This Tore Me Apart... | First Time Hearing Harry Chapin - "Cats in the Cradle" | REACTION

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  • @somniumrabidum
    @somniumrabidum Місяць тому +599

    Dad used to listen to this when I was a kid and he'd get really emotional, especially toward the end of his fight with cancer. He died when I was 10. Now I'm a father with 2 boys of my own and this song brings me to tears every time. I hope I live long enough to see my boys grow up and have families of their own.

    • @plow76
      @plow76 Місяць тому +19

      Right there with you man. I was not prepared for the level of love I would feel by becoming a father.,

    • @Tampahop
      @Tampahop Місяць тому +39

      My dad had prostate cancer when I quit my job to move back to the area of the country where he lived. I helped take care of him and was able to be with him almost every day during his fight with cancer. I had never been particularly close to my dad until that time. I felt like we became friends. I wouldn't trade that year of my life for anything.

    • @michaelasay8587
      @michaelasay8587 Місяць тому +2

      ​@@Tampahopyou should have been closer before he died but I know there's a lot of circumstances in life.

    • @Jalex0021
      @Jalex0021 Місяць тому +14

      @@michaelasay8587 Unless you know a person's family history, I'd suggest it's very unwise to judge.

    • @sean5662
      @sean5662 Місяць тому +4

      I’m sorry to hear that. I hope you live a long and healthy life for your boys

  • @kbrewski1
    @kbrewski1 Місяць тому +237

    The irony of the song is that it's not a joyful tune about father-son relationships. It's a song about opportunities lost, relationships taken for granted, put off etc. And the greater irony is that Harry Chapin never got to see his son graduate college or get married and raise his own family.

    • @KevanCorkill
      @KevanCorkill Місяць тому +4

      Hello to you 😊 Excellent response 😊👍 You got Harry's message loud and clear 👍😊 Have a great day 😊👍

    • @MR-MR-ud5oo
      @MR-MR-ud5oo Місяць тому +2

      I would argue its none of those, rather be careful what you wish for "..he grown up just like me, my boy is just like me.."

    • @kbrewski1
      @kbrewski1 Місяць тому +2

      @@MR-MR-ud5oo
      That's the IRONY, as I said.

    • @kaseyboles30
      @kaseyboles30 Місяць тому +2

      What I hear is a father not realizing just how right he had to have gotten it to have a son that never grew out of seeing his dad as a worthy hero to follow in the tracks of. I see that although the father wishes he'd spent more time with his son, at least he never left his son wishing for a better father.
      I have no real issue with anyone else's insights. It's that good of a song and that poignant.

    • @pamelawertz498
      @pamelawertz498 Місяць тому +2

      This song helped make a lot of my generation better parents. You have to really be there for your kids.

  • @glenngalloway6191
    @glenngalloway6191 Місяць тому +295

    The song is very much a cautionary tale. The father spent all of his life working for the future, and when he finally has time to sit back and enjoy himself, his son was too busy with his own life. I never paid it much attention until I had a flirtation with mortality, then I realized that I was missing my life waiting for a future I may not be around for. Now I try to appreciate the present more.

    • @idrinkthere4iam
      @idrinkthere4iam Місяць тому +3

      Exactly why I dislike this song. It’s a song about a man who did everything except spend time with a son who only wanted his father’s attention. Then it’s too late.

    • @roydownes2458
      @roydownes2458 Місяць тому +6

      you hit the nail on the head.

    • @3DJapan
      @3DJapan Місяць тому +4

      Always make sure you save time for the important things in life.

    • @BlaacHollow
      @BlaacHollow Місяць тому +3

      Not only to work for the future, but to work for the present.

    • @dKafN8d
      @dKafN8d Місяць тому +3

      This and Simple Man by Lynyrd Skynyrd are the two songs I can’t hold it together when I hear them.

  • @jasonlouis697
    @jasonlouis697 Місяць тому +169

    Dont apologize, Aileen. If you aren't touched by this song, there's something wrong. Every one of us has regrets about our relationships - especially with those closest to us. What's beautiful is how no matter how old we get, we keep learning. I think back on my Dad and I appreciate what he did for me more every day. Glad you're going to see your Mom. Give her a big hug.

  • @michaelgoing6695
    @michaelgoing6695 Місяць тому +70

    When I was 14 years old, my dad heard me sing this song at a pancake breakfast with the school choir. It has been our favorite song for 50 years. I am now 64 and dad is 91, he asked me if I could sing this at his funeral and I told him I don't think I could and made a recording for him. I also had to explain to him that he was not the dad in the song, he was always there for all my school events and was always there when I needed him. Love Harry's music and I cried when he died. Thanks for reviewing this song.

  • @M63Tod
    @M63Tod Місяць тому +73

    No need to apologize for being honest and vulnerable. Loved your reaction.

  • @GeekingOutWithPete
    @GeekingOutWithPete Місяць тому +149

    I told my Harry Chapin story on another channel, but I think it's worth repeating here.
    When I was about 12-13, my brother was living on Cape Cod and one summer I went to visit and stay with him a few days. A couple of the neighbor kids who were a bit older than me asked if I wanted to sneak in to see Harry Chapin at the Cape Cod Melody Tent. I had no idea who he was, but I wanted to be with the cool kids, so I said "Hell Yeah!".
    They had obviously done this before because they knew exactly how to get in. We snuck in and sat in a couple empty seats that were sort of behind the stage. After a couple songs in, security came over and was going to kick us out. Harry stopped the song he was doing and said "Hey! It's OK! Let them stay!". Security looked at him for a second and left us alone the rest of the show.
    As the show was ending, we were getting up to leave and harry again said "Hey guys! Hang around a minute!" Stunned, we kind of sat there not knowing what he was going to do. He came over and sat down with us. I don't remember what all we talked about. But after maybe 10-15 minutes he said "I have to get going. Promise me you'll come back next year to see the show. But pay next time ok?" We all agreed and said how cool he was and promised to see him again.
    Unfortunately, he was killed before he came back to Cape Cod.
    I've met a few celebrities over the years, and he is one of the nicest and kindest I've ever met.

