I Walked Out of an AA Meeting in Tears plus How I Got Back Into Facebook

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КОМЕНТАРІ • 468

  • @rachelnyn5543
    @rachelnyn5543 Місяць тому +87

    You ARE a trusted servant. You are NOT HER servant! ✌🏼💙

  • @hannakinn
    @hannakinn Місяць тому +66

    That AA bully is probably an HOA Committee member

  • @DawnsBreak111
    @DawnsBreak111 Місяць тому +58

    You endured these stressful events and did NOT drink. Your heart is in the right place, Darlene and I'm proud of you.

  • @tamitatlock5621
    @tamitatlock5621 Місяць тому +27

    You removed yourself from a toxic situation. Good on you!

  • @brendaedstrohm2016
    @brendaedstrohm2016 Місяць тому +41

    This incident has only made you stronger. Please return to the meeting and DO NOT let this woman try to pressure you into doing anything that you are not comfortable doing. This will show the young man that you are the bigger person and that this woman was in the wrong. Hang in there you are awesome and a good person.

  • @melissamellinger6809
    @melissamellinger6809 Місяць тому +35

    By far this was the best meeting I have ever been too. I haven't lost my faith in AA for others, but I had lost it for me because of people like you talked about. I have allowed others to ruin the 12-step thing for me and feel so jaded . Now because of you sharing this story, i may go feeling stronger and standing my ground with those who try to push their agenda on me. Even my sister tried to take my experience and make it about her. Thank you, you are so Brave to share this story. I am not the only one that has felt wounded by others. I won't allow them to steal my personal jouney and path from me again. Bless you.

    • @darlene.michaud
      @darlene.michaud  Місяць тому +22

      Thank you for your comment. It’s comments like this that make me know that we need to talk about this stuff. You have made me feel that I did the right thing by talking about it. Thank you!

    • @grandam195
      @grandam195 Місяць тому +4

      Contrary to what they say in 12 step programs, you can work your program all on your own. All you need is a coffeepot, the book and a pet to talk to. If you don't have a pet, make friends with a neighbors. They don't judge and don't put you down. I do. A lot. I have mini meetings with me, myself and I in attendance. Meetings are nice, when they have a group of supportive and awesome people in them. Don't let anybody steal your sobriety. You need some help working the 4th step and the 12th you need another person to help. My sponsor was not being helpful and a dude at the meetings sat me down and took me through my 4th step out of sequence, because I needed it. He saved me. You do you and you be the best version of you possible. You and all the others on here deserve it.

    • @darlene.michaud
      @darlene.michaud  Місяць тому +12

      I have zero desire to do any of those steps. It’s not my thing. No steps. No higher power. And I don’t care to do it on my own all alone. The whole point of me going to the meetings is because I want to go out and be around people. I was a recluse for way too many years. I need to force myself to be around people. I realize that means encounters with assholes. It’s how I’m going to learn how to act on the outside world.

  • @belleve5709
    @belleve5709 Місяць тому +36

    You did the right thing Darlene, I'm sorry she said that, I don't have your courage to stand up for myself, so you stood up for many

  • @pepsigirl1956
    @pepsigirl1956 Місяць тому +29

    Darlene I have followed you for way over 5 years. Getting to old to remember how long now. During all this time I have laughed and cried with you, Wanting to give you a big hug n tell you that you are an amazing lady. You go from strength to strength all the time. Respect is what I feel right now. You have many silent friends here but we are with you we got your back as they say. From a older sister across the pond I the UK hugs x

  • @pamelajune6680
    @pamelajune6680 Місяць тому +39

    I'm sorry you experienced that junk in a meeting. Some people need to be reminded that it is principles before personalities in an AA meeting and that ladys' personality and need to control can really put a damper in another persons' serenity. When you are ready, I really hope you do go back because it would give you some of your power back in your own self worth/self-esteem. Reading in a meeting and/or giving out medallions is OPTIONAL; you have your facts straight about that. Bless you for being so vulnerable with us. You are a beautiful work in progress and I will continue to stay tuned in Darlene!

  • @TripleJDairy
    @TripleJDairy Місяць тому +45

    Good for you standing up for yourself Darlene! Yes! Good for you!

  • @mplummer1574
    @mplummer1574 Місяць тому +22

    Omg…I went to a Bible study and when I found out we had to read I was out of there! I wish they could show this video at your meeting. EVERYTHING YOU SAID WAS SO TRUE AND SO WELL SAID!

