It is not the son's responsibility to find the 'courage' to open up to his father; it is his father's responsibility to harbor the love and compassion to accept his child.
Exactly. If parents are doing their job correctly by making their children grow up feeling comfortable to express their feelings and emotions openly to their parents there would be no fear.
it's disappointing that parents don't raise their kids appropriately to expose and sensitize to that concept. Having a faith base helps because priests and pastors can help guide. It's not normal to have attractions or feelings like that. Parents have an oath to raise their kids. As a parent most would be humiliated where they went wrong.
@@angemaidment5640 What responsibility does the son have? &, yes, if we're talking about sons & fathers, the sole responsibility for loving his son unconditionally is the father's.
The moment he wiped his tears after realising his dad was not accepting him, I broke down to tears because that's a genuine reaction right there. Just when he thought his dad was okay with him being himself
@@Britishladstuff I never did either & the sad irony is that they'd have been understanding and loving. It's clear to me, however, that they "knew" & simply ignored it. The fallout for me is that I never had a monogamous relationship until after they died.
I am a straight man but I also consider myself an ally to the LGBT+ community, I am sickened that there is still homophobia in our world and I can't wait for the day when we can overcome such ignorance and non tolerance of those who wish to live their lives the way want to without fearing the repercussions.
Thank you. I wish my dad was an ally. He forced me to get married to a woman against my will. I hate them. Even now they do not allow me into their house
Sadly homophobia and ignorance will never truly go away. All we can do is stand up to it whenever it rears its ugly head. It’s everyone’s responsibility.
I had a genuine thought for a milisecond that he was gonna be one of those misunderstood Dads whom their kids thought the wrong things of... then it happened...
In many cases, the unfortunate reality is that these parents aren't misunderstood, and are just terrible people. Sure, maybe in time they come around. I've seen many cases where that happened too - child comes out as gay, parents don't want to accept and attempt to distance themselves, child says that's fine, don't talk to me until you can learn to accept me for who I am, and then, eventually, they do, and everything turns out okay. But the point to be taken away from this episode is that, even if your parents refuse to accept it and be there for you, there are plenty of people who are supportive, and the simple fact of the matter is these feelings are normal; there's nothing wrong with it, and you shouldn't have change, and you certainly shouldn't harm yourself trying to. Everybody deserves happiness and kindness.
he will turn 18, leave and never look back. that’s what most of us did, and we’re happier now. it is important to understand that your family is made up of just people… literally just people. and if you feel unsupported, detach yourself from that dynamic. there’s plenty of others out there who will love & cherish you.
And one day, that father is going to find himself alone, in a nursing home, with no one coming to visit him -- and the son, having gone no contact years earlier, won't have anything to do with him -- and that father think about being alone, with no one coming to visit him; and it will be no one's fault but the father.
I spent all my 20's trying to be 'normal' ie. heterosexual, but finally came out in my early 30's and accepted my 'normal' sexuality was homosexuality. I finally found my life partner when I was 50 and we have been together now for almost 29years with many more expected to come. My only regret was the wasted 10 years trying not to be myself, but it at least taught me a lot about myself.
Wow. I’m gay accepted myself at 11. I think I was depressed and hated myself for a long time, and didn’t really love myself until this year at 19. I was so worried for my safety as a kid because my family might’ve kicked me out. Now I’m bigger and taller than all my straight older brothers so their perceptions of being gay have definitely shattered. This really puts things into perspective though because I knew up I was gay very young, and the self acceptance journey started very young probably due to representation like Love, Simon
@@infinity-gs4mq Not a waste if you learned something . Try to remember we go through things on a journeys to get to our destiny. some folks go years before they find out the reason why and some never find the reason .
Jeez-us, made me cry. I'm 70 and can understand the angst of the young man. It was rough in the 60's and 70's. I am so lucky to have had a loving and accepting Mom and Dad. I still battled self-hatred and self-loathing until I was in my 50's. I wear gay themed T-Shirts every day, everywhere I go, so that if a young person sees me, hopefully they can say, "If that old man can make it, so can I".
Well done you ! It takes a lot of courage to tell anyone who you are, but it shouldn't need to be that way. Some can never say it as they fear everyone will shun them or point the finger of abuse. It is nobody's fault how we are born, wired to be gay or bi instead of the majority heterosexual. Hopefully, into the future there will be no more hatred and young people can just be who they are, and be happy. I do see it happening slowly, but there are still plenty of bigoted folk about. Why can't they just leave others alone and get on with their own lives?
as someone who has battled with my sexuality for years to the point I came to hate everything about myself because of how society sees my community this feels real. im now happy to say im Gay and incredibily proud.
If we’re not supposed to be gay - why the hell are we? Why does approx. 10-15% of the population fancy their own kind? I’m gay and I’ve lived with it for over thirty years. Never understood what it was all about back in the 1980s of course, but as I got older I began to realise my life was taking a notably different path to what’s considered, and what I consider, normal.
There have been studies on apparently gay rams, they did find a difference in I think it was the hypocampus? gland in the brain was larger in the "gay" rams than the others. The study was done if I remember right- by the USDA because of complaints by sheep ranchers that they had very expensive rams they wanted to use for breeding but they only wanted to mate with other rams and no interest in the females. Of course, this study's methods required killing the rams to dissect their brains, but they DID find that difference and that gland in the brain controls such things as sex responses. I have NO doubt this applies across humans, as well as other animals who have shown similar tendencies as the rams, so it's something born with.
As someone who is gay this hurts. Who cares if your child is LGBTQ people need to chill. It’s not the end of the world and that dad needs to be humbled
this was the most heart wrenching thing i’ve ever seen. as someone who’s actually ended up in the ER literally borderline of having a heart attack trying to hide the fact that i was dating a man at 19 and I hadn’t came out to anyone and the only way to lower my heart rate was crying and having a panic attack in front of my doctor and actually saying the words is just something that i don’t wish anyone to ever experience. may this kind of journey never happens to anyone and feel free to love and enjoy the company of a man or woman that makes you feel complete.
I sincerely hope you've had a better life since. I wasn't accepted by my parents. It has been a slippery slope since then, and a lifetime of difficulty. Its hard to go through most of your life without any kind of safety net, and it led me to put trust in people I shouldn't, as I was desperate to be accepted. I'm now physically and mentally unwell, and in difficult circumstances. I'm 42, but as "grown up" as I've had to be from an early age, I still feel like a child, and a disappointment. I know I'm not the only one who has been through hard times, but sometimes life throws more at certain people than they deserve or can reasonably take. I would like to say things are getting better, but with the rise of religious groups in the UK, I know many for whom it is worse than it ever was, and fear it will be a struggle to keep our rights in the not too distant future. Having said that, for the present, I wish you and all others that have struggled and do struggle all the very best, especially at this time of year. Take care.
