How I learned to love being alone.
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- Опубліковано 19 лип 2023
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before i get 100000 comments; it's called a reflex ball. its for boxing but its fun as fuck go buy one
Where you from man
@@goatkid5 i think singapore
Aight time to leave 100000 comments anyway
@@out1am977 im from there too lol
boxing = fun bro
"Its better to have no friends then having fake friends"... I learned this thing this year , and my i am so much happier since!! 🌷✨
true, only 2 friends left, no space for fake
definitely youre ri8 but u need to learn a lot more ig ;]
Man actually hasn't realised he's a magnet for us himself, like Thankyou Ruff, really☺️
np
@@ItsMeRuff what do you major in?
@@wrc2933 ig he isn't quite proud about his major lmao
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I have no problem being alone infact I love being alone its the best time but when I see people with such great friendships having fun together it makes me feel lonely as fuck
@@youaremysunshine.1now it's on you if you wanna be a socially uncalibrated outcast weirdo or a socially calibrated W person
@@sushi7000 you're missing the point, i think almost all of us have the ability to form atleast a few friendships but the issue is the quality of friendship. Sometimes the people around you are just very difficult to keep up with and sometimes they are just complete a holes.
Are you sure they are having a good time? If your seeing people around you having a good time on social media then why do you think they are posting on there? If they were truely having a good time they would be in the moment the whole time. That's how I see it and it helps.
Don't worry even these friendships probably will end, in my experience friendships are working as long someone gets something out of it, so one day they end, when somebody doesn't get what they want, the only unconditional relationship you can experience is with your parents and kids
@@sushi7000I had opportunity to join gang* and to make connections.Gone from many crazy shit then I realised I have difficult keeping up with other's preference.I can improve my social skills with one snap because I know how to act when try to mimicking interests which I feel captive.You may be insecure person who is scared.So,misjudge people around you for their choices which they made.And loners don't give shit about other will think in real life.
I'm a 30 year old doctor and I feel like Ruff is me when I was teen. You do you, don't let society change your uniqueness. I really enjoy watching your videos!
That can be understandable because in your 20s, you most likely spent time in solitude studying til you got your Ph.D. That will be why you won't have that much friends. I am sure you had workloads of homework to a point where you barely had time to hangout back then. So as a result, that can be why you are like this today. You probably studied from being a teen up to the point where you reach to 30.
Can you please give me tips on how to become a successful doctor??
Bro, don’t ever let UA-cam and fame change you, no amount of hatred can outweigh your authenticity, it doesn’t matter if you upload once every 2 weeks, every month or every year, your videos are some of the highest value content I’ve ever seen in my life, keep it up brother
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Real
Too real, can't wait to see the future of his channel
True
Dude I love how this guy doesn’t act like he’s smarter than us he is a guy encouraging you to take action on what you already know
The "yeah. You didnt?" Hit me so hard
These days I'm getting so many recommendations of "Being alone & loving it" type of videos & honestly it's the best. Finding these "my kind" of people makes me feel peaceful ✨️
Yeah man
Yeah , most of videos talk about “living alone “ just show us the rich people how they live, and that’s not helping anyone to love themselves.
i love how he isnt screaming at us like those other videos to get up and crap, but telling us its our loss or not calmly. i also like the simplicity of his vids, no complex meanings or words or tricks. straight to the point with some humor in there. love these videos
Sometimes parents who want the best for you and are good to you, will be your no.1 friend.
I agree with Ruff, we do not need a lot (friends) but real people.
Ahhh!! Finally, I’m on time! You’re my favorite channel! ❤️🔥 I, myself, decided I needed to learn to be alone 2 years ago. In that point in my life, I treated my friends as my board of trustees, I ran every single decision past them, since I didn’t trust myself to make any. After spending some time apart and going through the bumps of life on my own, I realized I couldn’t name a single reason why I called them my friends apart from convenience. 2 years, enjoying solitude, and therapy, I now have 3 people I can actually call my friends, with one being my sister. I’ve still got a long ways to go but this video reminded me of something my therapist once told me, “You’re building the foundation for the you 10 years from now”.
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True, glad there are people who can live happily alone without engaging in tantrums of this world.
