marriages I’m engaged in so no in no hurry.
      and I don’t think there’s just one person out there...what if that person got in a car accident God forbid??!

    • @worldofflowers870
      @worldofflowers870 Рік тому +1

      29 hone wali hu mai mai bhi ni soch pa ri

    • @diptipriya2670
      @diptipriya2670 Рік тому

      @@worldofflowers870 shadi me sb pretend hi krte h, no matter kitni v achhi family mile, but ladki ki koi freedom nhi hoti, ldke ko koi question nhi krta, bahu se to hr chiz me sawal unka bnta h, not out of concern but they think ki hme hr chiz unse puchh k krne ki zarurat h, apne maayake v jao to bolenge kyu jati hu, apne ghar se kitna moh h, to apne bete ko kyu ghar se dur nhi krna chahte ye log, family sbki hoti h sirf akele ladke ki thodi na, ladkiyan kya kre, chhor de apne maa baap ko ya bhai behen ko?

  • @diptimayeepradhan119
    @diptimayeepradhan119 2 роки тому +16

    You just spoke out what am going through in my life right now... The thought process the perceptions about life events and happenings all are exactly similar to yours... Felt like someone is expressing the feelings of my heart ❤️. Thank you.

  • @payalkshettrypandey
    @payalkshettrypandey 2 роки тому +39

    U r so true to yourself Ratan which I always appreciate about you. Marriage can give you social/ financial/ emotional security but as u said, 'Nothing is permanent' and besides this everything comes with a Price Tag of its own kind. A good marriage and a good partner can change into a worst kind at any point of time. I am also going through an extremely rough patch in my married life and wondering is he the same person who loved and cared so much for me once... So, nothing remains same and nothing is permanent indeed. Well said!

  • @vimleshsharma5633
    @vimleshsharma5633 2 роки тому +22

    Yeahhhhhh
    Shaadi is not a compulsory or mandatory processs ....... ❤️❤️

  • @dr.sunitasharma183
    @dr.sunitasharma183 2 роки тому +58

    Don't get married... Live ur life...as u feel,only gud life as u r living already....koi bachche sath nhi dete..sirf faltu tension lene k liye shadi karni he to go for it...lv u ratan bete...live ur life Godbless u

  • @gayatribhatnagar1452
    @gayatribhatnagar1452 2 роки тому +4

    You are far ahead of today's time... Atleast you know urself at early age.. N didn't got trapped in shadi ka laddu concept.... It's your life... You have right to be single nad live it in your way... Kuch bhi perfect nhi hota... Na shadi na rishte na hum... Atleast you are free to take your own decision... You are right... Shadi ke baad humein khud ke liye dusro se puchna padta hai.. Which is unacceptable.... Live your life sweetheart.... Khul ke jiyo.. Nikhro.. Aur mehkati raho jaise aap hamesha karti h... Stay blessed.. N loads of love❤

  • @madhuchoudhary1733
    @madhuchoudhary1733 2 роки тому +6

    Wonderful thought Ratan ..... finally found someone who could understand the very essence and core of a woman and most importantly a human being.

  • @shwetasangari7142
    @shwetasangari7142 2 роки тому +31

    Don't worry majority of girls feel same....l
    Think feeling happy is much important whether you get married or not

  • @tinasharma3576
    @tinasharma3576 2 роки тому +6

    I m married.... But sach me apki life better h... Stay strong on your decision.. trust me ... Apka decision bhot sahi h .

  • @kshitijrashmi
    @kshitijrashmi 2 роки тому +12

    Shadi karke bahut log kimmat Chuka rahe ..aur mai bhi ..khush raho bahan bin shadi jyada maza hai 💞

  • @rubyshresthapokhrel1808
    @rubyshresthapokhrel1808 2 роки тому +4

    It’s ok to be single. Married life is not easy at all. Need to adjust everything. But it’s totally ok if someone doesn’t want to marry. Just need to have money & ur relatives or old age home will look after at old age. But need to be ready for that.

  • @trivenisings7745
    @trivenisings7745 2 роки тому +5

    Well said..
    I have been happily married for the past three years but every word of yours resonate with me stridently. AFter marriage, howsoever supportive your partner might be, your life gets hamstrung totally.

