Mealtimes in a Polygamous Family
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- Опубліковано 5 лют 2025
- Hear about what mealtimes were like in a polygamous family with a ton of mouths to feed.
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Was there ever a time you got in trouble with another mother and your mom didn't agree with it? Would she try to intervene or help you with the punishment
I worked in an old folks home and many of the residents would ask for milk and bread on Sunday night supper or if there was a large special meal for lunch and they weren't very hungry at supper. Many of them were born early 1900s and grew up during the depression and on war rations during both great wars. (Quebec Canada). Molasses and bread was also considered a dessert and a treat.
That meal is the origin of the term “milk toast” for someone with a bland personality. This meal was very common in the early 20th century, especially during the depression. My grandparents talked about milk toast and also warm leftover rice with milk for breakfast. In fact bread with butter and milk has been considered a full meal well into the 1950s
I loved milk toast but we toasted it! Sounds like Sam just had untoasted bread chunks. But we never had ours with honey-we had sugar and cinnamon.
in the mountains here in southwest virginia, milk and bread is a staple, especially cornbread and milk. totally love it sometimes especially if the cornbread is fresh out of the oven!
My granny used to give us cornbread and milk. Regular bread in milk sounds like all kinds of nope.
It was cornbread and buttermilk in my house, I'm in Southern Maryland, so not too far from you..
West Virginia as well!!
My stepmother from TN mixes fresh cornbread with buttermilk and maybe a little sugar. She calls it clabber. Have you heard of this?
Like a cereal? How much milk? I have family in that area and have never heard of this! I mix cinnamon/sugar with butter for my cornbread.
I love that even though your family wasn't perfect (no family is) you know that they taught you many good things including hard work.
In Germany we have Zwieback which is bread, sliced and baked again. We like to break it, put sugar on top and have it with milk. It gets very soggy too. But with sugar is very nice! Your story reminded me of that. Best wishes! I really enjoy having this window to a such a different world and life experiences :)
I bet it would be delicious with sugar! Thanks so much for watching and sharing!
My grandmother talked about giving toddlers Zweiback as teething biscuits.
I grew up Irish Catholic. Potatoes were the starch of choice for most meals. Rice was reserved for baked fish, fried fish got french fries. Lots of fish, as in every Friday. Our poor man's meal was cold baked bean sandwich with a slice of red onion salt and pepper. Cereal was still cheap in the 60's so sometimes cereal for supper. Thank you for sharing your experience in polygamy with such candor and honesty.
@AME Cocoa I love this! Our family (with a good bit of Scott’s-Irish heritage) often had some kind of bean crammed in in a biscuit or corn bread with onion slices and black pepper. If there were no beans, we ate the breads with molasses, honey, or apple butter.
I want to hear more about mother Mildred and her cooking (you have told about her oatmeal and cereal). 😀
I know y'all did this one a long time ago, but I've just subscribed and am trying to catch up. You asked what was served with rice. In my Cajun family... EVERYTHING. Every meal.
I love that you two have such a beautiful marriage! I love these videos. I don’t know how I stumbled on y’all but I’m grateful I did! I love learning about different people’s experiences! You two look so happy together!
I recently discovered you’re channel and I’m currently binge watching!!! Your vlogs are so interesting and has given me so much knowledge of life growing up in polygamy. I admire the respect you have for a lifestyle that you eventually decided to leave. As a couple the love you have for each other is clearly so special and you both burst with energy, happiness and enthusiasm. Your kids I’m sure, are having the best time ever with you as their parents. Stay safe, live life to the full and make lots of special memories.
As a child , on a Sunday evening we often had a bowl of rice with a bit of butter, milk & sugar. Still like the rice combo & bread, butter & sugar.
Milk toast is so nostalgic to me! My grandma grew up on a farm in the Midwest during the Depression. She would always make it for me when I was sick as a kid. That was the 1980s/1990s and I occasionally make it for myself if I’m not feeling well. She had lots of other home remedies or old wive’s tales. Maybe you can share some from your childhood.
I admit my men (husband & sons) would look at me cross-eyed if I served just bread, honey and milk for dinner. If there’s no meat, they don’t consider it a meal.
(They all know how to cook, though, and definitely do their fair share of the cooking.)
My dad was raised in Idaho and 11 brothers and sisters....they would do the same thing with bread, milk and honey....when times were really good, they could sprinkle cinnamon on it as well...the homemade bread was pretty dense, so it was pretty filling he said. This was in the 1940-1950's!! P.S. I love your video and content!! You two are so dang cute together!! I also have great respect for the honor and love that Sam has for his family members when telling us about his life! Keep up the good work!! 🤗❤
Bread and honey - yep. Better with peanut butter. We bought our bread, so it didn’t really get soggy.
