3 nights ago I left from a date . Just got up and left. Because the lady that I dated for that night decided to bring a friend to our table . Once she put her bag on the table I counted 5 minutes in my mind . at 5 minutes I waved the waiter for the check , paid for my drink got up , wished them goodnight and left.
@@CoachCoreyWayne Guys, Similar situation to the emailer, happened to me last night: Got her number at the gym (she smiled and waved, I called her over, told her she looked good, asked her name, got the number). I could tell her level of attraction was high b/c SHE INNITIATED WITH A SMILE AND A WAVE, THEN she asked what my name was, THEN AFTER WE EXCHANGED NUMBERS, SHE LEFT THE GYM, THEN CAME BACK IN TO MAKE SURE SHE HAD THE MY CORRECT PHONE NUMBER ... Later that same night, she texted me to ask how my night was going - after some small talk, I set a date for Saturday evening 9pm (We set the date on a Thurs. night, ironically b/t 8pm & 9pm, exactly 48 hours away). Normally, I'd like to schedule a date atleast a week in advance, but, SHE SAID THAT SHE WANTED TO SEE ME ON SAT., AFTER I ASKED HER WHEN SHE WANTED TO MEET - SO I WENT WITH THE FLOW AND AGREED TO SAT., EVEN THOUGH I'M BUSY. Didn't text or call her Friday or Sat. b/f our date ... *Long story short:* I GET TO THE VENUE @ 9PM and don't see her ... @9:15 I text her, "Hey!!! Where are you?" She responds a few minutes later stating that she had called me Friday to confirm, but that I didn't pick up my phone, so she assumed that I had canceled on her. GRANTED, COINCIDENTALLY, my phone did loose complete battery power and was shut down on me on Friday while at work, until I got home - so was phone was off for a few hours. PLOT TWIST: I let her know that I was not at the venue, but was texting her to let her know that I would be running late. I apologized for my phone being off for a few hours on Friday and expressed that I wish she had left a message. I then tried to reschedule for 11pm, by expressing how busy my schedule is and how I didn't know when I'd be free again, which would give her a little over an hour to get ready and meet me there. At the end, her excuse was that 11pm was too late and she had church in the morning. *3% Man Lesson #1, Fellas:* I ended the conversation by telling her, I had a friend who had a reserved booth for a party there anyway, and that I'd still be going a little later. And told her to let me know if she changes her mind, and wanted to come and join me. Then left her with a ”Take Care!" *3% Man lesson #2, Fellas:* I was really already at the venue for our date, but didn't give her the satisfaction of knowing that. *I ALSO DID NOT LET HER STANDING ME UP STOP ME FROM HAVING FUN BY MYSELF.* In conclusion, the date was set at a fun place with pool tables and light music - so I mingled, as a 3% man would, AND I MET SOMEONE ELSE. There was this fine ass waitress ( 7 or 8 on the Rictor Scale: Ebony complexion, natural hair to her shoulders, with a young Hailey Berry body), who almost spilled some food on me - I teased her about it, told her she was pretty, asked her if she'd like to get a bite to eat sometime soon, then got her number ... Plan on reaching out to her today and SETTING. UP. ANOTHER. DATE. MORAL OF THIS STORY IS: Like coach Wayne said, I wasted a lot time getting ready for the date (shopping for some DRIP, grooming and hygienics). I probably should have screened her a little better, once my phone died Friday. BUT AT THE END OF THE DAY, I didn't let this Ferrell bitch ruin my night by standing me up. I've potentially found someone else!
Don't show up for people who aren't willing to show up for you. Life is simple... work on yourself and the right person will make the effort to be in your life. Thank you coach for helping me transform from a needy insecure guy to someone who found his purpose and gain emotional strength and confidence, I love you coach!
SAME exact thing happened to me Saturday. Right down to a tee. Except my date and I had spoken for like 15 mins on the phone and she complimented me on my "honesty" and was hoping that I'd be as honest as I seem. Lmaooo Spent the evening by myself, ate great dinner drank wine at outdoor restaurant and took uber back home. I felt sad for a second then I told myself "I am worthy of everything because I am created in the image of God and God created me with the purpose of living a fulfilling life, wherein I am respected and show respect to all beings." Felt like a million bucks right after. Guys, the victory isn't to get the date: It is to show up as your authentic best self and give the gift of your presence but NEVER tolerate lack of reciprocity or straight up disrespect. One love and you are all worthy.
Being the dude who sent this letter in, it was super surreal seeing Coach respond. Loved it, man! And he gave me some great pointers to employ next time. Read the book, folks, lots! It's why I was able to have a kablooey and still enjoy the night. Before discovering his work I would've reacted... poorly. One of the greatest things Coach has given me is peace of mind and the newsletters are excellent reinforcers as we grow. Much appreciated, bro
There are a lot of great girls out here and we deal with this too. Love the way the coach advises and the attitude switch. I wish you a lot of luck finding a real girl out there like me. ❤
Set a definite date 4 days in advance, time and place. She texted me last night to be sure we’re still on- we confirmed the date... Currently sitting at the vineyard getting stood up lol at 27, first time ever.. SHE BELONGS TO THE STREETS! 😭💁🏼♀️🚩
This exact thing just happened to me tonight. Straight up no show, didn't answer my where are you text nor did she answer when I called. Fucking pissed me off. Second time this happened to me.
She asked me last Friday to hangout this week.i set the date for tonight. She waits till a half hour before to give me some lame story why she can’t make it. It’s ridiculous.
I did get an “im sorry, i totally forgot” kinda text plus she said she was feeling bad for it and she was truly sorry. She was to caught up in some personal stuff. But still the fact is: she stood me up. In don’t want to be second choice and I deserve a lady who validates my time with her and takes the time for me as well!🎉😊
Another reason why the first date should always be something as simple as a beer or a drink. Something cheap that has no investment, and that you would do anyway even without plans.
This is so weird. I just got stood up for the first time this past Saturday and was looking at all of Mr. Corey Wayne’s past videos on being stood up! So crazy!!! Thanks for this video, I’m going to start watching it now!!
Your stuff works so well. Just had a girl tell me she was tired and wanted to cancel our date an hour prior and reschedule for next week. I said "Nah I'm good". she said "saturday doesn't work?". I said "I was looking forward to seeing you tonight and you just canceled last minute". She said "let me get dressed and I'll be over in 25 mins." she called me 3 times in between to say she's almost here.
Nice response to her test, Dude! Thanks for sharing! Sounds like you two may have dated a few times already, but just b/c she's getting comfortable w/ the relationship, doesn't ever give her an excuse to cancel, unless it is an absolute emergency - and even then , I would distance myself from her and wait for her to ask to meet, if she canceled even for a legit emergency.
If there is one thing I learned, it's that if someone really likes you, they will find time to meet you.. The last girl I dated sent me a text 2 hours before we were to meet that she had a strong headache and if we could reschedule for some other time and I simply said well there is no point in going when you have a headache, just get back to me when you get better. This was supposed to be 4th date if I recall. She responded "you really have to be like that? i said "what do you mean" she said "you always find the perfect thing to do or say, expect when you're deliberately teasing me" lol she made me laugh so hard and I felt so good and proud about it. Her last boyfriend was needy af and she was a bit inexperienced, so it makes sense that she said it. needless to say, we met 2 hours later haha. But if she didn't like me, she probably wouldn't have come.. When someone cancels on you without a good reason AND they don't offer their free time, it's always a bad sign. I had a girl I met last Saturday cancel our date on this Thursday, and she asked if it's okay if we cancel and that she's really tired from lot of work and that it's a bit late to meet after 22 (I work 2 shifts, 6-14 and 14-22, weekly change). I said sure, she was basically wide opened and I just told her I'm gonna pick you up on Monday (in 2 days) at 21:00 just be there. She is really feminine and cute girl, I really like her, hope it goes well. by the way.. I also got stood up for a date 4 hours ago. I sent her 8 minutes before we were to meet that I came a bit early. 15 minutes later no response, she's not there, I realize what is up. I text her "you are free to see my message, it's not like I'm going to attack you or anything. I just drove 10 miles here to meet you and then you don't even bother to let me know that you're not showing up. That's not nice of you." Stayed in my center and didn't let her affect me. I visited another city with my car and had a blast time. Screw her.
Thanks Coach! Things that I’ve learned that mean “no”... -maybe -I don’t know -I’ll letcha know -being stood up -not responding -being flaky Take them all as no, don’t contact them and when they come around establish your boundaries. All of the no’s above are sh!t tests and if you don’t pass them they won’t respect you then you might as well be friends.