  • @mayak2676
    @mayak2676 2 роки тому +11

    Our patriachal society is such that they've always tried to cripple women post marriage.....until this changes from the base....which means till we don't raise our boys & girls with equal values & learnings , marriage will remain an imbalance in favour of the man & a big gamble for women.
    You are absolutely right to choose the life you want to lead....companionship is best.

  • @Beanie767
    @Beanie767 2 роки тому +159

    Ratan , do write a book on your thoughts. You are extremely good and true to yourself and others. You can explore writing in serial and movies also. Super talented and great thought process. You can even try writing for stage plays. Your ideology is true to the core. Much love ❤️ ❤️

  • @cannajoshi7246
    @cannajoshi7246 2 роки тому +139

    Ratan just go with the flow .... the kind of companionship you are expecting, it’s difficult in traditional marriage... it’s all together a different setting...plus minus are always there ... ye woo laduu hai jo khai wo bhi pachtai jo na khai wo bhi pachtaai 😀... stay happy stay blessed 😘

    • @akashimoumita
      @akashimoumita 2 роки тому +4

      I support. Please be yourself. It's great to see you enjoying your life like this.

    • @rubysingh2222
      @rubysingh2222 2 роки тому +5

      Ye vo laddu h ki jo na khaay wo shayad na bhi pachtaay ...but jo khaay wo to 💯%pachtaay😈

    • @cannajoshi7246
      @cannajoshi7246 2 роки тому

      @@rubysingh2222 🤣🤣

    • @Triggered_Insaan9
      @Triggered_Insaan9 2 роки тому +1

      @@rubysingh2222 ohh mtlb ..lgta hai aapne wo laddu 😋kha li hai 😂😂

    • @divya_raushan_1829
      @divya_raushan_1829 2 роки тому

      True

  • @shrutisaxena8177
    @shrutisaxena8177 2 роки тому +5

    Really inspiring video...still I am leading successful married life with two kids..but I respect you and all single person.

  • @pallavisharma5017
    @pallavisharma5017 2 роки тому +3

    So lucky to have a partner who in a pure sense is a partner 👬.... We fight, we cook together, listen to each other., work, build a business together 👫.. I hope u find your partner in true sense.. Kudos 🥰😘

  • @shuddiind7738
    @shuddiind7738 2 роки тому +11

    Today seeing ur subject....yes I agree with ur view.... Companion is important... Freedom sacrifice part of it.....
    I am 40 yr.... got separated at 28 yr.... Now I'm having thought of marriage and confusion in mind....i had surgery 2day back all alone realize.....no one with me....so strong thought about companion...... baby issue because of late marriage... Marriage is a game of life....
    In news sohail khan seema khan divorce in news...... Salman khan brother ......

  • @mysticvoice7175
    @mysticvoice7175 2 роки тому +295

    Remaining single is better option than be trapped into a bad marriage

  • @malinirao9164
    @malinirao9164 2 роки тому +55

    My daughter also thinks in the same way as you do. Whenever I say that who will be with her when I am gone, she says she has a solid set of friends with whom she shares her problems, asks their advice from time to time and would love to be with them whenever she has time to spend with them. She also says that though marriage has not crossed her mind, she may get married one day if she gets an understanding partner who would give her the space to do what she wants. If she gets married she would also give him the space that she would expect him. Let me wait and see!

    • @malinirao9164
      @malinirao9164 2 роки тому +1

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

    • @Preetiprincy
      @Preetiprincy 2 роки тому

      Good

    • @nehachauhanpardeshi3251
      @nehachauhanpardeshi3251 2 роки тому +1

      @@malinirao9164 hmm true... now a days its hard to find such partners.. but ur daughter will definitely get a good partner🤞❤ ..wait n see is d only option as a mother we cant stop our kids or cant ask them to stop dreaming n stop living life as they want..
      Expecting that ratan should also dream explore things after marriage if the good option comes infront of ❤🤞

    • @artimishraentenementoffical
      @artimishraentenementoffical 2 роки тому

      Yes i agree

    • @RekhaYadav-bd6kj
      @RekhaYadav-bd6kj 2 роки тому +2

      Same with my daughter. She is totally against marriage n kids.She says all her married friends are compromising n not happy.

