Mma Letsoalo ON the hardships and wins of blending a family | Step Parenting

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  • @mphomoatshe9300
    @mphomoatshe9300 3 місяці тому +38

    Please let's match the views.
    Like and watch.
    Why do we choose to watch through the window 😂😂😂😂😂
    Let's do better guys.Great interview and learning

    • @Katniss796
      @Katniss796 2 місяці тому

      N not skipping them ads plssss

  • @mphohappiness1736
    @mphohappiness1736 3 місяці тому +83

    As women we need to refrain from dating married men. The fact that she moved in the same house ya ex wife.
    Let's not be the deciding factor of a marriage ending.
    She lacks empathy for what the ex wife had to go through

  • @lesam965
    @lesam965 3 місяці тому +129

    Nna I want us to touch on finances and investments in blended families from policies, sharing of pension fund should you die, the Will, the most suitable and realistic marriage contract to benefit all kids in the blended family.
    Do we blend our finances and investments as well to benefit the entire children/family?
    Do we plan for the future and uncertainties of the future as a blended family. When we say your kids are my kids, do we mean it in ALL aspects?
    I am not referring to things like I buy my kid a pair of tekkies and I buy yours as well.
    E.g Should I die, is it fair for my 1 kid to share assets with 3 of your kids where as she will not be benefiting anything from their biological mother.
    I feel like we romantisize alot and willy dilly around lots of things and never really get to the hard issues complex issues.

    • @RayOfLetsatsi
      @RayOfLetsatsi 3 місяці тому +25

      Now these are real issues actually worth talking about.

    • @KamoMamabolo
      @KamoMamabolo 3 місяці тому +13

      I've never thought of the dynamics of a blended family to this extent.This is such an important topic that needs to be discussed.

    • @lesam965
      @lesam965 3 місяці тому +15

      @@KamoMamabolo I honestly always do. Most people seem to be doing okay with blending families in terms of LIVING expenses (it's easy to share groceries, rent, entertainment, school fees to an extent) but is there a sit down to say okay e.g I will include my own children in policies/investments/Will and you cover your own kids and if we have biological kids together then I will include them. What about the house we live in? I wonder how this is addressed in blended families. Most of the time such things cause a divide when parents are no more.

    • @MLM424
      @MLM424 3 місяці тому +6

      So glad someone brought it up. It's so difficult speaking on blended families as a step mom because we are so vulnerable to being labeled unfair but honestly where do we draw the line between being practical vs making decisions based on emotions. The exact example you make of a step child basically having and benefiting from 3 parents as opposed to the children within the marriage which only have and will benefit from 2 parents is so key and always overlooked! Even with living expenses it's a slipper slope nje because the minute you point it out now you are deemed as only looking out for your biological kids. Go boima

    • @nondo2.045
      @nondo2.045 2 місяці тому +6

      If you start a podcast discussing these issues, I'll definitely subscribe.

  • @azukentapaneingazi1808
    @azukentapaneingazi1808 2 місяці тому +19

    Promise you just interviewed the type of woman who can destroy your family and have no remorse. She was a catalyst.

  • @sebolelomapoti3093
    @sebolelomapoti3093 3 місяці тому +18

    Aowa in sepedi children that are born out of wedlock should still keep their mother's maiden surname and not the husband's( ka sepedi ke bana ba bo malome) such maturity I'm in awe, may God bless and protect your union.

    • @favour664
      @favour664 2 місяці тому

      Yoh bathong ke go mora malome

    • @selinabatlhaodi612
      @selinabatlhaodi612 2 місяці тому +1

      But again ka sepedi ngwana ke wa kgomo,hance the say"o e gapa le namane".which mostly is included in the lobola negotiation.

  • @ThatoMatsetse
    @ThatoMatsetse 3 місяці тому +22

    Wow mma Letsoalo❤❤
    Mrs Law, there's absolutely no problem when you share your side of the story. We learn a lot from you too❤❤❤

    • @connymontsho
      @connymontsho 2 місяці тому

      Thato,Mrs Law just shared something that i related.Cos i was feeling like a bad mom.

