Well said!! My confidence has definitely increased since I started a couple of months ago. I'm very introverted and rarely put myself out there, but I'm so glad I didn't let it prevent me from walking through the doors that first night. It took 4-5 classes before I stopped being nervous. Now I really look forward to my classes. It's the best stress reliever and I'm stepping up my exercise outside of class so I can get better at some moves that are currently hard for me. I really hope the guy who asked is able to persuade his female friends to give it a shot!
I'm so glad you mentioned about the whole trauma thing! I've been training jiu jitsu for about a month now (totally got the bug!) and it has taken this long to have the confidence to roll with anyone other than my boyfriend. He has been amazing to introduce me and help me with techniques, but I know you gotta try out some other bodies. I'm visiting friends in my old city, and came along to an open mat where I could try rolling with my friend, who is a woman, and there was even another woman here too! (I'm the only girl at my gym). Getting to roll with them really gave me the confidence to train with a very sweet but big guy, and honestly I really impressed myself with my speed and strength against him! It's definitely helped my overcome some trauma I have with men being physically overpowering and controlling, and it has given me more drive to carry on! Thankyou for doing these videos, watching them has really shown me that male training partners (although obviously not always perfect) do have a good balance of challenging their female training partners, while being respectful of their size/ ability, and it has been good to know that some concerns or reservations I have about jiu jitsu aren't just me being overly sensitive to certain things
I really love this comment, thank you so much for sharing! You're definitely not alone in having some reservations about certain things in jiu jitsu - but I'm so happy that these videos are somewhat helpful in relieving some worries :)
I trained for a few months in my home country (US) and I stopped earlier this year due to an injury. Fast forward to now I just moved to Sweden and I am trying to get acquainted into a new gym. Today is my first class, and I never had social anxiety this bad, wish me luck.✌🏻
Hey Kimberly, this is such an inspiring video! I'd love to hear your thoughts and perspective on practicing as a beginner as it relates to partnering and establishing a sense of safety internally as well as with your practice partner. I started training three weeks ago and happened to partner up with a woman who feels like a total energetic match - physically as well as mentally/emotionally- we share a similar fire, passion, and drive, and I love the way we're constantly checking in with one another on the mat as well as encouraging on another to embrace our power. I love the sense of safety I feel in this connection with her. At the same time, I feel like I "should" be mixing it up and working with other people, but quite honestly, I've experienced so many attachment ruptures that safety and consistency in ANY sort of relationship feels like what I really need right now. I was drawn to BJJ as a path to access my inner warrior from a more embodied and integrated state. I'd love to hear your perspective on all of this! (As well as other BJJ practitioners who happen to be reading this, would love to hear your thoughts as well
Thankyou so much, my daughter ask to practice jujitsu but I wasn’t sure was good for a nice sweet girl, after your video I’m happy to support her😄Blessings
I recently found out that the ladies in our gym have a bjj girls social media group. They motivate each other to come to training, etc. I think doing something like that in a male dominated environment is really helpful.
@@kimberlykinch I'm sure they know. There is very little an old fart can teach young(er) ladies these days. I'm happy enough if I can pass their guards without using brute force in a pressure pass. :)
I highly recommend it!!! (Obviously hahah) To hear from other jiu jitsu mamas, join the facebook group "Women's Grappling Network." There's TONS of women who train and talk about jiu jitsu postpartum. :)
I am starting next week its at the 10th planet I am really nervous but also excited my dad is the one who pushed me so I know self defense he's gonna be joining as well which will be neat
Self defense against what though? If there's a suspected threat, you should model your response to that threat. People get roped into "self defense" courses when really they want to learn fighting. BJJ teaches an aspect of fighting. And that might or might not be useful if you're ever attacked.
I know, it's VERY intimidating. But hopefully hearing about all of the wonderful things jiu jitsu does for these women makes it a litttleeeee easier to give it a try :D
My kids both started training before me. I watched my son for a year before I finally decided to do the trial. I'm SO glad I did it. I'm 3 months in and love it. These videos Kimberly does have definitely helped inspire me. Hope you enjoy it too. ✌
The benefits of practicing jiu jitsu for women are pretty much the same as they are for men. However, given that many men - including fit strong men who have trained other martial arts - find training jiu jitsu intimidating and challenging (it's amazing how many don't stick with it for very long if they even start at all), it's little wonder that so many women do too. And of course, women tend to face a range of cultural and psychological hurdles which men don't. Which is why it's so beneficial to have more women who roll speaking about their experiences.