3:10 does it mean you consider the script realistic? the son takes 'medicine' to make him sick and 'stop the thoughts' and all that. the doctors somehow manage to calm down his heart rate and suddenly he founds the courage to calmly tell his dad 'I'm gay'?? hard to believe. if he panicked that severely earlier it should take a lot more to finally confess to the person you are most frightened of. it probably raises his heart rate again to dangerous levels.
@@phily8093Stay strong man. You’ve been through quite a lot but the fact you made it this far makes you strong as hell. And don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
@thewayofway1 thank you very much. So kind of you. I'm trying. That's all I can do. We all have our struggles. Wishing you well and all the good things.
parents should be teaching their kids. i would be mortified if i had kids and they were dating the same sex. It makes you question where you wronged as a parent. perhaps he was raised with no church.
Heart wrenching twist. Was expecting the dad to say something along the lines of "you're my son, I don't care if you're gay, I will always love you and be there for you, no matter what". Good story, but a reality that many of us have gone through. 😢
Yep 'apologise to the doctor, I'm disappointed you did that, but I'm proud to call you my son. I don't care you're gay, and these thoughts are ol' It makes me sad though, that his reaction is still common today
Until I was 11 years old, being gay was a crime in the UK. Then, later, the AIDS virus set the progress towards acceptance back years. I grew up confused, scared, I had girlfriends, which wasn't fair on them, with hindsight. I denied the truth, even to myself. I never dared tell my parents. I was close to my grandfather, but I feared it would break his heart if I came out. I never had a proper relationship because other men were just as scared as me. Time this ended. Too many generations have been scarred by homophobia
When I was 20 years old. I said I was gay. I was sent to see a psychiatrist and put on antipsychotic drugs and was told I was going to made normal. The drugs destroyed my mind and my soul. The psychiatrist was an evil sadistic, narcissistic sociopath.
@andysstuff1 yes third millennium. The 1-1000 is the first. Then 1000-2000 is the second and this is the third. So yeah anyone of 24 years was born in a completely different millenium .
@@krisshnapeswanipeswani3190 you're right, I send my apologies for my mishap regarding the previous reply. I pray you have it in your heart to forgive the severe lapse of judgement involved beforehand. Thank you for your time.
I’ve been out since I was 19. I’m 47 now. I feel for this kid. I still remember the angst of hating myself and dating girls to try to be “normal”. I am normal. I am perfectly me!
When will be learn and understand, people are born with their sexualality. Your sexualality is not something you can change, and it's not something you need to change. Except who are and remember everyone deserves love.
@@glacousxx Oh of course it isn't, because if you said so it's the truth; and all of the experiences of people who could actually know the answer to this, gay people, are a lie. You have no ideia of what you're talking about because you are not gay. I've always felt things for boys, and never felt anything for a girl, it's just the way I am
I'm a Christian. Yet, I find myself to be very gay. And, yes, you can be both. My mother says it's an issue, my father has no comment, my sister finds it weird, and I can't fathom it any other way- cause that's just who I've always been. I've often tried to pretend to be straight, not for others, but just to see for myself. It was ridiculous, obviously, to pretend to be straight cause it never worked. People dislike homosexuality. In the way the Bible sees it, I would too. But it's not like I chose this. Trust me, if I had the option of being a straight little angel, I would. But I'm not. I'm a person with a body. A body with desires, and those happen to be targeted towards men. Why? I'll never know... but when I meet God one day I hope to understand.
I am gay and Christian and at peace with it. I was lucky to find a church with an openly gay pastor. Currently in a different church which is also affirming. The Bible is misused and misunderstood at times. I believe God created you just as you are, and you are beautiful and beloved by God.
At 63 years of age I still battle this "Homosexual" thing and it's not easy. I was spiritually mutilated as a teenager and never got over it. Don't let this happen to your children. Being who you are isn't a bad thing. Religion made it that way. Some people allow these "so called" scriptures to dictate what kind of person you are vs the kind of person you need to be. I could go on and on but really, what good would it do? This over the top "Christian" view of homosexuality has really caused some serious problems for billions of people over the years. As long as there is religion, there's going to be problems. Peace.
I was very lucky. I found an accepting, embracing church right when I came out so did not suffer spiritually. I believe God created you as you are and it is very good. You are a treasure to God, beloved and beautiful. I have no doubt about this at all. No church can ever take that away from me because my relationship with God does not depend on any church or preacher anymore. It was a preacher who taught me this. An out gay preacher! Peace, brother. Happy to talk more if you wish.
This feels so familiar. When I came out to my parents my Mum said I hope you’ve not been worrying about telling us, followed by “ I promise you, whatever it costs, we’ll get you better”
This is still happening today . What parent's seem to forget is that you both made your kids . So don't put the blame on them . Instead embrace them and love them .
@nekusakura6748 From the looks of it, maybe that kind doctor looked at taking him in. He was indeed very supportive, and the fact he seems to have taken time to hang out with the kid and treat him like a supportive dad tells me hopefully that was the case.
He hasn’t, because this is a dramatisation. It’s not a hospital, it a TV production studio. East Enders& Coronation Street are not real. It’s the sentiment that’s the point.
This sort of happened to me. I was raised in a fundamentalist home in the 80s. I ended up so freaked out about my sexuality I developed conversion disorder, which expressed as pseudoseizures. I was in the hospital for almost a day before the neurologist on call showed up to diagnose me, sleeping in because he thought it was a minor drug overdose and I could do with learning a lesson I guess? Every hour or so the anti-seizure medicine would wear off enough to start another seizure and they would administer more. The hospital didn't charge us a thing because they were worried my parents would sue them over the doctor's callousness, with the nurses saying they would testify against him. God that was embarrassing to happen, but especially as a way for a teenager to come out to his fundie parents.
Ive been out for 20yrs, been with my boyfriend for 11yrs, living together for 10yrs, still get that awkwardness when I meet a new person who assumes I'm straight ! "So do you and your missus live locally?" "Well yes and no....we live locally but its a Mr not a Mrs" 😂😂
There was a moment in which I HAD to open myself to my mother about my sexual orientation and it was devastating. We would constantly argue on the silliest of things, because she would not understand me at all. She had a specific concept going on in her head on what I was supposed to do and what I wanted to do - which where completely different things. She used to think I would go around and have sexual intercourses with whoever showed up at my door. Even old friends of mine were not allowed to go to my house, since she thought we always had second intentions. I could not go out with my friends, I could not stay out for long - at least not without a fight. However, as the time went by, she came to her senses and realized that there was actually nothing wrong happening, I was just the same old me, as I have always been. She said "This is not the life I expected you to live". It was not mine, either. It just happened and I am okay with it. It is who I am. Today we are in excellent terms and love each other, we even talk about the guys I date. We just needed patience and open minds to one another. I hope everyone can achieve peace, someday. We deserve it.
I had something a bit similar. My mom used to distrust me around girls because I might be lying to get more alone time with girls, but also distrust me around guys because I might not have been lying. So she was wary of me having friends altogether. That wasn't fun to go through when I was already introverted and socially awkward to begin with in early high school. It was hard enough making friends already!
