How to find a Godly man (and happiness along the way) + how I met my husband
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- Опубліковано 30 вер 2024
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If you've found yourself dreaming of finding a Godly man, then please stay as i chat about the complexities of longing for marriage in a world fixated on romantic ideals. In this deeply personal video, I share my own struggles with idolizing marriage and the transformative power of surrendering to God's will.
Ultimately, this video serves as a testament to the profound joy and fulfillment found in surrendering to God's plan for marriage. By prioritizing our relationship with Him above all else, we pave the way for His blessings to unfold in our lives, exceeding our wildest dreams.
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But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.
Mathew summarizes the whole idea beautifully!
I’ve always wanted to be a father and a husband. To give those desires up to Christ and let Jesus take wheel has been the hardest thing ever😅. Lovely video, God Bless you and your marriage.
it can be so hard!
As I was letting go of my ego, I found God. When a man has God at his side, worldly needs disappear (addictions to various foods, lust, internet, materialism, superficial relationships, and so forth). We're not driven to treat others poorly - we're no longer under the influence of negative or positive emotions. The spiritual path is rewarding! We go beyond the egoic mind and find that awareness comes from God. The Holy Spirit guides us on the spiritual path, and we're abiding by the Spirit. The truth is that any form of attachment to anything in the world is wrong. We must not be of the world; we should only be in the world. There's a similar Bible verse: "Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him." - [1 John 2:16]
Very true 🙌
Talking with my husband after uploading this, we agreed that focusing so much how "high-value" your partner is often leads to constant comparing them to others and a fear that "someone better is out there." What do y'all think about this? x
(also, is the music too loud in this video?)
I like the music you chose but maybe it couldve been a little quieter but I can still here what youre saying well
@@therealsubaekhyang thank you! I never want it to be too distracting.
I think the focus should be on relationship, rather than if weither or not he/she is good enough for you. You can have a good, or at least decent relationship with pretty much ANYBODY, if you have decent character and put some effort into the relationship. But of course your husband or wife should be the best romantic partner for you, at least preferably.
And yes, I agree: Putting expectations towards your self, instead of your potential partner is always the better call, because you can't change people but eventually you can change
your self. At least in theory 😉
Sofia, I think you are a very good woman. Not only because you're a christian, but because you have good character. I personally think that matters the most! 😘
Everybody can be, or at least become a christian, but developing character requires a lot of hard work. Therefore I think character is the actual value here.
I've seen christians - and I mean actual new born believers - having awefull character and I've seen non-christians being, character wise, like angles!
So I can tell you from own experiences: Being a christian is not enough, but YOU seem to have it bouth.
Sorry for flattering you. I'm just giving my personal oppinion here. I hope you understand. 😇
And is the music too loud?: ARE YOU KIDDING ME!? I could barely hear it! 😂
Meaning the musics volume is perfectly fine. Don't worry, my dear 😄😉
As utterly selfish as this can sound... focusing on YOURSELF first - in terms of 1. How you can be pleasing to God today and with an eye on the future and 2. How can I focus on being the wife/husband that GOD wants me to be (or cultivating those habits BOTH before and during marriage) and how I can best serve my spouse (whether I know who he/she is, or whether I am still single and not even engaged) go a LONG way towards a GOOD marriage.
This is HUGE on BOTH sides...
A small side note: the saying "the best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago... the second best time is today" applies wholeheartedly in this instance. The best time to focus on becoming the spouse God would have you be was waaaaaaaay back when you were merely dreaming of being married someday, the second best time to focus on becoming the spouse God would have you be is RIGHT NOW! :)
Waiting season feels like forever but praying helps out a lot!!! I don’t fantasize anymore about meeting my future boyfriend. It messed me up SO much. I was hiding behind a false narrative in my head. I stopped thinking like that about two years ago and it helped me out so much! I prayed and talked so much to God about my future boyfriend… and I met my boyfriend last year! He’s my first everything! I love him but I now face so many problems in this relationship because of my insecurities. I pray to God to help me with these insecurities and not end something so beautiful that God sent to me. 🙏🏼 pray pray pray!!! Everything in GODS WILL AMEN 🙏🏼
Prayer is key!