    • @tomroome4118
      @tomroome4118 Місяць тому +6

      Oh, man, Pete, great story!!

    • @MisterWondrous
      @MisterWondrous Місяць тому +1

      Where on the Cape? I have fond memories of Sandwich, Wellfleet, Provincetown, Truro, Brewster, Wood's Hole, Hyannis and Chatham.

    • @GeekingOutWithPete
      @GeekingOutWithPete Місяць тому +2

      @@MisterWondrous Hyannis. He still lives and has a store there.

    • @MisterWondrous
      @MisterWondrous Місяць тому +2

      @@GeekingOutWithPete Outstanding! I love that big health food store in Hyannis. I know Tom and Brian, who live there now. Nice gents.

    • @Chiari_Queen_T
      @Chiari_Queen_T Місяць тому +3

      He did free concerts on Long Island. I was a baby but my parents went to a few. Maybe because he lived there?
      He is still known most here for his work with getting food to families/people in need. I'm quite sure his charity is still going strong.

  • @scottNNJ
    @scottNNJ Місяць тому +66

    I love how empathetic and how open you are with your emotions, Aileen. One of the things I love about your channel.

    • @wayne3077
      @wayne3077 Місяць тому +5

      I second this entirely ❤

  • @robertfindley921
    @robertfindley921 Місяць тому +56

    RIP to one of the best song writers, lyricists (with help from his wife), musicians and story tellers in music history, Harry Chapin.

  • @jeffdickens9556
    @jeffdickens9556 Місяць тому +51

    I tear up every time I hear this song. Ever since my son was born in 2004, I have tried to not be the dad in this song. One of my favorites

    • @KevanCorkill
      @KevanCorkill Місяць тому

      Hello to you 😊 Excellent response 😊👍 You got Harry's message loud and clear 👍😊 Have a great day 😊👍

    • @craigjorgensen5895
      @craigjorgensen5895 Місяць тому

      My oldest son was also born in 2004. This song still destroys me in spite of my efforts.

  • @TannerHemmingsen
    @TannerHemmingsen Місяць тому +107

    Harry sadly died in 1981 at just 38 years old after a car accident. His work continues to inspire many aspiring artists to this day

    • @fredinaz
      @fredinaz Місяць тому +5

      One of the few times when you really like an artist and then find out that they are an even better person!

    • @richardjosephus6802
      @richardjosephus6802 Місяць тому

      On the same day Regan was shot

    • @straycatttt2766
      @straycatttt2766 Місяць тому +3

      6:49. Yes, we read it with her.

    • @TannerHemmingsen
      @TannerHemmingsen Місяць тому +3

      @@straycatttt2766 I posted the comment a few seconds after the video was posted. I didn’t realize that it would explain how Harry died

    • @pauld669
      @pauld669 29 днів тому

      On his way to a charity concert

  • @tazjammer
    @tazjammer Місяць тому +25

    I'm 67, an old Vet. So I remember him. To this day, Harry Chapin Food Bank helps folks. Even here in SW Florida. RIP Harry.

  • @jamescofer3261
    @jamescofer3261 Місяць тому +48

    The past can make you depressed and the future can make you anxious. Live in the moment.

  • @richardkrawczyk5606
    @richardkrawczyk5606 Місяць тому +22

    I never paid much attention to the lyrics until i was a parent myself. Once I took it all in, it really hit hard.

    • @dr.burtgummerfan439
      @dr.burtgummerfan439 Місяць тому +1

      Yep. I always liked the song, but it REALLY hit me when I became a dad.

  • @diverdown631
    @diverdown631 Місяць тому +92

    If possible, call your Dad. NEVER let yesterday ruin tomorrow!

    • @TNgirl546
      @TNgirl546 Місяць тому +1

      I wish I could call my daddy - he passed in 2001 :( - I agree though if possible do call your dad (and your mom)

    • @Dennis-DK2
      @Dennis-DK2 Місяць тому

      Never let today ruin tomorrow

    • @SolidMike84
      @SolidMike84 Місяць тому

      Amen.
      Even though I talked to mine daily, I now more than ever wished I had talked even more with him.

  • @ardien.535
    @ardien.535 Місяць тому +67

    rest in peace dad. I forgive you

    • @AndyJosephson-g2l
      @AndyJosephson-g2l Місяць тому +1

      what if i cant?

    • @stevenbrenneman4368
      @stevenbrenneman4368 Місяць тому +2

      @@AndyJosephson-g2l then ask Jesus to help you. You can do all things through him.

    • @sean-ew2qv
      @sean-ew2qv Місяць тому +3

      @@stevenbrenneman4368 He's asking for real help. Not make believe from Santa Claus.

    • @stevenbrenneman4368
      @stevenbrenneman4368 Місяць тому +2

      @@sean-ew2qv sweet summer child there is no real help outside of him

    • @marknorthrup4897
      @marknorthrup4897 Місяць тому

      This is powerful my friend. Read my note about this song above.

