THE WEDDING RING | WHAT'S THE BIG DEAL | South African Couple YouTubers
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- Опубліковано 17 лип 2022
- The Ring. What is the big deal? Do you have an issue with your partner not wearing it? We would love to hear from you...
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I'm currently 20 and I would love to get married one day, you guys are opening my eyes in many ways. We appreciate you work
Lerato stopped hearing what Pheto was saying after she "I like wearing my ring at the gym because men are thirsty" it's like in that moment he remembered how beautiful his wife is 😂😂😂😂😂
I love how you guys pay attention to things going on around you and come up with different relatable topics to discuss. Really love watching your podcasts.
I think married people should wear their rings because we don't want to mistake them for single people 😅so we can respect them. The way we act towards married people is different to the way we treat single people🙈😅I don't know if I'm alone on this🤣🤣🤣but yah!!!
Unsure if you’re a lady or man Blessing. I stand to be corrected. But there are men out there who approach women who they full on see rings on their hands. There are also people who cheat with rings on. It’s honestly more of a heart thing for me. If you’re heart is in te right place, these things shouldn’t matter
@@Onalenna_Thobega I'm a female 😅and I fear being the reason for a failed marriage🏃or another woman's insecurity in her marriage. You're right some people fear fokol.
Agreed
Soo true😂
For people with morals when we are attracted to someone and we see a ring its like a stop sign for us. So yes we appreciate it when married people keep their rings on.
Agree, really I think married men should have their ring on always. I mean we have so many single ladies genuinely trusting God for marriages,and there u see /met a brother and you somehow just get along with (and hellow u are available and ready to meet the one akere)
And vhele men do have this thing of being 'extra kind" that can sent false signals.
So you can 'notice' someone and with an empty finger you can open up and boom two days later u noticed that all of a Sundayii Mr Sir is got a ring on and you just feel betrayed nje that you even had ideas over a married someone .
So really a ring is a sign of marriage - maybe not for your spouse since it's a heart issue but its a public announcement as well.
I'm married for 10 years. My husband never wears his ring on a daily basis but when we go to functions yes he does wear it but him not wearing his ring doesn't bother me because on a daily basis he shows me just how much our marriage means to him and never disrespects me although not wearing his ring. Os in short it's not about the ring it's about his actions. Phetolia I'm like u I love wearing my ring and feel like something is missing if I take it off for whatever reason
I love this so much. We should really stop stressing about the lil things.
What's going on ladies and gentlemen, boys and girls, beautiful people
You know what it isssssss! 😅😅 it's another installment by the Makhs♥️
I personally LOVE my ring and I love wearing it because I'm a proud wife. And when I forget to wear it I get so hacked! I will literally make a u-turn and go fetch it. Also, it helps a lot when guys approach me I just show them my ring then they can back off. So I'm for rings. Let's wear our rings guys. It's a symbol of our love. Loved this convo.
I agree. It's a symbol of love in our marriages and most importantly to the outside world. To be classified as belonging to someone and being committed to them. I love rings. I want us both to wear them.
You guys are such a breeze to watch. I had a smile on my face from the moment I pressed play. Y’all are so realistic, so in touch with reality and have honest conversations that I always learn from
Great video guys! Also just to add, the idea that a ring elevates you in societal hierarchy - is true for men as well. Married men are more likely to be promoted at work, given leadership roles in corporate etc. Even more directly - it is almost an accepted norm that a single/unmarried man cannot be President of a country.. The ring is often the symbol of that presumed stature - without the need to ask.
I love Pheto..she has cool traits..she is wellspoken, respectful, down to earth, open to learn, sensitive,a good listener but most importantly she loves her husband .....Lerato can be too defensive at times but he is also wellspoken.
Hellllooooo dream team! First one. Yay! Been waiting
I’m with you Pheto! A ring doesn’t stop anyone from doing what they wanna do!
Yooooh what an unexpected mind blowing conversation. I actually found myself having to defend my friend , who is pregnant and can’t wear her ring, from someone who didn’t know she was married. This person even started counting months and saying “well she wasn’t married when she got pregnant” with the most judgmental face and tone.