  • @user-qe2od6nz6u
    @user-qe2od6nz6u 3 місяці тому +9

    I grew up at L4 . You just explained my upbringing . I loved that womens hostel ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @Prism446
    @Prism446 3 місяці тому +35

    I think its easier as a woman to accept step kids when you also have kids

  • @mapasekamoeketsi6090
    @mapasekamoeketsi6090 2 місяці тому +5

    I'm so impressed by ur mom. I'm a single parents raising my 2 boys and I'm a hustler. I'm selling anything I'm so happy to hear ur story

  • @lovelyheart800
    @lovelyheart800 3 місяці тому +15

    i agree with her don’t marry or stay in a horrible relationship for the kids
    i watched my mother do that
    and the truth is i was waiting to get older so that i can ask her why she stayed in a horrible marriage for us . we were better of being raised by them separated then them together
    today we are all trying to heal from our childhood traumas and some where some how it affects the kind of people we become when we are older

  • @MbaliNgwenya-xj2bu
    @MbaliNgwenya-xj2bu 3 місяці тому +29

    Promise you need to allow people to speak in their own language cause they express themselves better. I feel it's unfair to ask people to speak only English, what if someone desperately wants to share their story but can't speak English?.. I suggest you get someone to assist you with subtitles.

  • @hildadavids217
    @hildadavids217 3 місяці тому +17

    There nothing better than present parents. Money is not everything. We all grew up poor during apartheid. Nothing beats present parents.

  • @letushilaalina
    @letushilaalina 2 місяці тому +28

    Right at the start of this interview I love Mma Letsoalo already, but the calling of the ex wife “baby momma” isn’t sitting too nice with me. This is a woman that kept herself and only has children with her husband, let’s accord her that respect maybe refer to her as ex wife, baby momma is a bit tarnished these days..I am not a wife or mom though so I might be wrong… this is just my 2 cents🤷‍♀️

    • @sparrow62210
      @sparrow62210 2 місяці тому +2

      I concur.According to me, the term is used in society in manner and intention to belittle someone Therefore,I find it disturbing and disgusting.As a result, it then means all women that have kids should be referred to as baby mama,regardless of a marital status as we are all highly favoured and amazing human beings ❤

    • @unlockwiththandomaumela
      @unlockwiththandomaumela 2 місяці тому

      ​@@sparrow62210definitely agree with you.

    • @thepriestess5969
      @thepriestess5969 25 днів тому

      You're absolutely correct, she was married and had a covenant regardless of the ending. She's rightfully deserving of such respect after all.

  • @SiphesihleNameng1
    @SiphesihleNameng1 3 місяці тому +35

    Aaaaai this woman dated a married man nje. They lived together and were still married. She shouldn’t be surprised if the man goes and lies to another woman that they are divorced

  • @noxiek
    @noxiek 2 місяці тому +12

    She knew exactly he was married, but still dated him .
    Now she is lying to save her dignity

  • @kedibonephasiwe9333
    @kedibonephasiwe9333 3 місяці тому +2

    Omg this is deep…the presence of a parent is everything.

  • @MentalHealthMatters11
    @MentalHealthMatters11 3 місяці тому +9

    This woman is remarkable

  • @runganotavengwa3286
    @runganotavengwa3286 2 місяці тому +8

    The other woman afraid of being bewitched by the 1st wife through her children is something is else😮 and she is now the baby mama and you the wife Smh!!

  • @dikesekwane3555
    @dikesekwane3555 3 місяці тому +6

    I agree I’m also a mother and wife to blended family …before my husband and I marriage was weak and the fight between i and my step child and my daughter with my husband was too much . Now that we have a strong bond in our marriage we are happy and all of our 6 kids get along smoothly ❤

    • @khetimthembu8465
      @khetimthembu8465 2 місяці тому

      In a blended family do you discuss what will happen should 1 partner pass away? Because in most cases, step kids are left out

  • @giftubisi182
    @giftubisi182 11 днів тому

    Mma Letswalo you are that girl with a mother’s heart. I love how you think,from how you were brought up,being a step child to other mothers growing up,all the context of your step mothering. I love how realistic you are💯🤞🏽🤍