I’ve never been so excited to watch a video from a youtuber less than a million subs. You are one of the few I have subbed on this platform
this is the best way someone has explained friendships. not all people are your "friends", you just see the often and happen to know them a bit. it was hard at first to let go of the people i called friends, but it was definitely worth it. we still talk time to time, because why would i hate them, but like you said, you need to have similarities to have friendships so I went my own separate ways.
Also thank you so much for your videos Ruff, I really like how unfiltered and realistic your videos are. I definitely wish I saw them sooner. Keep making videos from your own mindset, it's hard to find realistic videos like these. Oh yea, and congrats on 60K!
This guy keeps it simple and striaght to the point. No clickbait he is the only motivaitonal speaker that actually speaks the truth and has changed me after watching 1 or 2 videos this guy is a legend we need him to preach to a wider audience !!!!
As someone who had to go through toxic friendship(many), i loved being alone, and still ove being alone. Peace,quietness and prefect vibe.
"You changed 😒"
"Yeah, you didn't?"
If someone said that to me I would break down like legos
Thanks for this video Ruff! I find that I've really become aware of the people around me or, quote on quote, friends I have, especially being still a student and most of my friendships are sadly based on just close proximity from class or CCA allocations (or what one of my close friends have summarised it as-convenience), and learning to put that space between myself and people I know don't truly value me (perhaps I myself don't value them as much as I may think I do) has truly gifted me so much relief and happiness. Life is going to be so long and the only constants are probably just me, myself and I :') And being alone isn't all that miserable at all, it's honestly a pretty fresh feeling :) learning to be alone with myself is definitely still something I'm working on, but I trust I'm getting better and better at it :) your videos are legendary ❤️
This channel is so chill like, I keep scrolling through the comments and it's just full of warm thought paired with hilarious humor- what a great place.
bro your content is so good, i have never seen a creator that is so down to earth and honest.
you need a podcast or smthn tbh
tbh i hate socialising, i only socialise because i have to, im tired of acting like jokes people make are funny when i literally want to straight face every joke my friends make. ive had enough, its kind of like forced friendships i guess, when i chose to stay alone back in grade 7, i got in a lotta trouble with my parents. on my report card the teachers said that they were concerned and stuff for me. the real reason is, i just cant be bothered hanging out with these toxic people, id rather be alone but now i have no freaking option ;(. i constantly take bathroom breaks to escape from these people and just to rest my face from that fake laughing shii.
its annoying really, i just want to be alone
Self improvement is definitely a lonely journey and I have just recently adapted the mindeset of being more 'selfish' thank you so much bro I'm grateful for the fact that I found your channel, I can definitely see a lot of Hamza in you
I absolutely love this, you inspire me to keep going. Thx man!
I really wanna thank you for all the work you put in for us here
For me personally your channel has been a life saver
So thanks again
I've been watching your channel for about 2 weeks now. I'm loving the advice and the things you share. It's really a eye opener to a deeper understanding of reality. I'm 15 years old, and I'm learning so much from you, almost like having a big brother guiding me, especially on my self-improvement journey. I want to thank you for teaching me so many valuable things. You've truly made a difference in my life. I've finally broken my bad habits, thanks ruffyyy MWAUHHH
bro respect for you. your every video is pure gold and inspiring me a lot fr
I have no idea but I cant stop watching ur videos. It it's so relatable and doesn't sound like the stuff people say to you for motivation. I mean you tell straight up facts on our face. It's so refreshing for some reason and hell it feels great to improve and like think abt what the hell I am doing in life. Fr thank you
ive been listening to your videos like podcasts for the past few days and you helped me get out of my constant cycle of feeling unmotivated. thank you so much ruff and i appreciate everything u do !!
thank you for making these videos
i feel like i can actually work on self-improvement now because all of your advices are very simple and easy to follow
I don't usually comment on UA-cam but your content is amazing man, keep up the good work. Love how your videos aren't about all big talks but they give me lots of inspiration.
seeing someone dedicated to giving good advice and ideas feels refreshing. sometimes I feel like giving up, but based on how healthy and how happy I am I won't be going back. thank you for making these videos, and I will continue looking forward to your future content!
