Tia's not just mourning her marriage, she's mourning the last 22 years of her life, when she could have been taking control of her destiny instead of being who she was expected to be. She's sad about everything she could have been instead of Corey's wife. She thinks she wants a relationship, but she really wants self love and self acceptance.
I say DON'T MARRY that is a societal norm and doesn't have to be "the norm" black folk so brainwashed and mentally enslaved that it's sad - I'm over 50, Single and FREE - I wouldn't have it any other way! And I'm a mother of a young adult that's over 35 - I did NOT encourage dating, having kids, engagement, marriage, none of the sorts! I lived my life out loud and it looks like my daughter took head. I have a home, a paid for car! a decent job that pays by bills and allows for lil bit of this and that and a vacation here or there - Man where? Man for what? I'm good! better than most Married, but really Single women my age 🎤 mic drop
The lack of empathy for women is really disgusting. Let this woman be human and feel her feelings. People should be treating Tia like someone who is in mourning because that's exactly what this is. She is mourning her marriage. One minute she could be laughing and playful and the next moment she could be crying her eyes out. I genuinely dislike the lack of empathy in the black community.
The lack of empathy in the community honestly explains a lot. I've never lived in a black American community, but there is not one thing I've seen and heard from my AA friends, that is not mirrored in communities thousands of miles away, in areas that have had zero contact with AAs
I really don't think this is an issue with the black community in particular. Many different types of people from various walks of life are confused by Tia. It's a combination of her putting so much on display while simultaneously saying little of substance or expanding upon why. Plus we are having an in cel resurgence at this point, so that really doesn't help. Not only is society at large not really ready to have these conversations around "non malignant" divorces (or divorce in general, for that matter) but on top of it, she's not having that conversation. She doesn't have to ofc, but people are going to have logical gaps they will be frustrated when they can't fill. Rodney said it best, if you don't have a discernible 'reason' for leaving your spouse, people are going to be confused about it across the board. People do not like things they cannot make sense of, and Tia is not providing a lot of clarity. In many ways, black communities can be the MOST empathetic. On this topic though, you're not going to get a lot of sympathy trying to unpack your emotional life without having a meaningful discussion around the inner workings of it. Most grown adult folk have their own issues and I think a lot of them seeing Tia having a self-revolving moment that isn't simply explainable seems like reaching for attention, and people will be naturally turned off by desperation. Tia is objectively obtuse and that isn't something that's on black ppl.
Tia is indirectly making a lot of black women look at themselves and their bullshit ass relationships..and they’re mad about it!( in my New York voice )
Just watching them on that OWN show, I noticed how he spoke to her and how his face looked when she spoke. Let's just say it was very telling. Especially if she dealt with that on a regular basis. Ijs...
I agree I think TIA was tired of taking care of him too. I seen the black love interview on own and is something wasn’t right about that especially the facial expression he gave to her when she interrupted him by mistake.😮
I think it's the opposite. I think she's used to Corey being home w the kids, and he was starting to work more than her and prob make more than her (not have as much money, but make more each year). He prob was just getting to the place where he could help. I personally think she likes to compete, and that might also be the issue w her not being close to her sister, but that's just an opinion I got from the reality show they did years ago. It's either that, or she put him out when she felt he was able to take care of himself. I feel she was either competing or looking out.
@@hope4me847if he’s doing well then they are doing well. That wasn’t it. Nine times out of ten they grew apart. They aren’t the same people they were at 20 that they are at 40 something. I believe It’s not as drama filled as most folks want to think.
They acting like being unhappy is not a good enough excuse. She probably didn't even know herself. She probably found herself in that marriage and realized this wasn't what she wanted and was unhappy. It's brave of her to leave that marriage. Good for her, as others will stay in a dead relationship just to say "they're married". Men step out on their wives for way less.
Rodney's right, with her you definitely need to fill in the gaps. What she's trying to convey is going to slip past a lot of people, first and foremost because she is still working it out herself.
Let me expand on Tia Gate. Tia is biracial and therefore seen as a preference. Statistically, biracial women are more likely to be married by both black and white men than black women. The way marriage desperate black women see it is like this: Tia had a privilege that most black women statistically will never have, which is the "privilege" of marrying a black man (even though black men are the worst men to marry statistically). When Tia divorced him, she showed that she was ungrateful to be married to a black man and should have endured whatever unhappiness she was enduring for the sake of maintaining her prize. Marriage obsessed black women see marriage to a black man as a badge of honor, so, to them, tia divorcing doesn't make sense. Even if she wasn't happy.
@nordette yes. All that matters to pickmes and patriarchs is that he doesn't cheat or hit. He can be boring, unromantic, selfish, emotionally and financially harmful, but how dare a woman not tie herself to a peen that doesn't do the only two bad things - and even then we are fluid on it - a man can do
Rodney! You are speaking gospel. My sister married her husband at 26, set of twins, big house. Both were very successful. She decided 5 years ago at 55 to leave her husband. No catastrophic/drama. She simply just was not happy, and he did not want to work on it. He was happy living as a roommate. I have never seen my sister more happier in her life. Single, fumbling through dating apps - but happy..
Good for your sister! She still got plenty life to live! But she should love on herself, date herself and be FREE! Get off them damn apps! Don't search for happiness, but find it within! JMTs
@@TamikoLee-g6d amen!! Girl, that’s a whole other story! Hahaha I told her.. just spend time with yourself.. but her, and a few of my divorced or widowed GF’s are just so used to being wives.. they don’t know how to be single! I told her to seek therapy.
Good for your sister! I pray this type of liberation for all women 50+ especially in loveless marriages. They often think they’re too old, fearful of being alone or managing their health and homes later in life. However you love on yourself and let others love on you it’s not unreasonably to have another great 30-40 years. Let the baggage go and blessings flow in. I plan on having a huge 99th birthday, seeing my great grand kids and I’m only in my 30’s.
Rodney, Tia leaving her husband may have nothing to do with her husband specifically. She may have simply outgrown him or have changed since she was 22. Her not being happy doesn’t mean that he was the problem. She may not have any “story” to disclose where he was abusing her or cheating on her etc. Probably just grew apart…
This is a valid comment. I believe this happens with many. Disclaimer: I’m not team anyone. I believe this would apply to Jeannie Mai and her ex before Jeezy. I don’t believe this is the case with Tia & Cory. I believe Cory wouldn’t do the work to make the relationship safe and equitable for Tia. Part of why she keeps chasing a relationship is bc she indeed wants partnership she just couldn’t bare it with a person that wouldn’t mature, heal to actually fit the role of partner. Tia has looked drained for some years. Their episode from Black love doc is very telling.
I think women are jealous that tia was strong enough and has enough confidence in herself to leave a bad situation and find her happiness IN THE MIRROR!
Bingo. I don’t know if I’d say jealous though. I think women, Black women especially, have been programmed to think you stay with your man through the good and the bad. And as long as he ain’t cheating on you or beating you upside your head you shouldn’t complain. Women were taught to find value in being chosen by men. BC Tia is choosing to find happiness in herself, I don’t think women are jealous. I think they aren’t used to seeing women choose themselves so they think she’s nuts. Some of those women are probably questioning their own relationships too. We live in a patriarchal society and we’ll always put men on a pedestal.
