As a Swede, I'm actually surprised by this myself. I was always offered dinner at a friends place when I was over until the evening! But maybe it's because I only went to my best/close friends?
Yeah, same, and my parents also always offered my friends to join us when they were over. Maybe it's regional thing? Or maybe just individual experiences that got presented as more universal than they actually are.
Wow I grew up having the culture of people inviting you to their meal so it’s definitely weird to just sit there alone watching and waiting for them to finish eating. Feels so lonely!
I was chocked when I heard this for the first time. Im Swedish and my parents would always make dinner and serve foods to my friends when they came over. I always get to eat with my friends families when I come over😭😭
The Netherlands here is similar. I haven't heard of just waiting around while the family finishes dinner, but it's certainly considered normal to leave and go home for dinner instead of staying at whatever family's house you happen to be at. Like Ike said, it's rude to expect people to feed you just because you are visiting them. Besides, your own family is waiting for you at home with dinner, so you're expected there anyway.
In my country, if you go to a friend's house, it is normal for the friend's parents to treat me as if I were one of their children. And this culture has made me feel uncomfortable on many occasions. I've been told to eat many times even though I refused, saying I wasn't hungry, but my friend's parents felt bad if I didn't eat. It's like they think that if I don't eat at their house, it means they don't welcome me well. I feel like I'm being forced to eat it every time. If I didn't like something, they would teach me how good it was and then tell me to eat it. So I feel that the way Ike described is much better
In my culture, unless it is really really important that you need to stay, or something happen and someone has to keep you in their house, then it is kinda impolite to still stay in their house at the mealtime (whether you were there for playing purpose, or doing assifnment). You have to estimate what time they usually had their lunch or dinner, and had to go back to your house before that. Because unless the parents are totally ignorant and doesnt care about you, they will always ask you to eat and they kinda expect you to eat with them. So yeah.. go home before mealtime so they dont have to do that. Unless they insist you to stay.
I'm also from Sweden and usually when I had a friend over my parents made food for them as well (not for my friend who lived 2 houses next door) but I've been at other friends where sometimes they invite me to eat and sometimes not. I didn't think it was weird but yeah, mostly a cultural difference.
This brings me back to when i would ask my mom if i could have a friend over after school and she'd say, "no, sorry. I have nothing to feed them." knowing they'd probably stay till dinner time lmao
I dunno, like I don’t _expect_ to be fed when visiting a friend, but when I visit a friend, we always float the idea of getting food and basically argue over who gets to feed the other. I can see how a distant neighbor or stranger can try and take advantage of that hospitality, but if it’s with friends, it’s not just about the food, it’s about hanging out and bonding over a meal.
When we heard this in Turkiye media we were shocked actually. Here, if you invite friend(s) over, friend(s) is in your parents security and if you're close with them enough parents even act like your friend is their own child sometimes. -Not everyone obviously- it's nice to see different point of views.
As a person who has some problems with social situations (I'm medically socially awkward = I'm autistic) it was always very hard for me if someone's parents invited me to eat dinner with them bc 1. I've usually had eaten already or dinner is waiting for me at home; 2. I'm a picky eater but I don't want to offend people by not eating (usually due to sensory issues not bc it tastes bad). For this reason I've avoided (and still avoid) visiting friends in meal times. So I would actually feel more welcome when people wouldn't want to feed me -- they can still ask if they want to but it would be nice if they'd accept "no" as an answer
Totally culture difference. My parents saw it as their responsibility to take care of my friends when they are over including food and I would get the same treatment from my friends parents. More sense of community?
Stuff like that is always so weird to me. I grew in Germany in a Russian family and whenever I have someone over the no1 priority is offering food and drinks. Regardless of who it is they must be fed. I've heard that some German households do it like the Swedes but it never happened to me however some of my friends do get surprised by the overwhelming hospitality lmao
Thats so interesting! When i was a kid, if i had to be in a friend's home, their parents would usually feed me, and my parents say to graciously accept, BUT i need to clean after myself or offer to wash dishes in exchange. Oftentimes, my mom sends me to the house but she gives some gifts to the parents so they rly have no choice but to feed me 😂 when we got older tho ,it was different. We had to be the one cooking or buying the food for our lunch and clean up while the family would eat first or eat out while leaving us in the house, becuz We're grown mfs
Ngl i don’t think it’s that weird either usually my friends would leave before dinner but like if they or i stayed long enough or of they offered we/they would stay and eat
In New Zealand we are really respectful and will often invite friends to lunch or dinner because it’s just a cultural thing.Maoris or new zealanders often are close together or know a lot of ppl so it’s kinda normal
I get that people will say that its just "culture" and based off how they coped with poverty in their history But its such a toxic way to cope with it as compared to african and asian cultures that relied on healthy collective mindsets to overcome the hardships in their fore fathers went through And seeing that fruit in a present day culture that doesn't value hospitality and empathy as much is kinda sad...
In england if your friend is at your house u wud feed them or u tell 2 go home and u go out and play with your friend after u have done so if i went 2 a Swede friends house and they said oh i am going 2 eat my tea and u can pkay with my toys and u what i wud say i wud oh it's ok i am going home lol and lvu lke 🤗🤗🤗🤗😁😁😁😁
Well in my culture, it is unnatural to not feed the guests whether it be the friends of your kid or your neighbor especially the elderly because if you don't feed or offer food, you are somewhat rude or unwelcoming
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As a Swede, I'm actually surprised by this myself. I was always offered dinner at a friends place when I was over until the evening! But maybe it's because I only went to my best/close friends?