  • @Mrsstick07
    @Mrsstick07 Місяць тому +48

    You probably don't realise what an amazing person you are. You have changed so much from when I first watched the hair cutting vid. I hope your able to return to that meeting, and set the record straight. You are such an inspiration, thank you Darlene. 😊 x

    • @beverlymccracken4953
      @beverlymccracken4953 Місяць тому +4

      I just finished watching your video...Oh brother...you're wonderful, Darlene. I believe you were more than justified to "remind her" to back off! I do hope you run into the young guy. You're good just like you are! Thank you for your video.

  • @febeleven
    @febeleven Місяць тому +37

    Fuck that shit, nobody would make me do something I was not comfortable about!
    That lady is not the boss of you! Way to stand your ground!
    Your strong and if you go back just let them know what happened! Now that lady knows not to upset you!

    • @rosemaryhanderson6122
      @rosemaryhanderson6122 Місяць тому +1

      I am a member of ALANON. it was my best education I started 30 years ago when I was 50. Keep on taking care of yourself. There are good and bad people in all walks of life. They will turn up everywhere. Don’t let that stop you from becoming the strong woman you are becoming.

  • @benitascraftylife
    @benitascraftylife Місяць тому +16

    Darlene, you have touched me so many times through the years. You'll never know. But when you explained why I blow up, I started crying. I've gone to many counselors through the years and have never been told that. Girl you have so much strength! I know so much of what you are going through. I just wanted to share a little nugget that I carry with me..." It's not where you are, it's how far you've come". It just reminds me where I started. Hugs to you. Thank you for sharing.

    • @darlene.michaud
      @darlene.michaud  Місяць тому +15

      Counselors are book smart, but very few of them suffered the things that they treat others for. You have to have lived it to know it. I get more help from videos on UA-cam and TikTok than any of the therapists that I’ve seen in my lifetime. We are very fortunate that people can share their messages now and we get to see a whole lot of other people with lives like we had. And that’s why I shared too. Thank you for your comment. It helps me so much when I know that I can help others.

  • @margaret7925
    @margaret7925 Місяць тому +13

    One has no idea how many nice people are out there. Humanity is truly living and breathing with stories like this 😊 thank you 🙏🏽 for this Jason for helping Darlene.

  • @sharonbillig8210
    @sharonbillig8210 Місяць тому +17

    Darlene, you are SO STRONG! The growth we have all witnessed in you is phenomenal! I applaud you taking a stand AND applaud your plan to get right back into your next meeting. Speak your truth and you will be supported❤️

  • @bonniewalker5225
    @bonniewalker5225 Місяць тому +27

    We're here for you Darlene. You're a survivor and I'm proud of how you're handling this. You do what's right for you.

    • @missmary9950
      @missmary9950 Місяць тому

      💖💖💖

    • @saleenahaffenden8292
      @saleenahaffenden8292 Місяць тому +1

      Darlene is an absolute warrior and an example of strength, courage and growth that we all are learning from.

  • @nancygash4134
    @nancygash4134 Місяць тому +13

    I’m so happy you stood up for yourself! I absolutely love your stories and your creativity on sewing and life in general. Please go back to that meeting and talk about the situation that happened

  • @pamelatheado6484
    @pamelatheado6484 Місяць тому +24

    Darlene you are so fortunate that Jason answered your call for help. I’m so happy for you.

  • @annamoreau457
    @annamoreau457 Місяць тому +22

    Thank you, Jason!!! A knight in shining armor!

  • @marysmith5544
    @marysmith5544 Місяць тому +10

    You are a very empathetic person who feels deeply and you care deeply. You will get past this and you will find the courage and strength to go back in your own time. Bless you for being a welcoming person to the young man and hopefully you do see him again soon. Hoping your week gets so much better Darlene!

  • @deehahn2992
    @deehahn2992 Місяць тому +12

    Shame on that Lady. She should not be making people feel this way. I'm so sorry this happend to you. You have come a long way, dont forge it!

  • @patf4780
    @patf4780 Місяць тому +12

    Don't let one bad apple spoil the group! Darlene go back and walk in and hold your head high. So glad you got your FB back. My daughter lost her acct but it took me 3 months of fighting with a FB Bot and I won and got it back!

  • @jenelks1495
    @jenelks1495 Місяць тому +16

    OMG!! Loving your hair today!! It's 🔥🔥🔥 So happy someone nice and willing to help had your old number!

  • @lafifer
    @lafifer Місяць тому +6

    Correction: Don't let that woman BULLY YOU! You can't change others, but you can protect you and know you are a wonderful kind person.

