7 PEOPLE YOU SHOULD NEVER DATE - By RC BLAKES - PERISCOPE SESSION

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  • There are some people that you clearly need to avoid. Let’s Talk.
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  • @tcalvin2010
    @tcalvin2010 8 років тому +521

    my mom always said she can trust a thief because she knows they will steal but a liar can get you killed

    • @ceecee366
      @ceecee366 6 років тому +69

      tcalvin2010 l too learned that if you're a liar, you have the potential to steal and if you're a thief you can kill. These traits go hand in hand. Some liars will kill from fear of being found out. BEWARE OF THE HABITUAL LIAR!🙊🤐☠

    • @ericasayles813
      @ericasayles813 6 років тому +1

      1

    • @juliannesharpe3066
      @juliannesharpe3066 4 роки тому +14

      Liars and Thieves travel together : sometimes they are the Same person!

    • @beedabee1221
      @beedabee1221 4 роки тому +1

      I never heard that!!! I wish I did 8 years ago!

    • @luvinme9271
      @luvinme9271 4 роки тому +1

      @@beedabee1221 who you telling, I am right there with you this one.

  • @ashleyrhinehart3658
    @ashleyrhinehart3658 4 роки тому +234

    “You want what you want so bad that you’re ignoring what you need!” That’s a word! 🙌🏽

  • @dovelove1920
    @dovelove1920 6 років тому +466

    My ex-boyfriend is a narcissist and he is all seven in one. Our relationship was the most soul crushing and depressing time of my life. You are providing excellent advice.👍👍

    • @girlinthesouth850
      @girlinthesouth850 6 років тому +30

      Lori Hamilton narcissists are HORRIBLE to deal with

    • @divinediva_
      @divinediva_ 6 років тому +17

      Pray you are healing sister. 👑🙏❤️

    • @gail_7192
      @gail_7192 5 років тому +13

      I can relate and I am so glad I learned from it and won't repeat it.I cut off all ties from my ex.

    • @missygray4128
      @missygray4128 5 років тому +10

      I am so sorry you suffered this type of abuse!! Its the worst I know!!! Keep close to God!! Pray everyday for healing ... bless you....

    • @ladennayoung2939
      @ladennayoung2939 4 роки тому +16

      Yes it is terrible dating a narcissist. They will drain you.

  • @adaku75
    @adaku75 8 років тому +442

    "Inferiors will become your enemy over time." I remember hearing Steve Harvey say that men aren't intimidated by women. And it is always hard to speak generally, but there are some men who are in fact intimidated by a woman's accomplishments especially in the case of a black woman and a black man. There are indeed some women who are intimidated by men as well. But as a woman, if a man feels inferior to you, he will eventually try to bring you to what he feels is his level by any means necessary so ladies beware! Great video!

    • @Mouth4thep
      @Mouth4thep 8 років тому +34

      +adaku75 So, true. Women also; like those friends who are constantly comparing you and them. They usually end up as enemies, also.

    • @OceanisInfinite
      @OceanisInfinite 8 років тому +11

      Yes they can. I have been there. I married 1 twice & got exactly what he said. He spoke on it too.

    • @GoogleUser-wy2vv
      @GoogleUser-wy2vv 6 років тому +18

      adaku75 yes...a blk man told me directly that a woman earning a good deal of 💰 is a disadvantage for dating but if a man earns...that's an advantage for him dating wise.
      I think he was threatened by women making bank. I think he really didn't like women's ambition too.
      Sad because he had 2 partime jobs and didn't know how to team with a woman.

    • @AriesTiger1
      @AriesTiger1 6 років тому

      adaku75 you are right.

    • @carryn73
      @carryn73 6 років тому +19

      They are so used to acting like professional victims. If they used that same energy to become successful, they would be.

  • @tania0070
    @tania0070 6 років тому +267

    "You gotta stop batting your eyes, trying to be cute and talk ... ask questions and follow-up questions"

    • @buffhotchkiss7400
      @buffhotchkiss7400 5 років тому +1

      Oh the battimg the eyes. Do woman still.do that. That is nauseating.

    • @maguiedossantos2925
      @maguiedossantos2925 3 роки тому

      😳🤣🤣 where's the lie ?? He's preaching & I've learn my lesson now

  • @shandaa2007
    @shandaa2007 8 років тому +269

    "Date with your head" okay I'm being told I'm so deep and head strong. No I'm not settling for less but God's best. I'm free from all of my soul ties and I do not want to go back down that road again.

    • @divinediva_
      @divinediva_ 6 років тому +9

      BlessedandHighly Favored Yes, same here. People think I'm "overthinking" things, but the Holy Spirit has not steered me wrong!

    • @Ndo777ify
      @Ndo777ify 4 роки тому +3

      Same here, I'm waiting for a righteous man, brought to me by the Most High...NOT looking but waiting

  • @vh7637
    @vh7637 6 років тому +160

    The best way I catch a liar is I ask a question and then I reverse the question a few weeks later to see if it's the same answer

    • @moonlitbalcony2861
      @moonlitbalcony2861 5 років тому +14

      Smart I like that!

