I feel release from guilty reading this. Thank you for your resources, I am so grateful. I can't afford a therapy. But I am working on myself the best I can to heal my inner...
These are eye-openers for me, an adult child of an abusive, alcoholic father. I am writing them down and will keep writing them down until I can internalize these concepts. Thank you!
I love the last one, reminds me I have the right to walk away from holiday gatherings that are toxic. There was so much dysfunction in my family holidays that I hated holidays.
Elisa Xavier. True, because many people were disempowered by childhood abuse and dysfunction. Healing and Recovery involve taking back the power so you are empowered to take care of yourself spiritually, physically, emotionally, and in all your relationships.
Counselor Carl, parents sometimes were more focused in solving their problems than making kids understand that they are entitled to have rights other than obligation to behave and obey them. That may seem a 'minor' trauma, but, in fact the impact may limit one's freedom and self-respect. Thank you so much
At 3:01 the right to choose with whom I spend my time and with whom I share my body. The body part of that right does encourage extra-marital affairs. The right to choose to whom I spend my time; bad company happens in this manner.
Notice that these rights belong to everyone! Thus, I have the right to expect that others treat me with respect and not violate my rights. So, if we agree to be faithful to each other, we both have the right to expect that faithfulness and to the obligation to give that same faithfulness to our spouse, unless that obligation is ended through divorce or separation. Still, I have the right to decide who I share my life and body with, and you have that same right. Does that make sense to you. Marriage is a negotiation, and whatever we agree are the boundaries of our marriage must by followed by both.
"I have the right to not be responsible for the feelings of another" really powerful.
king.a16. Yes, especially for codependents who feel responsible for everything, which is why they are so stressed out.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy so true!! I am so thankful I found your youtube channel. Thank you so much for empowering videos you share with us!!
@@sanja12 You're welcome!
I feel release from guilty reading this. Thank you for your resources, I am so grateful. I can't afford a therapy. But I am working on myself the best I can to heal my inner...
Hi Aimin, I'm glad you found my video helpful. Best wishes on your recovery.
Love you man. You’ve helped me more than you know. This is a powerful, severely undervalued resource for everyone, everywhere. Keep it up.
Alex Frank You're welcome!
Thank you so much for not adding ads into these videos.
You're welcome!
@@Serenityonlinetherapy Will you have time to make more videos on codependency please?
@@Sunflowerdew123 I'm working on one. I'm glad you find them helpful.
Thanks. I've been looking for a list like this for a long time.
Another Bomb Video. Hits the Bulls Eye of Recovery. Thankyou Mr.Carl.
Thank you, and you're welcome!
These are eye-openers for me, an adult child of an abusive, alcoholic father. I am writing them down and will keep writing them down until I can internalize these concepts. Thank you!
You're welcome! Best wishes!
Thanks Counselor Carl. 💙💫✨
The biggest one for me is feeling responsible for other people’s emotions and happiness. That one thing has tormented me my whole life!
So important to hear. Thank you.
Thank You thank You!!! God Bless 😍
You're welcome!
This is so helpful, putting into words the way in which i have felt in the past. This will help me moving forward. Thankyou so much.⚘️
You're welcome! Best wishes.
wow....amazing. thankyou.
Thank you!
Thanks
I love the last one, reminds me I have the right to walk away from holiday gatherings that are toxic. There was so much dysfunction in my family holidays that I hated holidays.
Great information!
Kasia Wojcik. I'm glad you found it helpful. Best wishes!
Absolute dude.
Amen!!!!
I have the right to eat all the cookies without feeling guilty.
So obvious yet so hard for some.
Elisa Xavier. True, because many people were disempowered by childhood abuse and dysfunction. Healing and Recovery involve taking back the power so you are empowered to take care of yourself spiritually, physically, emotionally, and in all your relationships.
Counselor Carl, parents sometimes were more focused in solving their problems than making kids understand that they are entitled to have rights other than obligation to behave and obey them. That may seem a 'minor' trauma, but, in fact the impact may limit one's freedom and self-respect.
Thank you so much
Yes, you are correct!
Counselor Carl , thanks for all wisdom that you share, and insights you help to happen.
May life return to you the good you do for so many.
Thank you, Elisa. I wish the same for you!
At 3:01 the right to choose with whom I spend my time and with whom I share my body. The body part of that right does encourage extra-marital affairs. The right to choose to whom I spend my time; bad company happens in this manner.
Notice that these rights belong to everyone! Thus, I have the right to expect that others treat me with respect and not violate my rights. So, if we agree to be faithful to each other, we both have the right to expect that faithfulness and to the obligation to give that same faithfulness to our spouse, unless that obligation is ended through divorce or separation. Still, I have the right to decide who I share my life and body with, and you have that same right. Does that make sense to you. Marriage is a negotiation, and whatever we agree are the boundaries of our marriage must by followed by both.
You decide your behaviour with accountability.
Thanks you for sharing
You're welcome!