  • @robinpowell2712
    @robinpowell2712 Місяць тому +14

    You didn't ruin it. Be kind to yourself. Many hugs❤

  • @irenew6202
    @irenew6202 Місяць тому +13

    I went through something similar to that at a church and I dropped the F bomb to this woman on the phone not one person not even the minister picked up the phone and said what happened I left that church I have not entered another church since that day... I am so sorry Darlene you went through that

  • @PatLeo-kf9bc
    @PatLeo-kf9bc Місяць тому +9

    Darlene, I'm so sorry that happened to you. You know there are A**holes in AA as well as outside of AA. Some people get rid of drinking but keep their negative personality traits. Just remember AA is supposed to be principles above personality and you are so right the only requirement for AA is the desire not to drink.

  • @-Lily7415
    @-Lily7415 Місяць тому +11

    I’m so sorry that happened to you at the meeting.
    I know exactly what you mean about having had enough and standing up for yourself,because you took it for so long as a child.
    I have done this myself and unfortunately I feel the onlookers see me as difficult or a loose cannon possibly??
    I know why you cried because no one gets it unless they went through it themselves.
    The thing is I am everybody’s friend until someone tries to control me .When I make it known I will not be controlled by a simple NO
    To a possible narcissist ?? They won’t have it and push back. When you explode they sit back and remain calm and you ( I) end up looking like the cr a z y one to others .
    I wish they had meetings for people who suffered narcissistic abuse.
    I could use a support group for 50 plus years !
    Sending hugs to you 💚

  • @carolhulse8465
    @carolhulse8465 Місяць тому +10

    My God..she sounds like your mother. That woman needs help. This is not the AA I knew about.
    You are doing sooo well! I would call AA headquarters...! Love you!❤

  • @EphanyasisOwleyes
    @EphanyasisOwleyes Місяць тому +13

    If a group doesn't work with you they aren't what you need

  • @priestessbrenda
    @priestessbrenda Місяць тому +13

    Darlene I am so so sorry you went through that. Just remember how loved you truly are. XO

  • @jenihansen7201
    @jenihansen7201 Місяць тому +11

    Jason, you did good my man. thank you for helping Darlene.
    Never let anyone make you feel badly for reacting to a person who tries to force you. I would support you. Give me the name of the director of the place, and I will explain.

  • @elena3831
    @elena3831 Місяць тому +14

    Wow! I’m so sorry you went through that . Rise above. That lady has her own issues and by doing what she did was her way of dealing with her life. You’re awesome and don’t let that situation get to you.❤❤❤

    • @darlene.michaud
      @darlene.michaud  Місяць тому +19

      Yes, we all have issues, but you don’t take it out on someone. I can be a royal bitch when I want, but I’m not going to instigate anything like she did. I would never try to hurt anyone in an AA meeting, of all places. She on purpose did this because she knows how nervous I am. Makes me even more mad now that I think about it. But yeah, I would never start something with someone like that. But if they’re going to start something with me? Watch the fuck out!

    • @elena3831
      @elena3831 Місяць тому +1

      @@darlene.michaud you go girl! But is she really worth the energy? People like that are a waste of time . ❤️❤️❤️

    • @darlene.michaud
      @darlene.michaud  Місяць тому +1

      Worth what energy? Even if I went back, I would not be hanging out with her, lol.

    • @elena3831
      @elena3831 Місяць тому

      @@darlene.michaud ANY energy even to look at her lol. Just stay away from bottom feeders.

    • @friedareading6814
      @friedareading6814 Місяць тому

      @@darlene.michaudshe is not your boss and she needs to get over it, how dare her to boss instead of just to encourage you ,maybe sometime to speak at a later time! Sorry you went through this. Better days ahead, go have some fun elsewhere. Do the craft group again, they want boss you! Join a quilt guild and meet those terrific people! Stay well and take care! 👍❤️😎😊

  • @SusieAngeloTheEstheticGoddess
    @SusieAngeloTheEstheticGoddess Місяць тому +14

    Darlene, I have been watching you for years and have learned so much about human behavior in the best way! Evey one gets triggered in different ways. By leaving and feeling your emotions was the biggest honor you could do for yourself! It's okay to fall. We do it all the time because without it we would not grow stronger. This will totally make you even more stronger and is all a part of your healing journey! Sending you much love!