    • @brenme35
      @brenme35 5 років тому +2

      Wow that's smart

    • @buffhotchkiss7400
      @buffhotchkiss7400 5 років тому +7

      In the meantime you do not wamt to get pjysically involved with them because unfortunately they lie about everything

  • @PROlificInsaNITy
    @PROlificInsaNITy 6 років тому +96

    (1.) The Full Time Critical [always critical of you]
    (2.) The Inferior [internal insecurities]
    (3.) The Mama's boy/Daddy's girl [still tied to the apron strings]
    (4.) The Liar [they are actors]
    (5.) The Narcissist [love themselves more]
    (6.) The Comment Phob [sex & kids without marriage]
    (7.) The Talking Head [never listens]

    • @queenjkncb9399
      @queenjkncb9399 4 роки тому +4

      PROlificInsaNITy👌, you are such a huge blessing. Thank you so much for the written version. Stay blessed🙏❤⚘.

    • @queenjkncb9399
      @queenjkncb9399 4 роки тому +3

      PROlificInsaNITy👌, you are such a huge blessing. Thank you so much for the written version. Stay blessed🙏❤⚘.

  • @irise3665
    @irise3665 8 років тому +180

    The red flags ,"God is setting them on fire for you". I like what you said there.

  • @mswhite7449
    @mswhite7449 7 років тому +340

    I wish you were a male figure in my life before I started dating. I believe god drew me to your videos. You are so relatable and funny.

    • @essencelaws6722
      @essencelaws6722 7 років тому +8

      Mz Fairy. I said the same thing...The father I never had❤❤❤

    • @wall47291
      @wall47291 6 років тому +1

      That is how I feel about my best friends dad

    • @18chaney
      @18chaney 4 роки тому +1

      So VERY TRUE!! My goodness!

    • @carolbryant2478
      @carolbryant2478 3 роки тому

      I agree with you 💯% because there's so many lessons to be learned. I thank God for you Pastor 🙏🏾

    • @user-gn7rm1vq2j
      @user-gn7rm1vq2j 3 роки тому

      Wow! Wish I had seen this 11 years ago. Everything he's saying to avoid I married.

  • @sherriepawlikowski4935
    @sherriepawlikowski4935 4 роки тому +52

    A man who is so in love with himself is a dangerous animal.

  • @helengarland7607
    @helengarland7607 8 років тому +137

    Date INTELLIGENTLY!! I Love It...

  • @bossalinarock7711
    @bossalinarock7711 6 років тому +450

    My friends think that I'm mean when it comes to men🤔 I'm not mean I just see red flags. Usually I see them before the first conversation is over with. I don't have no time for craziness at all🏃🏃🏃

    • @dianalorenzi4272
      @dianalorenzi4272 6 років тому +12

      Qyet Storm good for you. Proud of you

    • @fatimasow6887
      @fatimasow6887 5 років тому +32

      Haha, that is so me! And i find it irritating when some of my girls try to push me to "try" out a man I have already read and can see its an unequal york😏 I cant waste my precious time just like that you know🙄

    • @missygray4128
      @missygray4128 5 років тому +4

      Amen!!!!

    • @maureen1234mc
      @maureen1234mc 5 років тому +2

      @@fatimasow6887 ,,, very true.. "yoke"

    • @tisha812
      @tisha812 5 років тому +29

      Yes indeed!!! The last time I saw red flags during the first phone conversation with a guy I ignored it. Three months later I was getting a restraining order for him. I will NEVER again ignore my intuition. You aren’t mean...you’re smart!!!

  • @raquelmalone1614
    @raquelmalone1614 7 років тому +135

    Lord yes, " No ringy No dingy!!!! "....on the real Pastor these videos are enriching my soul!! My value is increasing with every lesson. Blessings Sir!

  • @BlackCulturalPreservation2023
    @BlackCulturalPreservation2023 4 роки тому +29

    “They find everything wrong with you but keep showing up?” Just said something similar to a guy I just dumped.

  • @imanitrapp1871
    @imanitrapp1871 6 років тому +34

    That INFERIOR is extremely dangerous and very tricky. They actually resent "EVERY GOOD" you do for them and is competing and trying to destroy you, all at the same time. CRAZY
    Thanks pastor, you are hitting "the-nail-on-the-head". Stop wasting time is the best advice you can every give us. I had EVERY SINGLE TRAIT you mentioned in this video in ONE GUY for 8 years, ended up in therapy for 2 years and still working to get back to myself..... I prayed for deliverance.... and still recovering..... you and this ministry are my prayers answered, 100% HEALING GOING ON!

  • @thamp94
    @thamp94 8 років тому +277

    I found your videos today by accident... I must say I thank God I did...broke up with a guy last month. The relationship was toxic. I still love him and I'm praying to be released from soul ties with him...red flags were there. I ignored it because he was so fine, good with his words, twisting things to make me believe I was wrong. I know better now. taking this time to heal and focus on me

    • @lisalowe8366
      @lisalowe8366 8 років тому +79

      You didn't find this by accident, it was God's plan. I pray that you're heart has been healed. In Jesus name.

    • @ChristSaves88
      @ChristSaves88 6 років тому +7

      Stay strong in the Lord! I've been in this situation as well. Soul ties are hard to break but with faith and constant prayer it will happen! God Bless!

