Why men feel lonely nowadays

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  • @vaskildo94
    @vaskildo94 3 місяці тому +18

    I feel you bro. You said a lot of hard truths. Respect, we're all in this together even if we don't realise.

  • @mondongo2006
    @mondongo2006 3 місяці тому +28

    I think that never in history it has been easy to find neither true love nor true friendship, but something that helps along the way is to sincerely and indiscriminately be the kind of person you want, the one that is truly loyal, truly cares, truly worries. If you want something in someone else, have it in yourself too.

    • @IshvaraGodCazimi
      @IshvaraGodCazimi 3 місяці тому

      WTF DID I Just read ?

    • @AstonMartinStig
      @AstonMartinStig 3 місяці тому +4

      Great comment. Hard agree. Ppl need to cry less and work on themselves.

  • @KoongYe
    @KoongYe Місяць тому +1

    Worst is when your parents don't care about you. The only people obligated to show you love care only about themselves, and keep saying you are not enough (regardless of how good you actually are).

  • @MonaMohassan
    @MonaMohassan 3 місяці тому +6

    We’re born alone and die alone, but along the way, we need someone who understands us. Maybe your soulmate isn’t where you live-sometimes, we have to travel, explore, and enjoy life while meeting new people. Stay patient, focus on yourself, and the right connections will come.

  • @pluto0629-g2y
    @pluto0629-g2y 3 місяці тому +4

    yep . I found its hard to have friends after graduation from university. Most of classmates go back to their each one's hometown. And its hard to make new friend when u work and immerse into the society

  • @Megaterranova
    @Megaterranova 3 місяці тому +2

    I felt lonely in my 30s to the point of agony. Then i got into a series of stormy relationships and one night stands over several years only to find out that i hated living with women. I so craved for my space, my freedom to exist without being criticized or judged. Now that i am single in my 50s for the past 10 years, those feelings of loneliness have completely disappeared. I feel great in my own space and im happy with my accomplishments because I dont have to share them with anyone and i can do anything i want. I consider myself an average guy with strong desires to get what i want. But, i did have to settle for what i could get and enjoyed it very much.

  • @SRG6214
    @SRG6214 3 місяці тому +1

    This man talks facts. Its true, and dont tell me to love myself more and be more confident to get a relationship, dont give me that shit. I hate it when people say that, cause its hard bro its hard to make the first move and it hurts to get rejected over and over again, even harder if you dont look pretty or handsome. Not only that you have to think if you're stable enough to last a relationship if you're competent enough to be in one. So many factors to consider, and its sad bro.

  • @slipknotezz
    @slipknotezz 3 місяці тому +11

    I blame the modern lifestyles and roles that we were given since we were children for this though. Categorization of peoples in societies increased way too much with globalist (modern Western imperialist) mindset that has spread. It created grouping and even getting lonelier for some people that didn't want to fit in or can not fit in. For example I wasn't a kid that was raised in modern roles, any kind of which also consists of gender roles which doesn't exist in my culture due to being steppe nomadic culture but people surounding me were raised heavily with Western typa gender roles which came with globalism which is modern Western imperliasm. I've always had a hard time trying to fit in and talking to girls as a girl but I couldn't understand them due to I was raised according to my traditions and I wasn't raised to be like a stereotyoical a "girl" or a "boy" globalist view of categorization of people, this year I became fully girly-girly finally which took me 2-3 years for me to understand other girls but I left it and I stopped actually obeying to categorization of people and globalism. I returned to who I was and who I AM. So, never blame yourself for society, It's just enforcing Indo-European cultural values to other ethnicities throughout globalism even though sedentary people tend to have similar roles in society but with different values.

  • @alexsandro2200
    @alexsandro2200 3 місяці тому +3

    Im amazed how accurate u are and every word touches me sensational talk man for me it's like relaxing while listening to you

  • @Ace1000ks
    @Ace1000ks 3 місяці тому +4

    You get used to being by yourself. It really depends on your personality. I am the kind of person that can work in a lab 12 to 15 hours a day. I have Asperger Syndrome, so being alone is no big deal to me.

