Parental Alienation : My Ex-Husband Turned My Kids Against Me | Dr. David Hawkins

Has your spouse, or ex-spouse, turned your kids against you? Have your children chosen to side with one parent over the other? Sadly, this is a very common situation parents find themselves in when they are in a high-conflict marriage, or during and after a divorce. In this episode of Dr. Hawkins Reacts, Dr. Hawkins and fellow therapist Jonathan Glover react to a woman’s post about how her ex-husband turned her children against her after their divorce. After witnessing the devastating effect the divorce had on their dad, both of the sons blamed their mother for “ruining dad” and were staunchly against her dating or remarrying, to the point where they refused to come to her wedding when she eventually remarried. Find out what two therapists had to say, and their advice on the best way to handle this situation.
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[@annettglass7290]

Collaboration is always a better solution when you have healthy people.

[@rationalevidence9095]

Ironic that the second example of 2nd wife in the mix illustrates exactly the understandable frustration of the kids in the first example. Things just get so complicated in mixed families. Adding more hurting adults into the family isn't usually a recipe for success.

[@rationalevidence9095]

Some great insights for sure, but how can these therapists diagnose knowing so little of the situation? Obviously the kids will not like the new guy who's endangering their hopes of mom and dad magically getting back together (especially if there's a religious background that thinks divorce/remarriage is morally wrong).

[@rationalevidence9095]

The fact that this woman is attacking her kids back in this way tells me to be suspect of her side of the story from beginning to end.

[@nancyhjort5348]

I would have answered the unhealthy, divisive stepmom, when she wanted the kids all to herself, by saying, " I am their mother. I will always be their mother and I will always love them." Period. I have a pretty good sense that she wants the kids to call her mom and she is poisoning the well to have all the possession and title. That is just evil. She is not going to cooperate or play fair. My answer is a boundary without an accusation against her. "A divided house will not stand," and this real mother has every responsibility to fight, without revenge, to assure and bring peace to her children. In Titus 3 we are warned about dealing with people who bring division. It is not being "nice," and negotiating, as you seem to suggest. The real mom is walking around with a sword in her heart, and you showed no empathy toward her. You basically said, Just be super nice and tolerant. I respectfully disagree with your solution to parental alienation. When there is a "white collar" murder of their mother the kids will live with forever grief, anger, confusion, and loss, it messes their psych and trust and their real roots.