It's not a team sport, so there's zero reason for it to be intimidating or challenging. That can only be the result of bad gyms. In principle everyone can spar as softly as they want and improve at their own pace. I improve super slowly, I don't do my homework at all. And still it's extremely fun.
Hi Kimberly, I hope it ok to call you by your first name, I am VERY happy for you to tell me I am wrong, all I would ask is that you also tell me why. I think of BJJ as a fantastic sport with strong and useful self-defense far far better than nearly all other martial arts that really have moved too far from their original martial aspects, and are now pure sports or an artform like aikido and Iaido. But I also lump it together with Krav Maga. Another great martial art with strong self-defense aspects. But I do not see either of them as "Self defense training" they take too long to learn, use moves that are simply dangerous on the street (to the defender) and ignore obvious selfdefense targets & moves simply because they are illegal in Jui Jitsu. I am NOT dissing BJJ, I think it is great, I think it has some amazing bio mechanics, and as a sport, a form of fitness training, as a means to learn some aspects of self defense, and build self confidence, it is really out there. infact I teach several of the floor techniques in my own class, Anti mount defenses, Stand-ups. and guards Thanks again for your videos, they are excellent, I truly enjoy them.
I just started my first classes and I’m so intimitaded! I’m thinking about quitting. 😫 I am the ONLY WOMAN in my starting up class. (I’m 19 yo girl and they are mostly men in their 20-30) I feel like I have to proof myself to them all the time. Or is it all just in my head? I’ve though only been to 1 class lol. They also tried to avoid me in the first class when choosing partners so that they would’t have to roll with me. I really want to continue but also I might not want to. I don’t know! It’s so wierd being in an enviroment where there’s mostly guys expecially when coming from a all girl cheerleading backround. Can someone please share their thoughts? Should I continue?😅😖 (PSA I’m not a kid who just learned how to write 😅🙈😂. I’m an adult from Finland who’s first lamguage isn’t English and I’m too lazy to check my grammar)
Oh no! Don't quit after 1 class! Give it another try. But with that being said, it's DEFINITELY not all in your head. For a longggg time, I felt like I always had to prove myself. So you are definitely not alone here,. Unfortunately that does happen - men avoiding the roll. A lot of the times I still have the initiate it. But once you start getting to know the guys you train with, it becomes easier. Do they have any women's classes available?
@Steve Williams 764 okay well that’s good. And I would assume you’re a man. Like I said, you can get hurt rolling with men and women. It comes down to be aware of the safety of your training partners.
@Steve Williams 764 well, duh. A jiu jitsu tournament or a wrestling tournament is different than training in the gym. No one here is saying men should compete against women in an actual tournament.
When people tried to correct your "axed" instead of asked comment you pretty much brushed them off. So lets say if you see someone doing a technique incorrectly would you just brush it off or try and help them get it right? That all people are trying to do with axed.
Just self confidence doesn't is enough. You have to train with men too and you have to train punches and strikes and kicks. I mean for self defense. Normal Bjj is awesome but without the above parts it is just half effective if a woman is confronted with a 110 kilo Man, because of the weight for instance. Just my opinion.
Well said!! My confidence has definitely increased since I started a couple of months ago. I'm very introverted and rarely put myself out there, but I'm so glad I didn't let it prevent me from walking through the doors that first night. It took 4-5 classes before I stopped being nervous. Now I really look forward to my classes. It's the best stress reliever and I'm stepping up my exercise outside of class so I can get better at some moves that are currently hard for me. I really hope the guy who asked is able to persuade his female friends to give it a shot!
This all makes me so happy!
I absolutely love that you stand with women the way you do. I wish more of us held one another up. You are a great role model!
Oh my goodness, thank you so much! It's a tough space for women to be in (men too, lol), so we need to lift each other up as much as we can :D
I'm so glad you mentioned about the whole trauma thing! I've been training jiu jitsu for about a month now (totally got the bug!) and it has taken this long to have the confidence to roll with anyone other than my boyfriend. He has been amazing to introduce me and help me with techniques, but I know you gotta try out some other bodies. I'm visiting friends in my old city, and came along to an open mat where I could try rolling with my friend, who is a woman, and there was even another woman here too! (I'm the only girl at my gym). Getting to roll with them really gave me the confidence to train with a very sweet but big guy, and honestly I really impressed myself with my speed and strength against him! It's definitely helped my overcome some trauma I have with men being physically overpowering and controlling, and it has given me more drive to carry on! Thankyou for doing these videos, watching them has really shown me that male training partners (although obviously not always perfect) do have a good balance of challenging their female training partners, while being respectful of their size/ ability, and it has been good to know that some concerns or reservations I have about jiu jitsu aren't just me being overly sensitive to certain things
I really love this comment, thank you so much for sharing! You're definitely not alone in having some reservations about certain things in jiu jitsu - but I'm so happy that these videos are somewhat helpful in relieving some worries :)
I trained for a few months in my home country (US) and I stopped earlier this year due to an injury. Fast forward to now I just moved to Sweden and I am trying to get acquainted into a new gym. Today is my first class, and I never had social anxiety this bad, wish me luck.✌🏻
Yay that's awesome!!