  • @nupurisha457
    @nupurisha457 2 роки тому +24

    You took my heart and spoke my mind... Thank God, I'm not alone with such thoughts....glad to see the comment section with so many like me too...😊
    keep growing Ratan...

  • @Happy-time186entertainment
    @Happy-time186entertainment 2 роки тому +4

    Totally agree with you. Marriage is not necessary at all for each and every girls. 👏👏

  • @shivusvoice3578
    @shivusvoice3578 2 роки тому +70

    You are speaking exactly what I feel.. totally agree with you.. marriage should allow us to grow in life.. and it should not feel like burden.. but it should be such that we feel free from inside... it is a beautiful relation but only if partner understands n supports us... n if they dont then its better to be single😇n yes marriage should not be only goal of life... but the ultimate goal is to explore life and to understand the meaning of life❤

    • @divya_raushan_1829
      @divya_raushan_1829 2 роки тому +4

      Only 10% women grows in their life after marriage coz they get ideal life partner and in-laws but other 90% women always suffer in marriage coz their partner and in-laws are typical and always give priority to patriarchal norms in context of india

    • @usersYT
      @usersYT 2 роки тому +1

      @@divya_raushan_1829 very true

  • @noodle3851
    @noodle3851 2 роки тому +26

    Ratan Maybe you will find the one who you desire for.. but you are right.. marriage is all about compromises.. specially what i’m seeing around me… no one is actually happy in their marriage.. some are staying married for the sake of their kids and others are married bcz of “log kya kahenge” I totally agree with you.

  • @dipps10
    @dipps10 2 роки тому +42

    Hi Ratan,Yes i agree with your views.Uncondional love, faith , respect n freedom r d 4 pillars of a successful relationship ❤️Ye aapki life h usko apne hisaab se jeena chahiye.It is so gud to see u this way it also inspires others to live life in their own way.Feels so pleasant after listening u ❤️Lots of blessings to u n Bandhu 🤗

  • @ranjanasaxena6196
    @ranjanasaxena6196 2 роки тому +10

    Even I'm going through the issues, my daughter is 34 and has the same point of view like you said, so let's hope that God bless us and we all find what we are looking for

    • @sonia0105
      @sonia0105 2 роки тому

      Mat karwana shaadi if she is not interest don't pressurise her buss uski life financially strong kardo later she can adopt a child if she wants let her enjoy her freedom n live her life to the fullest no 3rd parents can love a girl like own parents ever husband these days r selfish

  • @pinkysharma1314
    @pinkysharma1314 2 роки тому +12

    You are amazing 👏 hats off....same thought I'm 31 and single too....and happy also 😀....love you ratan

    • @vandanaprajapati4131
      @vandanaprajapati4131 2 роки тому

      i also 31 sadi me koi intrest nhi

    • @asthabajaj5559
      @asthabajaj5559 2 роки тому

      ap kese handle krte ho mai bhut preshan hu

    • @asthabajaj5559
      @asthabajaj5559 2 роки тому

      log jeene ni de re specially my relatives

    • @gracie99999
      @gracie99999 2 роки тому

      man, this just me and im not against marriage but i can’t even deal with my own mind and don’t think i need another..
      look it this way, when married and we wanted to go to a restaurant and couldn’t decide which one..this already a problem with just one mind, now add another and see what you get!

  • @mylifemyfamily4627
    @mylifemyfamily4627 2 роки тому +26

    Ratan, I am married.. Marriage is not our final destination. You are right our love is not restricted to few people's, Universe is giving you spiritual vibes that's why you are thinking of universe by spreading love ❤ God also chose to love many❤❤❤your thinking is absolutely correct✔

    • @madhurisehgal13794
      @madhurisehgal13794 2 роки тому +1

      True and I agree with u
      Even I also feel the same for Ratan di n for myself too

    • @gracie99999
      @gracie99999 2 роки тому

      agree marriage is part [and important to think about it and with whom you might engage with long and hard,cause i married for life but unfortunately it didn’t work out that way..and btw she wasn’t all bad and there was much good in her..so also look at yourself!]not the whole..