My mom is in the beginning phase. I used to be so depressed from ms through high school, but now there’s a lot of representation I definitely understand myself. I started just being myself whether listening to girly pop music, or dressing with more jewelry. My mom started questioning if I was gay with disgust because she never saw me that way. I know she was devastated and disgusted, but I did it on purpose. I know eventually she’ll move on.
I can understand how he felt and even I tried to hide my sexuality but it was the pain that made me feel worse about myself till I dared to emit it for the first time back in 2018 at Dublin Airport to my family. So I couldn't be any happier for him to emit that sort of a thing to his Dad.
A similar circumstance happened to me when I was 22 yrs old in 1964 . I had a panic attack at the movies but managed to sit it out . Then when I got home I had a very irregular heart beat . My fear was the discrimination of being gay was quite serious in those days . I had five older very straight older brothers . Fortunately my father and mother were very tolerant of different sexualities . They had parties employing a female impersonator ( Noel McKay) and I should have realised then I-only 13 years old then- that I could have come out to them at a much younger age My oldest brother was a medical student then and through the cardiologist who checked me over ( he asked me what was bothering me to get such a reaction which I bravely revealed to him) he told my parents. To my delight Mum replied “well, Michelangelo and Leonardo da Vince were great men in history, and mother in particular said that Oscar Wilde was one of the best in the literary arts etc . She was a great one for reciting poetry, being an avid reader. And Dad said during the Wars and in World War 2 homosexuality was common even in the armed forces in America where male bonding was common and also gave these men courage to be serve in the forces. You can imagine the relief I felt . Only 1 of my brothers guessed I was gay but he thought nothing of it and said just get in with your life . These are the best years of your life and make the most of them, especially those years at school. But be sensible and take care . So I still had to suppress my feelings but at least felt at ease thinking things could get better. Having experienced those decades from the 50’s in looking back makes me appreciate all the more my journey was such I can still sit back and smell the roses. My one disappointment was I never had a romantic relationship ( I’m a hopeless romantic at heart really) although a few long term relationships.
A parent's job isn't to judge their children or to tell them what they are, but to love them unconditionally and guide them in life, accepting that they are who and what they are without prejudice or ignorance. Even if they don't understand and it goes against what they've thought or believed up to this point, they have an absolute obligation to accept their children. This was definitely a failure on the father's part and not the child's.
That turn was heart breaking 😢 the son really thought his dad was on his side. The worst thing that you can as a parent is killing your kids self-esteem then you will be become their number one enemy.
I literally thought I was gay for all my life and just recently started crushing for a girl but it’s a stronger crush than all of my guy-crushes have ever been. We kissed a few times and am gonna have my third date tomorrow. I feel betrayed by myself. I can’t even look at a guy anymore and think that I ever liked men
Some people can be fluid. Doesn't invalidate that you were or thought you were gay. I know plenty of people who had family kids in heterosexual relationship only to start feeling attraction to same sex. It works both ways. Its ok to be fluid and have attractions.
That’s the thing about sexuality, it’s not black or white. We are actually fluid with preferences and sometimes those preferences may shift in our lifetime. You didn’t lied to you before as you are not now. It is always you. It’s all good
Atleast the the way they fixed it is a real way in which it can be done. That's how they stopped mine. Though I'm no doctor and honestly don't understand how breathing into a tube whose are way is blocked is supposed to help. If anything that would make a panicked mind worse cause the brain is only gonna register that they can't breathe
This was alternately like a punch in the gut, and then a relief... but still A GUT-PUNCH. I have a gay child, and a non gender-conforming grandchild from another child. Whomever may be feeling more-emboldened to spew ignorance and hate (due to some recent political events in various countries), know this: You're outnumbered; and we fight.
Please please please keep them protected. I'm hoping it's just a spur of the moment thing but this latest electoral vote has made the wrong group feel emboldened. Here in indiana klan posters have been showing up and I honestly sometimes don't even want to leave my house out of fear but I know where I am safe and make sure that they do as well.
@@ronaldmorris1462 I appreciate and relate-to your counsel. We live in a strange and volatile era - which way will the path lead? Through a dark forest, perhaps. But there's always light.
Thank you. Sometimes family is is all that matters, what other people think only has as much weight as your insecurities about the people you care about the most, and if you know they're with you, you feel strong enough to take on whatever the world throws at you.
Thank you for being a true father (or mother, if I guessed wrongly) and giving your child and grandchild the support, love, and respect they deserve. Greetings and respect from a former foster, now de-facto, dad.
its nearly 2025 why 50 years after Stone wall is this still a hard road to travel and such a rough rough way to go anyway thanks to the Beeb for bringing this up again because some actual youngster somewhere just realised he is not the only one after seeing these actors
@@MONKEYDZETS --- Why Pride? Being discriminated against in housing and employment, being called an "abomination" in the church you grew up in, denied militarily serving your country openly prior to 2011, being gay bashed on the street for holding the hand of someone you love--- and STILL standing up to the bigots by refusing to continue to lie? By living your life openly and honestly? THAT takes more courage than most will ever know.
It pisses me off when some people are so stuck in their close minded, bigoted way of thinking! God made us all in his image & also made us who we are. People need to get off their soapbox & accept everyone! Gay, straight, black, white, brown or whatever else. No one has the right to judge anyone but themselves! I am bi-sexual by the way, and proud of it!
Why is it. That the people we don't fancy or sleep with are the ones who are the biggest problems. SOCIETY and Expectations are the reason so many of us die by our own hands. Those thumpers who CLAIM to be doing GODS work is in for a very rude awakening.
It was hard for me to come out to my parents as gay but they never gave up hope that I would become a heterosexual. Praise Jesus their prayers were answered, and now I’m thriving as a transsexual! Straight is great!🙏🏳️⚧️🩷
One can only hope in the US for hospital staff as thoughtful and kind as this. If that had been here in the US, there’s at least a 50% chance you’d get religious condemnation from at least 1 member of the staff.
I think its the doctor, I was confused because I thought it was the father so I thought I missed something, but replayed it and realized its the doctor
The really sad thing is we are supposed to have progressed but I would never hold my husbands hand or kiss him in the street. Especially in London as it takes one idiot with a knife and it is all over!
Today I had the same tought...I'm a woman from Southern Europe. And yes I was thinking "there is a marriage law, adoption law, sexual orientation discrimination forbidden in the Constitution. But if i kiss another female in public there will be stares and muttering of comments. It's hard to accept myself really
This made me cry im in a relationship for 30 years now and still whe wont hold hands in public because whe were brought up to beleive being gay is a sickness and it stayes in youre mind every day even though you know its who you are and exepted it .Poeple are cruel
You are beautiful to me and to God. I hope you find a place to at least visit where you can be you. I understand..I don't hold hands with my husband in public either. But I can at church!