  • @SilverBoxStudios
    @SilverBoxStudios Місяць тому +39

    Not only was Harry a great songwriter but he was a great humanitarian. He was a Co-Founder of World Hunger Year, a charity that continues to this day, fighting hunger and poverty across the United States, and around the globe. He would often perform 250 to 300 shows a year donating the proceeds from half the shows to his and local charities. As others have listed here some of his great songs, including "Taxi", "A better place to be", "Mr. Tanner", and countless others. All worth listening to. The songs will end up, taking up residence in your heart and your soul, and you'll carry them with you through life and you'll find that you'll be a better person for it..

    • @victorhayes5980
      @victorhayes5980 Місяць тому +1

      We Are the World is all because of Harry Chapin. He was a great humanitarian. If you ever get a chance, there is a video out there of The Boss himself, Bruce Springsteen, talking about his experiences with Harry and the headaches that Harry would give to The Boss. It is worth watching.

    • @ambsquared
      @ambsquared Місяць тому +2

      He was a great storyteller. I’d recommend “W.O.L.D.” Also the tribute concert that was done after he passed away is fantastic. Richie Havens’ cover of “W.O.L.D.” Is great, and so is Pat Benatar’s cover of “Shooting Star” is amazing.

    • @mattburgess5697
      @mattburgess5697 Місяць тому +1

      A Better Place To Be is probably my favourite song.

  • @larryengland989
    @larryengland989 Місяць тому +14

    Being a dad this song always makes me cry .Cause it is so true to real life.

  • @billybarnes4474
    @billybarnes4474 Місяць тому +18

    His first ever hit was called taxi it's something worth listening to tell the story also just a different kind

  • @ChadWright-ip8vm
    @ChadWright-ip8vm Місяць тому +17

    I was 13 when this song was a hit. I liked it a lot then, but the way it hits me now, as a dad of 3, is so profound that it can't be put into words.

  • @albertsmith9315
    @albertsmith9315 Місяць тому +19

    I was a teenager when this song played on the radio every hour. It was only being older and more into living life that I realized how true and powerful it is.

  • @Festus171
    @Festus171 Місяць тому +10

    I still get choked up at this song, and I had a fabulous father (and mother) who were incredibly generous with their time and with me. The song reminds me of how blessed I was to have them in my life.

  • @jimidave6281
    @jimidave6281 Місяць тому +22

    One of my favourite songs. When you become a parent, it hits differently.

  • @GranpaMike
    @GranpaMike Місяць тому +7

    Beautiful reaction, Aileen. When you see your mom, give her the hug you both need.

  • @Sp33gan
    @Sp33gan Місяць тому +18

    My father was not a nice man. I dealt with the mental scars for too long. When my first son was born I held the fear I would turn into my father. The good man my mum taught me to be won and my kids and I have a very close relationship. Partly due to me not being what my father taught me but also from understanding songs like this.
    I grew up sharing a bedroom with my younger brother. We laughed, played and fought. We got into trouble together. We sat at the seashore and sketched together. We shared a love of music and, while we didn't always agree, we also introduced each other to many different bands and styles of music. On Sunday, my sisters and I scattered our brother's ashes on the same seashore where we grew up. He was only 60.
    It's never too late to pick up that phone and call.

    • @pittaloaf1
      @pittaloaf1 Місяць тому +1

      Your life with your brother rings true with me. I’m 57 and I lost my middle brother Adam in July this year to cancer. We three boys all brought up together in the same room( first up beat dressed) Adam. Was such an inspiration to me! He didn’t long for any material possessions and loved life and his family. Irreplaceable but the 55 years we had him were a constant joy.

  • @staciemoisa4884
    @staciemoisa4884 Місяць тому +5

    This song always gets to me. It affected me when it first came out, and it hits even harder now. We are not promised tomorrow. Pick up the phone and visit whenever you can. I have suffered the loss of 5 in my immediate family the last couple of years. The biggest comfort I have is knowing I spent as much time as possible with them, and I ended every phone call and visit with "I Love You."

  • @christopherkimball2264
    @christopherkimball2264 Місяць тому +19

    I remember this as a kid. Now I know the pain of the song as a father.

  • @kaybear1972
    @kaybear1972 Місяць тому +9

    If this song doesn’t wake you up, I don’t know what will. This is one of my favorite songs.

  • @MikeytheGeek7711
    @MikeytheGeek7711 Місяць тому +23

    His other great song is Taxi. I'm sure he has other good songs too, but those are the two songs that everybody knows.

  • @Jimmydavid2018
    @Jimmydavid2018 Місяць тому +4

    Never knew just how powerful this song is until my father passed away. Wish I could go back and listen to it with him. Thank you so much for checking this song and your genuine reaction speaks volumes to the meaning of this song. Bless you ❤

  • @kennethohnemus3192
    @kennethohnemus3192 Місяць тому +13

    Aileen, Your reaction is why we wanted to share this with you. There's songs like this for all of us. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and reactions with us. We love you and want the absolute best for you. ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @TonyM1961
    @TonyM1961 Місяць тому +6

    This song has drawn a lot of tears over the years. I met Harry once when I was younger. One of the kindest, most humble men I have ever met. It really tore me up when he passed away so young. Other songs you will enjoy are Taxi, W.O.L.D and (for humor) Thirty Thousand Pounds Of Bananas

  • @Suleclo
    @Suleclo Місяць тому +12

    I've listened to this song so many times and while I've always found it bittersweet I never cried until I watched it with you. 🖤

  • @JoeHicks-ow4rm
    @JoeHicks-ow4rm Місяць тому +5

    This song brings tears to my eyes everytime I hear it. It really hits home. I'm 70 years old and 43 years ago my wife who was only 25 years passed away from complications during the birth of our son. We had only known each other and been married for 6 years. My son was just fine. Now I think back to the first day I stood and watched him getting on the school bus for kindergarten. Seems like I no more turned around and he was graduating middle school and getting ready for high school. Next thing I know he's a senior and found his first girlfriend. Now he is 43 years old and his job keeps him busy trying to survive and pay the bills. I'm in a therapy hospital for back problems and other health issues. My health is deteriorating and I don't know how much longer I have before I go to join my wife. I enjoy what time I get to spend with my son. My advice to anyone who has a true love and children is to hold them close and spend as much time as you can with them. No one is guaranteed another day on this green earth so stay true and enjoy. As the old saying goes......You don't know what you've got til it's gone. Enjoyed your reaction so much. I'm crying right along with you. Til next time be well and stay safe. ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @scottnorvell2955
    @scottnorvell2955 Місяць тому +55

    Taxi is a gorgeous song and a must if you’re enjoying Harry’s work.