It’s exhausting actually.
Hei!!!for me it's the opposite 🙆🙆🙆when I see a ring I walk the other way. I avoid married men🙌
Been looking at my phone since 3pm 😂😂😂 so blessed by your presence guys
You guys never disappoint when it comes to quality. Love it !
I love them so much!!!
For me, its a heart issue, but i feel that it is an outward mark of that commitment.
Thank you guys for the Installment. I actually asked that question 🤭🤭🤭😝 I totally understand your point of view , I actually did not think of it this deep. To me I feel like if the ring doesn't hurt just put it on. Well yes obviously without putting too much wait on the ring alone but putting wait on true commitment with your spouse. Thank you Phatola ❤
Very interesting take from u Abuti Lerato & Skeem💖 as a married couple. Nna when I am married I will always wear mine, plus ke rata bling-bling💍😜💍. On the real though me & hubstar should wear our ring as one of the tangible symbols of our love💞💍💞.
Being married (wearing your ring) does definitely make society respect women more. Hence people desperately want to stay married even when it’s not working.
Oh my word, this instalment is so amazing! It's always nice hearing how you perceive "things" hey, keep them coming. 😍😍🔥
The lady that says married men should wear rings so that single women don't mistaken their kindness for flirtation is just putting responsibility on other. If you misunderstand someone, it is your responsibility to seek clarity.
We can't expect married people to wear rings for our sake ngeke guys. If you're catching feelings, just like Mr Makhs said - tell them you're catching feelings. Then they will clarify. Plus I think if a person was trying to flirt with you, they'd most likely eventually make a move. Then that will also make it clear to you uba okay this one likes me. Otherwise if you don't want to wait for them to make a move, ASK them what's what. Your feelings and sanity are your responsibility. . .
By the way, Mrs Makhs makes Setswana sound like magic 😍. I could listen to her everyday.
I've been married for 14yrs and my husband doesn't wear his ring on a daily basis and I have no problem with that because I know he loves me and I also don't wear it regularly so all that matters is the love we share
Interesting topic... Wow
Mrs Makhetha was on fire on this one, she is is so spot on on this. We are too judgemental as people when it comes to rings.
It's the consistency in the matching outfits😍
Lerato's look of concern on 24:07 /24:17 😄 🤣 😂 😆 😄 "Does it work?" "Do you do that?" When Pheto explains men at the lifting section lookin thirsty or trying to hit on her. I wonder what is going through Mr Makhs head. Probably "we have to be at the gym same time, together" 🤣 big ups Pheto telling them you are off the market.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 the look on his face, it's like he was reminded of how beautiful his wife is
He's said that (indirectly) in another installment. In fact, I believe it was the vlog when they went to the gym..😂😂...he said.."my wife is always getting picked up"...
I thought to myself "Sis Phelota..HOTT outchea!" 🤣😏
This was the quickest 30 minutes ever,I felt like I watched u guys for 10 minutes,I really enjoyed it hleng!! Ahhhh hlena Enyane this installment
Really enjoyed this instalment. Also, Sis P 🔥 on fire as always. I’m already ready for the next instalment 😂😅❤️
I totally agree with everything your saying but for me personally, I really don't go for married man and I ask even if someone is not wearing his ring. I don't even go for men who have paid lobola I also ask if, ulobolile. Buf I have once dated a married man who lied about it and when I found out, I immediately got over him irregardless of how I felt about him, but that did hurt being invested in someone who is married. So I am one of those people who would like to see the ring just to play far nje.
nothing excites me more than getting a notification that u guy uploaded a new vid. we learning so much from you guys , keep teachisiiiiiiiiing us
Am not married but I love you guys
I appreciate your depth
At 22 and I enjoy your content
Lotsa love from Kenya
This was the very first video that introduced me to the makhs🤭 I've never looked back from that day, I'm glad God led me to this channel it's been worthwhile so far and I love it❤️❤️
Seeing my response just made my night🔥🔥Love Yall and your content!