How did the class go????
YES!! You are AN AMAZING VOICE for women's jiu-jitsu *HUGS*
Thanks girllll!!
Hey Kimberly, this is such an inspiring video! I'd love to hear your thoughts and perspective on practicing as a beginner as it relates to partnering and establishing a sense of safety internally as well as with your practice partner.
I started training three weeks ago and happened to partner up with a woman who feels like a total energetic match - physically as well as mentally/emotionally- we share a similar fire, passion, and drive, and I love the way we're constantly checking in with one another on the mat as well as encouraging on another to embrace our power.
I love the sense of safety I feel in this connection with her. At the same time, I feel like I "should" be mixing it up and working with other people, but quite honestly, I've experienced so many attachment ruptures that safety and consistency in ANY sort of relationship feels like what I really need right now. I was drawn to BJJ as a path to access my inner warrior from a more embodied and integrated state.
I'd love to hear your perspective on all of this! (As well as other BJJ practitioners who happen to be reading this, would love to hear your thoughts as well
Thankyou so much, my daughter ask to practice jujitsu but I wasn’t sure was good for a nice sweet girl, after your video I’m happy to support her😄Blessings
Yes, jiu jitsu is perfect for her! Thanks so much for watching and good luck to her with her training :)
I recently found out that the ladies in our gym have a bjj girls social media group. They motivate each other to come to training, etc. I think doing something like that in a male dominated environment is really helpful.
Totally! There’s a huge facebook group for women too. It’s called “Women’s Grappling Network” if you want to tell them to check it out :)
@@kimberlykinch I'm sure they know. There is very little an old fart can teach young(er) ladies these days. I'm happy enough if I can pass their guards without using brute force in a pressure pass. :)
I'm 9 months postpartum and don't recognize my body anymore. I think I'll try jiujitsu to help find myself again
💜
I highly recommend it!!! (Obviously hahah)
To hear from other jiu jitsu mamas, join the facebook group "Women's Grappling Network." There's TONS of women who train and talk about jiu jitsu postpartum.
:)
I am starting next week its at the 10th planet I am really nervous but also excited my dad is the one who pushed me so I know self defense he's gonna be joining as well which will be neat
That's soo cool that you and your dad get to do this together :) Good luck!
Self defense against what though? If there's a suspected threat, you should model your response to that threat.
People get roped into "self defense" courses when really they want to learn fighting. BJJ teaches an aspect of fighting. And that might or might not be useful if you're ever attacked.
I was distracted by a possible wedding count down in the back??? Congratulations!!!!
LOL this is the best comment. Yep it's a wedding countdown!! :)
I've been doing jujitsu for around 6 or 7 years and this is a really great video trying to get my wife into jujitsu as well
Thanks 👍👍👍👍
I hope she joins! :)
I signed my kids up a month ago and I’m really thinking about doing it. I feel so intimidated though! 😬
I know, it's VERY intimidating. But hopefully hearing about all of the wonderful things jiu jitsu does for these women makes it a litttleeeee easier to give it a try :D
My kids both started training before me. I watched my son for a year before I finally decided to do the trial. I'm SO glad I did it. I'm 3 months in and love it. These videos Kimberly does have definitely helped inspire me. Hope you enjoy it too. ✌
I don't understand what's intimidating. No one thinks you're able to grapple at all. There's zero expectation.
@ ok, bro
Great video 👍Jiu Jitsu is the ultimate 💚🥋🙌🏻
The benefits of practicing jiu jitsu for women are pretty much the same as they are for men.
However, given that many men - including fit strong men who have trained other martial arts - find training jiu jitsu intimidating and challenging (it's amazing how many don't stick with it for very long if they even start at all), it's little wonder that so many women do too. And of course, women tend to face a range of cultural and psychological hurdles which men don't. Which is why it's so beneficial to have more women who roll speaking about their experiences.
It's not a team sport, so there's zero reason for it to be intimidating or challenging. That can only be the result of bad gyms. In principle everyone can spar as softly as they want and improve at their own pace.
I improve super slowly, I don't do my homework at all. And still it's extremely fun.