  • @Ghost-the-fullback
    @Ghost-the-fullback 2 місяці тому

    Found this channel today I'm glad I did 💯

  • @christopherli7463
    @christopherli7463 2 місяці тому

    everything you said is really true

  • @incognegro2315
    @incognegro2315 2 місяці тому

    That’s the nature of relationships.

  • @Kevo_94
    @Kevo_94 3 місяці тому +1

    I love you man. You're directly on point with everything. The problem is that people reject reality at all costs...

  • @laswanlewwis
    @laswanlewwis 3 місяці тому +15

    I keep staying single better I don't worry about dating to nobody just do me being my self and staying my own lane.

    • @teeaymusik9811
      @teeaymusik9811 3 місяці тому

      Same and im what they call a "chad". But the women out there are bat shit crazy and way too manipulated.

  • @mkaizen1756
    @mkaizen1756 3 місяці тому +1

    The real truth is : if u don't have nothing better to offer, u will not make any friends. Most relationships are based on interests. This is how our fu ck wolrd works.

  • @darkshadows-sd9zh
    @darkshadows-sd9zh 3 місяці тому +17

    I don’t think I’ve had a friend since 2017

    • @bilbobaggins9451
      @bilbobaggins9451 3 місяці тому +1

      Same here. I try so hard, and even when it feels like I'm making progress, they just pull the rug out from underneath me. They'll even tell me straight up: "You're an awesome dude. You're such a good friend." And they'll put their hand on my shoulder. Yet are they ever there for me? No. Never. Even though I'm always there for them. It hurts so bad. I just wish they'd quit lying.

    • @darkshadows-sd9zh
      @darkshadows-sd9zh 3 місяці тому

      @@bilbobaggins9451 I think as you get older too it’s harder to make friends

    • @bilbobaggins9451
      @bilbobaggins9451 3 місяці тому

      @@darkshadows-sd9zh Yeah. I'm 27 and it's near impossible to make friends. Doesn't matter how relatable, funny, charismatic, kind, and loyal I am. And I'm not describing myself as these things, either. People have told that I am all of these things. It's just... they don't care about me when I'm outside their field of vision. Once I walk out the workplace doors, I'm basically de@d to them. And it's painful to experience this every single day.
      I don't get how adults do it, man. I really don't. Not only do we have to work such long hours with basically no vacation time anymore. But we also can't have a social life. It really is su!c!de inducing. Nobody prepared us for how crushingly lonely adulthood would be.

    • @darkshadows-sd9zh
      @darkshadows-sd9zh 3 місяці тому

      @@bilbobaggins9451 I’m 23 it’s because people our age already have friends.. they don’t need us anymore

    • @darkshadows-sd9zh
      @darkshadows-sd9zh 3 місяці тому

      @@bilbobaggins9451 I did have a friend he was my older brother he ended up dying from a motorcycle accident so now I’m lost with out him this was only 2 years ago

  • @noypi21stcentury
    @noypi21stcentury 3 місяці тому +1

    Go to SEA, theres still a lot of traditional women there in the provinces and villages if you want a genuine relationship, though the numbers start to decline nowadays

  • @seia2758
    @seia2758 2 місяці тому

    Social Media and Smartphones have ruined relationships in general. A decade ago, every relationship is just living in the moment and enjoying. Now everyone is just narcissistic, always looking for the next best thing, everyone always thinks "they deserve better" and bail out of relationships when they get faced with reality that being in a relationship is not so simple like you see in fantasy movies. Add that to the neverending increase of inflation and worsening economy, and smart people just say f*ck this and give up on relationships altogether because it's simply too much stress.

  • @bhcbhc
    @bhcbhc 3 місяці тому

    hey! please keep making videos to inform us all. And also remind us if there are happiness somewhere to be felt!

  • @littlemayo7136
    @littlemayo7136 2 місяці тому

    I want to say that there is truth to what he said but men are mainly prioritized in society for financial and status
    You cannot really skate by has a pretty man just off of being beautiful or cute unless you're dating men
    Because yes there are women who definitely will prioritize looks more what they honestly prioritize more than what is that
    I really just got done watching videos of them referring to men who are attractive but broke has freaky bums
    And I feel like when it comes to wanting financial and emotional support they will just tend to fuk down
    What I've seen them skip out on supermodels because they felt like they would cheat
    Like the main premise of biphobia is oh I have to compete with the whole world I don't want to deal with that
    11:41
    I want to say it's easier to make friends when you're an attractive man because straight men don't operate like women where they make friends because they're attractive like that's something that girls do

  • @paulhan7770
    @paulhan7770 3 місяці тому

    You're a young dude but you have many good points. How were you able to gain all this wisdom at a young age?