Brings back memories. I was so terrified of my father finding out I was gay when I was 13 that my skin broke out in huge, raw patches -- on my arms, behind my ears, on my back, on my legs - and nothing would fix it. I was finally treated with high-power steroids, which got the patches to go away -- so I developed an autoimmune disease. When I finally left home and got away from my father, the disease went away. Imagine that.
It's so easy to love and respect someone unconditionally once you remove your wishes, expectations and biases. Strop trying to understand WHY people are the way they are. They just are. I don't give a thought about people's sexuality any more than I think about them being right-handed or liking broccoli.
From a purely biological perspective, the proportion of humans with bisexual tendencies or potential could range between 40% and 60%, depending on how broadly bisexual attraction is defined. However, the actual expression of such attraction varies greatly and is influenced by personal, cultural, and social factors. just saying
Sorry it is too good to be true it is just speculations we can't be sure and it is changing with time the population dies and get born so these percentages are varying and because many people don't admit their homosexual attractions we can't be sure of any surveys
I can relate to this so much. I was in the hospital for two weeks when I got sick from an incurable virus because people who I had considered as my second family found about my secret and my will to continue to be here was at an all time low. I’ve lost people but everyday is a challenge. Just got to make it one day at a time
Let's spare a moment to recognise all the brilliant work that British dramas and soaps have done over the past 30 years to positively change attitudes towards LGBT people.
It's okay if 'dad' is not willing to accept his son's sexuality - but his love for his son should bigger than that. I love people that have things about them that I don't agree with or understand or even accept. And I say that as someone who is gay. [did you assume otherwise?]
@ind.p That is very sad to hear :( I know it will not be easy, but everyone deserves to live their lives openly. You deserve happiness. It will undoubtedly be difficult for them, but if your wife and kids love you, they will grow to understand. You are not alone in this! Others have a similar story. Maybe try and learn from them. I wish you luck and strength.
I'm young man but might follow the same path soon cuz I feel I can be sexually gratifying to a woman and I want kids. I still feel I lean more gay than bi but....I want a traditional family life. Perhaps your wife could allow you to experiment on a trip just to feel like you explored yourself? Surely you dont regret everything about the family life you chose thus far? Just wondering what your thoughts were
People often confuse 'normal' with 'common'. Homosexuality is just as normal as heterosexuality but simply not as common. Studies have observed homosexuality in over 1500 animal species so far and homosexuality in people is as old as humanity itself.
As someone who always knew they were bisexual I would say my parents tolerate my sexuality rather than accept it which I think is better than them completely ignoring it.
Homophobia is simply hating people who society and religion believe are dispicable .. .It amazes me how they weaponize God to preach there gospel of intolerance . Stand up to the haters in your community and make it known that the time has come that they can no longer stand behind the idols of fear and oppression ....
Understandable. You never know. I hope you find some you can trust. If you want a straight online friend I'm sure I can find one for you. My brother in law for example.
It is not the son's responsibility to find the 'courage' to open up to his father; it is his father's responsibility to harbor the love and compassion to accept his child.
As long as someone’s to blame. They both need help.
Exactly. If parents are doing their job correctly by making their children grow up feeling comfortable to express their feelings and emotions openly to their parents there would be no fear.
There’s responsibility on both sides. You can’t lay everything on one person.
it's disappointing that parents don't raise their kids appropriately to expose and sensitize to that concept. Having a faith base helps because priests and pastors can help guide. It's not normal to have attractions or feelings like that. Parents have an oath to raise their kids. As a parent most would be humiliated where they went wrong.
@@angemaidment5640 What responsibility does the son have? &, yes, if we're talking about sons & fathers, the sole responsibility for loving his son unconditionally is the father's.
The moment he wiped his tears after realising his dad was not accepting him, I broke down to tears because that's a genuine reaction right there. Just when he thought his dad was okay with him being himself
Never came out to my parents, but man than was so real and somehow after watching this that's exactly how I would react to my parents rejecting me
@@Britishladstuff I never did either & the sad irony is that they'd have been understanding and loving. It's clear to me, however, that they "knew" & simply ignored it. The fallout for me is that I never had a monogamous relationship until after they died.
You will never be normal, so like ofc
I am a straight man but I also consider myself an ally to the LGBT+ community, I am sickened that there is still homophobia in our world and I can't wait for the day when we can overcome such ignorance and non tolerance of those who wish to live their lives the way want to without fearing the repercussions.
Thanks for being our ally!
Thanks for your allyship! You are a diamond
Thank you. I wish my dad was an ally. He forced me to get married to a woman against my will. I hate them. Even now they do not allow me into their house
Thank you! :)
Sadly homophobia and ignorance will never truly go away. All we can do is stand up to it whenever it rears its ugly head. It’s everyone’s responsibility.
I had a genuine thought for a milisecond that he was gonna be one of those misunderstood Dads whom their kids thought the wrong things of... then it happened...
I thiught his dad wouldn't care for a moment then untill he sed what he sed should be supportive
me too 😢
More bbc propaganda
Me too. It's hard enough to battle societies stigma's but to have to battle the one who created you, supposed to protect and love you .....
In many cases, the unfortunate reality is that these parents aren't misunderstood, and are just terrible people. Sure, maybe in time they come around. I've seen many cases where that happened too - child comes out as gay, parents don't want to accept and attempt to distance themselves, child says that's fine, don't talk to me until you can learn to accept me for who I am, and then, eventually, they do, and everything turns out okay.
But the point to be taken away from this episode is that, even if your parents refuse to accept it and be there for you, there are plenty of people who are supportive, and the simple fact of the matter is these feelings are normal; there's nothing wrong with it, and you shouldn't have change, and you certainly shouldn't harm yourself trying to. Everybody deserves happiness and kindness.
he will turn 18, leave and never look back. that’s what most of us did, and we’re happier now.
it is important to understand that your family is made up of just people… literally just people. and if you feel unsupported, detach yourself from that dynamic. there’s plenty of others out there who will love & cherish you.
And then when the parent is old and in need of help, THEN will they try to reach out
Armistead Maupin wrote that we have our biological families and our logical families.
And one day, that father is going to find himself alone, in a nursing home, with no one coming to visit him -- and the son, having gone no contact years earlier, won't have anything to do with him -- and that father think about being alone, with no one coming to visit him;
and it will be no one's fault but the father.
and then they ask for us back like they expect us to love them or smth 💀💀
I spent all my 20's trying to be 'normal' ie. heterosexual, but finally came out in my early 30's and accepted my 'normal' sexuality was homosexuality. I finally found my life partner when I was 50 and we have been together now for almost 29years with many more expected to come. My only regret was the wasted 10 years trying not to be myself, but it at least taught me a lot about myself.
What's normal. I'm glad to hear you are being you.Screw what others think it's YOUR LIFE not anyone else's
Wow. I’m gay accepted myself at 11. I think I was depressed and hated myself for a long time, and didn’t really love myself until this year at 19. I was so worried for my safety as a kid because my family might’ve kicked me out. Now I’m bigger and taller than all my straight older brothers so their perceptions of being gay have definitely shattered.
