Feeling is good... and it hurts | Lauren 12 | In Therapy with Alex Howard
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- Опубліковано 21 вер 2020
- In Lauren's previous episode, she and Alex discussed taking a step back from her life to prioritise her healing. However, when we make big changes in our lives, we are often confronted with hurdles that require our attention before we can do that. This episode is an important reminder that the healing path is rarely a straight line, and that even when we're on the right path, things can still rise up to challenge us.
In Therapy with Alex Howard follows real life people on their therapeutic journey's with Alex Howard, Creator of Therapeutic Coaching & Founder of The Optimum Health Clinic.
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These bits really resonated with me...
“It’s better to be in pain and feeling it, than to be numb and depressed.”
“The more your mind gets caught up in the idea of someone, the more you should walk away.
Love someone as they are for who they are in that moment - anything else is dangerous.
Anything else is an expectation on them.”
“You’re doing it for the potential for life to truly be different. But that means it has to happen from a different place. It’s not happening from your ego ideal of who you think you should be who you think they should be, what you think the perfect home looks like. It means being more connected to your heart and to your feelings, and it means letting that become your compass of the choices that you make.”
Thank you 🙏🏻
I can see Lauren getting on a path towards thriving once she gets settled in a lovely smaller low maintenance rental house in Spain, one dog, etc. So much less stress and pressure!!!
Great work Lauren! I made a similar move last year. It is very hard to say good bye to our past life and self. My life is easier now and I am able to be who I want to be with no strings attached. I did go through a rough patch a few months after the move when new realities about myself surfaced, very painful and lots of darkness but I am in such a better place now and feel really good that I took care of myself. Many blessings along the way...
I've been there Lauren! Wishing you strength in this tough transition. 💗 Thank you for sharing your journey with us 🙏
So raw and painful to watch you Lauren hurting so much and not being able to give you a hug. Your episodes touch me so much and are helping me to ask myself some killer questions having lived an inauthentic and incongruent life for far too long which ultimately ended up in making me so sick. Wishing you well on your healing journey and new beginnings in Spain.
WOW!! You have made SO much progress Lauren!! The way you speak now and your awareness is completely different from your first sessions with Alex.
You are purging and clearing the slate and making space for such a healthier and happier life!!
I went through similar experiences; learning to know myself beyond my achievements, leaving a job, ending a relationship, getting rid of possessions and starting again. So much grief but over time, you will look back and wish you did it sooner!!
All the best with the move and diagnosis. 💪🏻❤️
Your doing so well Lauren, emotionally you will get through this, it sucks,. Really good session in that to make space for healing, to have a blank canvas , to be in touch with our emotions and being gentle with ourselves. Take care, be kind to yourself, you have a lot going on. Alex is spot on with what he says. Hope that your test results come back okay 💙 Stay safe and well.
Gold dust. Thank you.
This was such a great video for me to watch- a reassurance about feeling the feelings and going gently with oneself-and how the whole process of transition can be so painful, even when good decisions have been made to ultimately improve future living conditions. This episode was loaded with important material. Thanks to Lauren for your openness and to Alex for your skill and explanations.
Thank you so much Alex and Lauren for this video. Thank you for sharing your story Lauren. I really empathise re the break up and I also just recently moved overseas as the next step on my healing journey and it has been an emotional rollercoaster. I am sure it is worth it though, as it will no doubt be for you. I think you are so strong. You have had so much thrown at you and seem to approach it with lots of courage, resilience & insight. I look forward to hearing about your next steps!
You’re so brave Lauren! I see so many parallels between you and I but I know that great things are ahead for you. I know you’re still in it but you have transformed so much. I know that whenever I travel my symptoms disappear. Best of luck. We are all with you xxx
Wow! The evolution of Lauren! You have come so far.