I don’t see the issue with Tia leaving Corey for whatever her reasons were. But is she really happy??? She doesn’t seem like it. She still has a bit of soul searching to do and it has absolutely nothing to do with Corey.
6:20 tbh, every time they were together he looked miserable. That would make me unhappy too. Unfortunately, many people stay in unhappy situations so they feel like she should as well. That marriage must have been draining for both of them. People are really cyber bullying her for something so common like divorce. Very strange behavior
I filed for divorce in both of my marriages. Neither was because of DV or infidelity. Both were due to me not being happy. One did involve alcohol abuse and the other wasn't really ready for marriage so he wasn't there mentally or emotionally. The bottom line is I wasn't happy. Being unhappy can come in many forms. Unfortunately a lot of women stay in unhealthy/unhappy relationships because they "got a man!" I say do what suits you and let others make their own decisions. I am very happily single and me and my ex husbands are cool.
I got married really young I was 18 and we didn’t have children until 5 years later at 23, it was dumb to get married that young and smart to wait 5 years but I started to feel like I had outgrown my husband neither of us had a chance to grow independently before being in such a commitment and by the time we divorced I was relieved. He had become someone I didn’t like, I was expected to ignore the cheating and lying because of the time we were together but no one asked if I was happy, when you start not to like someone, small things like the way they chew their food can become agonizing, you begin to notice that they’re actually lazy, and you get tired of pushing them to be better. You realize that energy can be put into yourself and your children, it’s time to go….no one should stay somewhere and be unhappy. Life is to short.
Tia is lowkey our Grandmothers dream personified. Tia is equipped with the financial, emotional and mental ability to leave. Idgaf unhappiness is an explanation.
Women stay after a cheating or a baby scandal and they’re judged for being stupid. They constantly throw “break babies” at Gabrielle Union, etc. but they cannot fathom Tia just wanting her peace.
I believe that as well!! She’s been in the industry long enough and has a particular image I believe her and her legal team were smart enough to require that.
Those that called her the “black twin” didn’t really like her, they just liked that she was with a black man. Now that she’s not, they can’t make her sister look bad for being with a white man.
Exactly. That's why I chuckled to myself every time I heard someone call her the "black sister", because look at how y'all switched up on y'all "sista" now 😂
Rodney I deeply appreciate this upload. I relate a lot to Tia. Gone through and continue to go through similar things and similar conditioning/background. I also naturally empathize with peoples so it is frustrating when you don’t get that care, compassion, patience back- many don’t give you the benefit of the doubt, when you’ve always been consistent in giving out respect. It’s validating seeing and hearing a man understand and not having to be in it to get it. Not only do you get you are frustrated that others don’t, that some are choosing not too and going the extra step to be malicious. Since this was needed for me and I didn’t know I needed it I can only imagine how many others you’ve touched. Thank you cousin ❤
Tia is 100% protecting Corey, likely for her children's sake, but Corey's not returning the favor. Hes completely silent, letting the false narratives run rampant. That tells me everything I need to know.
That man is probably mourning the divorce. He didn't want to get divorced in the first place. While she was dancing and celebrating after the divorce on Instagram. I don't blame him for not speaking up. And he's always been private
These individuals are willing to remain in unhappy situations, accepting the bare minimum because they’ve convinced themselves that’s all they deserve. They settle for less, believing that change or happiness isn’t within their reach. They believe the hype that marriage is the end all be all. And without a “husband” your nothing. We have seen this play out time and time again, especially with couples who have been married for years. While the length of their marriage might impress outsiders, the truth is that many of those years were filled with misery and dissatisfaction. Instead of seeking better or walking away, they stayed trapped in their unhappiness, letting time pass without truly experiencing the joy or connection that a marriage should bring. So when someone like Tia said she left because she wasnt happy. She’s seen as selfish
The way Cory told her not to talk over him in that interview they did, and the way Tia stated sorry and backed down, showed me everything I needed to know. She divorced that man for a reason. Anyone could tell he had issues.
Best friend, we put up with a lot of shyt for the sake of having a family. But ohhhhh, when we wake up. (“When I Wake Up- Jill Scott). Children grow up, husbands dismiss themselves. We have to choose our own happiness.
The gag is…. If she gives a reason they will still make an excuse for the behavior. “Well he been not working so why is it a problem” “well if he cheated was she doing her wifely duties” “well she always out her career first he felt emasculated” Like….. whatever she says being be good enough, so just don’t say anything at all…
The difference between Tia & Tamera is that Tamera actually did date and she enjoyed her twenties without being married. As much as people tried to make Tamera the goody goody, Tia was really the goody goody twin that was always in the books. Tamera was out having fun, so now that she is in her 40s she just want to enjoy her family while Tia is the complete opposite. She wants to adventure now.
Both sisters have the same outlook on life so I don’t think it’s fair to say that Tia is the goody goody one cause she didn’t date. Dating doesn’t mean you’re not goody good. We should stop comparing them all the time cause I think it’s one of the reasons why Tia didn’t want her sister on the show. To avoid comparisons.
Another big difference was that Tamera was open to dating non-Black men. Too many Bw are stuck on Bm but Bw+ Wm marriages are the most successful marriages in the country compared to Bw+Bm marriages.
@@StefStef438 I wasn't saying either was a goody goody but that was the sterotype people gave Tamera for years. I'm saying by society's definition of goody goody that would have fit Tia more than it fit Tamera when they were in their 20s. And the fact is that she didn't get to explore and just have fun because she got married early. And I'm not talking about having fun in the sense of sex, cause Tamera didn't do that either. i mean just be independent and have no one to worry about. Now we see Tia breaking free and trying to have fun but it isn't the same because she has kids now.
@@ashleyrogers1930"she didn't get to".... and? Lol. Whose fault is that? Lol. she wasn't forced to get married. I love that Tia is having this time now, but she is not a victim like she was somehow forced to marry him. There is no indication of that. We all make choices. It's all love but your comment made me chuckle because someone in my personal life made a comment like "I didn't get to have the high school experience like prom etc. gurl nobody told you to have two kids before 17. " That's on you boo. Boo hoo cry me a river. Lol.
I don't think people realize that the first part of Tia's life her identity was attached to her sister. Then for 20 years her identity was attached to Cory and being a wife. Now Tia's identity is tied to Tia. In my opinion I think it's scary for her to stand on her own right now because it's not what she's used to. I think Tia is in mourning & that includes mourning the relationship/marriage & who she used to be. Tia will be ok. She just has to become comfortable with being just Tia When it comes to her leaving Cory, Tia met him when she was 20. That lady is now in her 40s. She has changed & I'm sure he has changed too. Her not being happy & divorcing him can be as simple as they grew apart. Tia doesn't seem like the type who would leave just to be leaving. Hell she said a few years into the marriage she realized that maybe it wasn't the best decision & she stayed with him for 20 years. People coming down on her is crazy. Half of the people that's mad dont even have this much energy for people they actually know that wronged them. I get Tia signed up to do a show. But maybe she doesn't want to get into the meat & potatoes of why she left Cory to protect her kids. Idk the exact reason she left & while I would like to know I'm ok with not knowing.