  • @ladyb5843
    @ladyb5843 2 місяці тому +14

    "I got her point when she said no one can be taken," but i think there are a lot of things that she filtered... She has influenced the man to divorce somehow.I wish her luck though.May this kind of love and connection not locate me

    • @sediemasemola4909
      @sediemasemola4909 2 місяці тому

      😂😂😂😂

    • @khetimthembu8465
      @khetimthembu8465 2 місяці тому

      Same😭😹

    • @maeshelafarren109
      @maeshelafarren109 2 місяці тому

      😂😂😂😂😂😂you were coming so well the end🤣🤣😂😭

    • @ladyb5843
      @ladyb5843 2 місяці тому

      @@maeshelafarren109 😂😂😭

    • @thepriestess5969
      @thepriestess5969 25 днів тому

      No man can be taken from his marriage, and no man can be convinced to leave the woman he loves. You give side chicks too much undue power. The power remains with the man, he makes the choice. Women must stop redirecting/shift the blame to other women, call out the adulteror in the marriage by his right name. By the way I'm a married woman too.

  • @debramontymmatau5136
    @debramontymmatau5136 3 місяці тому +8

    This was fully packed. Enjoyed it

  • @hlengiweyourstruly
    @hlengiweyourstruly 2 місяці тому +4

    Promise thank you for adding your personal experience in some of the things she mentioned. It doesn't take away from the interview but it adds on to what is discussed

  • @TheMindfulfoodie633
    @TheMindfulfoodie633 2 місяці тому +2

    This was such a nice interview, i didn't want it to end ❤

  • @siphokazimagaya9113
    @siphokazimagaya9113 2 місяці тому +11

    How does future financial provision work in blended families?
    Husband’s ex wife is not baby momma.

  • @EsseyLekalakala
    @EsseyLekalakala 3 місяці тому +4

    You make my day ❤️ you are strong woman MMA Letsoalo

  • @nonzwakaziprecious9507
    @nonzwakaziprecious9507 2 місяці тому +1

    Followed this lady last month and I just loved her I didn't know that she has this big heart ❤ thanks for this cc

  • @Leratolekola
    @Leratolekola 3 місяці тому +3

    What an insightful Conversation❤️
    You were raised by a Mbokodo wena Mma Ledwaba and nawe self you're so strong and confident...love that about you🥺

  • @esthermphanda4836
    @esthermphanda4836 3 місяці тому +1

    I enjoyed this episode ❤️.

  • @Ownnarrativepodcast
    @Ownnarrativepodcast  3 місяці тому +15

    Thank you for watching live❤

  • @hloshichuene2420
    @hloshichuene2420 2 місяці тому

    She's such a wife, mistakes and all...your story is so inspiring. Happy union to the Letsoalos!

  • @LivingCourageously
    @LivingCourageously 2 місяці тому

    Love her honesty and how she clarifies everything

  • @mosedimayo1919
    @mosedimayo1919 3 місяці тому +1

    I learnt a lot today this episode was worth watching..and i saved it for future reference.

  • @kagisothando9880
    @kagisothando9880 3 місяці тому +2

    Promise i'm learning alots from the your interviews hle❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @DieketsengSempe
    @DieketsengSempe 3 місяці тому +5

    Powerful Lessons MaLetsoalo❤❤

  • @mahlohonololebuso741
    @mahlohonololebuso741 3 місяці тому +7

    The pressure that is put on women to have kids in marriage is a topic we're not ready for shem. There's a lot about that topic that needs to be discussed.

  • @AkiM357
    @AkiM357 3 місяці тому

    I have learnt alot from this interview about blended families.

