The REAL Reason Black Women Left the Natural Hair Movement
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Funny how the heat damage comments are always followed by directions to do a “big chop”. I remember big chop “shaming “-if you didn’t do a big chop then you couldn’t be natural-secretly just wanting the other girl to cut her hair off😂
I heard this all the time back in 2012 (I had been getting relaxers so long, I forgot my hair was curly). I got heavy judgment for choosing to transition versus chopping.
YES omg! people don't seem to understand that sometimes depending on products or the length of your hair, it can weigh your curls down, causing them to stretch. you don't have to chop your hair off every time your curl stretches a little bit!
@ExoticalsUnited omgosh this explains so much. UAB girl told my daughter she needed to chop her hair cos it's fried. She wears her hair natural and doesn't want to put weaves, wigs, or tons of heat in her hair anymore & that's her right. She wants to wear it however she wants to for almost 3 yrs now. There's nothing wrong with her hair. It just depends on the products she uses and it's also the fact that she has a few different hair types, as a lot of humans do. Because of the harassment, she hates her hair but she's still standing her ground. She talks about how much she hates it all the time and idk what to do. I tell her it's beautiful and strangers tell her all the time but it's not enough. I don't want her to feel she's inferior just because she chooses to wear her natural afro. She doesn't wanna go to salons anymore cos she likes doing it herself. Its grown so long and I just don't see the issue with it.
@ExoticalsUnited 47yr old bm here and I swear to you NOBODY HATES ON BLACK WOMEN MORE THAN ANOTHER BLACK WOMAN.
Women who cut their hair short are also berated. I have had some negative experiences from some black women with relaxers when I said I decided to cut off my hair when I stopped using chemicals. These are people who ASKED me about my story because I make a point never to comment or bring up hair with anyone who is relaxed or has wig/weave because of my past negative interactions.I have no interest in dealing with two textures or damage hair. I have cut my hair short other times in my life for various reasons as have other women in my family. I wasn’t raised to see this as a big deal. I saw a TON of negative comments about Rhianna cutting her hair short. Seems like some some black women equate their beauty and value to the length of their hair. Any time I watch a FB video of a black women cutting her long hair short there are a bunch of pissed off women in the comments. There is an entire culture that is not my own where people love to throw out “bald headed” as an insult despite that some black women prefer their hair short.
Its crazy how black women complain about society shaming their hair then shame each other harder than anyone else its sad
@@s.mclovin800 happens every time
You said it.
Yup it’s self hate that they project onto one another. I’m a BW and think it’s so foolish.
That’s the truth I have type 4 hair and when I wear it natural the compliments are always from non black folks
So true, it's ridiculous...
I think black women and black people in general all over the world just don’t covet natural hair and “quintessential” black features. I remember when my mama went natural and she has 4C hair, my NIGERIAN grandfather told her that she needed to straighten her hair again and so did my grandma. My uncles (her brothers) teased her… I all
But cussed them out and went to war for my mama to wear her natural hair. But it took a toll on her confidence in the look….we tried, but the natural hair movement was very superficial.
Yeah, I mean I can see why women don’t want to be a part of it especially if their own family members are discouraging it 🤷🏽♀️
I think what happened with the natural hair movement was that everyone loved the IDEA of natural hair but when it comes to the natural hair movement on a mental level, everyone still thinks that natural hair is “nappy, not elegant and presentable” to wear to important events. If the black community wants to revive the natural hair movement, then they need to dive head first on the negative connotations and the real reason why everyone does not like to wear natural hair
Yes. If they don't stop with the fake Crown Act foolishness. These wytes don't care about our hair, it's us
They thought they all secretly had 3c hair under the perm
The problem with natural hair movement is that black women want their hair to do things it won't. They wanted 3c type curls. I never had a problem because i wasn't interested in curls. I like blowout look. But my hair is long and it's super easy to manage because im not trying to hair 3c hair
If they were so concerned about women with looser textures "hijacking" the natural hair movement then they should have made that clear from the get go. They should have called it the "4c hair movement" or the "kinky hair movement" instead if they were so worried about exclusivity 🙄 The jokes write themselves.
Exactly
@@andyscdcollection415 😂😆
Okay but people also forget and no one wants to talk about all the people who claimed to have 4c hair making videos who really had 3b-4b hair that was just previously dry. That confused many actual rc hair women. If you typed in 4c hair you got lightskin women with 3b hair. It was actually hard to find accurate 4c representation because a lot of exotical women mislabeled themselves.
@@marajones1828 And let’s be honest, there were a lot of UADSW gaslighting and hating on us by telling us we HAD 4C hair! That’s the real read, boo! Do you believe that we would go online and say, “I have 4C hair” unless we honestly believed it?
Y’all have 4C hair and don’t want it. So why would we?