You are so right my husband and I’ve been married for 15 years and this is the most unhappy I’ve been my whole life. If I leave my husband today, everyone in my life, including my family, would think that I’m crazy.. because he is hard-working pays all the bills to be around no outside babies he’s always home. but being with him, I feel dead.
I don't care that Tia got a divorce, BUT I think Tia's unhappy PERIOD - husband or no husband. Maybe a divorce will give her chance to figure out happiness cause I think it def can be harder inside of a marriage.
When cousin said “Tia is still in protection mode” he hit the mf nail!!!!! This reminds me of Teyana and the “not too much on my bestie” and then public records exposed her ex for the childish/no lights on/not properly watching the kids/already having other women around kids man she was dealing with 😂
I was a bankruptcy attorney for over a decade. It is a tool used FREQUENTLY by the wealthy. When we file we are shamed and made to feel like deadbeats. There was a bloomberg analysis in 2021 that even showed that when we file we are pushed into the most "expensive" form of bankruptcy. Financial literacy is a must!!
26:56 KEKE PALMER tea starts here : I’m so glad KEKE is being open about her finances! I drive a Toyota as well and I swear ppl act like a car is the end all be all. I pray to pass that car down to my son in 10 years. Shoot. We need to learn to live beneath our means Cousin we will have to agree to disagree on the Tia topic. I see you feel strongly about that so I’ll keep my comments to myself & just fast forward lol 🫶🏿🙏🏿😭
Women have the tendency to outgrow men, especially if they've only been with one since they were teenagers. She comes from the generation who was raised to believe that a man doing the bare minimum is "good enough". Corey may have been unambitious, not growing with his own interests, or preventing her from wanting to self-actualize by putting her down through gas-lighting, playing on her insecurities, or simply not being who she needed as she matured. He could've also been a financial drag who nested on her income without pursuing high profile acting gigs and/or not pulling his weight raising the children. All those things can make a woman unhappy without it being about DV/cheating etc. A "good" man is not enough anymore and I hope more women realize this before they have children or marry young to the wrong person.
Tia is growing and stretching. She's like a teenager right now. She needs her space. It has nothing to do with Corey. When she's finished she and him might be able to be BFF. She's basically talking things out to figure it out at this point. Ppl need to get off her back and just be encouraging towards her. The miserable ppl that can't leave or find a man are resentful to her.
I handle my breakups just like Tia. I’ll never bash the other person and idc how I look to others about my decision. Once a man or anyone around me says “it could be worse” or says “other men be out here doing worse than me” baby ima head on up outta there immediately. cause nothing is worse than being in a mediocre relationship
I agree with you Rodney about Tia. Ppl look at her and see this beautiful “mixed” woman and in the black community you are supposed to be living the best life. She had money and a career with kids. And ppl for ever reason that celebrities shouldn’t have any emotions or down falls
I need Tia to realize how miserable and desperate some women and men are and ignore these weird people on social media with so much to say. Tia did the right thing. She needs to release all that pressure to get married and just date casually and live her life.
I agree with your sister on this. I think Tia being on a reality show about the dissolution of your marriage but not spilling the Tea, is annoying. She has an opportunity to share your side as blunt as possible that’s why i tune in. If she was on an ensemble cast, beating around the bush wouldn’t fly. The issue is she would say she’s unhappy and fans will make up a million reasons why she left and allege he cheated, broke and he was emotionally abusive and she just lets it fly when all she said was “i wasn’t happy”
Rodney I appreciate your commentary on Tia. I went thru the same thing as Tia. My circle of associates were appalled that I was leaving my husband. I chose not to defame his name because it was just not smart considering our connections. It takes a mature woman to leave under immense scrutiny while protecting the reputation of the one you need relief from.
When I listen to Tia, I hear her saying without explicitly saying that man was over there wearing her low from the start. I applaud her, any woman for that matter, having the courage & self love to leave situations that don’t fulfill them.
you are making sense cousin sometimes the emotional connection just fades, or you change, or you lose love and that’s enough to want more. it can still be heartbreaking coming to this realization especially if you’ve spent decades of your life with someone. People who think you need to be getting your ass beat to leave a relationship are going to be stuck in unsatisfying situations.
I agree with everything you say about tia. I just don't like how she guilted her sister on TV then backtracked in interviews. Tia is expressing in so many words that she was too young and inexperienced to get married and she was miserable in that relationship but she is just expressing it in a softer way than I just did. She wants blame her parents and that traditional upbringing but she doesn't want to upset her family. Her mother is an old school Caribbean Lady just like mine. I get it.
I think some people are missing what she's saying because she's so desperately looking to be with another man. And you know that entrenched fear of leaving a relationship because you're unhappy just to be with a man who'll be the same or worse. But Tia's like many women who've always been coupled up as adults. They don't know how to be without someone in their lives.
People think the ring is enough. Suffering with a “good black man” is enough because at least you’re married right? Those same people made fun of Tamera for being the “white sister”, yet she seems happier in her marriage with a white man than her sister. Some people are butthurt that Tia felt confident enough to not settle with mediocrity because they would. Those people can’t fathom that fact that her “good black man” was a mediocre man who did not need to be with her. Let Tia explore her new life and enjoy her time.
I could be wrong but there's something that might have occurred in the marriage overtime or went left and in the process of leaving she chose to honor her children and her family by keeping it cute. Unhappiness is the perfect way to ruin a relationship, especially with no communication, compassion, compromise, God and prayer...It takes 2 to make relationships work and when 1 gives up there is no marriage!
Hey cousin, the girlies are way too hard on Ms. Tia. I think she beats up on herself before anyone else has the chance to, which is sad. Today is my birthday and I'm off today. I'm grateful to have one of your gems to listen to. ❤
A lot of women are figuring out we don’t have to live by society’s expectations. I want to retire early so I may never have kids to get to that goal. I may not even get married. They are low on my priority list.
It’s ironic that a man can leave a marriage because he’s not happy, but when a woman leave because she’s not happy she’s a fool. Tia should never give us the details of their marriage because that’s their business. Most of the time you’re damned if you do and damned if you don’t. We’re all tired of seeing Cardi B relationship play out in the public. It’s natural to mourn the loss of a relationship especially if there’s kids involved. Women can be so hard in each other. Black women are not monolithic and we have to allow space for our differences, because no one else does. You’re taking up for Tia because like me you don’t like to see anyone get piled on especially if they don’t deserve it.
I feel everything ur saying on Tia right now, Rodney. My sister in law has asked my brother for a divorce after 30 years, and her family and ours both just don't understand why, so she is getting minimal community support, despite my SIL saying my brother emotionally peaced out years ago, and he shakes her when they get into an argument (her account; Idk if there's more altho I hope not). My family and hers are taunting her about what she will feel when my brother moves on, because my brother is financially well off and has been a good provider. Everyone is completely ignoring her actual words and are engagin in this rhetoric of how she will fall flat on her face the moment she realises she's single and approaching 60, and no matter how much those of us supporting her state that she's accomplished in her own right and has a right to leave the marriage, everyone keeps saying she will regret it because she accepted my brother's apology yet still won't go back to him and their adult kids who live at home (in Africa this isn't an issue so plays no part in the story except to point out that they have grown kids and grandkids but people are acting like they have newborns 😂)
I am so proud of Tia. Her being vulnerable about her journey will help so many women. She has thick skin form the industry and a great support system. I will forever STAN Tia💯💓
11:34 Because the way people are treating Tia is wrong and you are a very empathetic person. This has been really interesting to watch. People really don’t like women setting and sticking to their boundaries.