You pronounciated my name correctly ;) Thanks for the video, made my life easier! :p
Well said! Love this!
Thank you!!
:)
Looove this! So much truth!
💕💕💕💕💕
Could you do a technique breakdown on 'The Muffler'? a lesser known submission
Idk what that is lol
Hi Kimberly, I hope it ok to call you by your first name,
I am VERY happy for you to tell me I am wrong, all I would ask is that you also tell me why.
I think of BJJ as a fantastic sport with strong and useful self-defense far far better than nearly all other martial arts that really have moved too far from their original martial aspects, and are now pure sports or an artform like aikido and Iaido. But I also lump it together with Krav Maga. Another great martial art with strong self-defense aspects. But I do not see either of them as "Self defense training" they take too long to learn, use moves that are simply dangerous on the street (to the defender) and ignore obvious selfdefense targets & moves simply because they are illegal in Jui Jitsu.
I am NOT dissing BJJ, I think it is great, I think it has some amazing bio mechanics, and as a sport, a form of fitness training, as a means to learn some aspects of self defense, and build self confidence, it is really out there.
infact I teach several of the floor techniques in my own class, Anti mount defenses, Stand-ups. and guards
Thanks again for your videos, they are excellent, I truly enjoy them.
Because is great. Next question 🤓
Why women should train BJJ
1. Just to survive
2. Just to survive
3. Just to survive
I think there’s a lot more benefits to it than just that :D
I just started my first classes and I’m so intimitaded! I’m thinking about quitting. 😫 I am the ONLY WOMAN in my starting up class. (I’m 19 yo girl and they are mostly men in their 20-30) I feel like I have to proof myself to them all the time. Or is it all just in my head? I’ve though only been to 1 class lol. They also tried to avoid me in the first class when choosing partners so that they would’t have to roll with me. I really want to continue but also I might not want to. I don’t know! It’s so wierd being in an enviroment where there’s mostly guys expecially when coming from a all girl cheerleading backround. Can someone please share their thoughts? Should I continue?😅😖
(PSA I’m not a kid who just learned how to write 😅🙈😂. I’m an adult from Finland who’s first lamguage isn’t English and I’m too lazy to check my grammar)
Oh no! Don't quit after 1 class! Give it another try. But with that being said, it's DEFINITELY not all in your head. For a longggg time, I felt like I always had to prove myself. So you are definitely not alone here,.
Unfortunately that does happen - men avoiding the roll. A lot of the times I still have the initiate it. But once you start getting to know the guys you train with, it becomes easier.
Do they have any women's classes available?
@Steve Williams 764 You’re on the wrong page to be making a statement like that. Do you even train jiu jitsu ?
@Steve Williams 764 okay well that’s good. And I would assume you’re a man. Like I said, you can get hurt rolling with men and women. It comes down to be aware of the safety of your training partners.
@Steve Williams 764 well, duh. A jiu jitsu tournament or a wrestling tournament is different than training in the gym. No one here is saying men should compete against women in an actual tournament.
@Steve Williams 764 lol I just agreed with you didn’t I? I’ve never said anywhere in my videos that women should COMPETE against men.
comedy confidence
When people tried to correct your "axed" instead of asked comment you pretty much brushed them off. So lets say if you see someone doing a technique incorrectly would you just brush it off or try and help them get it right? That all people are trying to do with axed.
After training jiujitsu, you don’t ask, you axe!
You’re the second person to comment on that - I guess it really annoys you guys huh 🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️
@@kimberlykinch i think its pretty badass, i am gonna start using axe instead of ask :D
@@ornulusoundeffects6423 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
Did you meet your bf before BJJ or at the gym?
I met him at the first gym that I trained at, but before I started jiu jitsu. It was a gym that had a jiu jitsu program built in.
:)
00:10 "he axed". I don't know why, but lately I hear this "axed" pronounciation everywhere.
This seems to really bother people on here 😏
It's at least 200 yo afaik.
Just self confidence doesn't is enough. You have to train with men too and you have to train punches and strikes and kicks. I mean for self defense. Normal Bjj is awesome but without the above parts it is just half effective if a woman is confronted with a 110 kilo Man, because of the weight for instance. Just my opinion.
Imo it makes sense to prepare for a lighter guy. 110kg is a bit much even for other male martial artists.
I love bjj 🥰
"axed" instead of "asked". I love your channel, but that drives me crazy.
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comdy and fake confidence
Please join JJ but respect the art,the community and yourself by keeping romamce out of the gym...you need a date visit an app or a friend...
i challenge you in jiu jitsu 👎👎👎👎👎👎👎👎
Lol no.
fake confidence