This really puts things into perspective though because I knew up I was gay very young, and the self acceptance journey started very young probably due to representation like Love, Simon
I wasted more than 16 years
@@infinity-gs4mq Not a waste if you learned something . Try to remember we go through things on a journeys to get to our destiny. some folks go years before they find out the reason why and some never find the reason .
@@nightstringers TRUE
Jeez-us, made me cry. I'm 70 and can understand the angst of the young man. It was rough in the 60's and 70's. I am so lucky to have had a loving and accepting Mom and Dad. I still battled self-hatred and self-loathing until I was in my 50's. I wear gay themed T-Shirts every day, everywhere I go, so that if a young person sees me, hopefully they can say, "If that old man can make it, so can I".
Beautiful 😍, thank you for the comment 🙏☺️
Still wrong
@@kiimmaritz2827what's wrong lmao
Well done you !
It takes a lot of courage to tell anyone who you are, but it shouldn't need to be that way. Some can never say it as they fear everyone will shun them or point the finger of abuse. It is nobody's fault how we are born, wired to be gay or bi instead of the majority heterosexual. Hopefully, into the future there will be no more hatred and young people can just be who they are, and be happy. I do see it happening slowly, but there are still plenty of bigoted folk about. Why can't they just leave others alone and get on with their own lives?
@@kiimmaritz2827 must be miserable thinking like this
as someone who has battled with my sexuality for years to the point I came to hate everything about myself because of how society sees my community this feels real. im now happy to say im Gay and incredibily proud.
Keep evolving.
There is always further to go.
Mind.
Body.
Spirit.
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🥰🙏🏻👍🏻👍🏻
@@zen4men So true…Very True
@@danielbongiorno9270
I speak from experience!
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You go Fox!!!!
If we’re not supposed to be gay - why the hell are we? Why does approx. 10-15% of the population fancy their own kind? I’m gay and I’ve lived with it for over thirty years. Never understood what it was all about back in the 1980s of course, but as I got older I began to realise my life was taking a notably different path to what’s considered, and what I consider, normal.
Because straight people have gay babies. Some families have gay genes.
We're here, always have been. We're supposed to be here. If we weren't supposed to be here, we wouldn't keep being born into this world
I agree completely
Judging by the amount of gay people around, I'm pretty sure it's over 20%. Don't listen to those nonsense surveys
There have been studies on apparently gay rams, they did find a difference in I think it was the hypocampus? gland in the brain was larger in the "gay" rams than the others. The study was done if I remember right- by the USDA because of complaints by sheep ranchers that they had very expensive rams they wanted to use for breeding but they only wanted to mate with other rams and no interest in the females.
Of course, this study's methods required killing the rams to dissect their brains, but they DID find that difference and that gland in the brain controls such things as sex responses.
I have NO doubt this applies across humans, as well as other animals who have shown similar tendencies as the rams, so it's something born with.
As someone who is gay this hurts. Who cares if your child is LGBTQ people need to chill. It’s not the end of the world and that dad needs to be humbled
this was the most heart wrenching thing i’ve ever seen. as someone who’s actually ended up in the ER literally borderline of having a heart attack trying to hide the fact that i was dating a man at 19 and I hadn’t came out to anyone and the only way to lower my heart rate was crying and having a panic attack in front of my doctor and actually saying the words is just something that i don’t wish anyone to ever experience.
may this kind of journey never happens to anyone and feel free to love and enjoy the company of a man or woman that makes you feel complete.
I sincerely hope you've had a better life since. I wasn't accepted by my parents. It has been a slippery slope since then, and a lifetime of difficulty. Its hard to go through most of your life without any kind of safety net, and it led me to put trust in people I shouldn't, as I was desperate to be accepted. I'm now physically and mentally unwell, and in difficult circumstances. I'm 42, but as "grown up" as I've had to be from an early age, I still feel like a child, and a disappointment. I know I'm not the only one who has been through hard times, but sometimes life throws more at certain people than they deserve or can reasonably take. I would like to say things are getting better, but with the rise of religious groups in the UK, I know many for whom it is worse than it ever was, and fear it will be a struggle to keep our rights in the not too distant future. Having said that, for the present, I wish you and all others that have struggled and do struggle all the very best, especially at this time of year. Take care.
3:10 does it mean you consider the script realistic? the son takes 'medicine' to make him sick and 'stop the thoughts' and all that. the doctors somehow manage to calm down his heart rate and suddenly he founds the courage to calmly tell his dad 'I'm gay'?? hard to believe. if he panicked that severely earlier it should take a lot more to finally confess to the person you are most frightened of. it probably raises his heart rate again to dangerous levels.
@@phily8093Stay strong man. You’ve been through quite a lot but the fact you made it this far makes you strong as hell. And don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
@thewayofway1 thank you very much. So kind of you. I'm trying. That's all I can do. We all have our struggles. Wishing you well and all the good things.
parents should be teaching their kids. i would be mortified if i had kids and they were dating the same sex. It makes you question where you wronged as a parent. perhaps he was raised with no church.
Heart wrenching twist. Was expecting the dad to say something along the lines of "you're my son, I don't care if you're gay, I will always love you and be there for you, no matter what". Good story, but a reality that many of us have gone through. 😢
Yep 'apologise to the doctor, I'm disappointed you did that, but I'm proud to call you my son. I don't care you're gay, and these thoughts are ol'
It makes me sad though, that his reaction is still common today
Until I was 11 years old, being gay was a crime in the UK. Then, later, the AIDS virus set the progress towards acceptance back years. I grew up confused, scared, I had girlfriends, which wasn't fair on them, with hindsight. I denied the truth, even to myself. I never dared tell my parents. I was close to my grandfather, but I feared it would break his heart if I came out.
I never had a proper relationship because other men were just as scared as me.
Time this ended. Too many generations have been scarred by homophobia
I love these doctors! They protected the son from his dad and didn't even hesitate to kick him out. 👏👏👏 That is some quality care.
I came out as gay to my parents family and friends in 2018 it was the best decision I made and now I’ve got the best boyfriend in the world
I came out in the early '70s - and never regretted it.
Thats so adorable, I am happy for u 😊
When I was 20 years old. I said I was gay. I was sent to see a psychiatrist and put on antipsychotic drugs and was told I was going to made normal. The drugs destroyed my mind and my soul. The psychiatrist was an evil sadistic, narcissistic sociopath.
2004 now happily married
@@lyno1980 ig that's u and ur partner in ur pfp? Y'all look so good together 🥰♥️
you know its so sad that this still needs to happen in the third millennium.
...third?
@andysstuff1 yes third millennium. The 1-1000 is the first. Then 1000-2000 is the second and this is the third. So yeah anyone of 24 years was born in a completely different millenium .