  • @Chickenfeet88
    @Chickenfeet88 3 місяці тому

    Kids are taught the goals of their parents. But that doesn't work because parents are a different generation. You have to create your own goals based on the realistic possibilities of the time you live in. You may have to get used to being lonely. Guys who are non-social to begin with have an advantage. The world isn't going to change to suit your wants. If you are unhappy, you are going to have to change your wants to suit the world.

  • @TrevorGray4758
    @TrevorGray4758 3 місяці тому

    Every now and then I get new opportunities to make new friends. I don’t want them. First off I’m not a good one, second I don’t want the responsibility or attention. I’m married and that’s enough. Once you know who will be there at your worst and stick with you. Then you will understand this. Try this… don’t reach out at all to anyone. Wait for a call or text. It’s not about the time because maybe that person calls you ten years later. When they don’t even do that then you know you just weren’t that important to them. Remember, the phone works both ways.

  • @akoyisangpinoy4705
    @akoyisangpinoy4705 3 місяці тому +1

    I started watching you now. I can relate so much.

  • @AiyunMusic
    @AiyunMusic 3 місяці тому +5

    Even though I’m a woman, I understand everything you’ve said. It’s true that men often face more challenges in life because they are expected to be providers and pursue women. It’s also true that attractive people tend to have more opportunities. It’s just unfortunate that many people consider themselves unattractive, even though they’re not. They might not look like those on Instagram, but most people on the street don’t look like that either. Social media makes us compare ourselves to unrealistic standards, which can make us feel miserable, even though our lives are much like anyone else's. This pressure can cause us to shy away from connections and opportunities because we subconsciously believe we don’t deserve them due to our appearance or status. It’s sad because there are many kind and loyal people out there, but because of a few bad experiences, we often start to believe that most people are unkind.

    • @kniviz510
      @kniviz510 3 місяці тому +1

      I think most people who consider themselves unattractive are usually the people who want friends and relationships but get turned down. When you constantly are getting rejected who will you believe? the girl on the youtube comment section who claims you arent unattractive, or the 100 girls who turned you down irl for not being their type?

    • @teaadvice4996
      @teaadvice4996 3 місяці тому

      Lmao most girls aren't ugly. They just want chad

    • @AiyunMusic
      @AiyunMusic 3 місяці тому +1

      @@kniviz510 Girls can sometimes be picky when it comes to dating. But just because many people find a man attractive doesn't mean every girl will feel the same. Everyone has their own preferences-some might prefer different hair colors, a beard, or unique features. What really matters is the care and effort you put into yourself. It’s hard to expect someone to be attracted to you if you don’t take care of yourself. Relationships are a two-way street, and it's important to put in effort for the person you're interested in. With billions of girls out there, there’s always someone for everyone. And if you still haven’t found the right one yet, sometimes it helps to to adjust your standards.

  • @measlesplease1266
    @measlesplease1266 3 місяці тому

    Bro you said way too much, even for me. But you're right. Everything you said was right.

  • @charlesdgaf1315
    @charlesdgaf1315 3 місяці тому +2

    Try and be happy without a girl for once.

  • @PinkPearl101
    @PinkPearl101 3 місяці тому +1

    All of this is so true.

  • @CutUpYin
    @CutUpYin 3 місяці тому +2

    life gonna be like the movie ready player one

  • @jRex918
    @jRex918 3 місяці тому

    great video man. you make some great points.

    • @SAAD-LAMJARRED-1
      @SAAD-LAMJARRED-1 2 місяці тому

      Merci beaucoup 💚❤You are so beautiful Waw! 😻🌞

  • @SAAD-LAMJARRED-1
    @SAAD-LAMJARRED-1 2 місяці тому

    You are so beautiful Waw! 😻🌞❤

  • @Jac735
    @Jac735 3 місяці тому +3

    Alot of people dont got hobbies anymore if they do its all about following and not being theirself blame social media and pop culture for that and thats one of the reasons i stay in my lane and make money and find new ways or new things to do it might be hard to do but we gotta try

    • @grandiosa86
      @grandiosa86 3 місяці тому +2

      Spot on, people don't got hobbies anymore, but they pretend they have a ton going on in their lives. Going to the gym is no hobby, it is killing time.