Your a hero Coach. Your book changed my life. I've read it 5 times and I plan on reading it at least 20 more times. The amount of women that I have attracted in this short time is amazing.
I agree there are woman that treat men like crap, and it makes me angry that they do that and they cause men to mistrust, and feel disrespected. Not all woman are like that, and i understand it's hard for men to trust enough to go on a date with a woman who is actually a good woman. How can a woman project they have integrity, and they are worth asking out if the guy is too scared of being rejected so won't even talk to her?
@Ryan J I would never leave a guy waiting for a reply. Especially if it's about a date. If I accept a date its cause I want to get to know the man. I would expect the same from a man.
All you can do is flirt and hope the guy has the balls to ask you out. Past experience shouldn't make him so worried he can't even ask a girl out. That's a super weak dude. You don't want a weak guy anyway.
Just walked away from a girl due to this exact reason. We set up our date. She stood me up and never told me she got called into work. Texted me a few hours later to tell me. I gave her one more chance. She did it again. Was at a concert and forgot to tell me. I'm done and ignoring her.
Hindsight is 20/20. Should’ve cut her off when she cancelled our first date only after I texted her half hour after she was supposed to be at my house. Would’ve saved myself over a years worth of lying cheating and and lack of integrity and regard. Now as soon as I get that I cut it off instantly
I'm generally of the mind that if the person doesn't show and stood you up, then try not to let it bother you. Yes they've wasted some of your time and disappointed you, but at least they've shown how flaky they are from the outset rather than later on, which would be much worse. Great advice on the pre-call before a date too. At least one short conversation and help with committing to the date.
Agreed. The further and further down the dating line, the more it hurts if you get a "Rejection". Better to be told No when asking for her number, then to 1) Get the Number but she never replies back to your text. 2) exchange a bunch of texting. 3) get her out of the date. 4) try to go for the kiss. 5) try to get her back your yours/hers. 6) try a heavy make-out. 7) sex. Sure asking for the number and geting rejected stings for a little while, but nowhere as painfully as going through steps 1-7 and getting rejection when trying to get the lay at the end.
Been crossing paths with flakey people for the last 3 years. Lately, I've been thinking there must be something wrong with me. Thank you for your words of wisdom, Corey.
I got stood up recently. The girl claimed she didn’t think I would show because I didn’t call to confirm. Total bs and low self worth I thought. Anyways, she did offer to reschedule and I went on to have a great night meeting and making out with two other woman and getting their numbers. The girl who stood me up was chasing me to go out so we eventually did. We ended up having sex on the first date. She became completely obsessed with me afterwards and would constantly call me while I was at work. She had no job and lived at home with her parents even though she was 33. She was hot though, but I was so turned off by all of this I told her it wasn’t going to work out between us . She still texts me and asks me to hang out to this day.
I don't know if it's a generational thing, a safety thing, insecurity or a sign of low interest, but I found that a lot of women are not very receptive to the pre-date phone call.
Shifty Fox if youre speaking on american women, the reality is they lack social skills, and dont “need” to improve them because most guys wont hold them accountable if they are cute enough. So you have girls in womens bodies.
La Víe En Rose txt a bit first. If shes responding positive, slip in some egregious sexual thing, see how she responds. “Girl, dont talk spicy to me like that, youll end up hearing how i sound when i cum”. Theres really only two ways that can go. If shes mad, save ya time. If she keeps talkin spicy “hey, why dont we set a time to link up and see if you really this spicy in person? How bout...” and set the date. If she says anything that is a question about why you said that, just say “what do you mean? You dont like hearing your man let you know he enjoyed you?” Again, if she laughs it off, go right to setting the date. Anything else, save ya time.
Generational. Most younger people hate the phone. I think someday the phone will be an app you download if you have a need for it. lol Honestly I could do without it most times. If I need to do more than texting there's Skype.
Big fan of Corey's work. recently I asked an attractive girl out on a first date and she said she was too busy so I followed his advice and told her to "No problem. Get back to me when you sort out your schedule" and stopped pursuing. Just like the cat she returned and opened up again a week later, and completely caught me by surprise when she asked if I was free next week instead.
@@Chris-0113 Appreciate the comment, mate. She told me she had the best night of her life but was still playing some games, so since then i have met even better gals who are jumping at the chance to meet up now and i had to leave her behind.
I'm sick of being screwed over by women. Now I am gonna make stricter measures now. I don't care what your excuses are. You cancel once, you're not getting a rain check.
Fabulous vid Corey. This very same type of thing just happened with me last week with my new girlfriend of only a month. She is now another ex gf. Happened way to fast for my liking, but this is the way these things go when the true narc behavior comes out. Thanks for the perspective.
The analogy you used about driving in the left lane cracked me up. I drive 95 corridor from DC to Richmond va everyday and 80 percent of drivers around here are like that.
I got stood up, I went to eat a good meal and it was amazing. After, I tried to socialize with girls but they weren't open for conversations haha. Anyway, amazing!
A day after, I was contacted by that girl where she said that I shouldn't have head down to a location when she didn't confirmed and she said she's sorry for not showing up. The thing is that she come up with the rescheduling this date, and I have planned the day , hour and location and she said 'Great. I look forward to seeing you' . If for instance I set up a meeting with a person, after the details have been established, I don't ask that person on last moment: "Are you still coming?".
@@jowensjo34 It doesn't have to be a particular answer. All you do is ask her WHY she suddenly cannot show up, even tho she definitely agreed a few days/weeks before to meet you. You cannot just assume that every girl is flaking on you. Maybe someone died that was close to her or someone had an accident. Anything might prevent her from seeing you. It is only when she gives no good reason for not showing up that you instantly kick her to the side. If she gave no good and legitimate reason to suddenly cancel, only then you can see that she had wrong intentions from the beginning and she was most likely never planning on meeting you at all.
Once I hit my early 30's (15 years ago) I started doing most of my travel and activities on my own. I just keep various females in my orbit for "stress relief". Life is good .......and very, very, simple.
My ex just flaked. All of a sudden she though I had changed my mind without ever asking me. I called her out. She canceled and rescheduled for the next day. I told her to not worry and kick rocks. Never contact me again. I don't do flakes. Damb it felt so good to do that!!
I got stood up a few years back, so I decided to mess with her and texted “Hey, I’m really sorry I didn’t show up last night; I laid down for a minute because I had a headache and ended up falling asleep all night.”
Hi Corey, I really love that analogy of the 'left' lane! It is so true. Sadly if you look at the behavior on the road these days compared to other things in daily life, a lot of people just suck big time. No anticipation, provoking, rude behavior, complete indifference, stupidity and selfishness. I live in the Netherlands and travel a lot for business, also sleep in many different hotels. The behavior here is far worse than on German roads. Belgian, French and other south European drivers are also complete fuck-ups and rude in general. Maybe I should go for a German lady next time, haha! They do dress also much better and are more classy in general. I had some occasional hookups with German ladies in hotels, though ;-)
Yeah, there are some sick, emotionaly unstable women. I once had a 42 yr old set up a 2nd date with me, when i showed up, she just left. I couldnt figure out whats up, i then see her around the corner & asked whats wrong. She gave me this crazy smile & said, oh i mixed u up with some1 else that i was supposed to meet, she said he also has same name as me and same voice. Can u believe that? What a sicko. She is still on dating site & its been 3 yrs.
It's because he drinks alkaline water on a daily basis. I think I've seen bottles of Essentia in some of his videos. He also advocates the high alkaline diet.
So with your philosophy i literally deleted %99 of the people from my life. My parents and dramaqueen sister would make it %100. But i love my nefew and niece so its tuff the time i do spend with them i am always trying to instill integrity keeping it playful and fun. Thankyou coach for helping become a wayyy more effective leader. The push back and manipulation is astounding never realized how much power i was conditioned to give away.
Never feel obligated to not cut out family. They can be some of the most toxic and draining organisms in your life. You can love them, but you don't have to deal with them or put up with them.
A lot of prospects do the same thing. Heck, you even reconfirm with some of them 1-2 hours prior to the meeting that they're still up to meet... and then they never pick up the phone again...