My mom grew up on a farm, so there were plenty of poor man’s meals and quick put togethers. Then she moved to AZ when she got married, so she cooked little in the summer to keep the house cool. Sandwiches of all types, cereal for dinner, etc.
Grandma used to eat that when she was young. Bread, milk or coffee, honey and maybe sugar if needed. It's a great depression meal.
Great episode, Sam and Melissa. Thanks so much for sharing. When you said the cooking was left to the women and girls, my mind went immediately to the Lost Boys of the FLDS. No cooking skills and jettisoned from their families and community would make it even more challenging to survive.
Rice? Here in Louisiana it's a major crop and kitchen and dietary staple. Like the Texas ice cream slogan says, "We eat all we can and sell the rest." lol My non-Cajun Southern Baptist family's rice go-to's are gumbo (chicken, sausage, shrimp), stuffed bell peppers, dirty rice, jambalaya, roast & gravy, brisket marinated in liquid smoke, plain rice & butter, lima beans, broccoli casserole and stewed chicken. Also a recipe from the local Junior League cookbook called "Blend of the Bayou". We're not polygamous, but whenever we visited my namesake aunt or gran, or we attended family reunions or life events, there were enough people there to require organization into cooking and cleaning teams.
My ex-husband said my broccoli casserole was better than a local restaurant's, but I only followed my mom's recipe, which was straight off the soup can. He taught me how to make stuffed cabbage rolls. Since becoming a vegan, I've been all about dried beans & brown rice. Amino acids do a body good. My favorite is large lima or butter beans. For power outages and such, my family keeps instant or ready rice on hand. And I've recently seen on a vegan backpacker channel that you can dehydrate your own cooked dried beans and rice to re-hydrate for use with tortillas as a cold soak/stoveless meal. Love that idea! Bright blessings! 💖
My grandparents were from Appalachia and my husband's parents are from Finland and both those divergent backgrounds totally have a version of bread and milk!!! My side did bread/milk/maple syrup and his side did bread/milk/honey/cinnamon! So funny. :D (And anecdotally, Iin Finland, that was not regarded as a poor meal; their 'poor meal' was usually boiled potatoes and onions or similar.)
My parents were from an older generation and my dad and I had a little bowl of bread and milk almost every evening.
Sam, it seems like your family truly loved and cared for you. It is good to see a functional polygamist family. All I’ve ever seen is the media coverage of Warren Jeffs and Sister Wives! Lol! Not that I am saying it was easy for you but it at least made sense. They raised a fine man! I will say that! I’m sure they were sincere in their beliefs and thankfully not exploitative nor cruel. Thank you so much to both of you for having all these open conversations with us! I greatly appreciate these opportunities to develop understanding of others.
You’re from the land of milk & honey 🍯. Thanks for sharing your life and experiences with us. My father was a strange and controlling man so we had strict meal schedules and always potatoes and meat ... pasta, rice and pizza and things like that were forbidden.
In our Amish community, we broke up bread into milk and put sugar in it along with bananas or other fruit. We called it banana soup. That would be supper sometimes in the hot summer or whenever.
Really appreciate your openness!
Bread and milk is a complete protein meal. It was often fed to sick people with touchy stomachs or elderly with no teeth near the end of life. It was a favorite of my mom, mostly with cornbread. Possibly without the honey. Also a way to keep from discarding stale bread,
My granny and I used to eat cornbread in a wine glass with buttermilk poured over it-haha! Then a glass of wine to follow (once I was old enough). It was a special bond we had. It’s an old-fashioned Southern meal. Lots of love from Atlanta!
Hi guys! Thanks for another video. Love and blessings from Virginia 🥰
Thank you so much for watching! =)
Loved this! I’d love to see a video on how you celebrated birthdays with so many kids!
We actually didn't get to celebrate birthdays, but sometimes my mother would make me a cake. =)
In Sweden the traditional Shrove Tuesday pastry can come in a version where you put the sweet bun, filled with almond paste and whipped cream, in hot milk: hetvägg. I think that is the original way of eating them.
That truly sounds divine!
Or use any sweet bread dough recipe and add cardamom for the buns, it should work.
I loove semla. And I personally insist on putting my bun in warm milk with cinnamon sugar....
@@leonamay8776 I insist on calling them fastlagsbulle 🙂
@@martah5369 I only know it as semla / call them semlor.🤷🏼♀️
My grandmother migrated from Northern Sweden in her 20s and they've been a lent staple in our family for as long as I can remember....