How about this, since y’all don’t have type 2/3 hair, or aren’t fair skinned, stop telling people what they are or aren’t and just do you. Respectfully, no shade.
@@CyberMachineexactly. 3c women STARTED the "natral movement " they thought they had 3c hair, got the big chop and found out they did not. Got mad 😠 😡 mixed women do switched it around and said we hijacked it . Smh ex, all the 3 hour wash n go's
This philosophy about natural femcels is true in more ways than one. It’s a misery loves company type of vibe. It’s also another one-sided competition. Whether a girl wants to be bald, permed, weaved-up or wear her fro no one should have anything to say about it.
Right. I definitely don’t feel “humbled” by women who DONT wear wigs in my texture . That’s very weird and obsessed. Why would anyone change their whole hairstyle just to attempt to humble someone who doesn’t even know you ? 😂
Black women shouldn't go natural for men, because these men are lying, most don't want short 4c hair. When they say they want natural hair, they usually have at least 4a long hair in mind. I see all kinds of videos of women wearing a short 4c afro and say no men approached them with that hairstyle. And I've gotten so many envious comments from other women about my long hair, like you said, trying to tell me it's frizzy if i dont put any product in it that day or tell me I should do this or that with my hair, I should cut it etc.
I’ve thought about honestly texturizing my hair recently. I like my natural hair texture, but it’s very tight and thick at the roots of my hair than everywhere else. Plus I’ve always thought looser curls looked better on me. I know if I said this anywhere else I would get dragged lol, but self-hate has never crossed my mind. I should be able to do what I want. 😭
Also I can always go back to being natural when I want to…..
😂 I must hate myself because I wear fake ponytails so 🤷🏽♀️ I also wear makeup . 💄 I feel like as long as the person is not actively hurting others and they’re comfortable with their decision then it doesn’t matter . And yes you can go back to natural if you get tired of the texturizer
Oh and my hair is easier to manage versus when I had straight hair. Its funny to watch people react when I said it takes me under 30 minutes. I only do things I'm obsessed with and I love touching my hair.
I always compliment wavy to curly to coily hair. My Jewish family doctor has a beautiful curly afro and encouraged me to wear my coily afro. I'm grateful to her. Made me realize I have options.
I don't think its a big deal to have straight hair either. I definitely have family with straight hair too. We don't talk deep about our hair besides saying our hairstyles are cute.
Nice
Two words. Blue. Ivy.
Spot on! I definitely left the natural hair groups on Facebook and unsubscribed to a few channels on UA-cam! You’re right: the bickering back and forth online was becoming way too exhausting!
Yes !
I left it behind because I was fed up with people telling me i gtta do some 10 step routine when my dax and pink lotion did me good lol
My response will always be… “ I don't recall asking for your opinion or advice on MY hair.”
I’m so glad you're calling out that “fake sisterhood” because I gotta be honest. I'm pretty tired of dealing with women and their antics lol
I would also like to say that not all black women were arguing during this time. I have been approached many times by black women who loved and appreciated my coils and I did the same. There was a lot of positivity around the natural hair movement. I think the rise of unnecessary products being sold played a big part in the destruction of our movement as well. It’s not uncommon.
Yup
Tri-racial Exotical here..... 40yrs old.....ummm dont cut your hair. I have locs down my back....i keep my hair retwisted and neat. I get a LOT of haters 😂😂😂😂😂
I went natural right before the natural hair movement really started to kickoff but it was more survival based for me. I was graduating hs and going to college on scholarship so I didn’t know if I would have a job where I moved for school and my weave and relaxers would be hundreds of dollars a month sooo w/ no income I figured I should do more sustainable hair. Also no internet access and other black women to teach me so I flat iron my hair daily and it broke off at the top really bad so it needed to be cut off anyway so starting twisties to let them loc up was a reasonable alternative.
Plus some guy my mom was sleeping w/ taught me how he Retwist was his hair in jail and it was super affordable and efficient so problem solved. It was just weird having half an inch of hair.
This was also right when Chris Rocks “Good Hair” movie came out and it influenced my 18 yr old self to no longer want the creamy crack.
And I took an easier way into it bc I have locs not loose natural hair.
Now I used to want different styles so I would watch videos to get ideas on how to style my love and just do the loc version of it.
I did used to be mad at ppl a lil bit for being relaxed then I quickly realized the relaxed hair eatssss and still shows black girl ingenuity so I love it like I used to. I love the variety.
Also I was a lil disillusioned when I found out some ppl where relaxing their edges and pretending they had good hair lol.