  • @jillthomas366
    @jillthomas366 Місяць тому +4

    Good for you! That lady sounds like a control freak and I’m sure some of those people at that meeting were glad that someone finally let her have it! I bet you’ll get a standing ovation! 😂😂

  • @stephaniewilson222
    @stephaniewilson222 Місяць тому +22

    You have come a very long way. You have overcome so damn much. This woman has no idea what you have had to get through to be where you are today. I would have been upset to be put on the spot as well after telling this woman, no, I am not comfortable doing that. This is a group to help people with an alchohol problem, which like you said, means they have triggers that made them drink in the first place. You being vunerable, and telling her how you felt, should have been enough for her to leave you alone. Putting you on the spot after you told her no was cruel and intentional. She obviously loves to be in charge and feel powerful and was using you to feel better about herself.
    Please do not be upset with yourself for how you acted. As you said, you did not have a voice for way too long and no one has the right to ignore your feelings and make you feel bad. This was about her feeding her own feelings of power, and she was abusive. If I was in her position, and omeone told me no, I am not comfortable, I would find a time at a later date, alone, to ask them more about it. But it would NEVER treat another person that way. It was so unfair.
    LIke you said, everyone can help in their own way, and that is how it should be. I am just so sorry this woman put you in that position, it was completely wrong and unkind.

  • @cathihill4683
    @cathihill4683 Місяць тому +5

    Oh hell no! I’m so proud of you! BTW your hair looks fantastic!

  • @melaniemiller2912
    @melaniemiller2912 Місяць тому +6

    Darlene, thank you for talking about your life. I find comfort in knowing that I am not alone.

  • @jeaniecampbell4184
    @jeaniecampbell4184 Місяць тому +6

    It wasn’t awful of you for doing what you did. It’s awful of her to try to push things on people. Because of my anxiety I can’t read aloud in front of people. I panic. You did the right thing.

  • @CanerTaslcay-lv7pb
    @CanerTaslcay-lv7pb Місяць тому +6

    Hi Darlene, I've been watching your videos for a few years but I've never commented before. You were the first person to get me interested in quilting and I was 75yrs of age when I attempted my first quilt ever. I'm now 77yrs and I've made a few quilts which are far from perfect but I've given them to my family and they love them. Your video today touched me so much I felt compelled to have a little chat with you to hopefully make you feel a little better. I know nothing about AA but I think you should go back with your head held high and everyone will see your a much better person than that horrible woman. Don't let her spoil your nights there.
    Thank you so much for all your wonderful videos, I've been with you through your bad times and good and I'll keep looking forward to your next ones.
    All my very best wishes from Margaret , the Midlands U K x x x

  • @thresalusk6215
    @thresalusk6215 Місяць тому +4

    Don’t be ashamed or afraid to be yourself and voice your opinion. No one should push someone to doing something they’re not ready to do . Go back when you’re ready hold your head high. You should be proud of all your accomplishments

  • @leannetrotter4414
    @leannetrotter4414 Місяць тому +7

    I THINK YOU DID ALRIGHT AND YOU ARE OK !!! WELL DONE !!!

  • @byTjo
    @byTjo Місяць тому +3

    Darlene, I HAVE TO TELL YOU that THIS very video saved mine and my husbands life literally. If I had not waken at 2:30 for no reason and checked my phone and saw you had surfaced again with a title like, "I Walked Out of an AA Meeting in Tears....." I would not have been awake to see the fire that was starting in a string of decorative lites I had on in the living room.
    The day before I unearthed a box of my old AA journals from the early 80's. I haven't read them in 30+ years. All day I read those journals and I was getting outraged at what happened to me in AA and while listening to you I started getting all outraged again at your nasty queen bee who feels she owns this particular meeting and I was all fired up (oh! pun not intended) So I was wide awake and saw my string of lights "twinkling" . These lights don't twinkle. So I got up to look at them and as I did RIGHT THEN they started ON FIRE. Each little light was melting it's silicone covering and the bulbs were popping and catching on fire. I pulled them out of the wall and threw them outside into a bucket of water that just happened to be there. WTF?! Seriously, I thought I have to tell Darlene what just happened and then thought better of it, like does this really matter, will she give a shit - I don't know but the whole irony of it made just decide to do it. I don't generally contact YT-ers. But for me, know that YOU posting that video caught my attention after waking up all groggy for no reason and by your title I HAD TO WATCH IT RIGHT THEN. If I hadn't been up, they would have all gone up in flames and stayed in flames and who knows..... We live in rural RI and WE are the fire department. Now everytime I see your beautiful authentic real face, I'm going to think of the fire I put out only because I was watching you tell a story about AA. For real. I really hope you read this. Just blows me away. And thank you.

  • @vickyowens4064
    @vickyowens4064 Місяць тому +3

    We are here for you Darlene!! I watch and enjoy your videos so much!! I am not shy, I am maybe too outspoken at times but that lady would have been told if I did not want to do it I would not!! She sounds like some people I know that think they are "in charge" of everything when they are not. Go back girl, let them know you need to become more comfortable with them as a group to participate. SUPPORT is what they are there for!!!