    • @firesign4297
      @firesign4297 6 років тому +4

      T. Hamp Their are NO!... "accidents"!....🙏🤗

    • @lawill3559
      @lawill3559 6 років тому +7

      No such thing as accident.....Yahshua knows what you need when you need it.....receive it.

    • @patriciasmith5778
      @patriciasmith5778 6 років тому +5

      Narcissistic individual... Run!!!

  • @Hawelufamily
    @Hawelufamily 4 роки тому +42

    Never date a full time critic, an inferior, still tied to parents, the liar, the narcissist, the commitment phobe, or the talking head.

    • @solidsix6766
      @solidsix6766 4 роки тому +3

      I needed the list. Thank you.

  • @carlakirby7512
    @carlakirby7512 8 років тому +183

    Emotions have no intellect!

  • @a.r.8987
    @a.r.8987 7 років тому +51

    Wow, that makes perfect sense, the second reason, "never date an inferior because they will expect you to dumb yourself down,"

  • @pennytricia1
    @pennytricia1 7 років тому +258

    I wish I would have seen this 20 years ago. Thank you😆😆😆😆😆

  • @DanaeLaurenTolbert
    @DanaeLaurenTolbert 6 років тому +40

    I remember years ago I met this guy who wanted to go on a date with me. While we were on the phone chatting, he kept making fun of my accent (I have a Bajan/Philly accent unique combo lol). I mean really ridiculing me like a child in kindergarten. Grow up man! He was Trini with an accent as well. I checked him not in the most righteous way (forgive me Lord) and abruptly ended the conversation and told him I had no intentions of going on a date with him. He was speechless. He obviously had issues. He continued to text, call, and leave facebook dm's. I ignored and deleted the messages 👉✌. You speak the truth. You are hilarious. No wed, no bed. No ringy, no dingy.

  • @missfavoured
    @missfavoured 8 років тому +58

    I'm doing a self-analysis while listening to your videos. Before I date anyone, let me check if someone would want to date me for my true nature.. Thank you Bishop.

    • @jollirancha94
      @jollirancha94 7 років тому +4

      favoured same here . omg . amen

  • @eileenanampiu6717
    @eileenanampiu6717 8 років тому +68

    Listening to you for the first time. You are a blessing to the body of Christ. God bless you

  • @doltonkenway1056
    @doltonkenway1056 7 років тому +170

    Glad i have been single since 2010 and celibate for 7 years...

    • @anointed1302
      @anointed1302 6 років тому +8

      dolton kenway Me too!!!

    • @loridori
      @loridori 6 років тому +11

      Proud of you! I've been celibate for 5 years

    • @soystef
      @soystef 5 років тому +6

      Wow good for you- I admire you

    • @luvinme9271
      @luvinme9271 4 роки тому +3

      I also admire you for that.

    • @vvc_551
      @vvc_551 4 роки тому

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @awakengrow
    @awakengrow 6 років тому +111

    i was having a really bad day, my relationship ended because he wouldnt commit to me and he said i pushed for answers and so i have been feeling really rubbish. but i just love how it is like Mr Blakes is just sitting having a chat with us and when he does his impressions it made me laugh! i love the sense you knock into me and give me the wake up call i need. thankyou for the empowering and for helping me see my self worth even if he doesnt see it :)

    • @RCBlakesJr.
      @RCBlakesJr.  6 років тому +3

      Natalie Cabrera Thank you. Are you from the UK?

    • @awakengrow
      @awakengrow 6 років тому +12

      hi! yes im from the south of England and wish you came to the Uk. I would love to go to one of your services! I always watch your videos (have replayed many!) and i feel like when you speak to us that it is very relevant and speaks out to me. thankyou for your time you take to make your videos. sometimes you need someone to just tell it how it is! I laugh, cry, agree, wake up, see clearer, question behaviour including mine and I think it is all making me grow as a person, much love
      Ps love your glasses selection #cool

    • @jaim6580
      @jaim6580 6 років тому +8

      Natalie that was beautiful. I totally relate and agree. Keep walking the path that you are on. Improving your mind,, (intellectually and emotionally). Body and soul. We must continue seeking God and growth and all aspects of our lives will continue to elevate! I am on the same journey and can appreciate everything you said Sister 💞🙏👍

    • @Rita-cy3qw
      @Rita-cy3qw 5 років тому +4

      RC Blakes, Jr yes please do come to the UK

  • @BlackCulturalPreservation2023
    @BlackCulturalPreservation2023 4 роки тому +16

    “Date for data.” ❤️

  • @marnecie
    @marnecie 6 років тому +220

    New subscriber today! I'm binge-watching your videos. I'm thoroughly enjoying the word of God and the lessons. Thank you

    • @lolaispure4296
      @lolaispure4296 6 років тому +2

      Marnecie Gorham you are so beautiful ♡♡

    • @marnecie
      @marnecie 6 років тому +2

      Mudenge Mukundwa Thank you

    • @jaim6580
      @jaim6580 6 років тому +3

      Very interesting and informative lessons being taught here. I'm binge watching too. LOL. Soaking up all this good insight!!

    • @BowDowN-bj6sw
      @BowDowN-bj6sw 6 років тому +1

      I'm a First timer Thank you Jesus for sending me these messages

    • @vevomaxx5779
      @vevomaxx5779 6 років тому +1

      Yes Marnecia he's the truth.