This was a good topic 🩵 ive been able to grow my natural hair wearing mini twist and I switch it up for occasions. My younger sister asked how she can grow her hair long but didn't feel comfortable with wearing it short. I told her she shouldn't have to! She can keep her hair under a wig or add extensions safetly. No one should feel uncomfortable or be forced to do something theyre not ready for. Youre speaking truth the pressure/policing our community puts on us is discouraging. Im glad your giving vocab on these confrontations. Ive felt i couldnt defend myself when people would confront me
I never saw anything wrong at all with how black women look in their natural state
Same !
It started off as express yourself! And ended no not like that!
Exactly 😂😂
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I never been involved in the natural hair movement. I always been wearing protective styles such as braids and wigs etc. I feel like I been criticized the most wearing protective hairstyles from the natural hair movement. I'm so sick of black woman asking me why don't you wear your hair natural? You gonna damage your hair etc etc. I'm sorry but I been wearing protective styles all my life and my hair been growing like crazy. It's so disrespectful how black woman put down other black woman regarding their hair. Idc what anyone says imma keep wearing my protective hairstyles. I'm wearing it for myself not to impress black men or anyone else😂😂❤❤❤ you are on point with this video EU❤
I'm not an "exotical" I have natural hair for my self.I I feel like a lot of black men don't like my locs. Luckily, I loc'd it for myself. And just yesterday someone tried to humble me while I'm minding my own business over my hair. That just let's me know I'm basically that girl. I also became more confident with my locs
I wear my hair as natural. I can see other black women unspokenly wondering why I don’t plait it or straighten or weave etc. I have even had well meaning friends and others including my daughter’s contemporaries asking me what I intend to ‘do’ with my hair for significant events, or encouraging me to wear plaits! However I won’t be intimidated or shamed into anything. I used to relax my hair as a young woman but at 61 I have decided that my natural hair ‘rocks’! I love it, even when it looks less than what others would think was great. I try to keep it as tidy as possible but I won’t be shamed about my hair in the way that we as black women have had to endure for so long, unfortunately and sadly by our own race included. Here’s to loving and rocking my natural hair!!!
I just listened to this whole video while showering LOL I think some are turning back to relaxers for a few reasons:
1. Many have realized that there is no magic product or routine that will give them the length or texture they desire
2. Relaxers are an easier styling option for some. Natural hair can be too time-consuming depending on length & texure
3. They simply want a new look
I've had natural hair my entire life, so I've had decades of understanding what my hair needs. It has never been as serious for me as it seems to be for so many women in cyberspace. I do wish that more women were comfortable wearing their real hair, relaxed or natural. Simply bc it's sad to see so many women with alopecia and such weakend hair from wearing wigs and weaves all their lives.
As long as Black women are looking beautiful w healthy hair that is their own, I support it. Relaxed or Natural.
Yes I agree as someone who never took my hair that seriously 😂 I’ve had it short, long, damaged, natural, relaxed, and in all types of wigs and weaves depending on how I feel
Thats sad they don't wear their own hair. Its weird to wear another race hair on your head 24/7. They need to put that energy humbling other women into fixing themselves
The natural hair movement focused too much on “ protective styles “ such as wigs …. The wigs with the baby hair was too much ….
This Type 4 hair hate is texturism and just another aspect of colorism within the Black, mixed-race, and POC communities. Yes, I know that there are whyte people who give natural Type 4 hair the stink eye, but I also know (and encounter) whyte people who like our natural Type 4 hair. Some people are just jerks, and some of those jerks look like us and some don't.
I get complimented by men (in all shades and races), with my natural hair, so it didn't bother me when women my shade would ask me to get a relaxer. I am lucky I was raised Caribbean because I did not get pushed to straighten my hair later on in life. They just said I'm pretty and moved on.
Exoticals United speaking nothing but facts 👏
Aw Thanks for watching !
I was never a part of the natural hair community but I became natural after seeing the potential health benefits. Wearing my hair naturally helped regained of my hair and even my skin too. However, the most challenging part being for me as a natural was the negative energy I was receiving from other black people and it became very exhausting at times having to defense myself for simply wearing my own hair. I now wear my hair naturally straight and sometimes wear wigs where I attract less miserable energy around me.
Hey pretty girls! Wow, I actually got the notice immediately and got to give our girl the 1st like!
yay! 😀
I've been natural for more than 13 years, before it became popular and had plenty of crappy comments in the earlier days. I'm still natural but started wearing wigs for protective styling during C-19 and I love the convenience of wigs, looks like my natural hair but it's super convenient for my busy lifestyle. The issue you are talking about isn't really about natural hair, it's about self-love overall.
Exactly. It’s a self esteem issue
Why is it not okay to not like your natural hair?
Right! I don’t like the fine texture of my hair sometimes 🤷🏽♀️ and I’m not ashamed to say my fake ponytails look better to me . I don’t care if people think that’s self hating.
3:04 l just adore her hair style 🤗
yes i love all the hairstyles in this video!