  • @Kintsugilifee
    @Kintsugilifee 2 роки тому +10

    Their is nothing wrong in having a live in relationship. Also companionship doesn’t guarantee happiness. So do what is best for you and your mental health. Lots of love and wishes to you

  • @Ps-nk3eb
    @Ps-nk3eb 2 роки тому +18

    Thank you dii...for this one ❤..literally I am 22 right now..&like u I want to know about my life purpose..& I am on my path😌😊..& that superior power always guide me..💛...&I am always grateful for that💛

    • @Sunshine-wt1jg
      @Sunshine-wt1jg 2 роки тому

      U covinced ur family....but it's almost impossible for others....that's why I m also single at the age of 35..

  • @anjuaswal1928
    @anjuaswal1928 2 роки тому +1

    Woww kitna pyara or achaa bolti hai ...jo man me aata hai wahi bolti jati hai....real and natural....

  • @rajshree6528
    @rajshree6528 2 роки тому +7

    Totally agreed with ur viewpoints towards marriage and partner! I watched ur video for the first time and really got to learn so many things...I truly respect ur thought! ❤️❤️❤️

  • @hemangishelake9849
    @hemangishelake9849 2 роки тому +35

    break mat lo..agar kisi din content dikhane ke liye nahi hai toh bhi bas bate karo.bcz I like to listen your talk.It makes my day

  • @SS-jw9mm
    @SS-jw9mm 2 роки тому +10

    You are right Ratan our society has this mind set that they think only married people are happy even if they are faking it. It’s sad but harsh truth of our pseudo society.

  • @tarajagtiani7146
    @tarajagtiani7146 2 роки тому +25

    Beautifully explained, could completely relate to it
    We all single's need love and respect
    God bless you ☺️

  • @madhurisingh3441
    @madhurisingh3441 2 роки тому +2

    You r right never get married just for sake of it or pressure of society unless you get real soul mate Don't worry you will soon get someone of your nature wish you good luck Ratan 👍I use to watch Rishta Ratan ka Santoshi maa n agle Janam mohe bitiya hi ki jo

  • @nasasromancechemistry1405
    @nasasromancechemistry1405 2 роки тому +2

    I reciprocate similar emotions. I have absolutely same thoughts. Pehli baar I heard someone spk my heart & mind ❤️ Word to word letter to letter same opinion Subh'haan'Allah ❤️

  • @amirahussainvlogs3672
    @amirahussainvlogs3672 2 роки тому +5

    Ratan ji you are right we should have the right life patner other wise after marriage it very difficult to deal with it. In marriage you have only two choices if your husband it not good first is jo chal raha usko jhelo aapne bacho k liye ya phir divorce
    You are correct truly respect you

  • @sonalbajpai1978
    @sonalbajpai1978 2 роки тому +16

    If you are not ready to love any person unconditionally, not able to connect spiritually, emotionally, mentally & physically then it's just custom. It's life long commitment but sadly in our Indian society, ppl take it superficially. Just go with flow but sooner or later everyone wants love, care, affection in their life & ofcourse a settled relationship. It's human nature & in every phase of life, meaning of marriage changes as we grow in life. Being married or not, its individual decision & every decision has its own consequences 😃😃.

  • @pragyabhartiparashar6056
    @pragyabhartiparashar6056 2 роки тому +4

    Aapke is safar me bandhu ne lamba sath diya aapka..
    Aapke jeevan ke hr pahlu , aur hr mod se gujra wo aapke sath

  • @kalyanimahajan7257
    @kalyanimahajan7257 2 роки тому +4

    I love the line " akele ki zindagi khubsurat hai"🥰💕

  • @Deenduniyakibaatein
    @Deenduniyakibaatein 2 роки тому +8

    I heard your views about marriage I noticed you covered almost all pros and cons of being single and married.... I don't give you any suggestion bcoz u have already achieved the things which many of us couldn't reach the half of it in fact some not yet started.... Love from HYD

  • @maithiligururani348
    @maithiligururani348 2 роки тому +8

    Oooh my God Ratan I so much relate to what you are saying🤗 I totally agree to what you say as I think in the same way😇 More Power 😇

  • @vershashankar4036
    @vershashankar4036 2 роки тому +7

    I really appreciate your courage to talk about these topics which is not even discussed in many families. These are just followed blindly without knowing purpose and meaning of life.

  • @Preethiya_Prapancha
    @Preethiya_Prapancha 2 роки тому +132

    y dont u marry bandhu?. please dont mind.. like he too likes travelling & he is friendly with you and ur family..i just felt he is like you..