  • @ntabon0219
    @ntabon0219 8 років тому +38

    This was such a blessing to me! Been divorced for 5 years and it hasn't been easy on the dating scene! This information has totally opened my eyes. Thanks for posting:)

  • @anitaacker384
    @anitaacker384 6 років тому +22

    This guy IS such a wonderful teacher. I wish I was close enough to go to his church!

  • @marynelson1213
    @marynelson1213 8 років тому +65

    👀✋This teaching brought me joy. I laughed all the while learning.🙈💗

  • @geebrad4048
    @geebrad4048 6 років тому +46

    The liar will tell you he loves you, as he beds another for years...

  • @Lee-uv8zk
    @Lee-uv8zk 6 років тому +10

    My daughter has gotten me hooked on your videos and I have been sharing them with everyone! How refreshing, Praise God Almighty for you and your beautiful wife! I live in Chicago .

  • @AKMcCoyInc
    @AKMcCoyInc 8 років тому +16

    This is such good information. As a single mom I can try to tell this to my daughters but I think it helps to hear this kind of information from a man. This channel is a God send!! Thank you Pastor Blakes!

    • @majesticqueenj5725
      @majesticqueenj5725 6 років тому +1

      Money Smarts With THE REAL MCCOY I agree it is nice to hear from a man

  • @golden88goddess84
    @golden88goddess84 6 років тому +104

    an Inferior man feels less than you, will try to destroy you so he can be Superior to you usually they choose to cheat with a woman with less morals etc. because he dont have to face his demons by being with someone who has no good qualities or chatacter so he is able to maintain his large Ego and not deal with his low self-esteem and inner healing of his own issues he has. Never settle when Aware!

  • @phillyflytee9849
    @phillyflytee9849 6 років тому +46

    Man o man your speaking to my inner man. I prayed to God about someone and he answered me through you today.🔥🔥🔥

  • @coachtee7
    @coachtee7 5 років тому +140

    Avoid:
    Critic
    Inferior
    Apron Strings
    Liar
    Narcissist
    Commit Phob
    Talking Head
    Thank you Spiritual Dad.

  • @lashondacorderakawizdomwitaz
    @lashondacorderakawizdomwitaz 6 років тому +58

    God sent you to me today. Thank you 🙏🏾

  • @simpleekomplikated8713
    @simpleekomplikated8713 4 роки тому +14

    "Avoid the liar... Avoid the liar... Avoid the liar, avoid the liar, avoid the liar... Ummhmm"... 🤣🤣🤣💀💀👐

  • @MichaelsAngel14
    @MichaelsAngel14 6 років тому +15

    Binge-watching. All the way from Saudi Arabia

  • @shatellrivers9787
    @shatellrivers9787 5 років тому +52

    Date intelligently 👈
    Stop dating blindly🙈
    Stop dating with ur ears closed🙉
    Date God first be in love with God first😍 let God help you no one is perfect. God will help you be more spiritual discerning. With peoples motives.

  • @WovenPsalm
    @WovenPsalm 6 років тому +61

    Red flag-I commented on how well he understood and seemed to love the Word. He replied, "Satan knows the Word better than anyone." 🤢

    • @leaa9165
      @leaa9165 6 років тому +10

      Woven Psalm139:15 scary

    • @lovingtherightone
      @lovingtherightone 5 років тому +10

      This is a burning flag 😂😂

    • @CodyCole80
      @CodyCole80 5 років тому +18

      Woven Psalm139:15
      So he told you straight up he was a devil. 😒

    • @beedabee1221
      @beedabee1221 4 роки тому +3

      RUN!!!!!

    • @WovenPsalm
      @WovenPsalm 4 роки тому +6

      @@beedabee1221 haha. I left him to himself. We never developed an intimate relationship. Thank you😊

  • @CCRose-xi5lz
    @CCRose-xi5lz 7 років тому +50

    OMG, this is so good especially about don't waste time with the liar.

  • @AntoinetteMPetty
    @AntoinetteMPetty 5 років тому +27

    Mamma always told me, "Don't let cute kill yah"😳😳😳😳

  • @aliciasquaire9001
    @aliciasquaire9001 6 років тому +9

    At this point in my life,I need all the knowledge,and Wisdom I can get.I never had these teaching growing up,I had to learn the hard way,falling for a man good looks and sex almost got me killed which was the last straw.I thank God he let me live,to learn how to stay alive.Thankyou for helping save the lost ones,May God continue to bless you and keep you strong.

  • @rcha1967
    @rcha1967 6 років тому +7

    My life is so messed up because of a narcissist. This man has broken my spirit and crushed my hope of finding a good man.

  • @Sabreeus
    @Sabreeus 8 років тому +33

    So true we what you are saying and as women we need to listen to our gut feeling also those red flags. Thank you for sharing peace and Love!

  • @glorialynnjackson
    @glorialynnjackson 6 років тому +15

    Wish i could have heard this message when i was in my early twenties and early thirties😊 Such a good message. Just going through your messages, used to enjoy listening to your father. May God continue to bless you and your family!