Corey thank you, it goes for women too. Just met a nice guy but he flakes out too. Glad it was just one date. I didn’t invest in him. Sad that there is people out there that are really fucked up and willing to hurt others. Love your stuff. You help me tremendously.
chris Morrison thanks bro. I’m on read two and love to hear about people’s transformations. Motivates to keep going down the path and change things for the better. Hope you continue to improve as well
A coworker tried to hook me up with her niece. 2 days before she told me “ I hate to do this, but before I have talked to you. I had went out on a date and I didn’t expect to get serious. So I feel bad to be going out on a date with you, and I don’t think it’s fair to you. “ I thought it was bullshit, So I just told her if things don’t work out give me a call, to have a good one and deleted her number. Her aunt told me she got back with her ex and they may not last, but I’m not moving on regardless
SeerSmashChannel I have and got no choice 😂 I’ve wasted plenty of time when I was 18 with one chick I met in highschool. I missed out on so many other chicks in college because I was focused on her Now that I gotten older, know who I am and why I have attracted certain people. I’m glad it didn’t go any further
@@bigd3721 OK, so you DID move on. The way you ended your paragraph said you DIDN'T, so I was asking why. Good job moving on homie. That's the right thing.
When it happens, it is like a bee sting. It goes away fairly quickly. Then it is a learning experience. Then it is a humorous experience. In the end, I figure they made a monumental, possibly life-changing mistake.
This reminds me of a time when I already knew this woman was “Pharrell” she looked good but had issues she had stood me up once and I went along and set a date for 2nd time and had no actual intention to take her seriously. So she called to cancel on me and I was at a party and had no honest idea why she was calling me. Till it dawn on me and I told her not to sweat it we can plan another make believe day anytime but I had to let her go. She became my personal stalker on campus switched all her classes to mine 🤷🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️
I just got done seeing this girl I’ve been talking to on fb dating. I’m in the Marine Corps and so the base was an hour 45 minutes away from where she was located. During our conversations she brought up meeting and to go dancing on a Saturday. I said that would be great and we both paid for this hotel. I eventually get to the hotel, and I couldn’t check in yet because they were cleaning my room. In the mean time of all the waiting I decided to clean my car a little bit more and look up places where we can go eat and have fun. 2 hours passed and eventually I got my room. Once I did I texted her saying I’m at the hotel. So shortly after she came to the room and we hugged. I asked her to come in and she did. She sat down on the side of the bed and I did too. We both were having a great conversation on getting to know one another. Eventually I said I found this place we can go eat if she’s hungry. She told me she wasn’t hungry and did not want to do anything since she had a long busy week(even though we agreed to go dancing) so I said ok we can relax because I have Netflix on my phone. So we both get comfortable and watched a comedy. She starts to cuddle with me and eventually it led to us making out. It went further to where I thought we were going to have sex, but she said not now and instead she dry humped. Eventually she asked me if this was ok. I said yes whatever you’re comfortable with, but just know I just wanted to get to know you as a person. I then asked her the same question and she told me that I would think she was weird. Eventually she told me she is a virgin. So that made a lot of sense from what her actions were. (Keep in mind she is 22 years old and super gorgeous) I could not believe it, but I told her that I’m ok with it and it’s not something to be weirded out by, it’s perfectly normal and I understood, I just wanted her to be comfortable. So afterwards we continued. Eventually it got to a stopping point and we talked, cuddled, kissed, and eventually we said goodnight) because she didn’t want to sleep over. So instead she went back to her dads place. Which I understood because she’s a virgin. So the next day we talked and now I’m confused on where I go from here. Right now I’ve been barely texting her saying I’ve been busy but would love to see you again,in hopes she asks me for another date. I definitely need to read your book, but I guess for now it’s all a waiting game to see what happens
BFMV rs when women reach out , they want you to set up the date , 😉 read the book , don’t give her all you’re attention because one day they’ll eventually leave you for someone else ! This is why you love them in such a way that’s it’s ok if they leave . Always have a backup plan with multiple women . Never settle on one woman . All marriages lead to divorce ! 😉
@Coach Corey wayne just found your videos recently and have been kicking myself for not finding you sooner. Just started using your techniques on a girl/ friend that recently came back into my circle after breaking up with her bf. Told her I was interested but have been left in stand by with the excuse that she is still not over her ex. It has been two month since she broke up. Main reason that motivated my move was that I saw she made a dating profile on a site I am on. I discovered your video after i made the initial move. Have started cutting her off from contact because she only wants to hang in groups. I have stopped contact and am only responding to texts small talks now with trying to set dates. Gonna see how it goes. My only concern is we are now part of the same social circle, A young adult group (my fault for introducing her to them). I like the group but she is now going to the regular events. Am gonna stop going to all of the events but am a volunteer and central figure in group.. How do I act toward her if I am trying to make myself scarce but will inevitably see her at events. Will continue to be a good time at events but need more guidance. Any help would be appreciated.
Also we have good interactions and she always laughs at my jokes and has a good time when we hang out. When I initially grew a pair and told her I was interested in seeing her she mentioned that although I wasnt exactly her type physically she did mention some positive points like my eyes and way I broached my interest and how she wasnt weirded out. Definitely did not capitalize on the moment and lost the initiative.
Guys, Similar situation to the emailer, happened to me last night: Got her number at the gym (she smiled and waved, I called her over, told her she looked good, asked her name, got the number). I could tell her level of attraction was high b/c SHE INNITIATED WITH A SMILE AND A WAVE, THEN she asked what my name was, THEN AFTER WE EXCHANGED NUMBERS, SHE LEFT THE GYM, THEN CAME BACK IN TO MAKE SURE SHE HAD THE MY CORRECT PHONE NUMBER ... Later that same night, she texted me to ask how my night was going - after some small talk, I set a date for Saturday evening 9pm (We set the date on a Thurs. night, ironically b/t 8pm & 9pm, exactly 48 hours away). Normally, I'd like to schedule a date atleast a week in advance, but, SHE SAID THAT SHE WANTED TO SEE ME ON SAT., AFTER I ASKED HER WHEN SHE WANTED TO MEET - SO I WENT WITH THE FLOW AND AGREED TO SAT., EVEN THOUGH I'M BUSY. Didn't text or call her Friday or Sat. b/f our date ... *Long story short:* I GET TO THE VENUE @ 9PM and don't see her ... @9:15 I text her, "Hey!!! Where are you?" She responds a few minutes later stating that she had called me Friday to confirm, but that I didn't pick up my phone, so she assumed that I had canceled on her. GRANTED, COINCIDENTALLY, my phone did loose complete battery power and was shut down on me on Friday while at work, until I got home - so my phone was off for a few hours. But if her story was true, she is insecure as fuck - she is a little on the thick side, but cute enough to date. PLOT TWIST: I let her know that I was not at the venue, but was texting her to let her know that I would be running late. I apologized for my phone being off for a few hours on Friday and expressed that I wish she had left a message. I then tried to reschedule for 11pm, by expressing how busy my schedule is and how I didn't know when I'd be free again, which would give her a little over an hour to get ready and meet me there. At the end, her excuse was that 11pm was too late and she had church in the morning. *3% Man Lesson #1, Fellas:* I ended the conversation by telling her, I had a friend who had a reserved booth for a party there anyway, and that I'd still be going a little later. And told her to let me know if she changes her mind, and wanted to come and join me. Then left her with a ”Take Care!" *3% Man lesson #2, Fellas:* I was really already at the venue for our date, but didn't give her the satisfaction of knowing that. *I ALSO DID NOT LET HER STANDING ME UP STOP ME FROM HAVING FUN BY MYSELF.* In conclusion, the date was set at a fun place with pool tables and light music - so I mingled, as a 3% man would, AND I MET SOMEONE ELSE. There was this fine ass waitress ( 7 or 8 on the Rictor Scale: Ebony complexion, natural hair to her shoulders, with a young Hailey Berry body), who almost spilled some food on me - I teased her about it, told her she was pretty, asked her if she'd like to get a bite to eat sometime soon, then got her number ... Plan on reaching out to her today and SETTING. UP. ANOTHER. DATE. MORAL OF THIS STORY IS: Like coach Wayne said, I wasted a lot time getting ready for the date (shopping for some DRIP, grooming and hygienics). I probably should have screened her a little better, once my phone died Friday. BUT AT THE END OF THE DAY, I didn't let this Ferrell bitch ruin my night by standing me up. I've potentially found someone else!
Took me one more date to realise that but same. New school. New country. Asked this girl out on a date. She agreed, but asked if she could bring her friend. I didn't know any better at the time; hence, by the end of the date I was jiving with her friend more than her. The friend was the one asking all the questions and being talkative. Went from a date with her to a date with her friend. Smh
I also got stood up when I was in a different country but that just telling me that she is not my type of woman. Because a definite date means to show up or lose a opportunity to be with me. Limited time offer!