    • @Pannuscookingandlifestyle
      @Pannuscookingandlifestyle 2 роки тому +10

      He is perfect match for you..think about him..jab aap vlog me bol rhe the bich bich me aap bandhu ko dekh rhe the...I noticed it🤪

    • @anujasharma2315
      @anujasharma2315 2 роки тому +7

      Same🙈plz ratan..dont mind..

    • @irinlaskar203
      @irinlaskar203 2 роки тому +3

      Bandhu lrki he... 😄😄😄

    • @shabnamsana313
      @shabnamsana313 2 роки тому +9

      Main bhi yahi soch rahi Ratan ko bandhu se shadi kar lena chahiye

    • @sukhveerkaur3866
      @sukhveerkaur3866 2 роки тому +20

      Dear bndhuu means bhai b hota hai kuj languages me.. ho skta hai wo usko bhai smjti ho to iska matlb yeh to nai k ek ladaka or ldki sath me sirf mrg hi kr skte hai.. wo frnd b ho skte hai.. so please grow up guys

  • @Godfavourite01
    @Godfavourite01 2 роки тому +5

    I have adopted a son,I am 28 & my boyfriend & I are in a relationship for the past 13yrs but when he talks about marriage,it scares me.He thinks the same like you,he said we would adopt a baby girl .I love him & trust him with all my heart, everything is perfect but marriage scares me more than death!!

  • @Leonardo_dada_vinchi123
    @Leonardo_dada_vinchi123 2 роки тому +1

    Great Ratan.
    You hv philosophical bent of mind. It's indicative of people of higher thinking order. U r such a Pride of Bihar.🤩

  • @dawnreddy2620
    @dawnreddy2620 2 роки тому +18

    You are very true nothing is permanent
    I was married twice ...first arrange with 3 kids
    Second one also arrange with 2 girls
    Second one wanted a boy
    But I got 2 girl
    And end up in street in usa 10 days homeless
    Now been 34 yrs been a single mother and living all by myself
    So what you saying is very true
    End up with five kids

    • @pollytheparrot8929
      @pollytheparrot8929 2 роки тому

      So sad to hear ur story..very tragic Hope u are in a safe place..May God give u strength and blessings❤❤.. Take care🙏

  • @cheryldaly9017
    @cheryldaly9017 2 роки тому +8

    You are absolutely right ratan nothing is permanent in this world. Nowadays marriages don't last and children do leave their parents and go abroad and live. One of my friends her mother is here in India has lost her memory but she is still abroad with her family and her mother is all alone here with the helpers.

    • @Reema-r3e
      @Reema-r3e 2 роки тому

      Ye kahna galat hai ki kuchh bhi permanent nahi hai. Ratan to bihaar se hai wahan rishtey bahut kam tutate hain. Metro cities ki life alag hai isliye riste nahi tikte.Raji baat bachhon ki to ham hi unko oochey sapne dikhate hain abroad ke aur jab wo chale jaate hain to rona rote hain ki budhape me ham akele hain. Ratan ko apni maa se sikhna chahiye unki shaadi hui bachhe huye tabhi to papa ke na rahne per bhi wo bachhon ko dekhker khush hain. Life aise hi chalti hai. Shadi karna samaj ke prati hamari jimmedari hai. Har ladki ratan ki tarah soche to samaaj ka life cycle hi bigad jaayega. So main ratan se agree nahi hoon

    • @sankalpsingh5619
      @sankalpsingh5619 2 роки тому

      Jitna western culture follow karoge utni frustration badhegi aur rishte naate tootenge , western devlopment accha h par culture bilkul bhi accha nai h

    • @sankalpsingh5619
      @sankalpsingh5619 2 роки тому

      Even today marriages do last in India for most of the people it is happening mostly in metro cities where corporate culture is thriving

  • @leannegoulden2335
    @leannegoulden2335 2 роки тому +12

    Well said ratan ❤️ totally living the same journey i m ... 👍 Better being single than in a wrong n toxic relations.