@@krisshnapeswanipeswani3190 you're right, I send my apologies for my mishap regarding the previous reply. I pray you have it in your heart to forgive the severe lapse of judgement involved beforehand. Thank you for your time.
@andysstuff1 dude their ant no problem. Just giving information. This is something I use to tease millennials. Have a great day
I told my mum about being gay. If they asked me in the hospital I'd tell them@andysstuff1
I’ve been out since I was 19. I’m 47 now. I feel for this kid. I still remember the angst of hating myself and dating girls to try to be “normal”. I am normal. I am perfectly me!
When will be learn and understand, people are born with their sexualality. Your sexualality is not something you can change, and it's not something you need to change. Except who are and remember everyone deserves love.
So true.....❤
That's not true .
@@glacousxx Oh it's not? Says who? Of course it's true. That is a scientific fact, and there is nothing to argue about. You are trolling.
@@glacousxx Oh of course it isn't, because if you said so it's the truth; and all of the experiences of people who could actually know the answer to this, gay people, are a lie.
You have no ideia of what you're talking about because you are not gay. I've always felt things for boys, and never felt anything for a girl, it's just the way I am
@@glacousxxAs a gay man I confirm that this is true.
We can say lots of things of this clip but... what an extraordinary group of actors, especially the kid!
I cant believe we still needs scenes like this in dramas. Accept your kids for who they are.
I'm a Christian. Yet, I find myself to be very gay. And, yes, you can be both. My mother says it's an issue, my father has no comment, my sister finds it weird, and I can't fathom it any other way- cause that's just who I've always been. I've often tried to pretend to be straight, not for others, but just to see for myself. It was ridiculous, obviously, to pretend to be straight cause it never worked. People dislike homosexuality. In the way the Bible sees it, I would too. But it's not like I chose this. Trust me, if I had the option of being a straight little angel, I would. But I'm not. I'm a person with a body. A body with desires, and those happen to be targeted towards men. Why? I'll never know... but when I meet God one day I hope to understand.
Well some people have a desire to kill and they dont😂 life isn't about doing what you feel buddy
@@basedsigmagigachad desire to kill doesnt give you a boner, why should he not have the option to love? you make no sense
Everything you said resonates with my thoughts and life too. I hope we always remain strong as we pave our way in this life
@@diplomacy9352 uh with me or the original comment
I am gay and Christian and at peace with it. I was lucky to find a church with an openly gay pastor. Currently in a different church which is also affirming. The Bible is misused and misunderstood at times. I believe God created you just as you are, and you are beautiful and beloved by God.
At 63 years of age I still battle this "Homosexual" thing and it's not easy. I was spiritually mutilated as a teenager and never got over it.
Don't let this happen to your children. Being who you are isn't a bad thing. Religion made it that way.
Some people allow these "so called" scriptures to dictate what kind of person you are vs the kind of person you need to be. I could go on and on but really, what good would it do?
This over the top "Christian" view of homosexuality has really caused some serious problems for billions of people over the years.
As long as there is religion, there's going to be problems.
Peace.
I was very lucky. I found an accepting, embracing church right when I came out so did not suffer spiritually. I believe God created you as you are and it is very good. You are a treasure to God, beloved and beautiful. I have no doubt about this at all. No church can ever take that away from me because my relationship with God does not depend on any church or preacher anymore. It was a preacher who taught me this. An out gay preacher! Peace, brother. Happy to talk more if you wish.
This feels so familiar. When I came out to my parents my Mum said I hope you’ve not been worrying about telling us, followed by “ I promise you, whatever it costs, we’ll get you better”
Sometimes when your gay you choose your own family
When you choose your family. Not being dictated to.
I wouldn't choose my family if they did this to me. Ever. I'm gay but still I'm not free. It's a struggle because it's not 'normal'.
Shame on these delinquent parentsThey should be jailed
Back to your echo chamber
This is still happening today . What parent's seem to forget is that you both made your kids . So don't put the blame on them . Instead embrace them and love them .
Hopefully he’s got other family members he can stay with
@@SStealthbomb That or he went to supportive Foster parents.
@nekusakura6748 From the looks of it, maybe that kind doctor looked at taking him in. He was indeed very supportive, and the fact he seems to have taken time to hang out with the kid and treat him like a supportive dad tells me hopefully that was the case.
Hospitals have social workers for cases like this. A sad, and common, reality of our job
He hasn’t, because this is a dramatisation. It’s not a hospital, it a TV production studio. East Enders& Coronation Street are not real. It’s the sentiment that’s the point.
@@raynarks missing the point ray...
This sort of happened to me.
I was raised in a fundamentalist home in the 80s. I ended up so freaked out about my sexuality I developed conversion disorder, which expressed as pseudoseizures. I was in the hospital for almost a day before the neurologist on call showed up to diagnose me, sleeping in because he thought it was a minor drug overdose and I could do with learning a lesson I guess? Every hour or so the anti-seizure medicine would wear off enough to start another seizure and they would administer more. The hospital didn't charge us a thing because they were worried my parents would sue them over the doctor's callousness, with the nurses saying they would testify against him.
God that was embarrassing to happen, but especially as a way for a teenager to come out to his fundie parents.
Ive been out for 20yrs, been with my boyfriend for 11yrs, living together for 10yrs, still get that awkwardness when I meet a new person who assumes I'm straight ! "So do you and your missus live locally?" "Well yes and no....we live locally but its a Mr not a Mrs" 😂😂
There was a moment in which I HAD to open myself to my mother about my sexual orientation and it was devastating. We would constantly argue on the silliest of things, because she would not understand me at all. She had a specific concept going on in her head on what I was supposed to do and what I wanted to do - which where completely different things. She used to think I would go around and have sexual intercourses with whoever showed up at my door. Even old friends of mine were not allowed to go to my house, since she thought we always had second intentions. I could not go out with my friends, I could not stay out for long - at least not without a fight. However, as the time went by, she came to her senses and realized that there was actually nothing wrong happening, I was just the same old me, as I have always been. She said "This is not the life I expected you to live". It was not mine, either. It just happened and I am okay with it. It is who I am. Today we are in excellent terms and love each other, we even talk about the guys I date. We just needed patience and open minds to one another. I hope everyone can achieve peace, someday. We deserve it.
I had something a bit similar. My mom used to distrust me around girls because I might be lying to get more alone time with girls, but also distrust me around guys because I might not have been lying. So she was wary of me having friends altogether. That wasn't fun to go through when I was already introverted and socially awkward to begin with in early high school. It was hard enough making friends already!
My mom is in the beginning phase. I used to be so depressed from ms through high school, but now there’s a lot of representation I definitely understand myself. I started just being myself whether listening to girly pop music, or dressing with more jewelry. My mom started questioning if I was gay with disgust because she never saw me that way. I know she was devastated and disgusted, but I did it on purpose. I know eventually she’ll move on.
to the majority that thinks making gay jokes everyday "isnt deep", i hope youre happy
That poor kid 😢
I can understand how he felt and even I tried to hide my sexuality but it was the pain that made me feel worse about myself till I dared to emit it for the first time back in 2018 at Dublin Airport to my family. So I couldn't be any happier for him to emit that sort of a thing to his Dad.
