Good tips.....one that I've heard is if you are invited to a wealthy (especially older money) persons' home, don't appear to be too 'awed' and go on and on about their home and furnishings.....they tend to be embarrassed and uncomfortable with that!
Agree. If anything, compliment them on a furniture piece especially if its an antique, it could have been passed down from relatives going back 3 generations. They are more about family and traditions. Then just be done with that small talk
Treat people as people see them as a person! Remember no matter how wealthy , connected and powerful they are! They put their pants on one leg at a time just like everybody else!
We need to stop asking people where they live (neighborhood) and what they do for work. It's always an awkward question. If someone lives in an affluent neighborhood they will most likely feel embarrassed to say it and if their neighborhood is nicer than the person asking - it can be awkward for both. The same goes for what we do for work. It's not relevant. This isn't a job interview!
No, that's true, but it is a way for people to get to know someone. Generally people try to find a connection or show interest in someone and those questions are for the most part non-invasive and not that personal. Especially the work one as it can lead someone you just met to talking about something they enjoy and opening up.
When a stranger asks me what I do I tell them I'm the Goodyear blimp pilot. Sometimes they get the hint. Sometimes I tell them I'm a theoretical physicist. Then I say I get paid lots of money to sit around and think up crazy shit. Sometimes they get the hint. Sometimes I tell them I'm a zen master. Invariably they will say 'yes, but what do you do'? And I say 'I don't do anything. And yet, I leave nothing undone '. And then I laugh like a maniac. Sometimes they get the hint...
@@dingusdingus2152there might be a more polite way to answer their question. You could say, I spend a lot of time traveling or taking care of sweet grand children.
@@ginalowe9103 well, l quite understand that it's a standard conventional conversation ice breaker when meeting someone new but it's nevertheless no one's business and therefore inherently impolite to ask. Also, my cheeky and sarcastic replies serve to weed out those who haven't a sense of humor. If they laugh then I can safely assume that I'm dealing with someone who has at least a modicum of intelligence and we can proceed from there. If they don't laugh and give me the deer-in-the-headlights look then I can make an instantaneous adjustment and refrain from saying anything that might be off putting. It's always important to be adroit in any social situation.
Amazing, I am so glad to hear it. Do come back and let me know your biggest takeaways. Next week we will start diving into the second book in the series from the author. I hope you will come back and join us?
hey I've been watching this playlist for a while i love your videos but can you plss say ladies and gentlemen it might open up a prouder audience but i went on your page and notice that your channel over might be for females overall but your educational taught me a lot but just saying ladies might discourage other dudes from watching your content is very valuable
Good tips.....one that I've heard is if you are invited to a wealthy (especially older money) persons' home, don't appear to be too 'awed' and go on and on about their home and furnishings.....they tend to be embarrassed and uncomfortable with that!
Agree. If anything, compliment them on a furniture piece especially if its an antique, it could have been passed down from relatives going back 3 generations. They are more about family and traditions. Then just be done with that small talk
Treat people as people see them as a person! Remember no matter how wealthy , connected and powerful they are! They put their pants on one leg at a time just like everybody else!
We need to stop asking people where they live (neighborhood) and what they do for work. It's always an awkward question. If someone lives in an affluent neighborhood they will most likely feel embarrassed to say it and if their neighborhood is nicer than the person asking - it can be awkward for both. The same goes for what we do for work. It's not relevant. This isn't a job interview!
No, that's true, but it is a way for people to get to know someone. Generally people try to find a connection or show interest in someone and those questions are for the most part non-invasive and not that personal. Especially the work one as it can lead someone you just met to talking about something they enjoy and opening up.
When a stranger asks me what I do I tell them I'm the Goodyear blimp pilot. Sometimes they get the hint. Sometimes I tell them I'm a theoretical physicist. Then I say I get paid lots of money to sit around and think up crazy shit. Sometimes they get the hint. Sometimes I tell them I'm a zen master. Invariably they will say 'yes, but what do you do'? And I say 'I don't do anything. And yet, I leave nothing undone '. And then I laugh like a maniac. Sometimes they get the hint...
@@dingusdingus2152there might be a more polite way to answer their question. You could say, I spend a lot of time traveling or taking care of sweet grand children.
@@ginalowe9103 well, l quite understand that it's a standard conventional conversation ice breaker when meeting someone new but it's nevertheless no one's business and therefore inherently impolite to ask. Also, my cheeky and sarcastic replies serve to weed out those who haven't a sense of humor. If they laugh then I can safely assume that I'm dealing with someone who has at least a modicum of intelligence and we can proceed from there. If they don't laugh and give me the deer-in-the-headlights look then I can make an instantaneous adjustment and refrain from saying anything that might be off putting. It's always important to be adroit in any social situation.
* An exchange is a dialogue and not a monologe.
Yes, this is exactly it!
"Treat others as you would want to be treated" basically........remember, someone said that 2.5 millenia ago?
YES! How did we get so far away from it.
The Golden Rule! Jesus taught this to his disciples and followers!
I just purchased the book, I can't wait to read it. Thank you!
Amazing, I am so glad to hear it. Do come back and let me know your biggest takeaways. Next week we will start diving into the second book in the series from the author. I hope you will come back and join us?
Fiona, "anyways" is considered a dialect word. Old money people, well educated people, say "anyway".
Enjoying your content going to buy the book. Have 2 to read first. Another book that is great is The Millionaire Next Door.
Hope you enjoy it! I haven't heard of that book. I will get the audiobook now! Thank you for sharing 😀
The Millionaire Next Door is really a worthwhile book. It shakes some widely held beliefs
It could easily be a general rule for life in general, don't ask someone what they do for a living!
Brought a first date to my wedding, you are right, didn't go over well.🤓
hey I've been watching this playlist for a while i love your videos but can you plss say ladies and gentlemen it might open up a prouder audience but i went on your page and notice that your channel over might be for females overall but your educational taught me a lot but just saying ladies might discourage other dudes from watching your content is very valuable
Hello! Thanks for your feedback, it’s duly noted. My next three videos are filmed, but I’ll change the intro moving forward. Happy Tuesday!
I don't understand the whole gift thing. Who made that rule? If I am the host. Then it is MY responsibility to provide all of the amenities.
I will buy that book in kindle version like I bought another one. I try to avoid have too much stuff.
That’s fair :)
"comprise" not "compromise".
Also… ‘conversing’ not ‘conversating’.
Can you kindly give me tips on what type of gifts to bring
Watching this to better protect my male family members from any women trying to “level up.”
I think at this point you could call yourself an Etiquette Consultant.