I guess people don’t understand personal happiness. Your husband or boyfriend doesn’t have to be verbally or physically abusive in order for a woman to leave. Tia wasn’t happy within. She felt as if she didn’t have choices in life. I totally understand what she’s going through. When you’re not happy on a soul level you feel unfulfilled & you want to find what’s missing, what will make you happy, etc. Tia is on a healing journey, people need to give her some grace.
I think Tia is silent about her marriage is because she has a child with this man and maybe just maybe, they are trying to protect that child. So many other “so called good parents” would have no problem dragging family matters out for pubic consumption, so because she is doing the complete opposite she is the problem?
But Corey wasn’t the first person she dated… there are too many inconsistencies and confusion to be honest. On her UA-cam channel, she had a Q&A with Corey about their marriage and she made a comment about being in a bad relationship prior to being with Corey and she was grateful for his friendship and presence. Wishing Tia all the best though, everyone deserves contentment and happiness p, we only get one life.
Agreed! After age 18, she "dated" for two years before meeting Corey. This is the problem I have with Tia's apologists. Just tell the truth! No one RSVP'd to the party. No family other than the cousin? Sister, brothers, nor parents at the party? Yea! Keep blaming Corey.
Yes, where are the family connections. It was shocking to me to hear that Jerome is her protector and anchor, but has not met her child. She does seem lost. Also, I think ppl put too much belief in social media memes on what “happiness” should be. Tia needs to find herself and the only way to that is through truth.
I think what happen is on one of the last interviews she talked about him(Corey) being her whole world and then she split her whole world in half. The problem is she wasn't happy..
Relationships over time change and the people in it. And her being married for so long at a young age she didn't get to experience things young women her age would experience( the good stuff) because everything(and one) around her indoctrinated her to follow status quo. I'm happy that she had that realization and actually enjoy life as just herself. She only has 1 life and if that's not who she wants to spend it with then she did the right thing. You only get one chance at it. That forever love is a fantasy.
As our Cousin indicated, on social media we are only seeing the positive snippets of someone’s life. So to judge why a marriage ended because they seemed so happy on social media is ridiculous.
Cory was not emotionally nor mentally into Tia, he always seem uninterested in her, he used her for her money & fame and was jealous of her success and he treated her like crap, he always had a board look on his face 😮😮
People don’t prioritize happiness especially their own thus can not understand why nor how someone can leave a marriage “just because they’re not happy.” If you’ve experienced true happiness you ain’t letting NOTHING interrupt that. These people in survival mode so happiness is at the bottom of their values. 🤷🏽♀️
It’s weird before the divorce everybody was saying she shouldn’t have married him. How he was a bum and she picked him up off the bus stop. When she cries now she cries cause she not use to being single not because she’s not with Corey.
Abuse ain't just physical, what people seem to disregard is VERBAL, EMOTIONAL AND SEXUAL abuse falls in that category too! just cuz you don't see black eyes and bruises don't mean that woman ain't being talked to any kind of way, cheated on etc. - the brainwashing will tell you "don't give yo man away" being a MALE don't make you a Man! Fck these Ninjas 4r4r4r
Look, Tia has every right to do what's best for her and for her kids. I want her to live her best life.
Tia's not just mourning her marriage, she's mourning the last 22 years of her life, when she could have been taking control of her destiny instead of being who she was expected to be. She's sad about everything she could have been instead of Corey's wife. She thinks she wants a relationship, but she really wants self love and self acceptance.
YOU BETTA PREACH
Amazing assessment!
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I love this perspective.
This....
Black women 🗣: You do not have to be *run off* by a side baby, a black eye, STI or financial infidelity to want a divorce.
*YOU ARE ALLOWED TO LEAVE*
Amen.
THIS, for any reason at any point !
I ain't married - dodged that "Bull$#@t" - but please say it again for the people in the back!
I say DON'T MARRY that is a societal norm and doesn't have to be "the norm" black folk so brainwashed and mentally enslaved that it's sad - I'm over 50, Single and FREE - I wouldn't have it any other way! And I'm a mother of a young adult that's over 35 - I did NOT encourage dating, having kids, engagement, marriage, none of the sorts! I lived my life out loud and it looks like my daughter took head. I have a home, a paid for car! a decent job that pays by bills and allows for lil bit of this and that and a vacation here or there - Man where? Man for what? I'm good! better than most Married, but really Single women my age 🎤 mic drop
@@TamikoLee-g6d56 Single mother of a 34 year old adult. Living my best life and wouldn’t have it any other way.
The lack of empathy for women is really disgusting. Let this woman be human and feel her feelings.
People should be treating Tia like someone who is in mourning because that's exactly what this is. She is mourning her marriage. One minute she could be laughing and playful and the next moment she could be crying her eyes out. I genuinely dislike the lack of empathy in the black community.
You should see the comments on another video they are absolutely disgusting
The lack of empathy in the community honestly explains a lot. I've never lived in a black American community, but there is not one thing I've seen and heard from my AA friends, that is not mirrored in communities thousands of miles away, in areas that have had zero contact with AAs
I really don't think this is an issue with the black community in particular. Many different types of people from various walks of life are confused by Tia. It's a combination of her putting so much on display while simultaneously saying little of substance or expanding upon why. Plus we are having an in cel resurgence at this point, so that really doesn't help. Not only is society at large not really ready to have these conversations around "non malignant" divorces (or divorce in general, for that matter) but on top of it, she's not having that conversation. She doesn't have to ofc, but people are going to have logical gaps they will be frustrated when they can't fill. Rodney said it best, if you don't have a discernible 'reason' for leaving your spouse, people are going to be confused about it across the board. People do not like things they cannot make sense of, and Tia is not providing a lot of clarity. In many ways, black communities can be the MOST empathetic. On this topic though, you're not going to get a lot of sympathy trying to unpack your emotional life without having a meaningful discussion around the inner workings of it. Most grown adult folk have their own issues and I think a lot of them seeing Tia having a self-revolving moment that isn't simply explainable seems like reaching for attention, and people will be naturally turned off by desperation. Tia is objectively obtuse and that isn't something that's on black ppl.
@@meemzing of course it's worldwide but we're black this is what we go through we identity with HER
Agreed.
Tia is indirectly making a lot of black women look at themselves and their bullshit ass relationships..and they’re mad about it!( in my New York voice )
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*NOW YOU JUST SET FIRE TO THE RAIN , BABY!!!!!* 🎯
That PART!!
POW!!!!
If she stayed married, people were mad. Get divorce mad. Never marry, still mad.
That's why we should always put ourselves first❤.. and stop trying to seek approval elsewhere...
They gon be mad regardless.