  • @lafifer
    @lafifer Місяць тому +3

    Nobody appointed her Dictator Ruler Supreme! Go Back - don't let that woman be such a bully! You Stood Your Ground! Good for you!

  • @CYNWORLD
    @CYNWORLD Місяць тому +5

    Well if they do not welcome you back, you do not want to stay there. She sounds like a Bully and control freak.

  • @bdmeans62
    @bdmeans62 Місяць тому +3

    I'm so sorry you were treated like that at the meeting. You should not ever have to be pressured into doing anything you're uncomfortable with. I've been to many meetings and her behavior was unacceptable to say the least! Behavior like that could kill someone because it could cause someone to go out and drink, that is not ok! It's very dangerous also for newcomers, so no, she was totally wrong in her behavior and I would bet that she was told that by more than one person after you left. I would say, if your comfortable, you should go back and talk to the group about it because you should be able to go to one of your favorite meetings without being harassed by anyone!

  • @DeborahBurton.
    @DeborahBurton. Місяць тому +5

    I'm crying like a baby. Big love and hugs.

  • @cherylann8292
    @cherylann8292 Місяць тому +3

    Wow your hair grows fast! It looks good!

  • @mossymossy8061
    @mossymossy8061 Місяць тому +5

    You rock Jason! Darlene, I would have reacted the same way. She was out of her lane.

  • @lejci38
    @lejci38 Місяць тому +5

    I think the woman in AA is highly problematic, and no matter what you did or didn't do to help, to be part of the group..she would/will make problems for you (I'm sure you are not the only one) . Her attitude in such an enviroment just doesn't make sense.acting like some kind of a cultleader...maybe you've dodged a bullet.. P.S. Totaly get that you gt upset and ble up...if your bondaries were crossed over and over as it happens with a narcissistic parent, where you are not allowed to have any limits, any boundaries whatsoever, you very understandably bacome very senstive about that...I know I certaintly do, I'm still there, where I flip, if I people don't hear me saying no.

  • @EphanyasisOwleyes
    @EphanyasisOwleyes Місяць тому +4

    You were helping that young man

  • @EvaVilla-pm5mv
    @EvaVilla-pm5mv Місяць тому +3

    Darlene I understand people have different beliefs. But I’m going to send good vibes your way. Stand up always for yourself.

  • @oldcatlady3803
    @oldcatlady3803 Місяць тому +2

    Oh Darlene, I am so very sorry you had to go through that. I totally agree with you. Vertual hugs! Go back there and stand up for yourself. Thats the way I found my confidence. I have never been an alcoholic but am a child of one

  • @jayedewan3040
    @jayedewan3040 Місяць тому +5

    Great job standing up for yourself. Don't beat yourself up with shoulda coulda that whole thing is on her. Such a shame I'm sorry. Our old stuff nomatter how hard I work on it seems to linger. 😢 again great job standing up for you. ❤

    • @darlene.michaud
      @darlene.michaud  Місяць тому +7

      I’m not beating myself up over it. I’m using it as a way to be more prepared next time and to do better. But I’m even more mad at that woman now because she knew very well that I was anxious. I had refused her once to read, and I refused her again saying I did not want to chair a meeting. And now she was pushing the fucking chips on me. She did all of that on purpose just so she could get a kick out telling me that I had to be a trusted servant. Fuck that shit!

    • @jayedewan3040
      @jayedewan3040 Місяць тому

      @@darlene.michaud yes exactly I would be too. I meant thinking what you wished you would done. I do the same damn thing, then I go over the words I would have said and the way I would have said it. Then think why did I let her or whoever trigger me. I get it. Then I get pissed off that the old shit is still in there/my being and creeping around. I'm friggen 68 and worked so hard on getting rid of that shit. Then BAM. Your doin great girl, been sitting back watchin a long time. Thank you for just being real.

    • @donnahart823
      @donnahart823 Місяць тому

      @@darlene.michaudservant? Oh I don’t think so. I am NOT anyone’s servant and neither are you. I would have been in her freaking face! 🤬

  • @gypsysummer4008
    @gypsysummer4008 Місяць тому +3

    Hugs Darlene
    We have all been there, having to deal with a controlling bully.
    It can so much depend on our past traumas and even just the space we are in on the day.
    You did better than me probably
    Lol, I would have told her " I'm no ones fucken servant and you can stick it where the sun don't shine".
    I know I know everyone not the best response 🙂

  • @connie651000
    @connie651000 Місяць тому +3

    Darlene you don’t need to worry about her you will be fine. Maybe she was having her own issues last night. Don’t let people hurt your feelings. You got this.