Nihlator same things happened to me! I came to her country to meet her, she then suddenly said she can’t meet me, I was pissed off at her. Next day she messaged me voluntarily for a date, we agreed a time and then she cancelled again! Had to forget and move on. Damn women can be so confusing! 🤷♂️
Yeah I used to like this girl a lot but then I watched the videos by Corey Wayne and I saw that she had a lot of red flags now I haven't talked to her for months. No I don't care how pretty the girl is I will go up to her and I can tell she's my type that's by talking to her it's amazing
I just think about the wasted time of dating and realize I could be on my grind! Early retirement no debt travel where I want house paid for toys etc. The juice ain't worth the squeeze! I took the red pill!
What to do? I like this gal- she says she's interested. We met for dinner. Had a decent time. Setting up another date I asked her what time shall I pick her up. She explained that she has a terrible experience with a stalker a while back - that she didn't give her address out- would meet me there. I told her well I'm no stalker and I appreciate your boundaries but I don't agree that I should be thrown on the bone pile with anyones prior abusers. ....
“Remember, a date is a compatibility test. It’s like test driving a car. If the car doesn’t even make it into the lot you probably don’t wanna be driving it anyway.” 😂😂😂
The fact is that woman and man can grow together. If there is no communication, no consultation, no mutual respect, that relationship is destined to not work out in short or long term. Of course this requires maturity from the part of the man, and woman. Its not only about attraction.
Corey, could you do a video on what to do after you kissed and made out with a friend. And if shes being distant now? Whether to wait it out and just not talk for weeks on end if ever? Or just call or text her, tell her what you want and walk away if she doesn't want the same.
Wait until she reaches out, when she does make a definite date. Hang out, Have fun, Hook up. In the mean time focus on your mission and purpose and practice on other girls.
It sucks to date someone that's toxic and don't give a F*. Like Coach says "Don't take it personal". Be you. Stand up. Don't take someone that trash you or don't care. Go out with someone that does care and want's to actually hang out. Be realistic. Do it right or don't.
I disagree with the concept of Karma. But I do agree with Coach's advice, remaining optimistic. Coach echos a great concept, being happy in one's own skin. I've been on many solo vacations and had a great time.
Recently found Coach Corey's youtube and in the process of reading his book for the first time. I'm curious, has anyone in college been more succesful with dating after applying his teachings?
It was really good on the phone she was anthusiastic about getting together but went silent, did respond at the date time??? though the date was firm and she agreed!!!
About trying to extend your life: By the time you're approaching 60, you've sustained a lot of wounds, and the wounds keep coming. They become layered. Plus you feel things more deeply including things that haven't happened to you. You can hear a sad story in the news and feel it more deeply than someone in their twenties. Sorry to break the news. Some wounds (or multiple similar wounds, such as rejection from the opposite sex, or betrayals, ) can't be healed in this life just as some diseases can't be healed in this lifetime. Either a wound was delivered in a particularly vicious manner or just the multitude of them could be enough to make someone okay about one day dying. If you can't recover in this life, you see death in a totally different way. You might even start looking forward to the day you can die and leave this horrible world. Sure, there are cute kittens, babies, rainbows, and sunshine. So what? You might have crossed a point where you can't unsee what you've seen.
Coach Corey, I love your videos. But on this occasion I have to disagree strongly with something you said. I drive “slowly” on the road, below the speed limit. I want to be calm and enjoy my drive, not be stressed. I don’t do it to “get back at the world” and to call people who drive slowly and don’t budge the c word is just irresponsible on your part. I understand you were speaking generally, but I’m just making the point that I will drive slowly and won’t budge when people are driving right up behind me trying to put pressure on me. I want to look at my surroundings, enjoy the view, drive relaxed and not look at my speedometer every few seconds to ensure I’m not in danger of being fined. That’s not how I want to live my life. If people want to speed they can go around. Perhaps the people beeping and driving faster need to relax. I mean what’s the emergency exactly? Relax people. That’s part of your message anyway Coach Corey isn’t it? Driving calmly is not dangerous, driving unsafe is. Thank you. Love the rest of your video of course! 🙏👍
E83 Arman Firstly, maybe you should be calm. Give it a try it can’t be a bad thing. Secondly, what if I need to turn left a little further up? I’m not going to change lanes last second now am I? The answer is calm down and relax people. It’s not a race.
I'm completely checked out on dating. Especially since I live in #LasVegas. I live in a city where a woman can be fine as hell, post pictures of her in 5 star restaurants & hotels daily & at the same damn time be *Homeless* #AssedOut #Broke #DontHaveAPotToPissIn #OrAWindowToThrowItOutOf
@@montanammf That's dope. You're like me, I like to understand the human psyche even if it's from a different perspective. You can learn a lot... I think my location is part of my issue. I don't speak to a lot of women that can hold a decent conversation. Why have you gave up out here? Also what part of Vegas do you live in?
Hey Coach, You say the phone is for setting dates not for talking, now you are saying a guy should talk on the phone before setting a date. I am confused.
online dating or someone you never talked to longer than it took to get their phone. You have to establish some rapport. The less rapport you have, they higher the likelihood they flake.
3 nights ago I left from a date . Just got up and left. Because the lady that I dated for that night decided to bring a friend to our table . Once she put her bag on the table I counted 5 minutes in my mind . at 5 minutes I waved the waiter for the check , paid for my drink got up , wished them goodnight and left.
Awesome! She probably thought you were going to give them both a free meal. Love it! Nice job dude!
Wow that's pretty lame for her to do that. Talk about wasting your time. Good for you for walking away.
Boss move!
Kyriacos Omerou damn !! Lmfao
@@CoachCoreyWayne Guys,
Similar situation to the emailer, happened to me last night: Got her number at the gym (she smiled and waved, I called her over, told her she looked good, asked her name, got the number). I could tell her level of attraction was high b/c SHE INNITIATED WITH A SMILE AND A WAVE, THEN she asked what my name was, THEN AFTER WE EXCHANGED NUMBERS, SHE LEFT THE GYM, THEN CAME BACK IN TO MAKE SURE SHE HAD THE MY CORRECT PHONE NUMBER ...
Later that same night, she texted me to ask how my night was going - after some small talk, I set a date for Saturday evening 9pm (We set the date on a Thurs. night, ironically b/t 8pm & 9pm, exactly 48 hours away). Normally, I'd like to schedule a date atleast a week in advance, but, SHE SAID THAT SHE WANTED TO SEE ME ON SAT., AFTER I ASKED HER WHEN SHE WANTED TO MEET - SO I WENT WITH THE FLOW AND AGREED TO SAT., EVEN THOUGH I'M BUSY.
Didn't text or call her Friday or Sat. b/f our date ...
*Long story short:* I GET TO THE VENUE @ 9PM and don't see her ... @9:15 I text her, "Hey!!! Where are you?" She responds a few minutes later stating that she had called me Friday to confirm, but that I didn't pick up my phone, so she assumed that I had canceled on her. GRANTED, COINCIDENTALLY, my phone did loose complete battery power and was shut down on me on Friday while at work, until I got home - so was phone was off for a few hours.
PLOT TWIST: I let her know that I was not at the venue, but was texting her to let her know that I would be running late. I apologized for my phone being off for a few hours on Friday and expressed that I wish she had left a message. I then tried to reschedule for 11pm, by expressing how busy my schedule is and how I didn't know when I'd be free again, which would give her a little over an hour to get ready and meet me there.
At the end, her excuse was that 11pm was too late and she had church in the morning.
*3% Man Lesson #1, Fellas:*
I ended the conversation by telling her, I had a friend who had a reserved booth for a party there anyway, and that I'd still be going a little later. And told her to let me know if she changes her mind, and wanted to come and join me. Then left her with a ”Take Care!"
*3% Man lesson #2, Fellas:*
I was really already at the venue for our date, but didn't give her the satisfaction of knowing that. *I ALSO DID NOT LET HER STANDING ME UP STOP ME FROM HAVING FUN BY MYSELF.*
In conclusion, the date was set at a fun place with pool tables and light music - so I mingled, as a 3% man would, AND I MET SOMEONE ELSE.