A similar circumstance happened to me when I was 22 yrs old in 1964 .
I had a panic attack at the movies but managed to sit it out . Then when I got home I had a very irregular heart beat .
My fear was the discrimination of being gay was quite serious in those days . I had five older very straight older brothers .
Fortunately my father and mother were very tolerant of different sexualities .
They had parties employing a female impersonator ( Noel McKay) and I should have realised then I-only 13 years old then- that I could have come out to them at a much younger age
My oldest brother was a medical student then and through the cardiologist who checked me over ( he asked me what was bothering me to get such a reaction which I bravely revealed to him) he told my parents.
To my delight Mum replied “well, Michelangelo and Leonardo da Vince were great men in history, and mother in particular said that Oscar Wilde was one of the best in the literary arts etc . She was a great one for reciting poetry, being an avid reader.
And Dad said during the Wars and in World War 2 homosexuality was common even in the armed forces in America where male bonding was common and also gave these men courage to be serve in the forces.
You can imagine the relief I felt . Only 1 of my brothers guessed I was gay but he thought nothing of it and said just get in with your life . These are the best years of your life and make the most of them, especially those years at school. But be sensible and take care .
So I still had to suppress my feelings but at least felt at ease thinking things could get better.
Having experienced those decades from the 50’s in looking back makes me appreciate all the more my journey was such I can still sit back and smell the roses.
My one disappointment was I never had a romantic relationship ( I’m a hopeless romantic at heart really) although a few long term relationships.
There are actually parents like this, it's so sickening.
Unfortunately there is. It’s cruel. 😢
A parent's job isn't to judge their children or to tell them what they are, but to love them unconditionally and guide them in life, accepting that they are who and what they are without prejudice or ignorance. Even if they don't understand and it goes against what they've thought or believed up to this point, they have an absolute obligation to accept their children. This was definitely a failure on the father's part and not the child's.
That turn was heart breaking 😢 the son really thought his dad was on his side. The worst thing that you can as a parent is killing your kids self-esteem then you will be become their number one enemy.
I literally thought I was gay for all my life and just recently started crushing for a girl but it’s a stronger crush than all of my guy-crushes have ever been. We kissed a few times and am gonna have my third date tomorrow. I feel betrayed by myself. I can’t even look at a guy anymore and think that I ever liked men
Good on you 👏🏼👏🏼
Maybe u were just confused with urself. It can happen.
Some people can be fluid. Doesn't invalidate that you were or thought you were gay.
I know plenty of people who had family kids in heterosexual relationship only to start feeling attraction to same sex. It works both ways. Its ok to be fluid and have attractions.
That’s the thing about sexuality, it’s not black or white. We are actually fluid with preferences and sometimes those preferences may shift in our lifetime. You didn’t lied to you before as you are not now. It is always you. It’s all good
It still happens 😢
"he's tachycardic his heart rate is very high". proceeded by the rest of nonsense
Atleast the the way they fixed it is a real way in which it can be done. That's how they stopped mine. Though I'm no doctor and honestly don't understand how breathing into a tube whose are way is blocked is supposed to help. If anything that would make a panicked mind worse cause the brain is only gonna register that they can't breathe
this actor of boy is amazing
Who is he, he so familiar
This was alternately like a punch in the gut, and then a relief... but still A GUT-PUNCH. I have a gay child, and a non gender-conforming grandchild from another child. Whomever may be feeling more-emboldened to spew ignorance and hate (due to some recent political events in various countries), know this: You're outnumbered; and we fight.
Please please please keep them protected. I'm hoping it's just a spur of the moment thing but this latest electoral vote has made the wrong group feel emboldened. Here in indiana klan posters have been showing up and I honestly sometimes don't even want to leave my house out of fear but I know where I am safe and make sure that they do as well.
@@ronaldmorris1462 I appreciate and relate-to your counsel. We live in a strange and volatile era - which way will the path lead? Through a dark forest, perhaps. But there's always light.
Thank you. Sometimes family is is all that matters, what other people think only has as much weight as your insecurities about the people you care about the most, and if you know they're with you, you feel strong enough to take on whatever the world throws at you.
Thank you for being a true father (or mother, if I guessed wrongly) and giving your child and grandchild the support, love, and respect they deserve. Greetings and respect from a former foster, now de-facto, dad.
@@JustARandomFio It's what we do, eh?
The worst thing is when u cant rely on ur own parents!!
Abuse comes in many forms and it all should be prosecuted equally.
the doctors are so wonderful omg
its nearly 2025 why 50 years after Stone wall is this still a hard road to travel and such a rough rough way to go anyway thanks to the Beeb for bringing this up again because some actual youngster somewhere just realised he is not the only one after seeing these actors
Why? Religiots mostly.
It's not hard most people don't care
@@MONKEYDZETS --- Why Pride? Being discriminated against in housing and employment, being called an "abomination" in the church you grew up in, denied militarily serving your country openly prior to 2011, being gay bashed on the street for holding the hand of someone you love--- and STILL standing up to the bigots by refusing to continue to lie? By living your life openly and honestly? THAT takes more courage than most will ever know.
People disagree about everything.
@@MONKEYDZETS --- Religiots care. And they are legion.
As a parent your one job is to love your child unconditionally. Through everything.
It pisses me off when some people are so stuck in their close minded, bigoted way of thinking! God made us all in his image & also made us who we are. People need to get off their soapbox & accept everyone! Gay, straight, black, white, brown or whatever else. No one has the right to judge anyone but themselves! I am bi-sexual by the way, and proud of it!
The SVT treatment is surprisingly accurate! Props to whoever they hire as expert for the show.
Why is it. That the people we don't fancy or sleep with are the ones who are the biggest problems. SOCIETY and Expectations are the reason so many of us die by our own hands. Those thumpers who CLAIM to be doing GODS work is in for a very rude awakening.
Poor lad. What an awful cruel father
i'm also homosexual and here i am still acting like a totally normal straight person my whole life 😭🙏
How's that working for you?
Imagine if the dad said, "I'm gay, too."
That would be bisexual
It was hard for me to come out to my parents as gay but they never gave up hope that I would become a heterosexual. Praise Jesus their prayers were answered, and now I’m thriving as a transsexual! Straight is great!🙏🏳️⚧️🩷
BWAHHAHA
Someday this father’s point of view will be labeled as CA
And when that day comes, there will be a lot more love in this world
One can only hope in the US for hospital staff as thoughtful and kind as this. If that had been here in the US, there’s at least a 50% chance you’d get religious condemnation from at least 1 member of the staff.