    • @darlene.michaud
      @darlene.michaud  Місяць тому +9

      I know everyone has issues. But that’s never a reason or an excuse to lash out at someone else. She was on purpose doing that to me. She knows I have anxiety. I talk about it every time it’s my turn to talk. She knew I refuse to read that first time she asked me and she knew I did not want to sign the calendar to cheer meeting because she told me then that I needed to do that, and I said no. She on purpose decided to give me those chips tonight, knowing that I would say no and then she would have the chance to tell me I wasn’t a trusted servant. Her issue is that she is a grown ass bully. And she bullied the wrong bitch!

  • @LindaWallingford
    @LindaWallingford Місяць тому +2

    You're awesome Darlene! You have made so much progress. You are an inspiration to me, you truly are. I can't put into words what watching your videos has done for me, just know you have helped me! Thank you.

  • @alyda9954
    @alyda9954 Місяць тому +3

    Darlene I think you should go back to that particular AA MTG. It's unfortunate that there are people that are pushy like that. I can understand where you're coming from. Continue to help yourself and others. ❤️❤️

  • @margotnorris5563
    @margotnorris5563 Місяць тому +2

    And I say Bravo for you to speak your mind and being true to yourself. you're a role model for me and thank you!

  • @katherinewhite7017
    @katherinewhite7017 Місяць тому +1

    Oh I Love you so much! I totally get the blowing up part. You taught me why I blow up. I am glad for you that you have the confidence to go back. That takes incredible strength I can't imagine having. I do truly love you. I loved the sober times we had together reading, crocheting, swimming in your pool and laughing! I hope you get the chance to read this. Darlene Michaud

  • @grannyjclay-joannieholdhus925
    @grannyjclay-joannieholdhus925 Місяць тому +2

    I just want to give you a big hug❤ Yes, you may have blown up; but the problem was hers…not yours. As she initiated a behavior that she possibly has been dealing with for a long time….control of others to make herself feel good and which would have elevated her in her own eyes had she gotten you to “comply”. I’m just so very sorry that you were the one she chose that night to “practice” her behavior on. YOU WERE IN THE RIGHT. SHE should have been the one that cried all night. SHE should have been the one to question whether she should go back to that group or not. I truly do hope you go back to that group….not to “see if they would receive you or not” (if not, then her control has perhaps permeated the regular attenders) but to continue to STAND FOR YOURSELF and for others that she may be trying to “work her magic on”. The atmosphere in a room can change, when someone like that knows they CAN push others around and tries to verbally justify their own behavior to others. SHE WAS THE ONE AT FAULT. You have a beautiful heart…a servant’s heart and the others that attend that meeting NEED YOU THERE! Praying for you, Darlene.❤

  • @happydaylike4342
    @happydaylike4342 Місяць тому +5

    They already know who that woman is. She has already pulled that with others. I betcha that young guy goes to the other place.Mathew 5:37...No is NO no further explanation needed

    • @patricia753
      @patricia753 Місяць тому +1

      Exactly! She Has pulled this with others, and she is known by others for this! The young man probably talked with someone else about this and Darlene will be supported and loved!

  • @terryhenderson424
    @terryhenderson424 Місяць тому +2

    How very nice of Jason from Maine to help you out. Thank you Jason.

  • @donnahart823
    @donnahart823 Місяць тому +2

    Awww Darlene, I’m so sorry you were so sad. I would go to a meeting with you if I lived closer. I’m in Ct. so I guess it won’t work. I hope that young guy shows up at a meeting you are at soon. Hugs

  • @deemetzger5779
    @deemetzger5779 Місяць тому +5

    Thank you for sharing because now I know if I went -I don’t have to do anything except want to stop drinking. She sounds like a Karen wanting to control everything

  • @pamelatheado6484
    @pamelatheado6484 Місяць тому +2

    Thank you Jason. You are awesome

  • @firstmoondancer
    @firstmoondancer Місяць тому +2

    Kudos to you Darlene for speaking your piece… even though in hindsight you wished you had stayed and had the opportunity to tell your side and potentially help others. That’s for a future opportunity!
    I can relate to your experience and all the afterthoughts. All I can add is I wish you the opportunity to revisit that group by whatever means (like someone to go with you), and tell your story. It WILL help others who can relate. Maybe it will even chip away at Ms Pushy Pants who thinks she can tell others what to do…

  • @fernemcallister6774
    @fernemcallister6774 Місяць тому +1

    Nobody should ever insist you do something you are not comfortable with. Go back and and enjoy your meeting. If she says anything, you simply tell her there are things you will do and things you won’t, and you will not tolerate being bullied.