  • @ledwabakayg7369
    @ledwabakayg7369 3 місяці тому +4

    Big ups to my home girl... Well unpacked 🤗🤗🤗🤗

  • @Ottilia_Gama
    @Ottilia_Gama 3 місяці тому

    Wow, I really love this. I've learn a lot

  • @thokimagoro7764
    @thokimagoro7764 3 місяці тому +9

    U had a twisted mind the man is raising ur kids and ur man's kids must not stay with him. Basadi this is evil. Big ups for Letsoalo

  • @RayOfLetsatsi
    @RayOfLetsatsi 3 місяці тому +54

    Basadi y'all are so brazen hey.
    Coming on podcasts & so casually speaking about how when you met your now husband he was still married and living with his wife.
    Of course you and the now ex wife are not gonna be friends, you saying you & the wife don't have to be friends as if it's a choice? Lol it was not by choice.
    Men move crazy but as women we move equally crazy.
    She fought with the husband for 2 years because she didn't want his kids to live with them👀 but yena she came with her 2? Her 2 kids were supposed enjoy that man as a present father in the home everyday while his biological kids were only supposed to experience him during visits when they had been living with their father before she came into the picture according to her logic? Yah no basadi😂

    • @gimbles7358
      @gimbles7358 3 місяці тому +6

      Isibindi

    • @tsakanimugari9583
      @tsakanimugari9583 3 місяці тому +6

      It's scary

    • @nette2144
      @nette2144 3 місяці тому +11

      Bare how you get him is how you are going to lose him. A lot of the things men do and get away with, ba kgona go di etsa bcos there are equally many women out there who make it possible for them.

    • @andisani257
      @andisani257 3 місяці тому +10

      Yoh, I thought I was the only one whose like HAAAAAAA!!!

    • @marciamohale6720
      @marciamohale6720 3 місяці тому +6

      The comment I was looking for LOL

  • @elizabethmphioe73
    @elizabethmphioe73 11 днів тому

    Hi Promise, this is the first time I see your show since in the beginning of June and I feel encouraged, since my situation.. On this show ddnt enjoy so much since you talking much more the ur client😮

  • @Zihleizibele_Lusani
    @Zihleizibele_Lusani 3 місяці тому +1

    This lady is exceptionally wise❤. Thanks Promise for this content❤

  • @lindatafeni9402
    @lindatafeni9402 3 місяці тому

    Enjoyed this 👌

  • @Finessflick
    @Finessflick 2 місяці тому

    Wow… such a powerful interview. I love listening to positive stories ❤❤❤

  • @sindiswanyandana1423
    @sindiswanyandana1423 3 місяці тому

    Very insightful & educational interview

  • @loveangel750
    @loveangel750 3 місяці тому +2

    Wonderful episode very much needed as a step mom who brought her own child into the marriage and planning on having kids in the marriage. Very informative thank you Mma Letsoalo le Mrs M.

  • @ReshoketsweMthombeni
    @ReshoketsweMthombeni 3 місяці тому +3

    Very insightful conversation ladies! I learnt a lot from both of you.

  • @DuduM27
    @DuduM27 3 місяці тому +1

    " am not a mom,mom,mom"😂😂😂😂u killed me bcs thats me shem.

  • @lindi8119
    @lindi8119 2 місяці тому +2

    Mma Letsoalo's story is remarkable. If there's a lesson I take from this episode is not to generalise, every story is unique. She is brave, calm and full of wisdom. On which social media can one follow her conversations?

  • @user-wi6bx1fm7b
    @user-wi6bx1fm7b 3 місяці тому +1

    Wow ❤

  • @user-vq8lb5id9m
    @user-vq8lb5id9m 2 місяці тому

    Proud of you sis❤❤

  • @mathapelomphahlele6629
    @mathapelomphahlele6629 3 місяці тому

    You've gained m subscription 😍😍😍

  • @user-ih4dy2mg9l
    @user-ih4dy2mg9l 2 місяці тому

    Mrs letsaolo I'm proud of u n ur mum my dear,😊ur story is empowering us as single parents

  • @tshiamoangel6718
    @tshiamoangel6718 3 місяці тому +2

    You just gained a follower ❤

  • @missp7244
    @missp7244 2 місяці тому +2

    Promise said i am not a 'Mother mother'. Guys i thought i hated my son kanti noo...i just need to gt a nanny. Huuh i love that. I learned something

  • @sibongisenisakhele3114
    @sibongisenisakhele3114 Місяць тому

    Great interview mommy!