  • @s.johnson1772
    @s.johnson1772 6 років тому +10

    When he said “Better to break your jaw with my dear”??? I hollered!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @jerrynavarro9580
    @jerrynavarro9580 6 років тому +42

    It's better to just be alone, ppl are full of u know what , men of full it , women are full of it. I wish I could just leave this western society , and start over . But he has a good message .

    • @luvinme9271
      @luvinme9271 4 роки тому +3

      I agree with you. People are not honest and mist times do not have their mates best interests at heart.

    • @cam4short
      @cam4short 4 роки тому

      I agree with this.

  • @rokenaedwards6804
    @rokenaedwards6804 8 років тому +51

    Thank you . For allowing God to use you. I needed to hear this.

  • @alikawhite6903
    @alikawhite6903 6 років тому +30

    This is really good information, thank you. Someone implied 'you don't need a lot of information, just let God choose for you'. Well my answer to that is, if I knew then what I know now I would be so much better off. Yes Pray to God for guidance, but People (churchgoers) are at so many diff levels of understanding and growth in their walk not to mention what was modeled for us. I also have seen people be deceived by the enemy thinking it was God who stepped in and sent this person as 'the one', only to be I will say again, deceived. If we were not taught proper healthy boundaries we need to be informed in order to have discernment. Blessings all!

  • @giftednanointedcrafts6650
    @giftednanointedcrafts6650 6 років тому +17

    I Must admit Pastor Blakes your videos give me strength and a very positive feeling in my Spirit! Thank you so much sir Keep them coming. 😊😊😆😆🤗🤗😇😇🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔📯📯🔔🔔🎤🎤🎤🎤🎤

  • @realtalkandinspirationswit540
    @realtalkandinspirationswit540 8 років тому +40

    My God shut it down dad...he,he,he..I giggle because I adopted u as my spiritual father months ago. I'm learning soooo much from u MOG. I'm learning and taking notes. I just ordered the Father Daughter Talk Study Guide. I been in ministry for 26 yrs. and I've learned more in my latter yrs. then I've learned in my younger yrs. in ministering. Just being honest, because the older churches back then didn't talk about these thing's, they didn't teach like this. I had to grow up from the old way of doing thing's. I almost feel like I missed something. I feel like I have to play catch up. lol

    • @Caramel_Queen504
      @Caramel_Queen504 8 років тому +3

      +Real Talk And Inspirations With Coco Me too...look at him as a spiritual father. I wish I heard this years ago...would have saved me a lot of pain and heartbreak.

    • @realtalkandinspirationswit540
      @realtalkandinspirationswit540 8 років тому +4

      Yesssss God me too, I love Bishop RC Blakes Jr. He's awesome at what he does.

    • @shirleymccoy2644
      @shirleymccoy2644 6 років тому

      Real Talk And Inspirations With Evangelist Coco.

  • @christinacataldi877
    @christinacataldi877 6 років тому +3

    I can’t go a Day with out listening to Pastor Blake’s! He’s the Father I never had growing up. My Dad was there in body but absent in every other way. Workaholic and I was a glorified pet in my family. I was punished for having needs that exceeded what they felt was what was considered the necessities. It’s no wonder I’ve had such awfully bankrupt relationships. God has made provision through Pastor Blake’s to get some real fatherly parenting and guidance. I’m heeding all his wisdom because he’s RIGHT!!! No ifs or buts about it!!!

    • @RCBlakesJr.
      @RCBlakesJr.  6 років тому

      Loralie Cataldi WOW.🙏🏽 Thank you for this.

  • @mell4327
    @mell4327 7 років тому +16

    Date intelligently!! Thank youuu Pastor Robert! God continue to bless you

  • @oneblessedladyallsbrook1057
    @oneblessedladyallsbrook1057 8 років тому +73

    I needed this years ago. I married a narcissist. Thank you so much for the information though.

    • @crownedmelaninqueen
      @crownedmelaninqueen 6 років тому +6

      OneBlessedLady Allsbrook Me too I feel so angry ...going through this divorce process I have so much disdain for ex spouse. He focuses on himself , he hasn't considered my feelings for years but I felt like we could still make it cause we love each other, however its not a good relationship.

  • @melinatedvessel6840
    @melinatedvessel6840 6 років тому +53

    Inferiors will ultimately end up,trying to compete with you,in an unhealthy way.

    • @Mrg524
      @Mrg524 4 роки тому +5

      yes - that sounds like ‘covert narcissists.’

    • @juliannesharpe3066
      @juliannesharpe3066 4 роки тому +6

      That is the spirit of jealousy driven by insecurity and envy.

  • @busisiwekunene1327
    @busisiwekunene1327 4 роки тому +15

    Sad because men we meet these days have no time for conversations they just want to hit and run ..

  • @cking7989
    @cking7989 5 років тому +60

    I have one extra. Avoid the one who Only talks about their child like they are married to the child. He runs everything through his pre-teen and does what the child says. He creates drama and includes the child. The child is ALWAYS before you.

    • @toussaintan
      @toussaintan 4 роки тому +3

      yes and I feel selfish to say I feel my guy is too close to his 35 yr old daughter and her 11 yr old son. It's like they're a couple, raising her child. They spend so much time together between handling their business and family time.