  • @lee9604
    @lee9604 Місяць тому +2

    Do not let her ruin this for you. You explained it so well in this video what is expected at AA, go back and tell them just how you explained it here. And they more than anyone should understand when someone gets upset and decides to leave. You removed yourself from a very uncomfortable situation. Big deal. I'm sure the majority of people in there will understand. She needs to be told not to try to force anybody, if only to help new people who don't know any better. If she did this to you, how many others have she done this to? There's always a bully around, I can't stand them.

  • @andymaafu4111
    @andymaafu4111 Місяць тому +4

    Hi Darlene it's me again. You are so right in what you are saying. My adult son goes to aa. There are no rules you speak if you want to. If you don't want to speak you don't. That woman sounds like a control freak. She should not be making remarks to others or being bossy or making you uncomfortable. My son says he doesn't always say or do anything at his meeting it's how he feels at the time I totally get you losing it and swearing at her just be you Darlene. I think you are funny caring and interesting ❤❤❤❤

  • @evepaludan7713
    @evepaludan7713 Місяць тому +3

    What a bully she was. Shame on that woman.

  • @brendamartin8278
    @brendamartin8278 Місяць тому +2

    Thankful for people like Jason! And, Darlene, you should never be forced to be uncomfortable in any situation. She should have stepped back the first time you said you didn’t want to do the chips. I’ve been to churches that made me uncomfortable, so I know a similar feeling. The same church claims to be welcoming to all, but I found out they had a time limit on that and was expected to give a testimony in front of the entire congregation when I was no where ready for public speaking. Needless to say, I don’t go to that church any longer. Be proud that you didn’t let her force you!

  • @vickiebailey5261
    @vickiebailey5261 Місяць тому

    THANK YOU , JASON , FOR HELPING DARLENE. YOU'RE THE MAN !

  • @sandrakulikowski6305
    @sandrakulikowski6305 Місяць тому +1

    It breaks my heart that you experienced this. You didn’t do anything wrong you were targeted. Please go back and talk to them like you talk to us. You don’t deserve to be exiled. You belong there because you care about yourself and others.

  • @audreynims4940
    @audreynims4940 Місяць тому

    I love that you honor your values. Some are sicker than others, Darlene. It's wonderful that you are able to say that wasn't your best work, and understand why you reacted with an outburst. Her actions are shaped by her past as well, and perhaps she would consider her interaction not to be her best work either, if you shared how you felt. I hope you do return, not for her, but for your own personal responsibility to your own healing. Maybe someone would chair a meeting about 'trusted servants' and welcoming newcomers.
    Great story about reaching out for help to recover you account access! Your comfort zone has grown so much! Thanks for sharing.

  • @rosemarylarsen4700
    @rosemarylarsen4700 Місяць тому +1

    Love you Darlene. Hang in there and stay strong .

  • @leonabelanger9683
    @leonabelanger9683 Місяць тому +1

    So sorry you had to go through all that, you're a special and strong person to have gone thorough all the trauma in you're life, love watching your videos you are such a real person.

  • @dorothyegnew9159
    @dorothyegnew9159 Місяць тому

    I’m so sorry you were treated like that. Keep on keeping on. I’m proud of you even though you are upset by what happened. Wishing you all the best.

  • @louettesommers8594
    @louettesommers8594 Місяць тому +3

    Dear Darlene, I’m only 3 minutes in and I’m so sorry for what has happened in your life.
    I just wanted you to know that my heart goes out to you.

  • @staciebarndweller774
    @staciebarndweller774 Місяць тому

    I respect you so much Darlene... And, I'm glad you didn't let her bully you into something you didn't want to do!
    Sending hugs your way.

  • @brendaromanuck1280
    @brendaromanuck1280 Місяць тому +2

    That "Karen" needs to learn what being a loyal servant really means. What kind of people don't embrace you when you are overcome with emotions!!! Emotions and feelings are what traps us in a state of addiction and unable to reach out when you are at your lowest. Karen is the reason a lot of people are reluctant to take that first step of reaching out for help. Too bad she thinks she is high enough to look down on others. We all are human, We all have feelings and emotions. The secret to healing is being heard and understood and she needs a kick in the ass big time. I wish I lived closer Darlene because | would proudly walk into that meeting with you arm in arm and be your supportive cheerleader to stand up to this bullshit. Sending you a huge hug. Hang in my friend Brenda from Alberta Canada

    • @patricia753
      @patricia753 Місяць тому

      👏👏👏👏👍👍

  • @delphablankinship519
    @delphablankinship519 Місяць тому +1

    I'm proud of you for standing up for yourself! You delt with a problem and maybe you can tell them the way it should be.