So true she really can’t win!
I think Tia got tired of taking care of that man. She’s trying to spare Corey’s feelings and protect her family. Just my thoughts.
Just watching them on that OWN show, I noticed how he spoke to her and how his face looked when she spoke. Let's just say it was very telling. Especially if she dealt with that on a regular basis. Ijs...
I agree I think TIA was tired of taking care of him too. I seen the black love interview on own and is something wasn’t right about that especially the facial expression he gave to her when she interrupted him by mistake.😮
I think it's the opposite. I think she's used to Corey being home w the kids, and he was starting to work more than her and prob make more than her (not have as much money, but make more each year). He prob was just getting to the place where he could help. I personally think she likes to compete, and that might also be the issue w her not being close to her sister, but that's just an opinion I got from the reality show they did years ago. It's either that, or she put him out when she felt he was able to take care of himself. I feel she was either competing or looking out.
@@hope4me847if he’s doing well then they are doing well. That wasn’t it. Nine times out of ten they grew apart. They aren’t the same people they were at 20 that they are at 40 something. I believe It’s not as drama filled as most folks want to think.
@@hope4me847 I agree 💯. I see and hear it when she speaks about what she wants
Since when was happiness not a requirement in a relationship/marriage 😢...
They acting like being unhappy is not a good enough excuse. She probably didn't even know herself. She probably found herself in that marriage and realized this wasn't what she wanted and was unhappy. It's brave of her to leave that marriage. Good for her, as others will stay in a dead relationship just to say "they're married". Men step out on their wives for way less.
Some people are watching her show just to have something to say, instead of trying to understand where she's coming from.
I'm most definitely agree with you
So true!! What a letdown.. we as a community.. failed her fr💯.. #teamTia ❤
Rodney's right, with her you definitely need to fill in the gaps. What she's trying to convey is going to slip past a lot of people, first and foremost because she is still working it out herself.
Let me expand on Tia Gate. Tia is biracial and therefore seen as a preference. Statistically, biracial women are more likely to be married by both black and white men than black women. The way marriage desperate black women see it is like this: Tia had a privilege that most black women statistically will never have, which is the "privilege" of marrying a black man (even though black men are the worst men to marry statistically). When Tia divorced him, she showed that she was ungrateful to be married to a black man and should have endured whatever unhappiness she was enduring for the sake of maintaining her prize. Marriage obsessed black women see marriage to a black man as a badge of honor, so, to them, tia divorcing doesn't make sense. Even if she wasn't happy.
This makes a lot of sense. Like why is the preference who got “a good black man” rejecting that man.
@@CynthiaG84 Yep
@@SCFLEURis he still considered a good black man if you gotta pay all the bills in the house
@nordette yes. All that matters to pickmes and patriarchs is that he doesn't cheat or hit. He can be boring, unromantic, selfish, emotionally and financially harmful, but how dare a woman not tie herself to a peen that doesn't do the only two bad things - and even then we are fluid on it - a man can do
Makes sense to me.
The fact that her not being happy isn't answer enough just goes to show that people will go through anything to say they have a man.
Delusional
Rodney! You are speaking gospel. My sister married her husband at 26, set of twins, big house. Both were very successful. She decided 5 years ago at 55 to leave her husband. No catastrophic/drama. She simply just was not happy, and he did not want to work on it. He was happy living as a roommate. I have never seen my sister more happier in her life. Single, fumbling through dating apps - but happy..
Good for your sister! She still got plenty life to live! But she should love on herself, date herself and be FREE! Get off them damn apps! Don't search for happiness, but find it within! JMTs
@@TamikoLee-g6d amen!! Girl, that’s a whole other story! Hahaha I told her.. just spend time with yourself.. but her, and a few of my divorced or widowed GF’s are just so used to being wives.. they don’t know how to be single! I told her to seek therapy.
Good for your sister! I pray this type of liberation for all women 50+ especially in loveless marriages. They often think they’re too old, fearful of being alone or managing their health and homes later in life. However you love on yourself and let others love on you it’s not unreasonably to have another great 30-40 years. Let the baggage go and blessings flow in. I plan on having a huge 99th birthday, seeing my great grand kids and I’m only in my 30’s.
People’s lack of emotional intelligence makes me sad. The bar is in hell.
Rodney, Tia leaving her husband may have nothing to do with her husband specifically. She may have simply outgrown him or have changed since she was 22. Her not being happy doesn’t mean that he was the problem. She may not have any “story” to disclose where he was abusing her or cheating on her etc. Probably just grew apart…
Bingo!!!
This!
This is a valid comment. I believe this happens with many. Disclaimer: I’m not team anyone. I believe this would apply to Jeannie Mai and her ex before Jeezy. I don’t believe this is the case with Tia & Cory. I believe Cory wouldn’t do the work to make the relationship safe and equitable for Tia. Part of why she keeps chasing a relationship is bc she indeed wants partnership she just couldn’t bare it with a person that wouldn’t mature, heal to actually fit the role of partner. Tia has looked drained for some years. Their episode from Black love doc is very telling.
The fact that you have empathy for others is a rare blessing in this horrid society. Most people don’t have feelings.
I think women are jealous that tia was strong enough and has enough confidence in herself to leave a bad situation and find her happiness IN THE MIRROR!
Boom! 🫵🏽
Bingo. I don’t know if I’d say jealous though. I think women, Black women especially, have been programmed to think you stay with your man through the good and the bad. And as long as he ain’t cheating on you or beating you upside your head you shouldn’t complain. Women were taught to find value in being chosen by men. BC Tia is choosing to find happiness in herself, I don’t think women are jealous. I think they aren’t used to seeing women choose themselves so they think she’s nuts. Some of those women are probably questioning their own relationships too. We live in a patriarchal society and we’ll always put men on a pedestal.
They're projecting fr!!!
I don’t see the issue with Tia leaving Corey for whatever her reasons were. But is she really happy??? She doesn’t seem like it. She still has a bit of soul searching to do and it has absolutely nothing to do with Corey.
Not at all.
I don't know why, but the "knocking the head between a washer and dryer " gets me every time. Rodney, you make me laugh. 😂
6:20 tbh, every time they were together he looked miserable. That would make me unhappy too. Unfortunately, many people stay in unhappy situations so they feel like she should as well. That marriage must have been draining for both of them.
People are really cyber bullying her for something so common like divorce. Very strange behavior
I filed for divorce in both of my marriages. Neither was because of DV or infidelity. Both were due to me not being happy. One did involve alcohol abuse and the other wasn't really ready for marriage so he wasn't there mentally or emotionally. The bottom line is I wasn't happy. Being unhappy can come in many forms. Unfortunately a lot of women stay in unhealthy/unhappy relationships because they "got a man!" I say do what suits you and let others make their own decisions. I am very happily single and me and my ex husbands are cool.
Good on you....