Good to be here💃🏽
#DreamTeam ✌🏼✌🏼❤
I hear the topic very interesting but couldnt help but notice Mrs Makhs you so beautiful....been here for a while but today you extra😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
The wisdom unpacked in this instalment wowww!!!
I just love how you guys interact with each other in your installments, so far you're my best channel❤. I have learned to respect people, and I always assume that they are taken/have spouses unless of course they tell me otherwise. Very few people are single-single. A lot of people are always in entanglements😉.
Haaaaaaappppppy!!! 💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿 (the way we say it when we enter into the new year)
Mrs Makhs was on fire with this installment, I definitely enjoyed it… thank you for this
I used to have such a crush on Mr Makhs from his Isidingo days (possibly still do) but guys can we just appreciate how gorgeous Mrs Makhs is. Phetola o montle jwaaang ☺️.
I agree with you guys on everything. However, it becomes another thing when a spouse leaves the house wearing a ring then comes back not wearing it anymore😏. So l believe if a couple decides to wear a ring they should and the opposite is true. It becomes an issue when the other spouse gets unfaithful
Aus Pheto, I love the hair 🔥🔥🔥❤️❤️❤️
Lastly - silicone rings for men are now very fashionable - particularly for men with an active lifestyle, gym goers etc. women too!
Really enjoyed! good points especially the intention of a guy!!! Always looking good. Phetola your smile sis😍😍
I love you guys😍😍😍❤❤ i watch all your installments, i am learning and i am always inspired ❤❤.
My story is when me and my husband were signing(at church),we both never thought we needed rings. But when we got there it was a real wedding service. So the pastor had to bless my engagement ring. And my hubby didn’t have. Its been 6years and we just never bother about it.
The wisdom shared here🔥🔥🔥🙌amazing.
I'm single and yes the ring has always helped me stay clear of a guy I might find hot. Also I think the ring is like the Surname change, does it matter that people take their husband's name or the unit is deeper than that.
Absolutely loved the ending…. Well summarised Lerato.
Well said and explained. Much love and stay blessed
That was a great shot Phethola, ring is a man made object... God is a centre if your ❤ love
I saw that comment and thought haibo people attention to a lot of things🤣🤣, who knew it would give us a beautiful installment 🥰🥰Pheto looking cute as usual 😍
I enjoyed this installment so much!!!❤️❤️
Oh Wow beautiful people, can't believe I yelled around the house screaming because you mention my comment!!! Hooray...
My parents are so much in love and they rarely wear their 💍 rings... really not a big deal for me witnessing their everyday intimacy... likewise for you guys you are are friends in 🥰 Love... God bless you
This was a very interesting conversation, it definitely changed my views about a lot of things.
We love the slow intro Mr Makhs
My response to Phetola’s initial poll about this was that I don’t generally see a problem with it if 1) it’s something agreed upon between the married couple and/or 2) it is publicly apparent by other means that the person is married. However, as a single woman, a man’s wedding ring sets an immediate, tangible “off limits” boundary. Out of respect for wives, I have very strict boundaries in how I interact (if at all) with married men. I don’t say or do anything that I wouldn’t in front of his wife. Period! Without the presence of a wedding band, it can be really easy to unwittingly entertain a married man. And I don’t even mean anything untoward. Even regular, everyday conversations with married men should have certain boundaries. All that said, when I DO get married, the manahGod gon’ WEAR his ring, you hear me?? 😂😂😂
You write so beautifully 😅. Loved reading your comment and I fully agree 😊.
@@Mgcobo Thank you 😊
Besides other reasons I wear my ring all the time also because I love it,the design ;I just think it's beautiful!,I appreciate it!
Unfortunately it's not the reality that people would say they are catching feelings, they just make moves as per their feelings.
I want to get married Mina,nkosiyam, I want to be chosen, 😀😀😀
As delivering as she is u sis Pheto I content she looks so beautiful today haybo🔥🔥🔥♥️
I also participate in Bishop's online prayer at 5am🙌🏾💖🙏🏾💖🙌🏾
I love that this segment and when y'all said married women put themselves on a higher pedestal Orin society shuuuu. May God genuinely bless your union.