    • @enniairizahtarot333
      @enniairizahtarot333 4 роки тому

      👍

    • @yvettehudson6706
      @yvettehudson6706 4 роки тому +4

      Yes! Love your children but don’t be so blind of them that you can’t see past them and put them so far above all others that you can’t be on any level w him compared to his children. I had a relationship where the man said if we were married his kids were the only one he was leaving all his life ins and money. His kids were all he cared about. They weren’t mine w him. But it’s hard to imagine marrying a man who loves his kids more than he will ever love you and thinks this way. I do believe take care of your kids but understand he expected me to leave all my things to him. As married it would be right in his eyes. But his poor kids in his eyes. My kids would be taken care of then by him. To trust him.

    • @toussaintan
      @toussaintan 4 роки тому +1

      @@yvettehudson6706I agree Yvette....but explain your last 3 sentences please..."But his poor kids in his eyes. My kids would be taken care of then by him. To trust him."

    • @shannadearz8474
      @shannadearz8474 4 роки тому

      100%

  • @mifnp8887
    @mifnp8887 6 років тому +6

    Pastor Blakes, now that was a word right here. As a new sub, I have been bingeing on all of your videos. I have been divorced for 12 years now and admit I ignored ALL of the wisdom you just presented. I wasn't as close to the Lord as I am now. Since then, I haven't dated or even 'conversed' (absolutely nothing) because I heard from God and He told me to get my house in order: I finished my doctorate, settled my finances, and turned toward Jesus as my husband during this period. I wasn't even lonely.
    Last year, as I was finishing my doctorate, God began to prepare me (like Esther was prepared for 9 months in precious oils) for the next chapter in my life: To be a wife. Even though I am older and have no children, I know the husband God has prepared for me will be 7 times better than my-ex narcissistic husband. After I relocate (in 8 months), I will let my future husband FIND ME. Thank you, Pastor. I appreciate you so much!! :)

    • @THE-tc1cy
      @THE-tc1cy Рік тому +1

      I loved reading this 🥰🥰🥰

  • @queenqueen4394
    @queenqueen4394 6 років тому +108

    "BETTER TO BREAK YOUR JAW, MY DEAR"
    😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @HappinessWellnssLove
    @HappinessWellnssLove 4 роки тому +3

    Lord, why did I let this happen? I totally lost myself for this man. He always stated that I was too ambitious, too smart, I knew too much, and I dummied down for this.... Thank you!

  • @Kiery112
    @Kiery112 6 років тому +140

    Avoid the narcissist. I guess that cancels out most men lol

    • @newlifenewhope5905
      @newlifenewhope5905 5 років тому +9

      kiera evangelist Far too many women, as well, these days!

    • @g-max2810
      @g-max2810 5 років тому +6

      Most man don’t fight bite or talk you to death just angry and brings up pass pain all the time.

    • @buffhotchkiss7400
      @buffhotchkiss7400 5 років тому +8

      Thank you lord. It takes so much work just to formulate your career and keep.your grind going. They always come in when your not looking or are really busy making a better life for yourself.

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 4 роки тому

      Maybe just the ones you attract?

    • @antoniaadams2084
      @antoniaadams2084 4 роки тому +1

      Blessed Rivers & Streams I agree, the key is strengthening the filter.

  • @virtuous_committed
    @virtuous_committed 7 років тому +128

    That was the 1st thing my husband said to me, "I don't date just to be dating, I date for marriage." Come to find out 5 1/2 yrs later, that he is a habitual cheater and he tell all the women that he gets involved with, the same thing.

    • @lashondarochell7584
      @lashondarochell7584 7 років тому +20

      Jacqueline Gardner + So sorry you went through that, Believe me that is not how God intended your marriage to be.

    • @beauty4ashes49
      @beauty4ashes49 7 років тому +7

      Me too.Discovered the cheater at 4 years.

    • @majesticqueenj5725
      @majesticqueenj5725 6 років тому +7

      Jacqueline Bond so sorry ur time was wasted n you went thru that.

    • @sophisticatedmm3632
      @sophisticatedmm3632 6 років тому +15

      Precisely they tell you what you want to hear.

    • @nikkyshamz2696
      @nikkyshamz2696 6 років тому +7

      A line...

  • @calideeholmes6822
    @calideeholmes6822 7 років тому +17

    1st time subscriber... you provide a wealth of soul searching and healing information... may God continue to shine his grace on you and your ministry and cover you with the blood of Jesus... i am enjoying your messages... i am personally relationshipped out... no longer interested in marriage but enjoy your teachings and i take your teachings to heart and will use them to help others... God bless you and your family... they are so blessed to have you in their lives...

  • @Yahwehschosenones
    @Yahwehschosenones 6 років тому +5

    Youre words are just Godsent right now... Thank you Mr. Blakes... Probably one of the most important and essential videos for my young souls beginning to a Christian life. 23 years old been abstinent from men for a whole year and staying strong in myself and my Father, and His Son
    Jesus, and i know my worth now... more than ever. Ive never felt so beautiful and alive. Being in love with Jesus is exactly what youd search for in a relationship. Because that's your most important relationship. Next comes a man who wins YOU over. Stop chasing them my sisters of Christ!!!!