Facts!! 1,000% agree
I got married really young I was 18 and we didn’t have children until 5 years later at 23, it was dumb to get married that young and smart to wait 5 years but I started to feel like I had outgrown my husband neither of us had a chance to grow independently before being in such a commitment and by the time we divorced I was relieved. He had become someone I didn’t like, I was expected to ignore the cheating and lying because of the time we were together but no one asked if I was happy, when you start not to like someone, small things like the way they chew their food can become agonizing, you begin to notice that they’re actually lazy, and you get tired of pushing them to be better. You realize that energy can be put into yourself and your children, it’s time to go….no one should stay somewhere and be unhappy. Life is to short.
Tia is lowkey our Grandmothers dream personified. Tia is equipped with the financial, emotional and mental ability to leave. Idgaf unhappiness is an explanation.
Women stay after a cheating or a baby scandal and they’re judged for being stupid. They constantly throw “break babies” at Gabrielle Union, etc. but they cannot fathom Tia just wanting her peace.
Yup I think Cory was probably a big azz freeloader and she was the one keeping the whole family together.
Bw are mostly the breadwinner in relationships to ninjas.
Cory had acting jobs.
@@maryjanesbaby9392 And tia and Tamara were millionaires by 18...lol...so....
I believe Tia and Corey have a gag clause in their divorce so she can’t speak her full truth when it comes to him
@@BLxM559 yes I was thinking they have a DNA or non-disparagement agreement
Hm that would explain a lot about the murkiness surrounding the whole situation
I believe that as well!! She’s been in the industry long enough and has a particular image I believe her and her legal team were smart enough to require that.
Those that called her the “black twin” didn’t really like her, they just liked that she was with a black man. Now that she’s not, they can’t make her sister look bad for being with a white man.
Exactly. That's why I chuckled to myself every time I heard someone call her the "black sister", because look at how y'all switched up on y'all "sista" now 😂
People will always criticize, regardless. Just live.
We saw Tia & Corey’s dynamic on
The OWNTV show, Black Love. That was reason enough to separate.
Rodney I deeply appreciate this upload. I relate a lot to Tia. Gone through and continue to go through similar things and similar conditioning/background. I also naturally empathize with peoples so it is frustrating when you don’t get that care, compassion, patience back- many don’t give you the benefit of the doubt, when you’ve always been consistent in giving out respect. It’s validating seeing and hearing a man understand and not having to be in it to get it. Not only do you get you are frustrated that others don’t, that some are choosing not too and going the extra step to be malicious. Since this was needed for me and I didn’t know I needed it I can only imagine how many others you’ve touched. Thank you cousin ❤
Tia is 100% protecting Corey, likely for her children's sake, but Corey's not returning the favor. Hes completely silent, letting the false narratives run rampant. That tells me everything I need to know.
That man is probably mourning the divorce. He didn't want to get divorced in the first place. While she was dancing and celebrating after the divorce on Instagram. I don't blame him for not speaking up. And he's always been private
I completely agree!!! She is most definitely protecting Corey!! She did not divorce that man for NO REASON. Trust he is not a damn victim 😒
@@avasd59 lol. mourning.
@@karamelkisses1524 at all.
There is definitely sooo much more going on…
...i hate being an adult with responsibility! Paying bills sucks!
These individuals are willing to remain in unhappy situations, accepting the bare minimum because they’ve convinced themselves that’s all they deserve. They settle for less, believing that change or happiness isn’t within their reach. They believe the hype that marriage is the end all be all. And without a “husband” your nothing.
We have seen this play out time and time again, especially with couples who have been married for years. While the length of their marriage might impress outsiders, the truth is that many of those years were filled with misery and dissatisfaction. Instead of seeking better or walking away, they stayed trapped in their unhappiness, letting time pass without truly experiencing the joy or connection that a marriage should bring. So when someone like Tia said she left because she wasnt happy. She’s seen as selfish
Disney really.. ruined us💯.. and now these unhappy, confused women.. are realizing😂.. they married Ursula.. instead of Prince Eric 👀...
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They say marriage is like a death so is she supposed to be emotionless after leaving him? People so perfect on the Internet 😂
Tia can't say anything negative about Cory per their divorce agreement.
The way Cory told her not to talk over him in that interview they did, and the way Tia stated sorry and backed down, showed me everything I needed to know. She divorced that man for a reason. Anyone could tell he had issues.
How soon we forget! She looked like a DV victim, this coming from a DV survivor and advocate.
@@MmmSoulCare exactly.. you could tell by her reaction.
Best friend, we put up with a lot of shyt for the sake of having a family. But ohhhhh, when we wake up. (“When I Wake Up- Jill Scott). Children grow up, husbands dismiss themselves. We have to choose our own happiness.
The gag is…. If she gives a reason they will still make an excuse for the behavior. “Well he been not working so why is it a problem” “well if he cheated was she doing her wifely duties” “well she always out her career first he felt emasculated” Like….. whatever she says being be good enough, so just don’t say anything at all…
Or "Well, she chose him"
@@brittmar538 she met him on the bus stop what did she expect!?
@stephjay848 really?! He was 21 or 22. Not everyone has it all together at that age. If you did good for you
@@brittmar538 😭😭😭😭
The difference between Tia & Tamera is that Tamera actually did date and she enjoyed her twenties without being married. As much as people tried to make Tamera the goody goody, Tia was really the goody goody twin that was always in the books. Tamera was out having fun, so now that she is in her 40s she just want to enjoy her family while Tia is the complete opposite. She wants to adventure now.
Both sisters have the same outlook on life so I don’t think it’s fair to say that Tia is the goody goody one cause she didn’t date. Dating doesn’t mean you’re not goody good. We should stop comparing them all the time cause I think it’s one of the reasons why Tia didn’t want her sister on the show. To avoid comparisons.
Another big difference was that Tamera was open to dating non-Black men. Too many Bw are stuck on Bm but Bw+ Wm marriages are the most successful marriages in the country compared to Bw+Bm marriages.
@@StefStef438 I wasn't saying either was a goody goody but that was the sterotype people gave Tamera for years. I'm saying by society's definition of goody goody that would have fit Tia more than it fit Tamera when they were in their 20s.
And the fact is that she didn't get to explore and just have fun because she got married early. And I'm not talking about having fun in the sense of sex, cause Tamera didn't do that either. i mean just be independent and have no one to worry about. Now we see Tia breaking free and trying to have fun but it isn't the same because she has kids now.
@@ashleyrogers1930"she didn't get to".... and? Lol. Whose fault is that? Lol. she wasn't forced to get married. I love that Tia is having this time now, but she is not a victim like she was somehow forced to marry him. There is no indication of that. We all make choices.
It's all love but your comment made me chuckle because someone in my personal life made a comment like "I didn't get to have the high school experience like prom etc. gurl nobody told you to have two kids before 17. " That's on you boo. Boo hoo cry me a river. Lol.
@@StefStef438well said. There are two separate people with different journeys. I wish them both nothing but the best.
And all these years later, Tia's parents are now divorced . #irony
My god today.
Her Mama sat her down and said let me play this song for you babygirl.