My Dad still makes something we call milk toast, too! He would actually put a piece of buttered toast in a bowl with milk over the top. He made this for me as a kid, too.
Tells us he ate bread in milk for his childhood, then tells us he "doesnt know" why he still dips his bread in milk😂😂❤️ actually so cute.
(Melissa) Hahahaha right?! =)
I grew up eating the bread, milk and, in our case, a spoonful or two of sugar in a bowl for dinner when it was late or mom didn't want to cook. Such a delightful memory!
There would be about 20-22 of us sitting in a U shape at the Guide camp I worked at, when I was 15-20. At least we had a plate of butter or a tub of margarine at each table. Plus jugs of whatever was on offer to drink at each table. Having to wait for one thing of anything to get to each of us... that would definitely test our patience. Lol
Kudos for you for getting through all that waiting at mealtimes, growing up.
I love these videos and the way you talk to each other. You are a great example of a good marriage.
Thank you so much!
My grandparents grew up in the depression, they ate popcorn with milk on it. Milk can coat the stomach and make you feel more full.
I'm from the south and my granny would always mix us leftover biscuits with milk. So good! Also we eat rice with gravy or lots of different vegetables, rice & tomatoes, rice & butterbeans, etc.
I never heard of milk, honey, bread together in a bowl. I love hearing about your life in the FLDS church.
I’m Swedish and we ate something similar that we called wetbread, warm milk and bread and sometimes sugar and cinnamon.
I'm American and my Polish/Anglo mother taught us to heat milk and pour it over a slice of bread, sprinkle it with sugar and cinnamon, when we were out of cereal or for after school.
My aunt once tried to feed us bread with milk on it at a sleepover in the 80’s. I didn’t eat it. Another thing she did was popcorn with milk which I did eat and it was good. She is LDS.
The bread, milk and honey 'dessert' reminds me of the Medieval dish called 'sops'. Which was (usually stale) bread cubes soaked in either gravy, broth, or milk.
Melissa this is a question for you: (btw love your channel).....what was your parents' reaction when you and Sam were getting serious? Did they have reservations about his upbringing?
Good question!
When I was little my grandpa would make cornbread and break it up and put it in a cup and pour milk over it. My whole family loved it except me 😂 I didn’t like milk, so I would eat cornbread and butter. Thanks for sharing! Have a great weekend!
You asked about rice: that’s the staple starch/carb in my house. We rarely bother with potatoes (and I honestly don’t like them that much) so rice in various forms (white, brown, wild, yellow) is the go to side with pretty much any combo of meat and veg. And then white rice with anything like a stir fry or curry. Lately, I’ve been making picadillo (ground beef with tomatoes, olives, onions and a little bit of raisins) which also goes over white rice. It’s just the most versatile.
In my family, we always have rice with pork chops and baked chicken. I love learning and your channel opens my eyes to so many other ways of living. Thank you for sharing all that you do!
I just found your channel a day ago and have been binge watching all your videos! So interesting to learn about. I’m born and raised in New Jersey so life out here is very different, I never even met someone who is Mormon before let alone part of the FLDS.
This channel is so interesting, I just found it yesterday! I was wondering how birthdays are. Are they ever celebrated or is there ever a special meal or any gifts? Or were birthdays not allowed for religious reasons?
It’s not the most important question but I was just curious :)
We are so glad you found us! Birthdays were not celebrated with gifts or parties or anything like that, but sometimes our mother would bake us a cake. =)
For a short time as a kids We were babysat by a family that had bread,sugar and milk every morning for breakfast. It was horrible! I could not get over the soggy texture. If I have cereal now I use barely any milk and eat it quickly so it remains it’s crunchy texture. I also cannot eat bread pudding. I guess I was slightly scared by that meal choice, lol!
Growing up in South TX, we would have bread and butter most nights with dinner, and we always had honey on the table for those who wanted it with their bread and butter. Its yummy! I don't like soggy bread, but the butter made a barrier to stop the honey from making the bread soggy. We did not put milk with bread though lol
I am Mauritian, from Mauritius 🇲🇺. My ancestors came from India during colonisation period (mid 1800s). Thus our staple are rice, flat bread and bread. And we eat rice with curry, lentils, salad, chicken/fish/shrimps, rougaille (made from tomatoes, garlic, chilli and onion), légumes, etc...