  • @gordy7877
    @gordy7877 Місяць тому +6

    Had the great honor of meeting him in Rota Spain in 1978 performing at the USN Officers club. He played military bases at his brothers request, who was in the Navy. I was in tears during this.... thank you so much for the remembrance, the message, and your emotion.

    • @rockinthegange
      @rockinthegange Місяць тому

      My father was stationed in Rota , my favorite picture of him is from his time there. He was in his tightly whiteys around a campfire with the fellas he was housing a giant bottle of wine that was as big around as he was. He is the reason I have such an emotional attachment to music. He was there in 75-76. 77 we ended up in Sicily. Reading your comment just brought back some memories thanks .

  • @douglab222
    @douglab222 Місяць тому +15

    My dad was such a hard ass and abusive pick. I had nothing to do with him when I left the house. I didn't have any contact with him for years. But as I grew older and got therapy to help heal the anger on my heart. I finally was able to talk with him, truly talk with him after 15 years. I am now closer to my dad than I ever had been in the past. I thank him for being in my life and things can change if both people really want it. I love you dad. Iove you so so very much.

    • @funkspinna
      @funkspinna Місяць тому

      Awesome to hear. Thanks for sharing.

  • @stephenlackey5852
    @stephenlackey5852 Місяць тому +2

    I lost my father last year.
    Although I believe I have explained it adequately in his eulogy and to anyone else who’s asked, some still can’t seem to understand why I am not more sad.
    Though our relationship softened near the end, it was tumultuous throughout my youth. I remember the lessons he taught me as well as the pain he dealt. The fact that I can look on our past with deference allows me (by degrees) to be a better father than mine ever was.
    This song makes always brings me to tears… longing for a time that never existed, because it is truly a retelling of our relationship.

    • @KevanCorkill
      @KevanCorkill Місяць тому +1

      Hello to you 😊 Excellent response 😊👍 You got Harry's message loud and clear 👍😊 Have a great day 😊👍 and Sir, though your father has passed, place a chair in front of you and imagine that he is sitting right in front of you and tell him that you forgive him... This will release you and give you peace. By raising your own children, you are listening to what Harry was telling us. Again, have a great day😊👍

  • @jeffbeaver4419
    @jeffbeaver4419 Місяць тому +11

    My dad,who passed away last year at 89,told be 30+ years ago that this song really impacted him as a father. Our kids learn from us and this song shows the importance of spending quality time with your kids. I am now 68 and my son is 35. I made sure to set aside time when he was young through his teenage years to do things with him even though I traveled for business and was often gone. My son now has a 5 year old son and I have noticed that he spends a lot of quality time with him.

  • @MrLato2000
    @MrLato2000 Місяць тому +5

    This Song is A Hauntingly Cautionary Tale and Hits Hard Especially For Parents Because It Reminds You That if You're not Careful You'll Start a Generational Curse and Miss out On The Lives Of Your Loved Ones.😢😢 Leaving You With Regret and Sorrow.

    • @KevanCorkill
      @KevanCorkill Місяць тому +1

      Hello to you 😊 Excellent response 😊👍 You got Harry's message loud and clear 👍😊 Have a great day 😊👍

  • @gordonpatterson8615
    @gordonpatterson8615 Місяць тому +18

    This one and another classic Jim Croce - Time In A Bottle were real tearjerkers back in the day. Great reaction as always Aileen ❤

    • @LibrarianMichael
      @LibrarianMichael Місяць тому

      Yes. Both songs make me tear up every time.

    • @gordonpatterson8615
      @gordonpatterson8615 Місяць тому +4

      @@LibrarianMichael more so when you know the backstory to both artists

  • @steve9199
    @steve9199 Місяць тому +4

    Harry Chapin...one of the best Singer/Songwriter/Storytellers to ever do it!!
    The song "Taxi" is your next stop on this journey.

  • @freeside
    @freeside Місяць тому +10

    I appreciate your review and for hanging in there with a beautifully sad song

  • @robertlear2712
    @robertlear2712 Місяць тому +11

    I don’t know how Harry could even perform this song without crying.

    • @KevanCorkill
      @KevanCorkill Місяць тому

      Hello to you 😊 Excellent response 😊👍 You got Harry's message loud and clear 👍😊 Have a great day 😊👍

    • @ClickToPreview
      @ClickToPreview Місяць тому

      Oh, so many songs that do this to me... Five For Fighting "100 years", Collin Raye "Love, Me", Tim McGraw "Don't Take The Girl"... those songs just DESTROY me and have for DECADES.