"I think you better let it go, Just another love TKO"* 🎶
Mother Mowry _herself_ singing like Pharrrell: _'Cause I'm happy..._
I don't think people realize that the first part of Tia's life her identity was attached to her sister. Then for 20 years her identity was attached to Cory and being a wife. Now Tia's identity is tied to Tia. In my opinion I think it's scary for her to stand on her own right now because it's not what she's used to. I think Tia is in mourning & that includes mourning the relationship/marriage & who she used to be. Tia will be ok. She just has to become comfortable with being just Tia
When it comes to her leaving Cory, Tia met him when she was 20. That lady is now in her 40s. She has changed & I'm sure he has changed too. Her not being happy & divorcing him can be as simple as they grew apart. Tia doesn't seem like the type who would leave just to be leaving. Hell she said a few years into the marriage she realized that maybe it wasn't the best decision & she stayed with him for 20 years.
People coming down on her is crazy. Half of the people that's mad dont even have this much energy for people they actually know that wronged them. I get Tia signed up to do a show. But maybe she doesn't want to get into the meat & potatoes of why she left Cory to protect her kids. Idk the exact reason she left & while I would like to know I'm ok with not knowing.
You are so right my husband and I’ve been married for 15 years and this is the most unhappy I’ve been my whole life. If I leave my husband today, everyone in my life, including my family, would think that I’m crazy.. because he is hard-working pays all the bills to be around no outside babies he’s always home. but being with him, I feel dead.
Oh sister, I pray that you get your happy back... And FAST
I don't care that Tia got a divorce, BUT I think Tia's unhappy PERIOD - husband or no husband. Maybe a divorce will give her chance to figure out happiness cause I think it def can be harder inside of a marriage.
When cousin said “Tia is still in protection mode” he hit the mf nail!!!!! This reminds me of Teyana and the “not too much on my bestie” and then public records exposed her ex for the childish/no lights on/not properly watching the kids/already having other women around kids man she was dealing with 😂
I was a bankruptcy attorney for over a decade. It is a tool used FREQUENTLY by the wealthy. When we file we are shamed and made to feel like deadbeats. There was a bloomberg analysis in 2021 that even showed that when we file we are pushed into the most "expensive" form of bankruptcy. Financial literacy is a must!!
26:56 KEKE PALMER tea starts here :
I’m so glad KEKE is being open about her finances! I drive a Toyota as well and I swear ppl act like a car is the end all be all. I pray to pass that car down to my son in 10 years. Shoot. We need to learn to live beneath our means
Cousin we will have to agree to disagree on the Tia topic. I see you feel strongly about that so I’ll keep my comments to myself & just fast forward lol 🫶🏿🙏🏿😭
Ooooh COUSIN! I just finished payingnoff my 300 car payment last month...best birthday presents 🤸🏽♀️
I said the same thing....people threw Tia aside the moment she got a divorce.
Women have the tendency to outgrow men, especially if they've only been with one since they were teenagers. She comes from the generation who was raised to believe that a man doing the bare minimum is "good enough". Corey may have been unambitious, not growing with his own interests, or preventing her from wanting to self-actualize by putting her down through gas-lighting, playing on her insecurities, or simply not being who she needed as she matured. He could've also been a financial drag who nested on her income without pursuing high profile acting gigs and/or not pulling his weight raising the children. All those things can make a woman unhappy without it being about DV/cheating etc. A "good" man is not enough anymore and I hope more women realize this before they have children or marry young to the wrong person.
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Yes Rodney!!! Keep the videos coming! First again! 🎉
Hello cousin ❤.. You got here first again??!.. 😂 I admit defeat this time.. but 😂..am still coming for that No 1 spot ..
@@francineserwili4674 haha 😆 hey cousin! ..this is so funny! Hopefully you can get it one of these times girlie! 😂😊
@@ashleys2733❤... Yes, it still on😂.. I am training.. to Katt W. version of Luda's.. "I am coming for that no 1 spot ..🎵" ..
Basically in short misogyny is the reason
They want all their money now because they think Diddy bout to be broke.
Tia is growing and stretching. She's like a teenager right now. She needs her space. It has nothing to do with Corey. When she's finished she and him might be able to be BFF. She's basically talking things out to figure it out at this point. Ppl need to get off her back and just be encouraging towards her. The miserable ppl that can't leave or find a man are resentful to her.
I handle my breakups just like Tia. I’ll never bash the other person and idc how I look to others about my decision. Once a man or anyone around me says “it could be worse” or says “other men be out here doing worse than me” baby ima head on up outta there immediately. cause nothing is worse than being in a mediocre relationship
I agree with you Rodney about Tia. Ppl look at her and see this beautiful “mixed” woman and in the black community you are supposed to be living the best life. She had money and a career with kids. And ppl for ever reason that celebrities shouldn’t have any emotions or down falls
I need Tia to realize how miserable and desperate some women and men are and ignore these weird people on social media with so much to say. Tia did the right thing. She needs to release all that pressure to get married and just date casually and live her life.
It's called FREE WILL! She doesn't have to stay with him if she doesn't want to. She's not his 'property'.
Monday Blessings💙MY BROTHER RODNEY WE LOVE YOU!!!!!!!
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Cousin, I wholeheartedly agree with what you said about Tia. Im praying for her healing.
I just LOVE when you break out in song. Omg 😂 saaaang
My favourite 'Rodney track:' _He got that heavy, heavy, heavyyyyyyyyy._ 😅
The impromptu Anita Baker rendition has me so tickled 😂😂😂 Cousin making this Monday morning workday easier.
I agree with your sister on this. I think Tia being on a reality show about the dissolution of your marriage but not spilling the Tea, is annoying. She has an opportunity to share your side as blunt as possible that’s why i tune in. If she was on an ensemble cast, beating around the bush wouldn’t fly. The issue is she would say she’s unhappy and fans will make up a million reasons why she left and allege he cheated, broke and he was emotionally abusive and she just lets it fly when all she said was “i wasn’t happy”
Rodney I appreciate your commentary on Tia. I went thru the same thing as Tia. My circle of associates were appalled that I was leaving my husband. I chose not to defame his name because it was just not smart considering our connections. It takes a mature woman to leave under immense scrutiny while protecting the reputation of the one you need relief from.
Yes to $300 car note! LOL. As always excellent commentary.
Lmao 🤣 and I was dead ass serious
3:09 She also has the right to wake up and decide she doesn't want to be married anymore. It sucks sometimes, but we are free to move as we want
I would not be surprised if there were some emotional and psychological abuse by Cory.
The car payments took me out😂😂
Okay for the cuteness in the ball cap.😂❤
When I listen to Tia, I hear her saying without explicitly saying that man was over there wearing her low from the start. I applaud her, any woman for that matter, having the courage & self love to leave situations that don’t fulfill them.
you are making sense cousin sometimes the emotional connection just fades, or you change, or you lose love and that’s enough to want more. it can still be heartbreaking coming to this realization especially if you’ve spent decades of your life with someone.
People who think you need to be getting your ass beat to leave a relationship are going to be stuck in unsatisfying situations.
I agree with everything you say about tia. I just don't like how she guilted her sister on TV then backtracked in interviews. Tia is expressing in so many words that she was too young and inexperienced to get married and she was miserable in that relationship but she is just expressing it in a softer way than I just did. She wants blame her parents and that traditional upbringing but she doesn't want to upset her family. Her mother is an old school Caribbean Lady just like mine. I get it.