Thank you for this, I needed it ❤
I haven't even watched the full video yet but ruff,I'm so thankful for you and also for this video at the very right moment *hugs*
Your channel really simplified what self improvement was about, I felt like Hamza complicated how many extra things I needed to focus on, but you made it so much easier. Thank you so much for creating this channel and making these videos.
i literally just found your channel today and youve changed my whole perspective on life, ty :)
I found your channel like 3 days ago and i can't relate more!... I'm 16 and currently working on myself and can really relate to everything you say ruff!! And watching your videos really gives me validation that I'm on the right path and helps me improve myself even more! On my way to really become the best version of myself! Thank you! Really!
and aghhhhh you're so cutee
One thing i love about your videos and overall everything is that you make me realize things that i never knew i had in me. Its amazing, everytime i watch your videos i get reminded of something new about myself. Keep on working hard and i hope you get the recognition you deserve :DD
It’s like I’m obsessed with him
I watch him video everyday and I can’t stop🫠
Hi Ruff your vids are really helpful! Thank you so much, you changed my perspective in life. Please don't ever stop making videos, you are such an inspiration
This video really helps me make sure I'm going in the right direction. Thank you so much I love you Ruff
Man, ive discovered your channel literally just an hour ago and im already feeling attached to it. The way you speak out your thoughts and motivate people is just perfect. I hope its not too late to improve myself for myself. Thanks for this video. Right now, im in the stage in my life where im truly “alone”, no friends, no family, just myself.
Will be looking forward to future uploads o7
I discovered this channel a few days ago and I have to say that you content is really nice, well-edited and informational. I hope you stay consistent and keep taking action 😊
I just discovered this channel, and Im soo thankful! You inspire so many people, thankyouu for this...
Thanks the last lines truly made me understand my behaviour and thoughts that come to me while being around people i meet everyday.. thank you
Initially I am finding your content very helpful. Thx to your non heavy edited videos and your calm voice, a part of my hatred, loneliness and anger has died off. Thx to your videos I've started being kinder to myself. I don't hate my past self, it's more like "I understand why you made those mistakes, I will fix them for you. No need to sulk anymore". Let's see how long can I stay like this, happy n all.
this vid couldn't have come at a more perfect time, this rlly helps thx so much
Doing what you like alone is some feeling, when you just finished your work, you eager to do more. but the best feeling is sleeping proud. worth the effort. Nice vid appreciate a lot.
Aww this guy’s so sweet I already meltttttt. I’m going the process of trying to love myself more, changing my lifestyle and prepare myself for the future. An it’s just like what you said, it stops man from killing himself. Just want to thank you for everything 💗💓💖
Your confidence and discipline is so admirable. You Channel has been helping me to work on myself everyday.Keep going !! ( found your Channel recently; trust me your female audience is also growing rapidly)
Man your videos just make my day
thanks for uploading ruff love ya content
bro advices are more goated than all my friends and knowledge has to offer, appreciate it ma guy
Ruff went thru tuff times, to show us the positive puff of life
Love the content man! Keep up the good work❤
This video dropped at the perfect time ngl.
Thankyou bro .
thank you bro. your video hits my mind differently. love from srilanka 😍
Your channel is really growing, at this rate you'll definitly reach 100k by the end of the year!
Hey i love your videos ive been binge watching them since i found your channel yesterday :D you are doing awesome man
As someone who always grew up with 1 or 2 friends, I do really enjoy my alone time!! Btw ily cuz ur my motivation and you’re amazing 😌
Thank you so much for this and I have learn alot from, learning to be civil with people,know the relationship level of people I'm talking to,knowing what the actual meaning of friends and have good standard for who you see fit to be your friend, I originally want to explain my problem I have here with being social and having people here as friend but I realized it will just be a waste of people time so to show my appreciation I decided to comment this on my main channel for thanks❤️ ^^
me watching this at.4:42 am relating to most of the things he said and now just laying on my bed thinking back on everything. keep up the good work ruff, you're very underated
sometimes your enemies are better than having fake friends, your enemies tell you straight up that they hate you but your "friends" don't
i'm going thru some shit rn this is really helping thx you Ruff ❤
ive rewatched this like 14 times
I've watch and follow a lot of self improvement/Psychologycal channel
But you were the one that really leave an effect on me and my life.. of course the others help too
but idk you're just kinda different, like i feel a some kind of positive energy whenever i watch your video
aw man, i was depressed my whole 8th grade and now seeing your vid made me feel better! i feel like self improvement sometimes needs a break from "fake friends" and try to be with more kinder ppl who actually care about you
Already saw this video half a day ago, but came back to congratulate you on this. 50k man, holy. I was on vacation bout 2-1.5 weeks ago, and i was watching your videos, and i remember seeing 20-something-k next to your name. Congrats man. You truly deserve it. 🍾
Gud video bro
congrats for 51k :)
Well done Ruff, this is beautiful
100k before december. Mark my words
i swear something in me changed the moment you said "past self sets you up for failure, you cant help but hate yourself"
This is exactly what I needed
I know probably many people say you thanks and idk if you even read those notifications but I just really wanted to thank you on the way you deliver all these messages which we all probably already know deep inside but just... couldn't fr take them to heart yet. You really made that easier for me, and it feels so good to feel that *somewhere* teenagers like me, who give a fuck about self improvement actually exist, and that really makes it easier for me not to feel pressured to find friends in my environment where nb has those similarities :]
i literally needed this vdo man. You gained a sub :)
I truly loved this video because it reminds me so much of myself when I was in my early twenties, going back to college and trying to figure things out. I had realized then how I was surrounding myself with people who were like sheep (sorry friends that I don't see anymore 😅). But what was interesting was that I found I was playing a part, and when they saw the real me it would upset them, like, "that's so no you." And I couldn't help but think, "Isn't it though?"