    • @josephlinnell9855
      @josephlinnell9855 Місяць тому

      Every now and then I will do it on karaoke night and I gotta fight it. Miss my dad. God Bless ❤

  • @BigTroyT
    @BigTroyT Місяць тому +15

    Fathers have long been caught in a Catch-22 between the drive to protect and provide for their families against a world that would otherwise roll right over them with complete indifference, and the desire to spend time with them at the expense of the work. It's always a balancing act, and not everyone gets the balance right. Most men, fathers or not, can understand the horror of getting it wrong, and not just losing a son because you didn't spend enough time with him, but even worse, to pass that along to yet another family. It's easy to get so caught up with earning money or climbing the ladder that you forget what's really important, and that's something most men (especially) relate to very much - whether it was our fathers who did that to us or our fear of doing it to our families. This song really brings this fear - and the consequences of such failure - to life.

  • @albertjacobs4312
    @albertjacobs4312 Місяць тому +4

    This is definitely a song for all the Dad ‘s out there. Whether you’re just starting out or it’s in retrospect. Very impactful.

    • @KevanCorkill
      @KevanCorkill Місяць тому +1

      Hello to you 😊 Excellent response 😊👍 You got Harry's message loud and clear 👍😊 Have a great day 😊👍

  • @DrewKSK
    @DrewKSK Місяць тому +14

    You're the sweetest thing. I love this song. Enjoy your visit with your mom Dear ❤

  • @Chiari_Queen_T
    @Chiari_Queen_T Місяць тому +2

    Harry Chapin was a fellow Long Islander. He often held free concerts just outside, people hanging out on grassy fields. Even more so I believe he was and is known locally for his charities he was so passionate about, getting food to families/people in need. He founded Long Island Cares Food Bank, co-founded Why Hunger, founded Hunger Hotline in NYC & was involved in many other charities. He was such a good soul, he donated about a third of his paid concerts to charities! I was young when he passed but I knew it was such a huge loss & he lives on through his acts of kindness.
    The Harry Chapin Award is given every two years to recognize people or groups with a selfless commitment to humanitarian efforts.❤
    (you had me crying too!)

  • @oldguyhustle5941
    @oldguyhustle5941 Місяць тому +7

    This song always gets to me. I'm 64 and haven't talked to my kids for years. I would love to hear from them. I watch them from afar (thanks social media). I'm sure your dad does too. What ever it is between you and your dad, it is worth trying to fix. Your emotions are affected by your distance from your dad.

    • @KevanCorkill
      @KevanCorkill Місяць тому

      Hello to you 😊 Excellent response 😊👍 You got Harry's message loud and clear 👍😊 Have a great day 😊👍 and Sir, please take the first step and call them today and set up a meet and greet... I believe there will be a miracle... God bless each and every one of you. Again, have a great day 😊👍🙏

  • @randyrobinson9118
    @randyrobinson9118 6 днів тому +2

    I saw Harry Chapin at a show at my university. It was just him and his guitar and he told so many stories between songs. After the show he greeted all of us in the corridor as we were leaving and thanked us for coming. Just a great guy.

  • @THEREALBONGMAN
    @THEREALBONGMAN Місяць тому +13

    I have lost both my parents due to illness and one thing for sure...Don't ever take those you love for granted...

  • @photojo9016
    @photojo9016 Місяць тому +4

    I am 57 years old. My sons are 18 and 21. I first heard this song when I was 10, shortly after my dad died from cancer. I promised myself then that if I ever had kids of my own, I would never be like the father in this song. No song has had a more profound influence on my life.

  • @SeanStonehart
    @SeanStonehart Місяць тому +14

    Try the Ugly Kid Joe version from the late 80's & early 90's.
    This song was a self fullfilled prophecy between my dad, me & my brother. It's a heart ripper for the reasons.

    • @jessestaggs2136
      @jessestaggs2136 Місяць тому +1

      Fun fact about that video is that a young Norman Reedus is in it as the son.

    • @nuggetgks
      @nuggetgks Місяць тому +1

      Grew up with the Ugly Kid Joe version and it wasn’t until my son was born that this hits hard

    • @SeanStonehart
      @SeanStonehart Місяць тому

      @@nuggetgksone reason I don’t have kids. I didn’t want to repeat my dad to them.

  • @TheAquaponic1
    @TheAquaponic1 Місяць тому +8

    It's easy to feel like you have plenty of time for...
    Then all of a sudden, if you are lucky, you find yourself in your 50's and looking back at how much and how fast time has passed.
    Naturally this song has a different meaning now that I am in that 50's crowd than it did when I was a kid.... but the experience is real in every aspect.
    Perfect reaction.

  • @Dpixtion
    @Dpixtion Місяць тому +4

    As a divorced father of two, and always away working long hrs to provide for them, we were together recently. They are both in their mid 20’s, and we heard this on the playlist in the car. Everyone got quiet, we listened and all sang at the end. They both then told me, “Dad We get it now. We didn’t understand, didn’t like it, but hearing this today with you, and our life’s are they are, I get it. Thanks Dad”…. We then had pizza and talked for an hours.. it was great.

  • @guanyin19
    @guanyin19 Місяць тому +6

    I just lost my mom a few weeks ago to early Alzheimer's. She took on the role of both parents when I was younger, and she pulled it off magnificently. I know this song well and wasn't expecting it to hit this hard. I love you and miss you, mom 😞Thanks Aileen. I loved your reaction. You have a beautiful soul!

  • @malcolmwinning3591
    @malcolmwinning3591 Місяць тому +1

    Love your reaction to this. Had that sort of relationship with my dad and thankfully have a much closer connection with my son. Enjoy your time with your mum

    • @KevanCorkill
      @KevanCorkill Місяць тому +1

      Hello to you 😊 Excellent response 😊👍 You got Harry's message loud and clear 👍😊 Have a great day 😊👍

  • @alanpeterson4939
    @alanpeterson4939 Місяць тому +5

    Harry was the greatest storyteller of my generation. I saw him in concert three times. Listen to Taxi and to Mr. Tanner to get a feel for his storytelling ability.

