Hi Jay, Before I start this video I just wanted to say thank you. I have randomly stumbled upon your channel an hour ago whilst looking for some motivation on quitting my alcohol addiction that has ripped my life apart for the last decade and I found your videos to be super raw and super real and something I feel I can finally connect with and understand without it sounding completely commercialized or staged. You show some pretty raw emotions and give some great messages that really do speak with me. I have spent the last one hour here in my room watching a couple of your videos as I am newly back on my journey of sobriety after a recent relapse. My biggest hurdle I am facing is that I also live in BC but happen to live in Whistler with alcohol being the biggest everyday factor in my life I have to face head on due to the nature of the resort/village/job. Its not easy, but coming home from work and finding videos like these on your channel give me something to look forward to and could quite possibly keep me away from swaying on over to the bar. I have to take this one day at a time, for sure. Now, I shall watch this video and enjoy. Thank you once again.
Hello Jay. I have just sat and binged watched all your videos in one sitting and I am sure you have heard this so much but I really wanted to thank you. I am 103 days booze free and though it's been the best thing I have ever done it is one of the most challenging and head fucking experiences ever. I thought like most that when I stopped drinking the misery, fog and low self esteem would completely disappear. Don't get me wrong, not suffering with hangovers is amazing for my mental health but as you said, the brain is still running, the negativity shows up in other ways and when it comes down to it the crutch that was so harmful is gone but my feelings are much the same. I have looked long and hard for support online and I also agree that Jordan Peterson is a great source for this. His book is excellent and very thought provoking. I just wanted to comment in a positive way about how you felt when people thought you had your shit together. I could see this really upset you and that was the last impression you wanted to give. Please try and take great encouragement from the fact they probably thought the fact that you post videos here, are so considerate of other people's suffering that only a special guy could do that. Someone who had strength and a purpose. Like you I am planning to stay off the booze for as long as I can, as it really has opened my eyes to just how self destructive I can be. But like you I am beginning to see that the problem wasn't just down to booze and this is going to be far more complex than I had first thought. I would love to hear your thoughts and chat with you. Sounding out like this can only be a good thing. Thanks mate. David
So I decided to join the world of awareness Jan 6- and I am planning on month to month to make progress and document the process and discuss the benefits to my life. I suffer from childhood trauma big time....but don’t want to hide behind the veil of addiction anymore. 50 years old and still willing to change and build a better life. Your honesty and vulnerability has been inspiring. Keep up the great work....and best wishes to you in your journey.
I lost my dad at 14, struggled with drugs and alcohol for the next 15 years. Hearing your story about how you felt when you lost your father is exactly how I felt too. Thank you for these videos. I'm starting my journey to sobriety.
Very glad I came across a clip of yours on Tik Tok i relate in a lot of different ways. Keep telling your story. Not only do you need it, WE need it as well. The raw the real the none sugar coating bs. It’s needed very much so. KEEP IT UP!
That means more than empty text could ever say Chelsea, knowing my experience has helped you makes it all worth it. I know seeing other people be brave and honest about their stories helped me so much. Makes you not feel alone and helps relieve a lot of the self condemnation. I really appreciate you taking a moment to say this, it’s the best motivator and it means a lot to hear so thank you! 🙏💜
Could listen to your realness ALL day. I was 1 yr 6 months sober and went on vacation- in Sept ‘19 thought I could do this - why not - a few drinks. No. Disappointed my self once again. I over consume and turn stupid. This past month I’m struggling again and I had thought I had overcome it - I was 💯 I had. Not the case. I’m praying. Praying hard every day. Thank you for your videos and I know God brought me to your channel for a big reason. Take care.
I really needed this video today Jay so thank you so much for being there. I completely understand where you're coming from. I need to do what you have done. Evaluate my life, live my life to the full which I am not doing now as I'm drinking every night to numb my senses and to numb the past and any problems! I just don't know where to start to break my daily pattern! I love my job and love my family and would love to have alcohol never in my life again...it's soul destroying!
You have helped me so much tonight. So very much of your video resonates with me and being so very alone I feel like it also helped to know I'm not the only one who thinks this way. I am more grateful than you could know. I also find you are a very eloquent speaker,right from the heart.
Alcohol has been a problem my whole life and being free from it and any addiction is how I will live until the day I die. Thanks for your support and honesty.. I'd like to be able to help others one day also....
((Example)) im 43 not going to get into my childhood. I just thought you should know that there are people out there (me) that havnt had any family to speak of....i tell people that anything good about me comes from random people that may have only ben in my life for minutes. Anyway this shit that you do is more important than you might realize at the moment. Just go with it it dont over think it...tell it all man we are listening...im 43 but actually a lost 14 year old i lift im 6'4" built like a line backer im intimidating to people....the fucked up thing is im a science dork i love plants animals i love helping people....but the vibe i give off is dont fuck with me ......and i dont like it i hate it honestly sometimes i wish i would die. Ill just drink go to sleep and die.... what do i do with that .....also man this is selfish as fuck of me ive never experienced a death so i dont know what to say.......but thankyou greatly for sharing it takes balls man! GOOD SHIT MAN!!!!! Lol man doesn't it feel good to drop the fucking F bomb in classic fashion!!??
Hi Jay,
Before I start this video I just wanted to say thank you.