Wishing you all the best with the test results. Thanks for being so authentic. You really have blossomed. I can’t wait to see how you get on. I think it’s going to be amazing once you find your feet and replenish the stores. Onwards! 🧡
Lauren, I'm so nervous alongside you, and so excited for you. I'm in a similar period of transition (without a home for a minute, fatigue hitting hard, trying to move far away to get to healing space, letting go of relationship), and can't imagine where we will be in even one month. Can't believe your next meeting will be all the way in October. Wishing you stability and serenity in Spain until then. Alex, you said some gems about relationships that I'd heard before, but somehow the way you say them get across to me better. Not sure how to be out of my habitual mindspace of going for people who might be fixer uppers, since they look so great from the start and not like fixer uppers, but it will be on my mind. Thank you both.
Dear Lauren, I feel heartbroken for you having to separate from your pets. That is so terribly hard to do. Have you any idea of how courageous you are and how much respect and appreciation there is for you from your viewers? I hope you do. May Spain be the healer you so deserve and yearn for. XX (Caryl in New Zealand)
Keep going Lauren. You're going though it. And I can really empathise, because a lot of your story is like holding up a mirror to mine. Though I'm not going through your pet thing, and that is so sad. Feel for ya.
Great work Alex and Good luck Lauren. You’re so brave and authentic. Would love to know whether you made the move overseas and how it’s going. Perhaps a vlog?
Love and best wishes to you both 💜💜
Lauren thank you for sharing your story. Lauren you are so brave. Thank you Alex for explaining about pain and hurt. Can you say more about fantasy? Why do we create fantasies?
This was probably the most meaningful episode for me so far. I´m in a very similar place with the pain and suppressed emotions catching up with me after having left behind my much loved life in Australia, years of putting up a strong facade after being crushed (literally) in an accident, being faced with additional health hurdles, all these intense feelings and emotional overwhelm, letting go of my dreams and social network, feeling utterly lost, raw and alone... Thank you so much for sharing Lauren and your wisdom Alex and just saying it out straight, it really does fucking hurt haha! This gives me hope though and I wish I could give you a hug Lauren, or even better, come to Spain with you! 😍 I also wish you all the best for that diagnosis (which you probably have by now), so much love ❤️
Thanks for this episode. It was so useful for me to watch because I have a similar chronic illness and am in the process of letting go of things I can’t manage. Simplifying my life is helping my illness so much. But there’s definitely a lot of grief.
You’re very brave for making the right decisions for yourself xxx
Thank you so for your honest disclosure Lauren. This episode hit home hard. Just realising how easy it is to deluded oneself in an effort to escape pain - what a slippery slope. And the cost of living into the future and striving for an idealised self (without wanting to be fully in the present) actually plays out! Such an incredibly enlightening episode! 🙏
this was great to watch!
I was in a similar spot, barely able to function and having to move out of a beautiful place I had with an ex...to a small box sized apt, 40 miles away. And I hadn’t even found the box yet, with 7 days to go b4 the move. It all turned out better than I could have ever hoped for. Also, re flattened emotions and reentering, I commend you for your courage to face and not numb them. You WILL be soooo much better off once you get the relocation over with and recover from all of this action. And prayers for your health re your lump scenario.🙏💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖
I can completely Relate to how overwhelming it can feel when emotions are felt again. Thanks Alex for explaining so clearly that we need to feel the hurt emotions as well as the joy emotions. I have a similar situation with trauma memories and good memories.
Good luck rest well, be well, say well.
Thanks both for a truly helpful video! Alex - I take your advice in as if you were saying it to me, I really need and appreciate the reassurance. Lauren - sending you a huge virtual hug for everything you are going through 🤗 xx
Oh Lauren, this was so hard to watch. I wish you all the best over the next few weeks. It sounds such a difficult thing to work through but keep going, I think you've got this even if it doesn't feel like it x x
These videos are very helpful. Thank you. 💛
Oh goodness poor Lauren!
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So all I had to do was to allow myself to feel? I was afraid I was a snowflake if I did that!