There was this fine ass waitress ( 7 or 8 on the Rictor Scale: Ebony complexion, natural hair to her shoulders, with a young Hailey Berry body), who almost spilled some food on me - I teased her about it, told her she was pretty, asked her if she'd like to get a bite to eat sometime soon, then got her number ... Plan on reaching out to her today and SETTING. UP. ANOTHER. DATE.
MORAL OF THIS STORY IS: Like coach Wayne said, I wasted a lot time getting ready for the date (shopping for some DRIP, grooming and hygienics). I probably should have screened her a little better, once my phone died Friday. BUT AT THE END OF THE DAY, I didn't let this Ferrell bitch ruin my night by standing me up. I've potentially found someone else!
Don't show up for people who aren't willing to show up for you. Life is simple... work on yourself and the right person will make the effort to be in your life. Thank you coach for helping me transform from a needy insecure guy to someone who found his purpose and gain emotional strength and confidence, I love you coach!
To all the single people out there, keep happy be positive, and remember your awesome!
SAME exact thing happened to me Saturday. Right down to a tee. Except my date and I had spoken for like 15 mins on the phone and she complimented me on my "honesty" and was hoping that I'd be as honest as I seem. Lmaooo Spent the evening by myself, ate great dinner drank wine at outdoor restaurant and took uber back home. I felt sad for a second then I told myself "I am worthy of everything because I am created in the image of God and God created me with the purpose of living a fulfilling life, wherein I am respected and show respect to all beings." Felt like a million bucks right after. Guys, the victory isn't to get the date: It is to show up as your authentic best self and give the gift of your presence but NEVER tolerate lack of reciprocity or straight up disrespect. One love and you are all worthy.
You were able to salvage the evening as you chose a good spot. That's always a prime strategy. Good!
Being the dude who sent this letter in, it was super surreal seeing Coach respond. Loved it, man! And he gave me some great pointers to employ next time. Read the book, folks, lots! It's why I was able to have a kablooey and still enjoy the night. Before discovering his work I would've reacted... poorly. One of the greatest things Coach has given me is peace of mind and the newsletters are excellent reinforcers as we grow. Much appreciated, bro
sleepinglionarchives did you ever hear from this bitch again? Lol
@@hurt1704 I did not, and that's a-okay
You did great man, no drama allowed!
There are a lot of great girls out here and we deal with this too. Love the way the coach advises and the attitude switch. I wish you a lot of luck finding a real girl out there like me. ❤
Got stood up tonight in DC. Hung out at the bar and owned it with a nice whiskey and a nice conversation with the bartender. Stay strong kings!
Set a definite date 4 days in advance, time and place. She texted me last night to be sure we’re still on- we confirmed the date... Currently sitting at the vineyard getting stood up lol at 27, first time ever..
SHE BELONGS TO THE STREETS! 😭💁🏼♀️🚩
This exact thing just happened to me tonight. Straight up no show, didn't answer my where are you text nor did she answer when I called. Fucking pissed me off. Second time this happened to me.
She asked me last Friday to hangout this week.i set the date for tonight. She waits till a half hour before to give me some lame story why she can’t make it. It’s ridiculous.
I did get an “im sorry, i totally forgot” kinda text plus she said she was feeling bad for it and she was truly sorry. She was to caught up in some personal stuff. But still the fact is: she stood me up. In don’t want to be second choice and I deserve a lady who validates my time with her and takes the time for me as well!🎉😊
Another reason why the first date should always be something as simple as a beer or a drink. Something cheap that has no investment, and that you would do anyway even without plans.
This is so weird. I just got stood up for the first time this past Saturday and was looking at all of Mr. Corey Wayne’s past videos on being stood up! So crazy!!! Thanks for this video, I’m going to start watching it now!!
This happened to me too a couple of days ago lol!!!
Your stuff works so well. Just had a girl tell me she was tired and wanted to cancel our date an hour prior and reschedule for next week. I said "Nah I'm good". she said "saturday doesn't work?". I said "I was looking forward to seeing you tonight and you just canceled last minute". She said "let me get dressed and I'll be over in 25 mins." she called me 3 times in between to say she's almost here.
Nice response to her test, Dude! Thanks for sharing! Sounds like you two may have dated a few times already, but just b/c she's getting comfortable w/ the relationship, doesn't ever give her an excuse to cancel, unless it is an absolute emergency - and even then , I would distance myself from her and wait for her to ask to meet, if she canceled even for a legit emergency.
I really wish I read your comment last week. This is what I should have done instead of saying no problem we can reschedule.
If there is one thing I learned, it's that if someone really likes you, they will find time to meet you.. The last girl I dated sent me a text 2 hours before we were to meet that she had a strong headache and if we could reschedule for some other time and I simply said well there is no point in going when you have a headache, just get back to me when you get better. This was supposed to be 4th date if I recall.
She responded "you really have to be like that?
i said "what do you mean"
she said "you always find the perfect thing to do or say, expect when you're deliberately teasing me" lol she made me laugh so hard and I felt so good and proud about it.
Her last boyfriend was needy af and she was a bit inexperienced, so it makes sense that she said it.
needless to say, we met 2 hours later haha.
But if she didn't like me, she probably wouldn't have come.. When someone cancels on you without a good reason AND they don't offer their free time, it's always a bad sign. I had a girl I met last Saturday cancel our date on this Thursday, and she asked if it's okay if we cancel and that she's really tired from lot of work and that it's a bit late to meet after 22 (I work 2 shifts, 6-14 and 14-22, weekly change).
I said sure, she was basically wide opened and I just told her I'm gonna pick you up on Monday (in 2 days) at 21:00 just be there. She is really feminine and cute girl, I really like her, hope it goes well.
by the way.. I also got stood up for a date 4 hours ago. I sent her 8 minutes before we were to meet that I came a bit early.
15 minutes later no response, she's not there, I realize what is up. I text her "you are free to see my message, it's not like I'm going to attack you or anything. I just drove 10 miles here to meet you and then you don't even bother to let me know that you're not showing up. That's not nice of you."
Stayed in my center and didn't let her affect me. I visited another city with my car and had a blast time. Screw her.
I'm a female and your videos have helped me to not only rekindle my relationship with my ex but also make my people skills better.
Thanks Coach! Things that I’ve learned that mean “no”...
-maybe
-I don’t know
-I’ll letcha know
-being stood up
-not responding
-being flaky
Take them all as no, don’t contact them and when they come around establish your boundaries. All of the no’s above are sh!t tests and if you don’t pass them they won’t respect you then you might as well be friends.
Exactly! If it isn’t a clear “yes”, it’s a “No”
Your a hero Coach. Your book changed my life. I've read it 5 times and I plan on reading it at least 20 more times. The amount of women that I have attracted in this short time is amazing.
I will admit I have been slacking, it's great detail...I should go back to it so I can understand the fundamentals
I agree there are woman that treat men like crap, and it makes me angry that they do that and they cause men to mistrust, and feel disrespected.
Not all woman are like that, and i understand it's hard for men to trust enough to go on a date with a woman who is actually a good woman.
How can a woman project they have integrity, and they are worth asking out if the guy is too scared of being rejected so won't even talk to her?
@Ryan J I would never leave a guy waiting for a reply. Especially if it's about a date. If I accept a date its cause I want to get to know the man. I would expect the same from a man.
All you can do is flirt and hope the guy has the balls to ask you out. Past experience shouldn't make him so worried he can't even ask a girl out. That's a super weak dude. You don't want a weak guy anyway.
Just walked away from a girl due to this exact reason. We set up our date. She stood me up and never told me she got called into work. Texted me a few hours later to tell me. I gave her one more chance. She did it again. Was at a concert and forgot to tell me. I'm done and ignoring her.
You ignoring her is exactly what she wanted.
Why give her a second chance, mate?
Hindsight is 20/20. Should’ve cut her off when she cancelled our first date only after I texted her half hour after she was supposed to be at my house. Would’ve saved myself over a years worth of lying cheating and and lack of integrity and regard. Now as soon as I get that I cut it off instantly
I'm generally of the mind that if the person doesn't show and stood you up, then try not to let it bother you. Yes they've wasted some of your time and disappointed you, but at least they've shown how flaky they are from the outset rather than later on, which would be much worse. Great advice on the pre-call before a date too. At least one short conversation and help with committing to the date.
Agreed. The further and further down the dating line, the more it hurts if you get a "Rejection".
Better to be told No when asking for her number, then to 1) Get the Number but she never replies back to your text. 2) exchange a bunch of texting. 3) get her out of the date. 4) try to go for the kiss. 5) try to get her back your yours/hers. 6) try a heavy make-out. 7) sex.