On my husband the ring irritate his finger and its not tight. I joke and says it's the heart tickles that I give him. As I have read that the veins on a ring finger are connected to the heart don't know how true is that. But I go for that😂
I worked with many Coloured / Cape Malay muslims who had never wore a ring from day 1, men and women. They are committed, family-oriented people, but no rings. Honestly, it's a heart thing for me. Ring or no ring, your actions should be what reflects your commitment to your spouse.
True... Phetola Ke stopnonses one guy hit on me just after I got married and I politely said to him I am on honeymoon and showed him my ring. He walk away.
Profound!
Yes married woman think they are better…..I see with my family and at church and now it’s all visible because the Bishop and Mama Bishop is I Mamakhulu no babamkhulu they sometimes had this wired energy about my family before my mom and dad separated then….when we would come to church or get invited to family….you could just see their pride…..
Your kids are blessed yey maan yol are packed in this dept 🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠i always enjoy the engagements you have as a couple.
I don't care about the size of the ring but I really do care about the type. I'm not attracted to silver, gold, rubies and the likes. I just want anything black 🖤. That's my color and I've made it very clear to my boyfriend. 🤣🤣
Interesting topic Mr & Mrs makhs u know ous pheto my aunt's daughter has been happily married for over 16 yrs & she has never had a ring ,when people ask her why she doesn't buy one bcoz their financially stable now she answers them &says I don't need a ring to prove that I'm married by the way I'm married & I luv my ring also I never take it off only when I take a bath 😂😂😂 frm Ayesha in Kimberly
My ex husband never wore his ring after a few months into getting married, I hated it.. and yes he was a nasty cheat.. Found out he had a double life & I was just a cover up for maintaining/protecting his image. I think it's always best to consider the other partner's feelings, a little compromise don't kill. But it's true.. the ring doesn't mean he's not cheating.
I just hope our generation values marriage as sacred becoz the way people are taking marriage lightly!!, God is not pleased. Hopeful I'll get a decent, God-fearing, honest man in future. Never lower your standards when it comes to your beliefs, the price to pay is harsh. Red flags are never to be avoided.💕
Weitsi I saw your public announcement yesterday after waiting for foreveeeer to get your installment... Ga ke happy weitsi😂😂😂😜... But it's good that you guys are true to yourselves.
YOU GUYS ARE DOING GOD'S WORK.
The ring reminds the couple that they swore an oath of fidelity and perpetual allegiance to their spouses. Besides, it reminds others that one is married and is not available for any romantic relationship with another person. It's like a police without a badge or uniform can't be respected, will not have authority when a badge or uniform is not in place. So it's important that couples put on their rings. Unless it's for healthy reasons, or other reasons.
However, I want to state here that the ring is just a symbol. It does not on its own make or mar a marriage. Rather, it is the effort of the couples, their spirit of commitment, tolerance and dependence on God that determines the success or otherwise of the marriage.
Would be ok to say partners who have history of multiple cheating should wear their ring to mind themselves.GOD after all had to set celebration of covenant and reminders to the Israelites of symbols.
My parents have been married for 30+ years and they’ve never worn rings. In fact, I got exposed to rings when I went to boarding school and saw that grownups wore rings🤣
For me as a healthcare worker it’s honestly not hygienic. And my ring is so pretty that I leave it behind because I’m constantly donning and gloving that I feel like I’m wearing It out. Sometimes I remember how pretty it is and I miss it and so I put it on. Otherwise it’s just the band or nothing, especially if I’m on call. And I’ve had colleagues start rumours about trouble in paradise. It’s so boring.
Moreover, people generally give me more respect at malls etc when they see my ring. And my other experience is I’ll have less guys persist in chatting me up when I show my ring.
But I must be honest in saying that before my husband gave me a ring I was super sensitive about having one to show other people that he’s made an honest woman out of me. And stop assuming many irritating things.
my husband doesn’t mind when I don’t wear my ring at home/work but I can see it means a lot to him when I do wear it.