  • @lehlogonolov2217
    @lehlogonolov2217 3 місяці тому +1

    Basadi baka ❤❤❤❤❤ le nkwesa bose and baga letsoalo nna ke le gopotse hle le boya neng gaLetsaolo. Mma Letsoalo ke ikgantsha ka wena ngwana geso❤❤❤❤❤

  • @elizabethmphioe73
    @elizabethmphioe73 11 днів тому

    Mma Letsoalo she is an Amazing Woman

  • @vuyooglebethunana
    @vuyooglebethunana 2 місяці тому +9

    I know it is nice to be chosen, but the sentiment that men are always worthy of acceptance and that as women we are being done a favour by being chosen irks me. We evaluate women and put value on them based on their probability of being chosen but we are not evaluating these cheating men with kids as not worthy of acceptance. There can be no friendship between the x-wife and current wife when the entry and exit dates are blurred, OBVIOUSLY....

  • @NSIKA1
    @NSIKA1 3 місяці тому +3

    Mma Letsoalo you are indeed a courageous remarkable woman .kids witnessing what healthy Love is ,how I hope that message will register with all parents and adults in general. Love and light

  • @khetimthembu8465
    @khetimthembu8465 2 місяці тому +1

    As much as it didn’t start off well it seems to be going well!🤍 i like how she’s so self aware & seems to be having a good relationship with her step children.
    All the best to her & her family!!!

  • @reflioekheswa6314
    @reflioekheswa6314 3 місяці тому +5

    Blue hills 🔥🔥👌👌

  • @Rele.S
    @Rele.S 2 місяці тому +1

    They always know these men. I also met my husband, and he said "you're my wife" 6 months later we got married. It's been 10 years now in marriage ❤

  • @TheReal_GuguG
    @TheReal_GuguG 3 місяці тому +1

    Can we please have subtitles for future episodes for the part/s where you communicate in vanac, there are points of the conversation we miss out.. Love your podcast ❤

  • @pulanemotsetsela5413
    @pulanemotsetsela5413 3 місяці тому +47

    Stop calling the ex-wife "baby" mama please

    • @Hazelbeing
      @Hazelbeing 3 місяці тому +18

      Bathong, I don't understand why she can't extend grace to the ex wife. The husband was trash, cheated on her and couldn't wait to get married to her. On top of that took her children from her. Tjesis!!!

    • @SibsM93
      @SibsM93 2 місяці тому +6

      I cringed everytime time she called her that!!! 😩

    • @livingthelifewithlillysoco5297
      @livingthelifewithlillysoco5297 2 місяці тому +1

      I thought I was the only who picked that up

    • @azukentapaneingazi1808
      @azukentapaneingazi1808 2 місяці тому +6

      Such a horrible woman masked with calmness.

    • @khetimthembu8465
      @khetimthembu8465 2 місяці тому

      @@Hazelbeingdamn😭your so right

  • @mokubungntswaki4817
    @mokubungntswaki4817 3 місяці тому +2

    Mmaletswalo🙌🙌🙌🙌

  • @noxolosakang6547
    @noxolosakang6547 2 місяці тому +11

    What is the purpose of this interview? other than how proud she is to be loved by a married man to a point of leaving his wife.

    • @sparrow62210
      @sparrow62210 2 місяці тому +3

      My sister,exactly what I thought 😂

    • @azukentapaneingazi1808
      @azukentapaneingazi1808 2 місяці тому +2

      So disturbing

    • @zamambhele242
      @zamambhele242 2 місяці тому +2

      Ay let’s watch and learn guys but disturbing indeed

    • @tshiamosehunoe3540
      @tshiamosehunoe3540 2 місяці тому +1

      " That guy loved me"😂😂😂

    • @user-vb6rt5le9j
      @user-vb6rt5le9j 2 місяці тому

      I thought I was the only one seeing this. Trust me marriages like these mhhhh

  • @zamambhele242
    @zamambhele242 2 місяці тому +3

    Now that I have listened to to her I can’t judge her harshly but saying she broke an already broken home, she said the man lied right, and when she found out ukuth Kanti they are separated and in a process of a divorce and I would think by that time she was already in too deep , no excuses for her though she could have told the man divorce first than we carry on, but not all of us think the same or have the same moral campus, this is her side of the story , though I wish to hear the ex wife’s as well
    Anyways my take away is the parenting I think she’s really doing well there

  • @highandmightyqueen79
    @highandmightyqueen79 3 місяці тому +15

    Promise please diversify guests every time its a pedi women or someone from Limpopo other tribes watch as well dear

  • @SiphesihleNkambule-vy2oj
    @SiphesihleNkambule-vy2oj Місяць тому +1

    We are not saying become best friends with ubaby mama kodwa have a healthy relationship with her for the kids' sake. I am speaking from experience, I made sure ukuthi I have a relationship with her because I feel ukuthi it easier that way.