  • @kimberlye8846
    @kimberlye8846 4 роки тому +9

    I believe in having a lot of conversation to determine if investment is feasible because when it’s not, the red flags 🚩 in spirit go off very strongly and I have learned to stop dating this person.

  • @curtistinemiller1560
    @curtistinemiller1560 6 років тому +50

    IM COMING TO YOUR CLASS ON DATING WITH COMMON SENSE.NEVER DATE A FULL TIME CRITIC.NEVER DATE A INFERIOR..AVOID A PERSON STILL TIED TO THE APRON STRINGS. AVOID THE LIAR. AVOID THE. NARRCCIST. AVOID THE COMMITMENT PHOBE. AVOID THE PERSON THAT TALKS TOO MUCH...

    • @torrihoward9729
      @torrihoward9729 6 років тому +5

      WOW! SMH 😫
      Sure wish I'd heard this 23 years ago. "Can't get the time back, so true"! I used to often ask myself Why? Was I that desperate for a man? Any man( with no standards)? Lesson Learned 👍
      Thanks for teaching an old dog new tricks! 💪🤗. Pastor Blakes
      God Bless 🙏

  • @kbartistb908
    @kbartistb908 6 років тому +49

    Life is so hard. Even having the wisdom it's so hard to wait and believe that there is something good for me. My whole life has been crazy. Why didn't the holy ghost wave his flags and give me better parents?.. I can't take it. It's alot of work to be Holy. It's alot of work to be smart. It's such a fight in this life life.

    • @girlinthesouth850
      @girlinthesouth850 6 років тому +1

      Kbartist b 🙁

    • @Tracey..H
      @Tracey..H 6 років тому +2

      Kbartist b no joke

    • @dianalorenzi4272
      @dianalorenzi4272 6 років тому +7

      By praying , having faith, Believing in God Almighty, and reading scriptures. You just don't give up, The devil is layer. where is your faith? Your hope. God bless.

    • @lovingtherightone
      @lovingtherightone 5 років тому +13

      look, I am divorced single mum going through a painful breakup right now, nobody taught me or prepared me for all of the sickness of this world, but I give thanks to my Heavenly Father for all the guidance and although I thought I knew better or wasn't spiritual enough and made mistakes He brought me to the point I can rise up again and gave me even more hunger for His presence and His word, because people fail, but He is faithful and through experiences makes us grow 💖👑

    • @chriseasler1116
      @chriseasler1116 4 роки тому

      Yes

  • @TheNandM
    @TheNandM 7 років тому +8

    Pay attention to the "Flaming Flags, they on fire for ya!" LOL. I heard that. Thanks for sharing your wisdom.

  • @aliciayoung4348
    @aliciayoung4348 6 років тому +13

    So So True!!! Need To Be a Detective These Days if You're Dating! Date Intelligently! Knowledge is Powerful if Used Correctly! Thank You for This Knowledge☺

  • @tanyawilliams2761
    @tanyawilliams2761 8 років тому +46

    Oh I can so relate to that inferior person! They are the worse!

  • @NeaneyBeany
    @NeaneyBeany 5 років тому +1

    My 13 year old daughter is listening with me. She’s giggling at certain things you say but she’s truly listening. I’m glad she’s smart enough to be still and listen. Train um up!!

  • @monicadwight5631
    @monicadwight5631 6 років тому +6

    You're an excellent teacher - Thank you so much for your lessons

  • @tjsproles4992
    @tjsproles4992 6 років тому +22

    #1 (the full-time critic) sounds like a narcissistic sociopath. They are EXHAUSTING and depressing! Exit stage left on these individuals too!

  • @conchettam6861
    @conchettam6861 7 років тому +14

    ANOTHER GREAT VIDEO..PASTOR!!!!☺MY EX BOYFRIEND WAS A NARCISSIST...THANK YOU..JESUS.FROM TAKEN HIM OUT MY LIFE... BROUGHT ME to HELL...AND BACK!!! No...More!!!

  • @Zarasha1
    @Zarasha1 5 років тому +10

    No ringy no dingy. That's right. These men want to taste first. I like what the pastor said. I'm holding my ground.

  • @majesticqueenj5725
    @majesticqueenj5725 6 років тому +51

    That is exactly why im leaving. He is a Narcissistic we've bn together 5yrs. My previous relationship with a narcissists was 10yrs ago! I was with him fr 6yrs. I know I can NOT marry this man. Thanks for sharing

    • @leaa9165
      @leaa9165 6 років тому +3

      Boss Lady J but why did u waste nine years tho

    • @majesticqueenj5725
      @majesticqueenj5725 6 років тому +2

      Lea Adusei i was with him 6yrs. It was 10yrs ago not 9.

  • @godsdaughter2185
    @godsdaughter2185 8 років тому +11

    Exactly !! Drains self esteem

  • @josannebritto6898
    @josannebritto6898 6 років тому +5

    I love listening to u, they said experience is the best lesson in life I'm so happy u sharing all your experiences and how God has changed your life. I wish I had a dad like u. Thanks to a good friend who send me this link. I'll continue listening and ask God for the strength to make some serious changes in my life. God bless u.

  • @mrsbarbarav
    @mrsbarbarav 7 років тому +138

    Avoid The liar 🤥

    • @emmabaptiste1730
      @emmabaptiste1730 5 років тому +6

      They are usually beneath you cowards

    • @andraholmes1448
      @andraholmes1448 5 років тому +1

      Great wisdom thank you very much.