    • @Jac735
      @Jac735 3 місяці тому +2

      @grandiosa86 much appreciated 🙏 homie alot of people need to hear this especially these younger dudes because they are the future instead of bashing what's going on we gotta dig deep to find the root of the problem and just try to either look out for each other as men or just have the cycle continue I want to see all of us win that way the females can see how mature we are so it will be alot easier in the long run just think what change will bring

    • @grandiosa86
      @grandiosa86 3 місяці тому +1

      @@Jac735 The main problem the average man is dealing with is the lack of options to get a girlfriend. The average woman has more options than the average man. It also happens that they can wreck and choose. With a such imbalance that seems to get worse by the day, it basically means that the average man will find it harder and harder to get laid.
      Why would the average woman want an average Joe, when she can have so much more?

    • @Jac735
      @Jac735 3 місяці тому +2

      @grandiosa86 I'll feel you man, but you know what the thing is. The main focus is to not focus so much on women. We gotta focus on what we love and that's the thing that us men are not really doing. That's why they're a step ahead of us. We gotta appreciate the things in life and sometimes even if we join groups, we could probably meet them in those groups so, yeah, but I get what you're saying though man, same thing happened to me but. Hey, man.What are we gonna do about it?The best thing to do is just ignore them for the time being

    • @MrBellTidyUpBell
      @MrBellTidyUpBell 3 місяці тому +2

      hobbies are easy to find you jsut havent looked properly

  • @SucessulSaima
    @SucessulSaima 3 місяці тому +3

  • @MrSegaLives
    @MrSegaLives 3 місяці тому +10

    Chads taking all the women.

    • @namelessfiend6493
      @namelessfiend6493 3 місяці тому +10

      The only correct answer. All women share the same guy.

    • @Xrevenger100
      @Xrevenger100 3 місяці тому +7

      @@namelessfiend6493I disagree. There’s some women that the chads refuse to take but they are too unattractive for people that aren’t chads

    • @namelessfiend6493
      @namelessfiend6493 3 місяці тому +1

      @@Xrevenger100 Chad will fuck these women but wont commit to them, thats what I meant with theyre all sharing the same dude. I'm not talking about disabled/ deformed women or burn victims.

    • @teaadvice4996
      @teaadvice4996 3 місяці тому +2

      Yup and tyrone

    • @phoenixxsoul
      @phoenixxsoul 3 місяці тому +1

      ​@@namelessfiend6493 No. That's not even possible. Women that are considered super attractive nowadays, aka IG model types, very attractive women, might actually have access to these types of men.

  • @mikesmith1702
    @mikesmith1702 3 місяці тому +3

    when you realize you don't need a woman or a man you'll be free.

  • @OneZxxscsc
    @OneZxxscsc 3 місяці тому +2

    Bro why do you always look the same

  • @measlesplease1266
    @measlesplease1266 3 місяці тому

    A problem with men as that we aren't ever "not in the mood" but women love the chase just as much. We as men should have willpower and should say no once in awhile.

  • @Funkylover-sl7ew
    @Funkylover-sl7ew 3 місяці тому +5

    cuz people force us into lonelyness with there dramatic bullshit or women act so entittled

  • @MrBellTidyUpBell
    @MrBellTidyUpBell 3 місяці тому +2

    jsut find one or 2 hobbies you really enjoy and a goal that your determined to achieve. This makes you care less about relationships

    • @Jac735
      @Jac735 3 місяці тому

      Facts im.a gearhead I like to travel or try new food at spots even if it's an hour away I'll still go out to travel or if I want to find out what town or city something is in I'll 🚗 there myself before I was kinda depressed but remember having faith or knowing about God or something that keeps you going will clear your mind girls should be the last thing for us to worry about I just got outta a bad relationship back in January yes I'm sad I feel a little better but as 2pac said life goes on something better will find us we just have to have fun and enjoy meanwhile even if it means dealing with people on social media 🧌 trolling us with their relationships even in public as well