  • @user-cx8nz4xd6y
    @user-cx8nz4xd6y 2 місяці тому

    Big up to MaLetsoalo❤❤❤

  • @neegee3755
    @neegee3755 2 місяці тому +7

    It’s advisable to have kids before you get married? Where though? Yoh Promise can be a lot at times 🤪

  • @user-vb6rt5le9j
    @user-vb6rt5le9j 2 місяці тому +3

    I think she is doing this interview to spite the exwife

  • @unlockwiththandomaumela
    @unlockwiththandomaumela 2 місяці тому

    Basadi ba hudisa basadi-sadi 😍

  • @bongythwala9840
    @bongythwala9840 3 місяці тому +17

    Asoze ngashada nendoda or ngathandana nendoda eshadile ,baya divorcer 🙄wena u happy ukuthi uzongena ,Kazi Yini oncono Ngayo Kuna X Wife ,yin le expecial ngawe cc, mybe even to his fist wife ,makaqala ukushela wathi wena uzoba umfaz wam,as he did to you don't think you are special than the first wife .he cheated on his wife ,he will do the sam to you.

  • @nthatisidimema9084
    @nthatisidimema9084 2 місяці тому

    Promises' exclamation 51:42 😂. That Iyohhhhh!!! N side lean took me out. Reminded me of Musa Khawula for a sec 😂😂😂😂😂

  • @loveangel750
    @loveangel750 3 місяці тому +2

    I'm also here to say I was subscribed but only realized today after Promise mentioned the disfunction that I'm not anymore. I'm just here to say please go check if you are still subscribed maybe we think we aren't but actually not. Let's keep this channel going

  • @lekolanetheministry8789
    @lekolanetheministry8789 Місяць тому +1

    Wene Promise ke gorata bjang...just got to know ur channel...lov you...o hlalifile...

  • @Mandisa168
    @Mandisa168 3 місяці тому +1

    ❤❤❤

  • @RoseKotana
    @RoseKotana 3 місяці тому +2

    True we will grow older and left with our partner while kids marry and married❤❤❤❤

  • @khalilivhunephalamo8297
    @khalilivhunephalamo8297 3 місяці тому +2

    I just subscribed 😊

  • @mercyjefutala5064
    @mercyjefutala5064 27 днів тому +1

    Promise no woman wud accept tht she broke some1 marriage, we alwys defend ourselfs

  • @proxlee
    @proxlee 3 місяці тому +4

    I think for this woman if her husband can raise another mans kids she too can raise another womans kids. This is different. Situations are not gonna be the same

  • @kellyjoseph7448
    @kellyjoseph7448 2 місяці тому +2

    In Botswana, nowadays children dont change surnames to their mothers if they get married. I agree with that coz they end up losing natural identity. But then they keep the mother's maiden surname.

  • @menniekumalo3276
    @menniekumalo3276 2 місяці тому +15

    So essentially she was a side piece,over in to another woman’s house. Got promoted to being the main😂 shows no remorse or sympathy for the ex wife, even refers to her as a “baby momma”, interesting

    • @ntebalengpoonyane1939
      @ntebalengpoonyane1939 2 місяці тому +12

      It sound like she is doing this interview to spite the ex wife jooo basadi hleng😢

    • @menniekumalo3276
      @menniekumalo3276 2 місяці тому

      @@ntebalengpoonyane1939 yessss.