  • @mikefitznb1
    @mikefitznb1 Місяць тому +2

    that was a beautiful reaction....I'm 68 and lost my child in 2010 at 32 years old from cancer and not a day goes by I think of all the years we missed and won't get back...ENJOY LIFE,,,TOMORROW IS NOT PROMISED....grab on and don't let go

    • @KevanCorkill
      @KevanCorkill Місяць тому

      Hello to you 😊 Excellent response 😊👍 You got Harry's message loud and clear 👍😊 Have a great day 😊👍

  • @WadeLucas
    @WadeLucas Місяць тому +11

    Ugh. Balling at work. Seeing you sad makes me sad and the song indeed touches feelings about my dad

  • @chidrummer
    @chidrummer Місяць тому +4

    I was 15 when this song was released. I had a really good relationship with my dad, but I recognized that, Cat's In The Cradle as a cautionary tale for the future. Here I am at 65 and have raised two sons, one older than you. I'd like to think that I heeded the message of this song. I see my boys often and marvel as their lives unfold through time.

  • @membysteph64
    @membysteph64 Місяць тому +5

    Great reaction Aileen this is definitely a tear jerker. Harry tells the most elegant stories. He was a such a great singer songwriter. This is an unfortunate song about so many father son relationships. I was very fortunate to have a great relationship with my dad who was my hero. He has been gone for 29 yrs now. I still think about him everyday. He was a very busy father but always had time for us. Love your pure emotion. Another tear jerker about Dad and son relationship is Father and Son by Cat Stevens. I think you would enjoy that one too? Love what you are doing keep up the fantastic work.

    • @KevanCorkill
      @KevanCorkill Місяць тому

      Hello to you 😊 Excellent response 😊👍 You got Harry's message loud and clear 👍😊 Have a great day 😊👍 and Sir I'm so glad all was great with your dad. Again, have a great day

  • @tonytse4905
    @tonytse4905 Місяць тому +4

    Harry Chapin was BRILLIANT!!!! Sad for his loss. Cats in the Cradle was brilliant. Loved it. But my favourite is one of his firsts...TAXI. It tells a beautiful story of love, loss and moving forward. "It was raining hard in Frisco, I needed one more fare to make my night.....a lady up ahead waved and flagged me down, she got in at the light. I said: "Where you goin' to my lady blue? It's a SHAME you ruined your gown in the rain. She just looked out the window and said 16 Parkside Lane.....You can find it and watch/listen to it,. Brilliant singer/songwriter/storyteller..

  • @ericsierra-franco7802
    @ericsierra-franco7802 Місяць тому +11

    Pronounced "Chaypin".
    Fantastic songwriter! Died much too young in a car crash in his late 30's.

  • @saamegan2985
    @saamegan2985 Місяць тому +2

    Yes, I was crying along with you.. We lost Harry due to a car accident when he was on his way to perform at a free concert. It must have been devastating when they announced to the audience why he wasn't appearing..I didn't get to meet him, but I met an Australian radio announcer who interviewed him, and his words have always stuck with me.. he said. "He was the most beautiful man I have ever met"

  • @Uriahjw
    @Uriahjw Місяць тому +4

    My father was a shift worker at a power plant, and there were many days when we wouldn't see him because we went to school early, and his shift had him working late. When I think back on the vacations and the few days in-between that we had together, it makes them so much more special. Once he retired and I started working, the same cycle repeated. He would want to go fish, but many times, I was called in for overtime. Make the time to be there for your children.

  • @GHutube8
    @GHutube8 12 годин тому +1

    Yes, it's an old "richie" song...excellent memory !

  • @BarrenCosmos
    @BarrenCosmos Місяць тому +9

    You in that thumbnail has my soul shattered and now I just wanna give you the biggest hug 😭🖤

  • @leftcoaster67
    @leftcoaster67 Місяць тому +5

    This song hits harder now. Because so many parents want what is best for their kids, and work so hard. And never get a chance to bond and enjoy time together.

    • @KevanCorkill
      @KevanCorkill Місяць тому +2

      Hello to you 😊 Excellent response 😊👍 You got Harry's message loud and clear 👍😊 Have a great day 😊👍

    • @mage1439
      @mage1439 Місяць тому +1

      And once you realize it, it's too late. We don't have time machines.

  • @asimpleman2585
    @asimpleman2585 Місяць тому +4

    That song always moves me. I have never seen this live version; his chuckles and inflections amp up the emotion even further. You're great btw.

  • @hokiedoo
    @hokiedoo Місяць тому +4

    This is an incredible song,I wish I could put you in a time machine and take you back to the music we grew up on in the 70's 80's and 90's

  • @mgonzales56
    @mgonzales56 Місяць тому +1

    Aileen, you wouldn't be human if this song doesn't bring you to tears. I've heard this song since it came out, and I've known Harry Chapan's story, and this song still gets to me, especially since I have a son...and he grew up just like me. I'm 68, and my son is 38, and I am so proud of him. Don't apologize for the tears. Glad you liked the song.

  • @DocHogan
    @DocHogan Місяць тому +7

    Always always ALWAYS a brutal kick in the feels

    • @DocHogan
      @DocHogan Місяць тому

      Add Jim Croce's "Operator", George Jones' "He Stopped Loving Her Today", and Statler Brothers' "Counting Flowers on the Wall" for complete spontaneous dehydration bawl fest

    • @terminallumbago6465
      @terminallumbago6465 Місяць тому

      @@DocHoganThrow in Don Maclean’s “Vincent” and Gordon Lightfoot’s “Wreck of the Edmund Fitzgerald” for good measure.