Sitting here eating some snacks while watching you saying you did not get a snack 😆😆🙈
My post-work out, and then also my pre-work out food today was toast with vegan butter and salt + a piece of a protein bar and some dried mango. Ice cold Diet Coke as a side 🥰😋
Nope not the best meal, but it is hot here in Norway today, and I am going on a swim, and I have been on a hike, so I just needed something light before swimming ☀️😊
Thank you for sharing, always very interesting 😊 Love from Johanne, Norway
(Melissa) That sounds like a great snack! And I am right there with you for the Diet Coke! We want to visit Norway sooo badly! A lot of Sam's heritage is from Norway!
Meal times in a polygamous family is my filed trips with school, 30+ at middle school and 60+ at high school/college. Or a family party, immediately family + their relatives+ significant others.
My grandparents were dairy farmers. We would have homemade bread sprinkled with sugar topped with cream for dessert. It was delicious!
Here in South Louisiana I was raised on bread and milk as well as cornbread and milk. I always ate it with sugar, which I’m not suppose to have bc I’m diabetic but I LOVE it. My brothers use to add fig preserves to it instead of sugar bc of the syrup in it.
We used to eat butter & sugar sandwiches growing up. My mom said they ate lard & sugar sandwiches often grilled when they were growing up.
My Grandmother would butter toast for us and have milk in a cute carafe when she made cream of wheat or oatmeal. We'd add the toast (in pieces), pour in some milk and it was delicious! I still eat it this way. Yes, it gets soggy, but I love it. It's nostalgic and comforting, not to mention delicious.
My ex-husband grew up very poor and he and all of his siblings constantly talked about how they ate bread cereal. But used white sugar instead of honey.
In the South, it’s common for old-timers to crumble cornbread and pour buttermilk over it and eat that. It’s considered a way to use up leftover cornbread so that it doesn’t get stale.
Also, for some reason, in my household growing up anything that had tomatoes but wasn’t Italian got eaten with rice. For instance, Swiss steak went with rice or if we had stewed tomatoes as a vegetable side then the starch would be rice. But I grew up in a house with a mom who cooked in a pretty traditionally Southern way.
Bread cereal. Home made bread,if I was at grandmas; white at home. Powdered milk and sugar at my grandmas sugar and milk at home… no way would I eat it today.
My grandparents were LDS
My inlaws crumble up cornbread and pour milk over it. They said many a time that would be a quick meal.
Our family had Spanish rice fairly often & a good standby was mashed potatoes & gravy.
We had bacon growing up and hot dogs too. Sausage was a favorite!
Must be a southern Utah thing....my grandparents were raised in Hurricane and Paragonah/Cedar City. They had bread soaked in milk all the time...mostly as a desert. Either that or a depression thing. My dad also ate it. Us kids...not so much, ugh.
Hi! Love to watch you tell your stories about your past Sam. I wonder; can you cook now? How/when did you learn that? And how about other household tasks and taking caring of your kids with Melissa?
My grandma called that depression era cereal. Her version was slightly different as she buttered the bread and added cinnamon to it but same concept.
You're describing brotsup. It's an Amish thing. We eat it with fruit and maybe peanut butter. Can do sweet coffee too.
My Grandfather was the eldest of thirteen children and I was told that they had bread and milk for breakfast. The bread was soaked in warm milk and whipped up with sugar. They were a poor family in Yorkshire England.
At my grandmas house we would eat bread with milk and salt and pepper all of the time. We would also eat white rice this way, but add butter. 😋
So funny decided to watch some more of y'all's videos and you uploaded 🤣 really hope you guys get more followers and are able to make an income off of this. You deserve it
My grandma made a soup out of malt beer and what we call " schwarzbrot" means blackbred but for real it is sauer dough bred out of whole wheat. I loved it. But not allot people know of that kind of that soupe, so they mostly crinch there noses about it.
Yeah, my family eats that bread dish all the time. Sometimes we put strawberries on it too.
Sorry guys I am not going to be able stay awake for the live. Maybe if you do it earlier in the day hopefully I'll be able to catch at least 1 entire live
My rice goto is beef tips w/mushroom gravy over rice unless it's sweet and sour...beef and broccoli OR pepper steak play a close 2nd and 3rd respectively 👍
Asian stirfry is gets pasta, vermicelli .
My great grandmother loved bread and milk...she also ate garlic and mayonnaise sandwiches and onions like apples though so I always figured it was just one of her odd meals haha!
I was flds. Bread and milk was a huge thing in our family
Hi! Thanks for the video it was good. Keep them coming 🤩
Thanks for always watching!
I have heard of the homemade bread honey with cream actually from my family who lived during the nineteen thirties, and before they were Mennonite and lived in ah on farms. So, yeah, I've heard of it, but something from like my great grandparent to grandparents.