    • @Sunshine-wt1jg
      @Sunshine-wt1jg 2 роки тому

      Same here

    • @gracie99999
      @gracie99999 2 роки тому

      and these days more and more you can find yourself in a marriage without even being in a marriage...let’s say your living with your parents as example

  • @appyvida
    @appyvida 9 місяців тому +1

    Why we are so so so same 😢 ….. I feel some people who are Overthinker- are- emotionally practical , rather than than being practically emotional. Love from bihar❤

  • @komaladvani2568
    @komaladvani2568 2 роки тому +5

    You are lovely we love you for the person you are, your beautiful thoughts. And good heart. Not ur marital status. Your positive attitude, how humble you are and how you treat others with respect 💟

  • @omshanti2811
    @omshanti2811 2 роки тому +8

    God , his love is permanent ratan.
    I'd advice any1 to explore marriage. Its beautiful. I too didn't get my "dream" partner, but after marrying God's grace im so at happiness peace love bliss ..hope n wish d same for every girl. 😊
    Cz age matters dear.. baaki u also maybe right or wrong but this is just my opinion...cz worst case separate divorce k option b h... but definitely think take time soch samajke jitna hosake karo..definitely hushed up na hi

  • @bhaktipandya8012
    @bhaktipandya8012 2 роки тому +7

    I would always get those sage vibes from you calm, composed, peace loving and in search of wisdom ❤️ no. 7 has great influence on you 💫😊

  • @monikasapra21
    @monikasapra21 2 роки тому +14

    I totally agree to your point.. i feel the same.. i want partner but i don't want to get married 😂

  • @prachishrivastava7093
    @prachishrivastava7093 2 роки тому +4

    So relatable mam👍👌 to think different, to explore life and to think for yourself is not a bad thing at all but people around u will always discourage and demotivate u.. this is so hurtful💔

  • @akanksha6977
    @akanksha6977 2 роки тому +2

    Mam you're incredible and honest speaker......even I don't know how the 22 minutes passed...I felt like you're sharing my inner feelings.......I was completely lost in your words...and I agree with your "PURPOSEFUL MARRIAGE" statement...lot's of love and happiness...❤

  • @nidhichawla4514
    @nidhichawla4514 2 роки тому +8

    Hi ratan, im nidhi chawla from delhi, im also single just like you. I like your thoughts on marriage. You said right Campion is important.love the video. Please make more such vlogs.

  • @jskkrishna4172
    @jskkrishna4172 2 роки тому +26

    Since you are discussing marriage who will be camera man in BANDHU’S Marriage….🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @shampasfusion
    @shampasfusion 2 роки тому +4

    You have taken right decision. I can totally relate. There are exceptions but marriage truely impact personal freedom.

  • @avantibarve2692
    @avantibarve2692 2 роки тому +2

    Bahot acchi baat... Kyu shaadi ke baad chize chodne ki baad hoti hai... Why not expand together... Very beautifully said...

  • @sudiptaroy6788
    @sudiptaroy6788 2 роки тому +2

    I can't explain how great I connect your thoughts. Ratan Ji, I had compassion of love for you so much.u are so different....

  • @a.sh.4686
    @a.sh.4686 2 роки тому +4

    Mam each n every word you said is pure gem... Singlehood ki keemat... 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼🌟🌟🌟.. Wow.. Love u.. I love the way you live your life with your own rules, habits and complete freedom👌💕💖😃❤😊...I dont want to sacrifice my freedom...I want this kind of life love your house it is real 🏠home. Thanku for this video🙏🙏🙏

    • @gracie99999
      @gracie99999 2 роки тому

      dear friend, this basic requirement you know to live and let live

  • @joyouslife09
    @joyouslife09 2 роки тому +5

    Honestly Ratan, it’s more or less same with guys as well. I’m in my thirties and I’m doing well in my career touchwood and being a single son to my parents my parents are my big time responsibility so I’m way too occupied with my life. However, at times I get to hear ppl asking y he ain’t getting married and bla blah..sabse mazedaar baat ajkal if an established guy is occupied with his life and taking care of his parents and all then he must be gay or impotent. I mean it scares me to even think that still ppl think likewise. Also I’m in favour of getting married n having my own family but then bandi jabtak sahi na mile tabtak bas shaadi for the sake of it q karein. But sadly very few people think likewise! But hum b dheent h apne thoughts me. Haha! Life happens!