    • @user-vb6rt5le9j
      @user-vb6rt5le9j 2 місяці тому +1

      You love your husband before your kids? Wow

  • @maropengletsoalo8047
    @maropengletsoalo8047 Місяць тому +1

    ❤❤❤❤

  • @user-vb6rt5le9j
    @user-vb6rt5le9j 2 місяці тому +4

    She is not a baby mama she is an exwife

  • @degraciangubane480
    @degraciangubane480 3 місяці тому +1

    I love Promise honesty as a mom 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @nokuzolapenelopemazibuko7638
    @nokuzolapenelopemazibuko7638 3 місяці тому +1

    Wow

  • @marthazakes1823
    @marthazakes1823 2 місяці тому +4

    It’s like she is bragging abt dating a married men evn calling ex wife baby mama

  • @ncedisakhewu
    @ncedisakhewu 3 місяці тому +2

    📍❤️

  • @KhalirendweKhorommbi
    @KhalirendweKhorommbi 2 місяці тому +3

    I actually think old people wanted women to raise their own kids because no women could ever love someone's kids. It was to protect the kids from the other woman not the other way round. Kids are innocent and even when they are being abused, they can keep quiet. Right now, because the kids want to stay with their father, you could abuse them, and they will not say a thing because they would be scared that they won't stay with their father.
    But overall, good interview. Lets try not to lead each other astray though. It's always good when it's not being done to you. When the tables are turned, haaaaaa things will be different and you will curse the day you are born.

    • @sparrow62210
      @sparrow62210 2 місяці тому +1

      So true, I could have not said it better myself.

    • @IamBarati
      @IamBarati 2 місяці тому +2

      I wonder if you know how damaging that stereotype is to stepmoms. I hope you'll never be a stepmom and experience the trauma that comes with it. I pray this for your sake

    • @KhalirendweKhorommbi
      @KhalirendweKhorommbi 2 місяці тому +1

      @@IamBarati It's unfortunate that that's the case ( stepmoms are seen as bad people to the kids) . Mentioning it doesn't mean I am for it, no ways. There are good step-moms out there ❤️❤️My main point was that the "old sayings" were to protect the kids not the other way around.
      I am sorry if you are in that situation or if you know someone who is in it , I wouldn't pray it on anyone.

    • @IamBarati
      @IamBarati 2 місяці тому +1

      @@KhalirendweKhorommbi stepfathers are more likely to abuse children. My mother was very strict and I thank her for it. If she were a stepmom I'm sure I'd be claiming she was abusive. It's a horrible position to be in as a woman. I wish women would stop marrying men with kids because they are so vulnerable and the whole world will believe you to be evil simply because kids are innocent. Kids aren't innocent. Anyway sure my sistyer

    • @ObaNkuna
      @ObaNkuna 2 місяці тому +2

      @@KhalirendweKhorommbiI’m a stepmom and I love them like I gave birth to them. No all woman are like that.

  • @elinah9014
    @elinah9014 2 місяці тому +1

    I have a different view regarding the woman being required to pay for maintenance. My soon to be ex husband insisted I pay maintenance and he even approached the courts for more money. This is while I am fighting to get primary custody of my kids.

  • @PortiaLethoba-lx4gh
    @PortiaLethoba-lx4gh 2 місяці тому

    His ,hers and ours relationship

  • @nomienoamabandlakaisa
    @nomienoamabandlakaisa 3 місяці тому +2

    Promise I’m a mother of two 14&10and I’m like you I’m not super mom wanting to spend all her time with the kids and its ok

  • @nkululekoshangase5942
    @nkululekoshangase5942 2 місяці тому +1

    The kid talk is interesting , I wonder if it's a northern thing cause in kzn women without kids are held highly and men in the north are really open to marrying women with kids compared to in kzn .

  • @user-vb6rt5le9j
    @user-vb6rt5le9j 2 місяці тому +2

    Baby mamna😢

  • @rotondwamulaudzi5319
    @rotondwamulaudzi5319 3 місяці тому +3

    If your children are staying with their father and you dont contribute financially to their maintenance, you are a deadbeat mother!

  • @tsakaniglennymathebula918
    @tsakaniglennymathebula918 Місяць тому

    Just prepare your self for what is coming.becouse after knowing that is married you still went for . maybe you are the course of their separation. What goes around comes around.