Is that the doctor he’s with at the end ? Sorry couldn’t tell if it was or not…. Really in tears watching this
I think its the doctor, I was confused because I thought it was the father so I thought I missed something, but replayed it and realized its the doctor
@ Thank you for responding… I was confused
The really sad thing is we are supposed to have progressed but I would never hold my husbands hand or kiss him in the street. Especially in London as it takes one idiot with a knife and it is all over!
Today I had the same tought...I'm a woman from Southern Europe. And yes I was thinking "there is a marriage law, adoption law, sexual orientation discrimination forbidden in the Constitution. But if i kiss another female in public there will be stares and muttering of comments. It's hard to accept myself really
This made me cry im in a relationship for 30 years now and still whe wont hold hands in public because whe were brought up to beleive being gay is a sickness and it stayes in youre mind every day even though you know its who you are and exepted it .Poeple are cruel
You are beautiful to me and to God. I hope you find a place to at least visit where you can be you. I understand..I don't hold hands with my husband in public either. But I can at church!
Brings back memories. I was so terrified of my father finding out I was gay when I was 13 that my skin broke out in huge, raw patches -- on my arms, behind my ears, on my back, on my legs - and nothing would fix it. I was finally treated with high-power steroids, which got the patches to go away -- so I developed an autoimmune disease.
When I finally left home and got away from my father, the disease went away. Imagine that.
It's so easy to love and respect someone unconditionally once you remove your wishes, expectations and biases. Strop trying to understand WHY people are the way they are. They just are. I don't give a thought about people's sexuality any more than I think about them being right-handed or liking broccoli.
I'm gay but live in the worst place for lgbt. Can't stand it but we need more cities for LGBT so we can fit in.
Yes! FYI, in case it helps, I am gay and christian, and I believe God created you just as you are, and you are beautiful and beloved by God.
From a purely biological perspective, the proportion of humans with bisexual tendencies or potential could range between 40% and 60%, depending on how broadly bisexual attraction is defined. However, the actual expression of such attraction varies greatly and is influenced by personal, cultural, and social factors.
just saying
Sorry it is too good to be true it is just speculations we can't be sure and it is changing with time the population dies and get born so these percentages are varying and because many people don't admit their homosexual attractions we can't be sure of any surveys
25% of men are bi. Plus 8% gay. Your estimate is way off.
I wish I could have someone like that doctor there for me too. I have no one I can talk to about my feelings and am too scared to open up to anyone
You are welcome to message me. I am a gay Christian and at peace with it. My pastor is ok with it too!
@@curiousguy12003thank you, I did write a longish reply to you, but the bullies at UA-cam have deleted it.
Even the UA-cam admin bullies hate me as they have deleted my reply to you and all I said was thank you for your support
@@sb6678 Wow. You're welcome!
Same here😢
The message strikes back
Having children is about letting them be who they fully are. If you can’t accept that then don’t have kids.
i dont have kids but as a parent to have your kids HIDE things from you is telling to how youre doing as a parent.
I wanna do medicine. Been inspired by these guys
I can relate to this so much. I was in the hospital for two weeks when I got sick from an incurable virus because people who I had considered as my second family found about my secret and my will to continue to be here was at an all time low. I’ve lost people but everyday is a challenge. Just got to make it one day at a time
You and I are beloved and beautiful to God. That's what I believe 100%
For a second, you think it’s going to be wholesome. Then the dad continues speaking… Very much a “They had us in the first half” moment.
This doctor is my hero. How many doctors would react like that...?
That’s got to be the most spacious room I’ve ever seen in a British A&E department! That’s enough to fit in ten cubicles in a typical NHS hospital!
For the life of me I'll never understand how parents can/would disown their own child because of their sexuality. ....
It happens all the time, in some places more than others, and you always have to be prepared for that
Never put off your own happiness to keep someone else happy who doesn't appreciate u
Nice depiction of what bad parenting can cause.
That was so sad 😭
I'm not crying 😢
Me either
Let's spare a moment to recognise all the brilliant work that British dramas and soaps have done over the past 30 years to positively change attitudes towards LGBT people.
Poor Kai....😢
It's okay if 'dad' is not willing to accept his son's sexuality - but his love for his son should bigger than that. I love people that have things about them that I don't agree with or understand or even accept. And I say that as someone who is gay. [did you assume otherwise?]
It’s not possible to disagree or not accept who someone is. Seek help, you’re a victim of internalized homophobia.
Some of these captions are AWFUL. "D'you hear me?" became "JIMMY". Christ
JIMMY!!!!!!!!
This really hits home for me
46 y.o, married, 3 kids and i am still in the closet, my existence only for everyone happiness not mine😢
Get out , fast!
@Railtracking i wish....
@ind.p That is very sad to hear :( I know it will not be easy, but everyone deserves to live their lives openly. You deserve happiness. It will undoubtedly be difficult for them, but if your wife and kids love you, they will grow to understand. You are not alone in this! Others have a similar story. Maybe try and learn from them. I wish you luck and strength.
@MilanTobdzic thank you ❤️
I'm young man but might follow the same path soon cuz I feel I can be sexually gratifying to a woman and I want kids. I still feel I lean more gay than bi but....I want a traditional family life. Perhaps your wife could allow you to experiment on a trip just to feel like you explored yourself? Surely you dont regret everything about the family life you chose thus far? Just wondering what your thoughts were
Guys who is he 😭🙏🏻 hes so familiarly good looking.
To treat your child like this means you have failed as a parent
I have supportive parents and family, and I still have the community
Imagine not being able to be yourself because you scared to lose your family! 😭😭💔💔
well this is the reason why I can't say this to my dad, I'm really sure his reaction won't be good
That woman reminded me of Charlie Xcx for NO REASON
People often confuse 'normal' with 'common'. Homosexuality is just as normal as heterosexuality but simply not as common. Studies have observed homosexuality in over 1500 animal species so far and homosexuality in people is as old as humanity itself.
Where's the continuation to that? Is it on TV or a streaming service?
Brings Tears to my eyes
As someone who always knew they were bisexual I would say my parents tolerate my sexuality rather than accept it which I think is better than them completely ignoring it.
Homophobia is simply hating people who society and religion believe are dispicable .. .It amazes me how they weaponize God to preach there gospel of intolerance . Stand up to the haters in your community and make it known that the time has come that they can no longer stand behind the idols of fear and oppression ....
Look at history. Religion has been a tool for control. Tools can be used as weapons and religion is no different. In fact it is mostly used as such.
The world will never change for the better
That’s why it’s for the best to leave your parents house as soon as you’re financially independent.
I think this is why I have a fear of straight men. Im afriad of the judgement again
Don’t live in fear.
Understandable. You never know. I hope you find some you can trust. If you want a straight online friend I'm sure I can find one for you. My brother in law for example.
Some guys at my church too
The son looks like Luke Skywalker when Darth Vador told him he was his father. 3:13
why does the patient look 15 and 30 at the same time?
It was soo close. 😢
He looks like a young Tobias Menzies!