Sure asking for the number and geting rejected stings for a little while, but nowhere as painfully as going through steps 1-7 and getting rejection when trying to get the lay at the end.
This is perfect timing
Coach Glen Byrne You too
Been crossing paths with flakey people for the last 3 years. Lately, I've been thinking there must be something wrong with me. Thank you for your words of wisdom, Corey.
I keep telling myself it's the low interest women in my city
I use to think that too words like integrity dignity and excellence is a foriegn concept to many modern day women
I got stood up recently. The girl claimed she didn’t think I would show because I didn’t call to confirm. Total bs and low self worth I thought. Anyways, she did offer to reschedule and I went on to have a great night meeting and making out with two other woman and getting their numbers. The girl who stood me up was chasing me to go out so we eventually did. We ended up having sex on the first date. She became completely obsessed with me afterwards and would constantly call me while I was at work. She had no job and lived at home with her parents even though she was 33. She was hot though, but I was so turned off by all of this I told her it wasn’t going to work out between us . She still texts me and asks me to hang out to this day.
You're right. Total BS. She basically blamed you for her being a no-show. Hopefully it all worked out for the best.
As Jay-Z said: On to the next one.
I don't know if it's a generational thing, a safety thing, insecurity or a sign of low interest, but I found that a lot of women are not very receptive to the pre-date phone call.
Shifty Fox if youre speaking on american women, the reality is they lack social skills, and dont “need” to improve them because most guys wont hold them accountable if they are cute enough. So you have girls in womens bodies.
La Víe En Rose txt a bit first. If shes responding positive, slip in some egregious sexual thing, see how she responds. “Girl, dont talk spicy to me like that, youll end up hearing how i sound when i cum”. Theres really only two ways that can go. If shes mad, save ya time. If she keeps talkin spicy “hey, why dont we set a time to link up and see if you really this spicy in person? How bout...” and set the date. If she says anything that is a question about why you said that, just say “what do you mean? You dont like hearing your man let you know he enjoyed you?” Again, if she laughs it off, go right to setting the date. Anything else, save ya time.
@K S I talk in person ;)
Generational. Most younger people hate the phone. I think someday the phone will be an app you download if you have a need for it. lol Honestly I could do without it most times. If I need to do more than texting there's Skype.
Now I need a video chat, anyone can say that are this person or live here or there when on the phone.
Big fan of Corey's work. recently I asked an attractive girl out on a first date and she said she was too busy so I followed his advice and told her to "No problem. Get back to me when you sort out your schedule" and stopped pursuing. Just like the cat she returned and opened up again a week later, and completely caught me by surprise when she asked if I was free next week instead.
@@Chris-0113 Appreciate the comment, mate. She told me she had the best night of her life but was still playing some games, so since then i have met even better gals who are jumping at the chance to meet up now and i had to leave her behind.
I wish I had this wisdom in my 20's what he's saying is so right the sooner you can find out someone is not worth your time the better
I'm sick of being screwed over by women. Now I am gonna make stricter measures now. I don't care what your excuses are. You cancel once, you're not getting a rain check.
Fabulous vid Corey. This very same type of thing just happened with me last week with my new girlfriend of only a month. She is now another ex gf. Happened way to fast for my liking, but this is the way these things go when the true narc behavior comes out. Thanks for the perspective.
The 6 a.m crew 💯
@Coach Glen Byrne East Coast, USA
The analogy you used about driving in the left lane cracked me up. I drive 95 corridor from DC to Richmond va everyday and 80 percent of drivers around here are like that.
I got stood up, I went to eat a good meal and it was amazing. After, I tried to socialize with girls but they weren't open for conversations haha. Anyway, amazing!
A day after, I was contacted by that girl where she said that I shouldn't have head down to a location when she didn't confirmed and she said she's sorry for not showing up. The thing is that she come up with the rescheduling this date, and I have planned the day , hour and location and she said 'Great. I look forward to seeing you' . If for instance I set up a meeting with a person, after the details have been established, I don't ask that person on last moment: "Are you still coming?".
If a woman text me sorry I can't make it the day of the date I wouldn't reply
I do the same bro
or text back "What date?"
@@lavieenrose7925 what would your reply be then bro?
@@jowensjo34 It doesn't have to be a particular answer. All you do is ask her WHY she suddenly cannot show up, even tho she definitely agreed a few days/weeks before to meet you. You cannot just assume that every girl is flaking on you. Maybe someone died that was close to her or someone had an accident. Anything might prevent her from seeing you. It is only when she gives no good reason for not showing up that you instantly kick her to the side. If she gave no good and legitimate reason to suddenly cancel, only then you can see that she had wrong intentions from the beginning and she was most likely never planning on meeting you at all.
It really all depends on whether she offers an alternative date and time. If she doesn't, I don't waste my time.
Some people don't know how to have fun by themselves.
Once I hit my early 30's (15 years ago) I started doing most of my travel and activities on my own. I just keep various females in my orbit for "stress relief". Life is good .......and very, very, simple.
@@smithraymond09029 I agree
My ex just flaked. All of a sudden she though I had changed my mind without ever asking me. I called her out. She canceled and rescheduled for the next day. I told her to not worry and kick rocks. Never contact me again. I don't do flakes. Damb it felt so good to do that!!
Coach Corey ..........when it comes to dating coaches, you are the GOAT!
I got stood up a few years back, so I decided to mess with her and texted “Hey, I’m really sorry I didn’t show up last night; I laid down for a minute because I had a headache and ended up falling asleep all night.”
Did she respond?
There are a ton of women that would love to stand up a pro dating coach. Bragging rights
Looking quite dapper as always coach
Hi Corey, I really love that analogy of the 'left' lane! It is so true.
Sadly if you look at the behavior on the road these days compared to other things in daily life, a lot of people just suck big time.
No anticipation, provoking, rude behavior, complete indifference, stupidity and selfishness.
I live in the Netherlands and travel a lot for business, also sleep in many different hotels. The behavior here is far worse than on German roads. Belgian, French and other south European drivers are also complete fuck-ups and rude in general.
Maybe I should go for a German lady next time, haha! They do dress also much better and are more classy in general. I had some occasional hookups with German ladies in hotels, though ;-)
Thanks for the advice Corey, it really makes a difference!
Good to hear you say 'Fucking Cunts' ha...shout out from Australia! Appreciate your work!
I really love this video. I’m amazed at how many flakes there are
Thanks for all your output Coach. Totally game changing. Keep it up! 💯
Yeah, there are some sick, emotionaly unstable women. I once had a 42 yr old set up a 2nd date with me, when i showed up, she just left. I couldnt figure out whats up, i then see her around the corner & asked whats wrong. She gave me this crazy smile & said, oh i mixed u up with some1 else that i was supposed to meet, she said he also has same name as me and same voice. Can u believe that? What a sicko. She is still on dating site & its been 3 yrs.
Great content. I now know i am not crazy for what my ex did. Thanks for the news video. You are the king. 👑
Did he say he was 49? I thought 30s.
I need the website of his water supplier.
MARCVS LICINIVS CRASSVS bro I just said the same thing. Corey looking damn good, I hope to look as good at 49 lol
It's because he drinks alkaline water on a daily basis. I think I've seen bottles of Essentia in some of his videos. He also advocates the high alkaline diet.
Coach, I didnt think you believed in karma. Such a powerful message to your followers.
The only coach I need.
So with your philosophy i literally deleted %99 of the people from my life. My parents and dramaqueen sister would make it %100. But i love my nefew and niece so its tuff the time i do spend with them i am always trying to instill integrity keeping it playful and fun. Thankyou coach for helping become a wayyy more effective leader. The push back and manipulation is astounding never realized how much power i was conditioned to give away.
Never feel obligated to not cut out family. They can be some of the most toxic and draining organisms in your life. You can love them, but you don't have to deal with them or put up with them.
Another great video from the G.O.A.T
good morning coach wayne its a lovely day for a drama free life!
Don't save others from their consequences. Get stood up? That person will get their due..not your problem. Be who you want.
A lot of prospects do the same thing. Heck, you even reconfirm with some of them 1-2 hours prior to the meeting that they're still up to meet... and then they never pick up the phone again...
Most people suck. Plan accordingly. It's a numbers game. Feral humans are everywhere.
Guys. Just ask yourself, would you let a friend treat you this way? No, that person would no longer be your friend.