  • @tmack5794
    @tmack5794 Місяць тому

    Gawd I love the way you think Darlene. You go girl! You have become so emotionally healthy!!!

  • @tmack5794
    @tmack5794 Місяць тому

    Oh goodness - I hope you know when you cry, we cry too. You’ve come so far Darlene!!!

  • @nolaflowers6272
    @nolaflowers6272 Місяць тому +1

    I hope you can go back and claim you space! You are always teaching us, you have grown so much Darlene!

  • @patriciaratchford2826
    @patriciaratchford2826 Місяць тому +1

    Awww, Darlene. You made me Lol and cry! I’m totally on your side. Sounds like something I would do! ❤❤❤

  • @bevbeck5049
    @bevbeck5049 Місяць тому +1

    Darlene, I am so impressed with how far you have come. You know you deserve more respect and kindness than that woman gave you. I would think her attitude has probably turned others away as well.
    If you are able to go back and share your thoughts with the group about being pressured into something you are not ready for, it would be healing to that little girl inside of you. There are likely others she has put pressure on too. You may give them the strength to stand up to her. My Dad was in AA for 18 years before he passed. I attended meetings with him sometimes. It seems to me that I remember there are guidelines for what is acceptable and no one member should be working their own agenda over the good of the group. She should not have the power to take something that you love, away.
    Hopefully the young man on his third meeting will recognize you stood up for yourself and he will continue meetings for all the recovery benefits and great people he will meet.

  • @annaturner2828
    @annaturner2828 Місяць тому +2

    Sorry for your experience. I'm with you!

  • @dianerossetti3245
    @dianerossetti3245 Місяць тому

    Darlene you ROCK! You are a lovely, sensitive, caring person. Whatever you decide it will be the right thing. Keep well.

  • @pamelaburruel1501
    @pamelaburruel1501 Місяць тому +1

    DARLENE YOU GO GIRL PLEASE!!!!!!! I have been watching you for years and you are an inspiration to me. I have been quiet and kind and respectful all my life. One day I blew up on my husband, whom I loved for 40 years and passed away 3 years ago. He said “What happened to that sweet, quiet girl I married?” I told him, “She’s gone!” I was so mad. Looking back I grew up on that day into a fighter. A fighter for my feelings and what I needed. I can now speak up not only for myself but for others who are afraid. Don’t let this “Karen” spoil your space in your life. Maybe, just maybe, she’s a little jealous of you my friend!! Love you❤️

  • @beckysouk2510
    @beckysouk2510 Місяць тому +1

    You are amazing and we all love you!!

  • @TheChelleChronicles
    @TheChelleChronicles Місяць тому +3

    Honey,.. 100%, she had no right to speak to you like that, . .I'm so sorry.. I SUPPORT YOU!

  • @jordllong
    @jordllong Місяць тому

    I am so happy to hear about your Facebook account, Darlene! In terms of the meeting, I am proud of you! I feel you have not seen the last of the young guy and I am sure you will make a fierce duo in the future at these meetings!

  • @user-ew9nt8uf3c
    @user-ew9nt8uf3c Місяць тому +1

    You are so brave Darlene. You give me hope in my own life. Thank you

  • @brendagoulette759
    @brendagoulette759 Місяць тому +2

    Oh I would go back and let them know your side of the situation. But easy to say that. I should say I would hope I could go back. And the Internet wow. How nice of him to help you. Thank you for helping Darlene ❤ I need to check my Facebook now because I never changed it on my second sign in. I stopped a second sign in for my phone and when I needed help they said they couldn't help me till I put it back on in my account. Love and hugs to you my friend ❤

  • @karenharju6919
    @karenharju6919 Місяць тому

    Jason is awesome and kindness matters, you don't always know who will benefit when you are kind to others. In this case so many people.

  • @GlimmerHandbags
    @GlimmerHandbags Місяць тому

    I love that you share your daily experiences. You are so real (in this way-too-fake world). Thank you for being you! ❤️

  • @yolandavillareal8058
    @yolandavillareal8058 Місяць тому +1

    Aww wish I could hug you. You’re such a loving person. That young man was fortunate to have had you to make him welcomed n that’s how it should be. This young man is there for kindness n support just like everyone else. I don’t understand how this could have happened. I’ve never attended AA meetings as I don’t have that problem but I know how it is to join groups to share, find comfort n kindness n never have been made to feel this way. You’ve come a long way n I know you’ll be just fine. It just hurts to see you cry but happy you share with us n hope you know we care about you.