I think some people are missing what she's saying because she's so desperately looking to be with another man. And you know that entrenched fear of leaving a relationship because you're unhappy just to be with a man who'll be the same or worse. But Tia's like many women who've always been coupled up as adults. They don't know how to be without someone in their lives.
People think the ring is enough. Suffering with a “good black man” is enough because at least you’re married right? Those same people made fun of Tamera for being the “white sister”, yet she seems happier in her marriage with a white man than her sister. Some people are butthurt that Tia felt confident enough to not settle with mediocrity because they would. Those people can’t fathom that fact that her “good black man” was a mediocre man who did not need to be with her. Let Tia explore her new life and enjoy her time.
I could be wrong but there's something that might have occurred in the marriage overtime or went left and in the process of leaving she chose to honor her children and her family by keeping it cute. Unhappiness is the perfect way to ruin a relationship, especially with no communication, compassion, compromise, God and prayer...It takes 2 to make relationships work and when 1 gives up there is no marriage!
Hey cousin, the girlies are way too hard on Ms. Tia. I think she beats up on herself before anyone else has the chance to, which is sad. Today is my birthday and I'm off today. I'm grateful to have one of your gems to listen to. ❤
Rodney,I totally agree with you about This. Also, you laid that song OUT!! Beautiful. #fairytales
A lot of women are figuring out we don’t have to live by society’s expectations. I want to retire early so I may never have kids to get to that goal. I may not even get married. They are low on my priority list.
“ You forgot your Bentley car payment due “ ? 😂😂😂😂 fr
It’s ironic that a man can leave a marriage because he’s not happy, but when a woman leave because she’s not happy she’s a fool. Tia should never give us the details of their marriage because that’s their business. Most of the time you’re damned if you do and damned if you don’t. We’re all tired of seeing Cardi B relationship play out in the public.
It’s natural to mourn the loss of a relationship especially if there’s kids involved. Women can be so hard in each other. Black women are not monolithic and we have to allow space for our differences, because no one else does.
You’re taking up for Tia because like me you don’t like to see anyone get piled on especially if they don’t deserve it.
I feel everything ur saying on Tia right now, Rodney. My sister in law has asked my brother for a divorce after 30 years, and her family and ours both just don't understand why, so she is getting minimal community support, despite my SIL saying my brother emotionally peaced out years ago, and he shakes her when they get into an argument (her account; Idk if there's more altho I hope not). My family and hers are taunting her about what she will feel when my brother moves on, because my brother is financially well off and has been a good provider. Everyone is completely ignoring her actual words and are engagin in this rhetoric of how she will fall flat on her face the moment she realises she's single and approaching 60, and no matter how much those of us supporting her state that she's accomplished in her own right and has a right to leave the marriage, everyone keeps saying she will regret it because she accepted my brother's apology yet still won't go back to him and their adult kids who live at home (in Africa this isn't an issue so plays no part in the story except to point out that they have grown kids and grandkids but people are acting like they have newborns 😂)
I am so proud of Tia. Her being vulnerable about her journey will help so many women. She has thick skin form the industry and a great support system. I will forever STAN Tia💯💓
11:34 Because the way people are treating Tia is wrong and you are a very empathetic person. This has been really interesting to watch. People really don’t like women setting and sticking to their boundaries.
I guess people don’t understand personal happiness. Your husband or boyfriend doesn’t have to be verbally or physically abusive in order for a woman to leave. Tia wasn’t happy within. She felt as if she didn’t have choices in life. I totally understand what she’s going through. When you’re not happy on a soul level you feel unfulfilled & you want to find what’s missing, what will make you happy, etc. Tia is on a healing journey, people need to give her some grace.
I think Tia is silent about her marriage is because she has a child with this man and maybe just maybe, they are trying to protect that child. So many other “so called good parents” would have no problem dragging family matters out for pubic consumption, so because she is doing the complete opposite she is the problem?
I LOL about your car note and when you were asked about your credit. Those of us who live in truth have also done this same thing.
But Corey wasn’t the first person she dated… there are too many inconsistencies and confusion to be honest. On her UA-cam channel, she had a Q&A with Corey about their marriage and she made a comment about being in a bad relationship prior to being with Corey and she was grateful for his friendship and presence. Wishing Tia all the best though, everyone deserves contentment and happiness p, we only get one life.
Agreed! After age 18, she "dated" for two years before meeting Corey. This is the problem I have with Tia's apologists. Just tell the truth! No one RSVP'd to the party. No family other than the cousin? Sister, brothers, nor parents at the party? Yea! Keep blaming Corey.
Yes, where are the family connections. It was shocking to me to hear that Jerome is her protector and anchor, but has not met her child. She does seem lost. Also, I think ppl put too much belief in social media memes on what “happiness” should be. Tia needs to find herself and the only way to that is through truth.
I think what happen is on one of the last interviews she talked about him(Corey) being her whole world and then she split her whole world in half. The problem is she wasn't happy..
32:45 😂😂😂😂😂 Yessss come on $300.00!! I know that's right..😂😂
Lmao 🤣
Relationships over time change and the people in it. And her being married for so long at a young age she didn't get to experience things young women her age would experience( the good stuff) because everything(and one) around her indoctrinated her to follow status quo. I'm happy that she had that realization and actually enjoy life as just herself. She only has 1 life and if that's not who she wants to spend it with then she did the right thing. You only get one chance at it. That forever love is a fantasy.
Tia's life is none of our business
As our Cousin indicated, on social media we are only seeing the positive snippets of someone’s life. So to judge why a marriage ended because they seemed so happy on social media is ridiculous.
Yes to all of this! Excellent video Rodney!
Cory was not emotionally nor mentally into Tia, he always seem uninterested in her, he used her for her money & fame and was jealous of her success and he treated her like crap, he always had a board look on his face 😮😮
Yes. Their combination was weird..she was always happy and cheery and he always had a look on his face like she annoyed him.
People don’t prioritize happiness especially their own thus can not understand why nor how someone can leave a marriage “just because they’re not happy.” If you’ve experienced true happiness you ain’t letting NOTHING interrupt that. These people in survival mode so happiness is at the bottom of their values. 🤷🏽♀️
The opinions in this video represents Rodney Tha Voice and ME!!!!
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14:40 This is a classic case of
- You asked me a question.
- I answered.
- You just didn't LIKE my answer. But that's your problem.
Keke tryna give us something else to talk about 👀
It’s weird before the divorce everybody was saying she shouldn’t have married him. How he was a bum and she picked him up off the bus stop. When she cries now she cries cause she not use to being single not because she’s not with Corey.
The notion is that women shouldn’t leave relationships if it’s not abuse. Even stay when they cheat. No one cares about happiness.
Abuse ain't just physical, what people seem to disregard is VERBAL, EMOTIONAL AND SEXUAL abuse falls in that category too! just cuz you don't see black eyes and bruises don't mean that woman ain't being talked to any kind of way, cheated on etc. - the brainwashing will tell you "don't give yo man away" being a MALE don't make you a Man! Fck these Ninjas 4r4r4r
Rodney, the whole IG picture perfect life it’s what have everyone depressed and aiming for unrealistic expectations 🫣 talk more about that!