I have randomly stumbled upon your channel an hour ago whilst looking for some motivation on quitting my alcohol addiction that has ripped my life apart for the last decade and I found your videos to be super raw and super real and something I feel I can finally connect with and understand without it sounding completely commercialized or staged. You show some pretty raw emotions and give some great messages that really do speak with me. I have spent the last one hour here in my room watching a couple of your videos as I am newly back on my journey of sobriety after a recent relapse. My biggest hurdle I am facing is that I also live in BC but happen to live in Whistler with alcohol being the biggest everyday factor in my life I have to face head on due to the nature of the resort/village/job. Its not easy, but coming home from work and finding videos like these on your channel give me something to look forward to and could quite possibly keep me away from swaying on over to the bar. I have to take this one day at a time, for sure. Now, I shall watch this video and enjoy. Thank you once again.
Jeramy Barkwell love this comment as here I am doing the same. Hope yr doing ok
Hello Jay. I have just sat and binged watched all your videos in one sitting and I am sure you have heard this so much but I really wanted to thank you. I am 103 days booze free and though it's been the best thing I have ever done it is one of the most challenging and head fucking experiences ever. I thought like most that when I stopped drinking the misery, fog and low self esteem would completely disappear. Don't get me wrong, not suffering with hangovers is amazing for my mental health but as you said, the brain is still running, the negativity shows up in other ways and when it comes down to it the crutch that was so harmful is gone but my feelings are much the same. I have looked long and hard for support online and I also agree that Jordan Peterson is a great source for this. His book is excellent and very thought provoking.
I just wanted to comment in a positive way about how you felt when people thought you had your shit together. I could see this really upset you and that was the last impression you wanted to give. Please try and take great encouragement from the fact they probably thought the fact that you post videos here, are so considerate of other people's suffering that only a special guy could do that. Someone who had strength and a purpose.
Like you I am planning to stay off the booze for as long as I can, as it really has opened my eyes to just how self destructive I can be. But like you I am beginning to see that the problem wasn't just down to booze and this is going to be far more complex than I had first thought.
I would love to hear your thoughts and chat with you. Sounding out like this can only be a good thing.
Thanks mate.
David
So I decided to join the world of awareness Jan 6- and I am planning on month to month to make progress and document the process and discuss the benefits to my life. I suffer from childhood trauma big time....but don’t want to hide behind the veil of addiction anymore. 50 years old and still willing to change and build a better life. Your honesty and vulnerability has been inspiring. Keep up the great work....and best wishes to you in your journey.
I lost my dad at 14, struggled with drugs and alcohol for the next 15 years. Hearing your story about how you felt when you lost your father is exactly how I felt too. Thank you for these videos. I'm starting my journey to sobriety.
This hits close! Thank you for saying so brother and wishing you nothing but the best on your journey. It’s worth it man, dig deep!
Very glad I came across a clip of yours on Tik Tok i relate in a lot of different ways. Keep telling your story. Not only do you need it, WE need it as well. The raw the real the none sugar coating bs. It’s needed very much so. KEEP IT UP!
That means more than empty text could ever say Chelsea, knowing my experience has helped you makes it all worth it.
I know seeing other people be brave and honest about their stories helped me so much. Makes you not feel alone and helps relieve a lot of the self condemnation. I really appreciate you taking a moment to say this, it’s the best motivator and it means a lot to hear so thank you! 🙏💜
Could listen to your realness ALL day. I was 1 yr 6 months sober and went on vacation- in Sept ‘19 thought I could do this - why not - a few drinks. No. Disappointed my self once again. I over consume and turn stupid. This past month I’m struggling again and I had thought I had overcome it - I was 💯 I had. Not the case. I’m praying. Praying hard every day. Thank you for your videos and I know God brought me to your channel for a big reason. Take care.
I really needed this video today Jay so thank you so much for being there. I completely understand where you're coming from. I need to do what you have done. Evaluate my life, live my life to the full which I am not doing now as I'm drinking every night to numb my senses and to numb the past and any problems! I just don't know where to start to break my daily pattern! I love my job and love my family and would love to have alcohol never in my life again...it's soul destroying!
Thank you Jay... Thank you and god bless.
Thank you so much for saying so and all the best to you! 🙏
You have helped me so much tonight. So very much of your video resonates with me and being so very alone I feel like it also helped to know I'm not the only one who thinks this way. I am more grateful than you could know. I also find you are a very eloquent speaker,right from the heart.
Alcohol has been a problem my whole life and being free from it and any addiction is how I will live until the day I die.
Thanks for your support and honesty.. I'd like to be able to help others one day also....
So awesome! Amazing work on your journey too Anthony and thanks for taking a moment to share
HEAR! HEAR! 💪👈🤜🤛
Thank you
((Example)) im 43 not going to get into my childhood. I just thought you should know that there are people out there (me) that havnt had any family to speak of....i tell people that anything good about me comes from random people that may have only ben in my life for minutes. Anyway this shit that you do is more important than you might realize at the moment. Just go with it it dont over think it...tell it all man we are listening...im 43 but actually a lost 14 year old i lift im 6'4" built like a line backer im intimidating to people....the fucked up thing is im a science dork i love plants animals i love helping people....but the vibe i give off is dont fuck with me ......and i dont like it i hate it honestly sometimes i wish i would die. Ill just drink go to sleep and die.... what do i do with that .....also man this is selfish as fuck of me ive never experienced a death so i dont know what to say.......but thankyou greatly for sharing it takes balls man! GOOD SHIT MAN!!!!! Lol man doesn't it feel good to drop the fucking F bomb in classic fashion!!??
Tequila helps with my anxiety. I wish I knew about it a long time ago. Sorry not sorry.
Of course it does. Alcohol is an incredibly powerful anxiolytic
Makes it worse in the long term. Anxiety is there for a reason
Would you rather your teenager smoke pot or cigarettes ?
Serious question.