Bread and milk: we call it pap. You can add sweet or savory flavorings. I remember eating this whenever $$$ was tight. Leftover bread soaked in hot milk with cheese or sugar or honey.
Where I am from, it's common to eat crumbled cornbread and milk. Do you have any more Mother Mildred stories?
Me too!
Yup, cornbread and buttermilk in my area.
Homemande bread and milk was a staple breakfast in Croatia and Hercegovina. But honestly I didn't eat that in 35 isch years. I have to try it with Honey, we used Hony as sugar replacement in baking. I didn't eat Rice well in my adult life because that is something we have to buy.
Our families go to rice meal is plain rice with baked chicken and marinara sauce on top of it the chicken breast boneless skinless would be baked in the marinara sauce we would also serve it with green beans and most the time they would all get mixed together. My question is is would there be anyone eating with your dad. Or would he be eating alone
My mom used to do the bread and milk thing if we were out of cereal! 😂😂😂 too funny! It actually isn’t too bad! 😉🤣
I grew up in California in the 50-60s. We never made rice at home. My mother married my stepfather when I was 10. He was a non active Mormon. I never got into it. When I was 11 and my sister was 12 we fought over a Mexican tv dinner (the original tin trays). She won and got the dinner BUT she didn't eat the rice because we didn't like rice...he gave her a beating I'll Never forget. Sad part if I had gotten dinner I would have been beaten. Fortunately I had an opportunity to go to Guam after high school and fell in love with rice. Soggy food is gross! Love this channel...very interesting couple.
(Melissa) That breaks my heart. I'm so sorry you and your sister had to go through that. Thank you so much for watching and for sharing.
@@GrowingUpinPolygamy some memories don't go away even 60 years later. After leaving home my senior year in high school and venturing off to the tropics I was able to break that horrific cycle. I'm certainly not religious yet I enjoy both of you. Love the caring between you. Happiness to your family 💙
After growing up around so many people, I wonder if Sam is comfortable being alone or if it feels really strange.
I was today years old when I realized that milk toast is actually a thing.
My grandmother grew up on a farm in the mountains and they used to eat the bread with milk when she was a child. (northern Italy for reference)
Yep! Toast in milk or cornbread in milk is delicious!! Especially warmed up on a cold morning. But I’ve never had it with honey.
Here in South Africa, it is very common to eat bread with milk. A lot of people (like myself) prefer having it with sour milk and a little bit of sugar
Yes to the bread and milk. We didn't have a lot of money and dad grew up country. So we would take any bread that was slightly stale or dry and put brown sugar and milk on top and that was a meal. Our favorite, especially if it was dry, was cornbread!
I grew up in Southern Utah. My grandparents ate bread and milk often for dinner. I had it occasionally. I liked it.
My mom would toast the bread, butter it and sprinkle with sugar, then cut into squares and put in a bowl with warmed up milk. So cozy!
I’m originally from Iowa and we would have toast broken up into a bowl with sugar and milk for breakfast.
For rice we had rice pudding as a dessert and then for breakfast we would have white rice with cinnamon, butter and sugar with milk like a hot cereal.
My mom made milk toast that consisted of white bread, a little coffee poured over it, then milk poured over it and then sprinkled with sugar.
I’ve heard of the bread and milk from book series The Boxcar Children. But I’ve never tried it; Nor do I want to.
Hi there from Oklahoma and don't forget to do a reminder about when going live Central time please!!
we are of Dutch descent and my father made/ate what was called brockmecmelk (spelling) roughly translated broken bread in milk.
I haven't watched all your videos, so this may be answered in another - but are you still in contact with any of your family? It sounds like you had a good family compared to what we normally hear about children in polygamy families. Thank you.
Home made bread and honey is my jam. My family grew up on farming and making bread .Did you do bread pudding? which is with eggs and cinnamon/apple pie seasoning? and honey or sugar and milk baked? Cheap delicious
Chickpeas, various different ways, with rice. Also a Persian green bean rice that I grew up eating.
Hello I'm new to your channel as am binge watching! I'm from the UK and my grandad loves bread and milk!
Welcome welcome!!! =)
It would be interesting about the large mealtimes. But I’m diabetes type one. Do they have provided for the diabetes and less carbs? Just curious. I’m sure some of them who have diabetes and medical attention. It’s from my mother side families who have generated diabetes type one. It’s awesome stories!
I love stir fry but I live in Italy and normally here we have Risotto, it's just the way Italians cook rice, totally different but so delicious.