Don't take it personally. It's a negative reflection on her, not you. Move on to someone better.
You make me laugh every time you sip your cup and say, “no drama allowed”....aaaahhhhh!
Corey thank you, it goes for women too. Just met a nice guy but he flakes out too. Glad it was just one date. I didn’t invest in him. Sad that there is people out there that are really fucked up and willing to hurt others. Love your stuff. You help me tremendously.
CW, can I use your quotes for Facebook posts if I give you the credit? This one is gold.
That's a great term that describes some people perfectly
Good stuff right here!
What guy would set up a "meet 'n greet" date on a Saturday night? Save those for weeknights. He set himself up to fail.
Unless it was scheduled very, very, early in the night or late afternoon. But, yes, this should've been a midweek happy hour meeting.
Ding ding ding - I am the same way Corey, you can always have a good time no matter what happens. Amor fati
Well said coach, keep the videos coming. Very helpful
Corey, You ar my blessing... Thank You 🙏
For those who have read the book 10-15 times, what happened? How did your dating life transform?
chris Morrison thanks bro. I’m on read two and love to hear about people’s transformations. Motivates to keep going down the path and change things for the better. Hope you continue to improve as well
Zero that’s definitely a mindset shift. You can’t love someone else if you don’t love yourself. Keep it up!
A coworker tried to hook me up with her niece. 2 days before she told me “ I hate to do this, but before I have talked to you. I had went out on a date and I didn’t expect to get serious. So I feel bad to be going out on a date with you, and I don’t think it’s fair to you. “
I thought it was bullshit, So I just told her if things don’t work out give me a call, to have a good one and deleted her number.
Her aunt told me she got back with her ex and they may not last, but I’m not moving on regardless
Big D why wouldn’t you move on?
Good for you man NO DRAMA ALLOWED
SeerSmashChannel I have and got no choice 😂 I’ve wasted plenty of time when I was 18 with one chick I met in highschool. I missed out on so many other chicks in college because I was focused on her
Now that I gotten older, know who I am and why I have attracted certain people. I’m glad it didn’t go any further
@@bigd3721 OK, so you DID move on. The way you ended your paragraph said you DIDN'T, so I was asking why. Good job moving on homie. That's the right thing.
Feels good being 16 and learning this material
Yes
Tim Burton I’ll give you the best advice ever ! Swallow the red pill ! Become a pickup artist , never get married stay focus on school and work !
Brandon Guy what is the red pill man
Tim Burton UA-cam it ! It’s what Corey Wayne is !
Brandon Guy so swallowing the red pill refers to seeing the truth in the world. How does this affect dating and life priorities?
When it happens, it is like a bee sting. It goes away fairly quickly. Then it is a learning experience. Then it is a humorous experience. In the end, I figure they made a monumental, possibly life-changing mistake.
Lol hard @ "feral". I feel like you made this video for me. I had a very interesting weekend. Met a feral lady, and she did feral things.
This reminds me of a time when I already knew this woman was “Pharrell” she looked good but had issues she had stood me up once and I went along and set a date for 2nd time and had no actual intention to take her seriously. So she called to cancel on me and I was at a party and had no honest idea why she was calling me. Till it dawn on me and I told her not to sweat it we can plan another make believe day anytime but I had to let her go. She became my personal stalker on campus switched all her classes to mine 🤷🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️
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I just got done seeing this girl I’ve been talking to on fb dating. I’m in the Marine Corps and so the base was an hour 45 minutes away from where she was located. During our conversations she brought up meeting and to go dancing on a Saturday. I said that would be great and we both paid for this hotel. I eventually get to the hotel, and I couldn’t check in yet because they were cleaning my room. In the mean time of all the waiting I decided to clean my car a little bit more and look up places where we can go eat and have fun. 2 hours passed and eventually I got my room. Once I did I texted her saying I’m at the hotel. So shortly after she came to the room and we hugged. I asked her to come in and she did. She sat down on the side of the bed and I did too. We both were having a great conversation on getting to know one another. Eventually I said I found this place we can go eat if she’s hungry. She told me she wasn’t hungry and did not want to do anything since she had a long busy week(even though we agreed to go dancing) so I said ok we can relax because I have Netflix on my phone. So we both get comfortable and watched a comedy. She starts to cuddle with me and eventually it led to us making out. It went further to where I thought we were going to have sex, but she said not now and instead she dry humped. Eventually she asked me if this was ok. I said yes whatever you’re comfortable with, but just know I just wanted to get to know you as a person. I then asked her the same question and she told me that I would think she was weird. Eventually she told me she is a virgin. So that made a lot of sense from what her actions were. (Keep in mind she is 22 years old and super gorgeous) I could not believe it, but I told her that I’m ok with it and it’s not something to be weirded out by, it’s perfectly normal and I understood, I just wanted her to be comfortable. So afterwards we continued. Eventually it got to a stopping point and we talked, cuddled, kissed, and eventually we said goodnight) because she didn’t want to sleep over. So instead she went back to her dads place. Which I understood because she’s a virgin. So the next day we talked and now I’m confused on where I go from here. Right now I’ve been barely texting her saying I’ve been busy but would love to see you again,in hopes she asks me for another date. I definitely need to read your book, but I guess for now it’s all a waiting game to see what happens
BFMV rs when women reach out , they want you to set up the date , 😉 read the book , don’t give her all you’re attention because one day they’ll eventually leave you for someone else ! This is why you love them in such a way that’s it’s ok if they leave . Always have a backup plan with multiple women . Never settle on one woman . All marriages lead to divorce ! 😉
It really IS how you look at it! I’d be so pissed if I was stood up
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@Coach Corey wayne just found your videos recently and have been kicking myself for not finding you sooner. Just started using your techniques on a girl/ friend that recently came back into my circle after breaking up with her bf. Told her I was interested but have been left in stand by with the excuse that she is still not over her ex. It has been two month since she broke up. Main reason that motivated my move was that I saw she made a dating profile on a site I am on. I discovered your video after i made the initial move. Have started cutting her off from contact because she only wants to hang in groups.
I have stopped contact and am only responding to texts small talks now with trying to set dates. Gonna see how it goes. My only concern is we are now part of the same social circle, A young adult group (my fault for introducing her to them). I like the group but she is now going to the regular events. Am gonna stop going to all of the events but am a volunteer and central figure in group.. How do I act toward her if I am trying to make myself scarce but will inevitably see her at events. Will continue to be a good time at events but need more guidance. Any help would be appreciated.
Also we have good interactions and she always laughs at my jokes and has a good time when we hang out. When I initially grew a pair and told her I was interested in seeing her she mentioned that although I wasnt exactly her type physically she did mention some positive points like my eyes and way I broached my interest and how she wasnt weirded out. Definitely did not capitalize on the moment and lost the initiative.
Nothing like watching a Corey Wayne video😎. Coach Corey Sensei!
Guys,
Similar situation to the emailer, happened to me last night: Got her number at the gym (she smiled and waved, I called her over, told her she looked good, asked her name, got the number). I could tell her level of attraction was high b/c SHE INNITIATED WITH A SMILE AND A WAVE, THEN she asked what my name was, THEN AFTER WE EXCHANGED NUMBERS, SHE LEFT THE GYM, THEN CAME BACK IN TO MAKE SURE SHE HAD THE MY CORRECT PHONE NUMBER ...
Later that same night, she texted me to ask how my night was going - after some small talk, I set a date for Saturday evening 9pm (We set the date on a Thurs. night, ironically b/t 8pm & 9pm, exactly 48 hours away). Normally, I'd like to schedule a date atleast a week in advance, but, SHE SAID THAT SHE WANTED TO SEE ME ON SAT., AFTER I ASKED HER WHEN SHE WANTED TO MEET - SO I WENT WITH THE FLOW AND AGREED TO SAT., EVEN THOUGH I'M BUSY.
Didn't text or call her Friday or Sat. b/f our date ...
*Long story short:* I GET TO THE VENUE @ 9PM and don't see her ... @9:15 I text her, "Hey!!! Where are you?" She responds a few minutes later stating that she had called me Friday to confirm, but that I didn't pick up my phone, so she assumed that I had canceled on her.
GRANTED, COINCIDENTALLY, my phone did loose complete battery power and was shut down on me on Friday while at work, until I got home - so my phone was off for a few hours. But if her story was true, she is insecure as fuck - she is a little on the thick side, but cute enough to date.