    • @MrBellTidyUpBell
      @MrBellTidyUpBell 3 місяці тому +2

      @@Jac735 ye, and while you are working towards that goal, you may meet someone along the way

    • @Jac735
      @Jac735 3 місяці тому

      @@MrBellTidyUpBell real talk it's bot as hard as it seems just focus and not look at girls or think anything that has to do with them until tour stable enough if your not stable yourself than having a girl won't change it and if anything might make it worse

  • @jcransome5616
    @jcransome5616 3 місяці тому

    JUST DONT FEEL THAT WAY

  • @h-k7804
    @h-k7804 Місяць тому

    you blame men for their loneliness

  • @DontBeATree
    @DontBeATree 3 місяці тому

    Its annoying to be single fellas and ladies, but appreciate this time in figuring out stuff, improving yourself, and learning. I mean we all cant be single forever
    ….haha right….

  • @AnotherYoutupeChannel
    @AnotherYoutupeChannel 3 місяці тому +4

    Bro, black pill is real, but you have to get social too

    • @bilbobaggins9451
      @bilbobaggins9451 3 місяці тому +1

      We try to get social, but nobody seems to reciprocate the time and effort I put in. So at some point, I just gave up. I became so sick and tired of people gaslighting me and telling me they care about me, even though deep down they don't care if I live or d!e. So, in many ways, I live just to spite their selfish @sses.
      I'm always there for them when they need help or I'll be there in their time of need. And what do I get in return? Nothing. I'm not asking for money or a gift or some lame sh!t like that. But even a simple text message saying, "How are you doing?" Would be beautiful to me. But no. I don't get any of that. No recognition. No concern. Nothing. I could drop off the face of the earth and they wouldn't notice.

    • @AnotherYoutupeChannel
      @AnotherYoutupeChannel 3 місяці тому

      @@bilbobaggins9451 I don know what to say fr ,....

    • @bilbobaggins9451
      @bilbobaggins9451 3 місяці тому +1

      @@AnotherYoutupeChannel I don't either. I struggle with social anxiety. Have since I was 13. I'd like think think I've made tremendous progress in the past 14 years, but every time I think I'm getting people to like me, they never seem to care.
      They tell me how they like me and one even says "You're like a brother to me" clearly not, since he's never there when I'm feeling down. Never talks to me or wants to hang out when I set up plans to chill with him. Even though I always do sh!t for him. Going out of my way to be an awesome friend to him.
      "Oh bro, you just have to find new people." Easier said than done. I've tried, and I'm tired. Tired of getting sh!t on and ignored. I get it, people have busy lives, but that's not an excuse to not send a simple text message to me asking how I'm doing or whatever. Even though, I message these friends all the time. It's just frustrating and defeating. Making friends is impossible. I don't care what anyone says. It's not easy at all.

    • @AnotherYoutupeChannel
      @AnotherYoutupeChannel 3 місяці тому

      @@bilbobaggins9451 do you put an effort on your body

    • @sera.finaaa
      @sera.finaaa 2 місяці тому

      Treat people the way they treat you​@@bilbobaggins9451

  • @srenpetersen1681
    @srenpetersen1681 3 місяці тому +4

    Why the clip every 3-4 seconds. It is annoying as hell. Like you are just reading a sentence, pause, read another sentence etc.

    • @pandavova
      @pandavova 3 місяці тому

      removing breathing/ cathing air i guess

  • @YungContentshow
    @YungContentshow 3 місяці тому

    I sent your simulation reward in the mail
    Costco card

  • @azam987654321
    @azam987654321 3 місяці тому +2

    bro please dont shoot up a school

    • @Ashcroft1313
      @Ashcroft1313 3 місяці тому +3

      What's wrong with you?

    • @azam987654321
      @azam987654321 3 місяці тому +1

      @@Ashcroft1313 so you want the opposite of what I said?

    • @Ashcroft1313
      @Ashcroft1313 3 місяці тому +4

      @azam987654321 You're projecting, simple as that, and it also seems like you can't understand his overall point.

    • @azam987654321
      @azam987654321 3 місяці тому +1

      @@Ashcroft1313 Did you learn about projecting in class yesterday? You must feel smart using that word.