So I let them go and got to know me.
The best part of it all was that I got to learn interest that I personally enjoyed without worrying about their judgement. I learned about music, movies, books, activities, etc that I enjoyed and fulfilled me. That's when I discovered self-improvement and just getting to know myself, what I wanted, needed and what I was capable of. Not the stuff that was okay with them. I learned to love myself and basically treat myself like someone I loved and adored. I treated myself with love and compassion, I learned about my interests and rooted myself on when I struggled. The exponential growth and happiness that I experienced in those years that I was alone is something I cherish to this very day.
I used to joke that the best way to get through a break up is to just date yourself. I was so happy with who I was when alone but I felt ready to date. Mostly to find a friend, someone who could understand me. I wanted THAT friend. 😄 When that someone came into my life that wanted to tag along in my journey I happily welcomed them. This year we made 20 years together, and we have 2 kids and we're pretty happy. Happy together or when we take time for ourselves or to be with friends.
Finding others that can love you in a way you didn't know was possible is a wonderful source of inspiration and a blessing. But ultimately, no one will love you better than you can love yourself. ❤
Ruff is so lovely 😭 and i finally found a person called ruff in my life( through his content) thankss Ruff
In no time, I just know that you'll reach a hundred thousands of subscribers! For sure, Congrats in Advanced!
I just discovered your channel. Thank you so much for making videos!
New ruff video this is hype 🔥
Damn Ruff, the editing lowkey going crazy!
Thank you. I realized in the past weeks how different I am from my friends and my gf broke up with me a few months ago so I feel really lonely atm. I didn't fully realize that I've made so much progress to myself and haven't given myself a pat on my shoulder. I want to keep progressing and thank you for making me realize it. I will continue on my own path. Stay strong to the kings and queens reading this comment!
Damn man you don't even have an idea how much you have helped me
Needed to hear this one
ur content is goated
your timing is impeccable
thank you
I love this dude
my boys on the path of sucess, continue on it
this man successfully made me take a walk outside today he's a magician
I hate being lonley….not alone. But after not seeing someone for a few days, alone becomes lonley. I mean of course I see pl in school. What I mean with seeing someone is seeing your real friends. The friends that are on the same journey as I am…or at least a similar one of just becoming happy. I know the „friends“ I have in school don‘t have the same path as me and it‘s prb not the best thing to spend time with them. But to be honest I would feel lonley if I just don‘t talk these pl anymore. Fun Fact I still feel lonley if I talk to them sometimes, bc I feel I don’t fit in their world and it hurts. I hope one day I find the peace in myself that turns alone into happy.
DUDE IS GROWING LIKE A HUNDRED SUBS PER HOUR, DAMNN IM PROUD OF YOUU !!
I was looking for a video that would let me wallow in my loneliness and this video just completely made me so much happier. Thank you.
Finally someone think like I do...keep going you're amazing ❤
you know its a good day when you see a new ruff vid
Bro, the end kiss always flatters me ^^^^^^^
Thank you for new video ❤
My favourite channel ❤
Thanks ✿
Well at least now I know someone have the similar feelings/thoughts as me. Its refreshing to see someone having contents like this.
I watched nearly all of your videos and feel too relatable to you....