  • @groovelife415
    @groovelife415 Місяць тому +64

    People think dads don't care about their kids, but we do. We work hard to give them the best life we can, but it comes at a cost. There are no outlets for dads, so we suffer silently and die with the sadness we never tell anyone about.

    • @KevanCorkill
      @KevanCorkill Місяць тому +2

      Hello to you 😊 Excellent response 😊👍 You got Harry's message loud and clear 👍😊 Have a great day 😊👍 and Sir...Dax's To Be A Man is Your anthem... You are a great Dad😊👍 Again, have a great day 😊👍

    • @raymondlangdon9637
      @raymondlangdon9637 Місяць тому +3

      True story

  • @gl0087
    @gl0087 Місяць тому +5

    Before I was born my parents took my sister to see him in concert, but they were bummed when it was over because he didn't play this song.
    Years later my mom would say this is my song because my parents were divorced, and my biological father was a flake. I never agreed though because my mom remarried, and my Dad was always there for me even though we weren't blood related.

    • @KevanCorkill
      @KevanCorkill Місяць тому

      Hello to you 😊 Excellent response 😊👍 You got Harry's message loud and clear 👍😊 Have a great day 😊👍 and Sir, I am so glad you had a relationship with your mom's second husband who was more of a Dad then your biological father. Again, have a great day

  • @michaelboismier1863
    @michaelboismier1863 Місяць тому +2

    My Dad passed at 65, but he had time for all 9 of us kids! He was a busy man who loved and lived so hard, his heart gave out! But all of us his children, didn't have to think we didn't get enough attention! We were blessed

  • @HutcH68
    @HutcH68 Місяць тому +3

    I can’t listen without crying. Ever.

    • @KevanCorkill
      @KevanCorkill Місяць тому +1

      Hello to you 😊 Excellent response 😊👍 You got Harry's message loud and clear 👍😊 Have a great day 😊👍

  • @la_old_salt2241
    @la_old_salt2241 26 днів тому +1

    This was my dad's and my song. He worked so hard to provide for us he felt the time slipping away. This song expressed it perfectly. Dad's been gone seven years now. I've not heard this song in years, and im sitting here weaping like a blithering old fool. Miss you dad.

  • @SaverioP
    @SaverioP Місяць тому +36

    I suggest "Taxi" next. It's like getting lost in a story.
    The man was a great storyteller.
    Edit:
    The car accident wasn't fatal for Harry, but it caused him to have a heart attack, and that's what un-alived him.

    • @RossWrock
      @RossWrock Місяць тому +5

      Agreed. Listening to Taxi (and it's "Sequel") is like watching a movie. Everything is so vivid in my mind, just from a well written and performed song.

  • @MrGpschmidt
    @MrGpschmidt Місяць тому +1

    You always have the most genuine heart-felt reactions. Such a classic song that resonates so strongly for ANYONE who has a soul. Life is so taken for granted - always tell the ones you love that you LOVE them - even if it's been years apart or whatever reason you're no longer in their lives. We all struggle daily - and yes sadly Chapin died in a car crash en route to a gig :(. Love you A - and deep hug for you my dear.

  • @PatrickReedy-l8b
    @PatrickReedy-l8b Місяць тому +2

    Unbelievable awesome song, cry to this every time

  • @bobmessier5215
    @bobmessier5215 Місяць тому +2

    I actually met and talked to him for a half hour. Very cool and humble guy. He started the Harry Chapin Food Bank more than 40 years ago. His food pantry raises millions of dollars each year to feed the hungry everywhere in America. Great storyteller-songwriter too! ♥"Taxi" was his first big hit song.

  • @hempy351
    @hempy351 Місяць тому +3

    I ugly cry *every* time I hear this song, and here I am ugly crying.

  • @DavidCalvert-mh9sy
    @DavidCalvert-mh9sy Місяць тому +1

    This song was my story line with my father through the 1950s and 1960s. Fortunately we both came to our senses in the early 1970s, and both of us made d@mn sure we always made time for each other. My dad passed away in 1994, and even today, when I'm well into my seventies, there is not a time goes by when I don't remember him with fondness and a smile.

  • @davidcalvert7371
    @davidcalvert7371 Місяць тому +39

    Could you imagine a concert with Harry, Jim Croche, and Gordon Lightfoot sitting there playing their hits. What a show it would have been. The masters of their craft.

    • @BigDaddyAlan
      @BigDaddyAlan Місяць тому +5

      Oh, if only. . . They were three unrivalled storytellers, and keen observers of human behavior.

    • @Sofapotamus
      @Sofapotamus Місяць тому +1

      Throw in Jackson Taylor, Joni Mitchell and John Prine and I would be first in line.

    • @alanstrom2221
      @alanstrom2221 Місяць тому +3

      Jim Croce - "Time in a Bottle"

    • @davidgardiner4620
      @davidgardiner4620 Місяць тому

      Awesome David

    • @TimMallick
      @TimMallick 20 днів тому +1

      There was a concert with Harry Chapin, James Taylor, Gordon Litefoot and John Denver

  • @charlesf2804
    @charlesf2804 Місяць тому +1

    The message behind this song applies to other relationships as well. I don't have a wife or children, but life has taken friends in other directions so that I almost never see them: relocations, work schedule changes, two deaths, some have been unresponsive; the result is that I have almost no social life. But I think to focus on the best of these friendships and keep those lines open, even if it isn't in-person, is important. And while I can be on the dispassionate side, even I felt a twinge watching you get emotional. The song never affected me quite that way, but there's no denying its power. Do not apologize for the tears; it means you're human and have feelings. And it makes you relatable.