Yeah, same, and my parents also always offered my friends to join us when they were over. Maybe it's regional thing? Or maybe just individual experiences that got presented as more universal than they actually are.
Wow I grew up having the culture of people inviting you to their meal so it’s definitely weird to just sit there alone watching and waiting for them to finish eating. Feels so lonely!
In Brazil, it's pretty much a crime to don't serve food to a visit lmao
I was chocked when I heard this for the first time. Im Swedish and my parents would always make dinner and serve foods to my friends when they came over. I always get to eat with my friends families when I come over😭😭
The Netherlands here is similar. I haven't heard of just waiting around while the family finishes dinner, but it's certainly considered normal to leave and go home for dinner instead of staying at whatever family's house you happen to be at. Like Ike said, it's rude to expect people to feed you just because you are visiting them. Besides, your own family is waiting for you at home with dinner, so you're expected there anyway.
In my country, if you go to a friend's house, it is normal for the friend's parents to treat me as if I were one of their children. And this culture has made me feel uncomfortable on many occasions. I've been told to eat many times even though I refused, saying I wasn't hungry, but my friend's parents felt bad if I didn't eat. It's like they think that if I don't eat at their house, it means they don't welcome me well. I feel like I'm being forced to eat it every time. If I didn't like something, they would teach me how good it was and then tell me to eat it. So I feel that the way Ike described is much better
In my culture, unless it is really really important that you need to stay, or something happen and someone has to keep you in their house, then it is kinda impolite to still stay in their house at the mealtime (whether you were there for playing purpose, or doing assifnment).
You have to estimate what time they usually had their lunch or dinner, and had to go back to your house before that.
Because unless the parents are totally ignorant and doesnt care about you, they will always ask you to eat and they kinda expect you to eat with them.
So yeah.. go home before mealtime so they dont have to do that. Unless they insist you to stay.
I'm also from Sweden and usually when I had a friend over my parents made food for them as well (not for my friend who lived 2 houses next door) but I've been at other friends where sometimes they invite me to eat and sometimes not. I didn't think it was weird but yeah, mostly a cultural difference.
This brings me back to when i would ask my mom if i could have a friend over after school and she'd say, "no, sorry. I have nothing to feed them." knowing they'd probably stay till dinner time lmao
I dunno, like I don’t _expect_ to be fed when visiting a friend, but when I visit a friend, we always float the idea of getting food and basically argue over who gets to feed the other.
I can see how a distant neighbor or stranger can try and take advantage of that hospitality, but if it’s with friends, it’s not just about the food, it’s about hanging out and bonding over a meal.
When we heard this in Turkiye media we were shocked actually. Here, if you invite friend(s) over, friend(s) is in your parents security and if you're close with them enough parents even act like your friend is their own child sometimes. -Not everyone obviously- it's nice to see different point of views.
Wow, that's serious....I got culture shock tho!!
As a person who has some problems with social situations (I'm medically socially awkward = I'm autistic) it was always very hard for me if someone's parents invited me to eat dinner with them bc 1. I've usually had eaten already or dinner is waiting for me at home; 2. I'm a picky eater but I don't want to offend people by not eating (usually due to sensory issues not bc it tastes bad). For this reason I've avoided (and still avoid) visiting friends in meal times. So I would actually feel more welcome when people wouldn't want to feed me -- they can still ask if they want to but it would be nice if they'd accept "no" as an answer
Totally culture difference. My parents saw it as their responsibility to take care of my friends when they are over including food and I would get the same treatment from my friends parents. More sense of community?
Stuff like that is always so weird to me. I grew in Germany in a Russian family and whenever I have someone over the no1 priority is offering food and drinks. Regardless of who it is they must be fed. I've heard that some German households do it like the Swedes but it never happened to me however some of my friends do get surprised by the overwhelming hospitality lmao
Thats so interesting!
When i was a kid, if i had to be in a friend's home, their parents would usually feed me, and my parents say to graciously accept, BUT i need to clean after myself or offer to wash dishes in exchange. Oftentimes, my mom sends me to the house but she gives some gifts to the parents so they rly have no choice but to feed me 😂 when we got older tho ,it was different. We had to be the one cooking or buying the food for our lunch and clean up while the family would eat first or eat out while leaving us in the house, becuz We're grown mfs
Honestly the same here from my experience.
Ngl i don’t think it’s that weird either usually my friends would leave before dinner but like if they or i stayed long enough or of they offered we/they would stay and eat
Aw......
In New Zealand we are really respectful and will often invite friends to lunch or dinner because it’s just a cultural thing.Maoris or new zealanders often are close together or know a lot of ppl so it’s kinda normal
But if someone doesn’t want to eat our food then we’re fine with it’s kinda like a grab food when you like
I get that people will say that its just "culture" and based off how they coped with poverty in their history
But its such a toxic way to cope with it as compared to african and asian cultures that relied on healthy collective mindsets to overcome the hardships in their fore fathers went through
And seeing that fruit in a present day culture that doesn't value hospitality and empathy as much is kinda sad...
As someone with no friends, PEOPLE GET INVITED???
I remember pewdiepie talking about it
In england if your friend is at your house u wud feed them or u tell 2 go home and u go out and play with your friend after u have done so if i went 2 a Swede friends house and they said oh i am going 2 eat my tea and u can pkay with my toys and u what i wud say i wud oh it's ok i am going home lol and lvu lke 🤗🤗🤗🤗😁😁😁😁
Well in my culture, it is unnatural to not feed the guests whether it be the friends of your kid or your neighbor especially the elderly because if you don't feed or offer food, you are somewhat rude or unwelcoming