Hmm this topic. I remember in April, I had to attend a wedding, it was on a Thursday. The very same week, Tuesday if remember I took my ring in for enlargement to this other shop and the salesperson said I was late because they only return rings on Mondays and I was like 'never I can't afford to go to a wedding without my ring and worse my wife wasn't going to be around'. I had to attend a wedding with a tight ring that was becoming uncomfortable because people talk hey. I then sent it in the following week.
The Great I AM loves you
And another thing about not wearing a ring it gives people the idea ukuthi you are available at the market see because there isn’t any proof to show that you are married but ke here we have 2022 the hit on you wearing a ring it’s nothing to them ah which it’s so sad. Cause now it’s about the money and vibes besides ukuthi you are happy where you are. Like this thing or guys will always be guys they might have the most beautiful woman and wife but they will still look around and hit on the girl “so they say social media world”
Never a dull moment ❤️😍 I will flaunt my ring one day LOL!
Hi The Makhs, I love it here ♥️.
I think like how in the Bible the incision and blood 🩸 thing symbolized that one is in a covenant with that partner a ring too symbolizes that.
On a different note though, the Bible says flee away from temptation I often hear that at marriage counselling a couple is advised to always wear their ring. I think the ring kind of helps people stay out of trouble, I don’t know how to put it but human beings have a tendency of falling prey but certain things are a constant reminder that nah you can’t do that.
Hence in a way I feel like a lot of people won’t come at you trying to start something because you have your ring on and in turn you falling for their tactics because you were tempted and forgot somehow yous married. Lol 😂🤣🤣🤣🙆🏼♀️, this world.
But those with a clean conscience anyway will stay away if they see your ring. I don’t know if I make sense.
You are!!!
So true
If he doesn't want you to know he's married you won't know and yes we talk a lot about people we spend our times with and people we love
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Such great insights concerning this topic. Ausi Phetola was on fire and I like how bhut Lerato lets his wife state her opinions even when they don't agree. I believe when married folks are in public, they should wear their rings so that we can respect their unions and not catch feelings. It is always good to ask their marital status though because there are widows and widowers who wear their rings. I wish they discussed the widows and widowers who wear theirs but I guess it didn't come to mind. Great discussion overall
I enjoyed this so much
What a liberating instalment 🔥
Issa wrap ♥️
Lol I also didn’t notice Mr Makhs didn’t have his ring 😂🙈
My parents have been married for over 40 years and my dad never wears his ring (also due to work) and they are happily married 😀♥️
If both partners are in agreement, I don’t see anything wrong
We have been married for 15 years and we both don't wear our rings. It's all about commitment to each other and we are okay with how it is.
Hey dream team ❤❤❤
For the first time I disagree with Mr Makhs on the last point. You want to stop feelings from even developing like right for the start. Not learn he is married later and you have to deal with letting it go.
Dreammmn Teaaamm 🥰🥰🥰🥰
I totally relate to MrsMaks about walking around with a kid and pregnant without a ring. The looks of judgement and disgust people give you before even talking to you, it really does make one self-conscious honestly.
I’m so glad i never actually experienced this. And I agree with Phetola that it may have been subconsciously judging unmarried women with kids. Because how we feel about others (aware or not) can influence how we feel about ourselves.
My husband and I don't wear our rings 95% of the time and it doesn't bother us. We know that we are married and that's all that matters.
Wonderful installment you have made @the Makhs🙌👌🏽🔥
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Heeeeeeyyyyy #DreamTeam🤗🤗🤗🤗
The only reason why I wear my wedding ring is because I don't need no boys asking me out 😂😂😂, I'm just not in to jewellery at all
Pheto😅😅😅is like single people are at the market waiting to be bought 😝😝.When are you bringing Hakoe?
Your wife is so beautiful Sir. Great discussion - the key is communication and this is what I love the most about you guys.
Akanconywa umfazi wenye indoda 🤣🫣
@@Mbalings but I'm saying it to him, not to her 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. She is such a breath of fresh air 🤣🤣
@@vusumzingceke6518 LMAO She definitely is! ❣️
Heloooooo dream team
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Good Evening Fam