  • @dagmar.6954
    @dagmar.6954 Місяць тому +27

    Another great singer songwriter & storyteller. I had his "Greatest Stories Live" double album. "Cat's In The Cradle" is his most famous piece. "Taxi" was another big hit for Harry Chapin. Ten years later he followed it up with "Sequel" showing what happened to the 2 people in the story. He had so many great songs such as "W·O·L·D", "Mr. Tanner", "Mail Order Annie", "They Call Her Easy", "I Wanna Learn A Love Song", "30,000 Pounds Of Bananas", "Shooting Star", "Halfway To Heaven", "Six String Orchestra", "Dreams Go By", "Remember When The Music", "Story Of A Life". We lost him too young in a car accident in 1981 at the age of 38. He left a great legacy of music.

    • @moriquendi32
      @moriquendi32 Місяць тому +1

      As a kid the first Chapin song I was introduced to was '30,000 Pounds Of Bananas' - definitely made an impression lol

    • @volshan
      @volshan Місяць тому

      All great Chapin stories, but I'd add (what he said was his favorite) "A Better Place to Be".

  • @JimChandlerMartialize
    @JimChandlerMartialize Місяць тому +1

    This was his gift to us. He did his purpose in Life. Telling us that relationship is one of the most important things in Life

  • @fredinaz
    @fredinaz Місяць тому +5

    I bet you’d like Jim Croce’s Operator!

    • @kbrewski1
      @kbrewski1 Місяць тому +1

      Another 70s singer-songwriter taken at the peak of his career by an accident.

  • @LJA46
    @LJA46 Місяць тому +1

    I saw Harry just a few months before his tragic accident. Such a great storyteller, and a giving man!

  • @steverobinson8214
    @steverobinson8214 Місяць тому +2

    I’m a 56 year old man who still weeps every time I hear this song. To say that it’s moving doesn’t even scratch the surface.

  • @bobblethreadgill4463
    @bobblethreadgill4463 Місяць тому +1

    I play this often and have 2 sons. 51 and 31 years of age and I'm long retired. Still get emotional every time I play it.
    Hang in there Aileen, and try to visit Texas and family as often as you can.

  • @reddevil3387
    @reddevil3387 Місяць тому +3

    When this song came out, I was the single parent of a teenage boy. Unfortunately, my job required that I travel roughly 120-150 days a year. I'd get sitters or friends or neighbors to take watch him while I was gone. But I missed a lot of things I would have and could have done with him and always felt guilty when I was gone. Then I heard this song, and it struck me in the gut like a blow from Mohammed Ali. Fifty years later I still can't hear it without crying. I really haven't listened to it in years because I've shed too many tears in my life. My wife of 39 years died two years ago, my son's wife died of ALS five years ago, a month after my wife died, I had a heart attack - triple bypass surgery. Even so, there are positives I cling to. My son is engaged again to a wonderful woman, I have 39 years of wonderful memories of my wife. The sun still comes in the morning, there are the beauties of nature, trees, grass, birds, wind and rain, friends, neighbors. It all helps. Music is one of the best gifts I enjoy every day, and I love seeing how other people like you react and compare them to my own reactions. Keep up the good work.

    • @dgp9627
      @dgp9627 26 днів тому

      Regardless of our background or experiences, this song hits deep. We try so hard to provide for our families, and lose so much along the way. I think it's the time we can never get back that haunts us the most. Music both lifts and devastates, and expresses the hurt we carry for so long. I'm so thankful for music like Harry Chapin's that so perfectly captures this hurt and longing. I'm sorry for those you've lost, and wish you the best. ❤

    • @reddevil3387
      @reddevil3387 26 днів тому +1

      @@dgp9627 Thanks for understanding. Music is magic, it can make feel every emotion and remember the good and the bad.

    • @dgp9627
      @dgp9627 19 днів тому

      @@reddevil3387 ❤️

  • @andrewbrorherton6898
    @andrewbrorherton6898 Місяць тому +2

    Last Sunday I spent most of the day watching football and my 10 year old daughter asked me to throw the football outside. It was about 7:30 so it was getting dark. That was pretty much my excuse and she just kept asking not giving up. Lol I finally I said let's go. We threw it pretty much until we couldn't see it anymore. 😀

  • @hazi5961
    @hazi5961 Місяць тому +42

    This song hits differently after you lose your father...

    • @NBKenC
      @NBKenC Місяць тому +5

      Definitely has for me. It's closing in on a year since my dad passed. And in the last few years he had let me know how sorry he hadn't been around much when I was growing up. He basically admitted that my mother did the majority of the parenting in our family.

    • @wheelz8240
      @wheelz8240 Місяць тому +2

      First time hearing this since my dad died 2.5 years ago.

  • @albertspillane2831
    @albertspillane2831 Місяць тому +2

    I've listened to this song many times as my boys were growing up ❤❤😊

  • @jayjay057
    @jayjay057 Місяць тому +3

    My son completed suicide,I hear this song and makes me cry scream for the lost chance to be with him .

  • @sammypitts7851
    @sammypitts7851 Місяць тому

    Aileen, another great reaction, and a very emotional one. I lost my daddy in 2007 to cancer, but think about him every day. Please keep up the great work.

  • @roydownes2458
    @roydownes2458 Місяць тому +2

    killed in a car accident. make sure you react to his songs "taxi" and "W-O-L-D".

  • @wallacecallow2255
    @wallacecallow2255 Місяць тому +1

    Harry was also a devoted philanthropist. It's true, the good seem to die young. Everyone loved my father, who died at 50, hit by a car. Fortunately I didn't have the same problem with spending time with my dad, when he was around, as in the song.