Beloved sister in Christ, may God continue to bless you and use you as a reflection of His grace through His Holy Spirit. I make supplications to the Lord asking Him to pour His Love into the hearts of men who still have difficulties in dedicating themselves to being providers for the family so that our sisters in Christ are extremely grateful to God by being industrious at home. Being a provider of the family involves much more than bringing money into the home. Being a provider is leaving a legacy, forming the image of Christ in your loved ones. The responsibility of the godly husband is to seek the sanctification of his wife, that is, making her grow spiritually according to the image of Christ. ¿Could you do a video about how to find a Godly woman? !May grace and peace be granted to you!
Thank you for this , I'm very happy to see your video, hello from Greece 🇬🇷❤❤😊
This is such good advice, not only for waiting for marriage but also to be content in the waiting for whatever our desires are! God brought this video at just the right time.
oh, I'm so glad to hear it was a blessing! 🤍
I live your channel! Your faith is gorgeous and so are you!
Lord help me to be the good husband my future wife deserves.
Your story and aura reminds me of Hodel from Fiddler on the Roof, so precious, and earnestly seeks with a pure heart. Thank you for your wisdom❤
On a side note, may I also ask, girl where do you get your dresses? They are so pretty, feminine and look very comfortable!
Keep pray and ask to God will show your heart lead to right a men who believe in Jesus. It will be wonderful ✨️ in Jesus' Name, Amen 🙏 🙌 ❤️
Amen and AMEN! 🥰❤️
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I am a girl.always anxious about marriage 😭 thank you for suxh great advice. How old are you ? I am 22
So was your husband an unbeliever when you met him? And he became a Christian after?
Yes, when he first messaged me, he was an unbeliever. However, we never dated until he had been a christian for a good time! I definitely don't think it's in the best interest of any christian to marry someone who is not a believer.
Please pray for me Katarina, who is my kingdom husband ? Thank you, God bless you
It’s probably more a question of education and instruction plus a daily attitude with others about values and respect of human being in authenticity than religion because of dogma of thinking vs free will like a humanist sprit, especially when you are bred in a catholic school.
Each human being can choose his way of living without proselytizing in the respect of others. In my humble opinion.
So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
Ephesians 5:28
It's sad but ironically the things you said about women not getting too obsessed with their standards has become a problem right as I have some of what I could use to solve that problem, but I can't use it lol. I'm not good looking (though deep down I don't really believe women care about that, and they mostly confuse it for masculinity... from dating experience back when I was still an atheist), but I am on a path to becoming extremely wealthy by the grace of God (still have to figure out what he wants me to use it for), and now I have this challenge of being honest but somehow NOT displaying that in a way that women can be influenced by while wife-hunting. If I'm outspoken about what I want and DON'T share the money part, dress down etc., and uphold my standard for what I want from them morally, it's basically like finding a needle in a haystack. Not that there aren't plenty of women in that minority who I would be happy to date and see if they are who they say they are... but they are dismissive. That's fine, but I know if I were to flaunt more, things would change.
Modesty is going to be a real challenge, but that's the price you pay to find real love I guess. I've asked God to protect me from the wrong women for me, so all these Christian ladies must belong to someone else. I was more prideful before I found Jesus, and I know how tapping into that makes it easy to attract women, the devil is really twisted in the way he dangles that knowledge. Have to remember the humility of Jesus, coming to earth, being tortured and killed for a bunch of disobedient children. He did all that and we still find ways to complain lol. Every time I start feeling like I'm going crazy I just have to remember that.
I'm a modern day Boaz yet women even in our denomination are hypergamist or just into bad boy...
Such a beautiful video! Thank you :)
Follow one lord [love] to find another.
Very interesting story
I genuinely can’t believe you have less than 1k subscribers, you are so well spoken! thank you so much for this!
Thank you so much 🥰 I'm getting there, stick around!
Really needed this..❤️🩹 I have to surrender it all.
God bless you 🩷