  • @JyotiSingh-wm9jk
    @JyotiSingh-wm9jk Рік тому +3

    I am also 42 yrs, and being single, and Happy

  • @Atkins704
    @Atkins704 2 роки тому +35

    Marriage is important for both boys and girls. It gives us mental stability. We are social beings. We need someone to share our thoughts and emotions. If you have a bad partner that is also not good. But we shouldn't completely get pessimistic about marriage. We must keep looking for an understanding life partner.
    Whether it's a love marriage or arranged we have to invest time in building a strong relationship.

    • @gracie99999
      @gracie99999 2 роки тому

      💯 right! but if it’s horribly bad and no change, create change
      and if not then really make sure the person is at the minimum emotionally balanced..
      [obviously balance everywhere would be optimal] cause for me this was the roller coaster ride I’d rather give ticket to another joy ride if they into that type thing..
      and I’ll be blunt, she used to watch a lot of Bollywood film which I was tali-banned about! why, cause literally after whatever it is she watched she became he film in real life tho😳💯🧱🔨👀💜☮️🔹🌳🌊

    • @Allinone-p8j
      @Allinone-p8j 2 роки тому

      totally agree

  • @yashasvipruthi4838
    @yashasvipruthi4838 2 роки тому +2

    You are very relatable. 🎀🤞I am 26 and was already anxious about this subject. Finally got my answers from this video. 🙌

  • @arshpreetkaur4767
    @arshpreetkaur4767 2 роки тому +177

    How to explain this to narrow minded family? As a girl it's very difficult to make them understand that marriage is not the only solution for girls.
    Plz share your views on this.. It will help me a lot ratan di...

  • @meghaviswanathan5503
    @meghaviswanathan5503 2 роки тому +5

    I am same as you.... single..... family and people tell me to get married.... they tell me not to think about the proposals I get and just get married as it's all about adjustment... but I think life time adjustment is not correct.... it will leave me unhappy.... marriage should be meaningful.

  • @userpdy
    @userpdy 2 роки тому +4

    I really liked how you conveyed the things that most of the people arent able to talk about. Really wonderful how you have given words to my thoughts as well. Thanks for speaking openly about this...👍😊

    • @gracie99999
      @gracie99999 2 роки тому

      it’s sad cause that mentally has gotten us all in this interesting predicament we face presently globally related to covid91 and that whole ball of wax

  • @MsVB-xm8qx
    @MsVB-xm8qx 6 місяців тому +1

    I'm 35 and this is the same situation going on in my life.Walking on a spiritual path.Hare Krishna 🙏😇

  • @rituverma9058
    @rituverma9058 Рік тому +2

    I am 33 year old ummaried female my family always support me and i am living happy life with Grace of God

  • @charudhale7981
    @charudhale7981 2 роки тому +5

    I am 34 and single .. living my life fullest.. 💕

  • @malinia.k.3369
    @malinia.k.3369 2 роки тому +10

    Respect your wish Miss.Ratan.....do whatever you want to,...go with the flow...As you said our ideas keep changing...so ,go accordingly. 👍All d best dear...be always happy n healthy 🥰🤗

  • @jancycardoso2740
    @jancycardoso2740 2 роки тому +6

    Nathing is permanently ur right ratan and also people change with time single life is tension free 🫶🏼 we can’t trust everything in our life sometime very good person can change into bad, life is unpredictable love u ratan ♥️♥️love ur thoughts 💭

  • @shergill555
    @shergill555 2 роки тому +1

    You choose freedom over marriage(bond). It takes guts to do that. Nothing wrong in prioritizing oneself. All d best for your life.

  • @vasanthar4533
    @vasanthar4533 2 роки тому +2

    I so agree with you Ratan...your absolutely right of whatever your thinking 🤔🤔 of marriage..its not everything in life..there is more in life. just of the fear in society, relatives never get married...
    You hav that guts, clear clarity of life..what you want or expect in life..
    Most of us don't .. 👍👍👍👍Am with you..i support you..

    • @gracie99999
      @gracie99999 2 роки тому

      I hate using 🐑 cause I actually like them they cute!
      but that’s sheep[week] mentality based on whatever culture and what not..
      we in each religion have certain rights and should focus on them when it comes to these conversations.
      it’s so muddled and confused all this that id personally rather not touch it.
      and to make matter much worse, common sense has taken rain check check