    • @andraholmes1448
      @andraholmes1448 5 років тому

      1

    • @Josh-ct6ue
      @Josh-ct6ue 5 років тому +2

      Emma Baptiste yeah especially when there not honest about past things or even present

  • @cherylmcleod7357
    @cherylmcleod7357 7 років тому +9

    Hey ur videos helped me tremendously.....u were recommended by a fellow follower...I jus got out of a narcissistic relationship...great advice from a spiritual aspect....I'm walking down a spiritual path and he played the game by pulling out the bible or quoting from the bible...I later learn this is a cerebral narcissist...I thx God that social media has allowed me access to information to help heal myself rather than tolerate misery...God bless u bishop

  • @goddiamond593
    @goddiamond593 6 років тому +20

    Yesssss. I just shut the door on a 40 year old man who said IF THE WOMAN BRING THEIR KIDS OUT TO DINNER HE CALLS HIS MOMMA TO GO WITH HIM...I COULD HAVE SCREAMED.....YOU NOT FOR ME BECAUSE I'M NOT ABOUT TO BE CAUGHT UP IN THAT...IF HIS MOMMA CLOSE HER EYES HE WILL BE LOST....AND HE WAS A LIER TOOOOO...LOL...ABOUT SMALL THINGS..

  • @mb5857
    @mb5857 6 років тому +4

    A texterizer, Pastor. You are a certified TRIP lololol..😂🐩😂🦁😂🦄!!

  • @starrymichi9995
    @starrymichi9995 3 роки тому +1

    This is so true. I dated the holier-than-thou. Thou he has good looks, he doesn't seem to hear me or make me feel understood. He just wants me to smile always because frowning is bad. Being angry is bad. He said a true Christian has joy. He dismisses my problems when all I need is just someone who listens. We were in the same church.

  • @sandrinesimon535
    @sandrinesimon535 6 років тому +3

    I'm a new subby, Man of God Thank You for dispensing God's word, solid counsel & hard truths in love. I Needed this & I know Abba led me here to see/hear you in This hour! Hallelujah Lord, His truth is Relevant!!!

  • @sharonbrown4939
    @sharonbrown4939 4 роки тому +1

    Date intelligently,date with your head,get data that's the main reason for dating.preach pastor.

  • @travism3307
    @travism3307 5 років тому +3

    I Always get go information and understanding from your videos! I ended up with a female narcissist and I almost lost my mind literally!!

  • @aroyaldiadem3873
    @aroyaldiadem3873 4 роки тому +1

    These messages are saving countless lives and helping us to destroy unhealthy generational patterns/cycles. God bless you for this, your labor will never be in vain.🙏🏽💚💚💚

  • @farfetched9296
    @farfetched9296 5 років тому +6

    Wish I had this advice before my marriage, but luckily life goes on...this works in all aspects of life friendships, the work place, lovers, and potential spouses....thank you for the video....you're saving alot of lives and headaches....

  • @yvettenkemjimanka7277
    @yvettenkemjimanka7277 3 роки тому

    Best pastor ever . You don’t mince words. You keep it realllll. “No ringing ,no banging “

  • @shanellmiller6417
    @shanellmiller6417 6 років тому +5

    Great info!!! I stumbled over the soul tie video and then listened to this one....I really needed to hear this years ago but I know now that at this time in my life, I'm ready to receive and act on what I've heard. Thank you for obeying God😊😊

  • @kutenfun26
    @kutenfun26 4 роки тому +1

    I tuned into one of your lessons on a fluke 3 yrs ago and are now apart of my morning. You are teaching me a lot about being a woman and how to conduct myself since I didn't have any examples growing up. I knew I wanted to be a woman of God and carry myself in a way and NOT FEEL BAD about what I want, need, desire,expect, demand, give, allow, and take from a MAN.
    You have taught me how to deal with people and family members who have hurt me and how to love them regardless and how I can keep my distance and not feel bad about it.
    May God continue to bless you and your family and may HE continue to use you to teach us young women how to live 💞💞💞💞💞🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿

  • @vitareid
    @vitareid 5 років тому +7

    "No ringy no dingy!" I can't!

  • @Lee-uv8zk
    @Lee-uv8zk 6 років тому +1

    Oh thankyou beloved! My mom is 76 years old and she just loves you and can't stop listening to you! She wants to meet you one day!

  • @IMarie-xs5dg
    @IMarie-xs5dg 5 років тому +4

    Pastor Blakes i enjoy your teachings so much, I have learned so much by watching and listening to you :) Thank you so much for sharing yourself with us.

  • @secondopinion53
    @secondopinion53 5 років тому +1

    Brother you are Preaching!!! Sometimes the Commercial!! Is better than the Product!!! I love how Real! You are brother..

  • @sophiasmith5949
    @sophiasmith5949 6 років тому +4

    Something about a church dude that always wanna call someone else crazy but they be the main ones hearing voices ... “ i heard the voice of the lord say”....

  • @brenda9633
    @brenda9633 4 роки тому +2

    I needed this today. Even though the video is from a long time ago. Thank you Pastor Blake's