PLOT TWIST: I let her know that I was not at the venue, but was texting her to let her know that I would be running late. I apologized for my phone being off for a few hours on Friday and expressed that I wish she had left a message. I then tried to reschedule for 11pm, by expressing how busy my schedule is and how I didn't know when I'd be free again, which would give her a little over an hour to get ready and meet me there.
At the end, her excuse was that 11pm was too late and she had church in the morning.
*3% Man Lesson #1, Fellas:*
I ended the conversation by telling her, I had a friend who had a reserved booth for a party there anyway, and that I'd still be going a little later. And told her to let me know if she changes her mind, and wanted to come and join me. Then left her with a ”Take Care!"
*3% Man lesson #2, Fellas:*
I was really already at the venue for our date, but didn't give her the satisfaction of knowing that. *I ALSO DID NOT LET HER STANDING ME UP STOP ME FROM HAVING FUN BY MYSELF.*
In conclusion, the date was set at a fun place with pool tables and light music - so I mingled, as a 3% man would, AND I MET SOMEONE ELSE.
There was this fine ass waitress ( 7 or 8 on the Rictor Scale: Ebony complexion, natural hair to her shoulders, with a young Hailey Berry body), who almost spilled some food on me - I teased her about it, told her she was pretty, asked her if she'd like to get a bite to eat sometime soon, then got her number ... Plan on reaching out to her today and SETTING. UP. ANOTHER. DATE.
MORAL OF THIS STORY IS: Like coach Wayne said, I wasted a lot time getting ready for the date (shopping for some DRIP, grooming and hygienics). I probably should have screened her a little better, once my phone died Friday. BUT AT THE END OF THE DAY, I didn't let this Ferrell bitch ruin my night by standing me up. I've potentially found someone else!
Took me one more date to realise that but same. New school. New country. Asked this girl out on a date. She agreed, but asked if she could bring her friend. I didn't know any better at the time; hence, by the end of the date I was jiving with her friend more than her. The friend was the one asking all the questions and being talkative. Went from a date with her to a date with her friend. Smh
I also got stood up when I was in a different country but that just telling me that she is not my type of woman. Because a definite date means to show up or lose a opportunity to be with me. Limited time offer!
Nihlator same things happened to me! I came to her country to meet her, she then suddenly said she can’t meet me, I was pissed off at her. Next day she messaged me voluntarily for a date, we agreed a time and then she cancelled again!
Had to forget and move on. Damn women can be so confusing! 🤷♂️
Yeah I used to like this girl a lot but then I watched the videos by Corey Wayne and I saw that she had a lot of red flags now I haven't talked to her for months. No I don't care how pretty the girl is I will go up to her and I can tell she's my type that's by talking to her it's amazing
Hi, I'm Coach Corey Wayne, and you're not. Haha. When you go and they don't show up, that is fish served cold! Great video, listen up!
if you find a good woman dont let her go, there is not many out there, I'm in my fifties you learn things!
But what if she doesnt look the way that women youre attracted to look like?
Guess you keep her in your basement 😂
"Feral human" 😅😅 gold!
I just think about the wasted time of dating and realize I could be on my grind! Early retirement no debt travel where I want house paid for toys etc. The juice ain't worth the squeeze! I took the red pill!
What to do?
I like this gal- she says she's interested. We met for dinner. Had a decent time.
Setting up another date
I asked her what time shall I pick her up. She explained that she has a terrible experience with a stalker a while back - that she didn't give her address out- would meet me there. I told her well I'm no stalker and I appreciate your boundaries but I don't agree that I should be thrown on the bone pile with anyones prior abusers.
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“Remember, a date is a compatibility test. It’s like test driving a car. If the car doesn’t even make it into the lot you probably don’t wanna be driving it anyway.”
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I can relate to this scenario excellent topic awesome advice
The fact is that woman and man can grow together. If there is no communication, no consultation, no mutual respect, that relationship is destined to not work out in short or long term. Of course this requires maturity from the part of the man, and woman. Its not only about attraction.
Coach Corey Wayne have you ever thought about doing seminars?
Corey, could you do a video on what to do after you kissed and made out with a friend. And if shes being distant now? Whether to wait it out and just not talk for weeks on end if ever? Or just call or text her, tell her what you want and walk away if she doesn't want the same.
Wait until she reaches out, when she does make a definite date. Hang out, Have fun, Hook up. In the mean time focus on your mission and purpose and practice on other girls.
awesome content keep up the great content
Can't believe you said the C bomb Corey lol
It sucks to date someone that's toxic and don't give a F*. Like Coach says "Don't take it personal". Be you. Stand up. Don't take someone that trash you or don't care. Go out with someone that does care and want's to actually hang out. Be realistic. Do it right or don't.
that quote was hilarious.
I disagree with the concept of Karma. But I do agree with Coach's advice, remaining optimistic.
Coach echos a great concept, being happy in one's own skin. I've been on many solo vacations and had a great time.
I aint sold on there being anything in that "no drama allowed" mug haha 😂😂😂🤣
This is the best changes everything this week this dateing thing is hard but worth it flakes are part of the game
Recently found Coach Corey's youtube and in the process of reading his book for the first time. I'm curious, has anyone in college been more succesful with dating after applying his teachings?
Of course but i still need to read the book 15 times
It was really good on the phone she was anthusiastic about getting together but went silent, did respond at the date time??? though the date was firm and she agreed!!!
About trying to extend your life: By the time you're approaching 60, you've sustained a lot of wounds, and the wounds keep coming. They become layered. Plus you feel things more deeply including things that haven't happened to you. You can hear a sad story in the news and feel it more deeply than someone in their twenties. Sorry to break the news. Some wounds (or multiple similar wounds, such as rejection from the opposite sex, or betrayals, ) can't be healed in this life just as some diseases can't be healed in this lifetime. Either a wound was delivered in a particularly vicious manner or just the multitude of them could be enough to make someone okay about one day dying. If you can't recover in this life, you see death in a totally different way. You might even start looking forward to the day you can die and leave this horrible world. Sure, there are cute kittens, babies, rainbows, and sunshine. So what? You might have crossed a point where you can't unsee what you've seen.
Coach Corey, I love your videos. But on this occasion I have to disagree strongly with something you said.
I drive “slowly” on the road, below the speed limit. I want to be calm and enjoy my drive, not be stressed. I don’t do it to “get back at the world” and to call people who drive slowly and don’t budge the c word is just irresponsible on your part.
I understand you were speaking generally, but I’m just making the point that I will drive slowly and won’t budge when people are driving right up behind me trying to put pressure on me. I want to look at my surroundings, enjoy the view, drive relaxed and not look at my speedometer every few seconds to ensure I’m not in danger of being fined. That’s not how I want to live my life. If people want to speed they can go around. Perhaps the people beeping and driving faster need to relax. I mean what’s the emergency exactly?
Relax people. That’s part of your message anyway Coach Corey isn’t it?
Driving calmly is not dangerous, driving unsafe is.
Thank you.
Love the rest of your video of course! 🙏👍
You can enjoy your ride on the right lane, leave the left line for drivers going a little faster. Not all people are calm like yourself.
E83 Arman Firstly, maybe you should be calm. Give it a try it can’t be a bad thing. Secondly, what if I need to turn left a little further up? I’m not going to change lanes last second now am I? The answer is calm down and relax people. It’s not a race.
I'm completely checked out on dating. Especially since I live in #LasVegas. I live in a city where a woman can be fine as hell, post pictures of her in 5 star restaurants & hotels daily & at the same damn time be *Homeless* #AssedOut #Broke #DontHaveAPotToPissIn #OrAWindowToThrowItOutOf
This is true in Vegas. I hate it here
@@montanammf You watch Coach Corey Wayne on a regular?
@@kingviciousproductions yes. As a female, I like to understand guys 🤷🏾♀️
@@montanammf That's dope. You're like me, I like to understand the human psyche even if it's from a different perspective. You can learn a lot... I think my location is part of my issue. I don't speak to a lot of women that can hold a decent conversation. Why have you gave up out here? Also what part of Vegas do you live in?
@@kingviciousproductions people are looking for help. Not love. I'm not anyones meal ticket. Henderson.
Hey Coach, You say the phone is for setting dates not for talking, now you are saying a guy should talk on the phone before setting a date. I am confused.
online dating or someone you never talked to longer than it took to get their phone. You have to establish some rapport. The less rapport you have, they higher the likelihood they flake.
Thanks & good job. Healing from a lifetime of narcissistic abuse & learning self love. Maybe we need a men's movement. 🤔😕😉