For me it was women claiming to have 4C hair that don’t and then shaming women with actual 4C hair for not taming it or being unkempt. The natural hair movement started to empower women with 4C hair so that’s what everyone claimed to have.
My cousin went natural and grew her hair down past her waist. She gained popularity on IG…but a couple of years later she set her page to private, shaved off her hair and never went back. She said the Natural Hair militia wasn’t for her.
They call me white face nappy hair😢😢😢
Wow !
LMAOOO EU I love you girl😂 This video came right on time. Currently, the best products for my 3c/4a (w/ sparkles of 3b) hair are from the Beauty Supply Place. I left the atrocious Natural Hair Movement too late in my opinion but I'm still glad I have some hair left. Their recommendations destroyed my hair (its fine and high-porosity ok. I just couldn't deal with all that stuff but I was involved in it for the solidarity of it all. Yeah, know the only solidarity was the women who knew the whole thing was rigged.
Right! The natural hair movement caused me to stop using what was working just fine . I tried so many mediocre products 😂
Its okay to be dark with natural hair to many Black women!!! The moment light skinned contestants won pagents donning natural hair, all hell broke lose!!! Only Black women raised hell about why judges chose a light skinned or mixed race contestant as a winner while sporting natural hair! Chrissie sure enough raised Cane! It was the usual, "if she were dark skinned with natural hair the contestant never wouldve won" crap!!!
Black people hate their own hair way more than anyone else does. I find that hilarious that women people cannot make up their minds about who or what they hate. I cannot imagine changing my hair to another style because of other people's random opinions.
It’s a shame that there is no sisterhood when it comes to hair. I celebrate other black women when it comes to how they want to wear their hair. Years ago, I wore relaxers because it was easier to comb through my hair, to be honest. However, after some of my hair broke off due to the mixture of medication and relaxers, I ended up embracing my natural hair. Now, if I want straight hair, I wear a wig. Women should just wear their hair any way that makes them happy; don’t try to please people (especially men).
Oh yeah- if I want straight hair I’m putting on a wig too honestly 💀 I’m not about to spend an hour flat ironing my hair and letting it sweat out
I swear you are so spot on. I keep telling them, Stop worrying about me and MY type 3 hair!
I’ve noticed other exoticals compliment one another in public.
I’m not worried about the other h@es. I keep telling them, baby, you h@es are invisible to me.
The only thing real bosses are worried about is making their next move to get some paper!
I’ve never understood the concept of talking about someone that’s doing better than you!
agreed every women should be able to play around with their looks. no matter the race EVERYONE is insecure about their hair. I like curly afro wigs and 4c BIG afro wigs. I think i look better in afros though i get more attention in bob permed hairstyle. (cant say that in the natural sector they'll eat me alive.)
Also i had to unsub to alot of there content because I overpurchased products. My hair does best shampoo and conditioned semi-everyday (no that not my hair in my pfp but my 4c hair is that length blown out i just like the color and that the wig is curly!)
Yes EVERYONE has insecurities about their hair sometimes regardless of race . It could be length, frizz, a bad dye job, gray hairs, a cow lick or a thin spot on your head, etc
Wow I can’t believe I’m this early I just started watching you a week ago and your take on these topics is so real and unapologetic ! Keep it up sis ❤
Yay thank you so much!
I love this channel, its shadow work for me. I’ve centered so much unhealthy shit.
Wow absolutely outstanding ❤...I'm a simple creature and it didn't take me long to figure out jumping through the hoops was for me...I went with no other culture of women does this to each other over hair and secondly which really gets me is that men don't do it at all...
I just found your channel and subscribed. This video was on point! Thank you for shedding light on all these issues. Also, i loved the beautiful pictures. ❤
Aw thanks for watching beautiful!
Heyyy EU!
Hey !
Love the Somalis in this video ❤❤❤❤
We have lots of Somali exoticals here ! 😍
The jealousy is unreal!!
3:59 the lady is beautiful 😍 🤩
Yeah I had fun pulling the images for this one !
Locs is black women way of having coveted long hair and still being natural. I've seen this a lot. Women want to be a 3c natural, cant, then go to locs.
To answer your Q in the video, you don’t go the rest of your life hating your insecurity, you just learn to love and embrace it sis ❤
Could you pleeeease drop a video abput how to make hair more shinny, please🥰
I think you have to just love yourself and everything else will fall in order/place. Im natural and I love it. It was surreal to see my curls again and my lil coils and just learn, touch, see a new part of myself that was hidden away since i got a perm at 11yrs old. Trial error wit some stuff, but now i kno what works for my hair and im good. I could careless who like it or not. Chile please lol smh. Yall better get yall self esteem up❤..but if it's causing u mental issues then go put that perm in lol and seek therapy.
Hey EU❤❤❤
hey!